WEBVTT - 3. Kayla Itsines Uncut 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:24.120 Hey lover is Happy Tuesday, and welcome to a very 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:26.200 very special episode of Life Fine Part. 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:27.240 I'm your host. 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:30.400 Brittany and I'm Laura, and we are so chucked to 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:32.239 bring to you this episode today. We have such a 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:33.480 special guest in and Laura. 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:35.920 We don't really do guests often. We don't do a 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:39.520 lot of guests because we are all about quality over quantity, 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:43.000 and this guest today, she is like the Oprah of 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:43.920 the fitness world. 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:47.040 She's absolutely the Oprah. She was actually just named by 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:50.280 Forbes as the most influential fitness figure in the world. 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:52.680 Like that is huge. She's Oprah and she's just one 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:57.000 of the most positive, energetic and motivating people that we 0:00:57.080 --> 0:00:58.160 have ever come across. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.400 She's also just had a base baby, so you guys, baby. 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:05.679 Down, mum down hardcore in this episode, we truly did. 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:08.480 She has an online community of over forty million people. 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:10.480 There are forty million people in the world that go 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:11.520 to her for advice. 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:14.800 So we are so excited to introduce to you, Kayla. 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:26.679 It's Zina's Kayla. Welcome to Life Uncut. How are you? 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:27.600 Oh great? 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:28.279 How are you guys? 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:30.319 Look it's been a hot minute. I actually almost just 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:31.520 caught us ask uncut. 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:33.839 We've both been off on holiday for a little while, 0:01:33.959 --> 0:01:36.640 so you're actually our first person back. 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:38.320 So congratulation, motivation. 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:41.280 You are around motivation. We are back in the studio, 0:01:41.400 --> 0:01:43.920 but we're so happy to have you, and we both 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:48.240 have our own Kayla BBG experiences. I myself, wonder yell, 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:51.320 I myself. When we were in the Batch mansion, one 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:53.680 of the girls, Kobe ap, brought in a full folder 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:56.840 of all your workout oh my, which may be a 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.720 little bit naughty that she printed them all off, but 0:01:58.760 --> 0:02:00.160 we need them every day. 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:03.080 Oh yeah, you literally just said that. One person bought 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:04.840 it and then the rest of you basically used it 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:05.279 for free. 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.080 But we didn't take them home. 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:11.120 We just we did group workout exercises together and I 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:12.239 freaking love them. 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.440 Free advertising guys. 0:02:14.000 --> 0:02:16.200 That's exactly right. So I actually went on this huge 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:18.200 around the world tree with my sister. We're both really 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.080 into fitness. We went for three years and we're like, 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.280 what are we going to do for three years? So 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:27.600 we also bought your Bikini Bodyguide. Oh and you said 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:29.560 that all the time and only probably still put on 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:30.680 five killers. 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:33.360 Kayla. We just wanted to bring you back to just 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:36.240 before you started BBG. What was your life like then, 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:38.360 what were you doing with yourself and where did the 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:39.399 inspiration come from? 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:41.040 So I was a trainer. I've been a trainer for 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:43.960 ten years. So as soon as I could out of school, 0:02:44.000 --> 0:02:45.840 I did a personal training course. I actually went to 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:47.840 university and studied to be I wanted to be a 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:50.320 pe teacher. So I always had fitness in mind and 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:52.600 I did personal training and I did that up to 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:56.160 when I met Toby, who then after a while realized that, 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:57.880 you know, we were both doing really well as trainers, 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:01.639 and we had Instagram and people were following the account 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:04.040 and we're just asking can we train with you? And 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:06.200 so Toby said, look, unfortunately no, but because we were 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:08.280 working really close to we still work closer together, but 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.440 we were both trainers at the time. And he said, 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:14.000 unfortunately no, but perhaps maybe a guide And I said, 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:14.679 no way. 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:17.280 Did you you vetoed that? 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:19.160 Yep? I was like, no way, No one will be 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:21.840 interested in that. No one's gonna buy it. Like I mean, 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:23.680 I want to help people, but I just don't think 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:25.200 that a guid Like I want to be able to 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:26.519 be there and I can't be there. 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:28.920 Also, I guess it's probably a little bit intimidating to 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:31.079 think that you have the authority to put it out 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:34.280 there and tell people on such a mass scale how 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:36.640 to exercise and what to do. So what was it 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:38.120 that got you over the line that you were like, Okay, 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:39.960 this sounds like a good idea because it was very 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:40.880 ahead of the times. 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:43.480 Yeah, I guess it was. I think Toby really Like 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:45.600 Toby convinced me I'm not gonna lie and say like 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:47.800 I had some big idea and it was my Like, 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:50.320 it was all my idea and I planned this. I didn't. 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:53.280 Toby was like, just please, He's like, you can't keep responding. No, 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:54.720 it's very unprofessional, Like. 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:56.840 You reply to those emails. 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.080 He was like you because I was giving up my 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:00.800 phone number and I was honestly saying, if you ever 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:02.880 in Adelaide, like, here's my number, like come for a 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:05.320 training session. He's like, it will take us an hour 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:06.800 to take a couple of photos and put it in 0:04:06.800 --> 0:04:08.960 a guide. And I was like, okay, well didn't take 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:11.400 an hour. It took weeks. The guys that you printed 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:13.720 out that you're just talking about, that's what we did 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:16.719 on a white piece of paper. Yeah, it available to women. 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:19.279 It's amazing how much it's kind of organically grown. But 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:21.400 I mean it doesn't organically grow like you've hustled this 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:23.159 hard to be able to get to a point now. 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.880 But you have a mass such an incredible following. Eleven 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:29.400 point nine million people on Instagram watch what you do 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:32.159 and are engaged in the information that you're putting out. 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:35.279 Do you feel that there is this immense responsibility to 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:37.960 the community that you're creating and to the information that 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:38.720 you put out there. 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:42.000 Yes, I feel I don't. A lot of people ask 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:43.520 me if I feel pressure. The answer is not a 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.800 fee pressure, But I do feel responsibility massively. So I 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:51.080 more than ever now understand how women feel, especially post 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:54.040 pregnancy and as a beginner. So yes, I do feel 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:56.279 that huge responsibility to be able to help them and 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:58.200 give them the right information and the tools that they need. 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:01.440 You and Toby obviously got together as just trainers at 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:05.280 the same gym, and so you have always worked with Toby. Yes, 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:09.320 what's it like to work and live and travel and 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:11.360 do every second of every day with your partner? Because 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:12.640 I feel like there's a line that a lot of 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:14.280 people don't want to cross, and that I don't want 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:16.039 to go to work with their partner, But how do 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:16.839 you guys manage that? 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:20.080 So what people think and what actually happens is two 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:21.840 different things. So me and Toby don't actually see each 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.240 other during the day, so we're in We're okay. So yes, 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:29.680 this makes sense now normal, So there is no I 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:31.800 do not train with Toby. I do not work in 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:34.320 the same office as Toby. I do not see Toby 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:38.000 from probably seven am to six pm. So we had 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.800 two different areas of the business. We stick to it. 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:42.719 We stand our lane and the reason we're still together. 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:46.680 I love him, but to work with him on the 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:50.080 same desk, to train with him to yet no, No, 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:53.320 I love you, but so did you ever do that though? 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.280 Starting out at the beginning? Was that what it was like? 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:59.040 So Toby, Toby's very tech sabby, he's very business minded. 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:01.120 He is he is a heart of gold. And I 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:04.679 was always the trainer. I was responsible for the community. 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:06.840 I was out doing the boot camps. You asked me 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:08.400 how to code and app I have no idea. That's 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:08.880 to Tooby. 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:11.400 So because we do have a very much a relationship 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:14.320 slant on this podcast, how do you deal with conflict? 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:17.800 Resolution within your relationship to go from business issues to 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.120 relationship issues and how do you separate the two and 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:22.000 be like cool, that was work, but you need to 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:23.919 get home and do the dishes and change this goddamn happy. 0:06:24.040 --> 0:06:27.640 Absolutely, so we actually had to really work on this, 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:29.480 and we actually sat down, and this has been the 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:31.400 best thing that's ever happened to a relationship. I don't 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:32.520 know if as a guy, if it's just a guy, 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:34.680 I think it was just a toby thing. He was 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.880 really found it really difficult to say how he feels. 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:40.000 So he would say, that's a guy, he would give 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:42.200 a statement, but he wouldn't say I feel So I said, 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:44.040 how about we just sit down and you say, actually, 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.080 how you feel not a statement? And then I'll sit 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:49.320 down and say this is work related and I feel blah. 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:50.920 And that's been the best thing that's ever happened to 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.760 a relationships. So we always start with and it sounds silly, 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:55.800 but it's worked. It's like, okay, so this is a 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.680 work thing. I feel like I don't really like the 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:00.919 color of this. I really want to change it. And 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:03.120 he's like, okay, well I feel like blah and like 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:05.160 and then we and then I'm like, okay, this is 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.159 an honor thing. So we sort of like who's always 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:08.800 like here's a subject title and this. 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:11.520 But I really like that because I think otherwise things 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:14.000 just become super muddy and then you end up having 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:16.559 fights that kind of drag in from your personal life 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:19.120 into your work life and you just don't have any 0:07:19.160 --> 0:07:21.440 clear separation. Yeah, sometimes you're like, I'm not giving you 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:24.960 this criticism because because I want to hurt your feelings. 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:26.760 It's actually got nothing to do with your feelings. I'm 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:29.200 giving you this because we need to get the job done. 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:31.400 Yes, And Toby is the CEO of the business, so 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:33.760 like he has to pull me aside sometimes like this 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:36.960 was maybe not now because you know, like more experience, 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:38.560 but back in the day he'd pull me aside and 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:43.040 say this, you can't say this, or oh god, and 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:45.240 then it would be like this awkward tension. But now 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.320 it's just yet so you need to get for seven years, 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:48.120 here's the question. 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:51.640 You're sitting down and you're talking about your feelings and 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:53.880 you're saying, I don't like this, and he says, well, 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:54.560 I don't like this. 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:56.680 Who overrules? 0:07:56.840 --> 0:07:58.720 Who gets the final say? And says this is the 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:01.320 way we're doing it, it's whoever makes the most sense, 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:04.360 whoever's got the vocabulary that day. 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:07.520 We're both very logical people, so like it's sort of yeah, 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:09.640 it is. It's whoever makes the most sense and whoever 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:11.400 has the best argument. Then the other person sort of 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.160 just has to be like, okay, all right, I get it, 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:17.640 or what about if you don't like this? Can I 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:19.600 do this instead? He's like, yeah, absolutely. I'm like, all right, well, 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:20.240 I'm happy with that. 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:22.800 I know in our household, I do the majority share 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:24.920 of the night shifts with our baby, and so I 0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:26.200 never make sense anymore. 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:28.800 But I'm still right because I do the majority of 0:08:28.800 --> 0:08:30.360 the night share absolutely. 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:33.200 In your relationship, who's doing the nighttimes with Anna? 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:33.680 Me? 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:34.520 Yeah? 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:35.520 Girlfriends me. 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.280 I feel like in that situation, though obviously I don't 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:40.560 have a baby, I can't comment, but I'm gonna comment anyway, 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:43.160 come at me. That's what I do. You guys pushed 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:45.440 a baby out of your vagina and you carried it 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:48.719 for nine months. You guys get the say, right, thank you? Yeah? 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:51.040 Yeah, that's I need you in you know. 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.000 What, I'm going to be that mum because when you're 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:54.920 really tired, you want to take it out on your 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:56.600 partner and be like, I'm so tired and you could 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:59.000 have stayed up. But then I get jealous when he 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:01.280 he's like, oh, she was really great, Like maybe like 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.360 this some time he's like little bit, He's like, yeah, 0:09:03.360 --> 0:09:05.640 she was perfect, or he will say, oh, she didn't 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:07.000 do that when I was with her. I'm like, oh 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:08.000 my god, It's. 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:10.040 So true, isn't it. Like, and I get so jealous 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:13.319 when I'm awake with Marley May and Matt's just sleeping 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:15.719 and I'm sitting there watching him sleep, and then he 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:17.880 wakes up in the morning and goes, how was she, babe? 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:21.319 Was she great? And I'm like, I hate you. 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.559 If they also say you could have asked me for help. 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:26.480 Oh, I was like, you know, if she was crying, 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:28.439 you rolled over, I don't tell me. 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:30.520 I should have to ask you. 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:31.400 You know, you should just know. 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:32.760 That's oh my god. 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.640 Okay, back on topic, guys, how do you deal with failure? 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:39.080 Because someone who has created such a successful business, I'm 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.280 sure that you have seen your fair share of the 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.240 ups and downs of what that throws at you, and 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:44.480 how do you deal with it. 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:47.720 In terms of business? I'm gonna sort of talk my 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:50.200 talk the business up a little bit here, because we're 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:53.000 catering to what people need constantly and never we've never 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:54.760 done anything that people have been like, oh, like, I 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.640 hate that. So what we do as a business, and 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.160 because it's health and fitness, is we ask people what 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:02.720 do you want, and then we take on board what 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:04.720 they want and then we can give it to them. 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:06.600 So there's never been a time. The only time that 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:08.679 there has ever been something that we were like, oh 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:10.880 oh is when we transition from ebook to app because 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:12.360 we had no idea how to build an app. Yeah, 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:14.480 crash Bane crash Bane crash, and we're like, Okay, how 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:15.840 do we fix this? It's not as easy as just 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:17.200 putting a pdf online. 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:18.959 So it's not failure, but it's just like, I guess 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:20.360 a learning curve or have You've just been like one 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.160 of those really lucky people that have just nailed it 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:22.760 from the beginning. 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:26.040 I think I'm because I'm highlighting the success of other women, 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:28.000 and I'm focusing on other women. It's nothing to do 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:29.560 with me. So I've never done anything where I've been 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:31.640 like oh, like damn, like why did I do that? 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.640 It's always you know, look at this girl look at 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:35.079 what she's done, or look at this mom and look 0:10:35.080 --> 0:10:37.200 at what she's done. I've never I've not experienced that. 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:40.480 The only time I felt like I struggled is just 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.360 in my own personal journey returning back to fitness. I 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:45.559 was a trainer and then getting back into the gym 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:46.720 and not being able to do one thing. I just 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:48.400 felt like, was that my career done? 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:52.160 What I'm excited to talk to you about babies, congratulations. 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:54.720 Now when I see and meet other moms, I am 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:57.760 so excited because I just know how fundamentally my life 0:10:57.760 --> 0:10:59.800 has changed in every aspect and it makes me so 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.280 ha So not to put that on you, I'm sure 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:04.720 you're just as happy as well. Actually, but how has 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:07.880 your life changed since you had your baby? In every 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:09.120 single way? 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:10.880 Every single way said to my mom, and I know 0:11:10.960 --> 0:11:13.720 every single mom listening to this will say this, and 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:15.760 they think this is just like, what did you do before? 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:19.800 How much spare time did you have? Because I have 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:21.760 Anna now and that's all I think about. That My 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:25.000 life revolves around her, rolls around her schedule, what she eating, 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:26.760 what she doing, and she breathing, oh my God, like 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:29.920 it's just constant, and that my life has changed completely 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:31.440 for the better. I'm obsessed. 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:32.800 I used to think I would never be one of 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:34.559 those mums who'd be like, oh, you want to see 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:36.440 photos of my child. I know you didn't ask you. 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:41.080 Sorry that I've had my phone storage. Going back to 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:44.240 your the beginning of your pregnancy, like what was pregnancy 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:44.839 like for you? 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:48.439 So happy and safe to say. I did not enjoy pregnancy, 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:50.320 and just I thought I would. And you know what, 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:52.800 I got this false like hope because so many people 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:54.880 came up to me. They're like, you're so lucky because 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:57.280 you know what, You've set yourself up. You're fit, you're strong, 0:11:57.520 --> 0:11:59.679 eat healthy, like you're gonna have the best pregnancy. You're 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.320 just gonna out. I was like yes, and then I 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:07.120 was like no. I literally remember crawling on my hands 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:09.720 and knees to the bathroom, like I literally couldn't stand up, 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:13.280 and someone said to me. It was my mum's friend. 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:17.600 She said, look, after twelve weeks, it goes after twelve weeks, 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:20.079 thirteen weeks, fourteen weeks, please stop. And then as soon 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:23.720 as the morning sickness sort of stopped, I got reflux, 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:26.800 and then the reflux was so bad that I got restless. 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:28.560 Leg where it's the most uncomfortable. You can't sit, you 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:30.960 can't stand, you can't sleep, and then I got sciatic 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:32.760 nerve paints. It was just one thing after the other. 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:34.679 I was like, just let me enjoy it, Like I 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:36.200 look great, Like let. 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:38.600 Me I liked my friends in the park. 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.000 I looked it, I look awesome, but I just felt 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:41.920 so crappy. 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:43.959 But that's also nice, I think for a lot of 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:47.000 people to hear, because Instagram, obviously is this place that 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:49.400 we all put our best foot forward, and it's a 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.520 highlight reel obviously, but I think there are a lot 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:53.160 of women out there that want to hear that. They 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:54.960 want to know that it wasn't a walk in the 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:58.320 park and someone like you, who was you know, at 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:01.520 your peak fitness, still strug and hated every second. 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:04.120 Yeah, and you can only give so much on Instagram, 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:06.640 Like people don't read your caption, so I remember, like 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:08.800 I'm being like ladies, like I never do this, but 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:10.120 like I actually need your help, Like I have the 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:13.120 worst reflux. Like someone helped me. This lady wrote have 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.360 you tried fruit tingles? Yeah? 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:15.840 I love them? 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:19.080 Yeah? Did you do a reflux? Shut up? Yeah? 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:21.560 Oh my god. If you're listening and have reflux, get 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:22.280 on the fruit tingle. 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:23.240 Shut up. 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:23.640 Yeh. 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:26.400 I was drinking like bicarb soda mixed with water and 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:30.360 no wonder you felt sick. Yeah, but it worked, but 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:34.199 it was awful. But I totally relate to what you've 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:37.360 just said because I kind of always had the opposite spectrum, 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:39.400 And not to gloat about having a great pregnancy, because 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.320 I did have lots of bits and pieces that like, 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:43.720 I also had sciatica and like all the fun stuff, 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:47.400 But I was so over prepared to hate it because 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:49.520 I had so many people tell me how shit it 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:51.920 is being pregnant that I was like, well, we're in 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:54.679 for a real doozy here. And then I was pleasantly 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:59.600 surprised that I didn't have the intensity of the difficult 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.320 times other people have when they're pregnant. So I do 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:05.760 think that other people's expectations can really shape and form 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:09.360 how you end up feeling towards a situation, especially something 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.600 like pregnancy, where every single person's journey is so different, 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:14.000 so you kind of get to the end of it 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.960 and you're like, stop giving me advice because you don't 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:19.280 know how I feel right now, because mine is different 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:19.800 to yours. 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:22.160 And that was that was the one. The biggest thing 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.960 that I guess I disliked was the opinions, opinions and 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:26.360 so many opinions, and you need to do this and 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:27.960 you need to do that. And then it was also Greek, 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:29.680 so I also had the old Greek ladies with all 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:31.600 the Greek myths. So don't kiss so fat because you'll 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:35.560 never walk. Please stop, please just stop, leave me alone, Like. 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:38.840 Wait, why who was kissing your feet? Also as well? 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:44.920 But I was kissing my feet. This is cute. Don't 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:47.200 kiss artist feet because you'll never walk, That's what people. 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:50.920 I literally put the entire foot in my mouth and 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.440 I suck on it well because it's just we're just 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:57.320 like you just want to eat, Like I stick a 0:14:57.320 --> 0:14:59.160 whole cheek in my mouth, and then I realized, I'm 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:04.280 like sucker fishing a and she's just there, like what. 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:06.720 You were saying. Post pregnancy, you thought it was gonna 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:09.040 be bad. When I had Anna, I was told by 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:10.600 my mom, She's like, she's gonna be like you, and 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:12.800 you better be prepared because you had the worst reflux 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:15.280 and you had colleague and you. So I was so 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:17.880 prepared that when I came out, I was like, ah, 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:21.320 it was amazing, but my homewores hit me like I 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.600 cannot even explain, like a truck. And I was fine 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:26.640 for four days. I was like ha ha, like baby 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:28.840 blues don't exist like and I got home and I 0:15:28.840 --> 0:15:31.400 was like, I can't breathe like I usually can't breathe. 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:33.840 Yeah, you come down like a sack, like absolute sack 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:36.880 of shit, don't you, Because it's you're on this elated high, 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:40.280 this feeling of complete like an utter endorphin rush that 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:42.840 you get straight after birth, and then it's only got 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:44.880 to go somewhere. I can't stay there forever. Can you 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:46.840 tell the biggest come down in your life? 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:49.000 Tell someone like me who has not had a child, 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:52.480 and all of our listeners, no, because I think this 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:55.560 is important to talk about too. When you say that 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:58.280 when you got home you couldn't breathe, was that because 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:02.240 of things like you were thinking about her in terms 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:03.880 of oh is she still breathing? And was it an 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:05.720 anxious thing for her? Or were you just like, what 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:08.320 have I done? My life has changed aspect? 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:11.880 Nothing nothing to do with that. So what happens is is, yes, 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:14.560 like you said, those hormones that they have to go somewhere. 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.560 So what happens is one drops down and one kicks 0:16:16.560 --> 0:16:20.160 in to produce milk. And as that happens, you literally 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.560 your body like takes over you. So you start crying 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:25.840 about nothing, like I don't know, so this this is 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:27.640