WEBVTT - The Flex & Froomes Method 📗 For Crafting A Risky Text 🤪

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Flex and Frooms on Cat. We've had one too

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<v Speaker 1>many situation where a fellow friend, coworker, or acquaintance has

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<v Speaker 1>come to us co hosts, a co host perhaps in

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<v Speaker 1>some instances, has come to us to vet their text messages. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>it is an honor to be asked to vet a

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<v Speaker 1>text message, and I appreciate it more than you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But I want to say, there are some instances where

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<v Speaker 1>you're in a time crunch. You don't have friends to

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<v Speaker 1>lean on in this instance, and you have to rely

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<v Speaker 1>on yourself. So I've come up with a potentially fail

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<v Speaker 1>safe strategy, try and let us know. And if by

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<v Speaker 1>asking me in DMUs Flex and frims on Instagram, now

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<v Speaker 1>you're back to in a text you don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to land, well, you need to think to yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>what are three ways this text message can be perceived?

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<v Speaker 1>An example coming from rooms.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just like I just went really quickly to

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<v Speaker 2>our podcast page to just like I says, if someone

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<v Speaker 2>in a romantic setting like went to look at our

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<v Speaker 2>show and the last things are like free methinks sexes

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<v Speaker 2>like eggs and how to kick someone out in bed.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the wrong impression, everyone. This is a horrible

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<v Speaker 2>impression and it's not at all the truth.

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<v Speaker 1>What was the question? Flex vetting? Vetting? Here's the thing. So,

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<v Speaker 1>for example, let's say you want to send a text

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<v Speaker 1>to someone you've just been to dinner with and you

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<v Speaker 1>say you said it. The next morning, you say last

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<v Speaker 1>time was actually fun. You think, okay, how do I

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<v Speaker 1>vet this? Are they going to receive this as a

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<v Speaker 1>compliment as I was thinking it wouldn't be fun, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's actually fun? Or Infrums's instance, you're my first hinge date.

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<v Speaker 1>How can that be perceived? Like she doesn't get near it,

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<v Speaker 1>like she's she's not a very effective option. I don't know. Okay, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's the first thing you do. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>see how it can be perceived. If the results are

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<v Speaker 1>overwhelmingly negative, then I would say switch it up.

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<v Speaker 2>My God was saying, don't send it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>However, if you find yourself being like it could go

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<v Speaker 1>either way. This is the way to ensure every single

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<v Speaker 1>text you send lands as intended. You say, the red

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<v Speaker 1>hot thing provides some context.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so we know that is something we want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>How do we then vet it to make sure that

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<v Speaker 2>we're doing it the right way? Do you have a process?

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<v Speaker 1>I do have a process. So let's say you want

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<v Speaker 1>to send like a risky test. And I'm not talking

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<v Speaker 1>like sexual risky, just so I mean you're not confident

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<v Speaker 1>or feel comfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>It's risky not riskue.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's risky not risk a right, And so you

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<v Speaker 1>think to yourself, what are three ways this could be interpreted?

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<v Speaker 1>If it's overwhelmingly negative, then switch it up until it's

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<v Speaker 1>overwhelmly positive. To you use yourself as your own barometer.

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<v Speaker 1>Next phase the way to make sure it always lands

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<v Speaker 1>as intended, say the red hot thing. Provide context.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is my first hinge date.

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<v Speaker 1>But no, this is my first hinge date, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>really excited for it to be cool as opposed to

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<v Speaker 1>me being like, let's say you just say this is

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<v Speaker 1>my first hinge date full stop. What am I saying?

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<v Speaker 1>Is everything? Okay? Why does somebody want you have I

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<v Speaker 1>made the wrong decision. I don't know what it can be.

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<v Speaker 1>But the only reason why I'm saying this is because,

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<v Speaker 1>like I've mentioned before, to be the person with the

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<v Speaker 1>honor of vetting a text. There's nothing like it, babe.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like being a godmom, being an auntie, being the president.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure they're equal to but the reality is, if

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<v Speaker 1>we don't train the muscle, we don't build the muscle.

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<v Speaker 1>And what you don't want to be happening is feeling

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<v Speaker 1>like you're in a crisis and a time crunch and

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<v Speaker 1>you can't act on it. And what happens you miss

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<v Speaker 1>all the shots you don't take absolute especially like, if anything,

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<v Speaker 1>the dating context is the most easier. It's the messages

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<v Speaker 1>that exist. Like professionally, I personally find it tricky to

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<v Speaker 1>send professional messages because I'm like, is this coming across? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>not in a professional way, but for example, I'm always

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<v Speaker 1>like to my team, how do I say this in

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<v Speaker 1>a not bitchy way constantly? How do I say this

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<v Speaker 1>in a not bitchy way. How do I say this

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<v Speaker 1>in a way that's like going to feel stern but

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<v Speaker 1>going to come across Well, how do I make this

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<v Speaker 1>concise so I get what I need? How do I

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<v Speaker 1>say that's a terrible idea, but I like this one better.

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<v Speaker 1>And if I don't feel that muscle, then I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>like waiting on people to like, let me know what

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<v Speaker 1>to do, when realistically it's like, okay, if you received

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<v Speaker 1>this grating email, how would you take it?

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<v Speaker 2>Think about it that way. I think about that with email,

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<v Speaker 2>not well, not so much with text, but good to know.

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<v Speaker 1>It is good to know. Turn it all inwards. It's

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<v Speaker 1>an exercise in like mirroring. You are the world pushed

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<v Speaker 1>out everything you do. You are blah blah blah blah

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<v Speaker 1>blahfe circle of life for real ah miss you.

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