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Speaker 1: Everybody.

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Speaker 2: It's sad for jon Zy and Amanda's cutting for.

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Speaker 1: What has ended up on our cutting room floor today.

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Speaker 3: Amanda, it's an interesting one. They're saying that the new

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Speaker 3: infidelity trend. What's the old infidelity trend? Just having it

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Speaker 3: off with someone outside your relationship? The new one is

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Speaker 3: micro cheating.

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Speaker 1: Micro cheating. Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes you hear these stories about how women feel their

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Speaker 3: boyfriends are cheating if they like someone else's photograph, if

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Speaker 3: it's a bikini shot, or if it's a girl who

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Speaker 3: they feel uncomfortable about and he's watched seeing their social media.

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Speaker 3: Where do you draw the line on something like that?

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Speaker 3: On direct messages, you may not feel that you're cheating

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Speaker 3: by doing it, but your partner may perceive it that way.

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Speaker 3: How does this work in your relationship? Is hell on

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Speaker 3: a big social media person?

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Speaker 1: No, that was she's on X a lot. She's in

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Speaker 1: a big silo with that, but she's not.

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Speaker 3: Would she know if you were liking bikini models photograph?

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Speaker 2: I would never like a bikini models photograph. My daughter

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Speaker 2: has a friend Sam who's lovely. She's got this business

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Speaker 2: called Pina Kala Pina Koalakini's or something like bikini.

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Speaker 1: It's a bikini business, so she's made it.

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Speaker 2: And then there's a lot of pictures, like she's now

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Speaker 2: twenty eight, there's a lot of pictures of her parading

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Speaker 2: around in bikinis. But and I follow her. I'm supporting

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Speaker 2: the business, and I've known the kids since she was

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Speaker 2: like fourteen, So I never like if there's something about

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Speaker 2: her business. My business has just done this and it's

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Speaker 2: doing really well. And it's a picture of her sending

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Speaker 2: out bikinis. I like that, but I won't pick like

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Speaker 2: a picture of her walking down the beach in some

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Speaker 2: sort of g string bikinis.

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Speaker 1: Do you think you said that.

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Speaker 3: I've got a lot of a number of male friends

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Speaker 3: who have their friend's daughters are now U see lots

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Speaker 3: of pictures of themselves and they feel very uncomfortable about it.

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Speaker 3: But me, you're looking at Robert Irwin's photographs over the week. Yes,

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Speaker 3: and again and again and again. Yes, and so micro

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Speaker 3: cheating is what it is that some people consider it

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Speaker 3: a form of infidelity because you're building a bond with

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Speaker 3: someone one a Ruger emoji at a time. How would

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Speaker 3: you feel if Helen formed an emotional attachment to someone

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Speaker 3: at work? Or at the school or somewhere in her

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Speaker 3: life that you feel nothing's happening, but they were getting

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Speaker 3: close to a neighbor or something.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's hard to say because Helen's.

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Speaker 3: Is there anything short of cheating? Cheating?

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Speaker 1: Look, I think sex is cheating, That's what I mean.

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Speaker 3: That's anything short of that not cheating?

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Speaker 2: No, I think like flirting online. Actually I don't know

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Speaker 2: because Helen doesn't do it.

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Speaker 3: How do you know?

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Speaker 1: Well, I don't know. I don't know, and I don't check,

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Speaker 1: and really do you want to know?

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Speaker 3: But if you say, like someone had a neighbor and

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Speaker 3: they was spending some time with them, and you've like,

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Speaker 3: is it cheating? If you feel a bit crushy on somebody,

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Speaker 3: you wouldn't tell your partner that. I'd be outraged he

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Speaker 3: keep that to yourself? Are you allowed to have your like?

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Speaker 3: I see often blogs with people saying that's how it starts.

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Speaker 3: You can't afford to have a single feeling about someone.

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Speaker 3: But we're all in workplaces, we all have emotions. You

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Speaker 3: can't shut down all of your emotions. It's how you

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Speaker 3: manage them and where you draw the line. And what

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Speaker 3: they're saying here, I guess is you may not be

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Speaker 3: drawing the line in the same place your partner is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's real man, woman's staff, isn't it? Because men

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Speaker 2: like I would never have transactional sex. I'm not a

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Speaker 2: transactional sex kind of guy, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I've been a relationship for a long time, and you know,

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Speaker 2: I had a couple of one night stands when I

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Speaker 2: was age, going to say recently eighties DJ and that

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Speaker 2: was the last time.

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Speaker 1: So I've never had.

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Speaker 2: All the sex I've had is meaningful sex, you know,

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Speaker 2: in my life.

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Speaker 3: But would you feel would your how would you feel

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Speaker 3: about a crushy? How would your wife feel if you

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Speaker 3: had a crushy? How would you feel if Helen had

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Speaker 3: a crushy?

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Speaker 1: Oh? She she has. She's told me about.

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Speaker 3: That, really, she tells you about it.

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Speaker 1: As she said, there was a few things, you know.

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Speaker 2: I remember there was a builder that she was working

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Speaker 2: was working on the house, and you know, she was

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Speaker 2: always a bit, you know, flirty with him.

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Speaker 1: I didn't feel threatened by it.

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Speaker 3: If you told her something similar, what would happen?

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Speaker 2: There was a one time we're out to dinner and

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Speaker 2: this waitress. For some reason, I didn't notice it. But

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Speaker 2: Helen reckoned. Helen called her Jiggly Tits. Waitress kept coming over,

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Speaker 2: and you know, while I was ever tired, and she

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Speaker 2: didn't talk to Helen in any way.

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Speaker 1: It was always to me.

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Speaker 2: And she said, look at Jiggly Tits, she's coming back.

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Speaker 2: She's doing And I said, and I didn't even Honestly,

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Speaker 2: I did not notice. I didn't even see it. I

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Speaker 2: didn't sure.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't until she pointed out.

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Speaker 3: Because I've been with you where people might come to

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Speaker 3: you and you say afterwards, I didn't even know. You go, yeah,

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Speaker 3: you you have this inner flirtation and I know, I know,

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Speaker 3: and I know where you draw the line. But to

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Speaker 3: other people it may look like you're being flirtatious. So

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Speaker 3: Jiggly Tits miss Tids may may have been taking cues

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Speaker 3: from you that you're not away, you're giving when you said,

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Speaker 3: won't you sit here.

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Speaker 1: A wipe in the face.

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Speaker 2: That's not the case. It's not the case at all.

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Speaker 2: I think men are very oblivious about stuff.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. But it's interesting, isn't it that anyway

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Speaker 3: that is a new micro cheating. We all draw the

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Speaker 3: line somewhere else, how like there's some this is a

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Speaker 3: new trend in America too. It's just kind of if

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Speaker 3: the women who are saying, my husband can have no

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Speaker 3: female friends. See, when women say it to men, we think, oh,

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Speaker 3: it's funny. When men do it to women, it's coercive

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Speaker 3: control and we don't frate it. But maybe we should

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Speaker 3: be looking at it the other way around too.

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Speaker 1: And when Miss jigglely Teds comes around us to see the.

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Speaker 3: Specials such a giveaway, isn't it us.

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Speaker 1: To see the specials?

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Speaker 3: I'm glad we've resolved nothing the cotton roof.

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Speaker 1: Okay, kids, that's it for today. Come back tomorrow. From

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Speaker 1: one of Cholsey and a man is cutting room for

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Speaker 1: the cotton fall