Speaker 1: Hey, guys, and welcome back to actually a very very
Speaker 1: very special episode of Life on CUD.
Speaker 2: I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and.
Speaker 1: It is special because it is our last episode of
Speaker 1: the year, guys, our last episode of twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: Merry Christmas, Happy Years, Sydney. What the fuck is going on?
Speaker 2: And we're sorry, what is happening right now?
Speaker 3: The world is on fire and everything's going to shit
Speaker 3: in the hand basketball.
Speaker 1: Once again, it just sucks like we just as Australia
Speaker 1: as a whole, we almost got to the point where
Speaker 1: we were leading the world in beating coronavirus and then
Speaker 1: I feel like it is imploded. In the last week.
Speaker 1: Everyone's Christmas plans have gone out the window. Everyone's in
Speaker 1: panic mode. There's no toilet paper again. I don't know
Speaker 1: why people keep buying so much toilet paper. COVID doesn't
Speaker 1: make you shit yourself.
Speaker 2: We're in Sydney, We're in that.
Speaker 1: We're in the hotspot, Guy in the center, We're in
Speaker 1: the red zone. I mean, we discussed this earlier in
Speaker 1: the year about the whole toilet paper thing. You're at home,
Speaker 1: you don't need toilet paper. You can get in the shower,
Speaker 1: It's fine.
Speaker 3: There's lots of other options when you need to wipe
Speaker 3: your backside. If you don't have any hundred.
Speaker 1: Percent, if you've got a backyarden, you've got a hose,
Speaker 1: you're good. I actually don't understand why, Like it is
Speaker 1: perplexing the panic that happens with the toilet paper.
Speaker 3: I'm more upset about the panic that's happening around the
Speaker 3: groceries because even though I'm going to be spending Christmas
Speaker 3: this year now just mat me and Molly a tiny
Speaker 3: little Christmas, which is what we do every single night.
Speaker 2: Of the week, It's going to be great.
Speaker 4: I'm just more.
Speaker 3: Upset that, like all the Christmas foods now have been
Speaker 3: totally bought out from the shops. But anyway, look, guys,
Speaker 3: if you have been affected by what's happening in Sydney
Speaker 3: and by the most recent hotspot Corona cases, then we
Speaker 3: just want to say that we are absolutely thinking of you.
Speaker 1: I guess the only saving grace is, guys, that we're
Speaker 1: all in it together. So many of our plans got canceled. Laura,
Speaker 1: I know you've had like two plans canceled. You're gonna
Speaker 1: go up to the Gold Coast and then you're gonna
Speaker 1: go see your parents, and there's a lot that's happened
Speaker 1: your end. I was gonna be going up to the
Speaker 1: Gold Coast and I was going to Perth. That's all canceled.
Speaker 1: I really feel for everyone that last minute has had
Speaker 1: that cut and taken away from them, and now you're
Speaker 1: facing the prospect of maybe being alone or maybe not
Speaker 1: being with all of your family. So we do want
Speaker 1: to just say, you know, like our thoughts are with you,
Speaker 1: and there's a lot of people in the same boat,
Speaker 1: so try to take something from that too, that you're
Speaker 1: not alone and there are a lot of people there
Speaker 1: that you can reach out to as well.
Speaker 3: I was just gonna say it's the most like ironic
Speaker 3: end to twenty twenty. Like, of course twenty twenty was
Speaker 3: like hah, but wait, I got something at my sleep
Speaker 3: Fully I'm.
Speaker 1: Going to start your year on fire, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: end it with you alone for Christmas, bitch. I'm like,
Speaker 1: come on, like, what else could happen?
Speaker 3: Actually, I was reading this very satirical, slightly depressing post
Speaker 3: that was put up by board Panda. I'm just gonna
Speaker 3: like paraphrase a few of twenty twenties highlights and this episode, guys,
Speaker 3: like just so you know what we're doing, what we're
Speaker 3: talking about, who we are, Well, my name is Laura,
Speaker 3: this is Brittany. We are rehashing twenty twenty a little bit,
Speaker 3: well not really rehashing chans to wrap up. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: we also wanted to talk about like our resolutions, what
Speaker 3: we did for our first episode back this year, and
Speaker 3: how we spoke about our resolutions and what we really wanted.
Speaker 1: For the year. Did we achieve our resolutions from last year.
Speaker 1: We're going to discuss that.
Speaker 3: And then also we thought we would give you your accidentally
Speaker 3: unfiltereds because we know that you love that. We would
Speaker 3: never do a final episode without a few absolute pearls
Speaker 3: for you. And then we're going to do and ask
Speaker 3: uncut sections. We really wanted to make this final episode
Speaker 3: a little bit from all of our favorite episodes for
Speaker 3: you and just a nice kind of roundup on the year.
Speaker 3: So tell me about this article. Okay, so the article
Speaker 3: you got so sidetracked. The article really highlighted what twenty
Speaker 3: twenty has been, but Australia basically burnt to the ground.
Speaker 3: Then Trump starched some Iranian general with a drone which
Speaker 3: almost led to World War three. Then someone made a
Speaker 3: fucking bat, then the economy almost collapsed, Prince Harry and
Speaker 3: Megan renounced their royalty.
Speaker 1: Well, this is a lot for twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: This is just January, of course it is, and that
Speaker 3: as we all know, we had the massive Black Lives
Speaker 3: Matters movement, which the riots and the protests in and
Speaker 3: of themselves were so powerful. But the starting point of
Speaker 3: that and what was posted on social media and George
Speaker 3: Floyd what happened to him, Like, there's just been so
Speaker 3: many huge pivotal things that have happened in twenty twenty,
Speaker 3: none of them have being particularly positive.
Speaker 2: Still trying to find the highlight.
Speaker 3: We've got a couple sucks here, guys, many sweets. I
Speaker 3: know that a lot of us are living in this
Speaker 3: fantasy world that's like twenty twenty one, the first of
Speaker 3: January is going to hit and where we're all going
Speaker 3: to be just thrown into this new world. I think
Speaker 3: this is probably going to continue into the new year
Speaker 3: a little bit. Let's embrace ourselves. But I am very
Speaker 3: much looking forward to putting this year behind me, as
Speaker 3: I'm sure a lot of you are as well, and
Speaker 3: that's going to bring us to talking about our resolutions
Speaker 3: for twenty twenty one and how they're going to differ,
Speaker 3: because I think there's a lot of things. I think
Speaker 3: a lot of people's resolutions, A lot of the things
Speaker 3: we wanted to achieve from last year, we're not going
Speaker 3: to do that anymore. Everything's going to change because a
Speaker 3: lot of them would have been about traveling or going
Speaker 3: overseas or studying new businesses.
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of things we have to
Speaker 1: step back and reassess because of what a ship fight
Speaker 1: twenty twenty has been in. But I also think that's
Speaker 1: a really interesting chat. So we're gonna get into that later.
Speaker 1: But first I want to tell you something, please.
Speaker 3: I really love We've been doing this for so long now,
Speaker 3: but I really love that, like you don't tell me
Speaker 3: things throughout the week because you specifically want to save
Speaker 3: it to tell me.
Speaker 2: Live whilst recording.
Speaker 3: I wanted to get the most raw and unfiltered reactions.
Speaker 3: I went out on the weekend, and I want to
Speaker 3: put me into premature labor I do.
Speaker 1: I went out on the weekend, and I'm so glad
Speaker 1: I did, because it turns out it was like the
Speaker 1: first time of twenty twenty that I went out dancing,
Speaker 1: and without me knowing, it became the last time that
Speaker 1: I'll be going out dancing anyway. I had the best
Speaker 1: time I've went out with a few girlfriends. We went
Speaker 1: to dinner, then we went out to this club and
Speaker 1: I had the best time. But I got into a fight.
Speaker 1: I got into a fight with a guy. And you
Speaker 1: guys know, I'm I am a lover, not a hater.
Speaker 1: It takes a lot to push my buttons. I'm going
Speaker 1: to wind back to the beginning. I went to a restaurant,
Speaker 1: an Italian restaurant, just three of us total. We sat
Speaker 1: down and they sat us next to a table of
Speaker 1: about ten guys. The guys were pretty cute, and I
Speaker 1: was like bingo, Like yes, so the guy that I
Speaker 1: was seated next to, because I was on the edge
Speaker 1: of my table and he was the edge on his head,
Speaker 1: but he was really cute.
Speaker 2: And you were like, can we please skip straight to desert?
Speaker 1: Well, we're only about half a meter away from each other.
Speaker 1: And as soon as we sit down, you can feel
Speaker 1: them looking at us. You can film getting excited. I'm
Speaker 1: talking at seven o'clock. It's not late they're not drunk.
Speaker 3: What do you mean you can feel them getting excited. Oh,
Speaker 3: you can just take a lot of boaters happening under
Speaker 3: the table. Yeah, the energy really shifted.
Speaker 2: It lifted by about six inches.
Speaker 1: They straight away like said hello to us, and we're
Speaker 1: like hey, like, how are you like great like? And
Speaker 1: they're like, wow, yeah, you must have asked to be
Speaker 1: seated next to the greatest people here.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 1: They just started just like how fun and flirting and
Speaker 1: I was like, cute. My friends were like that. One
Speaker 1: next year was really cute, and I was like, I know.
Speaker 1: Then after about five minutes, I glanced down under the table.
Speaker 1: He had no ring on. He was clearly flirting with me,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my gosh, like this could
Speaker 1: be something really cute and organic.
Speaker 3: I still thought you were gonna say a glance under
Speaker 3: the table and yeah, but then I knew that I
Speaker 3: had it with the chance the combination.
Speaker 1: Of no ring and a boner, and I knew I
Speaker 1: was in so anyway, he had no ring. They started
Speaker 1: to flirt with us, and his opening kind of like
Speaker 1: aligned to me was I had this white shirt on
Speaker 1: and it had really big, flared like long sleeves, and
Speaker 1: we're each Italian. So he looks at me and he's like,
Speaker 1: do you want me to roll your sleeves up for you?
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, that'd be great because I
Speaker 1: can't eat my food. So I held my hand down,
Speaker 1: he rolled my sleeves up. We had a moment. It
Speaker 1: was really cute. He was like, you know, taking his time,
Speaker 1: and he's like, how am I doing? Like do you
Speaker 1: think I'm gonna keeper kind of thing? So flirty. The
Speaker 1: girls were like, I think this is gonna be a thing.
Speaker 1: I was getting really like great, kept flirting, they bought
Speaker 1: a shots, and it was the most organic thing that
Speaker 1: has happened to me all of twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: Are we talking about the guy? Are we talking about
Speaker 3: the food?
Speaker 4: The guy? The chat?
Speaker 1: It was so easy. He was so hot. He was
Speaker 1: my type.
Speaker 3: So he was wearing a turtle neck and he doesn't
Speaker 3: know how hot he is.
Speaker 1: He had no idea. However, Actually that's that's like my
Speaker 1: most quoted line of twenty twenty when we had to
Speaker 1: look back. He doesn't even know how hot it is. Anyway,
Speaker 1: So they have to leave before us, because obviously, you
Speaker 1: know how you get these two hour bookings. So my
Speaker 1: guy who had been floating for ages passed me over
Speaker 1: a piece of paper with his number on it and
Speaker 1: a smiling face, and it was really cute. Now they
Speaker 1: weren't going yet, they were still packing up. He put
Speaker 1: his number over and he's like call us later, like
Speaker 1: maybe meet up with us. We've got a table, and
Speaker 1: I was like cute. And then my girlfriend Kim, she
Speaker 1: took the number and she's like, I'm just gonna call
Speaker 1: it to see if he answers now, and I was like,
Speaker 1: why would he be giving us a bump stair. She's
Speaker 1: like I don't know. She's like something just seems not right.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, a table of guys flirting with girls
Speaker 1: and they give us their number, what's not right? And
Speaker 1: she's like, so she dialed his number while I was
Speaker 1: still sitting there that he had just given us, and
Speaker 1: his phone didn't light up, and I was like yeah,
Speaker 1: I was like, that's weird. Anyway, she was like, well,
Speaker 1: they're leading us bumpsty and they get up to go
Speaker 1: and I just called him out and I was like wait.
Speaker 1: He's like, well, like why did you give me a
Speaker 1: fake a number? And he's like what And I was like,
Speaker 1: I just called this number and you didn't answer, so like,
Speaker 1: don't like I know that you just gave me a
Speaker 1: fake a number and I couldn't understand. And he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't. My phone's about to die. This is Brad's number.
Speaker 1: Another guy and I was like, oh, totally fair, makes sense.
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, so just call us. I just didn't
Speaker 1: want you to call me later. And my phone was dead.
Speaker 1: I was like, see him. I was like, you're overreacting.
Speaker 1: Everything's fine. We go to another bar and we start
Speaker 1: to get hit on by this group of twenty year
Speaker 1: old boys. It was the worst experience of my life.
Speaker 1: So we left. I was like, it was like, you
Speaker 1: know what they said to us, I'm not kidding. This
Speaker 1: was their conversation starter, So what do you think about
Speaker 1: pineapple and pizza? And I was like I'm out. I
Speaker 1: was like, this is I cannot have this conversa.
Speaker 2: I need to elevate the chat. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Anyone this online dating, you know that that is like
Speaker 1: the most hated question that anyone starts. If you're a
Speaker 1: girl and you're opening with that line, I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: you some advice. Stop that.
Speaker 3: We go someone walking up to you in a bar
Speaker 3: and being like, hey, two truths, one lie, and you're.
Speaker 2: Like, we don't real life.
Speaker 1: You don't do that real life in RL anyway, So
Speaker 1: we get it. We weren't even gonna meet the guys
Speaker 1: because they were going into the city. Then Kim, who
Speaker 1: pranked the guy, gets a message from them because they're
Speaker 1: obviously still chasing us up. This is a few hours later,
Speaker 1: and they're like, hey, we've got another table back where
Speaker 1: you guys are in the east. Come every It'll be
Speaker 1: the greatest night. Everything's free, because like they're already paid
Speaker 1: for the table.
Speaker 4: Great.
Speaker 1: We're like, you know what, They've come all the way back.
Speaker 1: They're pushing for us to come. They're obviously came let's
Speaker 1: go and meet them, and.
Speaker 2: You're like, this is my soulmate, so understanding to go.
Speaker 1: I was like, this is my soulmate. We got along
Speaker 1: so well, it was natural, and I was like I've
Speaker 1: got to give it a go. And guys, as an update,
Speaker 1: he didn't have a turtle neck on, so I was
Speaker 1: like one red flag down. So we go into this
Speaker 1: club and it's just so much fun. We're all dancing.
Speaker 1: My guy is really really flirty. I'm like a teenager.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I got like the butterflies, and I was like,
Speaker 1: this is how it's supposed to be, Like I have
Speaker 1: missed this for all of twenty twenty. He starts like
Speaker 1: dancing with me for a while, then he starts kissing me.
Speaker 1: We're making out on the dance floor. We're having the
Speaker 1: best time. I felt like I was young, like young,
Speaker 1: and I spent twenty twenty in scrubs with COVID patients,
Speaker 1: Like I just felt like, this is how my life
Speaker 1: should be, out meeting people naturally having fun. He's like,
Speaker 1: you are so beautiful. It's like I just when you
Speaker 1: walked in and you were sat next to me, I
Speaker 1: was just like this was meant to be, Like you
Speaker 1: were meant to sit next to me. He's like, you
Speaker 1: didn't hesitate when I started to talk to you. You
Speaker 1: had the banter back. You're funny. He's like, I haven't
Speaker 1: stopped thinking about you all night. I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I've got a boyfriend.
Speaker 4: I was like, this is so great.
Speaker 3: I'm already trying to pick the threadf and like, what
Speaker 3: has this guy done? Why do I hate him? Why
Speaker 3: are we going to find him? In Eggy's house?
Speaker 1: Well, I was thinking, this is it. The girls were
Speaker 1: like this is crazy that. Like my friends were like,
Speaker 1: this is crazy. And my other friend, one of the
Speaker 1: other girls I was with, was like interested in one
Speaker 1: of the other guys, and she had been interested since
Speaker 1: she saw him. They had been talking all night, they'd
Speaker 1: started making out on their own little like.
Speaker 3: It was just I'm getting the feeling that everyone was
Speaker 3: thinking this is crazy.
Speaker 4: It was so prettyly.
Speaker 1: So she was making out with this guy, and she
Speaker 1: was really keen on because she's been seeing a long
Speaker 1: time as well. Anyway, We're sitting down and then I
Speaker 1: looked down at my watch to look at the time,
Speaker 1: and I realized my watch has stopped. So I say
Speaker 1: to him, do you know what the timing is? My
Speaker 1: watch has stopped? Without thinking because he's been drinking, he
Speaker 1: pulls out his phone to check time, and on his
Speaker 1: phone I see a photo of him and a woman
Speaker 1: with his arm around her, very romantic photo in the sunset,
Speaker 1: and I just looked at it, and he clocked that
Speaker 1: I had seen that, threw his phone back in, gave
Speaker 1: me the drink, and he was like, do you want
Speaker 1: to go dance again? And I was like, what was that?
Speaker 1: On your phone?
Speaker 2: Are you fucking kidding me?
Speaker 4: Oh wait?
Speaker 1: I was like, what was that? He's like, well, I
Speaker 1: was like I just saw a woman on your phone.
Speaker 1: I was like, do you have a girlfriend? And he's like,
Speaker 1: what does my sister? I'm like, that is like a
Speaker 1: fucking sister has.
Speaker 3: A photo of them and their sister, and hey, maybe
Speaker 3: they do. Someone's gonna write to me and be like,
Speaker 3: don't hear me, but very few guys have a couple
Speaker 3: of photo of them and their sister on their screensaver.
Speaker 1: I was like, that is not your sister. Told me
Speaker 1: the truth. And he looked at me and I was like,
Speaker 1: tell me, is that your girlfriend? Do you have a girlfriend?
Speaker 1: And I had switched from like this cute fundsies girl.
Speaker 4: Everything's crazy? Yeah, I was so crazy.
Speaker 2: I love you.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I started to get really mad, but I was like,
Speaker 1: play it cool. You don't actually know yet. It could
Speaker 1: be anyone. And he looked at me and I was like,
Speaker 1: just tell me. I was like, you have no idea
Speaker 1: what I've been through. And I went like psycho woman.
Speaker 1: And he looked at me and he's like, yes, I
Speaker 1: have a girlfriend, but it's complicated. He goes, it's complicated,
Speaker 1: and I don't know what happened. I just sat there
Speaker 1: and I screamed at the top of my lungs. I
Speaker 1: can't even explain it. I don't. It was like this
Speaker 1: animalistic thing. I just started screaming in the club, and
Speaker 1: it was out of like I wasn't screaming at him.
Speaker 1: It was you know that frustration where you just need
Speaker 1: to yell because you're so mad. I started yelling and
Speaker 1: then I looked at him and I'm not going to
Speaker 1: say what I said to him because it was full
Speaker 1: swear words.
Speaker 2: But I said, what, okay, what the bleed?
Speaker 4: Plea sleeping bleach?
Speaker 1: And he goes, it's piece of bleed. But he goes,
Speaker 1: it's complicated. I'm like, tell me how it's complicated. You
Speaker 1: got a girlfriend, it's not really complication there. He's like, no,
Speaker 1: it is. I want to leave her. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be with her. It's like, I'm on the verge
Speaker 1: of leaving, but I just can't. I'm like, well you can, Like,
Speaker 1: if you're out hooking up with other people, you don't
Speaker 1: want to be with this girl obviously. How long have
Speaker 1: you been together? Like is this a fresh thing that
Speaker 1: you don't know? How to leave, and he just looks sheepish,
Speaker 1: and I was like, tell me how long. He's like
Speaker 1: fourteen years. I was like, okay, fourteen years. She's not
Speaker 1: your girlfriend, is she she's your wife? You're not with
Speaker 1: someone for fourteen years and you haven't married them. And
Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, she's my wife. So I went even
Speaker 1: more bonkers, and I don't want to even tell you
Speaker 1: what I was saying. Then I look over to my
Speaker 1: friend who's making out with his friend. I was like,
Speaker 1: has he got a girlfriend too? And he was like, no, no,
Speaker 1: no he doesn't. I was like, funny that because he
Speaker 1: just told me that he does. He's already admitted at
Speaker 1: a tour and he goes he did, and I was like,
Speaker 1: yes he did, and he's like fuck and I was.
Speaker 4: Like, see he didn't, but I got it out of you.
Speaker 1: Anyway. They all had girlfriend they all had long term
Speaker 1: partners and so backing each other up. So I went
Speaker 1: to this other guy, the friend, and I was like,
Speaker 1: how long's he had a girlfriend for? He's like, oh,
Speaker 1: he doesn't, he's so single. And I'm like, dude, he's
Speaker 1: already told me, so you may as well just out it.
Speaker 1: Like I was just so. My point was I was
Speaker 1: trying to test all the friends there because there were
Speaker 1: ten of them. They all had each other's back and
Speaker 1: were encouraging cheating. Then he said something so so disgusting
Speaker 1: to me. Do you want to know it? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I'm like literally sitting here, guys with my mouth white.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm just so. I was like, why
Speaker 1: do you all have to be such assholes? I said,
Speaker 1: you seemed so nice and how can I keep getting
Speaker 1: this wrong? He's like, no, like I want to see
Speaker 1: you kind of thing. And I was like, you're married.
Speaker 1: I was no way I would. I was like, if
Speaker 1: you knew anything about me, there's no way I would
Speaker 1: ever touch you. Then he said something to me that
Speaker 1: is the like imagine me yelling at him, saying, you've
Speaker 1: been married for fourteen years, you're discussing pig. This is
Speaker 1: what he said to me as a finisher. And this
Speaker 1: is when I was like, I'm done. He said, I
Speaker 1: feel disgusting him saying it. He said, can I just
Speaker 1: can I just put a finger in and taste you?
Speaker 1: I can't believe they said that, And I'm saying all
Speaker 1: we had done was kiss once on a dance floor
Speaker 1: in a club and he's just told me he's married,
Speaker 1: and I looked at him, I was like, is that
Speaker 1: a sick joke?
Speaker 2: Wow?
Speaker 3: So what we've realized in twenty twenty guys, is that
Speaker 3: men suck. And I'm glad that we came for that
Speaker 3: conclusion altogether.
Speaker 1: What I wanted to ask you is, if your friends
Speaker 1: were out and cheating, what's your position on that, Like
Speaker 1: would you be like, you know what that's on you
Speaker 1: to do, I'm just gonna let you go and do
Speaker 1: your thing. Or would you protect them and go along
Speaker 1: with it because they're making the decision, or would you
Speaker 1: call them out on it? Like what do you think?
Speaker 1: Because I was just I was mortified that they were cheating,
Speaker 1: But what more mortified me was how they were all
Speaker 1: in on it together, Like was all right, he'd taken
Speaker 1: his ring off, put it on his other hand, he
Speaker 1: had told me his phone was dead and that's why
Speaker 1: he couldn't give me his number. His phone was full.
Speaker 1: They'd all organized that to say that they're all single.
Speaker 2: It's just the enabling behavior.
Speaker 3: I mean, I would never be in this situation because, like,
Speaker 3: I'm really good friends with my friends' partners. My friend's husbands,
Speaker 3: and I mean, obviously his friends are probably friends with
Speaker 3: them too, But I prioritize our friendship as couples as
Speaker 3: much as I prioritize our friendship individually. So I can't
Speaker 3: ever imagine, like my best friends who are married, if
Speaker 3: we were to go out there even contemplating cheating around me,
Speaker 3: because it would put the whole friendship in jeopardy. And
Speaker 3: like there's never been any enabling behavior. I don't want
Speaker 3: to be a participant in it. I don't want to
Speaker 3: know about it. I don't want to see it. Like
Speaker 3: I assume that my friends are in happy relationships, and
Speaker 3: if they weren't, then I would encourage them to leave
Speaker 3: or to get counseling.
Speaker 1: If you saw that your friend one of them was cheating,
Speaker 1: would you tell their partner or contact their partner.
Speaker 3: I would approach them first, but it would be a really,
Speaker 3: really serious conversation. It wouldn't be like there's nothing about
Speaker 3: me that's going to enable my friends or be okay
Speaker 3: with my friends cheating on their partners.
Speaker 2: This goes against everything that we've talked about from the
Speaker 2: tire year.
Speaker 1: It really took me from like this all high and
Speaker 1: I was like back into dating, and I'll it's like
Speaker 1: excited to get back out there and meet someone because
Speaker 1: I've had like a real hiatus, and then I just
Speaker 1: like cut me off at the knees again. I just thought,
Speaker 1: why is every guy out there right now a douchebag?
Speaker 3: Okay, not every guy out there is a douchebag, but
Speaker 3: the problem is is like, and this is something they
Speaker 3: think you need to keep him perspective when you do
Speaker 3: online dating as well, not just you, but like anyone.
Speaker 3: Online dating is like, you don't know someone's story. So
Speaker 3: if someone goes you after two dates, if someone just
Speaker 3: doesn't ride back, if you have an amazing date, then
Speaker 3: all of a sudden they're gone. You literally have no
Speaker 3: idea what's actually happening in their lives and who they
Speaker 3: are as a person. And people can spin a whole
Speaker 3: lot of shit. And you know, even in this situation,
Speaker 3: not only did they spin shit, but all their friends
Speaker 3: did as well. Like you, really, I'm not saying that
Speaker 3: you can't trust anyone. Obviously you can trust people, But
Speaker 3: what I'm saying is that if something doesn't work out,
Speaker 3: or you meet someone and then they fall off the
Speaker 3: face of the earth, you really need to know that
Speaker 3: that's not a reflection of you as a person, it's
Speaker 3: a reflection of them and whatever junk they have going
Speaker 3: on in their life. You would have walked away from
Speaker 3: the experience had had it not come out that way.
Speaker 3: You would have walked away from that night thinking this
Speaker 3: guy was amazing, thinking that you'd met someone who was
Speaker 3: really special, and then if you hadn't heard back from him,
Speaker 3: you would have been really upset and thought, well, what
Speaker 3: did I do wrong?
Speaker 2: Why didn't he text me? Well, that's what would it
Speaker 2: has your answer.
Speaker 1: I would have ended up giving him my number because
Speaker 1: I would have been like, yes, call me, because that's
Speaker 1: the only way you can finish the night when you've
Speaker 1: been out and like cooking up with someone wanting to
Speaker 1: get to know them. You'd be like, yeah, take my
Speaker 1: number and call me. And then I just would He
Speaker 1: would have ghosted me, obviously, because he's going home to
Speaker 1: his wife of one hundred thousand years, and.
Speaker 3: You would have been upset and thought, what's wrong with me?
Speaker 3: There's something wrong with me? And this is like, at
Speaker 3: least this is like validation once again that there is
Speaker 3: nothing wrong with you, Like that is entirely him and
Speaker 3: the way he behaves, and that's on him as well.
Speaker 4: Absolutely.
Speaker 1: Anyway, that was my wrap up dating story of twenty twenty.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry I didn't come to you with more success,
Speaker 1: but I was.
Speaker 3: Just so mad, I can tell, and I'm a little
Speaker 3: bit scared of my pants from you right now.
Speaker 1: I always say that let's talk about something more positive.
Speaker 3: Okay, well this isn't necessarily more positive at all, but
Speaker 3: I mean, like that's really just the true spirit of
Speaker 3: twenty twenty.
Speaker 2: Right well, I let not just be miserable.
Speaker 4: To get that.
Speaker 1: I feel like that makes sense. Let's talk about some
Speaker 1: accidentally unfiltered No.
Speaker 4: No, no, no.
Speaker 3: Before we get into accidently unfiltered, I did read something
Speaker 3: on the Facebook group which I wanted to bring up
Speaker 3: with you. So I read on the Facebook group. I'm
Speaker 3: not going to read out the post exactly, but I
Speaker 3: thought it was a really interesting conversation. A couple of
Speaker 3: you guys messaged it to us privately as well and
Speaker 3: was like, you should have this chat on the podcast.
Speaker 3: So here I am bring in the chat, guys, bring it. Basically,
Speaker 3: what happened is one of our listeners had shared a
Speaker 3: story about how she was I don't know whether she
Speaker 3: was at a nightclub. I don't know where she was,
Speaker 3: but she was out and she was approached by these
Speaker 3: couple of guys, two guys who were like, hey, what's up,
Speaker 3: like wanted to have a chat with her, and she
Speaker 3: ignored them, and then they were clearly offended by it,
Speaker 3: but they went on with their day. And the question
Speaker 3: that came up on the Facebook group was is it
Speaker 3: okay to ignore a guy if a guy's trying to
Speaker 3: make conversation with you, Because we often say on the
Speaker 3: podcast that we should be more open to people approaching
Speaker 3: in the wild and people starting conversation, but this girl
Speaker 3: said she completely ignore them. She didn't really want to engage.
Speaker 3: She obviously wasn't interested in them, didn't want to give
Speaker 3: them an opener. And then she was like asking for
Speaker 3: people's opinions on that on the Facebook group, and it
Speaker 3: was a very mixed bag. Fifty to fifty people were like, no,
Speaker 3: you don't need to say hello or owe someone anything,
Speaker 3: and the other fifty percent of people were like, well,
Speaker 3: it doesn't hurt to be nice. You know, you can
Speaker 3: always be polite. And I know for a fact that
Speaker 3: you and I have very different opinions on this.
Speaker 1: So what do you guys think our opinions are, because
Speaker 1: we do have very very conflicting opinions. What to your
Speaker 1: you say yours for?
Speaker 3: Okay, So I think as a female, if I'm approached
Speaker 3: in the street and look, I definitely think it is
Speaker 3: a situational thing. I also think it is from case
Speaker 3: by case. So it depends on the person. It depends
Speaker 3: on the energy that you're feeling from them as well.
Speaker 3: It depends on whether you feel threatened or whether you
Speaker 3: literally just could not be bothered because you have X
Speaker 3: amount of other things going on in your life at
Speaker 3: that time. But I genuinely don't think you owe a
Speaker 3: complete stranger anything, and that if somebody was to say
Speaker 3: like hey girl, as you're walking down the street, or
Speaker 3: to cat call you or to whatever, you don't actually
Speaker 3: owe them anything, no politeness. It doesn't make you a
Speaker 3: bad person if you choose not to reply to them.
Speaker 1: You just don't have to see. I disagree to an extent,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to explain that before you guys at me.
Speaker 1: Of course, she doesn't owe them anything. No one owes
Speaker 1: anyone anything, especially if you don't know them. Would I respond, yes,
Speaker 1: Do I think it's polite to respond. Yes, it'd be
Speaker 1: different if they yelled out something explicit, if they are
Speaker 1: literally if you guys are out and some guys have
Speaker 1: been like oh, a guy has been like hey, girl, whatever,
Speaker 1: yelling out at you, that is a form of opening
Speaker 1: a conversation if you if it's not sexual and it's
Speaker 1: not making you feel uncomfortable, if it's literally them just
Speaker 1: saying something to start a conversation, even if you're not interested,
Speaker 1: I would have just said hey and keep walking, because
Speaker 1: I think it's just a normal human pleasantry when someone
Speaker 1: has opened a form of communication, not to ignore them.
Speaker 1: That's how I've been brought up. If he had said
Speaker 1: something to me that had made me feel really uncomfortable
Speaker 1: or dirty or sleazy, or I felt like I was unsafe,
Speaker 1: I would just walk past and ignore them one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: But I think there's a really fine line with us
Speaker 1: as women saying that we wantn't men talk to us?
Speaker 1: They why don't they approach us out when we're out,
Speaker 1: and then when they do, even if it is like this, Okay,
Speaker 1: So maybe he'd been drinking, and he was probably a
Speaker 1: bit louder, and he was probably a bit more like hey, girl, like,
Speaker 1: has your know kind of fun even if you don't
Speaker 1: want to engage, Like, that's literally what we are asking for.
Speaker 1: We are asking for people to be more open and
Speaker 1: talk to us. So I think it's pleasant and it's
Speaker 1: polite as a human to say hey, hope you're having
Speaker 1: a really good night and keep walking Inadvertently that is
Speaker 1: saying I'm not interested, but you still being a good
Speaker 1: enough human to acknowledge that they've gone out and said
Speaker 1: hello to you and say no back. I think there's
Speaker 1: a lot of ways to respond to it and show
Speaker 1: them that you're not interested.
Speaker 3: I mean, like, look, there's parts that I agree with,
Speaker 3: and there's parts of that that I really strongly disagree with.
Speaker 3: But I mean that's the whole beauty of this conversation
Speaker 3: because like literally on the Facebook it was split fifty
Speaker 3: to fifty. I think that sometimes by saying hello back
Speaker 3: to someone and giving them any in it, then can
Speaker 3: give off this impression that you're interested. And I know
Speaker 3: that there's been loads of times where I've been at
Speaker 3: with my girlfriends, I've probably been hit on that day,
Speaker 3: or I've had a situation where I.
Speaker 2: Didn't want to engage, and.
Speaker 3: Then I've had someone come up and try and like
Speaker 3: make conversation, and like, I know that they're making conversation
Speaker 3: because they're interested in me, but I'm not interested. I
Speaker 3: don't want to have a conversation with them. To me
Speaker 3: saying like, hey, I'm not interested, like that could be
Speaker 3: seen as a shutdown, and that could be seen as
Speaker 3: being impolite. But like, I don't want to put my
Speaker 3: energy into someone to open up a conversation with someone
Speaker 3: when I know it's absolutely not going to go anywhere,
Speaker 3: and I want to funnel my energy into the people
Speaker 3: who I've chosen to spend my night with. I also
Speaker 3: think that there's so many situations where women do feel
Speaker 3: threatened by men calling out, by men approaching by like
Speaker 3: groups of men trying to like, you know, talk to
Speaker 3: one girl or calling out from across the street, and
Speaker 3: it's like, who are we to say that, hey girl,
Speaker 3: or whatever the cat call is or whatever the conversation
Speaker 3: starter is, isn't something that they found threatened threatening, Like
Speaker 3: maybe that person felt threatened purely by having a male
Speaker 3: approach them in an environment that they didn't feel comfortable in,
Speaker 3: for sure.
Speaker 1: And if someone cat called me or yelled out's sleezy
Speaker 1: to me, I would walk away and I would ignore them.
Speaker 1: But that's not what this is. I think what it
Speaker 1: comes down to is, of course, if it's sleezy and
Speaker 1: you feel uncomfortable, of course ignore them. I don't engage
Speaker 1: with them, walk away because you absolutely don't owe them.
Speaker 1: I just want to make it really clear that if
Speaker 1: you guys are out and you're in a club, you're
Speaker 1: in a bar, people are drinking and a guy comes
Speaker 1: up and says hey to you and starts a conversation,
Speaker 1: even if you're not interested. I think it's really important
Speaker 1: to say hey back and then say have a good
Speaker 1: night and walk away. I don't like I just think
Speaker 1: it's normal human nature. It's a pleasantry, and I think
Speaker 1: it's really rude not to You don't have to put
Speaker 1: energy into it, Like to say hey and walk away
Speaker 1: is not putting energy into it. Also, am I open
Speaker 1: a conversation where you guys could be friends. You might
Speaker 1: meet someone through his friends group, Like, that's that's the
Speaker 1: whole reason people go out. So I think it's a
Speaker 1: really fine line between women wanting people to approach them
Speaker 1: and then when they do, they're like they get offended
Speaker 1: by it. Or they get put off by I.
Speaker 3: Think the other part of that is, like you're assuming
Speaker 3: that women want men to approach them. There is a
Speaker 3: subset of women who want men to approach them. Some
Speaker 3: single women want men to approach them. I don't want
Speaker 3: men to approach me at all. I'm not interested in it.
Speaker 3: I don't want to make small talk. I'm not available.
Speaker 3: So like for me, you know, I can kind of understand,
Speaker 3: and like, I'm not saying that I'm rude to people
Speaker 3: when they come up to me at all. I'm absolutely not,
Speaker 3: And I don't just shut down conversation. I'm definitely nowhere
Speaker 3: near as brutal as what I'm sounding in this conversation.
Speaker 3: But what I guess my point is on this is
Speaker 3: that you don't owe someone anything, and it doesn't make
Speaker 3: you a bad person if you choose not to engage
Speaker 3: with somebody who's come up out of nowhere and has
Speaker 3: demanded your attention. Because you are living your life, it's
Speaker 3: very separate to theirs. Yes, there may be a small
Speaker 3: amount of rudeness that's attached to it, but is that
Speaker 3: really the worst.
Speaker 2: Thing in the world.
Speaker 3: I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I think
Speaker 3: that it's like, you have agency and you have choice,
Speaker 3: and you can either choose to say hello, but if
Speaker 3: you choose to totally shut that conversation down.
Speaker 2: As a woman who's.
Speaker 3: Probably experienced cat calling and has been approached by numerous
Speaker 3: men that you don't want to be approached by, there
Speaker 3: does come a bit of burnout to it sometimes, and
Speaker 3: you don't have to constantly be nice and be this pleasant, lovely,
Speaker 3: perfectly polite female that we've been put into a box
Speaker 3: to be like. I think it's very rare that men
Speaker 3: experience cat calling to the same degree that women experience it,
Speaker 3: and so there is this massive burnout that happens, which
Speaker 3: I think that women are allowed to have a bit
Speaker 3: of leeway with. If you don't want to have to
Speaker 3: say hello back to a guy who comes up to
Speaker 3: in a bar, man, that's your choice.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, like you can do anover the hell you want.
Speaker 1: But this is an open discussion on how we react
Speaker 1: and we're both very different.
Speaker 3: Yes, you like and look at that's fine, And that
Speaker 3: was definitely a very heated conversation that happened in the
Speaker 3: Facebook group.
Speaker 1: And that's great because you want people to start talking
Speaker 1: about this and you want to open up lines of
Speaker 1: communication and see what other people think.
Speaker 3: And I don't think that there is something that we
Speaker 3: have to all agree on, like I think we can
Speaker 3: all sit in different camps with this. But I did
Speaker 3: read a really great article in regards to this. I
Speaker 3: just want to like read out one part of it
Speaker 3: which I thought, I was like, yes, I agree with this,
Speaker 3: and I really really.
Speaker 2: Like appreciate the way that she'd put it into words.
Speaker 1: I can give it to us.
Speaker 3: This article is entitled Dear men, this is how you
Speaker 3: should be approaching a woman on the street. I'm not
Speaker 3: sure where men learned that Hey girl, or can I
Speaker 3: get your number? Or yeah, you look good? A great
Speaker 3: openness to a conversation. Let me tell you something they're not.
Speaker 3: These also, common openers aren't really openers at all.
Speaker 2: They're boring.
Speaker 3: They're overused lines that men usually and hopefully don't expect
Speaker 3: a genuine response from. It's like dudes who send messages
Speaker 3: on dating sites that are saying things like hey.
Speaker 2: Sup, or you're cute.
Speaker 3: If you want me to believe that you were interested
Speaker 3: in me because I have something specifically worth your while,
Speaker 3: don't throw generic shit my way. I don't have time
Speaker 3: for it. All it shows me is that you think
Speaker 3: of women as a monolith. Like swiping right on all
Speaker 3: of us in the hopes of getting at least one
Speaker 3: response and treating us like we're faceless holes that you
Speaker 3: may or may not get the chance to fuck.
Speaker 2: It isn't a good way to express your interest in me.
Speaker 1: They had these like boys will be boys' mentality, and
Speaker 1: they think that when they all get together that that's
Speaker 1: cool to call out to a woman and make you
Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable in the stream.
Speaker 3: But that's the issue, right The issue is that that
Speaker 3: behavior happens so frequently that then when it doesn't when
Speaker 3: a guy has genuine intent and isn't trying to be
Speaker 3: an asshole. That's what I mean by this idea of burnout,
Speaker 3: that when it's happened so many times, and that men
Speaker 3: who do behave like that, who have no care for
Speaker 3: the fact that their behavior makes a female feel uncomfortable,
Speaker 3: then why is it that we need to always make
Speaker 3: them feel comfortable and them feel appreciated, and therefore have
Speaker 3: to be like.
Speaker 2: Oh, hi, yeah, I hope you're having a good night too. No, no, sorry,
Speaker 2: I don't want to drink.
Speaker 3: I'm just here with my girlfriends, Like, I just don't
Speaker 3: think that we always need to be as polite as
Speaker 3: what we're expected to be. And that was kind of
Speaker 3: like my stance on this, But I appreciate that our
Speaker 3: views are different.
Speaker 2: I just thought that that was really our.
Speaker 1: Views are very much the same on being uncind in
Speaker 1: an uncomfortable situation, like, without doubt, our views only differ
Speaker 1: when we're talking, Like when we're inside a club, you're like,
Speaker 1: sometimes you can't be bothered and you don't owe them
Speaker 1: and you just don't want to even give them anything.
Speaker 1: That's the only place that our views differ on the street,
Speaker 1: don't you dare yell out to me.
Speaker 3: Also, I haven't been at a club for so long.
Speaker 3: I have no fucking idea how it works anymore.
Speaker 4: Guys.
Speaker 3: Anyways, all right, let's get into some accidentally unfiltered. You
Speaker 3: guys know that we love this part of the episode,
Speaker 3: and this is the last lot of accidentally unfiltereds.
Speaker 1: For twenty twenty one, Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 3: I just feel like this year has been the longest
Speaker 3: and also the shortest year of my entire life.
Speaker 1: I am going to kick start Accidentally Unfiltered with a
Speaker 1: Christmas seemed one seen as though it is Christmas.
Speaker 2: How very very on theme perfectly.
Speaker 1: I feel like you just really need to explain that one.
Speaker 1: I have been with my partner for nearly five years,
Speaker 1: and we have done the last two years long distance.
Speaker 1: It really sucked. We had really launchy phone calls to
Speaker 1: get us through the tough times. Last Christmas Eve, I
Speaker 1: had had a fair few drinks. I was feeling really
Speaker 1: frisky and just really feeling myself, so I thought it
Speaker 1: would be an amazing idea to give my no cheeky
Speaker 1: phone call. The call went to voicemail, but I proceeded
Speaker 1: to leave a very drunken and very sexy voice message
Speaker 1: detailing all the things I would do to him if
Speaker 1: he were here with me, and everything I would want
Speaker 1: him to do to me. I even went as far
Speaker 1: as to referring to myself as missus Claus. To my
Speaker 1: absolute horror, when I went to hang up the phone,
Speaker 1: I realized that I had just left this voice message
Speaker 1: for his dad, no, her father in law. She just
Speaker 1: spoke about Yeah, I'm talking like where she wants him
Speaker 1: to blow his load, how she wants him to do it.
Speaker 1: Holy wow. But the weird thing is what can you
Speaker 1: do They never spoke about it again.
Speaker 4: I feel like you can't do that.
Speaker 3: I feel like you need to address the situation right absolutely,
Speaker 3: never do you reckon you No.
Speaker 2: I think that like, no, never address it.
Speaker 3: I think that, like, if the dad doesn't bring it
Speaker 3: up in conversation, you're not going to be like, hey,
Speaker 3: I'm sorry about how I told you I wanted you
Speaker 3: to come on my.
Speaker 1: How I wanted to say say to you that was
Speaker 1: actually to.
Speaker 2: Your son anyway.
Speaker 1: The other thing is she wouldn't have said his name.
Speaker 1: She wouldn't have been like, hey, John, she would have
Speaker 1: been like hey baby. So he probably this dad probably
Speaker 1: thinks he's getting lucky from someone. Looks down and he's like,
Speaker 1: what like my ord law, I was like, you were
Speaker 1: not mare well, I mean maybe all his dreams. Okay,
Speaker 1: do you have one?
Speaker 2: Wait, I have a great one. Okay, it's very short.
Speaker 3: It's very sweet, not for the person who experienced it, though.
Speaker 3: I work in a hospital, which was especially This is
Speaker 3: also a Christmas one.
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize, but it is because this is
Speaker 1: not me, I can tell you now, which is especially.
Speaker 3: Busy at the moment because it's Christmas. This happened to
Speaker 3: me just the other day. I had an intense wedgie
Speaker 3: for about ten minutes, and when I finally had a
Speaker 3: second to myself, abducted into the corner and forcefully pulled
Speaker 3: my wedgie out of my butt crack.
Speaker 1: How gressy was the wedgie?
Speaker 3: We were all being there when you were like, you know,
Speaker 3: it's just been going on for so long, and you're
Speaker 3: around people all the time, you just haven't had a
Speaker 3: chance to dig and just really get some good relief.
Speaker 3: I forcefully pulled the weggie out. Unbeknownst to me, I
Speaker 3: had also gripped my tampon string with and I pulled
Speaker 3: my tampon out with my weggie in the middle of
Speaker 3: my fucking shift into my scrubs.
Speaker 4: Shall tell you?
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, these scrubs are not tired. These
Speaker 1: are big baggy loose pants. Like that tampon is coming
Speaker 1: straight down your leg onto the floor.
Speaker 4: Wait, it gets better. And then I realized there was
Speaker 4: also two doctors in the room. Imagine to try them out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so like where was on the floor, welld been
Speaker 1: at host scrubs.
Speaker 3: Imagine trying to shuffle out whilst holding your tampon like
Speaker 3: against your mid thigh.
Speaker 1: You can't get straight down. They're big baggy pants.
Speaker 3: I have a really mortifying story that's very, very similar
Speaker 3: to this to you personally. Yeah, this is me personally.
Speaker 3: Can't wait for this one to end up in daily
Speaker 3: Now have we not heard about how this still.
Speaker 4: Place my mind?
Speaker 1: When we get to this point where we're still telling
Speaker 1: each other stories, we're like, how was this not come up?
Speaker 2: We're gonna be like eighty years old.
Speaker 4: I'll be like, remember that time where I fucked my cousin.
Speaker 2: I mean, guys, I definitely didn't. Please, don't read an
Speaker 2: article about that.
Speaker 4: I feel like we.
Speaker 1: Should maybe even take that out. I'm gonna go with Saphara, say.
Speaker 4: We need to take that out.
Speaker 2: Leave it whatever, Let's go rogue. It's Christmas time in
Speaker 2: the spirit. Okay.
Speaker 3: So I was like eighteen and my boyfriend at the time,
Speaker 3: he was great. It was my first boyfriend. He's a
Speaker 3: lovely guy, married now two kids.
Speaker 2: Wow, good to day.
Speaker 1: Congrats.
Speaker 3: Anyway, So we were at the beach and we were
Speaker 3: there with all of our friends and I was wearing
Speaker 3: I was wearing like a white and black pattern to bikini, right,
Speaker 3: like more black, little bit of white pattern on it.
Speaker 3: I remember this so vividly, and this is like, god
Speaker 3: like going back sixteen years ago.
Speaker 2: Now that's how old I am.
Speaker 1: I feel like we should never put this into numbers
Speaker 1: because it makes us sixteen.
Speaker 3: Like this is all I was almost half the age
Speaker 3: that this was ago. Okay, we're now with the Weason's bad.
Speaker 3: It's it's long pent up, long standing trauma. So I
Speaker 3: got out of the water and I was telling myself off,
Speaker 3: and I thought I was hot shit at the time
Speaker 3: as well, Like I was eighteen year old Laura telling
Speaker 3: myself off.
Speaker 2: And my boyfriend was sitting on.
Speaker 3: The towel, another towel, and then we had all our
Speaker 3: friends around who are also sitting on the towel, and he
Speaker 3: looks up to me and we're having a chat, and
Speaker 3: halfway through the conversation, he goes, okay, you've got a string,
Speaker 3: thinking I had a string on my bikini.
Speaker 1: Like a thread, like a loose thread, like a thread,
Speaker 1: and he went to pull it. Didn't he he pulled it.
Speaker 2: He didn't go oh my god.
Speaker 3: No, I was eighteen years old and I had my
Speaker 3: tampon pulled out in front of my group of friends
Speaker 3: by my boyfriend.
Speaker 2: In three months in the daylight of speech.
Speaker 4: Didn't come all the way out. It came all the
Speaker 4: way up.
Speaker 3: I got trapped in my swimmers, thank god they were
Speaker 3: so tight. But he realized what he'd done, and I
Speaker 3: realized what he'd done obviously, and I think a couple
Speaker 3: of them friends realized you've done it. Everyone was just
Speaker 3: like silose and then everyone started laughing, and then I
Speaker 3: was I was eighteen.
Speaker 4: I cried.
Speaker 1: I went sat in the bathroom, cried and broke up
Speaker 1: with him my home.
Speaker 2: No, no, we dated for two years. That's hourly story.
Speaker 1: I reckon to a guy, he wouldn't even think. He
Speaker 1: would just think that he's pulling literally like a loose
Speaker 1: tread from your clothing, which you would want him to
Speaker 1: do if it was on your back or on your sleeve,
Speaker 1: but not coming out of your vagina. So men, if
Speaker 1: you see a string ever coming out of a woman's
Speaker 1: pants a bought mission immediately. Are you still traumatized?
Speaker 2: I'm literally still trauma.
Speaker 4: I can't believe I have not.
Speaker 3: I feel like I must have told that story on
Speaker 3: the podcast before and it's just gotten like lost in
Speaker 3: the depths of.
Speaker 2: The last year and a half.
Speaker 4: Mate.
Speaker 2: But if I haven't.
Speaker 3: Then there you go, guys, that's a true, true story
Speaker 3: that happened to me. And I hope that inspires you,
Speaker 3: guys to keep on sending in your Acidently Unfiltered stories
Speaker 3: for twenty twenty one because you're not alone.
Speaker 2: That's the whole reason why we do this section of
Speaker 2: the podcast.
Speaker 1: How many people do you think of actually had the
Speaker 1: tampon pulled out by a significant other, like accidentally? Do
Speaker 1: you think that that is a high statistic?
Speaker 3: Want to say that's not high, But do you know
Speaker 3: how many people we've had right in who have had
Speaker 3: to get a relative or a boyfriend or a husband
Speaker 3: or a partner or whoever, or a friend to get
Speaker 3: in there and dig out a lost tampon. That is
Speaker 3: like a very reoccurring, constant conversation that we receive in
Speaker 3: Acidently Unfiltered talking about tampon, we should get into the
Speaker 3: whole point of this episode, which was to talk about
Speaker 3: We're only going.
Speaker 2: To do it briefly. We're going to talk about news resolutions, which.
Speaker 1: We actually discussed more in depth and we don't really
Speaker 1: believe in them.
Speaker 3: We talked about it on last year's episode. On twenty twenty,
Speaker 3: Big twenty twenty Energy episode, if you want to go
Speaker 3: back and listen to that, I actually don't go back
Speaker 3: and listen to that because I went back and listened
Speaker 3: to that and it wasn't a very good episode.
Speaker 4: Lauren didn't like her.
Speaker 1: She's like we, she goes, I went back and listen
Speaker 1: to ex episode. Babe, what are we thinking?
Speaker 2: We just weren't as funny.
Speaker 3: We just weren't as we didn't know each other as well.
Speaker 3: And I guess over the years, like our relationship has grown,
Speaker 3: like we know each other better, we find each other funnier.
Speaker 1: Well, what I think it is, too, is I think
Speaker 1: like when I when we reflect back on the podcast
Speaker 1: and when we started, and I think what it is
Speaker 1: is if you guys are OG listeners, I'm sure you'll
Speaker 1: agree that our dynamic has changed drastically. We're so much
Speaker 1: more open, we have so much more banter, We're so
Speaker 1: much more open about what we speak about. I put
Speaker 1: that down to the fact that when we started the podcast,
Speaker 1: I don't know if a lot of people realized, but
Speaker 1: we didn't know each other that well. We'd only had
Speaker 1: like a few catch ups. We were just in the
Speaker 1: very early days of like becoming sporadic friends. Like I'm talking,
Speaker 1: we'd go for a walk and get breakfast like three times.
Speaker 1: Then we just decided to have this grand idea to
Speaker 1: start the podcast. So we were starting it where we
Speaker 1: wanted to deliver the goods. We wanted to make a
Speaker 1: funny but we just didn't have the connection yet, Like
Speaker 1: we didn't have the stories to tell, we didn't have
Speaker 1: the bands because we didn't know each other well enough.
Speaker 1: So when we listen back now, we're like, what were
Speaker 1: we doing? It was so like formal and so like
Speaker 1: how do you feel today? Kind of thing? And I
Speaker 1: look at us now about nothing's off limits, everything's unfiltered,
Speaker 1: And I love that because that, I believe is why
Speaker 1: you guys like to listen, because you find it and
Speaker 1: you know that, like we're all on the same pain for.
Speaker 3: Anyone who has been listening since the very beginning, Like
Speaker 3: you guys are the real MVPs because you've come along
Speaker 3: this journey with us, and you've come along our friendship
Speaker 3: with us as well, and like how much things have
Speaker 3: changed and how our dynamics change, and also just how
Speaker 3: the podcast in general has and like we love making
Speaker 3: this every week. We love being able to do our
Speaker 3: ask guncut sections where we answer your questions. And there's
Speaker 3: been so much about this podcast which has evolved over.
Speaker 2: The last year and a half.
Speaker 3: And yeah, listening back to that first episode, I just
Speaker 3: found it so funny, like how polite Britta and I
Speaker 3: were to each other and the absolutely niceties. But it
Speaker 3: came from us not only just not knowing each other
Speaker 3: that well, but also like living in a bit of
Speaker 3: fear about sharing so much of our lives. And you know,
Speaker 3: I was really sensitive about saying the wrong thing because
Speaker 3: I didn't want it to end up in Daily Mail.
Speaker 2: And now I don't care.
Speaker 3: I think it's really funny when stuff ends up in
Speaker 3: Deadly Mud. If anything, we know egg them on. So, like,
Speaker 3: you know, we have grown in confidence across this podcast
Speaker 3: as a result of you guys, and you guys like
Speaker 3: being so supportive and being so engaged, and you know,
Speaker 3: you made us feel like what we're putting out in
Speaker 3: the world is valid and that you know you're getting
Speaker 3: something out of it, and that's the only reason why
Speaker 3: we keep coming back and doing it. So that's a
Speaker 3: big thank you to you guys, and especially to those
Speaker 3: of you who have been with us since the beginning,
Speaker 3: or to those of you who've gone back and listened
Speaker 3: to the beginning, which is another bloody big effort.
Speaker 1: What do you feel like your favorite episode has been,
Speaker 1: like just looking back, do you have one that you
Speaker 1: just love to do or.
Speaker 3: You I think like my favorite episode, which is definitely
Speaker 3: not because of the lolls or anything, but I think
Speaker 3: one of my favorite episodes is the narcissist episode that
Speaker 3: we did Dating a Narcissist, Also the breakup episode that
Speaker 3: we did.
Speaker 2: I think that both of those.
Speaker 3: I know how much they've related to people because I
Speaker 3: know constantly how many messages and emails we get in
Speaker 3: regards to those two episodes. The other really big one
Speaker 3: for me was the episode that we did on miscarriage,
Speaker 3: and I think that that I'm really proud of that episode,
Speaker 3: and I still have women contact me a weekly saying
Speaker 3: thank you so much for putting that out there, Like
Speaker 3: I feel less alone now because I've been able to
Speaker 3: listen to somebody else's story, and I think that there's
Speaker 3: so much pains and sharing vulnerable moments, and all of
Speaker 3: those episodes have shared different parts of our experiences and
Speaker 3: our vulnerable moments, and so yeah, they're definitely my top three.
Speaker 1: I'm also very proud of the miscarriage episode, even though obviously,
Speaker 1: like I was on, the episode had nothing to do
Speaker 1: with me. But I'm proud of the fact that we're
Speaker 1: just able to produce something that we put out into
Speaker 1: the world that's going to help people. I'm proud of
Speaker 1: you for being able to open up. It is hard,
Speaker 1: and I think, but we are sharing big parts of
Speaker 1: our life in hopes that it helps at least one person,
Speaker 1: and that was not easy for Laura to do for sure,
Speaker 1: So I'm proud of you for that. So like that's
Speaker 1: my little.
Speaker 4: Thing, thank ah.
Speaker 1: I also really loved and that this sounds funny too.
Speaker 1: I really loved the episode we just did with doctor
Speaker 1: Angela Jay on domestic violence, and I love that for
Speaker 1: the same reason that I'm proud that women are strong
Speaker 1: enough to come forward and tell their story in hopes
Speaker 1: that they can continue to relive the trauma about helping
Speaker 1: people at the same time. And there's so much power
Speaker 1: in that she went through something incredible, and so many
Speaker 1: of you guys reached out about that episode that you
Speaker 1: were just hooked and you loved it, and it's made
Speaker 1: you think a lot. We've had people reach out saying
Speaker 1: that it's helping them in their toxic situations and relationships.
Speaker 1: So that's like one of my favorite episode episodes as well.
Speaker 1: One of actually my all time phase was that random
Speaker 1: episode we did when we threw in a bonus episode
Speaker 1: when we went into lockdown, and it was just we
Speaker 1: just went on this, like we started selling funny accidentally
Speaker 1: on filters and we just couldn't stop and we just
Speaker 1: kept thinking. I still listened to that and laugh. It
Speaker 1: was literally just a bonus episode full of squabble, but
Speaker 1: it was so bloody funny.
Speaker 3: It was just us going down a rabbit hole. And
Speaker 3: I guess that that was also like a massive turning
Speaker 3: point when we were getting to know each other more
Speaker 3: as well, because like we rarely now, I mean apart
Speaker 3: from the tampon story, but we rarely now have stories
Speaker 3: to tell each other that the other person hasn't already
Speaker 3: heard anyways, getting into Resolutions for twenty twenty one, we
Speaker 3: did do a whole episode on our Resolutions for twenty
Speaker 3: twenty which is quite a while ago, almost a whole year,
Speaker 3: and I listened to it back today and I can
Speaker 3: very very proudly say that Brittany, you did not You
Speaker 3: did not fulfill any of your New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 4: I fulfilled one.
Speaker 1: I went in pretty hard. My number one thing was
Speaker 1: and if you're falling from the start, you guys will remember.
Speaker 1: I was like, I want to eat less sugar. Did
Speaker 1: I eat less sugar? No? Did I eat more sugar? Yes?
Speaker 1: I have been a sugar fiend to the point that
Speaker 1: I have made myself sick, and I have started This
Speaker 1: is nothing I want to talk about why we have
Speaker 1: to start resolutions on January one. I have started to
Speaker 1: try and turn around this resolution now in the month
Speaker 1: of December because I wanted to enter the new year
Speaker 1: feeling good. So I am proud to say I have
Speaker 1: wound my sugar back to probably a ten percent consumption.
Speaker 2: Nothing like a hot dash of the finish line.
Speaker 4: Babe. Well, no, I.
Speaker 1: Did walk in today and Laura's like, did you break cooking?
Speaker 1: I was like, delicious. I started eating that straight away,
Speaker 1: so I was like, I'm not there yet. I'm not
Speaker 1: fully recovered, but it's a thing. I also said I
Speaker 1: wanted to start surfing. I surfed twice this year. I'm
Speaker 1: really disappointed in that. So I didn't fulfill that I
Speaker 1: said that I wanted to get into acting more, and
Speaker 1: I did feel my first met this year, so I
Speaker 1: can tick that off. So I'm like, I'm at like
Speaker 1: a forty percent maybe success rate when I look back
Speaker 1: at what I wanted to do. That's not it's not great.
Speaker 1: But also like hashtag govid.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this year is like absolutely right off.
Speaker 3: Nobody was expected to hold on to their news resolutions,
Speaker 3: and anybody who even executed a quarter of them.
Speaker 2: Well fucking done.
Speaker 3: I would just like to say that I went into
Speaker 3: twenty twenty with my news resolution being that I was
Speaker 3: gonna have more sex.
Speaker 2: I have definitely not fulfilled that you did it once.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, like okay, So when we recorded in twenty twenty,
Speaker 3: it was like January obviously, and Marley was six months old,
Speaker 3: and I was like, yeah, this is.
Speaker 2: Gonna be the year Matt and I are going to
Speaker 2: get out mojo back.
Speaker 3: It's going to be so great. Literally, I was pregnant
Speaker 3: again by March.
Speaker 1: I mean insane, you were so fertile. I'm like, he
Speaker 1: only had to look at you and you got pregnant.
Speaker 3: I was pregnant, and then obviously like I got pregnant
Speaker 3: straight away and then I had the miscarriage, and then
Speaker 3: I got pregnant again with this baby, so I have
Speaker 3: been pregnant. I'm like an elephant. I have been pregnant
Speaker 3: for pretty much the entire time. Brittany's me.
Speaker 2: The sex thing didn't really happen, but it happened once.
Speaker 2: When bem thank you, Ma'm here?
Speaker 3: Is the baby always a good time start for twenty
Speaker 3: twenty one?
Speaker 1: Well, you know what they say, Yes, sexon sex brings
Speaker 1: on labor, and you are not that far away from
Speaker 1: giving birth, so maybe now is your time to shine,
Speaker 1: Chris is true, finish the year strong, finish it hard. Literally,
Speaker 1: Matt can finish it hard. Ride that into the sunset
Speaker 1: and right into the sunset.
Speaker 3: No, look, I mean I made jokes, but actually, considering
Speaker 3: how pregnant I am, I'm really proud that Matt and
Speaker 3: I are still having the amount of sex that we're having.
Speaker 3: It's just not the amount that we were having in
Speaker 3: the beginning in the heyday. That's all because I'm not
Speaker 3: as mobile right now. But anyway, look, that was my
Speaker 3: number one and my number two was something that I
Speaker 3: think I have really embraced this year, and so I'm
Speaker 3: proud of myself for this, but my big news resolution
Speaker 3: for last year when and I'm the person who's against
Speaker 3: news resolutions, but I I wanted to be more aware
Speaker 3: of taking on people's advice and how someone else experience
Speaker 3: can dictate and shape my own happiness. And what I
Speaker 3: mean by that is that I went into my birth
Speaker 3: with MALEI really frightened by everyone telling me all the
Speaker 3: negative things about pregnancy, and I went into going traveling
Speaker 3: with Maley when she was only three months old, Matt
Speaker 3: and I went to Europe. I went into going traveling
Speaker 3: being really worried that it was going to be super hard,
Speaker 3: because everybody's so quick to tell you all the negative things.
Speaker 2: And I think we see.
Speaker 3: It a lot in all different aspects of life, not
Speaker 3: just with children, not just with parenting, but people are
Speaker 3: so quick to tell you why you shouldn't do something
Speaker 3: because they've had a bad experience doing it. People are
Speaker 3: so quick to tell you why something is going to
Speaker 3: be hard or you're not going to be able.
Speaker 2: To achieve that.
Speaker 3: And I am really conscious that I don't want to
Speaker 3: take somebody else's experience as though that's going to be
Speaker 3: my own without even giving it a shot first, because
Speaker 3: I have been so amazingly pleasantly surprised by motherhood and
Speaker 3: I love it so much more than I thought I
Speaker 3: ever would because people made me so fearful around how
Speaker 3: hard it was going to be. So I'm really conscious
Speaker 3: when I talk to people about motherhood that I'm remember
Speaker 3: to tell them all the good bits as well, because
Speaker 3: I think that that's a part of the dialogue that
Speaker 3: we sometimes forget to talk about at the moment.
Speaker 1: I think it's really great advice because it is really
Speaker 1: easy to take on other people's problems and stresses onto yourself,
Speaker 1: and you can you can talk yourself and convince yourself
Speaker 1: that you're not gonna be able to do something or
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't do something, when really what is stopping
Speaker 1: you from going and being having a completely different experience
Speaker 1: to that person. I'm glad you brought that up because
Speaker 1: I think it's really great advice in every aspect of life. Well.
Speaker 3: Also just means that you end up like you end
Speaker 3: up walking into experiences that you have never had yourself
Speaker 3: with fear and you think that everything's going to be
Speaker 3: the worst case scenario.
Speaker 2: So yeah, so I think that's something that.
Speaker 3: We can all implement in different ways in our life
Speaker 3: just not to live with this fear around what other
Speaker 3: people think, or other people say, or other people's experiences.
Speaker 3: And I think for me, it wasn't so much people
Speaker 3: telling me I couldn't do something, but it was more
Speaker 3: people telling me how hard their experience of something was
Speaker 3: that made me really frightened about something I'd never ever
Speaker 3: done before. And so I know, like going into this
Speaker 3: birth and I know going into like having a second baby,
Speaker 3: it's the same thing. People have been so quick to
Speaker 3: tell me how hard it's going to be having two kids,
Speaker 3: and like, oh, the first year is going to be
Speaker 3: like really difficult. It's going to be a challenge on
Speaker 3: your relationship. Like don't worry, you'll get through it once
Speaker 3: they're too, like they're going to be such good friends.
Speaker 3: But I don't want to wish away the first year
Speaker 3: of this baby's life because it's going to be so
Speaker 3: hard having a.
Speaker 2: Toddler and a newborn.
Speaker 3: So I'm just kind of like easing myself into it
Speaker 3: without any expectations. And that's what I want for my
Speaker 3: twenty twenty one. I just want to be able to
Speaker 3: like enjoy this moment as it's happening as much as
Speaker 3: I possibly can, and to not put any pressure, not
Speaker 3: to put any expectations around it, and just.
Speaker 2: To kind of fucking go with the foe.
Speaker 3: I don't know what twenty twenty one's got in store,
Speaker 3: but nobody could have predicted twenty twenty, So let's just
Speaker 3: throw caution to the wind and just figure.
Speaker 1: It out as it's happening. Absolutely. What I wanted to
Speaker 1: touch on again was if you guys haven't listened to
Speaker 1: last year's episode, the Big twenty twenty Energy, I did
Speaker 1: speak really openly about something that a lot of people
Speaker 1: go through, and I think we sugarcoated a lot. It's
Speaker 1: not really spoken about, but that is being single over
Speaker 1: the Christmas period, over the holiday period, the New Year's period.
Speaker 1: It's really really tough, and I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people sometimes forget that that are in relationships and with
Speaker 1: their families and things like that. It can be really,
Speaker 1: really tough for some people when they're single. They'll still
Speaker 1: have fun and they'll still have a really great time,
Speaker 1: but it's a really shitty time of year. And Laura
Speaker 1: and I were just chatting. Laura reminded me, she's like,
Speaker 1: you know, you were saying that next year, like this
Speaker 1: is the last year you're gonna be single. Because I
Speaker 1: do it every year. Every year, I say to myself,
Speaker 1: like it's like me telling the universe. I say, this
Speaker 1: will be the last year, Brittany, that you will be
Speaker 1: alone and you have someone to love you next year
Speaker 1: and you'll have someone to love and you can do
Speaker 1: this with them and you can make memories. And because
Speaker 1: the thing that I get the saddest about when I
Speaker 1: do let it get me down, which is very rarely,
Speaker 1: but it does happen. The thing I get the saddest
Speaker 1: about is like I'm not making memories with anyone. That's
Speaker 1: what gets me. And I don't know if that anyone
Speaker 1: can resonate with that. But I look at like my
Speaker 1: sister and her partner and they're always like laughing and
Speaker 1: reflecting back on these times and this thing and this
Speaker 1: happened and when they did that, And I don't have
Speaker 1: a memory with anyone, Like I am going into my
Speaker 1: mid thirties and I don't have anyone to share that with.
Speaker 1: That's what gets me really sad. And We've come another
Speaker 1: year and I'm still single. And I said I wouldn't
Speaker 1: go into a Holidays single, but I am yes, that
Speaker 1: makes me sad to an extent because there is another
Speaker 1: aspect to it this year, and there's another layer, and
Speaker 1: that is that not only am my single, but I'm
Speaker 1: going down the fertility journey of freezing my eggs and everything,
Speaker 1: and I'm doing that alone as well. So I had
Speaker 1: literally the very last appointment of the year for the
Speaker 1: clinic for egg freezing just this week gone, and I
Speaker 1: just thought, what a way to like really rub it
Speaker 1: in and wrap up the year is that, you know,
Speaker 1: I went there. Obviously, I went there on my own
Speaker 1: because you know, if you didn't listen to a few
Speaker 1: weeks ago, I made my best friend come and have
Speaker 1: all the tests with me, but she's moved on now.
Speaker 1: Thanks for a miss you if you're listening. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I went, and I'm doing this fertility journey. I didn't
Speaker 1: get great news about my fertility, which we'll talk about
Speaker 1: in the new year. It's not awesome, it's not terrible.
Speaker 1: I have quite low to medium agccount, which we'll go
Speaker 1: into more depth later. But you know, I was pretty
Speaker 1: heavy to hear. It's not ideal. And I just want
Speaker 1: to recognize everyone out there that's listening that if you
Speaker 1: are single and you are feeling alone, that it is okay,
Speaker 1: and you are allowed to sit in that emotion and
Speaker 1: you are allowed to feel really fucking shit because that's okay. Also,
Speaker 1: just try and appreciate that you're strong enough to do it,
Speaker 1: and it doesn't mean anything that you're single and you're alone.
Speaker 1: It doesn't take anything away from you. And then once
Speaker 1: you do sit in that feeling for a little while,
Speaker 1: because Laura and I always talk about the fact that
Speaker 1: we think it's okay to have those feelings and you
Speaker 1: should never try and bury them, but then remember that
Speaker 1: it is a great time to try to be with
Speaker 1: your family if you can, and try and have a
Speaker 1: really fun time. Just be positive and going to the
Speaker 1: next year with a really good energy. That's my advice
Speaker 1: is I'm gonna be sad for a little hot second,
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna really try and enjoy my time
Speaker 1: with my family and I'm going to make sure I
Speaker 1: go into twenty twenty one with a good vibe and
Speaker 1: a good energy. So I just wanted to reiterate that
Speaker 1: and touch on that again and just make sure that
Speaker 1: even if you're feeling alone, there is someone one hundred
Speaker 1: percent out there that loves you and wants to talk
Speaker 1: to you, and he's there for you.
Speaker 3: I love that you share that part of you with
Speaker 3: the podcast, because I think that, like, it's one thing
Speaker 3: to constantly be like, I'm misindependent woman and be like
Speaker 3: fucking nailing it and seem like you're absolutely killing it
Speaker 3: as someone who's a single person, which I know that
Speaker 3: you are, and I know that that's how you feel
Speaker 3: a big majority of the time. But like, no matter
Speaker 3: whether you have chosen to be single, whether you're single
Speaker 3: because of circumstances or what is happening in your life,
Speaker 3: you're always entitled to have times where you feel really
Speaker 3: down about it and nobody like, you know, not listening
Speaker 3: to your family, be like when you're gonna get a boyfriend,
Speaker 3: when you're gonna get a girlfriend, or you know, why
Speaker 3: didn't it work out with that so and so, Like
Speaker 3: this can be a really difficult time because I think
Speaker 3: being around family can sometimes highlight that you're not in
Speaker 3: a relationship and having to explain to people constantly why
Speaker 3: that's the case. And you know, sometimes there is no explanation.
Speaker 3: You just haven't met your person yet. So I just
Speaker 3: also want to back you up and saying that brute
Speaker 3: like those feelings are completely valid. And as much as
Speaker 3: the holiday period and Christmas period can be amazing for
Speaker 3: some people, it can also be incredibly isolating for other people.
Speaker 3: And it can really highlight the things that maybe you
Speaker 3: don't have in your life that you deep down would
Speaker 3: like to have, you know, or that you're looking for,
Speaker 3: and maybe that's something that you want to focus on
Speaker 3: in twenty twenty one, whatever it is. But yeah, I
Speaker 3: think that that's a really important thing to touch on
Speaker 3: as well.
Speaker 1: Also something you think about if you're like if your
Speaker 1: friends are single, if you're in a relationship, you're married,
Speaker 1: or family, and you know you've got a friend that
Speaker 1: might be you know, you're a friend that might be
Speaker 1: semi alone, Like just give them a shooting a message,
Speaker 1: give them a call. Just important to make everyone, especially
Speaker 1: with what has happened in COVID, Like we've got so
Speaker 1: many people that do feel alone and they have felt loneliness,
Speaker 1: and it's really important to just keep them in your thoughts,
Speaker 1: shoot them a message, give them call. Included in an
Speaker 1: event twenty twenty has been shpited for everyone and it
Speaker 1: has made everyone had really really high heighs, really low low,
Speaker 1: so I think that we finish together. Oh that was
Speaker 1: deep finished.
Speaker 4: Together, I know. Well.
Speaker 3: Speaking of finishing together, we thought that we would finish
Speaker 3: this episode by giving you ask uncouched, and we're gonna
Speaker 3: wrap this episode, the final episode of twenty twenty, by
Speaker 3: answering your listener letters. We love it that you guys
Speaker 3: trust us with our thoughts, our opinions, our feelings, our terrible,
Speaker 3: very enthusiastic, highly unqualified advice, not necessarily terrible. I think
Speaker 3: it's well thought outs from time to time.
Speaker 2: But I have one.
Speaker 3: Question that I've picked out which is very Christmas related,
Speaker 3: and I thought it would be just a really nice
Speaker 3: way to like completely finish off twenty twenty. This is
Speaker 3: one that I'm sure we can all relate to, and
Speaker 3: we have all been there.
Speaker 4: Help.
Speaker 3: I got really wasted at my office Christmas party.
Speaker 2: I wasn't the.
Speaker 3: Only one, but the craziest shit happened after most of
Speaker 3: the people had left. Mostly just lots of bitching and
Speaker 3: being slow. But I'm dying with shame and honestly feel
Speaker 3: like I can never face my coworkers again.
Speaker 1: Help. Okay, you got the drunk, Gilts, you got drunk,
Speaker 1: you got wasted, you're embarrassing in front of your work
Speaker 1: Christmas party. Everyone has done this before. Everyone has done
Speaker 1: something embarrassing in front of a work colleague. I don't
Speaker 1: know if you need helping this. I think you need
Speaker 1: to play it off. I think you need to go
Speaker 1: into the office the next time and it's be like.
Speaker 4: Well, wasn't that a while night?
Speaker 1: Hey, Like, just everyone knows that Christmas is festive. Everyone
Speaker 1: knows we have fun. I mean, hopefully everyone was on
Speaker 1: your level and no one remembers how drunk you are. Like,
Speaker 1: that's also an option, but I think you laugh it off.
Speaker 2: I guess it depends.
Speaker 1: Okay, unless you pulled your bosses pants down or something. Yes,
Speaker 1: look unpacking it a little bit more. Look, depending on
Speaker 1: the level of bitching. I think that like that stuff
Speaker 1: can come back and bite you in the ass. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: Like if you really went down a rabbit hole with
Speaker 1: saying some inappropriate stuff and doing some inappropriate stuff when
Speaker 1: you're drunk. I mean, you can just laugh it off,
Speaker 1: but that doesn't mean that everybody else is gonna laugh off.
Speaker 1: So like, just being serious on this for a second,
Speaker 1: hopefully everyone was on the same level. Hopefully it is
Speaker 1: a situation where like the guilt doesn't actually match up
Speaker 1: to the actions, which I think, like you know, a
Speaker 1: lot of us probably have experienced that at times where
Speaker 1: you wake up the next day and you feel like
Speaker 1: so ashamed by your behavior, and then when you speak
Speaker 1: to your friends and your family, they're often like, no,
Speaker 1: you weren't that bad, like you're fine, Whereas there are
Speaker 1: definitely times where you think, oh, it couldn't have been
Speaker 1: that bad, and actually it was way worse. So I
Speaker 1: do think you've got to go into work and you
Speaker 1: do have to unfortunately face your co workers and be
Speaker 1: honest say you know, especially to the people that you're
Speaker 1: having those conversations with. I feel a lot of shame
Speaker 1: around the way I behaved. I really hope I didn't
Speaker 1: do or say anything that offended you. I've really struggled
Speaker 1: with this over the past couple of days. I'm so embarrassed,
Speaker 1: and you know, if I've said anything that's offended you,
Speaker 1: if I've behaved in a way that was really inappropriate,
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry, And I think that that is the
Speaker 1: best way of going about it. Absolutely, you need to
Speaker 1: try and remember or speak to someone about what you
Speaker 1: said and who you said it to. So you're doing
Speaker 1: something embarrassing. I think that's funny. I think you can
Speaker 1: play that off. When you've said something that could potentially
Speaker 1: hurt someone else's feelings, especially if you've sent it, especially
Speaker 1: if you've said it to the person or to someone
Speaker 1: as close to them, you one hundred percent need to
Speaker 1: just own that because that will just fester and it
Speaker 1: will start to spread around the office. That's what happens
Speaker 1: in these offices. Everyone talks, everyone has their clicks. So
Speaker 1: you need to do exactly what Laura said. You just say, hey,
Speaker 1: I don't really remember, but I feel like I've said
Speaker 1: something that was probably inappropriate if I did. Please forgive me.
Speaker 1: I'm mortified. Own it. We all know, Laura and I
Speaker 1: have said a thousand times. There's so much strength in
Speaker 1: an apology. There's so much strength in owning up to
Speaker 1: something that you have done wrong. And it's often pretty
Speaker 1: hard for someone to not forgive you for something like this.
Speaker 1: When you have come and you're showing humility and you
Speaker 1: were saying I messed up, I am mortified, I am sorry,
Speaker 1: Please forgive me. It's usually very hard for them to
Speaker 1: say you know what, No way, It's like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: know what, you're an idiot, but let's just sweep it
Speaker 1: under the rug and move on, so they're your options,
Speaker 1: or move to Canada.
Speaker 3: It's so easy to get yourself into these situations, like
Speaker 3: you know, work Christmas parties can escalate terribly. My work
Speaker 3: Christmas party with Tony May last year, when no one
Speaker 3: was pregnant and everyone was drinking, was an absolute shambles
Speaker 3: of a night. Now, I remember waking up the next
Speaker 3: day being like, ooh, as a.
Speaker 1: Boss, that's a terrible behavior.
Speaker 3: But you know what, I'm at least like now, I'm
Speaker 3: at their age, and I know my limitations. I know
Speaker 3: how much I can I can't drink, but I also like,
Speaker 3: don't get so drunk that I'm going to black out
Speaker 3: and not remember the things I do and say.
Speaker 2: So I woke up the next day and I absolutely
Speaker 2: behaved in a wild, wild way.
Speaker 3: I wish I was there, but I remembered everything and
Speaker 3: it wasn't this situation where I had to try and
Speaker 3: piece the night together. I think, you know, guys, if anything,
Speaker 3: use this person's ask uncut lesson as a bit of
Speaker 3: a reminder that, especially when it's in a work environment,
Speaker 3: like maybe not the best course of action to get
Speaker 3: totally blotto at your work Christmas party. However, if you
Speaker 3: have done that and now you need to do a
Speaker 3: little bit of recovery mission, I think honesty is always
Speaker 3: the best policy, and I also think vulnerability is also
Speaker 3: the best policy. So going in and being really genuine
Speaker 3: with an apology and explaining how it's made you feel
Speaker 3: and how you feel terrible for the way you've made
Speaker 3: other people feel is a really really important way to
Speaker 3: like getting back into the good books, and also just
Speaker 3: not doing it next year.
Speaker 1: Just have the water in between.
Speaker 3: Just the water, all right, guys, You know that we
Speaker 3: never finished an episode without our suck and our sweep,
Speaker 3: our highlight and.
Speaker 1: Our low light of each and every week. My suck
Speaker 1: this week, I am going to take on a suck
Speaker 1: for other people. My suck is that I just feel
Speaker 1: for everybody everyone that has just had their Christmass canceled,
Speaker 1: that haven't been able to make it over borders in
Speaker 1: time to see their family. I just want to shout
Speaker 1: out to you that there are a lot of people
Speaker 1: in your position, and everyone's thinking of you. And I'm
Speaker 1: still hoping. I still have to get up to Port
Speaker 1: mcquarie and I'm hoping that we don't go into lockdown.
Speaker 1: Hopefully we don't. But that's my suck. I just think
Speaker 1: it's so for everyone. My sweet would probably be that
Speaker 1: I did have a good date this week. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to tell you guys this week. All I'm
Speaker 1: going to say is early days. I'm just going to
Speaker 1: say I went on a nice date, and the TVC
Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, Brittany been on a date. Watch his
Speaker 1: Space twenty twenty one. It's going to be my year
Speaker 1: of love, I'm calling it.
Speaker 3: Don't put that in there and then put that as
Speaker 3: a benchmark, otherwise you may drinx yourself and twenty twenty
Speaker 3: two will be doing the same conversation over again.
Speaker 1: But you know, if I keep saying this is my
Speaker 1: year of love like one year, it's going to come
Speaker 1: true and I'm going to be like I knew this
Speaker 1: was the year.
Speaker 2: It's a numbers game, absolutely, all right.
Speaker 3: Okay, So my suck for this week, well, I mean
Speaker 3: my suck is the same as everyone who's in Sydney.
Speaker 3: Matt's families from Brisbane, and that's who we were supposed
Speaker 3: to be spending Christmas with. They were supposed to be
Speaker 3: coming down on Christmas Eve, they're not coming down anymore,
Speaker 3: so we were going to go up to see them,
Speaker 3: and then unfortunately the borders closed, so now we are
Speaker 3: stuck here in Sydney by ourselves. So we're going to
Speaker 3: be doing Christmas very very low key this year, which,
Speaker 3: you know what, on one hand, it's good that Marley's
Speaker 3: only one and a half and she probably won't remember
Speaker 3: this Christmas, but on the other hand, just feels a
Speaker 3: bit sad that we aren't able to start any of
Speaker 3: our family Christmas traditions. Yeah, and that it's going to
Speaker 3: be a very different Christmas to what we thought we
Speaker 3: were gonna have. Also, on top of that, my family
Speaker 3: is in Woollongong. However this year, my nanna has been
Speaker 3: moved into a nursing home, which means that we can't
Speaker 3: see her, and my mom literally yesterday fell over and
Speaker 3: broke her hip, so she's now in hospital so we
Speaker 3: can't go visit her either, So like unfortunately, we're completely
Speaker 3: by ourselves. So yeah, my poor mum is now getting
Speaker 3: surgery and that's just like.
Speaker 2: A whole other thing.
Speaker 3: To really put a little bit of sprinkles on top
Speaker 3: of the icing, on top of the shit that was
Speaker 3: twenty twenty, just to really top off this shit Sunday,
Speaker 3: just to really bring it on home. And then my
Speaker 3: sweep for the week. My sweep for the week is
Speaker 3: that like this year is done. Like I actually feel
Speaker 3: really relieved almost, you know, Tony May has been so busy.
Speaker 3: We've just gotten through Christmas. We've just gotten through all
Speaker 3: of the work that's happened, and now I feel like
Speaker 3: it's just time to kind of like, ah, I let
Speaker 3: out a sigh of relief that everything that's been so
Speaker 3: crazy with work has kind of calmed down now and
Speaker 3: we've made it through the mania, the retail mania that
Speaker 3: is Christmas when you own any sort of like retail
Speaker 3: or online store. So I'm really proud that we made
Speaker 3: it through the other side. And now I'll have a
Speaker 3: couple of days off and then it's going to be
Speaker 3: Boxing Day sales.
Speaker 1: And now the whole thing starts again. And then you
Speaker 1: have a baby.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then I have a baby.
Speaker 3: I mean, I just feel like this years been back
Speaker 3: to back, but I actually am now finally at the
Speaker 3: point where like I cannot wait to have this baby.
Speaker 3: And I feel like I'm only We've got seven weeks
Speaker 3: to go. But I actually feel like now I genuinely
Speaker 3: feel excited about it, Whereas up until now I haven't
Speaker 3: even given myself any time to think about the fact
Speaker 3: that I'm pregnant, that I'm having a kid, and I
Speaker 3: genuinely feel really excited.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 3: Well, it's just this weird year's been so weird. I
Speaker 3: feel like at no point, and maybe it's also a
Speaker 3: reflection on it's your second child, but at no point
Speaker 3: have I felt like I have been excited or gotten
Speaker 3: excited about this pregnancy. And maybe it's also partly to
Speaker 3: do with miscarriages, and but I I really haven't been
Speaker 3: able to kind of, like, you know, feel that excitement
Speaker 3: that I felt the first time with Marley. And I
Speaker 3: know that it's not because I'm not wanting to have
Speaker 3: like I want to have this baby. I can't wait
Speaker 3: for this baby to be here, But just the excitement
Speaker 3: around my pregnancy hasn't been the same. And so it
Speaker 3: feels really nice to have a bit of a shift
Speaker 3: in that this week and like actually start really looking
Speaker 3: forward to I can't wait.
Speaker 1: I'm more probably more pumped than.
Speaker 2: You are up until this point for sure.
Speaker 1: But guys, we just want to say a big congratulations
Speaker 1: to all of you for actually getting through twenty twenty.
Speaker 1: He should all be really proud.
Speaker 4: We have made it.
Speaker 1: There's been some bums, but we're there. We're on the
Speaker 1: other side, and we just want to say a huge
Speaker 1: thank you to every single one of you that are
Speaker 1: in our life on cut community, the guys, the ogs
Speaker 1: from the start, all the new listeners. We love you
Speaker 1: all so much. We are so thankful, and Laura and
Speaker 1: I honestly feel so grateful that we are in a
Speaker 1: position where we get to do something we love with
Speaker 1: a community that we love, actually put out content that
Speaker 1: we are proud of. We're so grateful to have you
Speaker 1: come along the journey with us. So we just wanted
Speaker 1: to say thank you for your support, thank you for
Speaker 1: your votes, thank you for your love, thank you for
Speaker 1: being there for Laura's and my ups and downs.
Speaker 2: You are well.
Speaker 1: We all are like a big family, and we just
Speaker 1: want you to know that.
Speaker 3: Sometimes, like it's happened in the past, where some of
Speaker 3: you would come up if you've seen us in the street,
Speaker 3: or you'll come and introduce ourselves, and I just want
Speaker 3: to say, like, I'm so you like for when you
Speaker 3: say that you're grateful for us and that you love
Speaker 3: the podcast like I am so grateful for you and
Speaker 3: for the fact that you guys have completely rallied behind us.
Speaker 3: Like I said earlier in the episode, if it wasn't
Speaker 3: for how supportive you have all been around this podcast,
Speaker 3: and if it wasn't for how supportive you have all
Speaker 3: been for both Britain and I together and individually in
Speaker 3: our journeys over the last year and a half, we
Speaker 3: wouldn't be as open as we are, and we wouldn't
Speaker 3: want to share and be as vulnerable as what we
Speaker 3: are with you. So like you know, that is an absolute,
Speaker 3: true and tried testament to the fact that you know,
Speaker 3: you guys are such a huge part of this podcast
Speaker 3: and we're so grateful for you. Also, to everybody who's
Speaker 3: been doing the meetups and to every single person who
Speaker 3: gets involved on the Life on Cut Facebook group, you're
Speaker 3: the freaking best and we.
Speaker 1: Love you guys. We will be having a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks off, which we're actually really excited about, but we
Speaker 1: are going to be rehashing some of our favorite old episodes,
Speaker 1: so if you haven't listened from the start, you might
Speaker 1: not have heard them. Maybe you want to really listen again.
Speaker 1: Maybe you just want to have a laugh, but we
Speaker 1: will be dropping them so there will be there something
Speaker 1: for you to listen to, and we will be back
Speaker 1: bigger and better and hopefully fuller than ever.
Speaker 2: In twenty twenty one. Who but also you know the drill.
Speaker 3: Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell
Speaker 3: your cat, tell you ma'm just tell everyone the love
Speaker 3: because we love that
Speaker 4: There are no bumpers