WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Help my boyfriend wants to have a threesome 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:23.279 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:26.200 on Cut. This is our very special episode. This is 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:30.080 Usked Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:31.240 It could be commedia. 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:35.559 We actually haven't had one comedia question come in. We 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:38.199 never have, guys, but what would they never have? 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:40.599 They are just so you know the person who you're 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:43.680 trusting to give answers to. Britt just walked in. We're 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:46.120 recording off a little side table in my bedroom today 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:47.839 and Britt will here we go. 0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:49.000 Britt walked in. 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:52.040 And she squirted something into her hands, thinking that it 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:54.000 was sanitizer. 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:56.320 No, it was hair oil. 0:00:56.640 --> 0:01:00.520 So the funniest thing is we recorded two days ago 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.200 for the other episode and I did exactly the same thing. 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:05.160 I'm sitting there talking to her and making eye contact 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:07.319 and I'm squating this oil into my hands and I'm like, 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:09.440 why is it this Saniti was rubbing in. The dumber 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:10.840 thing was that I was watching her do it, and 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:12.240 I was like, why the fuck is she putting so 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:13.600 much hair oil in her hands. 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:17.720 Then I come in today and walk up do the 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:18.039 same thing. 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.040 I'm really serious talking about the topic and I start 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:21.280 squaweding it in my hand again. 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:23.440 And mind you, this is oil. This doesn't come off. 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:27.120 My hands are like slippery McGee, slippery McGhee, like sliding 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:28.760 into those dm slippery McGee. 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.200 All right, shall we just get into it? 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:32.840 Well, I do want to touch on something before we 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:35.080 jump into today's episode. Oh you're gonna ask me what 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:38.560 it is. You've taken a very serious turn. I'm concerned. Well, yes, 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:39.800 I don't know how I feel about it. 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:41.840 Yeah. You may or may not have heard. 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:45.800 That Harry and Francesca from Too Hot to Handle have 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:50.840 publicly broken up. Oh look, it was a sinking ship, 0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:51.480 wasn't it. 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:53.120 So have you seen it? 0:01:53.160 --> 0:01:56.240 Harry put a big story out on his Instagram and 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:58.600 Francesca put a whole video up on her YouTube channel. 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:00.360 Well I haven't seen that one. There you go, there's 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.880 the real meaty one. Okay, So what was Francesca's saying. Well, 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:06.280 Francesca's was very, very distracting because she obviously recorded about 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:08.920 seven hundred times then stitched it together, so every second 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:11.920 frame it was like when somebody stitched it and it's like, 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:15.160 it's not this continuous conversation, it's guilty. It was so 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:19.200 distracting to watch, but basically she was saying that Harry 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:20.880 wasn't into it the way that she thought he was. 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:23.440 He just he was the one that wanted out. Really, 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:25.720 I mean, I'm paraphrasing. I could be totally making it up. 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:27.880 I watched it like eleven PM. But from what I 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:32.079 have taken from the situation, it was more Harry's choice 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:35.120 and Harry's doing than Francesca's. Yeah, Harry came out and 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:39.000 said on his own Instagram that it was all him 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:41.800 and he didn't feel it with her anymore and it 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:44.519 wasn't enough and he just fell out of love, which 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:51.519 I what, I haven't even got to the funny buy yet. 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:54.200 It's just so ridiculous. I fell out of love. 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.200 I mean I only proposed to her with a lollipop 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:58.799 ring two months ago, but I already fell out of love. 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:01.160 Times have been tough. It's a long someone else on 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.280 the show and her friend for the entire time. You know, 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:05.360 I got my five million followers and it's you know, 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:06.360 now I'm not in love anymore. 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:06.959 I've got to leave. 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:09.840 But the funny thing is, well, I mean what I 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:13.880 think is funny is she's so hot, like she's so beautiful. 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:15.120 I don't know what she's like as a person. 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:19.280 And I feel like the old Harrie at the beginning 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:21.840 was like counting his lucky stars and being like, I'll 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:23.880 never move someone like this again. And now he's like mah, 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:26.240 thank you next, Like it's just he just feels nothing, 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:28.600 you know. Yeah, But as we all know, like hotness 0:03:28.680 --> 0:03:32.080 is not indicative of how good somebody is in a relationships, 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.320 Like if they're not a nice person, if they're not 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:37.680 like hot on the inside, then it doesn't amount for anything. 0:03:38.040 --> 0:03:40.520 I completely agree, And I also it does make me 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:44.640 wonder if it was ever real. Maybe not intentionally from 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:47.960 Francesca's side, but one of them was writing that relationship 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:52.520 for publicity. Yeah, And I mean if they've come out 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:55.040 and said that Harry's ended it and she's really upset 0:03:55.040 --> 0:03:56.680 by it, maybe she was the one that actually was 0:03:56.720 --> 0:03:58.840 really invested because she was super invested in the show. 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.160 I'm very devastated for them, truly. 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:05.280 Well you're not my heart's bleeding, give us reality TV 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:06.440 couple's a bad rap. 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:06.800 Hey. 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:08.600 I do want to say one thing, though there's been 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:12.240 this there's this constant rumor that circulates after every single 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:15.400 season of Bachelor, and it is that there is a 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:17.720 contract and that the couple who wins has to stay 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:20.400 together for minimum three months or a year or whatever 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:24.160 it is. The sources and the sighting of how many 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:26.760 months in the contract seems to change from source to sauce. 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:31.960 But there is this mythical contract that exists. Guys, I 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:34.920 can one hundred percent hand on my heart, swear on 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:39.239 my life. There is absolutely no contract. Nobody is being 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:42.360 held to say that they're together when they're not. The 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:45.840 only reason why I think sometimes couples take a bit 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:47.800 longer to actually come out and say that they're broken 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:50.239 up than what they really have is because they're actually 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:52.080 trying to make it work. They actually really want to 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:54.800 be together, or they're seeing if they can make it work, 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:57.640 and they don't want to publicly say, oh, we're broken up, 0:04:57.680 --> 0:04:59.840 Oh we're back together, oh we're broken up, because as 0:04:59.839 --> 0:05:02.920 you and I and brit and everyone knows, break ups 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:05.760 are messy and they're hard, and sometimes navigating them in 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:09.240 the public eye when you are not somebody who's been 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:12.279 equipped to kind of be thrown into that limelight, that 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:15.160 shit's hard. Well. The other thing is, yeah, I completely 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:18.000 can concur with Laura. There is no contract, even when 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:19.880 you enter it at the beginning. There's nothing that says 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:22.080 if you win, you have to stay together, even for 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.120 a week. I mean it did say that one contract 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:25.760 that said I'd have to have at least two kids 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:29.440 with the guy ands and then makes money. But fuck, like, yeah, 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:30.960 you're in the home street last year. 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:32.760 It's one more, one more kid out and then I'm 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:33.280 out of here. 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:35.720 But no, there's no contract. And I think the other 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:37.880 thing is, yes, they want to give it a go, 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:40.400 and if it's not working and they do want to 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:45.760 break up, it's a really, really daunting time to publicly 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:48.839 announce you've broken up. They might not be ready because 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:50.960 once you announce it. 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:52.440 It's insane. The media all over you. 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:55.719 Every second article is there, the paparazzi are following you, 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:57.360 like they just they're just not ready for it. So 0:05:57.400 --> 0:06:00.120 sometimes I think that they're like, Okay, this doesn't work, 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:02.600 Let's just ride it for a little bit longer until 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:05.320 emotionally we can deal with publicly saying it's over. 0:06:05.520 --> 0:06:07.840 Totally. I mean, I think you totally just nailed it. 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:11.039 Like it's sometimes you're not emotionally ready to deal with 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:14.200 a breakup, like in and of itself, let alone deal 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:17.640 with the publicity storm that kind of follows that, And 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:19.479 I hate it when there's this conversation which. 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:21.520 Is like, just admit it, are you broken up? You're 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:22.160 still together? 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.080 And it's like, well, maybe they are, but they're just 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:25.960 trying to figure out their lives right now and they're 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:26.640 just trying to cope. 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:29.159 Yeah, because they're real people too. I'm a real human, 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:32.760 Laura's real human. Everyone in reality TV are real humans. 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:36.320 Anyway, enough reality TV chitter chatter, guys. As you know 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:38.800 this episode it is our quick it is our down 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:41.400 and dirty EP where we answer all your questions. Thank 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:43.600 you to every single person who has written in questions. 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:48.279 We have chosen a three treh for today. That's Italian. 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:52.680 I don't even know if it is actually yeah, thats close. 0:06:53.360 --> 0:06:53.680 Thank you. 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:59.080 Anyway, we have picked three and I am gonna kick 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:01.560 it off. So I love that you mixing it up 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:03.920 a little bit. I never I never kicked this shit off. 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:06.680 I'm here for it, all right. So I've recently found 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:09.600 out that my housemate, one of my best friends, is 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:12.400 chatting up one of my exes. This may seem okay 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:15.400 to some people, but to me, this is ultimately breaking 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:19.440 girl code. Here isn't just an ex. I was infatuated 0:07:19.480 --> 0:07:21.400 with this guy, and I loved him to the point 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:23.400 that it took me a very, very long time to 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:25.960 move on from him. She was there, She was my 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.800 shoulder to cry on. She witnessed all the pain and 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:31.280 all the hurt that he caused me. I approached them, 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:34.000 both her in person and him over message, to tell 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:36.320 them that I'm really not very comfortable with it, because 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:38.280 it really does make me feel sick to the stomach. 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:39.760 Am I overreacting? 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:41.880 How do I best tell them that this is wrong, 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:45.160 even though they seem to not understand why I'm upset 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:48.160 by this. I want to straight up say that I'm 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.600 not on board with this and that it is breaking 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:54.120 the girl code big time. I think there's a few 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:56.680 little indications here that it's wrong. The fact that she's 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:59.440 told her friend how hurt she was and how in 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:02.840 love she was, and basically that this really really tore 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:04.840 her apart and she's not okay with it, and then 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:06.680 her friend is still gone and sort of jumped on 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:10.800 that bandwagon. I think it's really deceitful and quite hurtful. 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:14.680 There are plenty of fish in the sea. Why do 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:17.040 you have to go to your best friend's ex that 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:20.080 tore her apart. I mean, I'm and this is gonna 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:23.640 be different for everyone. This is definitely an individual opinion. 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:26.960 It definitely depends on your circumstances and your friendship and 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:29.560 all of that. So we can only comment on this 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:32.280 as an outsider from what you've written. And I'm going 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:34.320 to say, I don't think it's right. This has happened 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:34.880 to me before. 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:37.240 Morally it's wrong. 0:08:37.520 --> 0:08:41.480 Technically, they're not doing anything wrong because they're not together. 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:44.320 It's just been a bit of a shitty friend. If 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:47.280 it were to take all emotion out of this and 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:52.400 look at this like completely, completely objectively, there isn't anything 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:55.080 wrong with this situation. They are grown adults. They're allowed 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.640 to make those choices, and and you know what, they're 0:08:57.679 --> 0:08:59.720 not in the wrong by doing that. Okay, now put 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:02.439 them back in there. Because we're people and we have feelings, 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:05.240 and we have to care and nurture the relationships that 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:08.719 we have around us. The fact that she is prioritizing 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:12.960 her relationship with this guy over your friendship is a 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:16.360 clear indication of where your friendship lies in her eyes. 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:18.160 You may think that she's your best friend and you 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.360 may not treat her that way, but that doesn't mean 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:23.320 that she's going to bestow the same the same kindness 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:26.080 to you, which obviously she's not. And the really hard 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:28.080 thing about this situation is you say that you don't 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.200 want to break the friendship and you don't want to 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:33.760 be in a situation where you can't, you know, continue 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:37.160 to be best friends. If she does end up dating 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.160 him and that causes you a lot of hurt, it 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.400 is going to create a situation where you probably can't 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:44.360 continue to be best friends because you have to put 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:46.880 your own heart and your own mental health first. And 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:50.439 if hanging out with your best friend's boyfriend who's your 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:53.079 ex makes you sad, then you're not going to be 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.920 able to spend time together. On the other side of this, 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:59.120 maybe he is her penguin, maybe they are going to 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:02.360 spend the rest of their life together, but that situation 0:10:02.559 --> 0:10:04.680 that might work out great for them, but it's gonna 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.040 have the same impact on your friendship. Like she's not 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.120 prioritizing your friendship, and that is a clear indication of 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:12.320 where you stand. I think, yeah, I completely agree, and 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:15.320 I wanted to add on to the back end of that, 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:16.040 but you did. 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:16.360 It at the end. 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:19.880 Anyway, This is different if if she just wants took 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:22.320 up with him, and she knows that they've got nothing 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:24.120 in common, she doesn't even want to date him, it's 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:27.640 not going to go anywhere. That's really really really low 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:31.439 and really really shit and really uncalled for. If and 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:35.760 this does happen, if they're meant to be together and 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:38.640 they are just soul mates and they're penguins and they 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:41.040 were literally destined to meet this way, maybe they were 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:45.439 meant to meet through you, that sucks balls, but good 0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:47.480 for them. If that's their path and that's the way 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:49.920 they got there. It's really really sucky for you, But 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:51.520 you've got to let that happen, and you will have 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:54.360 to extract yourself from the situation unless you can find 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.200 it in you to get over it completely and move 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:59.640 on and not let it affect you. But your mental 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.360 health comes first. I don't think i'd be able to 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.240 sit there and look at my ex that I loved 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:05.880 forever with my best friend. 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:08.000 It's messed up. But I know there are couples that 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:09.720 do that. There are loads of couples. 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:11.720 I think just to try and like look at this 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:14.280 as well from a different perspective instead of just being 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:16.720 like your friends in the wrong and you can't be 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:19.520 friends anymore. Something to keep in mind as well, is 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:22.760 are you over him? Like before they started hooking up, 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:24.760 would you have said that you're over him? And is 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:27.319 your ego coming into play here? Because we don't have 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:30.840 control over other people, We don't have ownership over other people, 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:33.439 and so if there is an ego element to this, 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:36.400 which there probably is, then I think that their calls 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:38.760 for you to kind of step away from that a 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.880 little bit and allow somebody else to be happy. 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:43.319 Like that's really important too. 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:46.040 If it's too fresh because it's too soon and you 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:48.680 are genuinely hurt by it, that's a different story. But 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:51.280 if this happened, you broke up several years ago, you've 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:54.000 dated other people, you've had time to move on, and 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:56.200 it's just an ego thing, then I think that you 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:58.439 don't really have a right to be as angry as 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:02.160 what you are. Secondly, is that time heals everything. If 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:05.040 your friendship is super important to you and they do 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:08.480 end up start dating, you will not have these feelings 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.240 for him forever. You will get over it. It's going 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:13.679 to take a lot of working through, but there is 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:16.440 a possibility that you can maintain a friendship if they 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:18.920 decide to date. You just have to put some parameters 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:22.000 in place to safeguard you. And one of those might 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:23.800 be that you can't live together because it's going to 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:26.880 be very difficult having your ex boyfriend and come over 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:28.640 to your house. That's going to keep bringing it into 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.160 your face. But I think there are ways around this 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:35.840 situation where you don't have to constantly be hurt by it. Yeah, Okay, 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:37.400 if you want to have sex with any of my 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:41.000 ex boyfriends, you're completely welcome to them. Brittany, all stories 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:42.760 you told me about your exes, I'm not going near 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:45.559 any of them with a ten football. I will free 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:48.360 to good home. I think most of them are still single. 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:49.120 Thank you. 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:51.920 Next okay, question number two. 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:53.679 Okay, hi ladies. 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:56.560 My partner and I went out for a dinner date tonight. 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:58.920 We both had a really good night. We came home 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:01.000 and my partner went to hang out in his man cave. 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:03.679 He does this every night. So while I'm in the 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:06.680 lounge room watching TV, he sends me a cock video 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:10.120 jerking off in the clothes he's literally just worn to 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:12.880 our dinner. So I go downstairs thinking it was a 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.360 bit of an invite and I'm gonna get lucky when 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:15.920 I get there. 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:18.520 He says that he finished himself off an hour ago. 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:21.520 I felt really awkward thinking that while hanging out by myself, 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:24.680 he was jerking off down here by himself. I literally 0:13:24.760 --> 0:13:27.120 ran back upstairs. Is it wrong of me to feel 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.079 that this is really awkward and I don't feel great 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:31.839 about the situation. No, it's not weird for you to 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:34.880 feel that that's awkward. No, because this is weird, so weird. 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:40.680 This is like straight up legit weird. Okay, But firstly, 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:45.040 before the cock video and everything, like, let's just wind 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:47.640 it back a second. You've just gone up for a 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.400 really cute dake together, You've just spent some quality time together. 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:51.640 Why are you coming home? 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:53.640 And the first thing that he does is to go 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:57.040 and isolate himself from you, Like that is your opportunity 0:13:57.120 --> 0:13:59.959 to go to the bedroom to get on to pank attack. 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:03.000 You're missing an opportunity to spend more time together. And 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:05.640 I think if he does this every single night, the 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:08.280 issue isn't so much that he's masturbating on his own. 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.360 That's a whole, entirely different issue. 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.240 The issue is is why is he spending that time 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:15.200 to be away from you? Why can't you be a 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:17.920 part of that time? Well, why isn't he prioritizing sex 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.880 with you over winking himself off? There's lots of questions. 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:24.520 The way I see this is like you just said, 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:26.920 people masturbate. If he wants to masturbate on his own, 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:31.040 that's fine, but the fact that it was right after 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:33.880 you'd been out. He wants you to know it's live 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:38.360 because the same clothes. But to me, if someone sent 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:41.040 a video like that in that situation, that's hands down 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:44.400 and invite, that's come down. I just think your boyfriend's lazy. 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:47.120 Like I actually think he's lazy. I think there's more 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:48.880 to it. I don't think that's laziness. Well, I mean 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:50.560 maybe there are other layers to it. But I think 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:53.280 that we all know it's easier to just go masturbate, 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:55.840 especially for a guy. It's easier to masturbate. There's less effort, 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.720 there's less time, you get straight to the end goal. Like, 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:00.920 I think that there's a level of that comes into 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:04.440 play here. I personally would have had a different reaction. 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:06.880 I wouldn't have run away. I think I would have 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:09.640 just said WTAF what the actual. 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:11.640 Fuck and then run away. No, I just would have 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:13.400 called him on it. I would be like, babe, fu, 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:14.720 what what was that? 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:17.720 If you're entitled to say that, I don't think you 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:19.920 need to run away and feel awkward and embarrassed. There 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:23.120 is absolutely absolutely cause here to sit down and have 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:27.280 a conversation and say this kind of was surprising behavior 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:29.800 to me. I would have thought that we were going 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:31.960 to have sex tonight and that that was an opportunity 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.160 for us to spend time together, and instead you went 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:37.000 and masturbated without me. Like I think also there's a 0:15:37.000 --> 0:15:39.200 little bit of rejection loaded into that as well, because 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:42.560 if you get did you get loaded into that? Because 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.200 I was staring at you blankly, Actually that went over 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:47.560 my head, because if if you have just gone on 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:49.640 a beautiful date together and then instead of going home 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:53.000 and having sex together, he's chosen to go off and 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:55.480 do it on his own, there is rejection that kind 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:57.920 of ties into that. And I think that this really 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:02.160 warrants a serious conversation saying this hurts your feelings and 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:04.880 you want to be included in this. All She's actually 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:07.600 asked us, is it okay to feel weird and like, yes, 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:09.560 that is okay, but I do think you need to 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:14.200 take another step into this situation and figure out what 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:15.400 was behind it. 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:16.240 It might be innocent. 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:18.520 He might literally say, Babe, I was just lazy, I 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:21.280 was just a whim whatever, but there might be more 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:22.560 to it, and I think you need to find out 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:23.680 and you need to tell him how it made you 0:16:23.680 --> 0:16:25.480 feel one hundred percent. You need to be like, look, 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:28.240 I it did make me feel really weird because I 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:30.760 thought it was an invite, like we just had this 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:33.000 amazing dinner and then I come down for you to 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:34.400 sort of throw it in my face and be like, 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:36.840 oh my mum, long done, like you're not needed type thing. 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.680 So definitely have the conversation because, especially if this is 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:42.560 not the first time, we don't know, but if this 0:16:42.600 --> 0:16:45.200 is a recurring theme, you need to address it stat 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.800 or it's going to cause resentment in your relationship. I 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:50.320 also don't want you to think that when we say 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:52.080 like that this is a bit weird and a bit strange, 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:55.760 that like there's judgment loaded into this. People masturbate That 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:58.680 is a very normal thing. Like yeah, no, judgment, absolutely not. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:01.280 And guys will masturbate when their girlfriends are home just 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.640 because they can't be bothered to have sex, Like girls 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:05.560 will masturbate when their partners are home because they can't 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:08.280 be bothered to have sex. I mean, it's very normal, 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:11.320 it's very human. We all do it and it feels great. 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:13.560 I think the issue is here is that there is 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:15.720 a part of this where you feel left out. And 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:18.640 I think that after a date night, it's a really 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:21.600 special time to be able to continue to spend time together. 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.040 You don't have to come home and go your separate ways. 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:26.200 And so I think that there's a conversation about that, 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:29.440 and then about the masturbating. But don't think that we're 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:34.200 saying that masturbating is weird. Also, maybe maybe he that's 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:36.080 his sense of humor. Maybe he just thought it was funny. 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.040 Maybe he's just like, I'll just send my girl friend 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:39.720 a dick pic. That might have just been what it was. 0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:42.520 Maybe not that. Maybe there's not that much to it. 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:45.520 You know, we could all be overthinking it because every 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:47.960 checker wants a dick pic. That's exactly what we've. 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:50.080 During date night. From your long term. 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:55.520 But romance, ah, the romance is a lave and well, alrighty, well, 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:59.280 question number three. That was such a weird question to answer. 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:01.600