WEBVTT - MINI: Britt shares the emotional reason why she might never have kids

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<v Speaker 1>I want to talk about Mitch and Laura, something that

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<v Speaker 1>is very personal to me and something that is very

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<v Speaker 1>hard for me to articulate. I always have trouble trying

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<v Speaker 1>to find the right words and the right ideas to

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<v Speaker 1>get across when it surrounds fertility and having children.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm thirty seven.

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<v Speaker 1>Years old and I have been on quite the fertility

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<v Speaker 1>journey with freezing eggs, trying to freeze embryos and been unsuccessful,

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<v Speaker 1>trying to freeze embryos again and getting just a few,

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<v Speaker 1>which you know, is not ideal, but it's better than none.

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<v Speaker 1>And I constantly have this battle in my head of

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<v Speaker 1>do I want kids or not?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that a decision I really want to make? Can

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<v Speaker 2>I have kids or not?

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<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I want to risk trying and falling pregnant and

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<v Speaker 1>having one and then it's not what I wanted? Do

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<v Speaker 1>I not want them because I don't think I can

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<v Speaker 1>have them. I can't work out which came first, the

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<v Speaker 1>chicken or the egg when it comes to being able

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<v Speaker 1>to have kids or wanting them, and I think I've

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<v Speaker 1>mixed those up a lot in my head.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw some statistics that have.

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<v Speaker 1>Come out from the Australian Bureau of Statistics that have

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<v Speaker 1>revealed that I definitely am not alone in this feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>So we are now at an all time fertility low.

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<v Speaker 1>So we are now averaging one point five babies per woman.

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<v Speaker 2>Whereas we used to average three point five y five.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Australian Statistics. Australian Statistics twenty twenty four current.

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<v Speaker 2>This is current.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so what we're seeing is this. I mean, they

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<v Speaker 1>obviously went out and ask people why. But one of

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<v Speaker 1>the biggest reasons is the financial dedication that you need

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<v Speaker 1>to make to have a child. The cost of living

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<v Speaker 1>is at an all time high, but inflation is not

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<v Speaker 1>going along with that.

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<v Speaker 2>People are not able to afford to have a child anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people are choosing more selfishly because they want to

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<v Speaker 1>keep traveling or they don't want to give up what

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<v Speaker 1>they see is the privileged life that they live. But

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<v Speaker 1>we're seeing people just physically say I really would love

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<v Speaker 1>to have a child, but my fertility is not great,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't afford IVF or I cannot afford daycare, schooling

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<v Speaker 1>fears a roof over my head.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, And I mean I have friends. I have two

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<v Speaker 3>kids myself, but I have so many friends who have children,

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<v Speaker 3>and they have they have decided not to have any more.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's not because they don't want to have a

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<v Speaker 3>bigger family or an extended family. It's because they physically

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<v Speaker 3>can't afford it. I mean day care fees alone, if

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<v Speaker 3>you don't get subsidies from the government or you know,

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<v Speaker 3>you're on a duel income household for one child. When

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<v Speaker 3>my daughter goes to school, it's one hundred and eighty

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<v Speaker 3>five dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>A day per child a day a day per child.

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<v Speaker 2>It's nearly four hundred dollars for two kids. Yeah, day,

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>And the thing is is that there are so many

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<v Speaker 3>moms out there who would love to go back to

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<v Speaker 3>their careers, who would love to go back to work,

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<v Speaker 3>even if that's part time, but they're not able to

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<v Speaker 3>go back to work because it's cheaper to be a

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<v Speaker 3>stay at home mum than it is to put your

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<v Speaker 3>kids into daycare.

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<v Speaker 2>And like, so the system is broken.

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<v Speaker 3>The system doesn't support mums and it doesn't support having

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<v Speaker 3>these bigger families, and I think so many people feel

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<v Speaker 3>that pressure.

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<v Speaker 4>So britt for you at the moment where it is

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<v Speaker 4>because we've hung out outside of the show and with

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<v Speaker 4>our friends, and it consumes a lot of your thinking.

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<v Speaker 4>We talk about it personally a lot you having kids

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<v Speaker 4>in your fertility journey.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And like I like, even all last night, I

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<v Speaker 1>was in tears all night just because it's all I

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<v Speaker 1>think about it. And every time I go to voice

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<v Speaker 1>it out loud, I get up to that because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if I can have children, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if I do have them, how.

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<v Speaker 2>I can physically do it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know I'm not alone in that feeling, and

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<v Speaker 1>we do have a biological clock and we do have pressures,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hate that women have to feel this way.

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<v Speaker 1>And like I said, I know I'm not alone in it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't. I cannot work it out in my head.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I just like I said before the chicken all

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<v Speaker 1>the egg, I can't work out if I'm questioning it

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't think I can have them. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>said before, I tried to freeze some membryos, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and we got zero. When I tried to freeze one,

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<v Speaker 1>and I got one that had a disability and wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>viable with life. It's a real challenge and I just

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<v Speaker 1>am having a hard time working it out in my

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<v Speaker 1>head what I want and what's the right thing, and

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<v Speaker 1>do I go down that route?

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<v Speaker 2>It's going to change my whole life.

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<v Speaker 1>And also, now women have the opportunity to have a career,

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<v Speaker 1>and a career is very important to me.

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<v Speaker 2>We never used to have that option.

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<v Speaker 1>So I know there's a lot of women out there

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<v Speaker 1>now that are like, Okay, great, Now I do get

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<v Speaker 1>the choice to go and chase something else that traditionally

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<v Speaker 1>only men could chase. And then do they have to

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<v Speaker 1>make that sacrifice of a family to do so?

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<v Speaker 4>I think we open the lines because you bring up

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<v Speaker 4>a very interesting point of view, and you too, Laura,

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<v Speaker 4>like the finance is involved, and then you say the

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<v Speaker 4>economy and the world and the state of the world,

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<v Speaker 4>and you know, is it ethical to bring kids into

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<v Speaker 4>this world?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'd love to know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, people, if you're driving right now, give us a

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<v Speaker 1>call here, because I would love to know if you

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<v Speaker 1>have kids and you don't want any more, or if

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<v Speaker 1>you know that you do not want children, I'd love

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<v Speaker 1>to know the why, because there has to be more

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<v Speaker 1>of a reason that we're seeing this huge dropping fertility

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<v Speaker 1>rates in Australia.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm really interested in the why, right

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<v Speaker 4>What'll take you cause me next the pickup