WEBVTT - What's Worse: Highlight Reels 😝 Or Crying Content😭 ?

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch Up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I need you to open up these ears and answer

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<v Speaker 2>this question honestly. Do not falter for just a second.

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<v Speaker 2>If you lie, I will find out and catch you.

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>What is more damaging to observe online? In particular depressed

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<v Speaker 2>wallowing like nihilism, core apathetic hotness or highlight reels, happy moments,

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<v Speaker 2>toxic positivity? Answer it not you frooms? Answer it okay,

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<v Speaker 2>hot and now listen to this.

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<v Speaker 3>I am a little bit worried that I have sort

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<v Speaker 3>of tik tooked myself into a corner. You know, I

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<v Speaker 3>try to be honest and authentic. I think that that

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<v Speaker 3>is really important. But I'm worried that in my efforts

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<v Speaker 3>to be authentic, I have inadvertently created a persona and

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I have sort of become just this

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<v Speaker 3>self depreciating like archetype. Life sucks. I hate everything until

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<v Speaker 3>saying so.

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<v Speaker 2>When I saw that video initially, and this creator, Oslo Boslow,

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<v Speaker 2>is someone that I followed for a little while, and

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<v Speaker 2>they make a lot of these kind of like again,

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<v Speaker 2>self deprecating, self referential, like do I just wake up

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<v Speaker 2>every day and go to work and come home, but

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<v Speaker 2>in a comedic way. Okay, I just think their delivery

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<v Speaker 2>is quite funny. But when I watched this video, I said, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>isn't that ironic? Isn't that ironic that you have somehow

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<v Speaker 2>taken what started off as this really joyful, like comedic,

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<v Speaker 2>cynical content, and now it's actually making you hate your life?

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<v Speaker 2>That is crazy. And so I was stuck in this

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<v Speaker 2>like thought cycle about it because I felt really sympathetic

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<v Speaker 2>when I saw the video, and I could see that

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<v Speaker 2>people in the comments were like, is this not a bit?

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<v Speaker 2>Is this not a bit?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you okay?

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<v Speaker 2>I can't tell? What do you need us to say

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<v Speaker 2>in response to this? And then I thought the people

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<v Speaker 2>hating on highlight reels, they need to see some of this,

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<v Speaker 2>because this, to me is a much harder watch to

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<v Speaker 2>be honest. What in a world where we had to

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<v Speaker 2>choose between really honest and apathetic, cynical nihilistic behavior versus

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<v Speaker 2>hyper optimistic toxic positivity. I think you know which one

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<v Speaker 2>I'm taking.

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<v Speaker 1>Optimistic?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, any old day. I love to see a

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<v Speaker 2>person tripping and happy. I love to see a hotty

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<v Speaker 2>yet hotter. I love to see mandem on vacation who

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<v Speaker 2>Mandem gadem I just love to see people enjoying. I

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<v Speaker 2>just feel like I'd rarely go on the internet see

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<v Speaker 2>something having the best time and get secondhand cringe or

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<v Speaker 2>any kind of feelings of like disdain for it. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is so sick. I want to be happy, Like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>what gig is that? That's so cute. It's just like

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<v Speaker 2>it's second nature for me to see someone, not see someone.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know, when I often see enjoyment, I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>that's fun, that's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you get jealous.

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<v Speaker 2>I get like, oh, I want to be outside, what

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<v Speaker 2>are we doing? Like I get a comparison, right Mike

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<v Speaker 2>could be or when I declined to go someone like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>dad really having fun. I want to have fun. But

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<v Speaker 2>when I see someone commiserating, I'm like, skip, I know

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<v Speaker 2>what it is?

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<v Speaker 1>What is it for me?

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<v Speaker 2>Personally? I just think and like it's gonna sound terrible

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<v Speaker 2>to say, but like people are going through harder things.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't care in the sense that like, are

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<v Speaker 2>you sure, babe, No, It's not everything. Like let's say, like,

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<v Speaker 2>for example, I saw this video the other day of

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<v Speaker 2>this girl being like, oh, you know, like I went,

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<v Speaker 2>I saw this invitation online for a mixer for like

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<v Speaker 2>swingers party. It was like, you know, girls, like local

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<v Speaker 2>girls getting together to meet and enjoy and whatever, and

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<v Speaker 2>she's like and I went, and like it just wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>like what I thought it would be, Like nobody was

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<v Speaker 2>coming up, and I just feel like, you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to say say I was misled, but it

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<v Speaker 2>just felt like they needed to be like more effort

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<v Speaker 2>put into making sure we were each individually having a

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<v Speaker 2>good time. Squirrel scirrel scirrel scirl didn't really like felt

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<v Speaker 2>neutral about it. Then I actually see the event and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh, oh, Like it was literally people sitting

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<v Speaker 2>on picnic mats, Like what were you expecting? And like,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously we're not having one homogeneous experience. But I just

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<v Speaker 2>felt like, what was the narrative that you were trying

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<v Speaker 2>to share. Was the party not good or you're saying

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<v Speaker 2>we shouldn't go to it. Was it an observation of

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<v Speaker 2>how you felt in space where people weren't inviting you

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<v Speaker 2>into it, not that Like everything that I need to

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<v Speaker 2>see in experience online needs to be helpful to me.

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<v Speaker 2>And so when I think about the way that people

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<v Speaker 2>observe the Internet and what often they're kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>highlight reels are so damaging and we end up comparing ourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, what's also damaging is inviting us to wallow

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<v Speaker 2>with like no purpose either, you know, like inviting us

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<v Speaker 2>to shit on something. Inviting us to critique on something

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<v Speaker 2>like that is not better. Yes, it can be more entertaining.

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<v Speaker 2>I love seeing someone rant, it's funny. But in the

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<v Speaker 2>grand scheme of things, for every like rant you see,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think we're scaled evenly enough that. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I think we could do with more like optimistic not

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<v Speaker 2>just like toxically, but like the depressed wallowing. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>is this really helping us? Or is it just giving

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<v Speaker 2>us more tools to like whatever? The physical version of

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<v Speaker 2>that noise is? How do you feel about wife? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>What do I like personally?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think is more damaging to observe? For you?

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<v Speaker 1>Give me one one second?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because I know some people who are like this

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<v Speaker 2>highlight reel stuff. Really it eats at me, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't hate to see another person doing something that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not doing.

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<v Speaker 1>I get eate it at that for sure. That sucks

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm in a bad place. When I'm in a

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<v Speaker 1>bad place, the fun times eat at me, and the

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<v Speaker 1>negative things make me feel better because I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>at least I'm not posting about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Ah, but ah, like I wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't like people that do post things like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>people post like mental health. Here's the thing of me crying,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I just think of beliheaded crying.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know those I see how.

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<v Speaker 1>Knows the ones? Yeah, all the pizza posts. And she

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<v Speaker 1>had a lot of crying posts too. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>this is the reality, Like I feel like people that

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<v Speaker 1>post this isn't what real life is on the internet,

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<v Speaker 1>Like come from the right place. I want to say,

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<v Speaker 1>it's pretty obvious that life isn't always exciting a vice

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. How do I feel about it? I

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<v Speaker 1>just mine's too convoluted because I post content that lives

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<v Speaker 1>in an ecosystem, so I'm never I'm never looking at

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<v Speaker 1>something purely from like an observation lens. I'm looking at

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<v Speaker 1>being like, oh can I read post this? Oh what

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<v Speaker 1>do I think about this? Like? Oh, what is the

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<v Speaker 1>climate of the Internet that I now exist in? Like

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a chef now notices everything in a piece

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<v Speaker 1>of food. You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>You're rarely just like as a concert humor of this

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<v Speaker 2>content that didn't hit.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>I never just consuming content, never ever, ever, she said,

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<v Speaker 2>highly strung, always on. Yeah, in a good way, on

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<v Speaker 2>a hot way, in.

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<v Speaker 1>A hot way. But I like I like nonsense. My

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<v Speaker 1>favorite thing is to watch like a TikTok that's got

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<v Speaker 1>like all these crazy noises and this random footage. It's

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<v Speaker 1>the funniest thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Ever.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll post one on the page when this goes.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, we'll post a thousand anyway. Miss you already, Bye bye.

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