Speaker 1: I'm Sam Wood, and this is your motivational moment for
Speaker 1: this week, how to rewire those negative thoughts and finally
Speaker 1: give yourself some love. So this has been something that
Speaker 1: the importance and in fact the concern around it has
Speaker 1: become far far more important in the last few years
Speaker 1: as I've really dived in deep with some people, and
Speaker 1: many of these people have had huge success from a
Speaker 1: physical perspective over that journey, over their journeys, and many
Speaker 1: of them are very hard on themselves and not satisfied,
Speaker 1: not content, not necessarily happy. And the reason is they
Speaker 1: set their goals, they reach their goals, they set their
Speaker 1: new goal, they reach their new goal, but there is
Speaker 1: never or very rarely moments of little celebrating those little
Speaker 1: wins or being proud of themselves or having any kind
Speaker 1: of self love or self acceptance. So I was thinking
Speaker 1: before I did this sure moment, like, where does this
Speaker 1: negative self talk or this inability to really give ourself
Speaker 1: any self love come from? And that's a big part
Speaker 1: of growing up. You know, it's an insult that person
Speaker 1: loves themselves, is what you say to someone who's sort
Speaker 1: of got tickets on themselves as a bit of a diket,
Speaker 1: But it's interesting how that message kind of gets put
Speaker 1: in our head at a really young age. And then
Speaker 1: there's the marketing world where everyone's trying to always sell
Speaker 1: us something because it's all about improving ourselves and changing ourselves,
Speaker 1: and it's effectively the message is you're not good enough
Speaker 1: the way you are. To be proud of yourself or
Speaker 1: to say good things about yourself is really hard in
Speaker 1: this world. So there's obviously a number of environmental factors
Speaker 1: that impact the way we talk to ourselves. So let's
Speaker 1: have a little look at what actually happens when we
Speaker 1: talk to it. So we have sixty thousand thoughts per day,
Speaker 1: and then ninety five percent of these sorts are repeated,
Speaker 1: So we are just having the continual negative thoughts over
Speaker 1: and over and over and over again until we either
Speaker 1: believe them or we feel like we can't escape them,
Speaker 1: or we feel like we're haunted by them, whatever it
Speaker 1: might be. And if you're not combating that with any
Speaker 1: positive thoughts or things that you're proud of, there is
Speaker 1: no balance there. I mean, if you're looking at yourself
Speaker 1: in the mirror and you're telling yourself day in day
Speaker 1: out how you hate yourself, or you're continually just focusing
Speaker 1: on the things you don't like. You never actually acknowledge
Speaker 1: the things that you're proud of. You never acknowledge the
Speaker 1: parts of your body, or the parts of your personality,
Speaker 1: or the parts of your life that you are happy with,
Speaker 1: that you are grateful for and that you do like.
Speaker 1: You are just going to be living in this perpetually
Speaker 1: negative environment in which no matter what you seem to
Speaker 1: be doing, you're never going to be satisfied. You're never
Speaker 1: going to be happy. So let's try and flip this
Speaker 1: on its head and look at this as the positive
Speaker 1: we have. The average person has sixty thousand thoughts per day.
Speaker 1: The good news is they're on repeat. So if we
Speaker 1: can turn those positive thoughts onto repeat instead of those
Speaker 1: negative thoughts onto repeat, and we're having that many thoughts
Speaker 1: per day, imagine how quickly the worm will turn as
Speaker 1: we start to say nice things to ourself over and
Speaker 1: over and over again. And it doesn't need to be
Speaker 1: big things. It might be I look good in these jeans.
Speaker 1: It might be I'm proud of myself because I didn't
Speaker 1: have any chocolate today. It might be I'm a good mum,
Speaker 1: I'm a good friend, I'm a good boss, I'm a
Speaker 1: good work colleague, whatever, whatever is unique and personal to
Speaker 1: your circumstance. Change the script, flip the script, start talking
Speaker 1: nicely to yourself. Put that button on repeat, and I
Speaker 1: promise you it'll make a difference. So today I'm going
Speaker 1: to give you a really simple piece of homework. Every
Speaker 1: day for the next seven days, you need to wake
Speaker 1: up and you need to look at yourself in the
Speaker 1: mirror and you need to say just one thing positive
Speaker 1: to yourself. It can be a physical thing. It can
Speaker 1: be my family thing, it can be my job thing,
Speaker 1: it can be my brain thing. Whatever you want it
Speaker 1: to be. It can be completely personal to you. But
Speaker 1: you need to wake up every morning for the next
Speaker 1: seven days to stare at yourself in the mirror and
Speaker 1: say one nice thing to yourself to start your day.
Speaker 1: And that's all I want you to do for now.