Speaker 1: Come on, hello, Happy Thursday, everybody. We are now, I
Speaker 1: recently I have something I want to tell you guys.
Speaker 1: So I recently moved into a new place right and
Speaker 1: the thing, I mean, the thing I love about the
Speaker 1: house more than anything is the garden.
Speaker 2: I mean, you've seen the garden.
Speaker 1: Is beautiful, lush, established, and I've decided I'm going to
Speaker 1: become a gardener.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm like, that's my new thing. I'm going
Speaker 2: to be a gardener. I cannot pick you that happening,
Speaker 2: but sure, no, no, no, I am.
Speaker 1: I'm a green thumb. I'm out there every day. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to keep the plants alive.
Speaker 3: You were yelling at the girls when we were over
Speaker 3: the hour, like don't.
Speaker 2: You pick those flowers? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, But recently, in the last week, there's been a
Speaker 1: whole section of the garden that's dying. And I'm saying,
Speaker 1: I mean, like trees and plants and shrubs, they're all dying.
Speaker 2: And I got out there last night and I was like,
Speaker 2: what can I possibly do?
Speaker 1: And I'm like tottering around in the garden and I
Speaker 1: was like, I'll just pull this one and see what's
Speaker 1: happening in the dirt. None of the trees are actually trees.
Speaker 1: They're just clippings. The old owner has come along and
Speaker 1: just chopped a branch off all these random trees and
Speaker 1: shoved them in the ground so it looked like it
Speaker 1: was an established garden.
Speaker 2: I've been cheops, brilliant, it's not real.
Speaker 3: What was it?
Speaker 2: We just have a barnyard.
Speaker 4: Would did you go manic when you pulled one out
Speaker 4: saw it was dead? The next one, Go to the
Speaker 4: next one.
Speaker 2: These are not clippings.
Speaker 1: Some of these are trees that can literally touch the
Speaker 1: ceiling of the studio, that's how big they are. And
Speaker 1: this whoever lived there prior to try and make it
Speaker 1: look nicer, I had just lopped off these big branches
Speaker 1: of trees and shoved them in the ground.
Speaker 2: I love that genius.
Speaker 1: I reckon anybody could take that and use that the
Speaker 1: next time they're, you know, trying to get their listings
Speaker 1: up on domain.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 3: Just plant some sticks in the ground.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, we have another dilemma.
Speaker 5: It is Thursday, which means we do ask on cut
Speaker 5: where listener's writing some juicy questions. We have a really
Speaker 5: good one coming up after the break. Can you cut
Speaker 5: off a family member.
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Speaker 5: Well, Thursday means therapy. Thursday means ask uncut. Where you
Speaker 5: guys writing or calling with your deepest, darkest burning questions.
Speaker 5: We do our best to answer them. And we have
Speaker 5: Bella on the line with a bit of a conundrum
Speaker 5: in her family.
Speaker 3: Hey Bella, Hey, what's your problem?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 6: My favorite trio Bella.
Speaker 2: We don't pay these people to say.
Speaker 6: This, Okay. I've got had a bit of a rocky
Speaker 6: year relationship with my sister. Over the years, I'm starting
Speaker 6: to get really frustrated with her. She's really selfish and
Speaker 6: she's seemingly only content acting me when she wants something.
Speaker 6: So just for example, like when she wants to borrow money,
Speaker 6: or she wants me to look after her kids, or
Speaker 6: she she wants to use something of mine. I have
Speaker 6: got another sister who I'm close with, and she sort
Speaker 6: of feels like she's getting the same treatment. But we're
Speaker 6: just keeping the peace for Mom's sake, because she has
Speaker 6: gotten emotional about it in the past. I just don't
Speaker 6: know if I should say something to her or I
Speaker 6: should start saying no. What should I do?
Speaker 2: Is she you're younger or your older sister.
Speaker 5: My older sister, your oldest I think it's I think
Speaker 5: this one comes down to the intent behind what she's
Speaker 5: asking you. Like if if a family member is asking
Speaker 5: you for money because theyre in a really tricky situation,
Speaker 5: I feel like it's pretty hard to say no to.
Speaker 5: But if you know she's really negligent with her money, otherwise,
Speaker 5: like you know she's buying a handbag or she's frivolously
Speaker 5: spending her money, she.
Speaker 6: Definly doesn't go without. We'll put it that way, right, So.
Speaker 5: That's different, And that's where I think you can say no.
Speaker 5: I think you can be like, I'm a bit strapped
Speaker 5: this week, But if you know she can't put food on.
Speaker 2: The table for the kids, it's a different story.
Speaker 5: But if she's out there spending the money, I think
Speaker 5: you can be like, oh, I'm actually really tight this week.
Speaker 3: I can't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But even that, I think it comes down to
Speaker 1: feeling a bit used and feeling like you're not valued
Speaker 1: or respected. I think like a big part of this
Speaker 1: is it's not so much about the giving. It's the
Speaker 1: fact that the only time she's making an effort is
Speaker 1: when it's to be taking something.
Speaker 2: Is that is that correct?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Totally. I feel like it's just a bit of a
Speaker 6: one way street, Like it's never really like a check
Speaker 6: in to see how you're going. Like, as soon as
Speaker 6: I see her calling, I just know that she's going
Speaker 6: to ask for something.
Speaker 1: If you were to cut off your relationship with your sister,
Speaker 1: and that would also mean that you wouldn't have any
Speaker 1: relationship with your nephews or nieces, is that something that
Speaker 1: you're prepared to sacrifice because you know that will affect
Speaker 1: everything I know?
Speaker 6: And I really do love her babies. So that's like
Speaker 6: the thing that is making it really tough.
Speaker 1: What happens when you tell your mom that you're wanting
Speaker 1: to like put some between your friendship and your relationship
Speaker 1: with your sister.
Speaker 6: Oh, she gets really upset about it. She has only
Speaker 6: got one sibling herself, who she is no longer in
Speaker 6: touch with. So that's black and just another thing that
Speaker 6: really upsets her, and she just wants everyone to get along.
Speaker 1: Has anyone sat I mean, has that ever been like
Speaker 1: an intervention? Have you ever sat her down and explained
Speaker 1: how you're feeling? Has your mum ever explained how anyone's feeling?
Speaker 1: Because it kind of seems like maybe a bit of
Speaker 1: a hard conversation needs to be happening.
Speaker 6: Yeah, not for a long time, but like maybe it's
Speaker 6: reaching that point again that's too hard for me.
Speaker 5: I wouldn't sit my sibling down and say, I feel
Speaker 5: like you use me all the time, back off.
Speaker 2: I just I just ghost. No, I know.
Speaker 1: I think the best thing to do now is before
Speaker 1: you do try and like put some separation in your relationship.
Speaker 1: I think, sit down, have a conversation, let her know
Speaker 1: how it makes you feel.
Speaker 2: It'll probably buy you another six months and she'll be
Speaker 2: on best behavior, and then I might go back to
Speaker 2: doing the same.
Speaker 5: Thing, like write a list prepared of stuff that you
Speaker 5: know she owns that she could sell that she doesn't need,
Speaker 5: so when she asked you for money'd be like.
Speaker 2: Hey, you know that Gucci handbag. That's worth Stauna exactly there.
Speaker 1: Do you know what, don't break up the friendship because
Speaker 1: you should be over her house using that infred Amen.
Speaker 3: This is the worst advite, all right, Bella, Well, that
Speaker 3: was bog Bill.
Speaker 4: Just send us your medicare details, organize the rebate.
Speaker 3: Also, Bella, you are well.
Speaker 1: I mean, look, things might not be good in the
Speaker 1: family household at the moment, but we do have something
Speaker 1: that will cheer you up a little bit. We have
Speaker 1: two tickets to the Life Uncut Live show at whatever
Speaker 1: show is closest to you that you can take.
Speaker 2: Maybe you can take your sister. I think take your
Speaker 2: other sister, not the one to cause the problem.
Speaker 6: I will thank you so much. That's awesome.
Speaker 3: Welcome worries. We love you to bits.
Speaker 4: Enjoy the show, all right, Next on the pick up,
Speaker 4: I'm single, my single era, I'm going on dates, ladies,
Speaker 4: and I haven't told you about my most recent day.
Speaker 3: And I'll tee you next.
Speaker 4: But all I'm gonna say is just picture me in
Speaker 4: the middle of the rain, on my hands and knees,
Speaker 4: crawling through the street.
Speaker 2: No one wants to This is very notebook est case.
Speaker 4: It was very romantic. Something happened that I need to
Speaker 4: get you across on tea. Next on the pickup. It
Speaker 4: is the pick up Britt, Laura and Mitch here thanks
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Speaker 4: I've been teasing you girls and all the listeners of
Speaker 4: Australia for the whole day.
Speaker 2: Now you've been unbuttoning that shirt slowly. You are a
Speaker 2: big tease.
Speaker 4: I'm single now and I'm in my dating era. I'm
Speaker 4: back on the dating apps. I had a cut, like
Speaker 4: about four months off. I needed to recover from a
Speaker 4: bad breakup. But now I'm back. I went on a
Speaker 4: date Friday night, lovely, gorgeous boys. Off to a great start,
Speaker 4: but it got derailed quickly. So I sit down, I
Speaker 4: dress up.
Speaker 3: I want to look good. So I'm wearing this gorgeous necklace.
Speaker 3: You've seen it.
Speaker 4: It's a little sapphire on a piece of silver. It's
Speaker 4: one of my favorite necklaces. It's my birthstone. We sit
Speaker 4: down at the date and the first thing he says was,
Speaker 4: oh my god, that necklace is gorgeous.
Speaker 3: And I go, thank you. It's so funny that he
Speaker 3: noticed it.
Speaker 4: Chat Chat Chat, drink drink, drink, flirt, flirt flirt, need touch,
Speaker 4: need touch, flirt flirt, need touch.
Speaker 3: We go to the next venue.
Speaker 2: That's playing like some sort of weird karaoke game.
Speaker 3: Hasn't text me back, so maybe you didn't enjoy that
Speaker 3: song like at.
Speaker 2: Time Zone doing that dancing thing.
Speaker 4: No, So we get to the next venue and we're
Speaker 4: sitting there and he goes, oh, did you take your
Speaker 4: necklace off? And I go, no, I didn't take my
Speaker 4: necklace off. What do you mean I opened my button shirt.
Speaker 4: My necklace has fallen off. My favorite birthdone. And I go,
Speaker 4: I'm kind of coy and embarrassed, like, I don't worry,
Speaker 4: We'll just leave it because I didn't want to.
Speaker 3: Ruin the day. But he said, no, no, not on
Speaker 3: my watch.
Speaker 4: There is absolutely no way we're going to let you
Speaker 4: lose this gorgeous necklace. So he grabs my hand and
Speaker 4: I go, he's gonna hold my hand and caress me
Speaker 4: back to health. He pulls me up. It's in the
Speaker 4: middle of torrential rain, and we turn our torches on
Speaker 4: and he goes, let's retrace our steps. So inspect I've
Speaker 4: just met this guy, and here we are in the
Speaker 4: middle of the street, pouring rain on my hands and
Speaker 4: knees with our torches on, searching every nook and crenny
Speaker 4: of the bitchumen to find my silver neckl.
Speaker 2: Did you find it?
Speaker 4: We found it?
Speaker 2: Wow, that's such a beautiful romantic sess. You have to
Speaker 2: stand up and embrace and kiss in the rain.
Speaker 4: You know what I said? I said, do you want
Speaker 4: to put it on me? And he went, oh, sure,
Speaker 4: So I turn around, he goes to put on me,
Speaker 4: and then he goes, I bite my nails.
Speaker 3: This is actually really hard. I went't forget it, don't worry.
Speaker 3: It was nicely in my head and we're dripping with water.
Speaker 3: So we went inside. But it was derailed. We did kiss, Yeah,
Speaker 3: nice guy, it was care But I feel like.
Speaker 4: A nice date derailed can either it can make the
Speaker 4: date a beautiful moment that you both remember, or it
Speaker 4: can completely ruin the moment.
Speaker 1: Right well, imagine if he turned around and said, no,
Speaker 1: can't we bullet to go look for it?
Speaker 2: Let's continue on here. A dance dance revolution.
Speaker 4: Red Flag Total red Flag Alice is called on thirteen
Speaker 4: one O six five.
Speaker 3: Did your date get derailed?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 7: It did, well, I kind of derailed it. Myself by accident.
Speaker 7: So so what happened was, let's just say this guy John,
Speaker 7: So I went on a date with him. It was
Speaker 7: very lovely. He wanted to go out the next night,
Speaker 7: but then I kind of put a sticky on him
Speaker 7: because I found another guy named Terry who I wanted
Speaker 7: to come to dinner with. And then so I said
Speaker 7: to John, sorry, can't make it. I'm actually working. So
Speaker 7: then I went on the date with Terry the next day,
Speaker 7: and turns out John was sitting at the table right
Speaker 7: next to me.
Speaker 2: Oh no, that's terrible, that's brilliant. That is the dating calm.
Speaker 2: Did you pretend like it was your brother? How did
Speaker 2: you get out of that?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 7: I just can youule with me? And I just like
Speaker 7: I just told Terry we have to go. So I
Speaker 7: made him leave and just John never got back to me.
Speaker 7: He never messaged me.
Speaker 1: And yeah, what happens when you're dating in a small
Speaker 1: town again, Yeah.
Speaker 5: I actually remember this happened to me. I was seeing
Speaker 5: this person, didn't want to see you anymore? Like two
Speaker 5: dates and then I said I don't want to see
Speaker 5: you anymore, and I canceled the date.
Speaker 2: The next day, I said I had to work as well.
Speaker 5: And then because I was seeing multiple people at the
Speaker 5: same time, because that's what you do in your single era.
Speaker 5: I was walking down the street and I was holding
Speaker 5: hands with someone and I ran into the person.
Speaker 2: Then I pulled the pin off, And did you say,
Speaker 2: this is just my daddy. I think it's my brother.
Speaker 3: Happens to the best of us.
Speaker 1: So look, talking about terrible dating stories, I want to know,
Speaker 1: if you're in a long term relationship, is there ever
Speaker 1: an okay situation where you can just abandon your wife
Speaker 1: at an airport?
Speaker 2: Because that's what somebody did, and look.
Speaker 3: Big question.
Speaker 2: I have some feelings about it.
Speaker 3: All right.
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Speaker 2: I have a controversial question for you guys.
Speaker 1: Do you think it's ever okay to board a flight
Speaker 1: and leave your partner at the airport terminal without them
Speaker 1: getting on the flight?
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, it depends what they've done and they just
Speaker 2: cheated on you, not.
Speaker 1: Having a fight, they're running late or they're a bit preoccupied,
Speaker 1: but you instead of going and getting them making sure
Speaker 1: that you're both on the plane at the same time,
Speaker 1: you just decide, you know what, that's your fault. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get on the plane and your partner misses the fly.
Speaker 2: I need some more background. What's the situation? All right?
Speaker 1: Okay, So there is a man who has divided the Internet.
Speaker 1: This has come up on a Reddit thread. But basically
Speaker 1: he was going and a him and his wife were
Speaker 1: going to see his daughter, you know, a plane flight away,
Speaker 1: and they get to the airport and his wife decides
Speaker 1: that she needs to go and get Starbucks. Now, he's
Speaker 1: a bit of a type a personality. He likes to
Speaker 1: be organized, and his wife is very go with the flow.
Speaker 2: She's like, it's fine, you know, we're not gonna miss it.
Speaker 3: Don't like me, very me.
Speaker 1: So she goes to get herself a Starbucks coffee and
Speaker 1: is taking a little bit too long. So he boards
Speaker 1: the plane, but she never gets on and he flies
Speaker 1: and goes and visits his daughter, but she completely misses
Speaker 1: the flight. Now, the reason why the Internet is divided
Speaker 1: over this is because most people are saying he should
Speaker 1: have stayed and he should have tried to, like, you know,
Speaker 1: at least if he knew that the flight was going
Speaker 1: to leave and that she was going to miss it,
Speaker 1: he should have been there to try and hold the
Speaker 1: flight or to try and help her get on it.
Speaker 2: The flights do not wait for anyone. What do you
Speaker 2: guys think? Who do you think is in the wrong
Speaker 2: in this situation. I'm very her.
Speaker 5: I resonate with her, But I also just read here
Speaker 5: that it said they only heard fifteen minutes to board,
Speaker 5: and the Starbucks coffee was a rail right away. She
Speaker 5: had to get on a train to go and get
Speaker 5: the Starbucks.
Speaker 1: But it's a very very small airport, so you know,
Speaker 1: you could just copy.
Speaker 2: That small things on it. You get on a train
Speaker 2: to get.
Speaker 3: It, and it's kind of Starbucks. That's not a small
Speaker 3: town airport.
Speaker 2: You lip over there, it's two minutes, nip back. You know,
Speaker 2: you had that.
Speaker 4: Coffee in five minutes flat. My hot take is that
Speaker 4: that is not the right partner for you. If my
Speaker 4: partner was wanting to get a coffee and was going
Speaker 4: to miss the flight, I would get off that plane,
Speaker 4: I'd take our bags, and I would skip the flight
Speaker 4: with them.
Speaker 3: That is I would leave the person if.
Speaker 2: You would skip the flight one hundred percent.
Speaker 4: I would if if my partner wasn't on the plane
Speaker 4: with me. Where a part It's cat a partnership for
Speaker 4: a reason, we're right or die.
Speaker 2: Do you know why?
Speaker 1: Ires because Matt and I my husband, Matt or we
Speaker 1: have a fight. Every single time we need to board
Speaker 1: a plane. We always have a fight. And the reason
Speaker 1: for that is is because I pack my stuff and
Speaker 1: the girls stuff the night before we go away. Doesn't
Speaker 1: matter where we're going for the bags are packed, Matt
Speaker 1: will still be packing the bag five minutes before we're
Speaker 1: meant to be in the car. And the only person
Speaker 1: who has to pack for is himself, and we are
Speaker 1: always running late.
Speaker 2: We have almost missed a flight.
Speaker 1: Do you know I read this and I was like,
Speaker 1: I will leave him behind next time.
Speaker 5: I moved overseas for three years and I packed for
Speaker 5: three years about an hour and a half before I
Speaker 5: was supposed to be the airport for my entire my
Speaker 5: entire life. I never I'm the person who gets to
Speaker 5: the airport on time. Usually like I'm usually there on time.
Speaker 5: But then I sit like my sister and I will
Speaker 5: go and sit at a cafe and then we'll hear
Speaker 5: our names be called out on the final call. So
Speaker 5: we're at the airport ready, but we're still not at
Speaker 5: the gate. We somehow still managed to almost miss the floor.
Speaker 2: Anxiety brick. There's two types of people in this world.
Speaker 1: There's people who get to new there's people who get
Speaker 1: to an international flight at least three hours early, and
Speaker 1: then there's people who like to flirt the line and
Speaker 1: I'm not here for it.
Speaker 4: Okay, what about this? So this is something that actually
Speaker 4: happened to me with my ex. We were on a
Speaker 4: plane flying overseas and they go to us. Ye, boys,
Speaker 4: we just want to let you know we have one
Speaker 4: business class seat for a free upgrade. You'd love to
Speaker 4: offer it to you, or if you'd like to sit together,
Speaker 4: we'll give you a full exit row and you can
Speaker 4: be together and have a full exit row.
Speaker 3: And I went, when do I get my pajamas?
Speaker 4: And I went to business class and I left my
Speaker 4: partner and I sat in business class the whole international
Speaker 4: twelve hour flight.
Speaker 2: Where did you get it? And not your partner?
Speaker 3: It was my frequent flyer that it was attached to, Mitch.
Speaker 1: I just want to remind you that you just said,
Speaker 1: literally thirty seconds ago, that you will ride or die,
Speaker 1: that you wouldn't see with someone who left you, and
Speaker 1: you left your partner in economy.
Speaker 4: He was still on the plane, so I knew he was.
Speaker 4: It's okay just to quickly go back.
Speaker 2: To this person in his death fence.
Speaker 5: They've missed flights before because of her, so I think
Speaker 5: at I think he's like, you know what, I'm just
Speaker 5: gonna teacher a lesson. I can't miss the flight. She
Speaker 5: can sort it out, so I reckon in this case,
Speaker 5: it's alright.
Speaker 3: So funny. All right, let's go. We're done.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we certainly hand you over to Will and
Speaker 3: Way first, all right, Siyah