WEBVTT - MOTIVATIONAL MOMENT: Love yourself! ❤

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Sam Wood, and this is your motivational moment for

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<v Speaker 1>this week, how to rewire those negative thoughts and finally

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<v Speaker 1>give yourself some love. So this has been something that

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<v Speaker 1>the importance and in fact the concern around it has

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<v Speaker 1>become far far more important in the last few years

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<v Speaker 1>as I've really dived in deep with some people, and

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<v Speaker 1>many of these people have had huge success from a

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<v Speaker 1>physical perspective over that journey, over their journeys, and many

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<v Speaker 1>of them are very hard on themselves and not satisfied,

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<v Speaker 1>not content, not necessarily happy. And the reason is they

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<v Speaker 1>set their goals, they reach their goals, they set their

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<v Speaker 1>new goal, they reach their new goal, but there is

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<v Speaker 1>never or very rarely moments of little celebrating those little

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<v Speaker 1>wins or being proud of themselves or having any kind

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<v Speaker 1>of self love or self acceptance. So I was thinking

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<v Speaker 1>before I did this sure moment, like, where does this

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<v Speaker 1>negative self talk or this inability to really give ourself

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<v Speaker 1>any self love come from? And that's a big part

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<v Speaker 1>of growing up. You know, it's an insult that person

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<v Speaker 1>loves themselves, is what you say to someone who's sort

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<v Speaker 1>of got tickets on themselves as a bit of a diket,

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<v Speaker 1>But it's interesting how that message kind of gets put

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<v Speaker 1>in our head at a really young age. And then

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<v Speaker 1>there's the marketing world where everyone's trying to always sell

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<v Speaker 1>us something because it's all about improving ourselves and changing ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's effectively the message is you're not good enough

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<v Speaker 1>the way you are. To be proud of yourself or

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<v Speaker 1>to say good things about yourself is really hard in

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<v Speaker 1>this world. So there's obviously a number of environmental factors

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<v Speaker 1>that impact the way we talk to ourselves. So let's

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<v Speaker 1>have a little look at what actually happens when we

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<v Speaker 1>talk to it. So we have sixty thousand thoughts per day,

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<v Speaker 1>and then ninety five percent of these sorts are repeated,

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<v Speaker 1>So we are just having the continual negative thoughts over

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<v Speaker 1>and over and over and over again until we either

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<v Speaker 1>believe them or we feel like we can't escape them,

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<v Speaker 1>or we feel like we're haunted by them, whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>might be. And if you're not combating that with any

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<v Speaker 1>positive thoughts or things that you're proud of, there is

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<v Speaker 1>no balance there. I mean, if you're looking at yourself

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<v Speaker 1>in the mirror and you're telling yourself day in day

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<v Speaker 1>out how you hate yourself, or you're continually just focusing

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<v Speaker 1>on the things you don't like. You never actually acknowledge

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<v Speaker 1>the things that you're proud of. You never acknowledge the

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<v Speaker 1>parts of your body, or the parts of your personality,

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<v Speaker 1>or the parts of your life that you are happy with,

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<v Speaker 1>that you are grateful for and that you do like.

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<v Speaker 1>You are just going to be living in this perpetually

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<v Speaker 1>negative environment in which no matter what you seem to

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<v Speaker 1>be doing, you're never going to be satisfied. You're never

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<v Speaker 1>going to be happy. So let's try and flip this

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<v Speaker 1>on its head and look at this as the positive

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<v Speaker 1>we have. The average person has sixty thousand thoughts per day.

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<v Speaker 1>The good news is they're on repeat. So if we

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<v Speaker 1>can turn those positive thoughts onto repeat instead of those

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<v Speaker 1>negative thoughts onto repeat, and we're having that many thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>per day, imagine how quickly the worm will turn as

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<v Speaker 1>we start to say nice things to ourself over and

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<v Speaker 1>over and over again. And it doesn't need to be

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<v Speaker 1>big things. It might be I look good in these jeans.

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<v Speaker 1>It might be I'm proud of myself because I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have any chocolate today. It might be I'm a good mum,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a good friend, I'm a good boss, I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>good work colleague, whatever, whatever is unique and personal to

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<v Speaker 1>your circumstance. Change the script, flip the script, start talking

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<v Speaker 1>nicely to yourself. Put that button on repeat, and I

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<v Speaker 1>promise you it'll make a difference. So today I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to give you a really simple piece of homework. Every

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<v Speaker 1>day for the next seven days, you need to wake

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<v Speaker 1>up and you need to look at yourself in the

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<v Speaker 1>mirror and you need to say just one thing positive

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<v Speaker 1>to yourself. It can be a physical thing. It can

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<v Speaker 1>be my family thing, it can be my job thing,

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<v Speaker 1>it can be my brain thing. Whatever you want it

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<v Speaker 1>to be. It can be completely personal to you. But

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<v Speaker 1>you need to wake up every morning for the next

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<v Speaker 1>seven days to stare at yourself in the mirror and

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<v Speaker 1>say one nice thing to yourself to start your day.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's all I want you to do for now.