WEBVTT - How to get your partner into Self-Development with Coopa 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.120 I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:06.560 land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:10.520 Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:14.280 and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:22.639 Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:30.200 and this is the Rise and Conquer podcast. This is 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:33.760 the podcast where which have mindset, self development and becoming 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:37.120 your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:40.320 plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.800 and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:47.440 of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:49.839 matter where you are in your journey, We're here to 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:53.800 help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:54.800 self awareness. 0:00:56.640 --> 0:00:58.040 If you're ready to get into the. 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:00.960 Driver's seat of your own life and stop letting life 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:03.520 pass you by, then you're in the right place. 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:13.160 Hey everyone, welcome back to the potty and Happy Friday. 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:16.679 Today we have a super fun episode with Cooper. He 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:20.400 is answering one of the most asked questions we get, 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:24.679 how to get your partner into self development. He touches 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:27.399 on how he got into self development how he got 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:30.240 his partner into it, and also just how you can 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:33.600 get anyone around you into being interested in it in 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:37.400 the first place. He also shares a super interesting technique 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:39.520 that he's been using at the moment for when you 0:01:39.560 --> 0:01:42.640 get into a bit of a heated conversation with someone 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:45.760 you love, and gives you four magic words that you 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:50.320 can use to defuse certain situations. I may or may 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:52.920 not have tested this with my mum, but I can 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.520 confirm it wo. I will pop up a thread in 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:58.560 the Facebook group where you can share your experience once 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:00.560 you've tested it out, so be sure to hop in 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:02.360 there if you're not the link will be in the 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:13.680 show notes. But now let's get straight into the episode. 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:18.920 Hey Cooper, Hey dear, welcome back to the podcast. Thank you. 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:22.400 We're so excited to chat to you today about two things. 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:26.120 Number one is a question we actually get asked a 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.160 lot in our community that I thought you'd be the 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:31.960 perfect person to get advice from, and that is how 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:34.800 can you get your partner into self development? 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:39.520 So, first of all, I would like to say that 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:45.280 you can never force people to do things. So the 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:48.360 question is how to get my partner into self development? 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:52.760 But there can't be anything around it of force like 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:57.680 you because I feel it can happen, might not happen. 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:00.800 Of where you try and force this to your partner 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:03.799 and like you can do it and it can work 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:07.080 and it can be good, but it also can be bad. 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:10.799 Where when you tell someone to do something, they use them, 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:14.160 don't do it, they do the opposite. A good thing 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:18.200 is to encourage them, influence them, and like it starts 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:22.119 from you, doesn't start from putting your stuff on them 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:25.000 and telling them self, development is the best thing and 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:27.520 you've got to do it. Yeah, you've got to first 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.920 of all, do it in yourself. So start with yourself. 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:34.040 And if you're on the journey and you're feeling that 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:37.400 it could benefit them a lot, bring them into your world, 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:42.600 like show them what you've been doing, influence them, encourage them, 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:47.680 and yeah, if you do this in a nice way, 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:52.440 they might think that's pretty cool. Or if you do something, 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:55.520 can you get a promotion at work or something else 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:58.920 happens and you but yeah, so it just it starts 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:03.960 from you. So if you're pushing something on someone and 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:08.000 it can kind of sometimes tell that you're not fully 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:13.120 confident in yourself in that area, like when you're trying 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.320 to convince someone to do something, you've got to do it. 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:18.839 It's usually when you don't want to do it on 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:19.640 your own. 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:22.200 In yourself and you need someone to be there with you. 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:28.040 So everything starts from you. Like you can never blame 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:32.719 people for stuff, it's always you. So this is the 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:37.800 same instance. So yeah, start with yourself, get fully confident 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:40.800 in doing what you're doing and the journey you're on. 0:04:41.279 --> 0:04:44.360 I'd love to know because we have had a few 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:47.120 people in the Facebook group mentioned that their partners have 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:52.000 expressed interest in starting self development, but they're just not 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:56.560 quite sure where to maybe refer them to or what 0:04:56.640 --> 0:04:59.760 they can start on. What would sort of be your 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:03.400 commendations on where someone could start. 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:08.760 For me personally, it was and I have said this 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:13.280 story before, but it started by listening to books on 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:18.320 audible and podcasts, So that would be my first thing 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:22.719 to say to same one. Yeah, and like I chose money, 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:27.120 I wanted more understanding and I wanted to conquer that. Yeah, 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:30.279 and so that's where I started and it, yeah, just 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:34.640 changed everything for me. So I would say that like 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:40.760 starts gaining knowledge is power, and yeah, go from there. 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:44.400 And how did you get into manifestation. 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:47.680 I've kind of just done it naturally, like I've not 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:49.000 really tried. 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:51.640 Yeah, I feel like that happens with a lot of boys, 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:52.080 and it's. 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:56.960 Really I'm more like I've got a drive and I've 0:05:56.960 --> 0:06:03.039 got a passion. Yeah, and the manifesting like it it 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:08.120 hands down works and it's it's so powerful. But I 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:12.440 don't use those words for myself, yeah, because they just 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:17.760 didn't really because like George's the manifesting guru, yeah, and 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:22.320 yet the one and yeah, I just never really I 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:25.960 never really did it, but I was doing it because. 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:31.839 Like you embodied it, but you didn't consciously practice anything, right, 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.520 And when did you realize that you were manifesting? When 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:36.560 did you? Like what was the moment where You're like, oh, 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:38.240 I've actually been doing this the whole time. 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:40.400 I don't know, probably a couple of years down the 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:43.800 track with naked harvests, Like I was always always doing 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:46.840 goals and we're always like we set a year goal 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:49.919 and we look back on at me and George and 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:57.040 we would always get it every time. This ship and 0:06:57.080 --> 0:07:01.560 then it then yeah, like it's it's your power of 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:05.480 what you put on that bit of paper and we 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:07.720 could have gone bigger numbers than we could have got there. 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:11.720 So it's just your limiting belief of where you need 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:13.560 to get to and where you're humbled to get to. 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:17.480 And I don't know if you think about that, like 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:20.880 put a big number on or put a big goal 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:25.280 or something. So, yeah, it's the powers in you. So 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:34.800 it was you. Everything's you start with you. It's always 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:40.360 you with everything. But with that question, I was just thinking, 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:45.920 like in a partnership, usually opposites of track, so it 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:49.320 could work. Why not, but try and try and figure 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:53.200 out where they are in their head and put yourself 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:58.440 in their shoes and the pressures they've got. And if 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:04.400 it's yeah, towards the ale, like with self development, he 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:07.200 might not have the space to do it because he's 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:10.760 got so much stuff going on in his head with 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:14.360 pressures and I don't know, trying to provide and that 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:18.640 sort of thing. So put yourself in his shoes or 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:25.520 her shoes and pitch yourself there. Yeah, and then think 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:29.640 how can I influence you, encourage you in that way 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:34.760 so they get down on their level because yeah, they 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:37.959 might not want to even believe this stuff or that 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.520 sort of thing, and so you try and work out 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:41.040 how to. 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:46.360 And would you almost say that it could even work 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:49.520 better if instead of going I'm going to get you 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:51.640 into self development kind of thing of like I've been 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:55.160 really I've been reading this really good book. You might 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:57.760 like it and just start with things like that. 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:04.320 Yet Yeah, so just like get on their level and 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:07.800 get in their head and like, I. 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:09.920 See what's consuming their mind kind of thing. 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:15.400 Yeah, ask them some questions. So just ask them questions 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:19.640 like why why don't they want to do it? I 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:24.680 always do like that word why I use it all 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:25.240 the time. 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:27.680 Does anyone ever feel attacked when you say that? 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:30.640 Well, you just say it in a nice, safe way, 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:34.960 ye say, Oh, that's really like supportive if you're ever 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:37.800 in a conversation if you have said this, like give 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:41.040 a safe space and be supportive if you're doing that, 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:44.200 and just say if you're saying like, oh, it'd be 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:48.880 really hard to do self development with what's going through 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:53.960 your head, and like you just give them support and 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:57.679 then they'll they ego will kind of lower down and 0:09:57.720 --> 0:09:59.880 be like and then allow something. 0:09:59.800 --> 0:10:04.280 In right, so like validate how they're feeling, yeah, and 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:06.160 then ask what support? 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:10.160 Yeah, just making them feel safe and they might bring 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:13.920 up something completely different and non related, but you might 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:18.000 get a good conversation. So like, I ask those deepig questions, 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:20.400 but not too deep because then your skin. 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:26.280 But yeah, so well, I know there was something else 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:28.320 you wanted to talk about on the podcast today. Do 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:30.920 you want to share with us? I think it flows 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:33.040 on nicely from what you were just talking about. Ego. 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:36.720 This has come up a few times in conversations with 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:41.720 friends and family and in a conversation when you're in 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:47.840 the fight or flight mode and someone's wants to be right. 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:52.880 M So it's a big thing that our egos need 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:55.840 to be right. And I got this from a book. 0:10:56.160 --> 0:11:00.319 It's not what book, but the author's Wayne Dyer. All 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:05.240 this stuff. He's the man, yeah, and what he preaches 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:10.640 and what he tells people to do in conflict in 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.880 those situations. I do this with my wife as well, 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:16.400 and I give her the information so she can use 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:19.920 it on me. And just don't do that too much. 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:24.400 Though I've heard that, oh you kind of use it 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:27.720 too much, then it won't work. But you use it 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:31.040 here when it needs to be done. Otherwise, if you 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:33.480 do it too much, you just like shut the hell up, 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:37.720 because sometimes you need to let it out yeah, And 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:42.880 it's yeah to lower the ego because when you're arguing. 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:44.960 You want to be right absolutely. 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:48.000 Yes. So when someone comes in and says, I don't know, 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:49.839 you go into a party. I think he kind of 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:53.400 says that, why did you put the food out on 0:11:53.440 --> 0:11:56.200 the table like that? It's such a weird way, like 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:58.720 you should have done it this way, yeah, or something 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:00.800 in those lines of like you should have done it 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:04.640 like that like this, yeah, and you say four words 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:08.280 and those four words are you're right about that? I 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:09.880 have to make it. 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:15.880 I know. It's full. 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:26.360 Pressure, so funny. Yeah. So when they say those things, 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:29.080 like you picture it in your head and they're trying 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:30.839 to be right, and you're like, you should have done 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.040 it like that, and you just say, yeah, you're right 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:33.400 about that. 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:36.040 What are they going to do? But can't do anything? 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:38.520 You can't do anything, And then their ego just goes down, 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:42.280 like I'll be my mind's down, just lowers down. And 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:46.400 then they might try and bring it up again because 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.360 they might say, oh, well, next time, do it this way. 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.040 You're going to do it that way, and then you say, no. 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:52.679 Probably not. 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.120 I'm going to do it my way because that's what 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:59.040 I want now, and they might say no, but this 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.559 is a better way. Then you say, yeah, you're right 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:08.040 about that. It's like, so it's a really cool tool 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:11.679 I've been using and you can use it anywhere in 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:15.720 any conversation when it gets heated, like let them be right? 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:20.040 And how do you almost stop that from I guess 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:22.920 being a rollercoaster because in my head when you told 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:25.960 that story, it's like they ask you and you say, yeah, 0:13:25.960 --> 0:13:28.000 you're right, and then they have to kind of back off. 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:30.439 And then if they follow up and say, you know, 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:32.679 do that like the next time, you're not gonna lie, 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:34.080 so you say no, I'm probably gonna do it my 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.920 way again, and then it like almost fires back up 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:38.800 again and they need to be right. So is it 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:41.760 just sort of like you just keep saying that until 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:43.360 they just don't ask again. 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:46.960 If you want to, but test it out like it yeah, 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:51.679 probably won't go or because they'll figure out I'm not 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:55.240 getting anywhere with this person because yeah, they're so content 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:59.959 and not getting fired up. They probably want to fight, yeah, 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:02.600 and they want that conflict, but you're not giving it 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:04.319 to him, and then they just think. 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:09.600 And how have you I guess navigated the difference of 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:14.480 knowing when to do that and when that person just 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:16.320 needs to like let a bit of steam out and 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:18.800 to guys, I guess let them just be angry. 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.640 Well, another thing you can kind of do is put 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:28.560 yourself in their shoes. Yeah, so I said this this 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:31.560 morning to my mom and dad. And like when someone's 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:35.360 grumpy when they're working or something, can they're grumpy and 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:38.760 they're giving you your bad energy and you just think, man, 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:42.520 that guy's so grumpy, like you get aggressive and you're like, yeah, 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:48.560 but like imagine being them if they've had something personal 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:51.280 big in their life happen and they're just having a 0:14:51.320 --> 0:14:54.800 bad day. And I'm getting this off when Diane as well, 0:14:54.880 --> 0:14:58.040 and he says, like, just say some nice words, Just say, 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:01.320 oh man, this job would be so hard, Like you've 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:03.880 got such a hard job, you do so such an 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:07.760 amazing job and you're doing so well, like it must 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:09.880 you must be a bit tired or I don't know, 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:13.720 say something nice and then that's their ego down and 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:17.560 they're like thanks so much for noticing, because I just 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:20.560 want to be noticed or they have some sort of 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:25.440 need and because if you just think if you fire up, 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:29.080 they're going to fire back. And yeah, it's the ego again, 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:33.240 and you kind of just don't let that happen. And yeah, 0:15:33.240 --> 0:15:37.040 your instincts might be to go for it. Yeah, but 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:42.360 if you've got enough time, sometimes you don't, but to 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:47.280 take three deep breaths in your belly and that really 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:48.760 calms your nervous system down. 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:54.640 And how have you worked on I guess being so 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:58.480 aware of like your instinct to I guess fire back 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:01.680 and stop yoursel well from doing that. Is it just 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:05.440 like the conscious breadths before you say anything back? Or 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:07.760 do you have any other tips on because I'm a 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:09.880 bit of a fiery person as well. And if someone 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:23.400 you're you haven't seen it yet, I can be But 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:27.440 if someone like pushes a button, I struggle, Like as 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:30.080 soon as I've said the thing, I'm like, oh, I 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:33.600 shouldn't have I just should have kept quiet. They're obviously 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:36.080 just having a bad day. But how did you bring 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:39.920 that awareness from like after you've said it too, before 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:42.800 you say it? It's just practice. 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:46.680 Yeah, so you kind of you catch yourself and that's 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:48.720 the first thing, and being aware of it, because not 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:52.040 many people aren't even aware and they just go for it. 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:56.280 So being aware is the first thing. And then you 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:58.760 go from there. When that happens again, I'm not going 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:03.640 to do that thing. Yeah, I'm gonna be more content 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.720 and be more calm and how can I do that? 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:09.880 And you figure out a plan and yeah, step by 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:14.960 step it becomes you get like evidence that you're trying 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:19.320 to not be that person that's aggressive. And yeah, you 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:22.320 get to the point where it might just get you, 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:24.920 because it'll get you and you might even just close 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:30.680 your eyes and go and then go for it. There's 0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:34.080 something really simple or like, yeah, just keep practicing it 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:35.879 if you want to do it though. 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.720 Yeah, yeah, the powers in you, yeah. 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:45.560 To me than anyone else. So yeah, that's a that's 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.960 a cool thing I've been doing and it's been working 0:17:48.040 --> 0:17:48.520 really well. 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:51.600 I love that. I actually can't wait to try that words. 0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:54.040 You're right about that. 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:59.120 You're right about that music. I feel so wrong to say, 0:17:59.280 --> 0:18:01.480 like so cat, yeah, you're right about that. 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:04.280 Try it. Everyone, try it. 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:06.560 Everyone try it will pop up both thread in the 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:09.919 Facebook group and let us know how it felt and 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:11.680 if it worked yep. 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:14.040 Because if they're yeah, I can just picture it like 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:15.400 someone coming. 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:17.240 Home fully get thrown off guard. 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:20.520 And then like yeah, you're in. You're in a relationship 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:23.080 and you're getting home and the other person's had not 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:26.159 much sleep, and then you do something wrong that doesn't 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:29.280 make sense and they fire back at you. Just say, yeah, 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.640 you're right about that. You must be having a really 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:33.400 bad day. And then just. 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:34.560 See, they'll calm down. 0:18:34.560 --> 0:18:38.080 They'll be like, I am having a bad day, thanks 0:18:38.119 --> 0:18:40.440 for noticing, and then you'll have a good conversation. 0:18:40.800 --> 0:18:43.400 I love that. Thank you for sharing, Cooper. It's all right, 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:45.360 and we'll see everyone in the next episode. 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:52.880 Thanks everyone, Thank you so much for listening to another 0:18:52.960 --> 0:18:56.560 episode of the Rise and Conquered podcast. 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