WEBVTT - That's a wrap! See ya later 2020 you steaming pile of..... 

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, guys, and welcome back to actually a very very

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<v Speaker 1>very special episode of Life on CUD.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and.

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<v Speaker 1>It is special because it is our last episode of

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<v Speaker 1>the year, guys, our last episode of twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 3>Merry Christmas, Happy Years, Sydney. What the fuck is going on?

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<v Speaker 2>And we're sorry, what is happening right now?

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<v Speaker 3>The world is on fire and everything's going to shit

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<v Speaker 3>in the hand basketball.

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<v Speaker 1>Once again, it just sucks like we just as Australia

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<v Speaker 1>as a whole, we almost got to the point where

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<v Speaker 1>we were leading the world in beating coronavirus and then

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like it is imploded. In the last week.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone's Christmas plans have gone out the window. Everyone's in

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<v Speaker 1>panic mode. There's no toilet paper again. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>why people keep buying so much toilet paper. COVID doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>make you shit yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>We're in Sydney, We're in that.

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<v Speaker 1>We're in the hotspot, Guy in the center, We're in

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<v Speaker 1>the red zone. I mean, we discussed this earlier in

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<v Speaker 1>the year about the whole toilet paper thing. You're at home,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't need toilet paper. You can get in the shower,

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<v Speaker 1>It's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>There's lots of other options when you need to wipe

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<v Speaker 3>your backside. If you don't have any hundred.

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<v Speaker 1>Percent, if you've got a backyarden, you've got a hose,

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<v Speaker 1>you're good. I actually don't understand why, Like it is

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<v Speaker 1>perplexing the panic that happens with the toilet paper.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm more upset about the panic that's happening around the

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<v Speaker 3>groceries because even though I'm going to be spending Christmas

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<v Speaker 3>this year now just mat me and Molly a tiny

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<v Speaker 3>little Christmas, which is what we do every single night.

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<v Speaker 2>Of the week, It's going to be great.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just more.

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<v Speaker 3>Upset that, like all the Christmas foods now have been

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<v Speaker 3>totally bought out from the shops. But anyway, look, guys,

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<v Speaker 3>if you have been affected by what's happening in Sydney

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<v Speaker 3>and by the most recent hotspot Corona cases, then we

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<v Speaker 3>just want to say that we are absolutely thinking of you.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess the only saving grace is, guys, that we're

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<v Speaker 1>all in it together. So many of our plans got canceled. Laura,

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<v Speaker 1>I know you've had like two plans canceled. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>go up to the Gold Coast and then you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>go see your parents, and there's a lot that's happened

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<v Speaker 1>your end. I was gonna be going up to the

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<v Speaker 1>Gold Coast and I was going to Perth. That's all canceled.

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<v Speaker 1>I really feel for everyone that last minute has had

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<v Speaker 1>that cut and taken away from them, and now you're

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<v Speaker 1>facing the prospect of maybe being alone or maybe not

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<v Speaker 1>being with all of your family. So we do want

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<v Speaker 1>to just say, you know, like our thoughts are with you,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's a lot of people in the same boat,

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<v Speaker 1>so try to take something from that too, that you're

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<v Speaker 1>not alone and there are a lot of people there

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<v Speaker 1>that you can reach out to as well.

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<v Speaker 3>I was just gonna say it's the most like ironic

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<v Speaker 3>end to twenty twenty. Like, of course twenty twenty was

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<v Speaker 3>like hah, but wait, I got something at my sleep

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<v Speaker 3>Fully I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Going to start your year on fire, and I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>end it with you alone for Christmas, bitch. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, like, what else could happen?

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, I was reading this very satirical, slightly depressing post

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<v Speaker 3>that was put up by board Panda. I'm just gonna

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<v Speaker 3>like paraphrase a few of twenty twenties highlights and this episode, guys,

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<v Speaker 3>like just so you know what we're doing, what we're

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<v Speaker 3>talking about, who we are, Well, my name is Laura,

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<v Speaker 3>this is Brittany. We are rehashing twenty twenty a little bit,

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<v Speaker 3>well not really rehashing chans to wrap up. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 3>we also wanted to talk about like our resolutions, what

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<v Speaker 3>we did for our first episode back this year, and

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<v Speaker 3>how we spoke about our resolutions and what we really wanted.

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<v Speaker 1>For the year. Did we achieve our resolutions from last year.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to discuss that.

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<v Speaker 3>And then also we thought we would give you your accidentally

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<v Speaker 3>unfiltereds because we know that you love that. We would

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<v Speaker 3>never do a final episode without a few absolute pearls

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<v Speaker 3>for you. And then we're going to do and ask

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<v Speaker 3>uncut sections. We really wanted to make this final episode

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit from all of our favorite episodes for

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<v Speaker 3>you and just a nice kind of roundup on the year.

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<v Speaker 3>So tell me about this article. Okay, so the article

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<v Speaker 3>you got so sidetracked. The article really highlighted what twenty

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<v Speaker 3>twenty has been, but Australia basically burnt to the ground.

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<v Speaker 3>Then Trump starched some Iranian general with a drone which

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<v Speaker 3>almost led to World War three. Then someone made a

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<v Speaker 3>fucking bat, then the economy almost collapsed, Prince Harry and

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<v Speaker 3>Megan renounced their royalty.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, this is a lot for twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 3>This is just January, of course it is, and that

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<v Speaker 3>as we all know, we had the massive Black Lives

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<v Speaker 3>Matters movement, which the riots and the protests in and

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<v Speaker 3>of themselves were so powerful. But the starting point of

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<v Speaker 3>that and what was posted on social media and George

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<v Speaker 3>Floyd what happened to him, Like, there's just been so

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<v Speaker 3>many huge pivotal things that have happened in twenty twenty,

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<v Speaker 3>none of them have being particularly positive.

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<v Speaker 2>Still trying to find the highlight.

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<v Speaker 3>We've got a couple sucks here, guys, many sweets. I

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<v Speaker 3>know that a lot of us are living in this

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<v Speaker 3>fantasy world that's like twenty twenty one, the first of

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<v Speaker 3>January is going to hit and where we're all going

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<v Speaker 3>to be just thrown into this new world. I think

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<v Speaker 3>this is probably going to continue into the new year

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit. Let's embrace ourselves. But I am very

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<v Speaker 3>much looking forward to putting this year behind me, as

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure a lot of you are as well, and

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<v Speaker 3>that's going to bring us to talking about our resolutions

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<v Speaker 3>for twenty twenty one and how they're going to differ,

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<v Speaker 3>because I think there's a lot of things. I think

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of people's resolutions, A lot of the things

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<v Speaker 3>we wanted to achieve from last year, we're not going

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<v Speaker 3>to do that anymore. Everything's going to change because a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of them would have been about traveling or going

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<v Speaker 3>overseas or studying new businesses.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think a lot of things we have to

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<v Speaker 1>step back and reassess because of what a ship fight

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty has been in. But I also think that's

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<v Speaker 1>a really interesting chat. So we're gonna get into that later.

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<v Speaker 1>But first I want to tell you something, please.

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<v Speaker 3>I really love We've been doing this for so long now,

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<v Speaker 3>but I really love that, like you don't tell me

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<v Speaker 3>things throughout the week because you specifically want to save

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<v Speaker 3>it to tell me.

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<v Speaker 2>Live whilst recording.

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to get the most raw and unfiltered reactions.

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<v Speaker 3>I went out on the weekend, and I want to

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<v Speaker 3>put me into premature labor I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I went out on the weekend, and I'm so glad

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<v Speaker 1>I did, because it turns out it was like the

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<v Speaker 1>first time of twenty twenty that I went out dancing,

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<v Speaker 1>and without me knowing, it became the last time that

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be going out dancing anyway. I had the best

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<v Speaker 1>time I've went out with a few girlfriends. We went

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<v Speaker 1>to dinner, then we went out to this club and

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<v Speaker 1>I had the best time. But I got into a fight.

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<v Speaker 1>I got into a fight with a guy. And you

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<v Speaker 1>guys know, I'm I am a lover, not a hater.

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<v Speaker 1>It takes a lot to push my buttons. I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to wind back to the beginning. I went to a restaurant,

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<v Speaker 1>an Italian restaurant, just three of us total. We sat

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<v Speaker 1>down and they sat us next to a table of

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<v Speaker 1>about ten guys. The guys were pretty cute, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like bingo, Like yes, so the guy that I

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<v Speaker 1>was seated next to, because I was on the edge

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<v Speaker 1>of my table and he was the edge on his head,

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<v Speaker 1>but he was really cute.

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<v Speaker 2>And you were like, can we please skip straight to desert?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we're only about half a meter away from each other.

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<v Speaker 1>And as soon as we sit down, you can feel

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<v Speaker 1>them looking at us. You can film getting excited. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking at seven o'clock. It's not late they're not drunk.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you mean you can feel them getting excited. Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>you can just take a lot of boaters happening under

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<v Speaker 3>the table. Yeah, the energy really shifted.

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<v Speaker 2>It lifted by about six inches.

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<v Speaker 1>They straight away like said hello to us, and we're

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<v Speaker 1>like hey, like, how are you like great like? And

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<v Speaker 1>they're like, wow, yeah, you must have asked to be

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<v Speaker 1>seated next to the greatest people here.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>They just started just like how fun and flirting and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, cute. My friends were like that. One

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<v Speaker 1>next year was really cute, and I was like, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Then after about five minutes, I glanced down under the table.

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<v Speaker 1>He had no ring on. He was clearly flirting with me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh my gosh, like this could

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<v Speaker 1>be something really cute and organic.

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<v Speaker 3>I still thought you were gonna say a glance under

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<v Speaker 3>the table and yeah, but then I knew that I

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<v Speaker 3>had it with the chance the combination.

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<v Speaker 1>Of no ring and a boner, and I knew I

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<v Speaker 1>was in so anyway, he had no ring. They started

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<v Speaker 1>to flirt with us, and his opening kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>aligned to me was I had this white shirt on

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<v Speaker 1>and it had really big, flared like long sleeves, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're each Italian. So he looks at me and he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>do you want me to roll your sleeves up for you?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, yeah, that'd be great because I

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<v Speaker 1>can't eat my food. So I held my hand down,

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<v Speaker 1>he rolled my sleeves up. We had a moment. It

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<v Speaker 1>was really cute. He was like, you know, taking his time,

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<v Speaker 1>and he's like, how am I doing? Like do you

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<v Speaker 1>think I'm gonna keeper kind of thing? So flirty. The

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<v Speaker 1>girls were like, I think this is gonna be a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I was getting really like great, kept flirting, they bought

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<v Speaker 1>a shots, and it was the most organic thing that

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<v Speaker 1>has happened to me all of twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 3>Are we talking about the guy? Are we talking about

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<v Speaker 3>the food?

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<v Speaker 4>The guy? The chat?

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<v Speaker 1>It was so easy. He was so hot. He was

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<v Speaker 1>my type.

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<v Speaker 3>So he was wearing a turtle neck and he doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>know how hot he is.

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<v Speaker 1>He had no idea. However, Actually that's that's like my

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<v Speaker 1>most quoted line of twenty twenty when we had to

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<v Speaker 1>look back. He doesn't even know how hot it is. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>So they have to leave before us, because obviously, you

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<v Speaker 1>know how you get these two hour bookings. So my

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<v Speaker 1>guy who had been floating for ages passed me over

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<v Speaker 1>a piece of paper with his number on it and

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<v Speaker 1>a smiling face, and it was really cute. Now they

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<v Speaker 1>weren't going yet, they were still packing up. He put

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<v Speaker 1>his number over and he's like call us later, like

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<v Speaker 1>maybe meet up with us. We've got a table, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like cute. And then my girlfriend Kim, she

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<v Speaker 1>took the number and she's like, I'm just gonna call

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<v Speaker 1>it to see if he answers now, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>why would he be giving us a bump stair. She's

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't know. She's like something just seems not right.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, a table of guys flirting with girls

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<v Speaker 1>and they give us their number, what's not right? And

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<v Speaker 1>she's like, so she dialed his number while I was

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<v Speaker 1>still sitting there that he had just given us, and

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<v Speaker 1>his phone didn't light up, and I was like yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, that's weird. Anyway, she was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>they're leading us bumpsty and they get up to go

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<v Speaker 1>and I just called him out and I was like wait.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, well, like why did you give me a

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<v Speaker 1>fake a number? And he's like what And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I just called this number and you didn't answer, so like,

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<v Speaker 1>don't like I know that you just gave me a

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<v Speaker 1>fake a number and I couldn't understand. And he's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. My phone's about to die. This is Brad's number.

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<v Speaker 1>Another guy and I was like, oh, totally fair, makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, yeah, so just call us. I just didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want you to call me later. And my phone was dead.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, see him. I was like, you're overreacting.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything's fine. We go to another bar and we start

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<v Speaker 1>to get hit on by this group of twenty year

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<v Speaker 1>old boys. It was the worst experience of my life.

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<v Speaker 1>So we left. I was like, it was like, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what they said to us, I'm not kidding. This

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<v Speaker 1>was their conversation starter, So what do you think about

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<v Speaker 1>pineapple and pizza? And I was like I'm out. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, this is I cannot have this conversa.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to elevate the chat. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyone this online dating, you know that that is like

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<v Speaker 1>the most hated question that anyone starts. If you're a

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<v Speaker 1>girl and you're opening with that line, I'm gonna give

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<v Speaker 1>you some advice. Stop that.

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<v Speaker 3>We go someone walking up to you in a bar

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<v Speaker 3>and being like, hey, two truths, one lie, and you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, we don't real life.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't do that real life in RL anyway, So

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<v Speaker 1>we get it. We weren't even gonna meet the guys

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<v Speaker 1>because they were going into the city. Then Kim, who

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<v Speaker 1>pranked the guy, gets a message from them because they're

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<v Speaker 1>obviously still chasing us up. This is a few hours later,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're like, hey, we've got another table back where

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are in the east. Come every It'll be

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<v Speaker 1>the greatest night. Everything's free, because like they're already paid

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<v Speaker 1>for the table.

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<v Speaker 4>Great.

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<v Speaker 1>We're like, you know what, They've come all the way back.

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<v Speaker 1>They're pushing for us to come. They're obviously came let's

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<v Speaker 1>go and meet them, and.

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<v Speaker 2>You're like, this is my soulmate, so understanding to go.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, this is my soulmate. We got along

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<v Speaker 1>so well, it was natural, and I was like I've

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<v Speaker 1>got to give it a go. And guys, as an update,

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't have a turtle neck on, so I was

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<v Speaker 1>like one red flag down. So we go into this

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<v Speaker 1>club and it's just so much fun. We're all dancing.

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<v Speaker 1>My guy is really really flirty. I'm like a teenager.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I got like the butterflies, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is how it's supposed to be, Like I have

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<v Speaker 1>missed this for all of twenty twenty. He starts like

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<v Speaker 1>dancing with me for a while, then he starts kissing me.

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<v Speaker 1>We're making out on the dance floor. We're having the

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<v Speaker 1>best time. I felt like I was young, like young,

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<v Speaker 1>and I spent twenty twenty in scrubs with COVID patients,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I just felt like, this is how my life

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<v Speaker 1>should be, out meeting people naturally having fun. He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>you are so beautiful. It's like I just when you

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<v Speaker 1>walked in and you were sat next to me, I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like this was meant to be, Like you

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<v Speaker 1>were meant to sit next to me. He's like, you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't hesitate when I started to talk to you. You

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<v Speaker 1>had the banter back. You're funny. He's like, I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>stopped thinking about you all night. I was like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, I've got a boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, this is so great.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm already trying to pick the threadf and like, what

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<v Speaker 3>has this guy done? Why do I hate him? Why

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<v Speaker 3>are we going to find him? In Eggy's house?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I was thinking, this is it. The girls were

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<v Speaker 1>like this is crazy that. Like my friends were like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is crazy. And my other friend, one of the

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<v Speaker 1>other girls I was with, was like interested in one

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<v Speaker 1>of the other guys, and she had been interested since

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<v Speaker 1>she saw him. They had been talking all night, they'd

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<v Speaker 1>started making out on their own little like.

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<v Speaker 3>It was just I'm getting the feeling that everyone was

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<v Speaker 3>thinking this is crazy.

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<v Speaker 4>It was so prettyly.

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<v Speaker 1>So she was making out with this guy, and she

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<v Speaker 1>was really keen on because she's been seeing a long

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<v Speaker 1>time as well. Anyway, We're sitting down and then I

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<v Speaker 1>looked down at my watch to look at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>and I realized my watch has stopped. So I say

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<v Speaker 1>to him, do you know what the timing is? My

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<v Speaker 1>watch has stopped? Without thinking because he's been drinking, he

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<v Speaker 1>pulls out his phone to check time, and on his

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<v Speaker 1>phone I see a photo of him and a woman

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<v Speaker 1>with his arm around her, very romantic photo in the sunset,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just looked at it, and he clocked that

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<v Speaker 1>I had seen that, threw his phone back in, gave

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<v Speaker 1>me the drink, and he was like, do you want

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<v Speaker 1>to go dance again? And I was like, what was that?

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<v Speaker 1>On your phone?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you fucking kidding me?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh wait?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what was that? He's like, well, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like I just saw a woman on your phone.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, do you have a girlfriend? And he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>what does my sister? I'm like, that is like a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking sister has.

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<v Speaker 3>A photo of them and their sister, and hey, maybe

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<v Speaker 3>they do. Someone's gonna write to me and be like,

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<v Speaker 3>don't hear me, but very few guys have a couple

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<v Speaker 3>of photo of them and their sister on their screensaver.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, that is not your sister. Told me

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<v Speaker 1>the truth. And he looked at me and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>tell me, is that your girlfriend? Do you have a girlfriend?

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<v Speaker 1>And I had switched from like this cute fundsies girl.

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<v Speaker 4>Everything's crazy? Yeah, I was so crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>I love you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I started to get really mad, but I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>play it cool. You don't actually know yet. It could

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<v Speaker 1>be anyone. And he looked at me and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>just tell me. I was like, you have no idea

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<v Speaker 1>what I've been through. And I went like psycho woman.

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<v Speaker 1>And he looked at me and he's like, yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>have a girlfriend, but it's complicated. He goes, it's complicated,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know what happened. I just sat there

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<v Speaker 1>and I screamed at the top of my lungs. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't even explain it. I don't. It was like this

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<v Speaker 1>animalistic thing. I just started screaming in the club, and

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<v Speaker 1>it was out of like I wasn't screaming at him.

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<v Speaker 1>It was you know that frustration where you just need

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<v Speaker 1>to yell because you're so mad. I started yelling and

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<v Speaker 1>then I looked at him and I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 1>say what I said to him because it was full

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<v Speaker 1>swear words.

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<v Speaker 2>But I said, what, okay, what the bleed?

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<v Speaker 4>Plea sleeping bleach?

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<v Speaker 1>And he goes, it's piece of bleed. But he goes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's complicated. I'm like, tell me how it's complicated. You

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<v Speaker 1>got a girlfriend, it's not really complication there. He's like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it is. I want to leave her. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be with her. It's like, I'm on the verge

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<v Speaker 1>of leaving, but I just can't. I'm like, well you can, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're out hooking up with other people, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be with this girl obviously. How long have

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<v Speaker 1>you been together? Like is this a fresh thing that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know? How to leave, and he just looks sheepish,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, tell me how long. He's like

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<v Speaker 1>fourteen years. I was like, okay, fourteen years. She's not

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<v Speaker 1>your girlfriend, is she she's your wife? You're not with

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<v Speaker 1>someone for fourteen years and you haven't married them. And

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, yeah, she's my wife. So I went even

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<v Speaker 1>more bonkers, and I don't want to even tell you

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<v Speaker 1>what I was saying. Then I look over to my

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<v Speaker 1>friend who's making out with his friend. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>has he got a girlfriend too? And he was like, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>no he doesn't. I was like, funny that because he

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<v Speaker 1>just told me that he does. He's already admitted at

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<v Speaker 1>a tour and he goes he did, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>yes he did, and he's like fuck and I was.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, see he didn't, but I got it out of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway. They all had girlfriend they all had long term

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<v Speaker 1>partners and so backing each other up. So I went

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<v Speaker 1>to this other guy, the friend, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>how long's he had a girlfriend for? He's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>he doesn't, he's so single. And I'm like, dude, he's

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<v Speaker 1>already told me, so you may as well just out it.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I was just so. My point was I was

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<v Speaker 1>trying to test all the friends there because there were

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<v Speaker 1>ten of them. They all had each other's back and

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<v Speaker 1>were encouraging cheating. Then he said something so so disgusting

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<v Speaker 1>to me. Do you want to know it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like literally sitting here, guys with my mouth white.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm just so. I was like, why

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<v Speaker 1>do you all have to be such assholes? I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you seemed so nice and how can I keep getting

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<v Speaker 1>this wrong? He's like, no, like I want to see

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<v Speaker 1>you kind of thing. And I was like, you're married.

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<v Speaker 1>I was no way I would. I was like, if

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<v Speaker 1>you knew anything about me, there's no way I would

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<v Speaker 1>ever touch you. Then he said something to me that

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<v Speaker 1>is the like imagine me yelling at him, saying, you've

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<v Speaker 1>been married for fourteen years, you're discussing pig. This is

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<v Speaker 1>what he said to me as a finisher. And this

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<v Speaker 1>is when I was like, I'm done. He said, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel disgusting him saying it. He said, can I just

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<v Speaker 1>can I just put a finger in and taste you?

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<v Speaker 1>I can't believe they said that, And I'm saying all

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<v Speaker 1>we had done was kiss once on a dance floor

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<v Speaker 1>in a club and he's just told me he's married,

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<v Speaker 1>and I looked at him, I was like, is that

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<v Speaker 1>a sick joke?

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<v Speaker 2>Wow?

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<v Speaker 3>So what we've realized in twenty twenty guys, is that

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<v Speaker 3>men suck. And I'm glad that we came for that

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<v Speaker 3>conclusion altogether.

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<v Speaker 1>What I wanted to ask you is, if your friends

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<v Speaker 1>were out and cheating, what's your position on that, Like

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<v Speaker 1>would you be like, you know what that's on you

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<v Speaker 1>to do, I'm just gonna let you go and do

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<v Speaker 1>your thing. Or would you protect them and go along

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<v Speaker 1>with it because they're making the decision, or would you

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<v Speaker 1>call them out on it? Like what do you think?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I was just I was mortified that they were cheating,

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<v Speaker 1>But what more mortified me was how they were all

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<v Speaker 1>in on it together, Like was all right, he'd taken

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<v Speaker 1>his ring off, put it on his other hand, he

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<v Speaker 1>had told me his phone was dead and that's why

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<v Speaker 1>he couldn't give me his number. His phone was full.

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<v Speaker 1>They'd all organized that to say that they're all single.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just the enabling behavior.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I would never be in this situation because, like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm really good friends with my friends' partners. My friend's husbands,

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<v Speaker 3>and I mean, obviously his friends are probably friends with

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<v Speaker 3>them too, But I prioritize our friendship as couples as

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<v Speaker 3>much as I prioritize our friendship individually. So I can't

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<v Speaker 3>ever imagine, like my best friends who are married, if

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<v Speaker 3>we were to go out there even contemplating cheating around me,

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<v Speaker 3>because it would put the whole friendship in jeopardy. And

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<v Speaker 3>like there's never been any enabling behavior. I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to be a participant in it. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>know about it. I don't want to see it. Like

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<v Speaker 3>I assume that my friends are in happy relationships, and

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<v Speaker 3>if they weren't, then I would encourage them to leave

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<v Speaker 3>or to get counseling.

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<v Speaker 1>If you saw that your friend one of them was cheating,

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<v Speaker 1>would you tell their partner or contact their partner.

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<v Speaker 3>I would approach them first, but it would be a really,

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<v Speaker 3>really serious conversation. It wouldn't be like there's nothing about

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<v Speaker 3>me that's going to enable my friends or be okay

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<v Speaker 3>with my friends cheating on their partners.

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<v Speaker 2>This goes against everything that we've talked about from the

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<v Speaker 2>tire year.

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<v Speaker 1>It really took me from like this all high and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like back into dating, and I'll it's like

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<v Speaker 1>excited to get back out there and meet someone because

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<v Speaker 1>I've had like a real hiatus, and then I just

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<v Speaker 1>like cut me off at the knees again. I just thought,

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<v Speaker 1>why is every guy out there right now a douchebag?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, not every guy out there is a douchebag, but

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<v Speaker 3>the problem is is like, and this is something they

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<v Speaker 3>think you need to keep him perspective when you do

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<v Speaker 3>online dating as well, not just you, but like anyone.

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<v Speaker 3>Online dating is like, you don't know someone's story. So

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<v Speaker 3>if someone goes you after two dates, if someone just

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't ride back, if you have an amazing date, then

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<v Speaker 3>all of a sudden they're gone. You literally have no

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<v Speaker 3>idea what's actually happening in their lives and who they

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<v Speaker 3>are as a person. And people can spin a whole

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<v Speaker 3>lot of shit. And you know, even in this situation,

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<v Speaker 3>not only did they spin shit, but all their friends

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<v Speaker 3>did as well. Like you, really, I'm not saying that

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<v Speaker 3>you can't trust anyone. Obviously you can trust people, But

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<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying is that if something doesn't work out,

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<v Speaker 3>or you meet someone and then they fall off the

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<v Speaker 3>face of the earth, you really need to know that

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<v Speaker 3>that's not a reflection of you as a person, it's

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<v Speaker 3>a reflection of them and whatever junk they have going

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<v Speaker 3>on in their life. You would have walked away from

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<v Speaker 3>the experience had had it not come out that way.

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<v Speaker 3>You would have walked away from that night thinking this

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<v Speaker 3>guy was amazing, thinking that you'd met someone who was

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<v Speaker 3>really special, and then if you hadn't heard back from him,

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<v Speaker 3>you would have been really upset and thought, well, what

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<v Speaker 3>did I do wrong?

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<v Speaker 2>Why didn't he text me? Well, that's what would it

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<v Speaker 2>has your answer.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have ended up giving him my number because

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<v Speaker 1>I would have been like, yes, call me, because that's

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<v Speaker 1>the only way you can finish the night when you've

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<v Speaker 1>been out and like cooking up with someone wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>get to know them. You'd be like, yeah, take my

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<v Speaker 1>number and call me. And then I just would He

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<v Speaker 1>would have ghosted me, obviously, because he's going home to

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<v Speaker 1>his wife of one hundred thousand years, and.

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<v Speaker 3>You would have been upset and thought, what's wrong with me?

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<v Speaker 3>There's something wrong with me? And this is like, at

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<v Speaker 3>least this is like validation once again that there is

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<v Speaker 3>nothing wrong with you, Like that is entirely him and

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<v Speaker 3>the way he behaves, and that's on him as well.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, that was my wrap up dating story of twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry I didn't come to you with more success,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was.

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<v Speaker 3>Just so mad, I can tell, and I'm a little

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<v Speaker 3>bit scared of my pants from you right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I always say that let's talk about something more positive.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, well this isn't necessarily more positive at all, but

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, like that's really just the true spirit of

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<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 2>Right well, I let not just be miserable.

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<v Speaker 4>To get that.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that makes sense. Let's talk about some

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<v Speaker 1>accidentally unfiltered No.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no.

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<v Speaker 3>Before we get into accidently unfiltered, I did read something

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<v Speaker 3>on the Facebook group which I wanted to bring up

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<v Speaker 3>with you. So I read on the Facebook group. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not going to read out the post exactly, but I

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<v Speaker 3>thought it was a really interesting conversation. A couple of

0:20:16.200 --> 0:20:18.119
<v Speaker 3>you guys messaged it to us privately as well and

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<v Speaker 3>was like, you should have this chat on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>So here I am bring in the chat, guys, bring it. Basically,

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<v Speaker 3>what happened is one of our listeners had shared a

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<v Speaker 3>story about how she was I don't know whether she

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<v Speaker 3>was at a nightclub. I don't know where she was,

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<v Speaker 3>but she was out and she was approached by these

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<v Speaker 3>couple of guys, two guys who were like, hey, what's up,

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<v Speaker 3>like wanted to have a chat with her, and she

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<v Speaker 3>ignored them, and then they were clearly offended by it,

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<v Speaker 3>but they went on with their day. And the question

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<v Speaker 3>that came up on the Facebook group was is it

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<v Speaker 3>okay to ignore a guy if a guy's trying to

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<v Speaker 3>make conversation with you, Because we often say on the

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<v Speaker 3>podcast that we should be more open to people approaching

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<v Speaker 3>in the wild and people starting conversation, but this girl

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<v Speaker 3>said she completely ignore them. She didn't really want to engage.

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<v Speaker 3>She obviously wasn't interested in them, didn't want to give

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<v Speaker 3>them an opener. And then she was like asking for

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<v Speaker 3>people's opinions on that on the Facebook group, and it

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<v Speaker 3>was a very mixed bag. Fifty to fifty people were like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>you don't need to say hello or owe someone anything,

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<v Speaker 3>and the other fifty percent of people were like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>it doesn't hurt to be nice. You know, you can

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<v Speaker 3>always be polite. And I know for a fact that

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<v Speaker 3>you and I have very different opinions on this.

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<v Speaker 1>So what do you guys think our opinions are, because

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<v Speaker 1>we do have very very conflicting opinions. What to your

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<v Speaker 1>you say yours for?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So I think as a female, if I'm approached

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<v Speaker 3>in the street and look, I definitely think it is

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<v Speaker 3>a situational thing. I also think it is from case

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<v Speaker 3>by case. So it depends on the person. It depends

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<v Speaker 3>on the energy that you're feeling from them as well.

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<v Speaker 3>It depends on whether you feel threatened or whether you

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<v Speaker 3>literally just could not be bothered because you have X

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<v Speaker 3>amount of other things going on in your life at

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<v Speaker 3>that time. But I genuinely don't think you owe a

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<v Speaker 3>complete stranger anything, and that if somebody was to say

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<v Speaker 3>like hey girl, as you're walking down the street, or

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<v Speaker 3>to cat call you or to whatever, you don't actually

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<v Speaker 3>owe them anything, no politeness. It doesn't make you a

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<v Speaker 3>bad person if you choose not to reply to them.

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<v Speaker 1>You just don't have to see. I disagree to an extent,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm going to explain that before you guys at me.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, she doesn't owe them anything. No one owes

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<v Speaker 1>anyone anything, especially if you don't know them. Would I respond, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>Do I think it's polite to respond. Yes, it'd be

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<v Speaker 1>different if they yelled out something explicit, if they are

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<v Speaker 1>literally if you guys are out and some guys have

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<v Speaker 1>been like oh, a guy has been like hey, girl, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>yelling out at you, that is a form of opening

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<v Speaker 1>a conversation if you if it's not sexual and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not making you feel uncomfortable, if it's literally them just

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<v Speaker 1>saying something to start a conversation, even if you're not interested,

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<v Speaker 1>I would have just said hey and keep walking, because

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's just a normal human pleasantry when someone

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<v Speaker 1>has opened a form of communication, not to ignore them.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I've been brought up. If he had said

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<v Speaker 1>something to me that had made me feel really uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>or dirty or sleazy, or I felt like I was unsafe,

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<v Speaker 1>I would just walk past and ignore them one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think there's a really fine line with us

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<v Speaker 1>as women saying that we wantn't men talk to us?

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<v Speaker 1>They why don't they approach us out when we're out,

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<v Speaker 1>and then when they do, even if it is like this, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe he'd been drinking, and he was probably a

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<v Speaker 1>bit louder, and he was probably a bit more like hey, girl, like,

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<v Speaker 1>has your know kind of fun even if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to engage, Like, that's literally what we are asking for.

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<v Speaker 1>We are asking for people to be more open and

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<v Speaker 1>talk to us. So I think it's pleasant and it's

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<v Speaker 1>polite as a human to say hey, hope you're having

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<v Speaker 1>a really good night and keep walking Inadvertently that is

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<v Speaker 1>saying I'm not interested, but you still being a good

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<v Speaker 1>enough human to acknowledge that they've gone out and said

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<v Speaker 1>hello to you and say no back. I think there's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of ways to respond to it and show

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<v Speaker 1>them that you're not interested.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, like, look, there's parts that I agree with,

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<v Speaker 3>and there's parts of that that I really strongly disagree with.

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<v Speaker 3>But I mean that's the whole beauty of this conversation

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<v Speaker 3>because like literally on the Facebook it was split fifty

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<v Speaker 3>to fifty. I think that sometimes by saying hello back

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<v Speaker 3>to someone and giving them any in it, then can

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<v Speaker 3>give off this impression that you're interested. And I know

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<v Speaker 3>that there's been loads of times where I've been at

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<v Speaker 3>with my girlfriends, I've probably been hit on that day,

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<v Speaker 3>or I've had a situation where I.

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<v Speaker 2>Didn't want to engage, and.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I've had someone come up and try and like

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<v Speaker 3>make conversation, and like, I know that they're making conversation

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<v Speaker 3>because they're interested in me, but I'm not interested. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to have a conversation with them. To me

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<v Speaker 3>saying like, hey, I'm not interested, like that could be

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<v Speaker 3>seen as a shutdown, and that could be seen as

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<v Speaker 3>being impolite. But like, I don't want to put my

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<v Speaker 3>energy into someone to open up a conversation with someone

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<v Speaker 3>when I know it's absolutely not going to go anywhere,

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<v Speaker 3>and I want to funnel my energy into the people

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<v Speaker 3>who I've chosen to spend my night with. I also

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<v Speaker 3>think that there's so many situations where women do feel

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<v Speaker 3>threatened by men calling out, by men approaching by like

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<v Speaker 3>groups of men trying to like, you know, talk to

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<v Speaker 3>one girl or calling out from across the street, and

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<v Speaker 3>it's like, who are we to say that, hey girl,

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever the cat call is or whatever the conversation

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<v Speaker 3>starter is, isn't something that they found threatened threatening, Like

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<v Speaker 3>maybe that person felt threatened purely by having a male

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<v Speaker 3>approach them in an environment that they didn't feel comfortable in,

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<v Speaker 3>for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>And if someone cat called me or yelled out's sleezy

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<v Speaker 1>to me, I would walk away and I would ignore them.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's not what this is. I think what it

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<v Speaker 1>comes down to is, of course, if it's sleezy and

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<v Speaker 1>you feel uncomfortable, of course ignore them. I don't engage

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<v Speaker 1>with them, walk away because you absolutely don't owe them.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to make it really clear that if

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are out and you're in a club, you're

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<v Speaker 1>in a bar, people are drinking and a guy comes

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<v Speaker 1>up and says hey to you and starts a conversation,

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<v Speaker 1>even if you're not interested. I think it's really important

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<v Speaker 1>to say hey back and then say have a good

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<v Speaker 1>night and walk away. I don't like I just think

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<v Speaker 1>it's normal human nature. It's a pleasantry, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's really rude not to You don't have to put

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<v Speaker 1>energy into it, Like to say hey and walk away

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<v Speaker 1>is not putting energy into it. Also, am I open

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<v Speaker 1>a conversation where you guys could be friends. You might

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<v Speaker 1>meet someone through his friends group, Like, that's that's the

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<v Speaker 1>whole reason people go out. So I think it's a

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<v Speaker 1>really fine line between women wanting people to approach them

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<v Speaker 1>and then when they do, they're like they get offended

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<v Speaker 1>by it. Or they get put off by I.

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<v Speaker 3>Think the other part of that is, like you're assuming

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<v Speaker 3>that women want men to approach them. There is a

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<v Speaker 3>subset of women who want men to approach them. Some

0:26:21.080 --> 0:26:23.080
<v Speaker 3>single women want men to approach them. I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>men to approach me at all. I'm not interested in it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to make small talk. I'm not available.

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<v Speaker 3>So like for me, you know, I can kind of understand,

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<v Speaker 3>and like, I'm not saying that I'm rude to people

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<v Speaker 3>when they come up to me at all. I'm absolutely not,

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't just shut down conversation. I'm definitely nowhere

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<v Speaker 3>near as brutal as what I'm sounding in this conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>But what I guess my point is on this is

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<v Speaker 3>that you don't owe someone anything, and it doesn't make

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<v Speaker 3>you a bad person if you choose not to engage

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<v Speaker 3>with somebody who's come up out of nowhere and has

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<v Speaker 3>demanded your attention. Because you are living your life, it's

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<v Speaker 3>very separate to theirs. Yes, there may be a small

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<v Speaker 3>amount of rudeness that's attached to it, but is that

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<v Speaker 3>really the worst.

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<v Speaker 2>Thing in the world.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I think

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<v Speaker 3>that it's like, you have agency and you have choice,

0:27:05.040 --> 0:27:07.200
<v Speaker 3>and you can either choose to say hello, but if

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<v Speaker 3>you choose to totally shut that conversation down.

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<v Speaker 2>As a woman who's.

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<v Speaker 3>Probably experienced cat calling and has been approached by numerous

0:27:13.320 --> 0:27:15.280
<v Speaker 3>men that you don't want to be approached by, there

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<v Speaker 3>does come a bit of burnout to it sometimes, and

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<v Speaker 3>you don't have to constantly be nice and be this pleasant, lovely,

0:27:20.960 --> 0:27:24.119
<v Speaker 3>perfectly polite female that we've been put into a box

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<v Speaker 3>to be like. I think it's very rare that men

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<v Speaker 3>experience cat calling to the same degree that women experience it,

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<v Speaker 3>and so there is this massive burnout that happens, which

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<v Speaker 3>I think that women are allowed to have a bit

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<v Speaker 3>of leeway with. If you don't want to have to

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<v Speaker 3>say hello back to a guy who comes up to

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<v Speaker 3>in a bar, man, that's your choice.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, like you can do anover the hell you want.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is an open discussion on how we react

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<v Speaker 1>and we're both very different.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, you like and look at that's fine, And that

0:27:51.160 --> 0:27:53.639
<v Speaker 3>was definitely a very heated conversation that happened in the

0:27:53.640 --> 0:27:54.359
<v Speaker 3>Facebook group.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's great because you want people to start talking

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<v Speaker 1>about this and you want to open up lines of

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<v Speaker 1>communication and see what other people think.

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't think that there is something that we

0:28:01.920 --> 0:28:03.680
<v Speaker 3>have to all agree on, like I think we can

0:28:03.720 --> 0:28:06.320
<v Speaker 3>all sit in different camps with this. But I did

0:28:06.359 --> 0:28:08.399
<v Speaker 3>read a really great article in regards to this. I

0:28:08.440 --> 0:28:09.879
<v Speaker 3>just want to like read out one part of it

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<v Speaker 3>which I thought, I was like, yes, I agree with this,

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<v Speaker 3>and I really really.

0:28:13.880 --> 0:28:16.159
<v Speaker 2>Like appreciate the way that she'd put it into words.

0:28:16.160 --> 0:28:17.120
<v Speaker 1>I can give it to us.

0:28:17.240 --> 0:28:19.600
<v Speaker 3>This article is entitled Dear men, this is how you

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<v Speaker 3>should be approaching a woman on the street. I'm not

0:28:22.800 --> 0:28:25.040
<v Speaker 3>sure where men learned that Hey girl, or can I

0:28:25.040 --> 0:28:27.680
<v Speaker 3>get your number? Or yeah, you look good? A great

0:28:27.680 --> 0:28:30.280
<v Speaker 3>openness to a conversation. Let me tell you something they're not.

0:28:30.720 --> 0:28:33.400
<v Speaker 3>These also, common openers aren't really openers at all.

0:28:33.480 --> 0:28:34.040
<v Speaker 2>They're boring.

0:28:34.080 --> 0:28:37.879
<v Speaker 3>They're overused lines that men usually and hopefully don't expect

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<v Speaker 3>a genuine response from. It's like dudes who send messages

0:28:40.840 --> 0:28:43.000
<v Speaker 3>on dating sites that are saying things like hey.

0:28:43.480 --> 0:28:44.880
<v Speaker 2>Sup, or you're cute.

0:28:45.960 --> 0:28:47.920
<v Speaker 3>If you want me to believe that you were interested

0:28:47.920 --> 0:28:51.000
<v Speaker 3>in me because I have something specifically worth your while,

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:53.600
<v Speaker 3>don't throw generic shit my way. I don't have time

0:28:53.640 --> 0:28:55.400
<v Speaker 3>for it. All it shows me is that you think

0:28:55.440 --> 0:28:58.040
<v Speaker 3>of women as a monolith. Like swiping right on all

0:28:58.080 --> 0:28:59.880
<v Speaker 3>of us in the hopes of getting at least one

0:29:00.040 --> 0:29:02.840
<v Speaker 3>response and treating us like we're faceless holes that you

0:29:03.000 --> 0:29:04.920
<v Speaker 3>may or may not get the chance to fuck.

0:29:05.160 --> 0:29:07.400
<v Speaker 2>It isn't a good way to express your interest in me.

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<v Speaker 1>They had these like boys will be boys' mentality, and

0:29:10.400 --> 0:29:12.000
<v Speaker 1>they think that when they all get together that that's

0:29:12.040 --> 0:29:13.640
<v Speaker 1>cool to call out to a woman and make you

0:29:13.680 --> 0:29:14.960
<v Speaker 1>feel uncomfortable in the stream.

0:29:15.080 --> 0:29:17.520
<v Speaker 3>But that's the issue, right The issue is that that

0:29:17.560 --> 0:29:21.440
<v Speaker 3>behavior happens so frequently that then when it doesn't when

0:29:21.480 --> 0:29:23.840
<v Speaker 3>a guy has genuine intent and isn't trying to be

0:29:23.880 --> 0:29:26.840
<v Speaker 3>an asshole. That's what I mean by this idea of burnout,

0:29:26.840 --> 0:29:30.000
<v Speaker 3>that when it's happened so many times, and that men

0:29:30.160 --> 0:29:32.920
<v Speaker 3>who do behave like that, who have no care for

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<v Speaker 3>the fact that their behavior makes a female feel uncomfortable,

0:29:36.080 --> 0:29:38.560
<v Speaker 3>then why is it that we need to always make

0:29:38.600 --> 0:29:41.320
<v Speaker 3>them feel comfortable and them feel appreciated, and therefore have

0:29:41.360 --> 0:29:41.880
<v Speaker 3>to be like.

0:29:41.800 --> 0:29:44.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh, hi, yeah, I hope you're having a good night too. No, no, sorry,

0:29:44.560 --> 0:29:45.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to drink.

0:29:45.240 --> 0:29:47.840
<v Speaker 3>I'm just here with my girlfriends, Like, I just don't

0:29:47.840 --> 0:29:50.520
<v Speaker 3>think that we always need to be as polite as

0:29:50.560 --> 0:29:52.600
<v Speaker 3>what we're expected to be. And that was kind of

0:29:52.640 --> 0:29:54.800
<v Speaker 3>like my stance on this, But I appreciate that our

0:29:54.840 --> 0:29:55.480
<v Speaker 3>views are different.

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<v Speaker 2>I just thought that that was really our.

0:29:57.240 --> 0:30:00.040
<v Speaker 1>Views are very much the same on being uncind in

0:30:00.040 --> 0:30:03.280
<v Speaker 1>an uncomfortable situation, like, without doubt, our views only differ

0:30:03.440 --> 0:30:06.280
<v Speaker 1>when we're talking, Like when we're inside a club, you're like,

0:30:06.360 --> 0:30:08.040
<v Speaker 1>sometimes you can't be bothered and you don't owe them

0:30:08.080 --> 0:30:09.680
<v Speaker 1>and you just don't want to even give them anything.

0:30:09.720 --> 0:30:12.120
<v Speaker 1>That's the only place that our views differ on the street,

0:30:12.200 --> 0:30:13.360
<v Speaker 1>don't you dare yell out to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Also, I haven't been at a club for so long.

0:30:15.080 --> 0:30:16.719
<v Speaker 3>I have no fucking idea how it works anymore.

0:30:16.760 --> 0:30:17.000
<v Speaker 4>Guys.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyways, all right, let's get into some accidentally unfiltered. You

0:30:20.160 --> 0:30:21.960
<v Speaker 3>guys know that we love this part of the episode,

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<v Speaker 3>and this is the last lot of accidentally unfiltereds.

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<v Speaker 1>For twenty twenty one, Isn't that crazy?

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<v Speaker 3>I just feel like this year has been the longest

0:30:28.320 --> 0:30:30.200
<v Speaker 3>and also the shortest year of my entire life.

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<v Speaker 1>I am going to kick start Accidentally Unfiltered with a

0:30:33.200 --> 0:30:35.400
<v Speaker 1>Christmas seemed one seen as though it is Christmas.

0:30:35.400 --> 0:30:38.960
<v Speaker 2>How very very on theme perfectly.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you just really need to explain that one.

0:30:41.800 --> 0:30:44.080
<v Speaker 1>I have been with my partner for nearly five years,

0:30:44.200 --> 0:30:46.800
<v Speaker 1>and we have done the last two years long distance.

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<v Speaker 1>It really sucked. We had really launchy phone calls to

0:30:49.760 --> 0:30:52.720
<v Speaker 1>get us through the tough times. Last Christmas Eve, I

0:30:52.880 --> 0:30:55.200
<v Speaker 1>had had a fair few drinks. I was feeling really

0:30:55.240 --> 0:30:58.080
<v Speaker 1>frisky and just really feeling myself, so I thought it

0:30:58.120 --> 0:31:00.640
<v Speaker 1>would be an amazing idea to give my no cheeky

0:31:00.680 --> 0:31:04.000
<v Speaker 1>phone call. The call went to voicemail, but I proceeded

0:31:04.000 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 1>to leave a very drunken and very sexy voice message

0:31:07.600 --> 0:31:10.120
<v Speaker 1>detailing all the things I would do to him if

0:31:10.160 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 1>he were here with me, and everything I would want

0:31:12.400 --> 0:31:15.000
<v Speaker 1>him to do to me. I even went as far

0:31:15.080 --> 0:31:18.120
<v Speaker 1>as to referring to myself as missus Claus. To my

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<v Speaker 1>absolute horror, when I went to hang up the phone,

0:31:21.280 --> 0:31:24.000
<v Speaker 1>I realized that I had just left this voice message

0:31:24.360 --> 0:31:29.800
<v Speaker 1>for his dad, no, her father in law. She just

0:31:29.920 --> 0:31:34.760
<v Speaker 1>spoke about Yeah, I'm talking like where she wants him

0:31:34.760 --> 0:31:37.080
<v Speaker 1>to blow his load, how she wants him to do it.

0:31:37.520 --> 0:31:42.080
<v Speaker 1>Holy wow. But the weird thing is what can you

0:31:42.120 --> 0:31:43.800
<v Speaker 1>do They never spoke about it again.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like you can't do that.

0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:49.640
<v Speaker 3>I feel like you need to address the situation right absolutely,

0:31:49.680 --> 0:31:51.760
<v Speaker 3>never do you reckon you No.

0:31:52.000 --> 0:31:54.719
<v Speaker 2>I think that like, no, never address it.

0:31:54.800 --> 0:31:57.800
<v Speaker 3>I think that, like, if the dad doesn't bring it

0:31:57.880 --> 0:31:59.720
<v Speaker 3>up in conversation, you're not going to be like, hey,

0:31:59.760 --> 0:32:02.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry about how I told you I wanted you

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<v Speaker 3>to come on my.

0:32:02.440 --> 0:32:04.320
<v Speaker 1>How I wanted to say say to you that was

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<v Speaker 1>actually to.

0:32:04.880 --> 0:32:06.959
<v Speaker 2>Your son anyway.

0:32:06.960 --> 0:32:08.760
<v Speaker 1>The other thing is she wouldn't have said his name.

0:32:08.800 --> 0:32:10.680
<v Speaker 1>She wouldn't have been like, hey, John, she would have

0:32:10.680 --> 0:32:13.360
<v Speaker 1>been like hey baby. So he probably this dad probably

0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:15.360
<v Speaker 1>thinks he's getting lucky from someone. Looks down and he's like,

0:32:15.400 --> 0:32:18.760
<v Speaker 1>what like my ord law, I was like, you were

0:32:18.960 --> 0:32:25.880
<v Speaker 1>not mare well, I mean maybe all his dreams. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>do you have one?

0:32:26.640 --> 0:32:29.000
<v Speaker 2>Wait, I have a great one. Okay, it's very short.

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<v Speaker 3>It's very sweet, not for the person who experienced it, though.

0:32:32.720 --> 0:32:36.520
<v Speaker 3>I work in a hospital, which was especially This is

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<v Speaker 3>also a Christmas one.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even realize, but it is because this is

0:32:39.320 --> 0:32:41.920
<v Speaker 1>not me, I can tell you now, which is especially.

0:32:41.480 --> 0:32:44.800
<v Speaker 3>Busy at the moment because it's Christmas. This happened to

0:32:44.800 --> 0:32:47.720
<v Speaker 3>me just the other day. I had an intense wedgie

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<v Speaker 3>for about ten minutes, and when I finally had a

0:32:50.800 --> 0:32:54.880
<v Speaker 3>second to myself, abducted into the corner and forcefully pulled

0:32:54.880 --> 0:32:56.240
<v Speaker 3>my wedgie out of my butt crack.

0:32:56.520 --> 0:32:58.200
<v Speaker 1>How gressy was the wedgie?

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<v Speaker 3>We were all being there when you were like, you know,

0:33:01.080 --> 0:33:02.960
<v Speaker 3>it's just been going on for so long, and you're

0:33:03.000 --> 0:33:04.720
<v Speaker 3>around people all the time, you just haven't had a

0:33:04.760 --> 0:33:08.400
<v Speaker 3>chance to dig and just really get some good relief.

0:33:09.200 --> 0:33:12.560
<v Speaker 3>I forcefully pulled the weggie out. Unbeknownst to me, I

0:33:12.600 --> 0:33:17.000
<v Speaker 3>had also gripped my tampon string with and I pulled

0:33:17.000 --> 0:33:20.080
<v Speaker 3>my tampon out with my weggie in the middle of

0:33:20.160 --> 0:33:22.680
<v Speaker 3>my fucking shift into my scrubs.

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<v Speaker 4>Shall tell you?

0:33:25.320 --> 0:33:27.600
<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you, these scrubs are not tired. These

0:33:27.600 --> 0:33:29.920
<v Speaker 1>are big baggy loose pants. Like that tampon is coming

0:33:29.920 --> 0:33:31.320
<v Speaker 1>straight down your leg onto the floor.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, it gets better. And then I realized there was

0:33:33.960 --> 0:33:40.760
<v Speaker 4>also two doctors in the room. Imagine to try them out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so like where was on the floor, welld been

0:33:43.760 --> 0:33:44.440
<v Speaker 1>at host scrubs.

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:46.520
<v Speaker 3>Imagine trying to shuffle out whilst holding your tampon like

0:33:46.560 --> 0:33:47.560
<v Speaker 3>against your mid thigh.

0:33:47.680 --> 0:33:50.560
<v Speaker 1>You can't get straight down. They're big baggy pants.

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<v Speaker 3>I have a really mortifying story that's very, very similar

0:33:53.880 --> 0:33:56.760
<v Speaker 3>to this to you personally. Yeah, this is me personally.

0:33:56.880 --> 0:33:58.360
<v Speaker 3>Can't wait for this one to end up in daily

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<v Speaker 3>Now have we not heard about how this still.

0:34:00.200 --> 0:34:00.720
<v Speaker 4>Place my mind?

0:34:00.720 --> 0:34:02.280
<v Speaker 1>When we get to this point where we're still telling

0:34:02.280 --> 0:34:04.080
<v Speaker 1>each other stories, we're like, how was this not come up?

0:34:04.160 --> 0:34:05.320
<v Speaker 2>We're gonna be like eighty years old.

0:34:05.320 --> 0:34:07.880
<v Speaker 4>I'll be like, remember that time where I fucked my cousin.

0:34:08.000 --> 0:34:13.319
<v Speaker 2>I mean, guys, I definitely didn't. Please, don't read an

0:34:13.360 --> 0:34:14.319
<v Speaker 2>article about that.

0:34:14.440 --> 0:34:14.960
<v Speaker 4>I feel like we.

0:34:14.960 --> 0:34:17.800
<v Speaker 1>Should maybe even take that out. I'm gonna go with Saphara, say.

0:34:17.640 --> 0:34:18.600
<v Speaker 4>We need to take that out.

0:34:19.200 --> 0:34:21.719
<v Speaker 2>Leave it whatever, Let's go rogue. It's Christmas time in

0:34:21.760 --> 0:34:23.040
<v Speaker 2>the spirit. Okay.

0:34:23.200 --> 0:34:26.840
<v Speaker 3>So I was like eighteen and my boyfriend at the time,

0:34:28.040 --> 0:34:30.719
<v Speaker 3>he was great. It was my first boyfriend. He's a

0:34:30.760 --> 0:34:32.720
<v Speaker 3>lovely guy, married now two kids.

0:34:32.800 --> 0:34:33.680
<v Speaker 2>Wow, good to day.

0:34:33.840 --> 0:34:34.320
<v Speaker 1>Congrats.

0:34:34.480 --> 0:34:37.040
<v Speaker 3>Anyway, So we were at the beach and we were

0:34:37.040 --> 0:34:39.760
<v Speaker 3>there with all of our friends and I was wearing

0:34:39.920 --> 0:34:42.319
<v Speaker 3>I was wearing like a white and black pattern to bikini, right,

0:34:42.560 --> 0:34:44.960
<v Speaker 3>like more black, little bit of white pattern on it.

0:34:45.480 --> 0:34:47.839
<v Speaker 3>I remember this so vividly, and this is like, god

0:34:47.880 --> 0:34:49.640
<v Speaker 3>like going back sixteen years ago.

0:34:49.719 --> 0:34:50.680
<v Speaker 2>Now that's how old I am.

0:34:50.719 --> 0:34:52.480
<v Speaker 1>I feel like we should never put this into numbers

0:34:52.480 --> 0:34:54.360
<v Speaker 1>because it makes us sixteen.

0:34:54.239 --> 0:34:56.760
<v Speaker 3>Like this is all I was almost half the age

0:34:57.080 --> 0:35:00.640
<v Speaker 3>that this was ago. Okay, we're now with the Weason's bad.

0:35:00.200 --> 0:35:05.160
<v Speaker 3>It's it's long pent up, long standing trauma. So I

0:35:05.160 --> 0:35:07.239
<v Speaker 3>got out of the water and I was telling myself off,

0:35:07.239 --> 0:35:08.920
<v Speaker 3>and I thought I was hot shit at the time

0:35:08.960 --> 0:35:11.160
<v Speaker 3>as well, Like I was eighteen year old Laura telling

0:35:11.200 --> 0:35:11.879
<v Speaker 3>myself off.

0:35:11.920 --> 0:35:13.560
<v Speaker 2>And my boyfriend was sitting on.

0:35:13.440 --> 0:35:15.799
<v Speaker 3>The towel, another towel, and then we had all our

0:35:15.840 --> 0:35:17.799
<v Speaker 3>friends around who are also sitting on the towel, and he

0:35:18.239 --> 0:35:19.719
<v Speaker 3>looks up to me and we're having a chat, and

0:35:19.760 --> 0:35:23.040
<v Speaker 3>halfway through the conversation, he goes, okay, you've got a string,

0:35:23.680 --> 0:35:28.279
<v Speaker 3>thinking I had a string on my bikini.

0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:30.680
<v Speaker 1>Like a thread, like a loose thread, like a thread,

0:35:31.280 --> 0:35:33.440
<v Speaker 1>and he went to pull it. Didn't he he pulled it.

0:35:33.680 --> 0:35:35.480
<v Speaker 2>He didn't go oh my god.

0:35:35.840 --> 0:35:38.600
<v Speaker 3>No, I was eighteen years old and I had my

0:35:38.680 --> 0:35:41.920
<v Speaker 3>tampon pulled out in front of my group of friends

0:35:42.239 --> 0:35:43.120
<v Speaker 3>by my boyfriend.

0:35:43.120 --> 0:35:45.719
<v Speaker 2>In three months in the daylight of speech.

0:35:48.880 --> 0:35:50.759
<v Speaker 4>Didn't come all the way out. It came all the

0:35:50.760 --> 0:35:51.080
<v Speaker 4>way up.

0:35:51.080 --> 0:35:52.880
<v Speaker 3>I got trapped in my swimmers, thank god they were

0:35:53.000 --> 0:35:55.560
<v Speaker 3>so tight. But he realized what he'd done, and I

0:35:55.680 --> 0:35:58.920
<v Speaker 3>realized what he'd done obviously, and I think a couple

0:35:59.000 --> 0:36:01.279
<v Speaker 3>of them friends realized you've done it. Everyone was just

0:36:01.320 --> 0:36:04.759
<v Speaker 3>like silose and then everyone started laughing, and then I

0:36:04.840 --> 0:36:05.800
<v Speaker 3>was I was eighteen.

0:36:05.880 --> 0:36:06.320
<v Speaker 4>I cried.

0:36:06.320 --> 0:36:08.319
<v Speaker 1>I went sat in the bathroom, cried and broke up

0:36:08.320 --> 0:36:08.919
<v Speaker 1>with him my home.

0:36:09.080 --> 0:36:12.160
<v Speaker 2>No, no, we dated for two years. That's hourly story.

0:36:13.160 --> 0:36:15.440
<v Speaker 1>I reckon to a guy, he wouldn't even think. He

0:36:15.440 --> 0:36:18.160
<v Speaker 1>would just think that he's pulling literally like a loose

0:36:18.200 --> 0:36:19.719
<v Speaker 1>tread from your clothing, which you would want him to

0:36:19.719 --> 0:36:21.960
<v Speaker 1>do if it was on your back or on your sleeve,

0:36:22.239 --> 0:36:24.879
<v Speaker 1>but not coming out of your vagina. So men, if

0:36:24.920 --> 0:36:27.680
<v Speaker 1>you see a string ever coming out of a woman's

0:36:27.719 --> 0:36:31.560
<v Speaker 1>pants a bought mission immediately. Are you still traumatized?

0:36:31.719 --> 0:36:32.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm literally still trauma.

0:36:32.840 --> 0:36:33.600
<v Speaker 4>I can't believe I have not.

0:36:33.760 --> 0:36:35.440
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I must have told that story on

0:36:35.480 --> 0:36:38.000
<v Speaker 3>the podcast before and it's just gotten like lost in

0:36:38.040 --> 0:36:38.560
<v Speaker 3>the depths of.

0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:39.479
<v Speaker 2>The last year and a half.

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:39.879
<v Speaker 4>Mate.

0:36:39.880 --> 0:36:40.680
<v Speaker 2>But if I haven't.

0:36:41.239 --> 0:36:44.759
<v Speaker 3>Then there you go, guys, that's a true, true story

0:36:44.840 --> 0:36:47.120
<v Speaker 3>that happened to me. And I hope that inspires you,

0:36:47.200 --> 0:36:49.400
<v Speaker 3>guys to keep on sending in your Acidently Unfiltered stories

0:36:49.400 --> 0:36:51.680
<v Speaker 3>for twenty twenty one because you're not alone.

0:36:51.880 --> 0:36:53.400
<v Speaker 2>That's the whole reason why we do this section of

0:36:53.400 --> 0:36:53.880
<v Speaker 2>the podcast.

0:36:53.880 --> 0:36:55.320
<v Speaker 1>How many people do you think of actually had the

0:36:55.360 --> 0:36:58.000
<v Speaker 1>tampon pulled out by a significant other, like accidentally? Do

0:36:58.000 --> 0:36:59.680
<v Speaker 1>you think that that is a high statistic?

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<v Speaker 3>Want to say that's not high, But do you know

0:37:01.320 --> 0:37:03.160
<v Speaker 3>how many people we've had right in who have had

0:37:03.200 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 3>to get a relative or a boyfriend or a husband

0:37:06.320 --> 0:37:09.399
<v Speaker 3>or a partner or whoever, or a friend to get

0:37:09.440 --> 0:37:11.600
<v Speaker 3>in there and dig out a lost tampon. That is

0:37:11.600 --> 0:37:14.440
<v Speaker 3>like a very reoccurring, constant conversation that we receive in

0:37:14.480 --> 0:37:22.719
<v Speaker 3>Acidently Unfiltered talking about tampon, we should get into the

0:37:22.719 --> 0:37:24.960
<v Speaker 3>whole point of this episode, which was to talk about

0:37:25.040 --> 0:37:25.719
<v Speaker 3>We're only going.

0:37:25.640 --> 0:37:29.000
<v Speaker 2>To do it briefly. We're going to talk about news resolutions, which.

0:37:28.800 --> 0:37:31.919
<v Speaker 1>We actually discussed more in depth and we don't really

0:37:31.920 --> 0:37:32.560
<v Speaker 1>believe in them.

0:37:32.920 --> 0:37:35.240
<v Speaker 3>We talked about it on last year's episode. On twenty twenty,

0:37:35.400 --> 0:37:37.239
<v Speaker 3>Big twenty twenty Energy episode, if you want to go

0:37:37.280 --> 0:37:39.399
<v Speaker 3>back and listen to that, I actually don't go back

0:37:39.400 --> 0:37:41.200
<v Speaker 3>and listen to that because I went back and listened

0:37:41.239 --> 0:37:42.960
<v Speaker 3>to that and it wasn't a very good episode.

0:37:43.200 --> 0:37:43.920
<v Speaker 4>Lauren didn't like her.

0:37:44.000 --> 0:37:45.600
<v Speaker 1>She's like we, she goes, I went back and listen

0:37:45.600 --> 0:37:47.320
<v Speaker 1>to ex episode. Babe, what are we thinking?

0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:48.640
<v Speaker 2>We just weren't as funny.

0:37:48.680 --> 0:37:50.640
<v Speaker 3>We just weren't as we didn't know each other as well.

0:37:50.680 --> 0:37:54.160
<v Speaker 3>And I guess over the years, like our relationship has grown,

0:37:54.239 --> 0:37:56.800
<v Speaker 3>like we know each other better, we find each other funnier.

0:37:56.920 --> 0:37:58.520
<v Speaker 1>Well, what I think it is, too, is I think

0:37:58.560 --> 0:38:01.719
<v Speaker 1>like when I when we reflect back on the podcast

0:38:02.000 --> 0:38:04.399
<v Speaker 1>and when we started, and I think what it is

0:38:04.400 --> 0:38:07.200
<v Speaker 1>is if you guys are OG listeners, I'm sure you'll

0:38:07.200 --> 0:38:10.719
<v Speaker 1>agree that our dynamic has changed drastically. We're so much

0:38:10.760 --> 0:38:12.880
<v Speaker 1>more open, we have so much more banter, We're so

0:38:12.960 --> 0:38:15.120
<v Speaker 1>much more open about what we speak about. I put

0:38:15.120 --> 0:38:17.360
<v Speaker 1>that down to the fact that when we started the podcast,

0:38:17.360 --> 0:38:18.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if a lot of people realized, but

0:38:19.080 --> 0:38:21.719
<v Speaker 1>we didn't know each other that well. We'd only had

0:38:21.719 --> 0:38:23.960
<v Speaker 1>like a few catch ups. We were just in the

0:38:24.080 --> 0:38:28.000
<v Speaker 1>very early days of like becoming sporadic friends. Like I'm talking,

0:38:28.080 --> 0:38:30.400
<v Speaker 1>we'd go for a walk and get breakfast like three times.

0:38:30.640 --> 0:38:32.279
<v Speaker 1>Then we just decided to have this grand idea to

0:38:32.320 --> 0:38:34.440
<v Speaker 1>start the podcast. So we were starting it where we

0:38:34.520 --> 0:38:37.080
<v Speaker 1>wanted to deliver the goods. We wanted to make a

0:38:37.080 --> 0:38:39.239
<v Speaker 1>funny but we just didn't have the connection yet, Like

0:38:39.280 --> 0:38:41.440
<v Speaker 1>we didn't have the stories to tell, we didn't have

0:38:41.480 --> 0:38:43.120
<v Speaker 1>the bands because we didn't know each other well enough.

0:38:43.160 --> 0:38:45.359
<v Speaker 1>So when we listen back now, we're like, what were

0:38:45.400 --> 0:38:48.440
<v Speaker 1>we doing? It was so like formal and so like

0:38:48.520 --> 0:38:50.160
<v Speaker 1>how do you feel today? Kind of thing? And I

0:38:50.160 --> 0:38:54.239
<v Speaker 1>look at us now about nothing's off limits, everything's unfiltered,

0:38:54.280 --> 0:38:58.200
<v Speaker 1>And I love that because that, I believe is why

0:38:58.280 --> 0:39:00.520
<v Speaker 1>you guys like to listen, because you find it and

0:39:00.560 --> 0:39:02.960
<v Speaker 1>you know that, like we're all on the same pain for.

0:39:02.920 --> 0:39:05.000
<v Speaker 3>Anyone who has been listening since the very beginning, Like

0:39:05.000 --> 0:39:07.799
<v Speaker 3>you guys are the real MVPs because you've come along

0:39:07.840 --> 0:39:10.240
<v Speaker 3>this journey with us, and you've come along our friendship

0:39:10.280 --> 0:39:12.000
<v Speaker 3>with us as well, and like how much things have

0:39:12.120 --> 0:39:14.759
<v Speaker 3>changed and how our dynamics change, and also just how

0:39:14.760 --> 0:39:17.280
<v Speaker 3>the podcast in general has and like we love making

0:39:17.320 --> 0:39:19.319
<v Speaker 3>this every week. We love being able to do our

0:39:19.360 --> 0:39:22.400
<v Speaker 3>ask guncut sections where we answer your questions. And there's

0:39:22.400 --> 0:39:26.480
<v Speaker 3>been so much about this podcast which has evolved over.

0:39:26.320 --> 0:39:27.360
<v Speaker 2>The last year and a half.

0:39:27.520 --> 0:39:30.239
<v Speaker 3>And yeah, listening back to that first episode, I just

0:39:30.280 --> 0:39:34.160
<v Speaker 3>found it so funny, like how polite Britta and I

0:39:34.200 --> 0:39:36.560
<v Speaker 3>were to each other and the absolutely niceties. But it

0:39:36.600 --> 0:39:39.600
<v Speaker 3>came from us not only just not knowing each other

0:39:39.640 --> 0:39:41.560
<v Speaker 3>that well, but also like living in a bit of

0:39:41.600 --> 0:39:44.560
<v Speaker 3>fear about sharing so much of our lives. And you know,

0:39:44.640 --> 0:39:47.560
<v Speaker 3>I was really sensitive about saying the wrong thing because

0:39:47.560 --> 0:39:49.279
<v Speaker 3>I didn't want it to end up in Daily Mail.

0:39:49.360 --> 0:39:50.399
<v Speaker 2>And now I don't care.

0:39:50.440 --> 0:39:51.960
<v Speaker 3>I think it's really funny when stuff ends up in

0:39:51.960 --> 0:39:54.360
<v Speaker 3>Deadly Mud. If anything, we know egg them on. So, like,

0:39:54.440 --> 0:39:58.120
<v Speaker 3>you know, we have grown in confidence across this podcast

0:39:58.280 --> 0:40:00.279
<v Speaker 3>as a result of you guys, and you guys like

0:40:00.360 --> 0:40:04.040
<v Speaker 3>being so supportive and being so engaged, and you know,

0:40:04.239 --> 0:40:06.279
<v Speaker 3>you made us feel like what we're putting out in

0:40:06.320 --> 0:40:07.960
<v Speaker 3>the world is valid and that you know you're getting

0:40:07.960 --> 0:40:09.319
<v Speaker 3>something out of it, and that's the only reason why

0:40:09.360 --> 0:40:11.480
<v Speaker 3>we keep coming back and doing it. So that's a

0:40:11.520 --> 0:40:13.440
<v Speaker 3>big thank you to you guys, and especially to those

0:40:13.480 --> 0:40:15.000
<v Speaker 3>of you who have been with us since the beginning,

0:40:15.160 --> 0:40:16.880
<v Speaker 3>or to those of you who've gone back and listened

0:40:16.920 --> 0:40:18.800
<v Speaker 3>to the beginning, which is another bloody big effort.

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:20.719
<v Speaker 1>What do you feel like your favorite episode has been,

0:40:20.760 --> 0:40:22.200
<v Speaker 1>like just looking back, do you have one that you

0:40:22.280 --> 0:40:23.359
<v Speaker 1>just love to do or.

0:40:23.320 --> 0:40:26.120
<v Speaker 3>You I think like my favorite episode, which is definitely

0:40:26.120 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 3>not because of the lolls or anything, but I think

0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:30.160
<v Speaker 3>one of my favorite episodes is the narcissist episode that

0:40:30.200 --> 0:40:34.279
<v Speaker 3>we did Dating a Narcissist, Also the breakup episode that

0:40:34.280 --> 0:40:34.600
<v Speaker 3>we did.

0:40:34.640 --> 0:40:35.840
<v Speaker 2>I think that both of those.

0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:38.200
<v Speaker 3>I know how much they've related to people because I

0:40:38.280 --> 0:40:41.480
<v Speaker 3>know constantly how many messages and emails we get in

0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:44.319
<v Speaker 3>regards to those two episodes. The other really big one

0:40:44.360 --> 0:40:46.400
<v Speaker 3>for me was the episode that we did on miscarriage,

0:40:46.400 --> 0:40:49.160
<v Speaker 3>and I think that that I'm really proud of that episode,

0:40:49.239 --> 0:40:52.480
<v Speaker 3>and I still have women contact me a weekly saying

0:40:52.960 --> 0:40:54.480
<v Speaker 3>thank you so much for putting that out there, Like

0:40:54.520 --> 0:40:57.080
<v Speaker 3>I feel less alone now because I've been able to

0:40:57.120 --> 0:40:59.439
<v Speaker 3>listen to somebody else's story, and I think that there's

0:40:59.480 --> 0:41:03.400
<v Speaker 3>so much pains and sharing vulnerable moments, and all of

0:41:03.440 --> 0:41:06.920
<v Speaker 3>those episodes have shared different parts of our experiences and

0:41:06.960 --> 0:41:09.920
<v Speaker 3>our vulnerable moments, and so yeah, they're definitely my top three.

0:41:10.320 --> 0:41:13.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm also very proud of the miscarriage episode, even though obviously,

0:41:13.680 --> 0:41:16.000
<v Speaker 1>like I was on, the episode had nothing to do

0:41:16.040 --> 0:41:18.160
<v Speaker 1>with me. But I'm proud of the fact that we're

0:41:18.160 --> 0:41:21.120
<v Speaker 1>just able to produce something that we put out into

0:41:21.120 --> 0:41:22.600
<v Speaker 1>the world that's going to help people. I'm proud of

0:41:22.640 --> 0:41:24.640
<v Speaker 1>you for being able to open up. It is hard,

0:41:24.680 --> 0:41:27.279
<v Speaker 1>and I think, but we are sharing big parts of

0:41:27.320 --> 0:41:30.120
<v Speaker 1>our life in hopes that it helps at least one person,

0:41:30.160 --> 0:41:32.400
<v Speaker 1>and that was not easy for Laura to do for sure,

0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:34.399
<v Speaker 1>So I'm proud of you for that. So like that's

0:41:34.440 --> 0:41:35.000
<v Speaker 1>my little.

0:41:34.800 --> 0:41:36.600
<v Speaker 4>Thing, thank ah.

0:41:37.680 --> 0:41:41.120
<v Speaker 1>I also really loved and that this sounds funny too.

0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:42.959
<v Speaker 1>I really loved the episode we just did with doctor

0:41:43.000 --> 0:41:45.600
<v Speaker 1>Angela Jay on domestic violence, and I love that for

0:41:45.640 --> 0:41:49.399
<v Speaker 1>the same reason that I'm proud that women are strong

0:41:49.520 --> 0:41:52.840
<v Speaker 1>enough to come forward and tell their story in hopes

0:41:52.920 --> 0:41:55.720
<v Speaker 1>that they can continue to relive the trauma about helping

0:41:55.760 --> 0:41:58.120
<v Speaker 1>people at the same time. And there's so much power

0:41:58.120 --> 0:42:00.759
<v Speaker 1>in that she went through something incredible, and so many

0:42:00.840 --> 0:42:02.920
<v Speaker 1>of you guys reached out about that episode that you

0:42:02.960 --> 0:42:04.839
<v Speaker 1>were just hooked and you loved it, and it's made

0:42:04.880 --> 0:42:07.200
<v Speaker 1>you think a lot. We've had people reach out saying

0:42:07.239 --> 0:42:10.160
<v Speaker 1>that it's helping them in their toxic situations and relationships.

0:42:10.239 --> 0:42:13.239
<v Speaker 1>So that's like one of my favorite episode episodes as well.

0:42:13.680 --> 0:42:16.360
<v Speaker 1>One of actually my all time phase was that random

0:42:16.400 --> 0:42:18.920
<v Speaker 1>episode we did when we threw in a bonus episode

0:42:18.920 --> 0:42:20.880
<v Speaker 1>when we went into lockdown, and it was just we

0:42:20.960 --> 0:42:23.560
<v Speaker 1>just went on this, like we started selling funny accidentally

0:42:23.560 --> 0:42:25.320
<v Speaker 1>on filters and we just couldn't stop and we just

0:42:25.400 --> 0:42:27.680
<v Speaker 1>kept thinking. I still listened to that and laugh. It

0:42:27.719 --> 0:42:30.840
<v Speaker 1>was literally just a bonus episode full of squabble, but

0:42:30.880 --> 0:42:32.320
<v Speaker 1>it was so bloody funny.

0:42:32.440 --> 0:42:34.040
<v Speaker 3>It was just us going down a rabbit hole. And

0:42:34.080 --> 0:42:36.000
<v Speaker 3>I guess that that was also like a massive turning

0:42:36.000 --> 0:42:37.520
<v Speaker 3>point when we were getting to know each other more

0:42:37.560 --> 0:42:40.439
<v Speaker 3>as well, because like we rarely now, I mean apart

0:42:40.440 --> 0:42:42.640
<v Speaker 3>from the tampon story, but we rarely now have stories

0:42:42.680 --> 0:42:44.680
<v Speaker 3>to tell each other that the other person hasn't already

0:42:44.680 --> 0:42:47.640
<v Speaker 3>heard anyways, getting into Resolutions for twenty twenty one, we

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:50.000
<v Speaker 3>did do a whole episode on our Resolutions for twenty

0:42:50.040 --> 0:42:52.839
<v Speaker 3>twenty which is quite a while ago, almost a whole year,

0:42:53.320 --> 0:42:56.040
<v Speaker 3>and I listened to it back today and I can

0:42:56.480 --> 0:43:00.400
<v Speaker 3>very very proudly say that Brittany, you did not You

0:43:00.480 --> 0:43:03.040
<v Speaker 3>did not fulfill any of your New Year's resolutions.

0:43:03.600 --> 0:43:04.880
<v Speaker 4>I fulfilled one.

0:43:05.600 --> 0:43:07.640
<v Speaker 1>I went in pretty hard. My number one thing was

0:43:07.880 --> 0:43:10.160
<v Speaker 1>and if you're falling from the start, you guys will remember.

0:43:10.400 --> 0:43:14.080
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I want to eat less sugar. Did

0:43:14.120 --> 0:43:16.320
<v Speaker 1>I eat less sugar? No? Did I eat more sugar? Yes?

0:43:18.160 --> 0:43:21.160
<v Speaker 1>I have been a sugar fiend to the point that

0:43:21.239 --> 0:43:24.520
<v Speaker 1>I have made myself sick, and I have started This

0:43:24.600 --> 0:43:26.880
<v Speaker 1>is nothing I want to talk about why we have

0:43:26.960 --> 0:43:30.160
<v Speaker 1>to start resolutions on January one. I have started to

0:43:30.200 --> 0:43:32.960
<v Speaker 1>try and turn around this resolution now in the month

0:43:33.000 --> 0:43:35.120
<v Speaker 1>of December because I wanted to enter the new year

0:43:35.120 --> 0:43:36.960
<v Speaker 1>feeling good. So I am proud to say I have

0:43:37.000 --> 0:43:39.560
<v Speaker 1>wound my sugar back to probably a ten percent consumption.

0:43:40.560 --> 0:43:42.160
<v Speaker 2>Nothing like a hot dash of the finish line.

0:43:42.160 --> 0:43:43.160
<v Speaker 4>Babe. Well, no, I.

0:43:43.080 --> 0:43:44.919
<v Speaker 1>Did walk in today and Laura's like, did you break cooking?

0:43:45.000 --> 0:43:47.080
<v Speaker 1>I was like, delicious. I started eating that straight away,

0:43:47.120 --> 0:43:48.640
<v Speaker 1>so I was like, I'm not there yet. I'm not

0:43:48.719 --> 0:43:50.600
<v Speaker 1>fully recovered, but it's a thing. I also said I

0:43:50.640 --> 0:43:52.680
<v Speaker 1>wanted to start surfing. I surfed twice this year. I'm

0:43:52.719 --> 0:43:56.319
<v Speaker 1>really disappointed in that. So I didn't fulfill that I

0:43:56.440 --> 0:43:58.880
<v Speaker 1>said that I wanted to get into acting more, and

0:43:58.920 --> 0:44:01.000
<v Speaker 1>I did feel my first met this year, so I

0:44:01.040 --> 0:44:03.960
<v Speaker 1>can tick that off. So I'm like, I'm at like

0:44:04.000 --> 0:44:07.080
<v Speaker 1>a forty percent maybe success rate when I look back

0:44:07.080 --> 0:44:09.000
<v Speaker 1>at what I wanted to do. That's not it's not great.

0:44:09.040 --> 0:44:11.000
<v Speaker 1>But also like hashtag govid.

0:44:11.120 --> 0:44:13.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this year is like absolutely right off.

0:44:13.080 --> 0:44:15.680
<v Speaker 3>Nobody was expected to hold on to their news resolutions,

0:44:15.719 --> 0:44:18.040
<v Speaker 3>and anybody who even executed a quarter of them.

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:19.719
<v Speaker 2>Well fucking done.

0:44:19.960 --> 0:44:21.640
<v Speaker 3>I would just like to say that I went into

0:44:21.640 --> 0:44:23.680
<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty with my news resolution being that I was

0:44:23.719 --> 0:44:24.560
<v Speaker 3>gonna have more sex.

0:44:24.880 --> 0:44:27.959
<v Speaker 2>I have definitely not fulfilled that you did it once.

0:44:28.200 --> 0:44:31.240
<v Speaker 3>Well, yeah, like okay, So when we recorded in twenty twenty,

0:44:31.239 --> 0:44:35.160
<v Speaker 3>it was like January obviously, and Marley was six months old,

0:44:35.440 --> 0:44:36.640
<v Speaker 3>and I was like, yeah, this is.

0:44:36.560 --> 0:44:37.840
<v Speaker 2>Gonna be the year Matt and I are going to

0:44:37.880 --> 0:44:38.799
<v Speaker 2>get out mojo back.

0:44:38.840 --> 0:44:42.280
<v Speaker 3>It's going to be so great. Literally, I was pregnant

0:44:42.320 --> 0:44:43.280
<v Speaker 3>again by March.

0:44:43.680 --> 0:44:46.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean insane, you were so fertile. I'm like, he

0:44:46.200 --> 0:44:47.840
<v Speaker 1>only had to look at you and you got pregnant.

0:44:48.280 --> 0:44:50.600
<v Speaker 3>I was pregnant, and then obviously like I got pregnant

0:44:50.600 --> 0:44:52.600
<v Speaker 3>straight away and then I had the miscarriage, and then

0:44:52.640 --> 0:44:55.400
<v Speaker 3>I got pregnant again with this baby, so I have

0:44:55.520 --> 0:44:58.440
<v Speaker 3>been pregnant. I'm like an elephant. I have been pregnant

0:44:58.440 --> 0:45:00.279
<v Speaker 3>for pretty much the entire time. Brittany's me.

0:45:01.360 --> 0:45:04.000
<v Speaker 2>The sex thing didn't really happen, but it happened once.

0:45:04.120 --> 0:45:05.560
<v Speaker 2>When bem thank you, Ma'm here?

0:45:05.640 --> 0:45:08.160
<v Speaker 3>Is the baby always a good time start for twenty

0:45:08.160 --> 0:45:08.640
<v Speaker 3>twenty one?

0:45:08.760 --> 0:45:15.400
<v Speaker 1>Well, you know what they say, Yes, sexon sex brings

0:45:15.400 --> 0:45:18.000
<v Speaker 1>on labor, and you are not that far away from

0:45:18.040 --> 0:45:20.520
<v Speaker 1>giving birth, so maybe now is your time to shine,

0:45:20.640 --> 0:45:24.160
<v Speaker 1>Chris is true, finish the year strong, finish it hard. Literally,

0:45:24.160 --> 0:45:26.960
<v Speaker 1>Matt can finish it hard. Ride that into the sunset

0:45:26.960 --> 0:45:27.960
<v Speaker 1>and right into the sunset.

0:45:28.040 --> 0:45:30.520
<v Speaker 3>No, look, I mean I made jokes, but actually, considering

0:45:30.560 --> 0:45:32.279
<v Speaker 3>how pregnant I am, I'm really proud that Matt and

0:45:32.280 --> 0:45:34.640
<v Speaker 3>I are still having the amount of sex that we're having.

0:45:34.680 --> 0:45:36.360
<v Speaker 3>It's just not the amount that we were having in

0:45:36.400 --> 0:45:39.160
<v Speaker 3>the beginning in the heyday. That's all because I'm not

0:45:39.200 --> 0:45:41.160
<v Speaker 3>as mobile right now. But anyway, look, that was my

0:45:41.239 --> 0:45:44.640
<v Speaker 3>number one and my number two was something that I

0:45:44.640 --> 0:45:46.960
<v Speaker 3>think I have really embraced this year, and so I'm

0:45:46.960 --> 0:45:49.240
<v Speaker 3>proud of myself for this, but my big news resolution

0:45:49.280 --> 0:45:51.720
<v Speaker 3>for last year when and I'm the person who's against

0:45:51.760 --> 0:45:56.720
<v Speaker 3>news resolutions, but I I wanted to be more aware

0:45:57.120 --> 0:46:00.880
<v Speaker 3>of taking on people's advice and how someone else experience

0:46:01.160 --> 0:46:03.680
<v Speaker 3>can dictate and shape my own happiness. And what I

0:46:03.760 --> 0:46:05.839
<v Speaker 3>mean by that is that I went into my birth

0:46:05.880 --> 0:46:08.960
<v Speaker 3>with MALEI really frightened by everyone telling me all the

0:46:09.000 --> 0:46:12.800
<v Speaker 3>negative things about pregnancy, and I went into going traveling

0:46:12.880 --> 0:46:14.799
<v Speaker 3>with Maley when she was only three months old, Matt

0:46:14.800 --> 0:46:16.680
<v Speaker 3>and I went to Europe. I went into going traveling

0:46:17.080 --> 0:46:19.120
<v Speaker 3>being really worried that it was going to be super hard,

0:46:19.160 --> 0:46:22.040
<v Speaker 3>because everybody's so quick to tell you all the negative things.

0:46:22.040 --> 0:46:23.840
<v Speaker 2>And I think we see.

0:46:23.640 --> 0:46:25.880
<v Speaker 3>It a lot in all different aspects of life, not

0:46:25.920 --> 0:46:29.000
<v Speaker 3>just with children, not just with parenting, but people are

0:46:29.040 --> 0:46:31.320
<v Speaker 3>so quick to tell you why you shouldn't do something

0:46:31.600 --> 0:46:33.840
<v Speaker 3>because they've had a bad experience doing it. People are

0:46:33.880 --> 0:46:35.360
<v Speaker 3>so quick to tell you why something is going to

0:46:35.400 --> 0:46:37.240
<v Speaker 3>be hard or you're not going to be able.

0:46:37.080 --> 0:46:37.600
<v Speaker 2>To achieve that.

0:46:38.160 --> 0:46:41.600
<v Speaker 3>And I am really conscious that I don't want to

0:46:41.640 --> 0:46:43.960
<v Speaker 3>take somebody else's experience as though that's going to be

0:46:44.000 --> 0:46:46.240
<v Speaker 3>my own without even giving it a shot first, because

0:46:46.280 --> 0:46:50.560
<v Speaker 3>I have been so amazingly pleasantly surprised by motherhood and

0:46:50.600 --> 0:46:52.560
<v Speaker 3>I love it so much more than I thought I

0:46:52.600 --> 0:46:56.399
<v Speaker 3>ever would because people made me so fearful around how

0:46:56.440 --> 0:46:59.040
<v Speaker 3>hard it was going to be. So I'm really conscious

0:46:59.040 --> 0:47:02.600
<v Speaker 3>when I talk to people about motherhood that I'm remember

0:47:02.600 --> 0:47:04.239
<v Speaker 3>to tell them all the good bits as well, because

0:47:04.280 --> 0:47:06.120
<v Speaker 3>I think that that's a part of the dialogue that

0:47:06.120 --> 0:47:07.880
<v Speaker 3>we sometimes forget to talk about at the moment.

0:47:07.960 --> 0:47:10.440
<v Speaker 1>I think it's really great advice because it is really

0:47:10.480 --> 0:47:13.760
<v Speaker 1>easy to take on other people's problems and stresses onto yourself,

0:47:13.800 --> 0:47:16.640
<v Speaker 1>and you can you can talk yourself and convince yourself

0:47:16.680 --> 0:47:18.640
<v Speaker 1>that you're not gonna be able to do something or

0:47:18.640 --> 0:47:22.360
<v Speaker 1>that you shouldn't do something, when really what is stopping

0:47:22.400 --> 0:47:24.640
<v Speaker 1>you from going and being having a completely different experience

0:47:24.680 --> 0:47:26.399
<v Speaker 1>to that person. I'm glad you brought that up because

0:47:26.400 --> 0:47:28.799
<v Speaker 1>I think it's really great advice in every aspect of life. Well.

0:47:28.880 --> 0:47:31.400
<v Speaker 3>Also just means that you end up like you end

0:47:31.480 --> 0:47:34.000
<v Speaker 3>up walking into experiences that you have never had yourself

0:47:34.000 --> 0:47:36.360
<v Speaker 3>with fear and you think that everything's going to be

0:47:36.400 --> 0:47:37.360
<v Speaker 3>the worst case scenario.

0:47:37.560 --> 0:47:39.200
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, so I think that's something that.

0:47:39.280 --> 0:47:41.799
<v Speaker 3>We can all implement in different ways in our life

0:47:41.840 --> 0:47:43.319
<v Speaker 3>just not to live with this fear around what other

0:47:43.360 --> 0:47:46.320
<v Speaker 3>people think, or other people say, or other people's experiences.

0:47:46.360 --> 0:47:49.360
<v Speaker 3>And I think for me, it wasn't so much people

0:47:49.360 --> 0:47:51.560
<v Speaker 3>telling me I couldn't do something, but it was more

0:47:51.640 --> 0:47:54.759
<v Speaker 3>people telling me how hard their experience of something was

0:47:55.080 --> 0:47:57.759
<v Speaker 3>that made me really frightened about something I'd never ever

0:47:57.800 --> 0:47:59.759
<v Speaker 3>done before. And so I know, like going into this

0:48:00.440 --> 0:48:03.840
<v Speaker 3>birth and I know going into like having a second baby,

0:48:03.920 --> 0:48:06.080
<v Speaker 3>it's the same thing. People have been so quick to

0:48:06.120 --> 0:48:08.360
<v Speaker 3>tell me how hard it's going to be having two kids,

0:48:08.360 --> 0:48:09.759
<v Speaker 3>and like, oh, the first year is going to be

0:48:09.840 --> 0:48:12.000
<v Speaker 3>like really difficult. It's going to be a challenge on

0:48:12.040 --> 0:48:14.560
<v Speaker 3>your relationship. Like don't worry, you'll get through it once

0:48:14.600 --> 0:48:16.640
<v Speaker 3>they're too, like they're going to be such good friends.

0:48:16.680 --> 0:48:19.359
<v Speaker 3>But I don't want to wish away the first year

0:48:19.440 --> 0:48:21.840
<v Speaker 3>of this baby's life because it's going to be so

0:48:22.080 --> 0:48:22.759
<v Speaker 3>hard having a.

0:48:22.760 --> 0:48:23.960
<v Speaker 2>Toddler and a newborn.

0:48:24.320 --> 0:48:26.680
<v Speaker 3>So I'm just kind of like easing myself into it

0:48:26.719 --> 0:48:28.920
<v Speaker 3>without any expectations. And that's what I want for my

0:48:28.960 --> 0:48:30.560
<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty one. I just want to be able to

0:48:30.600 --> 0:48:34.279
<v Speaker 3>like enjoy this moment as it's happening as much as

0:48:34.320 --> 0:48:37.279
<v Speaker 3>I possibly can, and to not put any pressure, not

0:48:37.320 --> 0:48:39.560
<v Speaker 3>to put any expectations around it, and just.

0:48:39.520 --> 0:48:41.600
<v Speaker 2>To kind of fucking go with the foe.

0:48:42.160 --> 0:48:43.840
<v Speaker 3>I don't know what twenty twenty one's got in store,

0:48:43.880 --> 0:48:47.319
<v Speaker 3>but nobody could have predicted twenty twenty, So let's just

0:48:47.360 --> 0:48:49.520
<v Speaker 3>throw caution to the wind and just figure.

0:48:49.280 --> 0:48:52.520
<v Speaker 1>It out as it's happening. Absolutely. What I wanted to

0:48:52.520 --> 0:48:55.880
<v Speaker 1>touch on again was if you guys haven't listened to

0:48:56.000 --> 0:48:59.239
<v Speaker 1>last year's episode, the Big twenty twenty Energy, I did

0:48:59.280 --> 0:49:02.120
<v Speaker 1>speak really openly about something that a lot of people

0:49:02.160 --> 0:49:05.560
<v Speaker 1>go through, and I think we sugarcoated a lot. It's

0:49:05.560 --> 0:49:08.560
<v Speaker 1>not really spoken about, but that is being single over

0:49:08.560 --> 0:49:12.000
<v Speaker 1>the Christmas period, over the holiday period, the New Year's period.

0:49:13.320 --> 0:49:15.880
<v Speaker 1>It's really really tough, and I think a lot of

0:49:15.880 --> 0:49:19.759
<v Speaker 1>people sometimes forget that that are in relationships and with

0:49:19.800 --> 0:49:21.600
<v Speaker 1>their families and things like that. It can be really,

0:49:21.600 --> 0:49:24.399
<v Speaker 1>really tough for some people when they're single. They'll still

0:49:24.400 --> 0:49:26.120
<v Speaker 1>have fun and they'll still have a really great time,

0:49:26.200 --> 0:49:29.439
<v Speaker 1>but it's a really shitty time of year. And Laura

0:49:29.520 --> 0:49:31.719
<v Speaker 1>and I were just chatting. Laura reminded me, she's like,

0:49:31.800 --> 0:49:35.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, you were saying that next year, like this

0:49:35.640 --> 0:49:37.279
<v Speaker 1>is the last year you're gonna be single. Because I

0:49:37.400 --> 0:49:41.200
<v Speaker 1>do it every year. Every year, I say to myself,

0:49:41.280 --> 0:49:43.239
<v Speaker 1>like it's like me telling the universe. I say, this

0:49:43.320 --> 0:49:45.120
<v Speaker 1>will be the last year, Brittany, that you will be

0:49:45.160 --> 0:49:47.480
<v Speaker 1>alone and you have someone to love you next year

0:49:47.480 --> 0:49:48.960
<v Speaker 1>and you'll have someone to love and you can do

0:49:49.080 --> 0:49:51.200
<v Speaker 1>this with them and you can make memories. And because

0:49:51.200 --> 0:49:53.440
<v Speaker 1>the thing that I get the saddest about when I

0:49:53.520 --> 0:49:55.640
<v Speaker 1>do let it get me down, which is very rarely,

0:49:55.719 --> 0:49:57.480
<v Speaker 1>but it does happen. The thing I get the saddest

0:49:57.480 --> 0:50:01.560
<v Speaker 1>about is like I'm not making memories with anyone. That's

0:50:01.560 --> 0:50:03.640
<v Speaker 1>what gets me. And I don't know if that anyone

0:50:03.640 --> 0:50:07.719
<v Speaker 1>can resonate with that. But I look at like my

0:50:07.920 --> 0:50:10.440
<v Speaker 1>sister and her partner and they're always like laughing and

0:50:10.480 --> 0:50:12.839
<v Speaker 1>reflecting back on these times and this thing and this

0:50:12.920 --> 0:50:15.120
<v Speaker 1>happened and when they did that, And I don't have

0:50:15.160 --> 0:50:17.799
<v Speaker 1>a memory with anyone, Like I am going into my

0:50:17.880 --> 0:50:20.080
<v Speaker 1>mid thirties and I don't have anyone to share that with.

0:50:20.760 --> 0:50:23.960
<v Speaker 1>That's what gets me really sad. And We've come another

0:50:24.080 --> 0:50:26.600
<v Speaker 1>year and I'm still single. And I said I wouldn't

0:50:26.640 --> 0:50:29.880
<v Speaker 1>go into a Holidays single, but I am yes, that

0:50:30.000 --> 0:50:32.440
<v Speaker 1>makes me sad to an extent because there is another

0:50:32.520 --> 0:50:34.560
<v Speaker 1>aspect to it this year, and there's another layer, and

0:50:34.600 --> 0:50:36.520
<v Speaker 1>that is that not only am my single, but I'm

0:50:36.520 --> 0:50:39.360
<v Speaker 1>going down the fertility journey of freezing my eggs and everything,

0:50:39.400 --> 0:50:42.319
<v Speaker 1>and I'm doing that alone as well. So I had

0:50:42.400 --> 0:50:46.279
<v Speaker 1>literally the very last appointment of the year for the

0:50:46.280 --> 0:50:50.640
<v Speaker 1>clinic for egg freezing just this week gone, and I

0:50:50.719 --> 0:50:52.840
<v Speaker 1>just thought, what a way to like really rub it

0:50:52.840 --> 0:50:54.160
<v Speaker 1>in and wrap up the year is that, you know,

0:50:54.200 --> 0:50:56.239
<v Speaker 1>I went there. Obviously, I went there on my own

0:50:56.320 --> 0:50:59.440
<v Speaker 1>because you know, if you didn't listen to a few

0:50:59.480 --> 0:51:01.160
<v Speaker 1>weeks ago, I made my best friend come and have

0:51:01.239 --> 0:51:03.160
<v Speaker 1>all the tests with me, but she's moved on now.

0:51:03.160 --> 0:51:05.919
<v Speaker 1>Thanks for a miss you if you're listening. So yeah,

0:51:05.960 --> 0:51:08.240
<v Speaker 1>I went, and I'm doing this fertility journey. I didn't

0:51:08.239 --> 0:51:10.919
<v Speaker 1>get great news about my fertility, which we'll talk about

0:51:10.960 --> 0:51:15.320
<v Speaker 1>in the new year. It's not awesome, it's not terrible.

0:51:15.400 --> 0:51:19.759
<v Speaker 1>I have quite low to medium agccount, which we'll go

0:51:19.840 --> 0:51:21.600
<v Speaker 1>into more depth later. But you know, I was pretty

0:51:21.600 --> 0:51:25.720
<v Speaker 1>heavy to hear. It's not ideal. And I just want

0:51:25.960 --> 0:51:28.920
<v Speaker 1>to recognize everyone out there that's listening that if you

0:51:28.960 --> 0:51:31.200
<v Speaker 1>are single and you are feeling alone, that it is okay,

0:51:31.239 --> 0:51:32.920
<v Speaker 1>and you are allowed to sit in that emotion and

0:51:32.920 --> 0:51:36.800
<v Speaker 1>you are allowed to feel really fucking shit because that's okay. Also,

0:51:37.120 --> 0:51:40.120
<v Speaker 1>just try and appreciate that you're strong enough to do it,

0:51:40.440 --> 0:51:44.000
<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't mean anything that you're single and you're alone.

0:51:44.040 --> 0:51:46.560
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't take anything away from you. And then once

0:51:46.640 --> 0:51:48.319
<v Speaker 1>you do sit in that feeling for a little while,

0:51:48.320 --> 0:51:50.160
<v Speaker 1>because Laura and I always talk about the fact that

0:51:50.160 --> 0:51:51.960
<v Speaker 1>we think it's okay to have those feelings and you

0:51:51.960 --> 0:51:54.960
<v Speaker 1>should never try and bury them, but then remember that

0:51:55.000 --> 0:51:56.560
<v Speaker 1>it is a great time to try to be with

0:51:56.600 --> 0:51:58.960
<v Speaker 1>your family if you can, and try and have a

0:51:58.960 --> 0:52:01.360
<v Speaker 1>really fun time. Just be positive and going to the

0:52:01.440 --> 0:52:03.920
<v Speaker 1>next year with a really good energy. That's my advice

0:52:04.040 --> 0:52:06.040
<v Speaker 1>is I'm gonna be sad for a little hot second,

0:52:06.120 --> 0:52:07.600
<v Speaker 1>and then I'm gonna really try and enjoy my time

0:52:07.600 --> 0:52:09.799
<v Speaker 1>with my family and I'm going to make sure I

0:52:09.960 --> 0:52:12.759
<v Speaker 1>go into twenty twenty one with a good vibe and

0:52:12.760 --> 0:52:14.600
<v Speaker 1>a good energy. So I just wanted to reiterate that

0:52:14.640 --> 0:52:16.640
<v Speaker 1>and touch on that again and just make sure that

0:52:16.719 --> 0:52:19.400
<v Speaker 1>even if you're feeling alone, there is someone one hundred

0:52:19.400 --> 0:52:21.239
<v Speaker 1>percent out there that loves you and wants to talk

0:52:21.280 --> 0:52:22.279
<v Speaker 1>to you, and he's there for you.

0:52:22.880 --> 0:52:24.719
<v Speaker 3>I love that you share that part of you with

0:52:24.760 --> 0:52:26.839
<v Speaker 3>the podcast, because I think that, like, it's one thing

0:52:26.920 --> 0:52:30.000
<v Speaker 3>to constantly be like, I'm misindependent woman and be like

0:52:30.360 --> 0:52:33.120
<v Speaker 3>fucking nailing it and seem like you're absolutely killing it

0:52:33.160 --> 0:52:35.160
<v Speaker 3>as someone who's a single person, which I know that

0:52:35.239 --> 0:52:37.480
<v Speaker 3>you are, and I know that that's how you feel

0:52:37.480 --> 0:52:40.280
<v Speaker 3>a big majority of the time. But like, no matter

0:52:40.320 --> 0:52:43.240
<v Speaker 3>whether you have chosen to be single, whether you're single

0:52:43.280 --> 0:52:46.840
<v Speaker 3>because of circumstances or what is happening in your life,

0:52:47.200 --> 0:52:49.560
<v Speaker 3>you're always entitled to have times where you feel really

0:52:49.560 --> 0:52:53.160
<v Speaker 3>down about it and nobody like, you know, not listening

0:52:53.200 --> 0:52:54.960
<v Speaker 3>to your family, be like when you're gonna get a boyfriend,

0:52:55.040 --> 0:52:57.359
<v Speaker 3>when you're gonna get a girlfriend, or you know, why

0:52:57.440 --> 0:52:59.239
<v Speaker 3>didn't it work out with that so and so, Like

0:52:59.640 --> 0:53:02.120
<v Speaker 3>this can be a really difficult time because I think

0:53:02.160 --> 0:53:04.520
<v Speaker 3>being around family can sometimes highlight that you're not in

0:53:04.560 --> 0:53:08.080
<v Speaker 3>a relationship and having to explain to people constantly why

0:53:08.120 --> 0:53:10.680
<v Speaker 3>that's the case. And you know, sometimes there is no explanation.

0:53:10.719 --> 0:53:13.359
<v Speaker 3>You just haven't met your person yet. So I just

0:53:13.800 --> 0:53:15.480
<v Speaker 3>also want to back you up and saying that brute

0:53:15.480 --> 0:53:18.080
<v Speaker 3>like those feelings are completely valid. And as much as

0:53:18.120 --> 0:53:20.880
<v Speaker 3>the holiday period and Christmas period can be amazing for

0:53:21.080 --> 0:53:24.360
<v Speaker 3>some people, it can also be incredibly isolating for other people.

0:53:24.360 --> 0:53:27.040
<v Speaker 3>And it can really highlight the things that maybe you

0:53:27.080 --> 0:53:29.840
<v Speaker 3>don't have in your life that you deep down would

0:53:29.880 --> 0:53:31.480
<v Speaker 3>like to have, you know, or that you're looking for,

0:53:31.520 --> 0:53:33.040
<v Speaker 3>and maybe that's something that you want to focus on

0:53:33.120 --> 0:53:35.560
<v Speaker 3>in twenty twenty one, whatever it is. But yeah, I

0:53:35.600 --> 0:53:37.239
<v Speaker 3>think that that's a really important thing to touch on

0:53:37.280 --> 0:53:37.600
<v Speaker 3>as well.

0:53:37.800 --> 0:53:39.760
<v Speaker 1>Also something you think about if you're like if your

0:53:39.800 --> 0:53:41.760
<v Speaker 1>friends are single, if you're in a relationship, you're married,

0:53:41.840 --> 0:53:43.319
<v Speaker 1>or family, and you know you've got a friend that

0:53:43.440 --> 0:53:45.040
<v Speaker 1>might be you know, you're a friend that might be

0:53:45.040 --> 0:53:48.040
<v Speaker 1>semi alone, Like just give them a shooting a message,

0:53:48.080 --> 0:53:50.799
<v Speaker 1>give them a call. Just important to make everyone, especially

0:53:50.960 --> 0:53:53.120
<v Speaker 1>with what has happened in COVID, Like we've got so

0:53:53.120 --> 0:53:55.759
<v Speaker 1>many people that do feel alone and they have felt loneliness,

0:53:55.800 --> 0:53:58.720
<v Speaker 1>and it's really important to just keep them in your thoughts,

0:53:58.880 --> 0:54:01.040
<v Speaker 1>shoot them a message, give them call. Included in an

0:54:01.080 --> 0:54:03.360
<v Speaker 1>event twenty twenty has been shpited for everyone and it

0:54:03.400 --> 0:54:07.080
<v Speaker 1>has made everyone had really really high heighs, really low low,

0:54:07.239 --> 0:54:10.040
<v Speaker 1>so I think that we finish together. Oh that was

0:54:10.080 --> 0:54:11.239
<v Speaker 1>deep finished.

0:54:10.920 --> 0:54:12.520
<v Speaker 4>Together, I know. Well.

0:54:12.560 --> 0:54:14.880
<v Speaker 3>Speaking of finishing together, we thought that we would finish

0:54:14.880 --> 0:54:17.640
<v Speaker 3>this episode by giving you ask uncouched, and we're gonna

0:54:17.680 --> 0:54:20.879
<v Speaker 3>wrap this episode, the final episode of twenty twenty, by

0:54:21.080 --> 0:54:24.160
<v Speaker 3>answering your listener letters. We love it that you guys

0:54:24.160 --> 0:54:28.080
<v Speaker 3>trust us with our thoughts, our opinions, our feelings, our terrible,

0:54:28.840 --> 0:54:33.040
<v Speaker 3>very enthusiastic, highly unqualified advice, not necessarily terrible. I think

0:54:33.040 --> 0:54:34.439
<v Speaker 3>it's well thought outs from time to time.

0:54:34.920 --> 0:54:35.800
<v Speaker 2>But I have one.

0:54:35.680 --> 0:54:38.200
<v Speaker 3>Question that I've picked out which is very Christmas related,

0:54:38.480 --> 0:54:39.919
<v Speaker 3>and I thought it would be just a really nice

0:54:39.960 --> 0:54:42.640
<v Speaker 3>way to like completely finish off twenty twenty. This is

0:54:42.640 --> 0:54:44.640
<v Speaker 3>one that I'm sure we can all relate to, and

0:54:44.680 --> 0:54:45.680
<v Speaker 3>we have all been there.

0:54:46.560 --> 0:54:46.840
<v Speaker 4>Help.

0:54:47.800 --> 0:54:50.920
<v Speaker 3>I got really wasted at my office Christmas party.

0:54:51.440 --> 0:54:52.040
<v Speaker 2>I wasn't the.

0:54:52.000 --> 0:54:56.200
<v Speaker 3>Only one, but the craziest shit happened after most of

0:54:56.239 --> 0:54:59.480
<v Speaker 3>the people had left. Mostly just lots of bitching and

0:54:59.520 --> 0:55:03.160
<v Speaker 3>being slow. But I'm dying with shame and honestly feel

0:55:03.239 --> 0:55:05.160
<v Speaker 3>like I can never face my coworkers again.

0:55:05.600 --> 0:55:09.120
<v Speaker 1>Help. Okay, you got the drunk, Gilts, you got drunk,

0:55:09.120 --> 0:55:11.560
<v Speaker 1>you got wasted, you're embarrassing in front of your work

0:55:11.680 --> 0:55:14.839
<v Speaker 1>Christmas party. Everyone has done this before. Everyone has done

0:55:14.880 --> 0:55:18.600
<v Speaker 1>something embarrassing in front of a work colleague. I don't

0:55:18.600 --> 0:55:20.839
<v Speaker 1>know if you need helping this. I think you need

0:55:20.880 --> 0:55:22.400
<v Speaker 1>to play it off. I think you need to go

0:55:22.440 --> 0:55:24.160
<v Speaker 1>into the office the next time and it's be like.

0:55:24.120 --> 0:55:25.640
<v Speaker 4>Well, wasn't that a while night?

0:55:25.719 --> 0:55:29.560
<v Speaker 1>Hey, Like, just everyone knows that Christmas is festive. Everyone

0:55:29.600 --> 0:55:32.759
<v Speaker 1>knows we have fun. I mean, hopefully everyone was on

0:55:32.840 --> 0:55:35.600
<v Speaker 1>your level and no one remembers how drunk you are. Like,

0:55:35.640 --> 0:55:38.520
<v Speaker 1>that's also an option, but I think you laugh it off.

0:55:39.000 --> 0:55:39.840
<v Speaker 2>I guess it depends.

0:55:39.880 --> 0:55:43.080
<v Speaker 1>Okay, unless you pulled your bosses pants down or something. Yes,

0:55:43.160 --> 0:55:45.799
<v Speaker 1>look unpacking it a little bit more. Look, depending on

0:55:45.840 --> 0:55:47.960
<v Speaker 1>the level of bitching. I think that like that stuff

0:55:48.000 --> 0:55:50.160
<v Speaker 1>can come back and bite you in the ass. Absolutely,

0:55:50.200 --> 0:55:52.000
<v Speaker 1>Like if you really went down a rabbit hole with

0:55:52.040 --> 0:55:55.040
<v Speaker 1>saying some inappropriate stuff and doing some inappropriate stuff when

0:55:55.040 --> 0:55:58.080
<v Speaker 1>you're drunk. I mean, you can just laugh it off,

0:55:58.080 --> 0:56:00.440
<v Speaker 1>but that doesn't mean that everybody else is gonna laugh off.

0:56:00.440 --> 0:56:02.720
<v Speaker 1>So like, just being serious on this for a second,

0:56:03.680 --> 0:56:06.880
<v Speaker 1>hopefully everyone was on the same level. Hopefully it is

0:56:06.920 --> 0:56:09.640
<v Speaker 1>a situation where like the guilt doesn't actually match up

0:56:09.680 --> 0:56:11.360
<v Speaker 1>to the actions, which I think, like you know, a

0:56:11.360 --> 0:56:13.279
<v Speaker 1>lot of us probably have experienced that at times where

0:56:13.280 --> 0:56:14.880
<v Speaker 1>you wake up the next day and you feel like

0:56:15.600 --> 0:56:17.919
<v Speaker 1>so ashamed by your behavior, and then when you speak

0:56:17.920 --> 0:56:19.840
<v Speaker 1>to your friends and your family, they're often like, no,

0:56:20.040 --> 0:56:22.719
<v Speaker 1>you weren't that bad, like you're fine, Whereas there are

0:56:22.760 --> 0:56:24.680
<v Speaker 1>definitely times where you think, oh, it couldn't have been

0:56:24.719 --> 0:56:27.640
<v Speaker 1>that bad, and actually it was way worse. So I

0:56:27.760 --> 0:56:29.799
<v Speaker 1>do think you've got to go into work and you

0:56:29.840 --> 0:56:32.759
<v Speaker 1>do have to unfortunately face your co workers and be

0:56:33.400 --> 0:56:36.080
<v Speaker 1>honest say you know, especially to the people that you're

0:56:36.080 --> 0:56:38.680
<v Speaker 1>having those conversations with. I feel a lot of shame

0:56:38.800 --> 0:56:41.520
<v Speaker 1>around the way I behaved. I really hope I didn't

0:56:41.520 --> 0:56:45.600
<v Speaker 1>do or say anything that offended you. I've really struggled

0:56:45.600 --> 0:56:47.799
<v Speaker 1>with this over the past couple of days. I'm so embarrassed,

0:56:47.880 --> 0:56:50.640
<v Speaker 1>and you know, if I've said anything that's offended you,

0:56:50.719 --> 0:56:53.040
<v Speaker 1>if I've behaved in a way that was really inappropriate,

0:56:53.360 --> 0:56:55.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm really sorry, And I think that that is the

0:56:55.360 --> 0:56:58.200
<v Speaker 1>best way of going about it. Absolutely, you need to

0:56:58.640 --> 0:57:02.040
<v Speaker 1>try and remember or speak to someone about what you

0:57:02.080 --> 0:57:04.000
<v Speaker 1>said and who you said it to. So you're doing

0:57:04.040 --> 0:57:06.239
<v Speaker 1>something embarrassing. I think that's funny. I think you can

0:57:06.239 --> 0:57:08.680
<v Speaker 1>play that off. When you've said something that could potentially

0:57:08.760 --> 0:57:11.560
<v Speaker 1>hurt someone else's feelings, especially if you've sent it, especially

0:57:11.560 --> 0:57:13.239
<v Speaker 1>if you've said it to the person or to someone

0:57:13.239 --> 0:57:16.000
<v Speaker 1>as close to them, you one hundred percent need to

0:57:16.040 --> 0:57:19.680
<v Speaker 1>just own that because that will just fester and it

0:57:19.720 --> 0:57:21.800
<v Speaker 1>will start to spread around the office. That's what happens

0:57:21.800 --> 0:57:24.760
<v Speaker 1>in these offices. Everyone talks, everyone has their clicks. So

0:57:24.880 --> 0:57:26.800
<v Speaker 1>you need to do exactly what Laura said. You just say, hey,

0:57:27.440 --> 0:57:29.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't really remember, but I feel like I've said

0:57:29.640 --> 0:57:32.600
<v Speaker 1>something that was probably inappropriate if I did. Please forgive me.

0:57:32.760 --> 0:57:35.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm mortified. Own it. We all know, Laura and I

0:57:35.840 --> 0:57:37.680
<v Speaker 1>have said a thousand times. There's so much strength in

0:57:37.720 --> 0:57:40.120
<v Speaker 1>an apology. There's so much strength in owning up to

0:57:40.200 --> 0:57:43.280
<v Speaker 1>something that you have done wrong. And it's often pretty

0:57:43.280 --> 0:57:46.040
<v Speaker 1>hard for someone to not forgive you for something like this.

0:57:46.200 --> 0:57:48.840
<v Speaker 1>When you have come and you're showing humility and you

0:57:48.880 --> 0:57:52.920
<v Speaker 1>were saying I messed up, I am mortified, I am sorry,

0:57:53.000 --> 0:57:55.320
<v Speaker 1>Please forgive me. It's usually very hard for them to

0:57:55.320 --> 0:57:57.040
<v Speaker 1>say you know what, No way, It's like, yeah, you

0:57:57.040 --> 0:57:59.480
<v Speaker 1>know what, you're an idiot, but let's just sweep it

0:57:59.520 --> 0:58:01.800
<v Speaker 1>under the rug and move on, so they're your options,

0:58:01.960 --> 0:58:02.920
<v Speaker 1>or move to Canada.

0:58:02.960 --> 0:58:05.880
<v Speaker 3>It's so easy to get yourself into these situations, like

0:58:05.920 --> 0:58:09.160
<v Speaker 3>you know, work Christmas parties can escalate terribly. My work

0:58:09.240 --> 0:58:11.760
<v Speaker 3>Christmas party with Tony May last year, when no one

0:58:11.800 --> 0:58:14.800
<v Speaker 3>was pregnant and everyone was drinking, was an absolute shambles

0:58:14.840 --> 0:58:16.280
<v Speaker 3>of a night. Now, I remember waking up the next

0:58:16.360 --> 0:58:17.720
<v Speaker 3>day being like, ooh, as a.

0:58:17.680 --> 0:58:20.120
<v Speaker 1>Boss, that's a terrible behavior.

0:58:20.760 --> 0:58:23.520
<v Speaker 3>But you know what, I'm at least like now, I'm

0:58:23.560 --> 0:58:26.400
<v Speaker 3>at their age, and I know my limitations. I know

0:58:26.440 --> 0:58:28.480
<v Speaker 3>how much I can I can't drink, but I also like,

0:58:28.640 --> 0:58:30.520
<v Speaker 3>don't get so drunk that I'm going to black out

0:58:30.560 --> 0:58:32.080
<v Speaker 3>and not remember the things I do and say.

0:58:32.520 --> 0:58:34.360
<v Speaker 2>So I woke up the next day and I absolutely

0:58:34.440 --> 0:58:36.320
<v Speaker 2>behaved in a wild, wild way.

0:58:36.560 --> 0:58:38.440
<v Speaker 3>I wish I was there, but I remembered everything and

0:58:38.480 --> 0:58:40.080
<v Speaker 3>it wasn't this situation where I had to try and

0:58:40.080 --> 0:58:43.200
<v Speaker 3>piece the night together. I think, you know, guys, if anything,

0:58:43.360 --> 0:58:45.480
<v Speaker 3>use this person's ask uncut lesson as a bit of

0:58:45.520 --> 0:58:48.080
<v Speaker 3>a reminder that, especially when it's in a work environment,

0:58:48.160 --> 0:58:50.320
<v Speaker 3>like maybe not the best course of action to get

0:58:50.360 --> 0:58:53.560
<v Speaker 3>totally blotto at your work Christmas party. However, if you

0:58:53.640 --> 0:58:55.160
<v Speaker 3>have done that and now you need to do a

0:58:55.240 --> 0:58:58.360
<v Speaker 3>little bit of recovery mission, I think honesty is always

0:58:58.360 --> 0:59:01.080
<v Speaker 3>the best policy, and I also think vulnerability is also

0:59:01.080 --> 0:59:03.880
<v Speaker 3>the best policy. So going in and being really genuine

0:59:03.920 --> 0:59:06.600
<v Speaker 3>with an apology and explaining how it's made you feel

0:59:06.640 --> 0:59:09.120
<v Speaker 3>and how you feel terrible for the way you've made

0:59:09.160 --> 0:59:12.320
<v Speaker 3>other people feel is a really really important way to

0:59:12.480 --> 0:59:16.040
<v Speaker 3>like getting back into the good books, and also just

0:59:16.640 --> 0:59:17.800
<v Speaker 3>not doing it next year.

0:59:18.360 --> 0:59:19.440
<v Speaker 1>Just have the water in between.

0:59:19.680 --> 0:59:26.160
<v Speaker 3>Just the water, all right, guys, You know that we

0:59:26.240 --> 0:59:29.520
<v Speaker 3>never finished an episode without our suck and our sweep,

0:59:29.800 --> 0:59:30.640
<v Speaker 3>our highlight and.

0:59:30.600 --> 0:59:33.600
<v Speaker 1>Our low light of each and every week. My suck

0:59:33.720 --> 0:59:35.960
<v Speaker 1>this week, I am going to take on a suck

0:59:36.240 --> 0:59:40.040
<v Speaker 1>for other people. My suck is that I just feel

0:59:40.280 --> 0:59:43.560
<v Speaker 1>for everybody everyone that has just had their Christmass canceled,

0:59:43.600 --> 0:59:45.240
<v Speaker 1>that haven't been able to make it over borders in

0:59:45.320 --> 0:59:48.040
<v Speaker 1>time to see their family. I just want to shout

0:59:48.040 --> 0:59:50.360
<v Speaker 1>out to you that there are a lot of people

0:59:50.360 --> 0:59:53.360
<v Speaker 1>in your position, and everyone's thinking of you. And I'm

0:59:53.360 --> 0:59:55.000
<v Speaker 1>still hoping. I still have to get up to Port

0:59:55.080 --> 0:59:56.880
<v Speaker 1>mcquarie and I'm hoping that we don't go into lockdown.

0:59:56.960 --> 0:59:59.560
<v Speaker 1>Hopefully we don't. But that's my suck. I just think

0:59:59.640 --> 1:00:03.960
<v Speaker 1>it's so for everyone. My sweet would probably be that

1:00:04.080 --> 1:00:06.880
<v Speaker 1>I did have a good date this week. Yeah, I'm

1:00:06.880 --> 1:00:08.360
<v Speaker 1>not going to tell you guys this week. All I'm

1:00:08.400 --> 1:00:09.680
<v Speaker 1>going to say is early days. I'm just going to

1:00:09.720 --> 1:00:12.600
<v Speaker 1>say I went on a nice date, and the TVC

1:00:13.040 --> 1:00:15.480
<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty one, Brittany been on a date. Watch his

1:00:15.520 --> 1:00:17.760
<v Speaker 1>Space twenty twenty one. It's going to be my year

1:00:17.800 --> 1:00:19.320
<v Speaker 1>of love, I'm calling it.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't put that in there and then put that as

1:00:22.000 --> 1:00:25.040
<v Speaker 3>a benchmark, otherwise you may drinx yourself and twenty twenty

1:00:25.040 --> 1:00:27.000
<v Speaker 3>two will be doing the same conversation over again.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, if I keep saying this is my

1:00:28.640 --> 1:00:30.200
<v Speaker 1>year of love like one year, it's going to come

1:00:30.200 --> 1:00:31.400
<v Speaker 1>true and I'm going to be like I knew this

1:00:31.520 --> 1:00:31.920
<v Speaker 1>was the year.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a numbers game, absolutely, all right.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So my suck for this week, well, I mean

1:00:36.880 --> 1:00:38.680
<v Speaker 3>my suck is the same as everyone who's in Sydney.

1:00:39.400 --> 1:00:41.600
<v Speaker 3>Matt's families from Brisbane, and that's who we were supposed

1:00:41.600 --> 1:00:43.160
<v Speaker 3>to be spending Christmas with. They were supposed to be

1:00:43.160 --> 1:00:45.840
<v Speaker 3>coming down on Christmas Eve, they're not coming down anymore,

1:00:46.280 --> 1:00:47.760
<v Speaker 3>so we were going to go up to see them,

1:00:47.800 --> 1:00:50.680
<v Speaker 3>and then unfortunately the borders closed, so now we are

1:00:50.760 --> 1:00:53.400
<v Speaker 3>stuck here in Sydney by ourselves. So we're going to

1:00:53.440 --> 1:00:56.000
<v Speaker 3>be doing Christmas very very low key this year, which,

1:00:56.400 --> 1:00:58.480
<v Speaker 3>you know what, on one hand, it's good that Marley's

1:00:58.480 --> 1:01:00.280
<v Speaker 3>only one and a half and she probably won't remember

1:01:00.320 --> 1:01:02.680
<v Speaker 3>this Christmas, but on the other hand, just feels a

1:01:02.680 --> 1:01:04.560
<v Speaker 3>bit sad that we aren't able to start any of

1:01:04.600 --> 1:01:08.120
<v Speaker 3>our family Christmas traditions. Yeah, and that it's going to

1:01:08.200 --> 1:01:10.200
<v Speaker 3>be a very different Christmas to what we thought we

1:01:10.200 --> 1:01:12.840
<v Speaker 3>were gonna have. Also, on top of that, my family

1:01:12.880 --> 1:01:15.600
<v Speaker 3>is in Woollongong. However this year, my nanna has been

1:01:15.640 --> 1:01:18.120
<v Speaker 3>moved into a nursing home, which means that we can't

1:01:18.120 --> 1:01:22.640
<v Speaker 3>see her, and my mom literally yesterday fell over and

1:01:22.680 --> 1:01:26.200
<v Speaker 3>broke her hip, so she's now in hospital so we

1:01:26.200 --> 1:01:29.320
<v Speaker 3>can't go visit her either, So like unfortunately, we're completely

1:01:29.360 --> 1:01:33.040
<v Speaker 3>by ourselves. So yeah, my poor mum is now getting

1:01:33.080 --> 1:01:34.600
<v Speaker 3>surgery and that's just like.

1:01:34.560 --> 1:01:35.560
<v Speaker 2>A whole other thing.

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<v Speaker 3>To really put a little bit of sprinkles on top

1:01:38.320 --> 1:01:39.920
<v Speaker 3>of the icing, on top of the shit that was

1:01:39.920 --> 1:01:42.600
<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty, just to really top off this shit Sunday,

1:01:42.840 --> 1:01:45.240
<v Speaker 3>just to really bring it on home. And then my

1:01:45.400 --> 1:01:48.080
<v Speaker 3>sweep for the week. My sweep for the week is

1:01:48.120 --> 1:01:50.800
<v Speaker 3>that like this year is done. Like I actually feel

1:01:50.840 --> 1:01:54.560
<v Speaker 3>really relieved almost, you know, Tony May has been so busy.

1:01:54.600 --> 1:01:56.760
<v Speaker 3>We've just gotten through Christmas. We've just gotten through all

1:01:56.800 --> 1:01:58.840
<v Speaker 3>of the work that's happened, and now I feel like

1:01:59.040 --> 1:02:01.560
<v Speaker 3>it's just time to kind of like, ah, I let

1:02:01.600 --> 1:02:03.760
<v Speaker 3>out a sigh of relief that everything that's been so

1:02:03.880 --> 1:02:06.000
<v Speaker 3>crazy with work has kind of calmed down now and

1:02:06.400 --> 1:02:09.240
<v Speaker 3>we've made it through the mania, the retail mania that

1:02:09.400 --> 1:02:12.080
<v Speaker 3>is Christmas when you own any sort of like retail

1:02:12.160 --> 1:02:14.560
<v Speaker 3>or online store. So I'm really proud that we made

1:02:14.560 --> 1:02:16.480
<v Speaker 3>it through the other side. And now I'll have a

1:02:16.520 --> 1:02:17.800
<v Speaker 3>couple of days off and then it's going to be

1:02:17.840 --> 1:02:19.040
<v Speaker 3>Boxing Day sales.

1:02:19.480 --> 1:02:21.680
<v Speaker 1>And now the whole thing starts again. And then you

1:02:21.720 --> 1:02:22.320
<v Speaker 1>have a baby.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and then I have a baby.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I just feel like this years been back

1:02:25.120 --> 1:02:27.960
<v Speaker 3>to back, but I actually am now finally at the

1:02:28.000 --> 1:02:30.280
<v Speaker 3>point where like I cannot wait to have this baby.

1:02:30.640 --> 1:02:33.160
<v Speaker 3>And I feel like I'm only We've got seven weeks

1:02:33.160 --> 1:02:35.160
<v Speaker 3>to go. But I actually feel like now I genuinely

1:02:35.160 --> 1:02:37.480
<v Speaker 3>feel excited about it, Whereas up until now I haven't

1:02:37.480 --> 1:02:39.920
<v Speaker 3>even given myself any time to think about the fact

1:02:40.480 --> 1:02:43.040
<v Speaker 3>that I'm pregnant, that I'm having a kid, and I

1:02:43.120 --> 1:02:44.600
<v Speaker 3>genuinely feel really excited.

1:02:44.640 --> 1:02:44.840
<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, it's just this weird year's been so weird. I

1:02:47.000 --> 1:02:48.760
<v Speaker 3>feel like at no point, and maybe it's also a

1:02:48.760 --> 1:02:50.720
<v Speaker 3>reflection on it's your second child, but at no point

1:02:50.760 --> 1:02:53.480
<v Speaker 3>have I felt like I have been excited or gotten

1:02:53.520 --> 1:02:57.160
<v Speaker 3>excited about this pregnancy. And maybe it's also partly to

1:02:57.160 --> 1:03:00.720
<v Speaker 3>do with miscarriages, and but I I really haven't been

1:03:00.720 --> 1:03:03.640
<v Speaker 3>able to kind of, like, you know, feel that excitement

1:03:03.680 --> 1:03:06.000
<v Speaker 3>that I felt the first time with Marley. And I

1:03:06.040 --> 1:03:08.120
<v Speaker 3>know that it's not because I'm not wanting to have

1:03:08.240 --> 1:03:10.040
<v Speaker 3>like I want to have this baby. I can't wait

1:03:10.080 --> 1:03:12.320
<v Speaker 3>for this baby to be here, But just the excitement

1:03:12.320 --> 1:03:14.840
<v Speaker 3>around my pregnancy hasn't been the same. And so it

1:03:14.880 --> 1:03:16.440
<v Speaker 3>feels really nice to have a bit of a shift

1:03:16.480 --> 1:03:19.080
<v Speaker 3>in that this week and like actually start really looking

1:03:19.120 --> 1:03:21.080
<v Speaker 3>forward to I can't wait.

1:03:22.200 --> 1:03:23.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm more probably more pumped than.

1:03:23.480 --> 1:03:26.280
<v Speaker 2>You are up until this point for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>But guys, we just want to say a big congratulations

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<v Speaker 1>to all of you for actually getting through twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>He should all be really proud.

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<v Speaker 4>We have made it.

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<v Speaker 1>There's been some bums, but we're there. We're on the

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<v Speaker 1>other side, and we just want to say a huge

1:03:40.920 --> 1:03:42.920
<v Speaker 1>thank you to every single one of you that are

1:03:42.920 --> 1:03:46.200
<v Speaker 1>in our life on cut community, the guys, the ogs

1:03:46.280 --> 1:03:49.240
<v Speaker 1>from the start, all the new listeners. We love you

1:03:49.280 --> 1:03:51.720
<v Speaker 1>all so much. We are so thankful, and Laura and

1:03:51.760 --> 1:03:55.480
<v Speaker 1>I honestly feel so grateful that we are in a

1:03:55.520 --> 1:03:58.440
<v Speaker 1>position where we get to do something we love with

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<v Speaker 1>a community that we love, actually put out content that

1:04:01.240 --> 1:04:03.160
<v Speaker 1>we are proud of. We're so grateful to have you

1:04:03.200 --> 1:04:05.000
<v Speaker 1>come along the journey with us. So we just wanted

1:04:05.040 --> 1:04:07.000
<v Speaker 1>to say thank you for your support, thank you for

1:04:07.040 --> 1:04:09.160
<v Speaker 1>your votes, thank you for your love, thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>being there for Laura's and my ups and downs.

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<v Speaker 2>You are well.

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<v Speaker 1>We all are like a big family, and we just

1:04:16.040 --> 1:04:16.760
<v Speaker 1>want you to know that.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes, like it's happened in the past, where some of

1:04:19.600 --> 1:04:21.360
<v Speaker 3>you would come up if you've seen us in the street,

1:04:21.440 --> 1:04:23.680
<v Speaker 3>or you'll come and introduce ourselves, and I just want

1:04:23.680 --> 1:04:26.600
<v Speaker 3>to say, like, I'm so you like for when you

1:04:26.640 --> 1:04:28.240
<v Speaker 3>say that you're grateful for us and that you love

1:04:28.240 --> 1:04:30.600
<v Speaker 3>the podcast like I am so grateful for you and

1:04:30.680 --> 1:04:33.120
<v Speaker 3>for the fact that you guys have completely rallied behind us.

1:04:33.560 --> 1:04:35.840
<v Speaker 3>Like I said earlier in the episode, if it wasn't

1:04:35.880 --> 1:04:38.760
<v Speaker 3>for how supportive you have all been around this podcast,

1:04:38.800 --> 1:04:40.680
<v Speaker 3>and if it wasn't for how supportive you have all

1:04:40.720 --> 1:04:43.800
<v Speaker 3>been for both Britain and I together and individually in

1:04:43.840 --> 1:04:46.080
<v Speaker 3>our journeys over the last year and a half, we

1:04:46.120 --> 1:04:48.400
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't be as open as we are, and we wouldn't

1:04:48.440 --> 1:04:51.040
<v Speaker 3>want to share and be as vulnerable as what we

1:04:51.080 --> 1:04:53.200
<v Speaker 3>are with you. So like you know, that is an absolute,

1:04:53.240 --> 1:04:55.120
<v Speaker 3>true and tried testament to the fact that you know,

1:04:55.200 --> 1:04:57.880
<v Speaker 3>you guys are such a huge part of this podcast

1:04:57.920 --> 1:05:00.720
<v Speaker 3>and we're so grateful for you. Also, to everybody who's

1:05:00.760 --> 1:05:02.920
<v Speaker 3>been doing the meetups and to every single person who

1:05:03.000 --> 1:05:05.440
<v Speaker 3>gets involved on the Life on Cut Facebook group, you're

1:05:05.440 --> 1:05:06.560
<v Speaker 3>the freaking best and we.

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<v Speaker 1>Love you guys. We will be having a couple of

1:05:08.800 --> 1:05:11.480
<v Speaker 1>weeks off, which we're actually really excited about, but we

1:05:11.560 --> 1:05:15.000
<v Speaker 1>are going to be rehashing some of our favorite old episodes,

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<v Speaker 1>so if you haven't listened from the start, you might

1:05:17.040 --> 1:05:19.400
<v Speaker 1>not have heard them. Maybe you want to really listen again.

1:05:19.480 --> 1:05:20.680
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you just want to have a laugh, but we

1:05:20.720 --> 1:05:22.520
<v Speaker 1>will be dropping them so there will be there something

1:05:22.560 --> 1:05:25.280
<v Speaker 1>for you to listen to, and we will be back

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<v Speaker 1>bigger and better and hopefully fuller than ever.

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<v Speaker 2>In twenty twenty one. Who but also you know the drill.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell

1:05:34.440 --> 1:05:37.919
<v Speaker 3>your cat, tell you ma'm just tell everyone the love

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<v Speaker 3>because we love that

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<v Speaker 4>There are no bumpers