WEBVTT - The BEST Way To End A Conversation 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.080 Flex and frooms on Kada. 0:00:03.400 --> 0:00:06.240 This is Lexian Frminda and today on the podcast, I 0:00:06.360 --> 0:00:09.040 am sharing a very special recipe that my housemate made 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:11.399 last week. I know that sounds kind of boring, but 0:00:11.520 --> 0:00:15.440 it's not. Ge it up a little bit, that's what 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:18.040 I'm not meant to say that I'm boring or annoying anymore. 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:22.960 But it's from a two guys called Fuck. It doesn't 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:25.840 matter because it's about the EA. Yeah, it's the YA. 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:28.080 I'm friends with them, but I always forget their name. 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:28.920 You can't. 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:35.320 It's giving. That's one thing I will never admit. Continue. 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:38.680 I'm also going to talk about the worst Antarctic exploration ever. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.400 It's gnarly and I, like I'm an a K. Holler, 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:42.559 can't stop thinking about it. 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:44.680 One of those stories just got worse and worse and 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:46.400 worse in the best way possibly. You think it's gonna 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:48.479 get better, No, it never does. It never does. And 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:52.000 ending on what feels like a punny way to go 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.400 about it, the best way to end a conversation. I 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:59.360 think I am proficient in doing so, you know, just 0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:01.440 like dialing it down in a way that makes everybody 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:02.240 feel really comfortable. 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:04.800 It's a gift also because I don't think this is 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:09.319 in the podcast. I learned on the weekend Queen's Jubilee 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.520 that if she wants to end the conversation, she moves 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:14.360 her bag from one hand to the other one behind 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:18.440 her back. Yes, yeah, yes, in mine, yes, and you 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:20.080 are a queen, so let's end it there. 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:23.559 This is flex and frooms on Kita. 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:27.280 Something that everybody on the internet talks about non stop 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:31.400 are red flags. Everybody's got raid flags about dating, like 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:35.520 maybe he's a mama's boy, Maybe she always expects you 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:40.160 to pay for the bill, Maybe he likes girls bikini photos. 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:46.120 Maybe she is mean to her parents. I say the 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:48.520 fourth one is probably one of the worst. Nothing more 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:52.920 uncomfortable than somebody having an absolute, absolute bitch at their parents. 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:56.920 Where is the decorum? Literally, you're making me feel awkward anyway. 0:01:57.040 --> 0:02:00.600 Red flags are very obvious. But something that I learned 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:05.080 about on TikTok this week was beige flags. Yeah nice, 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:07.640 you say that. You've heard this video. I'm just gonna 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:11.040 play with everyone here. It's from a creator called It's Cato. 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:13.520 She is an Australian person. 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:15.720 There's a lot of dating app red flags. Doing the 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:18.120 rounds again at the moment, But I wanted to address 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.240 something that I think is a little bit more prevalent 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:26.040 that I have coined beige flags signs you're probably very boring. 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:30.119 First up is having an opinion on coriander, whether pineapple 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:33.919 belongs on pizza or sauce, or chocolate. 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:34.760 Belongs in the fridge or cupboard. 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:39.320 It's it's not important, no one cares. Second is any 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:41.640 reference to extremely mainstream sitcoms. 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:44.400 If you're looking for the pam. 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:46.880 To your gym, I just I'm just going to assume 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:51.000 you have no deeper meaning, like reference the Mighty Boosh. 0:02:51.040 --> 0:02:51.680 You'll get out, you know. 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:55.600 The next one is using puppies to hide your lack 0:02:55.639 --> 0:03:00.320 of personality. It's rude and look, I only want a dog. 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:02.720 I don't even want you in that case, so just 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:06.400 jog on using. 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:09.720 The thing about red flags is no matter who you are, 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:12.040 you're going to have a couple. That's just how the 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:17.480 cookie crumbles. Beige flags, though, probably just as damaging. Harder 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:20.600 to figure out. Yeah, because it's not that people don't 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:24.640 have personalities. I do think it's a fundamental issue with 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:28.000 the fact that men aren't really like socialized on how 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:32.160 to present themselves. Online. They're just not given the handbook. 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:36.200 They're not socialized to worry about presenting themselves to anyone 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:40.400 or adding context around themselves. Absolutely, Internet, because like beige 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:46.680 flags for women are like spicy marks, right, because anytime, 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:49.360 and there's a lot of research around this, when women 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:53.480 show their personalities context behind their personalities, it seemed to 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:57.080 be really abrasive to a lot of men. So like, 0:03:57.440 --> 0:03:59.880 I can understand why women goes on an app and 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:04.560 dials it down right, But men, I don't think there 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:06.800 are very many contexts in life where they have to 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:10.520 present themselves as anything but just a very particular archetype 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:13.240 of whatever demography they're trying to fit into. So like 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:16.560 you're a music head, okay, great, you do music head things, 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:19.840 or like you like movies and so you name a couple. 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:23.280 Christopher Nolan wants I love the American Psycho. They all 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:24.520 say I love dark humor. 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:29.520 Well, I think some men have it really bound. What 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:33.000 about the men that like fishing? Yeah, they have endured 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:36.240 years and years of scrutiny and being made the butt 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:38.200 of the joke. What if you just really loved phishing 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:45.560 killing animals? You're being targeted on ads on comedians pages. 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:50.039 It's a really hell out there for the men. Yep, 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:54.719 personal beij flag is that I have. I definitely relate. 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:58.360 I definitely relate to the sitcoms. Don't quote a sitcom 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.640 to me. If you watch Friends Growing, I'm going to 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:03.840 think you're not cool. I agree with her. If you 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:07.800 quote Mighty Boosh even that's kind of like I The 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:11.120 thing about TV shows that I find is, what is 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.720 the likelihood of me knowing the exact episode that you're 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:16.080 referencing for us have an inside joke. It's very slim. 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:18.400 You are like jumping over a massive cliff thinking you're 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:20.919 going to find the other side, and you don't. You 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:22.600 hate it when you're like, oh, you actually don't know 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:26.320 that one dead end conversation over pick it right up. 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:28.720 You're making it hard on yourself. So just stick to 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.720 not talking about TV shows. That's my opinion. 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:34.279 Do you know what I think is very ironic. I 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.280 think the average person and not see you. 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:38.280 I was like, oh, I. 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:40.840 See you getting tense. I think the average person is 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:45.559 very critical about dating app profiles and their profiles also suck, 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.640 Like I don't. I've not seen enough good profiles out 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:52.440 there for everyone to be so critical about the red flags, 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:55.120 the beag flags, the whatever flags. I think that if 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:59.839 everybody took their profiles fifteen percent more seriously, the lance 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:02.160 will change for the better. I think a lot of 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:05.000 people are stuck between the insecurity about having to work 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:08.800 for romance versus the reality them wanting to find love 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:13.480 embarrassing to so when they all start mimicking the tomato 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:18.360 sauce fridge cupboard thing, the Corey under pizza thing, pineapple 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:21.080 pizza thing, that is them saying I'm. 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:21.400 Just gonna do it. 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:25.159 Everybody else does, so it's less embarrassing because I'm with 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:29.880 the norm, like I'm doing what the populace does, which 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:30.880 is not helping anyone. 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:34.720 That is such a great point, and I completely agree Tea. 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:37.800 You're listening to flex and Frooms on kit. 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.800 I'm really struggling to breathe. Yeah, you said it was 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:42.320 long COVID, though I don't know if it's long COVID 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:45.000 or if I'm just like have I'm not fit anymore. 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:51.039 It could be that I don't know what you like. 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:55.360 Panting just in conversation doesn't feel like it a simply 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:59.760 I'm unfit thing that feels like respiratory it was giving. 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:03.240 You know, she's been in bread. 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:09.800 Yeah, okay, a lot of our rats upond rats giving 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:12.720 me this rat like appearance and general behavior. 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:17.680 Anyway, No one talk about food, one of my favorite topics. 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:21.400 My housemate Izzy is an incredible cook. She loves to cook. 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:24.880 She's very domineering in the kitchen. She will admit the fault. 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.120 She will admit the fault because I think it's a fault. 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:28.840 The kitchen is meant to be a fun, happy place, 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:30.440 isn't it. I'm not sure. 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:32.880 I would love for someone just be dominating the kitchen, 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:34.280 cook the food, make the food, bring the food. 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:34.720 Fine. 0:07:35.120 --> 0:07:36.760 Yeah, actually yeah, I like it too. 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:40.040 Yeah. If it's a collaborative effort, then sure, be nice 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:42.559 about it. But every good team has a leader. 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:43.440 Yeah. 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:43.960 Facts. 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:48.680 Well, last night she made me the most delicious moossaka. 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:51.000 Do you know what a moosaka is? I saw it 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.440 on your story and I still don't know. So basically, 0:07:53.480 --> 0:07:57.600 it's like a lasagna, but with beef mince and lamb 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:03.360 mince and eggplant tamato. Yum. It's so good. You would 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:06.440 all loved it. Yeah, no soggy rice, because I've come 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:08.280 in and made you food before, I've made you risotto, 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:13.880 made you lack ghul ash, dry chicken, Yeah, dried chicken 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:19.200 as well, chickney with the Ja sauce. But this one 0:08:19.240 --> 0:08:20.760 was special. I'll bring it in for you next time. 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:22.640 We'll make it again. But it was from a cookbook 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.640 called yah Ya's Kitchen. So yeah, our next door is 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:28.840 this book. It's by two Melbourne guys and basically their 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:32.720 whole story came about because a few years ago, and 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:35.360 this is a bit of a trigger warning, their mum 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:39.800 passed away. She was a victim of family violence. And 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:42.520 basically when they were kind of like in the months 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:45.120 and years since, the yah Yah they lived next to 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:48.680 would pass food over her fence to them and they'd 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:51.040 always put on their Instagram. They made an Instagram about it. 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:52.880 So then this was a really nice way of like 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:57.520 tying up that chapter. And the book is amazing. They 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:01.360 sent it to me and it's got all these credible recipes, 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:04.040 a lot of them are Greek from the community around them. 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:06.560 And yeah, last night he made me the mousaka. And 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:08.560 when I say this is the best muzaka I've ever had, 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:12.320 I'm not mincing words. Nice it was delicious pun into. 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:15.240 So recommend you go buy that book. Support these guys, 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:21.040 classic local boys. I love that iconic. Yeah, y'are next door. 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.000 It's a book, Check it out. I wish that there 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.520 was like a taste ometer that I could give people 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.320 my food. Why don't you make one? 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:29.000 Oh? 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.640 What can a million dollar idea? 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:34.800 This is flex and frooms on Kita. 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:39.000 This is a spooky, creepy, scary, gory story. I'm scared. 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:42.880 You're a spooky binch. Yeh, that's what you call yourself. Basically, 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:45.480 I want to tell you a true story that happened 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:49.480 at the start of the nineteen hundreds. Yes, so far before. 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:52.640 This show was incepted not long before, but a little 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:56.240 bit far before. Basically, it is the story of the 0:09:56.240 --> 0:10:00.560 most terrible polar exploration ever. So basic. This is a 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:05.040 real life story that happened to some Australian men that 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:08.080 went down and did one of the first explorations of 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:09.920 the South Pole. And I love that. 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:12.000 I tried to look at flags to Antarctica a couple 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:13.560 months ago. They're only nine seats. 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.360 Did you do it? It's a bit it's a bit 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:24.520 of a just got Greenland, Switzerland or something that's pretty cold. Yeah, 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:26.920 So basically I'm just going to read it to you. 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:31.199 Sit back and listen to the story. I'm ready. The 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:34.640 Far Eastern Party was a sledging component of the nineteen 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:40.680 eleven to nineteen fourteen Australasian Antarctic Expedition, which investigated the 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:45.400 previously unexplored coastal regions of Antarctica's west. Led by a 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:48.080 guy called Douglas Mowson, the party aimed to explore the 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:52.320 area far east of their main base, and accompanying him 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:56.040 were two other men. Basically they had to ski with 0:10:56.200 --> 0:11:00.720 dogs along glaciers to try and like territory, really map 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:03.280 out these areas that had not been explored before. Whoa 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:07.800 big job. Basically what happened was when they were at 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:12.160 the start of the journey, Ninnis, who's the last name 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.520 of one of the guys, and the sledge he was 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:17.679 walking with broke through a snow lid of a crevice 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:22.439 and were lost. Basically, his little sledge in him fell 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:26.280 down a crevice and was lost and they never found 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.760 him again. But they saw two of the dogs were 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:31.920 on one of the little shelves and they were like 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:34.840 they had died, so their friend had gone. There was 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:39.079 two men left. Next up This is when you're like, yo, okay, 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.880 tap out. Literally, but I couldn't go back. Why not? 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:45.040 Because they're too far. They were too far to go back. 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.720 He see one thing about me, I'm always quiit literally. 0:11:49.520 --> 0:11:53.280 So now their supplies were severely compromised, and Mowson mets 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:58.080 the two guys left. They did turn back west, but 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.439 gradually they ran out of food, so they had to 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:04.720 eat the dogs. Yeah, so I eat the dogs. And 0:12:04.760 --> 0:12:08.720 what happened next was a lesson for anybody here who's 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:12.800 thinking about eating dogs or bears or polar bears, and 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:15.120 that is to not eat their livers. So these men 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:18.320 had to eat these dogs. And obviously they went for 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:20.520 the liver because that's like a fatty, yummy part like 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:24.480 you've ever had, Like, yeah, duck parp fai liver, I 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:27.920 go to Hubert, absolutely delicious. They're eating it because it's 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:30.440 like nice and yummy. Turns out it has way too 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:34.880 much vitamin A, which makes you sick. So Mertz obviously 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:38.200 was a bit greedy, went for the liver and it 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:43.360 made him go like paranoid. Lost the plot. He's like 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.520 running around the tent, smashing the tent, and that night 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:48.720 he passed away at two am, like he like, you know, 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:56.040 really like sends you. So then mercy scientifical term. So 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:58.040 then it was just Mertz left still with me on 0:12:58.080 --> 0:13:00.640 the story. Yeah, but yeah, man left, he had to 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:02.800 go back. He finally got backward. By the time he 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:06.880 was back, it was so cold that like his skin 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:09.960 was falling off, like like it is crazy down there. 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:13.120 Basically he's five to live the tail. Yeah, it turned 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:15.360 out that he got so much information that it helped 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:18.600 them for years after to make about what cost Yeah, 0:13:18.960 --> 0:13:22.480 pts not down beer Marta. And this is also the 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:26.560 consequence of being the first being the taste maker. Yes, 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:28.200 it's like you gotta go through. 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:31.720 You got to pay that path so nicely that anybody 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:33.640 else who comes after you is like, now I know 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:34.360 what not to do. 0:13:34.640 --> 0:13:36.440 So that's the story. But how amazing. And then he 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:41.400 was knighted. He was given an oam. He couldn't pay me. 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:44.000 That was a lot. Thank you for sharing, no worries. 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:45.800 But see, it's incredible. Isn't it crazy to think there 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:48.199 was a time when we were still exploring parts of 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:50.040 the world. Well we're still doing it now. We don't 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:52.319 know what's in the ocean yeah, that's not really the 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:56.840 world in my opinion. What anyway, I digress, and it. 0:13:56.880 --> 0:14:00.040 Is flex and frooms on Kata as you know. So 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:02.600 it is Australia's home of hip hop and R and B, 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:04.839 but also just like Chitty Chatties with. 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:07.199 The girls us being the girls. 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.760 I since the world's opened up a little bit, I 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:12.480 hate that phrase. I wish we had another one to 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:13.080 whip out. 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:13.600 But whatever. 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:20.760 I've been noticing that my perhaps capacity is to socialize 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:23.280 has changed a little bit. I think I'm a lot 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:25.720 more open to like leaving the house and hanging out 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:27.280 with people, and I think that makes it sound like 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:29.480 I'm kind of some kind of introvert or like socially 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:32.160 anxious person. It's quite the opposite. It's when I get 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.239 into a space, everyone wants the flex. 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:35.160 Experience, so I really do. 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:37.240 I've been in events with you, you know, and it's 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:40.240 very tiring and you kind of like, I just want 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:44.280 to be not invisible, but just not on duty every 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:49.920 time I pull up to the function. But as you said, 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:53.000 while it might be irritating for me, I think it's 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:55.720 more irritating for the people I'm with who have to 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:59.080 kind of deal with me having to having to start 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:01.160 and finish a bunch of the these conversations in a 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:04.960 way that like is polite and kind or whatever. But 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:08.160 one of my best friends, Sally, complimented me the other 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.520 day on the fact that I do have an uncanny 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:15.200 ability to end a conversation nicely without the person knowing 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:18.240 that I'm trying to end the conversation. And it's very 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:21.600 true though, because you can't. You can't hit them with okay, yeah, 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:24.640 nice to you know, we're done. No, you have to 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:25.960 wean them off you. 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:28.760 How do you do it? It is but a skill. 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:30.520 So here's the thing. 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:35.440 I think the most conversations, everybody knows when it's done, 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:39.800 but nobody knows how to politely finish and say goodbye. 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:42.320 I think what people end up doing is giving too 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:44.680 much context as to why they can't be in this 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:48.120 conversation anymore, and it sets them up for failure. So 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:50.320 you might say like, oh, I need to go find 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:50.920 my friend. 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:51.600 Then you need to. 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:53.240 They'll be like, oh why, Like what, look is everything 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.200 okay with her? I was like, oh, yeah, I'm just 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:59.560 done here. So I do a few of the following things. 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:06.040 The first is when they trail off their sentence, nod, smile, and. 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:08.480 Say, well, it was so good to catch up with you. 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:11.640 I'm gonna see you later, but like give me a cuddle, 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:14.320 and then you do all the things that associate with 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:17.040 a goodbye greeting. But they feel comfortable with that and 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:19.360 you feel good to go. That is a perfect one, 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.520 but you have to be an op you have to 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:24.960 be an extrovert to do that one because it needs 0:16:25.000 --> 0:16:27.200 it's a very not a domineering way, but it's a 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.320 very like active way to end a conversation. 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:31.720 Do you realize you're outing yourself? 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:35.880 Oh, I'm happy people like people don't know Listen, Like 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:39.040 if everybody knew that I didn't want to be swarmed 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:41.240 all the time, they would end the conversation for me. 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:46.680 But I think most people under the umbrella of like, 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:49.840 well that's not me, right, like flex has the capacity 0:16:49.880 --> 0:16:53.240 for me, and like maybe yeah I do, but everybody. 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:55.560 If everybody thinks that, then everyone's like, but she has 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:58.400 time for this. Anyway, The next best thing to do 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:03.920 is the as they're trailing off in conversation, you start 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:05.120 a sentence. 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:07.800 You're like so, and you're like, oh, I gotta go 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:10.480 to the bathroom. Do you know what the bathroom is, 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:13.200 I got a pee. It just comes over you. Now 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:15.159 they're helping get to the bathroom and you just let it. 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.840 That's a that's a her one. I love that one. 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:19.840 That one's one of my favorites. I need to see that. 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:21.800 You know what we should do. We should do one 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:24.280 of those hidden camera things. That's where we go to 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:26.639 an event and we test out all those things, like 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:29.119 we go to like a launch like Mary Poppins the 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:30.960 other day when we went to that get a secret 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:33.639 camera show people, we literally that'd be the best one 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:35.800 going to Let's do it. It's a gift. 0:17:35.880 --> 0:17:38.359 That go to the bathroom one is fantastic though, because 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:40.560 I think that, like what I used to get caught 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:42.760 up in is saying goodbye to someone and not being 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:45.400 far enough away from them and. 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:47.240 They're kind of like, why did you go if you 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:48.080 could have stayed. 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:52.000 And the third one, which is the most important one, 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:55.440 is the moment you get to a venue and there's 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:59.000 like a lull between something starting some you know, a 0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:03.919 dinner and not everyone's arrived yet. Just go to the 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:07.560 bathroom and sit down on the toilet and enjoy yourself. 0:18:07.800 --> 0:18:09.120 Yeah, do that on Friday night. 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:11.520 Don't need to start a conversation. Don't need to end 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:14.760 a conversation. If you don't start the conversation, it's a gift. 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:17.080 Are you going to end in conversations? Yeah, I've seen 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:20.280 you interact with people. Okay, I don't know if I've 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:23.480 seen it. You're not in like a social setting where 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:27.320 like at work, sure, but with a bunch of people 0:18:27.400 --> 0:18:28.159 you need to say goodbye to you. 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:30.800 I don't think i've seen it. I'm pretty good. I 0:18:30.840 --> 0:18:32.960 just say oh, okay, oh my god, obess God bless 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:34.359 you bye. 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:40.840 Yeah, watch next, God bless you by. It's no context 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:43.760 less awkward than saying where's the bathroom? 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:47.399 Yeah? Wow, it's intentional. I'm not lying. I'm not hered. 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:49.879 I'm not lying either. I always need to pee, you know, 0:18:49.920 --> 0:18:54.040 my bladder is tiny, little particular particular. Al Right, Well, 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:57.800 we can definitely do that secret camera segment. I'm absolutely 0:18:57.840 --> 0:18:59.879 blitzed for that. Definitely. 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.000 You're listening to flex and frooms on Kita. 0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:07.520 My body is really sore because I'm trying to move. 0:19:07.600 --> 0:19:11.840 It turns out all the muscles start atrophying if you 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.800 don't go for walks. Anyway, I told the Internet that 0:19:14.880 --> 0:19:17.840 I've been doing pilates for a little while now, and 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:20.800 you would expect any kind of declaration of caring for 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:22.919 yourself in some capacity would be met with like praise, like. 0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:24.600 Oh, gonnad that to an amazing Let tell me about it. 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:27.919 I would say thirty five percent of people were like, 0:19:28.080 --> 0:19:28.760 what's next? 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:31.000 You're gonna move to BONDI. 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:33.840 What really? 0:19:34.400 --> 0:19:35.879 I swear down. 0:19:36.600 --> 0:19:39.439 They were like, oh, I hope this doesn't become a 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:41.200 page that's not safe for me anymore. 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:43.119 Baby, what are you sucking about? 0:19:44.560 --> 0:19:49.520 Like, hey, look, we already know people stay delusional on 0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:53.040 the internet, but this wasn't even like a whole announcement. 0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:56.919 I was at pilarates, took a photo of my feet 0:19:57.119 --> 0:20:00.440 and my reformer like it was very casual and in togration, 0:20:00.640 --> 0:20:02.240 could have been part of a photo dump, you know 0:20:02.280 --> 0:20:05.560 what I'm saying. And then like the response that came in, 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:09.199 it felt like they had done something so intentional. 0:20:08.560 --> 0:20:11.040 Like this is that a health and fitness channel? 0:20:11.080 --> 0:20:14.800 If you're not about cutting calories and being skinny girls 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:17.800 like Benny frankled, then don't come here. I could not 0:20:17.960 --> 0:20:19.960 believe it. I was like, you don't want to see 0:20:20.000 --> 0:20:23.440 a girly win that's absurd. It's absurd, but it makes 0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:26.480 I'm not surprised, not surprised at all. I think I'm 0:20:26.480 --> 0:20:30.000 intimidating now, wait till I can. I was doing what 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:32.159 do you call these things? By bicep curls. The other 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:34.840 day I go and do six killers either on, Wait 0:20:34.840 --> 0:20:36.760 till I'm bicep curling fifty killers? 0:20:37.080 --> 0:20:37.919 You know, sick of me? 0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:43.240 Wow, that is so interesting to me. It's so like 0:20:43.440 --> 0:20:47.320