WEBVTT - MINI: The Toxic Parenting Phrase Trend is surprisingly heartwarming

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<v Speaker 1>Hihart podcasts, Hear More Kiss podcast playlist, and listen live

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<v Speaker 1>on the free iHeart app. Now, Britt, have you seen

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<v Speaker 1>the trend that is currently going viral on TikTok and

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<v Speaker 1>it is parents quizzing their kids on really toxic sayings

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<v Speaker 1>that they probably heard when they were growing up, when

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<v Speaker 1>they were kids from their own parents.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I sort of not gonna lie. I have seen it,

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<v Speaker 3>but I usually scoop.

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<v Speaker 2>Past them because the kid content is not hugely.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not you, it's not in your sphere.

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<v Speaker 2>But I've seen them.

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<v Speaker 3>They're sort of like those scenes on like kids should

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<v Speaker 3>be seen and not heard.

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<v Speaker 2>It's that kind of stuff, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And you know what, I saw one of these

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<v Speaker 1>about two weeks ago, and it was the first one

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<v Speaker 1>that I saw, and the response was really really beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>from the little kid, and it was kind of this

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<v Speaker 1>gorgeous full circle moment from a mum who had obviously

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<v Speaker 1>had a really rough childhood, who had probably heard all

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<v Speaker 1>these things from her parents, and then she would say

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<v Speaker 1>the start of a really toxic sentence that we probably

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<v Speaker 1>have all heard growing up at some different point, and

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<v Speaker 1>then her child had to answer them. Have a little

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<v Speaker 1>listen to how this goes down. Children should be seen

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<v Speaker 1>and happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Go accent, Yeah, okay, I brought you into this world

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<v Speaker 2>from the hospital.

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<v Speaker 1>From the hospital.

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<v Speaker 2>And the other one is stop crying.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll give you kimmy.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, that's so sweet. It really is.

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<v Speaker 1>It is so sweet. Okay. So I want to read

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<v Speaker 1>you some of these other really toxic sayings that are

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like make up these viral clips. One of

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<v Speaker 1>them was I'm your parent, not your friend. Is the

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<v Speaker 1>answer to that?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I didn't even know what the answer maybe, and

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<v Speaker 2>you need to quiz me on me.

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<v Speaker 1>As long as you live under my roof, you will

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<v Speaker 1>follow my rules. But it says, you know, they let

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<v Speaker 1>the kids answer it. Another one is when you get

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<v Speaker 1>to the store, don't touch anything, which I think a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of parents probably still say to their kids.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that's toxic, breaking you bought it.

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<v Speaker 1>And the other one is just wait until your dad

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<v Speaker 1>gets it's home.

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<v Speaker 2>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of these are probably worse than others. I think

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<v Speaker 1>the one that everyone kind of knew where it was

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<v Speaker 1>going was I'll give you something to cry about. One

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that I have loved so deeply about

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<v Speaker 1>becoming a mom is how much it can heal your

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<v Speaker 1>inner child, how you get to parent in a way

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<v Speaker 1>that maybe wasn't exactly how you were parented, or you

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<v Speaker 1>learned from the lessons. And I tried to do this

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<v Speaker 1>with my kids. I didn't get the same outcome. Unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>now they didn't know the toxic sentences. But I asked Lola,

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<v Speaker 1>she understood the assignment. I asked Lola things like I

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<v Speaker 1>brought you into this world, and she would say so

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<v Speaker 1>that you can love me, or so that kids can

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<v Speaker 1>be loved. It was very sweet.

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<v Speaker 2>And I asked Marley the same ones.

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<v Speaker 1>And I said, I brought you into this world and

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<v Speaker 1>she said to buy me toys.

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<v Speaker 2>So goodwie. I really had a bit of a back

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<v Speaker 2>that kind of like spun around on me.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think it's really beautiful that sometimes we see

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<v Speaker 1>these trends and TikTok things and usually they're exploiting kids,

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<v Speaker 1>and this one just was a really beautiful, feel good moment.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I totally get some of those scenes that

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<v Speaker 3>they're problematic, but there are some of them that I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>that's fine, Like I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't see the big deal.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe that's because I grew up in a safe, loving home,

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<v Speaker 3>and so when they were said to me, they weren't

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<v Speaker 3>said with any maliciousness or violence or anger. I understand

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<v Speaker 3>it's probably dependent on the home that you've grown up in.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think your parents would have said children should

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<v Speaker 1>be seen and not hurt.

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<v Speaker 3>That they did say that the mum had four kids

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<v Speaker 3>about eighteen months apart, each single one and get out

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<v Speaker 3>of this, but she would.

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<v Speaker 2>Say it more like she would never say it, as

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<v Speaker 2>if we weren't allowed to speak.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was definitely a saying that was thrown around,

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<v Speaker 3>Hey if we were interrupting, Hey, kids, did it be.

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<v Speaker 2>See not heard? But it was more of a I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to say in Jess.

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<v Speaker 3>But Mum would have also said way too, father gets home,

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<v Speaker 3>But that was more because we took the piece a little.

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<v Speaker 2>Bit with Mum, like we pulled one over it. And

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<v Speaker 2>it was more because Dad was a disciplinarian.

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<v Speaker 3>We weren't like a smacking family or anything, but you

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<v Speaker 3>just knew that, like Dad was the one that set

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<v Speaker 3>the rules.

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<v Speaker 2>So we could sort of like poor Mum when.

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<v Speaker 3>I look back, like you're like, we really tortur like

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<v Speaker 3>we were hard on her.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of these are way worse than others. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think any kids should ever know the ending of a center.

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<v Speaker 1>I brought you into this world, so I can take

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<v Speaker 1>you out of it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's what I'm saying. Some of them, I totally get.

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<v Speaker 1>Others.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, we're being a bit like too much with it,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, Cotton dwol Well.

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<v Speaker 1>I just thought it was a really nice, feel good

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe if you guys want to check it out,

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<v Speaker 1>you can do it with your own kids and see

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<v Speaker 1>how well your parents do.