1 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the 2 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers. 3 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 2: Now, the kids do grow up and they get better 4 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 2: and better at holidaying and getting out of the routine 5 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 2: can be really important for building relationships and memories. 6 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 3: And I don't think it's just the kids though, I 7 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:20,920 Speaker 3: think we get better. 8 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mum 9 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 1: and dad. 10 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 2: Hello, this is doctor Justin Colson. I'm here with Kylie, 11 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 2: my wife, under our six Kids. I'm the author of 12 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 2: six books about raising happy families, the founder of Happy 13 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 2: Families dot com dot au, and the all new parenting 14 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:39,559 Speaker 2: expert and co host on the brand new Channel nine 15 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 2: TV show Parental Guidance, which hits your screens really soon. 16 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 2: I'm very excited about it. 17 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 3: You know, your bio just keeps getting longer. 18 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, I keep on doing really cool things. Speaking of 19 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 2: really cool things, I got in touch with Dwayne the 20 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 2: Rock Johnson. 21 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 3: Dwayne the Rock john Dwayne the Rock. 22 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 2: Johnson just recently. I had to give him a very 23 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 2: special message about somebody that matters to me, and this 24 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 2: is what he sent me back in reply. Happy birthday 25 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 2: to you, Kylie Coulson, Happy birthday to you. 26 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:22,560 Speaker 3: Happy birthday, Happy birthday, Happy birthday to you. 27 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 2: Is there anything that guy can't do? 28 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 3: I was just imagining while he was popping his. 29 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 2: Pecks right, well, it was either going to be Dwayne 30 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:38,559 Speaker 2: Johnson or Jack Black, and I figured that Dwayne Johnson. 31 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 2: Now it's not actually your birthday today. We don't want 32 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:42,959 Speaker 2: to give away the real date of your birthday, but 33 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 2: all my age, just recently you have had a birthday 34 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 2: and you've turned older than you were last year's right 35 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 2: by another whole year. So happy birthday, missus, Happy Families. 36 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 2: It's very exciting to be able to celebrate your birthday 37 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 2: on the podcast. Thanks honey, that's okay, just thinking of 38 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 2: you and want to make sure that everybody knew. By 39 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 2: the way, if you want to send your birthday messages 40 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:06,440 Speaker 2: to Kylie, you can jump onto our Facebook page doctor 41 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 2: Justin Colson's Happy Families and do it there, or emails 42 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:12,239 Speaker 2: podcasts at Happy Families dot com dot you. Kylie loves 43 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 2: to be noticed on her birthday. Kylie loves to be 44 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 2: made a big deal of and I reckon you should 45 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 2: send those What am I I'm going to get in 46 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:23,639 Speaker 2: trouble for this, Okay? Oh, you know what you could 47 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 2: do though, for a birthday gift. You could leave Kylie 48 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 2: a five star rating and review at Apple Podcasts. Let 49 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 2: everyone know what you think about the podcast and about Kylie. 50 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 2: That would come on. It's not all me. 51 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 3: It might happen to be your birthday in a day 52 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:34,680 Speaker 3: or two. 53 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 2: Well stop that that that was uncalled for and completely inappropriate. 54 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 2: And I'm not sure if it's entirely true either. 55 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 3: Yes, so bad. Hey, we need to do you don't 56 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 3: mind a five star of you either day. 57 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 2: We need to talk about I'll do Better Tomorrow Birthday Girl. 58 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:50,679 Speaker 2: Every Friday, for those of you who are new to 59 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 2: the podcast, we talk about the things that we've done well, 60 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 2: all the things that we haven't done well in the 61 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:54,679 Speaker 2: past week. 62 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 3: We've got some doozies. 63 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 2: Today it's all about reflecting on how we can be 64 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:01,079 Speaker 2: better parents, how it can be more in intentional tomorrow. 65 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:02,920 Speaker 2: Hence the name of the segment, I'll do Better. 66 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 3: Can I just say I'm glad that there are tomorrows? 67 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 2: Yes? Yes, because we make mistakes all the time. By 68 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 2: the way, in just a couple of minutes, probably after 69 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 2: the break that will take in a few minutes, we're 70 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 2: going to share with you the biggest parenting fail of 71 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 2: our lives, and I'm just going to mention that it 72 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 2: accidentally had something to do with the nude beach. That's 73 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 2: all incident, very accidentally. We need to put that in 74 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 2: knee on Accidentally. We'll get to the nude beach shortly. 75 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 2: I can't believe that I just said that. So I'll 76 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 2: do better tomorrow. We've actually got about three weeks worth 77 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 2: to catch up on. I think we keep it brief 78 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 2: and what I would like to do is talk about 79 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 2: the I'm so sorry for anyone in a lockdown state. 80 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 2: It's coming. I promise, well, based on what I can't promise, 81 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 2: I don't have the authority to promise. The governments keep 82 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 2: on promising that it's getting closer and closer. Your opportunity 83 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 2: for a holiday. Because we're fortunate enough to be in Queensland, 84 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 2: we haven't been experiencing lockdowns like everyone else, and we 85 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 2: were able to go away for the first time in 86 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 2: such a long time time and have a family holiday. 87 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 2: And I think when it comes to I'll do better tomorrow. 88 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 2: The big win has been having a holiday, getting out 89 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 2: of the routine, and we were really nervous. We were 90 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 2: going to be in close proximity to other people for 91 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 2: an extended period of time, and we were so scared 92 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 2: that our kids were going to fight and just not 93 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 2: be very nice to each other. That is that reasonable 94 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 2: to say. 95 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 3: Well, they're going to get a bird's eye view of 96 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 3: the day in the life of happy families. 97 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:29,679 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. And now that I'm on the upcoming Channel 98 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 2: nine TV show p Rental Guidance, I feel like I'm 99 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 2: under the spotlight, under scrutiny more than ever. So we 100 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 2: were really stressing about this whole Do we take the 101 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,359 Speaker 2: kids away and let people see what our family is 102 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 2: really like. You're making us sound really bad. The highlight 103 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 2: of the last few weeks with the holiday, and for 104 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,159 Speaker 2: anyone who's dealing with lockdown, especially or anyone who just 105 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:51,839 Speaker 2: hasn't had a holiday for a while, it was amazing. 106 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:55,280 Speaker 2: We took all six kids and Chanelle, our eldest daughter. 107 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 2: We took her husband as well, so it was the 108 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 2: entire immediate family on for just over a week and 109 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:06,280 Speaker 2: a very tiny cabin in a really tiny, confined space, 110 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:10,920 Speaker 2: and it was just wonderful. The kids played games, they 111 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:14,839 Speaker 2: sang songs, and when I say they sang songs. I mean, boy, 112 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 2: did they sing songs. I'm talking the whole family, and 113 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 2: it just it was NonStop the whole time, making all 114 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 2: of this noise, but we've got the entire family singing 115 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 2: and dancing and bouncing around the room while we're all 116 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,279 Speaker 2: trying to relax. But it was it was just amazing 117 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:40,840 Speaker 2: to see the children having that much fun. 118 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 3: Wow. What I've noticed is that often in family life, 119 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:49,920 Speaker 3: home becomes this pressure pot of emotion. We're all got 120 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 3: our own pressures and you know, time restraints and concerns 121 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 3: and challenges, and we come together and life is hard. 122 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 3: And when we get the opportunity to just leave that behind, 123 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 3: drop the agenda, even for a few days, well, I 124 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 3: think part of it is as the children are getting older, 125 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 3: we're definitely seeing more of it. But just an opportunity 126 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 3: to let go of that agenda changes everything. 127 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't want. 128 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 3: To come home, That's the honest true. 129 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 2: Day to day life, you kind of stop seeing each other, 130 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 2: and once you're on a holiday in a different environment 131 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 2: and dealing with different kinds of challenges and experiences, it 132 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 2: changes the dynamics of the relationships. And oh man, it 133 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 2: was just it was bliss, wasn't it. I mean, really, 134 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 2: it was mostly fabulously amazing. It was so great. There 135 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:39,480 Speaker 2: were a couple of challenges though, in spite of the goodness, 136 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 2: Like there was the time when we went on a boat, 137 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:45,839 Speaker 2: spent some time on a boat, and it had a 138 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 2: little rubber inflatable dingy dingy dingy. They called it the 139 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 2: tender off the back of the boat. I don't know 140 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 2: what a tender is, but I'm guessing it's the little 141 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 2: boat that floats along behind on the rope. And we've 142 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:57,559 Speaker 2: been moored for a while. We've been because the kids 143 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 2: been doing some kayaking and stuff, jumping off the boat 144 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 2: into the water. We were in the Wit Sundays for 145 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:04,919 Speaker 2: people who were wondering where were you, what were you 146 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 2: doing on a boat and where were they jumping? It 147 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 2: was in the Wit Sundays, so no sharks, no crocks, 148 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 2: totally safe. I'm sure it no sting is I'm sure 149 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 2: it was totally safe. And the skipper turned the boat 150 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 2: back on and he went from a walk around the boat, 151 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 2: made sure that everything was the way that it should be, 152 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:21,920 Speaker 2: and somehow in the time that in the intervening time 153 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 2: from when he went past the back of the boat 154 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 2: to the front of the boat to start driving. Our 155 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 2: seven year old daughter, Emily managed to clamber down off 156 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 2: the back of the boat, reach out, grab the rope 157 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 2: and pulled that tiny little rubber inflatable towards the boat. 158 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 2: She climbed into it and just decided to float there 159 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 2: for a minute. It probably took her, I don't know, 160 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 2: fifteen or twenty seconds. In that time, the skipper fired 161 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:48,080 Speaker 2: up the boat and started to I was going to say, 162 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:50,239 Speaker 2: started to drive, but what do you do with the boat? 163 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 2: It started to started to get the boat motoring away, 164 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 2: And here we didn't know. We're all kind of just 165 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:58,600 Speaker 2: enjoying the scenery and looking at the islands and the 166 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 2: beautiful color of the water. And I don't know who 167 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 2: it was for. Oh, one of the kids. 168 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 3: One of the kids went out the back to do 169 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 3: some reading and they just heard this little She was like, 170 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 3: that's really weird, and she just happened to look over 171 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 3: the back and he was Emily floating in the boat. 172 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 2: So she's actually in the boat while we're taking along. 173 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 2: It's totally unsafe, totally not okay. And well, the skipper 174 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 2: when he found out because we called out to him 175 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 2: straight away. We're like, you need to come and see this. 176 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 2: So he stopped the boat and he was like, I 177 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 2: need to get grank. Yet she was oblivious, but she 178 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:33,719 Speaker 2: was really scared. Once we've gotten going and we were 179 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 2: like wow, like it happened so fast, the fact that 180 00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 2: she was with us. Then I thought she was with you. 181 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 2: You sure thought that she was with me, but she'd 182 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 2: just gone off from a little adventure. Kids do this stuff. 183 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:47,520 Speaker 2: Big take home lesson there in terms of I'll do 184 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 2: better tomorrow, and that is keep an eye on the kids. 185 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:53,680 Speaker 3: I think there's another take home too. Yeah, I think 186 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 3: his parents we obviously see all of the bad that 187 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 3: could happen, and it was there's no taking away from it. 188 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:02,840 Speaker 3: It could have been a devastating story, but it wasn't. 189 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 3: And so I think that we have to take the 190 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,520 Speaker 3: opportunity to find some humor in it, because in spite 191 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 3: of the danger, it was hilarious thing. 192 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:13,680 Speaker 2: It kind of was. Yeah, yeah, that reminds me of Lnelle'sknazzi, 193 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 2: the World's Worst Mum. She's the one who came up 194 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 2: with a free range parenting movement and she's kind of 195 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 2: saying a lot of people say, well, what would you 196 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 2: have done if something went wrong? 197 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 3: But it didn't. 198 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 2: It didn't and most of the time it doesn't. And 199 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:26,839 Speaker 2: of course, but. 200 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:29,439 Speaker 3: Because it didn't, you get to have the conversation with her, 201 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 3: So she was able. She learnt the lesson very very 202 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 3: very clearly that what she had done was wrong. But 203 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 3: we were able to talk to her about that afterwards, 204 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:41,560 Speaker 3: once the emotion of everything had calmed down, and have 205 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 3: a conversation that hopefully helps teach her something. 206 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 2: And I mean that happens. You don't have to be 207 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:49,199 Speaker 2: on a boat. It can happen with the kids on 208 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:51,000 Speaker 2: the trampoline or on the swings, or in the kitchen 209 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 2: when one of them throws a knife or slams a 210 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 2: door on their brother's hand or something like that. Like 211 00:09:56,520 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 2: this stuff happens all the time in life, and we 212 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 2: get to have those conversations. So I'll do better tomorrow. 213 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:06,840 Speaker 2: Number One, holidays are amazing. Number two, if your children 214 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 2: decide in the back of your head, Yeah, if your 215 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 2: children decide to disappear for a minute and you're on 216 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 2: a boat, keep an eye out or wherever you might be. 217 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:16,199 Speaker 2: We've got to tell this story about the new beach. 218 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 2: We're going to do that right after break. 219 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. 220 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:23,280 Speaker 2: Are Screens Creating tension at home? 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It actually was. 230 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 3: I will take I will take over. 231 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 2: I think you should tell the story since okay, I 232 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 2: don't want to say anything that's going to implicate me 233 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 2: in anything here. 234 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:58,719 Speaker 3: So we went up to Bowen for holidays. 235 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:00,319 Speaker 2: On where they do the bowl and mangoes. When I 236 00:11:00,400 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 2: grow the my shoes. 237 00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:04,000 Speaker 3: I also heard from the locals it's called blowing Bowen 238 00:11:04,160 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 3: because windy, so windy, and day one we looked at 239 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 3: each other and thought, what have we done? 240 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,200 Speaker 2: We've blown off the planet. It was so windy, it 241 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 2: was so windy. 242 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,559 Speaker 3: But thankfully, day two woke up and the sun was 243 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 3: shining and the wind had subsided. It's just just regularly 244 00:11:20,160 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 3: blowing is blowing. Bowin is also known for boulders. There 245 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:28,880 Speaker 3: were boulders everywhere along the coastline, stunning, and I'm a 246 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:32,680 Speaker 3: seven year old who just cannot stop climbing. She literally, 247 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 3: I swear she it was a mountain goat in another life. 248 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:39,840 Speaker 3: She scales these rocks without in a blink of an eye. 249 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 2: So I'm in the water, I'm having a swim on 250 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:43,840 Speaker 2: one of these days, and she wants to go for 251 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,680 Speaker 2: an explore. She starts climbing around all of the rocks. 252 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:49,880 Speaker 2: So We're at a place called Horseshoe Bay and I'm 253 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 2: swimming in between the flags at Horseshoe Bay with the 254 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 2: whole people, the other kids, and Emily starts moving in 255 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 2: sort of like a northerly direction I'm going to call 256 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 2: it instead of south. She was heading north, starts clambering 257 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 2: over the rocks. You follow her, And it was a. 258 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 3: Big deal for me, Like I'm not agile, like seven 259 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 3: year old, and these boulders really took a lot out 260 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 3: of me to get over and navigate. And we got 261 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:16,719 Speaker 3: towards the end and I all I realized that if 262 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:19,559 Speaker 3: we just kept going around the peninsula a little bit, 263 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 3: we'd actually get back to our cabin and I wouldn't 264 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 3: have to clamber over all of those boulders. And the 265 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 3: reason I knew it was possible was because from our 266 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 3: back door we would see lots of people. 267 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:32,640 Speaker 2: Clam Yeah, that's right. So I was like, you know. 268 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:36,120 Speaker 3: What, Emily's having a ball, let's do it. So it's 269 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 3: me going backwards. 270 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:38,480 Speaker 2: And by this stage I'd gotten out of the water 271 00:12:38,520 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 2: to follow you because you'd been on the rocks for 272 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 2: twenty minutes, and I was like, I'm going to go 273 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 2: see where they're exploring. We're going to go on this 274 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 2: adventure together. 275 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:48,079 Speaker 3: So you caught up with us. Just as we got 276 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 3: to the part where we were going to have to 277 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 3: be waist deep in water. Emily chucks the mental She 278 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:53,960 Speaker 3: didn't want to get wet, so we put her on 279 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 3: your shoulders and we carried her around the corner and 280 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 3: we got back up onto dry land. Well, we hadn't 281 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:01,640 Speaker 3: been going very far, and you realize that the ground 282 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 3: was pretty nasty. You didn't have any shoes. 283 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:06,680 Speaker 2: There was all sorts of coral and rocks. 284 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:09,319 Speaker 3: And shells, and you were kind of hobbling along, trying 285 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:12,960 Speaker 3: to navigate this really rocky space. And I said, it 286 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:14,719 Speaker 3: can't be too bad down on the flat over there, 287 00:13:14,760 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 3: because there's a guy and he's just walking along and 288 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:19,200 Speaker 3: he just looked like he was cruising sure, and so 289 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 3: you you went ahead. Well, I couldn't see anything except 290 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 3: for his head. So you went ahead and looked at 291 00:13:24,840 --> 00:13:28,280 Speaker 3: me in absolute panic because there was no way to 292 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 3: turn around at that point. No, and said, Kylie, get 293 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 3: Emily now and come quickly. 294 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 2: And I'm trying to wave you. I'm trying to hurry up. 295 00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:38,200 Speaker 3: I broke out what you were doing. And you're looking 296 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 3: at that guy and you're looking at me and saying 297 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 3: hurry up. And you're looking at the guy and I'm. 298 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:45,319 Speaker 2: Like, stop, stop, stop, turn around, go back the other way. 299 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 2: And he's looking at me like, who do you think 300 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:48,320 Speaker 2: you are telling me what to do? And I'm telling 301 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 2: you hurry, hurry, hurry, and you're not hurrying. He was 302 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 2: walking towards us, completely stark as we found somew we 303 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:03,199 Speaker 2: made it too, yeah, and last five meters away from me, 304 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:04,680 Speaker 2: completely in the nutty. 305 00:14:04,760 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 3: By this stage, you've kind of grabbed Emilie's face tilted 306 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 3: it away from him and sheltered her eyes as you've 307 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:15,680 Speaker 3: literally ushered her. And I up a back track because 308 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 3: what we didn't realize until we got to that point 309 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:21,160 Speaker 3: that there was about fifteen people and. 310 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 2: They're all sitting there hit nothing on. And I'm like, okay, 311 00:14:25,520 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 2: so I'm going to say something really embarrassing here. But 312 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:29,040 Speaker 2: I've always imagined a nude beach would kind of be 313 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:32,359 Speaker 2: like this wonderful playground with everyone frolicking with their fabulous 314 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:35,240 Speaker 2: bodies looking wonderful. And I've always kind of thought it'd 315 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 2: be pretty cool to go and go to a newd beach. 316 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:41,160 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm a guy, right, I've thought that. And 317 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:44,240 Speaker 2: what we saw instead was we were in Bowen. 318 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 3: Maybe they are better somewhere else. 319 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 2: Let's not even let's not even consider it. I will 320 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:53,840 Speaker 2: never ever contemplate a nude beach again in the for 321 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 2: the rest of my life. There were lots of very 322 00:14:56,520 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 2: seedy looking people, kind of well, just all sitting around, 323 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:03,920 Speaker 2: perving on each other naked. Most of them were well, 324 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 2: I didn't look carefully. I just want to highlight I 325 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:08,720 Speaker 2: wasn't looking carefully, but with what I saw, I didn't 326 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:11,640 Speaker 2: want to see and I was trying to protect Emily's eyes, 327 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:18,400 Speaker 2: and as we walked past the funniest with the naked guy, Emily'. 328 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 3: Says, Daddy, why are you covering my eyes? 329 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 2: Is it because that man's naked. I'm like, oh no, 330 00:15:25,120 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 2: and I'm trying to run across these rocks. I don't 331 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 2: actually think that she saw anything. I had my hand 332 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 2: firmly across her eyes, but I think she must have 333 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 2: just caught a glimpse of something somewhere or I don't know, 334 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 2: so please don't So let's we don't judge. Please don't 335 00:15:39,120 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 2: judge us. Wat kid, watch where you're going. Gosh, read 336 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 2: the signs. Now there were no signs. Well, we discovered 337 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:48,240 Speaker 2: on the other side of the beach was that there 338 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:50,880 Speaker 2: were signs warning of an new beach once we'd gotten 339 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,520 Speaker 2: past it, saying if you're coming from the other direction 340 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:55,720 Speaker 2: you could get there. But we went like the impossible way. 341 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 3: Like I said, we'd been watching all of these other 342 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 3: people scale these boulders and didn't think anything of it. 343 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 2: There were those signs the way we went, but golly, anyway, so. 344 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:06,160 Speaker 3: Clearly everyone wants to have a look at the new beach. 345 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 2: I'll do better tomorrow. The life lesson here, the thing 346 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 2: that every parent needs to remember. Kylie, what's the take 347 00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 2: home message? Help me please, I'm not. 348 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 3: Sure, honey. Cover your children's eyes. 349 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:24,320 Speaker 2: And your own. Just just stay away from that particular 350 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 2: spot that's always saying. On the bright side, though, we 351 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 2: had a great holiday in spite of some awkward moments. 352 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:34,000 Speaker 3: One of the biggest highlights of our trip, though, was 353 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 3: watching Emily go snorkeling. We did this last year. We 354 00:16:38,720 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 3: tried it, attempted it. I think she lasted what about 355 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 3: five minutes. 356 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:43,480 Speaker 2: Well, not even it was terrible. 357 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:45,480 Speaker 3: Before she said, can you take me to the island, 358 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 3: and you spend an hour and a half exploring the 359 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:48,920 Speaker 3: sand and finding shells. 360 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 2: We're a great keple island off your poon, and the 361 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 2: end of time, well. 362 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:53,960 Speaker 3: The rest of us were snorkeling and finding all of 363 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 3: these amazing things in the reef. And this time round. 364 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:00,400 Speaker 2: Fifteen months later, grown up so much, and she was 365 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 2: like a fish in that water. She was having so 366 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 2: much hips store call flippers and away she went. So 367 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 2: the kids do grow up, the holidays do get better. 368 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 2: And as long as you're careful where you walk, careful 369 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:13,520 Speaker 2: which bold as you climb over. Chances are when you 370 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:16,040 Speaker 2: have your next holid, it's going to be great. And 371 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 2: we really hope that this has been an informative I'll 372 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 2: do better tomorrow. 373 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 3: I don't know about informative, but hopefully we've had a 374 00:17:22,560 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 3: good laugh. 375 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 2: Okay, So the intention behind all of this, the reflection 376 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 2: really though, is that the kids do grow up and 377 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:31,359 Speaker 2: they get better and better at holidaying and getting out 378 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:33,960 Speaker 2: of the routine can be really important for building relationships 379 00:17:34,040 --> 00:17:34,640 Speaker 2: and memories. 380 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 3: And I don't think it's just the kids though, I 381 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 3: think we get better. 382 00:17:38,320 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. Well you did some risky things. You did things 383 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:42,720 Speaker 2: you've never done before, not including the beach I'm talking about. 384 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:45,040 Speaker 2: Well maybe I'm sure that's something you've never done before 385 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:47,040 Speaker 2: as well. But you jumped off the boat into the water. 386 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:48,160 Speaker 2: That was pretty scary for you. 387 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 3: Well, jumping into the middle of the ocean, so that 388 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 3: was scary in and of itself. But I didn't only 389 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 3: just jump in. I had to jump from the roof 390 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:57,359 Speaker 3: of the boat. 391 00:17:57,640 --> 00:17:59,240 Speaker 2: And there were turtles and there were sting rays and 392 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 2: all sorts of things in the and you did it. 393 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:04,880 Speaker 2: So that was very exciting. We really hope that this 394 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 2: podcast today, this older better tomorrow. Who has given you 395 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,320 Speaker 2: an opportunity to reflect on how you can holiday better 396 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:13,760 Speaker 2: with your family and the way that you can create 397 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 2: wonderful memories with them. When lockdown ends or when you 398 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,200 Speaker 2: do get to go on your next holiday, we hope 399 00:18:18,200 --> 00:18:21,200 Speaker 2: that it's really really soon, because gee, it's wonderful. 400 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:24,679 Speaker 3: I think one more thing that's really worth highlighting in 401 00:18:24,840 --> 00:18:27,760 Speaker 3: light of what we're dealing with with lockdowns and restrictions everywhere, 402 00:18:27,800 --> 00:18:30,119 Speaker 3: is that you can have an amazing holiday just in 403 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 3: your backyard. We didn't go into state, We didn't have 404 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:38,439 Speaker 3: to leave the country to enjoy wonderful experiences and time together. 405 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, hopefully borders are going to be opening up 406 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 2: soon and vaccinations continue to increase, but in the meantime 407 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:47,200 Speaker 2: a great point. The Happy Families podcast is produced by 408 00:18:47,320 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 2: Justin Ruland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. 409 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:52,879 Speaker 2: If you'd like more information about how to make your 410 00:18:52,880 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 2: family happier, including our Happy Families memberships where you get daily, weekly, 411 00:18:58,359 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 2: and monthly assistance. Because a happy family doesn't just happen, 412 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:04,400 Speaker 2: please visit Happy Families dot com dot au.