Speaker 1: Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
Speaker 1: on Cut. This is our very special episode. This is
Speaker 1: Usked Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions.
Speaker 1: It could be commedia.
Speaker 2: We actually haven't had one comedia question come in. We
Speaker 2: never have, guys, but what would they never have?
Speaker 1: They are just so you know the person who you're
Speaker 1: trusting to give answers to. Britt just walked in. We're
Speaker 1: recording off a little side table in my bedroom today
Speaker 1: and Britt will here we go.
Speaker 2: Britt walked in.
Speaker 1: And she squirted something into her hands, thinking that it
Speaker 1: was sanitizer.
Speaker 2: No, it was hair oil.
Speaker 1: So the funniest thing is we recorded two days ago
Speaker 1: for the other episode and I did exactly the same thing.
Speaker 1: I'm sitting there talking to her and making eye contact
Speaker 1: and I'm squating this oil into my hands and I'm like,
Speaker 1: why is it this Saniti was rubbing in. The dumber
Speaker 1: thing was that I was watching her do it, and
Speaker 1: I was like, why the fuck is she putting so
Speaker 1: much hair oil in her hands.
Speaker 2: Then I come in today and walk up do the
Speaker 2: same thing.
Speaker 1: I'm really serious talking about the topic and I start
Speaker 1: squaweding it in my hand again.
Speaker 2: And mind you, this is oil. This doesn't come off.
Speaker 1: My hands are like slippery McGee, slippery McGhee, like sliding
Speaker 1: into those dm slippery McGee.
Speaker 2: All right, shall we just get into it?
Speaker 1: Well, I do want to touch on something before we
Speaker 1: jump into today's episode. Oh you're gonna ask me what
Speaker 1: it is. You've taken a very serious turn. I'm concerned. Well, yes,
Speaker 1: I don't know how I feel about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. You may or may not have heard.
Speaker 1: That Harry and Francesca from Too Hot to Handle have
Speaker 1: publicly broken up. Oh look, it was a sinking ship,
Speaker 1: wasn't it.
Speaker 2: So have you seen it?
Speaker 1: Harry put a big story out on his Instagram and
Speaker 1: Francesca put a whole video up on her YouTube channel.
Speaker 1: Well I haven't seen that one. There you go, there's
Speaker 1: the real meaty one. Okay, So what was Francesca's saying. Well,
Speaker 1: Francesca's was very, very distracting because she obviously recorded about
Speaker 1: seven hundred times then stitched it together, so every second
Speaker 1: frame it was like when somebody stitched it and it's like,
Speaker 1: it's not this continuous conversation, it's guilty. It was so
Speaker 1: distracting to watch, but basically she was saying that Harry
Speaker 1: wasn't into it the way that she thought he was.
Speaker 1: He just he was the one that wanted out. Really,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm paraphrasing. I could be totally making it up.
Speaker 1: I watched it like eleven PM. But from what I
Speaker 1: have taken from the situation, it was more Harry's choice
Speaker 1: and Harry's doing than Francesca's. Yeah, Harry came out and
Speaker 1: said on his own Instagram that it was all him
Speaker 1: and he didn't feel it with her anymore and it
Speaker 1: wasn't enough and he just fell out of love, which
Speaker 1: I what, I haven't even got to the funny buy yet.
Speaker 2: It's just so ridiculous. I fell out of love.
Speaker 1: I mean I only proposed to her with a lollipop
Speaker 1: ring two months ago, but I already fell out of love.
Speaker 1: Times have been tough. It's a long someone else on
Speaker 1: the show and her friend for the entire time. You know,
Speaker 1: I got my five million followers and it's you know,
Speaker 1: now I'm not in love anymore.
Speaker 2: I've got to leave.
Speaker 1: But the funny thing is, well, I mean what I
Speaker 1: think is funny is she's so hot, like she's so beautiful.
Speaker 2: I don't know what she's like as a person.
Speaker 1: And I feel like the old Harrie at the beginning
Speaker 1: was like counting his lucky stars and being like, I'll
Speaker 1: never move someone like this again. And now he's like mah,
Speaker 1: thank you next, Like it's just he just feels nothing,
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, But as we all know, like hotness
Speaker 1: is not indicative of how good somebody is in a relationships,
Speaker 1: Like if they're not a nice person, if they're not
Speaker 1: like hot on the inside, then it doesn't amount for anything.
Speaker 1: I completely agree, And I also it does make me
Speaker 1: wonder if it was ever real. Maybe not intentionally from
Speaker 1: Francesca's side, but one of them was writing that relationship
Speaker 1: for publicity. Yeah, And I mean if they've come out
Speaker 1: and said that Harry's ended it and she's really upset
Speaker 1: by it, maybe she was the one that actually was
Speaker 1: really invested because she was super invested in the show.
Speaker 2: I'm very devastated for them, truly.
Speaker 1: Well you're not my heart's bleeding, give us reality TV
Speaker 1: couple's a bad rap.
Speaker 2: Hey.
Speaker 1: I do want to say one thing, though there's been
Speaker 1: this there's this constant rumor that circulates after every single
Speaker 1: season of Bachelor, and it is that there is a
Speaker 1: contract and that the couple who wins has to stay
Speaker 1: together for minimum three months or a year or whatever
Speaker 1: it is. The sources and the sighting of how many
Speaker 1: months in the contract seems to change from source to sauce.
Speaker 1: But there is this mythical contract that exists. Guys, I
Speaker 1: can one hundred percent hand on my heart, swear on
Speaker 1: my life. There is absolutely no contract. Nobody is being
Speaker 1: held to say that they're together when they're not. The
Speaker 1: only reason why I think sometimes couples take a bit
Speaker 1: longer to actually come out and say that they're broken
Speaker 1: up than what they really have is because they're actually
Speaker 1: trying to make it work. They actually really want to
Speaker 1: be together, or they're seeing if they can make it work,
Speaker 1: and they don't want to publicly say, oh, we're broken up,
Speaker 1: Oh we're back together, oh we're broken up, because as
Speaker 1: you and I and brit and everyone knows, break ups
Speaker 1: are messy and they're hard, and sometimes navigating them in
Speaker 1: the public eye when you are not somebody who's been
Speaker 1: equipped to kind of be thrown into that limelight, that
Speaker 1: shit's hard. Well. The other thing is, yeah, I completely
Speaker 1: can concur with Laura. There is no contract, even when
Speaker 1: you enter it at the beginning. There's nothing that says
Speaker 1: if you win, you have to stay together, even for
Speaker 1: a week. I mean it did say that one contract
Speaker 1: that said I'd have to have at least two kids
Speaker 1: with the guy ands and then makes money. But fuck, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're in the home street last year.
Speaker 2: It's one more, one more kid out and then I'm
Speaker 2: out of here.
Speaker 1: But no, there's no contract. And I think the other
Speaker 1: thing is, yes, they want to give it a go,
Speaker 1: and if it's not working and they do want to
Speaker 1: break up, it's a really, really daunting time to publicly
Speaker 1: announce you've broken up. They might not be ready because
Speaker 1: once you announce it.
Speaker 2: It's insane. The media all over you.
Speaker 1: Every second article is there, the paparazzi are following you,
Speaker 1: like they just they're just not ready for it. So
Speaker 1: sometimes I think that they're like, Okay, this doesn't work,
Speaker 1: Let's just ride it for a little bit longer until
Speaker 1: emotionally we can deal with publicly saying it's over.
Speaker 2: Totally. I mean, I think you totally just nailed it.
Speaker 1: Like it's sometimes you're not emotionally ready to deal with
Speaker 1: a breakup, like in and of itself, let alone deal
Speaker 1: with the publicity storm that kind of follows that, And
Speaker 1: I hate it when there's this conversation which.
Speaker 2: Is like, just admit it, are you broken up? You're
Speaker 2: still together?
Speaker 1: And it's like, well, maybe they are, but they're just
Speaker 1: trying to figure out their lives right now and they're
Speaker 1: just trying to cope.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because they're real people too. I'm a real human,
Speaker 2: Laura's real human. Everyone in reality TV are real humans.
Speaker 1: Anyway, enough reality TV chitter chatter, guys. As you know
Speaker 1: this episode it is our quick it is our down
Speaker 1: and dirty EP where we answer all your questions. Thank
Speaker 1: you to every single person who has written in questions.
Speaker 1: We have chosen a three treh for today. That's Italian.
Speaker 1: I don't even know if it is actually yeah, thats close.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: Anyway, we have picked three and I am gonna kick
Speaker 1: it off. So I love that you mixing it up
Speaker 1: a little bit. I never I never kicked this shit off.
Speaker 1: I'm here for it, all right. So I've recently found
Speaker 1: out that my housemate, one of my best friends, is
Speaker 1: chatting up one of my exes. This may seem okay
Speaker 1: to some people, but to me, this is ultimately breaking
Speaker 1: girl code. Here isn't just an ex. I was infatuated
Speaker 1: with this guy, and I loved him to the point
Speaker 1: that it took me a very, very long time to
Speaker 1: move on from him. She was there, She was my
Speaker 1: shoulder to cry on. She witnessed all the pain and
Speaker 1: all the hurt that he caused me. I approached them,
Speaker 1: both her in person and him over message, to tell
Speaker 1: them that I'm really not very comfortable with it, because
Speaker 1: it really does make me feel sick to the stomach.
Speaker 2: Am I overreacting?
Speaker 1: How do I best tell them that this is wrong,
Speaker 1: even though they seem to not understand why I'm upset
Speaker 1: by this. I want to straight up say that I'm
Speaker 1: not on board with this and that it is breaking
Speaker 1: the girl code big time. I think there's a few
Speaker 1: little indications here that it's wrong. The fact that she's
Speaker 1: told her friend how hurt she was and how in
Speaker 1: love she was, and basically that this really really tore
Speaker 1: her apart and she's not okay with it, and then
Speaker 1: her friend is still gone and sort of jumped on
Speaker 1: that bandwagon. I think it's really deceitful and quite hurtful.
Speaker 1: There are plenty of fish in the sea. Why do
Speaker 1: you have to go to your best friend's ex that
Speaker 1: tore her apart. I mean, I'm and this is gonna
Speaker 1: be different for everyone. This is definitely an individual opinion.
Speaker 1: It definitely depends on your circumstances and your friendship and
Speaker 1: all of that. So we can only comment on this
Speaker 1: as an outsider from what you've written. And I'm going
Speaker 1: to say, I don't think it's right. This has happened
Speaker 1: to me before.
Speaker 2: Morally it's wrong.
Speaker 1: Technically, they're not doing anything wrong because they're not together.
Speaker 1: It's just been a bit of a shitty friend. If
Speaker 1: it were to take all emotion out of this and
Speaker 1: look at this like completely, completely objectively, there isn't anything
Speaker 1: wrong with this situation. They are grown adults. They're allowed
Speaker 1: to make those choices, and and you know what, they're
Speaker 1: not in the wrong by doing that. Okay, now put
Speaker 1: them back in there. Because we're people and we have feelings,
Speaker 1: and we have to care and nurture the relationships that
Speaker 1: we have around us. The fact that she is prioritizing
Speaker 1: her relationship with this guy over your friendship is a
Speaker 1: clear indication of where your friendship lies in her eyes.
Speaker 1: You may think that she's your best friend and you
Speaker 1: may not treat her that way, but that doesn't mean
Speaker 1: that she's going to bestow the same the same kindness
Speaker 1: to you, which obviously she's not. And the really hard
Speaker 1: thing about this situation is you say that you don't
Speaker 1: want to break the friendship and you don't want to
Speaker 1: be in a situation where you can't, you know, continue
Speaker 1: to be best friends. If she does end up dating
Speaker 1: him and that causes you a lot of hurt, it
Speaker 1: is going to create a situation where you probably can't
Speaker 1: continue to be best friends because you have to put
Speaker 1: your own heart and your own mental health first. And
Speaker 1: if hanging out with your best friend's boyfriend who's your
Speaker 1: ex makes you sad, then you're not going to be
Speaker 1: able to spend time together. On the other side of this,
Speaker 1: maybe he is her penguin, maybe they are going to
Speaker 1: spend the rest of their life together, but that situation
Speaker 1: that might work out great for them, but it's gonna
Speaker 1: have the same impact on your friendship. Like she's not
Speaker 1: prioritizing your friendship, and that is a clear indication of
Speaker 1: where you stand. I think, yeah, I completely agree, and
Speaker 1: I wanted to add on to the back end of that,
Speaker 1: but you did.
Speaker 2: It at the end.
Speaker 1: Anyway, This is different if if she just wants took
Speaker 1: up with him, and she knows that they've got nothing
Speaker 1: in common, she doesn't even want to date him, it's
Speaker 1: not going to go anywhere. That's really really really low
Speaker 1: and really really shit and really uncalled for. If and
Speaker 1: this does happen, if they're meant to be together and
Speaker 1: they are just soul mates and they're penguins and they
Speaker 1: were literally destined to meet this way, maybe they were
Speaker 1: meant to meet through you, that sucks balls, but good
Speaker 1: for them. If that's their path and that's the way
Speaker 1: they got there. It's really really sucky for you, But
Speaker 1: you've got to let that happen, and you will have
Speaker 1: to extract yourself from the situation unless you can find
Speaker 1: it in you to get over it completely and move
Speaker 1: on and not let it affect you. But your mental
Speaker 1: health comes first. I don't think i'd be able to
Speaker 1: sit there and look at my ex that I loved
Speaker 1: forever with my best friend.
Speaker 2: It's messed up. But I know there are couples that
Speaker 2: do that. There are loads of couples.
Speaker 1: I think just to try and like look at this
Speaker 1: as well from a different perspective instead of just being
Speaker 1: like your friends in the wrong and you can't be
Speaker 1: friends anymore. Something to keep in mind as well, is
Speaker 1: are you over him? Like before they started hooking up,
Speaker 1: would you have said that you're over him? And is
Speaker 1: your ego coming into play here? Because we don't have
Speaker 1: control over other people, We don't have ownership over other people,
Speaker 1: and so if there is an ego element to this,
Speaker 1: which there probably is, then I think that their calls
Speaker 1: for you to kind of step away from that a
Speaker 1: little bit and allow somebody else to be happy.
Speaker 2: Like that's really important too.
Speaker 1: If it's too fresh because it's too soon and you
Speaker 1: are genuinely hurt by it, that's a different story. But
Speaker 1: if this happened, you broke up several years ago, you've
Speaker 1: dated other people, you've had time to move on, and
Speaker 1: it's just an ego thing, then I think that you
Speaker 1: don't really have a right to be as angry as
Speaker 1: what you are. Secondly, is that time heals everything. If
Speaker 1: your friendship is super important to you and they do
Speaker 1: end up start dating, you will not have these feelings
Speaker 1: for him forever. You will get over it. It's going
Speaker 1: to take a lot of working through, but there is
Speaker 1: a possibility that you can maintain a friendship if they
Speaker 1: decide to date. You just have to put some parameters
Speaker 1: in place to safeguard you. And one of those might
Speaker 1: be that you can't live together because it's going to
Speaker 1: be very difficult having your ex boyfriend and come over
Speaker 1: to your house. That's going to keep bringing it into
Speaker 1: your face. But I think there are ways around this
Speaker 1: situation where you don't have to constantly be hurt by it. Yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: if you want to have sex with any of my
Speaker 1: ex boyfriends, you're completely welcome to them. Brittany, all stories
Speaker 1: you told me about your exes, I'm not going near
Speaker 1: any of them with a ten football. I will free
Speaker 1: to good home. I think most of them are still single.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: Next okay, question number two.
Speaker 2: Okay, hi ladies.
Speaker 1: My partner and I went out for a dinner date tonight.
Speaker 1: We both had a really good night. We came home
Speaker 1: and my partner went to hang out in his man cave.
Speaker 1: He does this every night. So while I'm in the
Speaker 1: lounge room watching TV, he sends me a cock video
Speaker 1: jerking off in the clothes he's literally just worn to
Speaker 1: our dinner. So I go downstairs thinking it was a
Speaker 1: bit of an invite and I'm gonna get lucky when
Speaker 1: I get there.
Speaker 2: He says that he finished himself off an hour ago.
Speaker 1: I felt really awkward thinking that while hanging out by myself,
Speaker 1: he was jerking off down here by himself. I literally
Speaker 1: ran back upstairs. Is it wrong of me to feel
Speaker 1: that this is really awkward and I don't feel great
Speaker 1: about the situation. No, it's not weird for you to
Speaker 1: feel that that's awkward. No, because this is weird, so weird.
Speaker 1: This is like straight up legit weird. Okay, But firstly,
Speaker 1: before the cock video and everything, like, let's just wind
Speaker 1: it back a second. You've just gone up for a
Speaker 1: really cute dake together, You've just spent some quality time together.
Speaker 2: Why are you coming home?
Speaker 1: And the first thing that he does is to go
Speaker 1: and isolate himself from you, Like that is your opportunity
Speaker 1: to go to the bedroom to get on to pank attack.
Speaker 1: You're missing an opportunity to spend more time together. And
Speaker 1: I think if he does this every single night, the
Speaker 1: issue isn't so much that he's masturbating on his own.
Speaker 2: That's a whole, entirely different issue.
Speaker 1: The issue is is why is he spending that time
Speaker 1: to be away from you? Why can't you be a
Speaker 1: part of that time? Well, why isn't he prioritizing sex
Speaker 1: with you over winking himself off? There's lots of questions.
Speaker 1: The way I see this is like you just said,
Speaker 1: people masturbate. If he wants to masturbate on his own,
Speaker 1: that's fine, but the fact that it was right after
Speaker 1: you'd been out. He wants you to know it's live
Speaker 1: because the same clothes. But to me, if someone sent
Speaker 1: a video like that in that situation, that's hands down
Speaker 1: and invite, that's come down. I just think your boyfriend's lazy.
Speaker 1: Like I actually think he's lazy. I think there's more
Speaker 1: to it. I don't think that's laziness. Well, I mean
Speaker 1: maybe there are other layers to it. But I think
Speaker 1: that we all know it's easier to just go masturbate,
Speaker 1: especially for a guy. It's easier to masturbate. There's less effort,
Speaker 1: there's less time, you get straight to the end goal. Like,
Speaker 1: I think that there's a level of that comes into
Speaker 1: play here. I personally would have had a different reaction.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have run away. I think I would have
Speaker 1: just said WTAF what the actual.
Speaker 2: Fuck and then run away. No, I just would have
Speaker 2: called him on it. I would be like, babe, fu,
Speaker 2: what what was that?
Speaker 1: If you're entitled to say that, I don't think you
Speaker 1: need to run away and feel awkward and embarrassed. There
Speaker 1: is absolutely absolutely cause here to sit down and have
Speaker 1: a conversation and say this kind of was surprising behavior
Speaker 1: to me. I would have thought that we were going
Speaker 1: to have sex tonight and that that was an opportunity
Speaker 1: for us to spend time together, and instead you went
Speaker 1: and masturbated without me. Like I think also there's a
Speaker 1: little bit of rejection loaded into that as well, because
Speaker 1: if you get did you get loaded into that? Because
Speaker 1: I was staring at you blankly, Actually that went over
Speaker 1: my head, because if if you have just gone on
Speaker 1: a beautiful date together and then instead of going home
Speaker 1: and having sex together, he's chosen to go off and
Speaker 1: do it on his own, there is rejection that kind
Speaker 1: of ties into that. And I think that this really
Speaker 1: warrants a serious conversation saying this hurts your feelings and
Speaker 1: you want to be included in this. All She's actually
Speaker 1: asked us, is it okay to feel weird and like, yes,
Speaker 1: that is okay, but I do think you need to
Speaker 1: take another step into this situation and figure out what
Speaker 1: was behind it.
Speaker 2: It might be innocent.
Speaker 1: He might literally say, Babe, I was just lazy, I
Speaker 1: was just a whim whatever, but there might be more
Speaker 1: to it, and I think you need to find out
Speaker 1: and you need to tell him how it made you
Speaker 1: feel one hundred percent. You need to be like, look,
Speaker 1: I it did make me feel really weird because I
Speaker 1: thought it was an invite, like we just had this
Speaker 1: amazing dinner and then I come down for you to
Speaker 1: sort of throw it in my face and be like,
Speaker 1: oh my mum, long done, like you're not needed type thing.
Speaker 1: So definitely have the conversation because, especially if this is
Speaker 1: not the first time, we don't know, but if this
Speaker 1: is a recurring theme, you need to address it stat
Speaker 1: or it's going to cause resentment in your relationship. I
Speaker 1: also don't want you to think that when we say
Speaker 1: like that this is a bit weird and a bit strange,
Speaker 1: that like there's judgment loaded into this. People masturbate That
Speaker 1: is a very normal thing. Like yeah, no, judgment, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: And guys will masturbate when their girlfriends are home just
Speaker 1: because they can't be bothered to have sex, Like girls
Speaker 1: will masturbate when their partners are home because they can't
Speaker 1: be bothered to have sex. I mean, it's very normal,
Speaker 1: it's very human. We all do it and it feels great.
Speaker 1: I think the issue is here is that there is
Speaker 1: a part of this where you feel left out. And
Speaker 1: I think that after a date night, it's a really
Speaker 1: special time to be able to continue to spend time together.
Speaker 1: You don't have to come home and go your separate ways.
Speaker 1: And so I think that there's a conversation about that,
Speaker 1: and then about the masturbating. But don't think that we're
Speaker 1: saying that masturbating is weird. Also, maybe maybe he that's
Speaker 1: his sense of humor. Maybe he just thought it was funny.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's just like, I'll just send my girl friend
Speaker 1: a dick pic. That might have just been what it was.
Speaker 1: Maybe not that. Maybe there's not that much to it.
Speaker 1: You know, we could all be overthinking it because every
Speaker 1: checker wants a dick pic. That's exactly what we've.
Speaker 2: During date night. From your long term.
Speaker 1: But romance, ah, the romance is a lave and well, alrighty, well,
Speaker 1: question number three. That was such a weird question to answer.
Speaker 1: I was really hard because I haven't been in that situation.
Speaker 1: You've never been sent to masturbating video from the long
Speaker 1: term partner whilst I'm in the house after dinner. No, Oh, well,
Speaker 1: they're probably number question number three. My boyfriend wants to
Speaker 1: have a threesome, but I don't really want to do it.
Speaker 1: I'm not really into it, but he says it's something
Speaker 1: he really really wants to try. Do I just suck
Speaker 1: it up and do it. I'm worried he may stray
Speaker 1: if I don't. Oh, this is so easy for me.
Speaker 1: Absolutely not. You do not have a threesome because you
Speaker 1: think your partner will leave you. If your partner is
Speaker 1: going to leave you because you said you don't want
Speaker 1: to engage with sexual activity with him and someone else,
Speaker 1: then your partner is a douche.
Speaker 2: How's that heard it here? For people?
Speaker 1: I'm with Bret, I think that this is a very,
Speaker 1: very black and white situation. The one thing that I
Speaker 1: will elaborate on with this is that it's really important
Speaker 1: in every relationship that you have standards for yourself, and
Speaker 1: there's standards that you live by so that you don't
Speaker 1: get treated in a way that compromises what you want
Speaker 1: in your life, and you start to get into a
Speaker 1: really slippery slope when you start moving the goalpost because
Speaker 1: you're worried that someone's going to leave you. So you
Speaker 1: start to drop your standards because you're worried that they're
Speaker 1: going to leave you. What happens is that you'll get
Speaker 1: into a point in your life where you'll have no
Speaker 1: standards at all, and so don't COMPREMI but don't want
Speaker 1: no standards, So you'll be laying I'm making a really
Speaker 1: poignant point here, but that's what we do.
Speaker 2: I was fucking terrible. Continue.
Speaker 1: You never want to get to a point in your
Speaker 1: relationship where you're doing things that you're not comfortable with
Speaker 1: that compromise your moral compass because you're scared of being alone.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, he is not the
Speaker 1: right person for you if he wants things that are
Speaker 1: fundamentally different to what you want he if he loves
Speaker 1: you and he wants to be with you, then he
Speaker 1: will make compromises as well.
Speaker 2: I e.
Speaker 1: Not fucking another chick while you're together, pretty easy compromise.
Speaker 1: I think I would like to add something to the
Speaker 1: conversation come on in I I do know couples before
Speaker 1: that have been through things that are quite similar to this,
Speaker 1: and I have that a little bit of research on
Speaker 1: it as well, not for me but for the podcast.
Speaker 1: There are things that you can do to maybe satisfy
Speaker 1: his urges. So maybe he does just want to experiment
Speaker 1: with different things. So you need to ask him a
Speaker 1: why why he wants to do it. Is it specifically
Speaker 1: this thing that he wants to do, or is he
Speaker 1: a bit like bored just wants to try something new,
Speaker 1: So figure out why. But there are things So I
Speaker 1: knew a couple, for example, that they weren't happy to
Speaker 1: go and have a threesome, but they agreed to do
Speaker 1: different things like it go to a sex club.
Speaker 2: So they went and had sex at a sex.
Speaker 1: Club in front of strangers, but no one else joined in,
Speaker 1: no one touched them, they couldn't see the people. But
Speaker 1: it was just enough to do something new, to try
Speaker 1: something different, put some excitement back in, and then they
Speaker 1: just get got on with their life.
Speaker 2: It's like nothing happened.
Speaker 1: But I think the key with that is that both
Speaker 1: of them were willing participants in it. And the thing
Speaker 1: that worries me about this question is like, I'm not
Speaker 1: against reasons, go for it. Whatever makes you happy, so
Speaker 1: long as you're both consentually wanting that in near relationship.
Speaker 1: What worries me about this question is the dropping of
Speaker 1: standards in order to try and keep someone. So I'm
Speaker 1: all for what you just said, Britt, I think, like,
Speaker 1: really experiment, try different things. You might find something that
Speaker 1: you didn't know that you like as well. But I
Speaker 1: do think that opening yourself up to an open relationship,
Speaker 1: which is essentially what this will become like, that's not
Speaker 1: for everyone, and you know whether or not you're okay
Speaker 1: with that.
Speaker 2: He hasn't said that he's gonna leave her.
Speaker 1: She just said I'm worried that he will, so she's
Speaker 1: maybe you're insecure for other reasons in the relationship. Maybe
Speaker 1: he made you feel shitty for other reasons, or there's
Speaker 1: been trust issues or whatever. Maybe you'll say no and
Speaker 1: he'll be completely okay with that.
Speaker 2: You're not gonna know until you do it.
Speaker 1: But if it isn't an issue or an area of contention,
Speaker 1: look at other things that might work. It might even
Speaker 1: be as simple as just watching threesome pawn together. Something
Speaker 1: like that just something. I think you just need to
Speaker 1: chat it out. But like Laura said, and I cannot
Speaker 1: agree enough, if he makes you feel like he's gonna
Speaker 1: leave you because of this, then you should be the
Speaker 1: one that leaves him. It's as simple as that, you
Speaker 1: don't want to do something, and in no relationship, long term,
Speaker 1: newly dating, one night stands, anything, do you ever have
Speaker 1: to do something that you don't want to do. It's
Speaker 1: it's as simple as that, don't be embarrassed to say no,
Speaker 1: don't be pressured into saying yes, and don't feel bad
Speaker 1: to say no. I think that sometimes there's like a
Speaker 1: bit of a bad rap like people, especially when people
Speaker 1: have been cheated on before, they kind of think like
Speaker 1: all guys can all guys are cheaters. All guys want
Speaker 1: this adventurous kind of like experimenting or open relationships if
Speaker 1: they can have it. They don't like there are so
Speaker 1: many guys out there that are very happy in monogamous
Speaker 1: relationships that aren't going to, you know, make you feel
Speaker 1: insecure that if you don't satisfy them and open yourself
Speaker 1: up to other people, that they're going to leave you.
Speaker 1: This is not like this guy is not the only
Speaker 1: guy for you and if you guys are so misaligned
Speaker 1: on something that's very fundamental to your relationship, he's not
Speaker 1: your penguin.
Speaker 2: No, I agree there, you guy. I love it when
Speaker 2: we agree. Well, that was a really good range of question.
Speaker 1: Snart Actually, like some of them are quite deep and serious,
Speaker 1: and some of them were just like a lull fest.
Speaker 1: Who would have thought that we actually go through them
Speaker 1: and hand choose them to make sure that there's diversity
Speaker 1: and difference.
Speaker 2: Mate, get off your high horse. I do that every week,
Speaker 2: all right.
Speaker 1: Break goes through them and I'm just like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: those on sound good.
Speaker 2: Perfect, Let's go with it.
Speaker 1: Guys, thanks for tuning in. It was short and shut.
Speaker 1: We've loved having you today. If you haven't already joined
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Speaker 1: you want to on there. We don't really moderate it.
Speaker 1: We just let you guys run free in the forest.
Speaker 1: I do want to make one comment to I get
Speaker 1: it a few times in the DMS, but I did
Speaker 1: get one today that made me really want to reiterate.
Speaker 2: This to you. Guys.
Speaker 1: Somebody started their ask guncut with please please, please please
Speaker 1: please keep this anonymous.
Speaker 2: It's so important you keep this anonymous. Guys.
Speaker 1: We will never ever ever say anyone's name or tell
Speaker 1: anyone a story. To be honest, Laura doesn't know half
Speaker 1: of these, she doesn't see them. I copy and paste it.
Speaker 1: I don't even screenshot it. I don't even look at
Speaker 1: your profiles half the time because I don't want to
Speaker 1: know who's behind it. We were all one big family.
Speaker 1: I don't want to see and delve into your life
Speaker 1: like that. We just want to help you as an individual.
Speaker 1: But you will always and I promise you we will
Speaker 1: always always be kept anonymous. So I just really want
Speaker 1: to stress that to you. And I did have one
Speaker 1: other thing I wanted to say, Wow, while you're on
Speaker 1: a roll, Brittany, keep it going. I just couldn't stop laughing.
Speaker 1: And I'm just so gobsmacked at how many people don't
Speaker 1: know how many holes a woman has. We put the
Speaker 1: bole on Instagram, Laura and put the bole up and
Speaker 1: it was just gobsmaking. I don't even have words. The
Speaker 1: thing was like, we didn't even plan for that section
Speaker 1: of the last episode. That wasn't even a conversation we
Speaker 1: had had prior. He just came up. And then Matt
Speaker 1: coming onto the podcast was totally rogue as well. We'd
Speaker 1: not planned it. He was just conveniently in the other room.
Speaker 1: He was conveniently listening at the door with the glass.
Speaker 2: He really was.
Speaker 1: And then the craziest thing is that I am. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm surprised, but I'm also not surprised at all. I
Speaker 1: received hundreds of messages from people whose partners do not
Speaker 1: know how many holes the female and Natoby has between
Speaker 1: their legs, and that is crazy and hilarious. But also
Speaker 1: the number of women that didn't know how many holes
Speaker 1: they had. There were loads of women that wrote in
Speaker 1: just saying, oh, I'm gonna be honest, I thought we
Speaker 1: had to and.
Speaker 2: I'm like, where have you been all your life? Under
Speaker 2: a row?
Speaker 1: One woman who was actually so fucking funny, she wrote
Speaker 1: in saying that it was only when she gave birth
Speaker 1: that she realized that we had two holes, because she
Speaker 1: could still pee when she was ten centimeters dilated. I
Speaker 1: was like, that is crazy, wild times to learn new
Speaker 1: things about your body. So guys, If you have another
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