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Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,

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Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is

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Speaker 1: the podcast where we ch have mindset, self development and

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Speaker 1: becoming your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,

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Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses

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Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo

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Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No

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Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to

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Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical

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Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's

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Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting life pass

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Speaker 1: you by, then you're in the right place.

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Speaker 2: Hey everybody, and welcome back to the Rise and Conker Podcast.

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Speaker 2: It is a tea here and I am here today

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Speaker 2: with Georgina and Jamie.

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Speaker 3: Hello guy, Hey everyone, huh.

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Speaker 2: We are so excited because we've gone a bit rogue

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Speaker 2: and we've done an episode for you all, just the

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Speaker 2: three of us, but it is a hotline and they

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Speaker 2: are some of the best questions. We are talking about

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Speaker 2: what to do if you're feeling completely lost when it

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Speaker 4: All the things.

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Speaker 2: In question is what you can do if you've been

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Speaker 3: Honestly, these were such good conversations. I feel like so

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Speaker 5: I feel like they're like the three most common problems

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Speaker 5: So I feel like a lot of people will relate

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Speaker 2: I related to a lot of the questions there I

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Speaker 6: I was like, yeah, guys, I really think we should

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Speaker 3: We've got you. Yeah, we're your friends, we're your girlies.

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Speaker 2: And help in the Facebook group because we will pop

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Speaker 2: these questions actually came from our Facebook group to two.

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Speaker 2: So if you do want to start having more of

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Speaker 3: Wreck my wreck. It's a bit of like a random

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Speaker 2: For those people who may not know who you are,

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Speaker 3: I'm Georgina. I am the social media coordinator here at

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Speaker 3: Rise and Conker. I've been here since March last year,

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Speaker 5: Hi. I'm Jamie or Jamay as likes to call me.

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Speaker 5: I'm the marketing brand manager at rn C and I

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Speaker 2: So today we have some hotline questions from you all

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Speaker 2: Do you guys want to share one of your favorite

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Speaker 3: Well, definitely for me would be The Project. I feel

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Speaker 3: the project. I did Round two. I think that was

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Speaker 4: I love that. Jamie.

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Speaker 3: Can I be really original and say the project, get

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Speaker 5: But that was like the first ever kind of intro

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Speaker 3: Thanks.

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Speaker 2: question one. I turned twenty seven this year, and lately

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Speaker 3: So true, and I feel like the reality is is

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Speaker 4: You always know.

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Speaker 3: And you can pull your friends and ask other people

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Speaker 2: next level in your life where you're like, yeah, this

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00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 2: is what I want to do and let's do it

443
00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 2: right now, like let's go, then if you have already

444
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,480
Speaker 2: bought the project amazing. Redo it hop in the live

445
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:24,960
Speaker 2: round if you feel like it, but otherwise I would

446
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:28,680
Speaker 2: highly recommend redoing it because even me now, like we're

447
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:33,880
Speaker 2: about a week into the final round and I'm starting

448
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:38,000
Speaker 2: again and doing it again, and it's just as amazing as.

449
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:41,040
Speaker 4: The first time. Yeah, Like I already feel so much better.

450
00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:44,560
Speaker 2: I'm already on such a high vibe and like excited

451
00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 2: because I think we'd all had this conversation with each

452
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:50,880
Speaker 2: other where we were like feeling a bit like slumpy, slumpy,

453
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 2: like we were in that like a bit of a

454
00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 2: mid year slump, feeling like our sparkles had dulled a

455
00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:58,879
Speaker 2: little bit. And honestly, all I've been saying for the

456
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,720
Speaker 2: past few months is I just want to get my

457
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:02,879
Speaker 2: sparkle back, Like I just want to get it back,

458
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:04,800
Speaker 2: and I feel like it's coming back, and I.

459
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 3: Fe back it's coming back, coming back.

460
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:09,959
Speaker 2: And it's because I'm taking the time to like connect

461
00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:13,080
Speaker 2: with myself again, to self development. And it's also so

462
00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 2: good too for anyone who lacks clarity or lacks kind

463
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:19,199
Speaker 2: of their next steps, because you can focus on the

464
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:21,760
Speaker 2: feeling you want and then you can create that in

465
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,959
Speaker 2: your everyday regardless of what you're doing. Sometimes your goals

466
00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 2: can feel not far away, but they can feel like

467
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,119
Speaker 2: you can't have space or time right now.

468
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Speaker 3: To get there.

469
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Speaker 5: And you can focus more on the feeling if that's

470
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Speaker 5: going to give you, you know, more inspiration and motivation

471
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Speaker 5: and those sorts of things, and you can find.

472
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Speaker 3: That in your every day.

473
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Speaker 5: You can find, you know, moments of freedom and moments

474
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Speaker 5: of abundance and moments of happiness, and then that feeling

475
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 5: will obviously expand because what you focus on expands.

476
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Speaker 2: Question two, What can I do about feeling like I

477
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Speaker 2: just don't have any energy, time, or space left to

478
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 2: put into myself and my passions, let alone figure out

479
00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 2: what my actual dream life would be or look like

480
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Speaker 2: and take action on it. I feel like no matter

481
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:14,359
Speaker 2: how hard I try, I'm constantly exhausted and I'm always

482
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 2: left feeling lost. I'm gonna throw this to the Queen

483
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 2: of I have no time judging a black man.

484
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Speaker 3: So did you submit this question? This could be mine,

485
00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:27,640
Speaker 3: Queen's I have been through this a lot, and these

486
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 3: girls on the couch for no I honestly think my

487
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 3: motto for a long time was I just don't have

488
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Speaker 3: any time like I used to say it all the

489
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Speaker 3: time with everything, and these girls would always pull me

490
00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 3: up and be like, but you do you just have

491
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:43,520
Speaker 3: to do this, this and this, and I'd be like, no,

492
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Speaker 3: I don't have enough time.

493
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Speaker 2: I remember like a dis heated discussion we had where

494
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Speaker 2: you ran us through every.

495
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Speaker 3: Single thing and every single thing she does every evening.

496
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Speaker 2: She's like, I have to spend half an hour replying

497
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Speaker 2: on people's messages, and then I have to spend an

498
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Speaker 2: hour doing this and this, this, and then it's already

499
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:02,119
Speaker 2: nine thirty and then I need to.

500
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Speaker 4: Get to bed because I got to get up next.

501
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, and like that's I would get really defensive about

502
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 3: it because I genuinely felt so close to this belief,

503
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,159
Speaker 3: like I had said it so much and ingrained it

504
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 3: in me that I was so almost protective of it,

505
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 3: because I was like, I have no time, like I've

506
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 3: got this, and I would work myself up more into

507
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 3: believing that, and I'd tell myself these stories and I

508
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 3: was so far in it, and you girls know, but

509
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:30,000
Speaker 3: I honestly feel like I've gotten so much better at

510
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:33,919
Speaker 3: it because I just realized that what I'm speaking is

511
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 3: my truth and if I keep programming in my mind

512
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 3: that I don't have any time. Guess what, I'm not

513
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 3: going to have any time, and I'm not going to

514
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,479
Speaker 3: see it in a different perspective and light. So the

515
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 3: moment I kind of zoomed out and realized what I

516
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:51,120
Speaker 3: was doing, everything changed because I was like, oh wait,

517
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 3: I do have time. I do have time, crazy, and

518
00:24:56,119 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 3: I can change things. This belief is not a reality.

519
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 3: It's just something that I've been telling myself and something

520
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 3: that I can see in the data, because the data

521
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 3: is the evidence you have that you feel this way

522
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 3: all the time. You do have a lot on your plate.

523
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 3: But I really really can't stress enough that it is

524
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 3: about the belief and what you're telling yourself. So for

525
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 3: this person, try and step away from that and tell

526
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:26,719
Speaker 3: yourself something else, you know, tell yourself, I can make changes.

527
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 3: I do have time if I want What do I

528
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,240
Speaker 3: choose to invest my time in? What do I want

529
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 3: to do that makes me feel good? What am I

530
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,640
Speaker 3: putting out energy wise that's not really returning the same back?

531
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 3: Where can I make cuts and changes and just be

532
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 3: really careful of the stories you're telling yourself? Because that

533
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 3: is everything.

534
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I think it's also not trying to do

535
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 5: everything at once. Like I remember when you were very

536
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Speaker 5: in that I don't.

537
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 3: Have time pass that you can talk about it now.

538
00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 3: You were trying to do.

539
00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 5: So much at once and you can absolutely do anything

540
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 5: you want, but you can't do everything at want at once.

541
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 5: And again, being really like in the know of what

542
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 5: season you're in and what your values are and your

543
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 5: focuses are is so important because it allows you to

544
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 5: navigate those times. And you know, we all have twenty

545
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 5: four hours in the day. Yes, there's some people that

546
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 5: have different circumstances and kids and all that sort of stuff,

547
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:24,160
Speaker 5: but you just have to make sacrifices if you want

548
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:27,360
Speaker 5: a different reality. And the people who create the life

549
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,920
Speaker 5: that they want are so solid in how they spend

550
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,639
Speaker 5: their time and they make the most of their time.

551
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Speaker 5: I've listened to so many entrepreneurs and all that sort

552
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 5: of stuff on how they've saved time and made the

553
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 5: most out of the time that they do have, and

554
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 5: that time is the most important.

555
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 3: Resource that you do have.

556
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Speaker 5: So really like auditing what you're doing, how you're spending

557
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 5: your time, how you're spending your energy, whether you're you know,

558
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 5: not strong enough, and your boundaries and all that sort

559
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 5: of stuff, because that's going to make such a big

560
00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 5: difference in giving yourself the freedom and space and time.

561
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 5: And a lot of the time people keep themselves busy

562
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 5: or they do so many things at once, but it's

563
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 5: not actually like how they.

564
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 3: Should be spending their time to get to where they want. Yeah,

565
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 3: that makes sense. And I think also too with her

566
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,199
Speaker 3: saying that she doesn't have enough energy. When you're in

567
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,360
Speaker 3: that mind frame of I don't have enough time, you're

568
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 3: obviously a bit stressed. And stress has such a negative

569
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,440
Speaker 3: effect on your body that it will affect your energy

570
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 3: levels and your sleep, and then it's just this toxic

571
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 3: cycle that you go through. So I feel like approaching

572
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 3: it from a bit of a masculine and feminine side, Like, masculine,

573
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 3: write down what's important to you, figure out your calendar

574
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 3: and your schedule, move some things around sets and boundaries.

575
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,959
Speaker 3: I'm just laughing at you pointing at me. Masculine, masculine,

576
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 3: And then and then sevenin approach you need the both

577
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 3: but feminine, which relates back to what I was saying before.

578
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 3: I feel like I've just really kind of let go

579
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 3: of the tight grip and approach things from a place

580
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 3: of love and giving myself space, and that's a better

581
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 3: effect on my sleep, my energy levels. It's given me

582
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 3: more time in my mind and in my reality. So

583
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 3: I feel like doing both of those things and having

584
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 3: the balance will make such a difference for this person.

585
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:13,480
Speaker 2: Yea, yeah, I think as well. You've said I have

586
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 2: no time left to put into myself, and that in

587
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 2: itself is an issue because you're not prioritizing yourself, which

588
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 2: to me just says you're pouring from an empty cup. Recently,

589
00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 2: in one of the Rise Master classes, Chloe Brummish, who

590
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,439
Speaker 2: was a guest, said something that's really stuck with me

591
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:35,560
Speaker 2: and hit hard in that everybody has their cup and

592
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 2: they everyone always says don't pour from an empty cup,

593
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 2: But it's not even that you have a cup and

594
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 2: you have a bowl underneath, and you pour into your

595
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 2: cup to the point that your cup is overflowing and

596
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 2: this water is falling into the bowl and you should

597
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 2: only ever give from the bowl. So to me reading

598
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 2: your question, it sounds like you're not doing that. It

599
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 2: sounds like you're emptying your cup and then going where

600
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 2: can I fill it up again? Like, who's going to

601
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 2: give me nothing? In your life is giving that to you,

602
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 2: Otherwise you wouldn't be feeling so exhausted. So I'd even

603
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 2: like scale all the way right back and go, all right,

604
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 2: what time do I want to give to myself? Put

605
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 2: that in first, and then everything else comes after that.

606
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 2: Because if you're a mum, your kids need you to

607
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 2: be your best self so that you can be the

608
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 2: best mum for them. Your partner needs you to be

609
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 2: your best self so you can be the best partner

610
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 2: to them. Your job needs you to be your best

611
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 2: self so you can give your best self at work,

612
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 2: Like everything around you will improve exponentially if you look

613
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 2: after yourself first. And it's hard to learn that, and

614
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 2: that's a lesson I've been trying to learn because I

615
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 2: am a bit of a people pleaser and I do

616
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 2: want to do everything for everyone. But the quicker you

617
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 2: learn that you need to look after yourself first so

618
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 2: that you can help others the better. The other thing

619
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Speaker 2: on the no time thing is have a look at

620
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 2: what you're investing your time into, how long it's actually taking,

621
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 2: and where you might be able to swap things out.

622
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 2: Like one of my best friends just started paying for

623
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 2: a cleaner and stopped getting her nails done every week

624
00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 2: because that has helped her mindset more and she now

625
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 2: does her nails, her own nails, and like that fills

626
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 2: up her cup so much more than cleaning your own house.

627
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 2: And the money side of it has stayed the same

628
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 2: because the money's just going somewhere different into an activity

629
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: that doesn't fill her cup. And then she's getting better

630
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 2: at doing your own nails and yeah, so it's like,

631
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 2: maybe if that is like an option for you, have

632
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 2: a look at, like what am I currently paying for

633
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 2: that I could do myself that might fill my cup?

634
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,080
Speaker 2: And could I reallocate those funds into something that I

635
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 2: find particularly draining? Yeah, and seeing how you can save

636
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 2: your time that way as well.

637
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, love that. I feel like too when I was

638
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 3: in this frustrated state, because it is it's really frustrating

639
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 3: and you feel like you can't catch a break. I

640
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 3: was more snappy at my boyfriend, I was more reactive

641
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 3: to other people. I was more like saying negative thing

642
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 3: towards myself. So I feel like, once you fall into

643
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 3: the having more time for yourself, you will everything in

644
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 3: your life will improve and you will then find that

645
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 3: more time comes, more opportunities come, more energy come and

646
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 3: you'll become a magnet because you're putting out better energy

647
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 3: and a better vibration, so that's coming back to you

648
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 3: and then everything lifts and improves. So it's just been

649
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 3: stuck in this little cycle that keeps happening. As soon

650
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 3: as you break it, you will see things so differently

651
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 3: and your whole life will improve.

652
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 4: And maybe put in a circuit breaker.

653
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 2: Like it's almost the halfway point of the year, first

654
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 2: of July, Like around the corner, say say to yourself,

655
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 2: from the first of July, I'm putting myself first for

656
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 2: the next six months and see what happens and test

657
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 2: it out, and say to the people in your life, like, hey,

658
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 2: I've actually been feeling a bit burnt out and a

659
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 2: bit run down and just constantly exhausted. I might not

660
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Speaker 2: be as available or as present over the next six months.

661
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Speaker 2: Please just give me some grace in this. I still

662
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 2: love you. And set that expectation from now of what

663
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 2: the next little bit is going to feel like while

664
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Speaker 2: you experiment, while you're trying to find your groove, because

665
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 2: you're probably not gonna get it right the first time

666
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 2: and you're gonna have to go through a few iterations

667
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 2: before you find like, oh, this is what feels good

668
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 2: to me, and then once you found that, it'll be amazing.

669
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Speaker 2: And the other thing you can do is like pick

670
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Speaker 2: a circuit breaker and go okay. For me, a great

671
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 2: circuit breakerup was when I did the project because it

672
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 2: was the first time I invested in myself and I

673
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 2: was like, I've paid money for this, I need to

674
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Speaker 2: do it.

675
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Speaker 4: And I know Lannie.

676
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 2: Recently bought a course and it was like an edge

677
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 2: for her and she was like, I've paid money, I

678
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 2: need to show up. And she made sure she showed up,

679
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 2: and she made sure she prioritized it. So could it

680
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Speaker 2: be that, like you love pilarateis, so you sign up

681
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 2: for six months a six month membership at a Polaratei studio,

682
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:00,239
Speaker 2: and you go, I've paid money for this, I have

683
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 2: to show up for myself. I have to go to

684
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Speaker 2: this Jim that's a bit more expensive, or I have

685
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Speaker 2: to go to this class that I've paid for. Something

686
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 2: like that where you almost you make it a condition

687
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Speaker 2: where you have to spend that time with yourself for yourself.

688
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Speaker 4: Our final question, I love this question so much.

689
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Speaker 3: Did you write it?

690
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Speaker 4: Did you send it in your life.

691
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 2: Yeah you got me, No, I did it, But I

692
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 2: feel like we've all been here. What can you do

693
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 2: if you are a high vibe person who is into

694
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 2: self development, but your partner or the people around you

695
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 2: very much live in that. This is too hard. I

696
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:47,479
Speaker 2: hate my job. I'm a victim, poor me mindset. They

697
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 2: are supportive and loving towards me, but tend to have

698
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 2: a bit of self loathing and victim energy because of

699
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Speaker 2: their past experiences. How can I work on or around this?

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Speaker 3: This is a great question question.

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Speaker 5: I honestly think people spend too much time trying to

702
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 5: fix everyone else around them and taking on everyone else's energy.

703
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 5: And I think it can be so easy to do

704
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 5: because you can see things in such a different light

705
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 5: and they can only see things in this one light.

706
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 5: But as soon as you almost just let yourself like,

707
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Speaker 5: not take responsibility for that and not feel like you

708
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 5: have to fix them or resolve it, and you just

709
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 5: focus on you and keeping your energy high and showing

710
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 5: them how amazing life can be, how amazing your job

711
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 5: can be. That's then leading by example and they'll either

712
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Speaker 5: follow or they'll fall away. And I think if you

713
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Speaker 5: spend so much energy and time trying to get their

714
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Speaker 5: mindset right or anything like that. It's taking away from

715
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 5: how much more you could be working on your mindset.

716
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Speaker 5: And the moment you allow yourself to really focus on

717
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Speaker 5: you and how you're showing up and what your mindset is,

718
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Speaker 5: then that's going to be much more inspiring for the

719
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Speaker 5: people around you. And now probably they're more likely to

720
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Speaker 5: follow than you being like taking on their energy and

721
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Speaker 5: them trying to fix them. And I think something else

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Speaker 5: that I really do when I'm around these sorts of people,

723
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Speaker 5: or if I'm feeling like their energy is kind of

724
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Speaker 5: impacting mine, the first thing is just allow myself to

725
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 5: not take responsibility for that or try and fix them.

726
00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 5: But also just if you're hearing a lot of I

727
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Speaker 5: hate my job or I hate this, I hate that,

728
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Speaker 5: I would just go inward and think of the things

729
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Speaker 5: that you love about your job or you love about

730
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Speaker 5: your situation and just allow that to be the energy

731
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Speaker 5: that you sit in and not try and take on

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Speaker 5: their energy.

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Speaker 3: If that makes sense. Yeah, I think I really love

734
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 3: that point, Jay. I think that's so true, and that's

735
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Speaker 3: quite a tough lesson I've had to learn, even with

736
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Speaker 3: people like my family, you know, where you're like you said,

737
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,399
Speaker 3: you can see it. If you could just take over

738
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Speaker 3: that person's life for a minute, you could put things

739
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Speaker 3: in norder and you know exactly what you do. But

740
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 3: you can't. And we weren't put on this earth to

741
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Speaker 3: fix other people.

742
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Speaker 4: We just weren't.

743
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Speaker 3: And I think it's hard to accept. But even people

744
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 3: close to you, like your partner, you're really close friends

745
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 3: with your loved ones, you do just have to let

746
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 3: go and not take on all of their problems. And

747
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Speaker 3: like Jay said, protect your own peace, protect your own energy,

748
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 3: lead by example, of course, provide you know, advice and

749
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 3: inspiration for these people if you can, and it's welcomed,

750
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Speaker 3: but don't let it suck your soul. Don't let it

751
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Speaker 3: bring you down to their level. I think you can

752
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 3: only it's it's like what's the thing with the plane,

753
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 3: you know, when you have to put your own oxygen

754
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 3: mask on first, like, protect yourself first, so that you

755
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Speaker 3: can then energetically lead and lift other people around you.

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Speaker 2: I've got two things. Number One, I think this is

757
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 2: an incredible opportunity for you to learn how to protect

758
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 2: your own energy. I think that that is such a

759
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Speaker 2: valuable skill. It's something I've been put into situations where

760
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 2: that's what I've learned in that you need to learn

761
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 2: how to almost create this like bubble of this is me,

762
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:12,839
Speaker 2: this is my energy, and like I am here and

763
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 2: I'm present for you. But if you're anxious, I'm not

764
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 2: taking that on. If you're frustrated, I'm not taking that on.

765
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 2: I can have compassion for you and care for you

766
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 2: without feeling your emotion, and I can show empathy to

767
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:30,760
Speaker 2: you without feeling your emotion. And that's been a lesson

768
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 2: that I've had to learn. That It's been hard, because,

769
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Speaker 2: believe me, it's hard when you love someone and care

770
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 2: for someone and they're like going through a stressful time,

771
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 2: it can be incredibly difficult not to take that stress

772
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 2: on yourself. But it's important that you learn to protect

773
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 2: your own energy because if you don't, you're just going

774
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 2: to be leaking your own energy everywhere and that's a mess.

775
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 2: And my second thing is are you yourself playing the

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Speaker 2: victim by complaining about people around you?

777
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Speaker 4: Wow?

778
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Speaker 3: Like, are you getting triggered by them being and you

779
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 3: don't have to look at your own shit? You just

780
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Speaker 3: like they're all the problem.

781
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not me exactly.

782
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Speaker 2: And that's a bit of a different lens, a different lens,

783
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 2: because you're only going to get triggered by things that

784
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 2: you don't like about yourself. So if you're getting triggered

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00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 2: by your partner or your best friend or your parents

786
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Speaker 2: going poor me, poor me, poor me, it means you're

787
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 2: doing the same somewhere else. And something that I've started

788
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 2: doing with a lot of my relationships is going friendship

789
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Speaker 2: and connection and relationships. For me, I want someone who

790
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 2: in some aspect of their life one fills up a

791
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 2: cup or bucket of mine and two inspires me in

792
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 2: some way, shape or form. And if they're not doing that,

793
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 2: then they're not in my life. And I guarantee you

794
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 2: everyone in your life, everyone in this world, there'll be

795
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 2: a lesson you can learn from them. There'll be a

796
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 2: skill they have that they are better than you at.

797
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 2: And focus on that. Focus on the good like you

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Speaker 2: might have ad that might be a bit complaining about work,

799
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Speaker 2: But do they have really really good boundaries? What can

800
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:07,879
Speaker 2: you pull from that? Because are your boundaries as strong

801
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 2: as theirs? And find those skills and things and aspects

802
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 2: of their life that you're like, I want that in mind.

803
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 2: You don't need to have their whole life in yours.

804
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 2: But maybe you have a friend that's like struggling with

805
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 2: finding a really aligned career, but they have the best

806
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:27,439
Speaker 2: partner ever, and that's something you want for yourself. Look

807
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 2: at that and talk to them about that and focus

808
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 2: on the good in their life. Ask them about the

809
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 2: good in their life. Like let them sit there and

810
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,520
Speaker 2: complain about work for ten minutes and then go, oh,

811
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Speaker 2: my gosh, how's your partner, how's it all going, what's happening,

812
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 2: how you've been feeling about it, And you can take

813
00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 2: that power back and shift that conversation and absorb their

814
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 2: good energy of the things in their life that inspire

815
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 2: you and take that on instead, Like you have so

816
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 2: much control.

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Speaker 5: It's so true because we did this the meditation that

818
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 5: was in the Rise app this month that was gratitude

819
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:01,800
Speaker 5: for your current relationships, your partner, and so many people

820
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Speaker 5: resonated with that because I think especially in a relationship

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Speaker 5: and if you live with that person, it can be

822
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Speaker 5: so easy to focus on, you know, the harder parts,

823
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Speaker 5: the triggers, the parts that annoy you, anything like that,

824
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Speaker 5: because you're so close to this person and they are

825
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 5: your biggest mirror. They're going to show you all of

826
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Speaker 5: your triggers and all of the things that you want

827
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Speaker 5: to work on in yourself. So it can be so

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Speaker 5: easy to just look at that in them, but I

829
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Speaker 5: think it's also so important to have these moments of

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Speaker 5: reflection on why you're really grateful for them and also

831
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Speaker 5: allow yourself that because so many people forget that part.

832
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Speaker 5: And we had so many comments on that meditation being like,

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Speaker 5: thank you so much for this. I've been with my

834
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Speaker 5: partner for you know, ten years and gotten to the

835
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Speaker 5: point where I have forgotten to do this and forgotten

836
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Speaker 5: to show gratitude on all the things that they do

837
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Speaker 5: for me and all the reasons that I love them,

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Speaker 5: because I've just been stuck in all of this other stuff.

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Speaker 3: And usually the other stuff.

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Speaker 5: Is what you need to work on in yourself, so

841
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Speaker 5: you're just putting blame onto that person. But it's so

842
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 5: important to have these moments.

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Speaker 3: Of reflection and gratitude. So I love that that.

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Speaker 5: Point of what can you take from them and how

845
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:12,719
Speaker 5: can you feel inspired but them, especially in a relationship,

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00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 5: I think that's so important.

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Speaker 3: And also I feel like if it's somebody who might

848
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 3: not be into self development or they're not really open

849
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Speaker 3: to it. Try having some different open conversations. I mean,

850
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Speaker 3: that's why we created our conversation and Connection card game,

851
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:31,919
Speaker 3: because it opens the floor and it might expand their

852
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 3: mind in ways. They just don't even go because it's

853
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 3: not something they think of. So even if you recommend,

854
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 3: you know, books that you've read that you've loved, and

855
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,720
Speaker 3: you talk highly about it, or pull out the Connection

856
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 3: Card game at dinner or something, and just try and

857
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 3: spark their mind a little bit and show them what

858
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 3: it's done for you, how it's helped you. Again, lead

859
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:55,800
Speaker 3: by the example, and you know, if they're the right

860
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 3: person for you, or you know, if it's right for them,

861
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 3: they can take it on and expand too. But like

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00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 3: Georgie has mentioned before about the example of like the

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Speaker 3: ladder and how if you're climbing up a ladder and

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00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 3: someone's down there below you, you can't use all of

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Speaker 3: your energy to try and pull them up the ladder

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00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 3: with you. You've got to focus on your steps up

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Speaker 3: the ladder. And you know, hopefully people will watch you

868
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,360
Speaker 3: climbing the ladder and want to follow and do the

869
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 3: same thing. But you can't always pull everybody up.

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Speaker 2: So I'm going to read something that I I think

871
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Speaker 2: I sent it to you gig last night.

872
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 3: The amount of stuff we send each other, I know.

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Speaker 2: So this is something that I saw literally last night,

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Speaker 2: and I think it's actually perfect for this question. It's

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Speaker 2: this like little quote thing on Instagram and it says,

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Speaker 2: isn't it weird how when you work on yourself your

877
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 2: self respect and you glow up, you attract less people

878
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 2: and have no people sliding into your DMS, people might

879
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 2: not approach you as much. It makes you wonder if

880
00:42:57,120 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 2: you've actually glowed down instead, when really you've just reached

881
00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 2: that state where you no longer attract low vibrational people

882
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 2: into your life anymore because you are operating in such

883
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:14,319
Speaker 2: a high frequency. Remember a bus ride fits many, but

884
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 2: a ferrari only fits too. Ooh that Fraorrie and I

885
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 2: love this because it's like, maybe you need to just

886
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 2: do some self reflection, focus on yourself and trust that

887
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 2: there'll be people in your life now that will fall

888
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 2: away and it sucks, but you have to be ready

889
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,959
Speaker 2: to let them go. And there'll be people that will

890
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 2: probably surprise you and hop on the ride and carry

891
00:43:41,239 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 2: on with you to the next level. And like you

892
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 2: just have to come to peace with the fact that

893
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 2: some people. You just have to come to peace with

894
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:49,640
Speaker 2: the fact that some people are going to fall away,

895
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 2: but there's going to be people on the ride with you,

896
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 2: And all you're doing is making more space for more

897
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 2: high vibe people to come in.

898
00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 3: Like maybe that person that you're trying so hard to

899
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,839
Speaker 3: get into self development isn't meeting you there because they're

900
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 3: not supposed to be there. Someone or something better is

901
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 3: coming and you have to make the space for that.

902
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:12,360
Speaker 5: So I think also this is something that I noticed

903
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 5: when I first started getting into shadow work, and it

904
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 5: was as soon as you start doing a lot of

905
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:21,720
Speaker 5: inner work self development, shadow work where you're really looking

906
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 5: at your triggers, your behaviors that you've never seen before,

907
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:28,919
Speaker 5: the parts of yourself that you haven't accepted, everyone else

908
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 5: will trigger the shit out of you and you will

909
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:35,839
Speaker 5: be like everyone else plays the victim. They think life

910
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 5: is so hard. They're not doing this, they're not doing that,

911
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 5: because you have so many parts of yourself that are

912
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 5: unhealed and you haven't integrated them into being a part

913
00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 5: of who you are and really accepting all parts of yourself.

914
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 5: So I think if you're someone who's potentially in that

915
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 5: stage of getting into self development and really working on

916
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 5: your triggers and healing your word Runes. That is a

917
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 5: really hard stage because you're going to feel so triggered

918
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 5: by everyone around you. But it's also your biggest opportunity

919
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:11,760
Speaker 5: to be like, hmmm, I'm feeling this about this person,

920
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 5: what is that revealing to myself? And how can I

921
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 5: heal that part of me? Integrate that part of me,

922
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 5: and really work on my triggers. Because if you're kind

923
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:24,920
Speaker 5: of in that stage, it's such a blessing in disguise.

924
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Speaker 4: I love that.

925
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 3: It's a good thing. It's a good thing. It's really fun.

926
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Speaker 2: I would say with this one too, you would want

927
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:42,240
Speaker 2: to maybe experiment a little bit with what your energetic

928
00:45:42,320 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 2: minimums are too. That's something we talk about in the project,

929
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 2: and if you've bought it, definitely revisit that module where

930
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 2: it's energetically what are you allowing into your life? Because

931
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:59,959
Speaker 2: sometimes and also like energetically what are you blocking yoursel

932
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 2: from because you're almost playing the victims saying you can't

933
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 2: achieve things because the people around you don't have the

934
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:09,839
Speaker 2: right mindset. So have a look at like, what are

935
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 2: you actually allowing in in the relationships in your life.

936
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 2: Do you want to raise that bar and are you

937
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 2: ready to let go of everyone below that, because for me,

938
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:21,399
Speaker 2: that's something that I've started experimenting with. We spoke about

939
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 2: it in a previous episode that will link in the

940
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Speaker 2: show notes, where I had like almost decided, oh, this

941
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 2: isn't the vibe. I don't want to be friends with

942
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 2: someone that takes a day and a half to reply

943
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:35,359
Speaker 2: to me. And I decided that, and I didn't say

944
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:38,799
Speaker 2: anything to the person, and I didn't do anything or

945
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 2: say anything to anyone. Actually, I just decided, like, cool,

946
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 2: I'm not going to message again. If this means that

947
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 2: I don't see you for another month or two, that's

948
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 2: just what it's going to be. And I was so

949
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 2: at peace with that. And literally within an hour or two,

950
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:54,840
Speaker 2: I got a message from that person, and it's like,

951
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:58,440
Speaker 2: and your energy and aura have so much power and

952
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 2: you need to harness that. You need to be so

953
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:05,359
Speaker 2: clear and also so ready to let things go. And

954
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:07,919
Speaker 2: if you're not ready to let things go, then you're

955
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 2: not going to be able to transcend to that next level.

956
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 2: So I'd also highly recommend like looking at the project

957
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:17,919
Speaker 2: on energetic minimums and listening to that episode as well

958
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 2: if that's something you feel you need to work on.

959
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 3: And also I think meditation, like for in terms of

960
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 3: releasing your grip and letting things go, meditation is so

961
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 3: powerful in just helping you just calm and regulate and

962
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 3: create more space and connect with yourself and know what

963
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 3: you want. So I know for me like I do

964
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 3: daily rides at meditations, and it makes the world of

965
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 3: difference because you can just approach things and people from

966
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 3: a more regulated view. And when you do that, you're

967
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:52,239
Speaker 3: not as reactive, you're not as triggered by things, you

968
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 3: can reflect and make better decisions. So definitely, I think

969
00:47:57,520 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 3: like meditation for me has been a game changer.

970
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 5: This is kind of I agree with that, but this

971
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:05,879
Speaker 5: is kind of like derailing the conversation, but I just

972
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 5: it made me think of it were gone regulating your

973
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 5: own emotion in me. So Cooper the other day was

974
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 5: telling me about he was his son was feeling a

975
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 5: lot of emotions and wasn't wanting to go to bed,

976
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 5: and so what he does when his kids are in

977
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 5: these states is he allows his kids to go into

978
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 5: the room, have a cry, let it all out. And

979
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 5: regulate themselves on their own. So the other night, I

980
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 5: was in my kitchen and I was feeling really overwhelmed,

981
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:31,400
Speaker 5: like and had a really big day, and I was

982
00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 5: cleaning and trying to cook dinner, and I was just

983
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 5: I could feel my emotions really bubbling up, and I

984
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 5: was like, I'm going to go put myself in a roomy,

985
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:42,880
Speaker 5: I have a good cry, let all my emotions out.

986
00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 5: So I went in the room and I just cried,

987
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 5: like just allowed myself to feel it.

988
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 3: And I was like, it really does what it does.

989
00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:51,000
Speaker 4: How good's a good cry?

990
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:53,839
Speaker 3: It feels like you're like, oh, what was I even like, well,

991
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:56,280
Speaker 3: I was even that sad about it, Like he just releases.

992
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I personally love crying in the shower because you

993
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:01,720
Speaker 2: feel good to cry, and you feel good after a shower.

994
00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:03,359
Speaker 4: You feel like you combine them double.

995
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 3: Yes. So the answers question was derailed, but it was just.

996
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like I'm having a toddler tantrum, but put

997
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:18,799
Speaker 5: myself in the room.

998
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:22,400
Speaker 3: Expressing your emotions is so powerful because if that is

999
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:25,879
Speaker 3: stored or blocked inside of you, like it's in terms

1000
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:28,280
Speaker 3: of chia and your energy and all these different things,

1001
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 3: it can really be like having effects in your life.

1002
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 3: So if you're releasing that, think about like a river

1003
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 3: flowing down, and if there's all these huge rocks and

1004
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:39,719
Speaker 3: boulders and like the water can't get down, and there's

1005
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 3: blocks and the water's splashing off that way and all

1006
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 3: these different things. But if there's a clear flow, you

1007
00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:47,839
Speaker 3: know you're releasing when you need to. You're crying, you're

1008
00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 3: feeling things, you're dealing with them, you're reflecting, like that's

1009
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:54,600
Speaker 3: so peaceful. We're just rivers and here we're peaceful. Come flowing.

1010
00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 4: You continue with the derailment of the conversation.

1011
00:49:57,560 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 2: I love this thing Fee had said to me a

1012
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,319
Speaker 2: couple months back, where and seeing it as inside out

1013
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 2: too has just come out.

1014
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:05,200
Speaker 4: This is the perfect time.

1015
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 2: But it's like pretend, pretend your brain is literally inside out.

1016
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:14,080
Speaker 2: So I'm not sure if anyone's seen it, but you

1017
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 2: can go watch the trailer. It's basically like every emotion

1018
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:19,960
Speaker 2: is like a character, and they have like one control panel,

1019
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 2: which is like your brain. And sometimes joy takes over,

1020
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 2: and sometimes anger takes over, and sometimes envy takes over.

1021
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 2: But what we often do as people is we go no, no, no, no,

1022
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 2: I can't feel anxiety, I can't feel anger, because that's

1023
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 2: not right. And you take this emotion and you shove

1024
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:40,719
Speaker 2: it in a closet and you shut the door, and

1025
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:42,719
Speaker 2: you don't let it take control at the time it's

1026
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,560
Speaker 2: supposed to take control. And all that poor little emotion

1027
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 2: does like it doesn't understand that you feel ashamed of it.

1028
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 2: It just gets angry that it can't say what it

1029
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 2: wanted to say, and so it bangs at this door

1030
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 2: and it bangs, and it bangs and it bangs, and

1031
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:56,640
Speaker 2: it gets louder and louder and louder and louder and

1032
00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:59,280
Speaker 2: louder until you have no other choice to let it out,

1033
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 2: or sometimes it breaks the door down, comes out floods,

1034
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 2: and comes out so much stronger than it needed to

1035
00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:08,399
Speaker 2: in the first place. So it's so important, like when

1036
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:11,320
Speaker 2: you are feeling anxious, when you are feeling sad, anger,

1037
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 2: any of it, let it out in that moment, because

1038
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 2: I guarantee you that the more you start doing that,

1039
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 2: the more you the more away you become of letting

1040
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 2: yourself feel the things at the right time, the more

1041
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:26,400
Speaker 2: regulated you'll be, the happier you'll be, the easier it

1042
00:51:26,440 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 2: will be for you to move through hard things because

1043
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 2: you have compassion for yourself. And at the end of

1044
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,359
Speaker 2: the day, it's just a little emotion in your head

1045
00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:34,800
Speaker 2: that doesn't really know any better.

1046
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 3: What is it. The thing is, it's an energy in motion.

1047
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,760
Speaker 5: It's only meant to stay in your body for ninety

1048
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 5: seconds and you just need to release it and then

1049
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:43,959
Speaker 5: it'll be gone.

1050
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 3: But if you keep it in there, it stays stuck. Yeah,

1051
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 3: love let it out.

1052
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, not that anything.

1053
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 3: With the question. It was the question again. It was

1054
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:59,200
Speaker 3: the low vibpot ah. Yeah, yeah, I mean, honestly, give

1055
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 3: us through a mic. We'll just talk for our Yeah.

1056
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:03,480
Speaker 5: So if your partners low vibe, just have a cry.

1057
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 3: I'll let you inside out and everything.

1058
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 2: But yeah, we hope you guys loved this episode and

1059
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 2: let us know if you want more of the three

1060
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 2: of us. We had really fun, a lot of fun recording.

1061
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:15,080
Speaker 4: So much fun.

1062
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:16,399
Speaker 3: Thanks so much for having us.

1063
00:52:16,600 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and we'll see you in the next episode.

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Speaker 3: Guys.

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Speaker 1: Bye, Thank you so much for listening to another episode

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Speaker 1: of the Rise and Conquer Podcast.

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