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Speaker 1: My Heart podcasts here more gold one on one point

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Speaker 1: seven podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Playlist and listen live on the Free iHeart.

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Speaker 3: App a mover.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a man scat a mover yeah.

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Speaker 3: And today on the cutting room floor, I saw.

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Speaker 1: A podcast or a snippet from a podcast. That's what

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Speaker 1: we do these days to see snippets from various podcasts

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Speaker 1: of the single Lily Allen, and she was talking about

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Speaker 1: a moment from when she was younger and about an

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Speaker 1: embarrassing moment around her body.

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Speaker 2: Have a listen.

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Speaker 4: I once, you know, got off with a rapper and

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Speaker 4: we were in a hotel room.

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Speaker 2: He was behind me. What's he doing well?

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Speaker 4: I had life hostuction in my early twenties on my

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Speaker 4: bum and my thighs, and he was behind me and

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Speaker 4: remarked on the skulls, he said one of those from

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Speaker 4: and I was embarrassed to reveal that I had had liposuctions,

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Speaker 4: so I said I had a hip replacement.

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Speaker 1: It's funny, isn't it? An aes It was rude of

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Speaker 1: that rapper to say, what's this?

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Speaker 2: Don't you think I don't know about it?

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Speaker 1: If you're in an intimate relationship, you can say that.

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Speaker 2: In the middle of the deed. Maybe that might kill

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Speaker 2: the mood.

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Speaker 1: That's right, and also for its first time or something.

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Speaker 3: Not afterwards, maybe with the sweet nothing, Hey, what happened here?

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Speaker 2: What's that?

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Speaker 3: Maybe? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: But you know I've had two hippoplaces, yeah, yeah, and

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Speaker 1: I've got everyone you've been had LiPo suction. I've had

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Speaker 1: a Brazilian butt lift that went weirdly wrong. But I

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Speaker 1: was trying to a makeup artist recently, a guy, and

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Speaker 1: he was saying, you know, it's it's interesting that we

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Speaker 1: all have funny bodies. He wasn't saying that about me necessarily,

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Speaker 1: but it's true. I thought, what a refreshing way to

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Speaker 1: look at it. And as you get older, if you're

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Speaker 1: coming into a relationship older, or maybe it's all the

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Speaker 1: time these days, you just have to accept that everyone's

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Speaker 1: going to have stuff. Everyone's going to have emotional stuff,

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Speaker 1: but also everyone has physical stuff. Guys the same women

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Speaker 1: torture themselves over these things. You're not in the moment

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Speaker 1: because you're consumed with how you think he's seeing you.

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Speaker 1: And there's nothing more attractive than someone who gives over

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Speaker 1: to the moment.

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Speaker 3: That is true. That is true, and it's complex. I

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Speaker 3: think when you look at the act of sex.

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Speaker 2: It is pretty complex.

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Speaker 1: It is funny, weirdly intimate people, it's usually, but it's

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Speaker 1: people can do it with strangers and it's not as

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Speaker 1: intimate as then sleeping literally sleeping with a stranger.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So I haven't had sex with a stranger for

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Speaker 2: a long long.

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Speaker 1: Time, with someone who is new to you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't remember how long it would be the

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Speaker 2: eighties down the snow. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the thought of starting again and exposing yourself again

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Speaker 1: to the fun of it, the thrill of it, but

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Speaker 1: the anxiety of it. I think people who put themselves

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Speaker 1: up on dating sites and all that's so brave.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's very cavalier, isn't it the way they cavalier.

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Speaker 1: It's brave to make yourself vulnerable physically and emotionally as brave.

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Speaker 2: I'll ask you this, though, if you saw.

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Speaker 1: Someone with some scars, would you judge them more or

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Speaker 1: less if they said LiPo or hip replacement.

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Speaker 2: I don't think it'd bother me either way. I think

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Speaker 2: I'd accept it either way.

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Speaker 1: We'd have to accept it either way. Yeah, she thought

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Speaker 1: as a young woman it was he say she'd had

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Speaker 1: a hypoplace, because that wasn't a vanity process.

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Speaker 2: I didn't drink enough milk by calcium.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that because that was a vanity choice versus

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Speaker 1: a medical choice. And she was embarrassed to say she'd

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Speaker 1: made a vanity choice. Yeah, we're bringing up a lot

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Speaker 1: of stuff and not resolving any But that's the way

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Speaker 1: it is.

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Speaker 2: Enhance it, I know, but that's talking about twenty five

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Speaker 2: cent bags. What we're going to do.

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Speaker 1: There are no answers in this. It's just interesting that

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Speaker 1: how you have to open yourself up to new people.

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Speaker 2: Maybe we should go back to the Puritan days.

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Speaker 1: We's the thing at the beginning of it, when you

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Speaker 1: just wear a sheet the whole time.

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Speaker 2: You got a sheet on with a hole in the

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Speaker 2: important parts. I'd be quite happy with with with arrows

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Speaker 2: pointing to it. Yeah, I'd be quite happy with that.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to mix it up?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. No, don't go there. Put the backwards. No,

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Speaker 2: couldn't work.

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Speaker 1: For a week because early in relationships you can easily

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Speaker 1: or you know, you try to do that. You know,

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Speaker 1: keep your flannelt pants on.

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Speaker 2: Except they weren't.

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Speaker 1: He thought I had no wear tights on, but they weren't.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay kids, that's it for today. Come

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Speaker 2: back tomorrow from what Johns and a Mans