Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo
Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present
Speaker 1: and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and
Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,
Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is
Speaker 1: the podcast where we have mindset, self development and becoming
Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,
Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses
Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo
Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No
Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, we're here to
Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical
Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's
Speaker 1: seat of your own life, stop letting life pass you by,
Speaker 1: then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, and welcome
Speaker 1: back to the RONC Potty. Firstly, I apologize for my voice.
Speaker 1: I have been on well, but luckily we have pre
Speaker 1: recorded this episode, so it's just the intro that sounds
Speaker 1: like this. But today we are talking about how to
Speaker 1: be okay with being a beginner and starting again. We
Speaker 1: noticed a reoccurring theme in our community of people wanting
Speaker 1: to make big life changes but not wanting to start
Speaker 1: again and wondering if they are doing things too late.
Speaker 1: So in this episode we unpack it all. We really
Speaker 1: get into what it could feel like to start again,
Speaker 1: embracing change, and how important it is really to embrace
Speaker 1: change for your success. But before we get into the episode,
Speaker 1: A Tia, do you have any weekly recommendations for us? Yes,
Speaker 1: mine's pilates. You can't take my recommendation, you know what
Speaker 1: I've been doing polite, I know, but it's so fun
Speaker 1: and it's just it's so feminine. Let's just like Coke
Speaker 1: collab on.
Speaker 2: This recommendation, our joint recommendation. Literally, I just feel like
Speaker 2: I feel so strong but so relaxed after doing a class.
Speaker 1: And the music's always really relaxing too. I feel the
Speaker 1: exact same, and it's really invoking like my feminine energy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I feel like everything's lengthening and like
Speaker 1: I feel so long and strong and it's just, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's really relaxing. Like I feel like my quartersole is
Speaker 1: just being reduced.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I love it. Because I genuinely get excited
Speaker 2: for it as opposed to like weight training. I'll go
Speaker 2: and I'll do it, and I know I feel good after,
Speaker 2: but it's like pilates, I feel good before.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're like, oh, I'm excited.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I will also mention we had our rebirth event at
Speaker 2: free Living Polaratei studio, and if you are looking to
Speaker 2: get into Pilarti's in the Gold Coast area, we do
Speaker 2: have like a discounted one month membership for our R
Speaker 2: and Z listeners. They kindly sent us a little link.
Speaker 1: Yay. Free Living is amazing guys, if you're in that area,
Speaker 1: makes you check them out?
Speaker 2: And what popular link in the show notes for you?
Speaker 1: Amazing? Well, should we get into the episode, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: kind of take this in a different direction.
Speaker 2: Ok, it'll be good anyway.
Speaker 1: Should I leave that in for everyone? So we're to
Speaker 1: your rights notes for apisodes, and I read them. I'll
Speaker 1: say I read them before too, and planes and then
Speaker 1: we record like a week later, and more often than not,
Speaker 1: I'm like, we're changing us or I'm vibing this. Let's
Speaker 1: get straight to this, all right, Well, let's get straight
Speaker 1: into it. So I just think this is such a
Speaker 1: skill to strengthen that is going to make you successful.
Speaker 1: I think, well, this skill. So this come up because
Speaker 1: we actually had a question in the Facebook group about this,
Speaker 1: and we've noticed who we have a lot of people
Speaker 1: in the Facebook group talking about, you know, maybe changing
Speaker 1: careers or starting from scratch. And look, this is something
Speaker 1: I'm great at because literally did a six year law degree,
Speaker 1: got into law and then I was like, not for me,
Speaker 1: let's do something different, let's start from scratch. And I think, honestly,
Speaker 1: this is the skill that is going to make you
Speaker 1: successful in life, the one skill you probably need a
Speaker 1: couple more so, if you can embrace change and meet
Speaker 1: yourself where you're at and be keen to learn new
Speaker 1: things to embrace you know, learning new skills, changing how
Speaker 1: you do things, I truly believe this is a skill
Speaker 1: that is going to make you so successful. Now let
Speaker 1: me Obviously there's a logical side, and then there's a
Speaker 1: shadow lens side. Yeah, and so I think it's really
Speaker 1: really important to be okay with being a beginner and
Speaker 1: learning new skills and not letting your ego get in
Speaker 1: the way of you evolving, because if you think about it,
Speaker 1: if you cannot embrace change like within other people, within
Speaker 1: a situation, within yourself, you will never be able to evolve.
Speaker 1: And as humans, we need to be evolving, like we
Speaker 1: need to be going forward. And so for example, and
Speaker 1: this is actually something I notice in employees. So how
Speaker 1: I know if an employee is going to be quite
Speaker 1: successful in their career is how much change they can embrace.
Speaker 2: So like how adaptable you are to your surroundings.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if an employee gets stressed out really easy, they
Speaker 1: can't deal with like me changing a deadline or you know,
Speaker 1: like a topic or you know, like in this situation,
Speaker 1: like so I get it, so you do it well
Speaker 1: or like you know, something like that stresses them out.
Speaker 1: I straight away get like, oh, very interesting, because if
Speaker 1: you can't embrace and like obviously use your discernment here.
Speaker 1: If I'm constantly changing deadlines, you're allowed to pull me up,
Speaker 1: Like that's what That's what I'm not saying because I've
Speaker 1: done that, But I'm just saying if someone gets stressed
Speaker 1: out very easy because something changes and they can't adapt
Speaker 1: to me, that's a bit of a red flag straight
Speaker 1: away because I'm like, oh, you can't deal with change,
Speaker 1: And if you can't deal with change externally, You're not
Speaker 1: going to be able to deal with change internally, and
Speaker 1: that's how you evolve and that's how you're going to succeed. Guys,
Speaker 1: my mouth is on the floor. I've never thought about
Speaker 1: it like that. Yeah, you like, do you see from
Speaker 1: your subconscious it's kind of like a shadow work lens
Speaker 1: of you can't deal with change, so you're never going
Speaker 1: to be able to allow yourself to change. And that's
Speaker 1: even something like, notice how judgmental you are to other
Speaker 1: people if they change, if they change careers, if they
Speaker 1: you know, even I remember there was such this story
Speaker 1: of like, oh, she keeps changing her degree, like she
Speaker 1: just can't stick to a degree, you know, and like
Speaker 1: they'd say that about like their unifriends as well. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I'd be like, so interesting, Like why are you
Speaker 1: upset about that? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Why how is it affecting you?
Speaker 1: And that's because they probably have a lot of beliefs
Speaker 1: around I can't change. I have to be one person
Speaker 1: and I have to follow this direct line and I
Speaker 1: cannot change.
Speaker 2: And do you think that comes from almost feeling shame
Speaker 2: if you do change? Yeah, or like quote unquote give
Speaker 2: up on something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like almost like this mentality of like I must
Speaker 1: see this to the end, and I think, I think
Speaker 1: there's good things about that mentality. But I've just noticed
Speaker 1: even in myself, I had a great reflection at the
Speaker 1: start of the year, is I actually stopped my evolution
Speaker 1: in regards to when I had IVY because I couldn't
Speaker 1: adapt to my new self. And that's what like the
Speaker 1: whole rebirth course was about, is adapting to your new self.
Speaker 1: And I had a lot of issues around that because
Speaker 1: of how like kind of like not said in my ways,
Speaker 1: but how logically I saw evolution and how I wasn't
Speaker 1: able to adapt to my new self because it wasn't
Speaker 1: what I thought right, And so I stopped my own.
Speaker 2: Growth because you almost boxed yourself into I'm evolving, but
Speaker 2: it's this.
Speaker 1: Way, yeah, and it can only be this way, and
Speaker 1: that it only makes sense to me if it's this way.
Speaker 2: And what shifted for you?
Speaker 1: I guess we'll like doing the identity work around not
Speaker 1: having to be in that box and not having to
Speaker 1: have limitations. And I think like the way that you
Speaker 1: can strengthen this side of yourself, like bringing it back
Speaker 1: to the main question of being able to deal with
Speaker 1: change and being able to be a beginner. And I'll
Speaker 1: get to the beginner side in a second. But in
Speaker 1: regards to being able to deal with change, is I
Speaker 1: guess like strengthening that is well, it's it's like our
Speaker 1: life happens for me a tia like we queens have
Speaker 1: been able to deal with change because we have actually
Speaker 1: ref to our mindset that when ship doesn't go our way,
Speaker 1: we actually go, oh no, this is happening for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know when I realized how strong that
Speaker 2: is in us. He always know this. But Cooper broke
Speaker 2: his arm. This is a weird story, but he broke
Speaker 2: his arm and he was supposed to go on his
Speaker 2: spear fishing trip. And when he came in and told Jamie,
Speaker 2: Georgina and I that he broke his arm, we were like, oh, well,
Speaker 2: obviously maybe something was bad was going to happen on
Speaker 2: the spear fishing trip, so you broke your arm so
Speaker 2: that nothing bad happened. And we were like, gosh, we're
Speaker 2: like really positive. Most people would just be sad that
Speaker 2: they broke their arm and couldn't go on their holiday.
Speaker 1: Was he like responsible to that? I remember, No, I
Speaker 1: think he agreed.
Speaker 2: He was just upset his arm was broken, but yeah,
Speaker 2: he was just like, yeah, it probably is, like that's
Speaker 2: like what he definitely agreed with it. But it was
Speaker 2: just like interesting to see how quickly our minds went
Speaker 2: there instead of ever thinking, oh, just sucks, you can't
Speaker 2: go on your hold.
Speaker 1: Yes, And that's what I mean, Like, this is going
Speaker 1: to be such a huge tool for you if you
Speaker 1: can embrace change, because like a lot of people, something
Speaker 1: happens and they sit in a low frequency for days, weeks,
Speaker 1: and then what happens is you're sitting in a low
Speaker 1: frequency and you attract more low frequency things. So if
Speaker 1: you can be able to embrace change and actually be
Speaker 1: like cool, this actually might be happening for me, or
Speaker 1: even just like a neutral state of like cool, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to let this be the end of the world.
Speaker 1: It's like something Brookie was saying when we did our
Speaker 1: end Hah retreat. She's like, my favorite thing with the
Speaker 1: team is like we don't cry anymore when something goes wrong, because,
Speaker 1: like you know, right at the start, especially when you're
Speaker 1: first starting a business, it can feel like if like
Speaker 1: one thing happens and it can.
Speaker 2: Just feel like the end of the world, like your
Speaker 2: bad it doesn't change in the right or.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like something happens, and like I do remember there
Speaker 1: was quite a few times we'd have a lot of
Speaker 1: people crying in the office or just like you know,
Speaker 1: feeling stressed, and then because they're feeling stressed, you're feeling stressed,
Speaker 1: and it just creates this whole atmosphere. Whereas we've shifted
Speaker 1: our whole perspective now and like I've evolved how I
Speaker 1: do things, and the team has evolved how they do things,
Speaker 1: and like something happens, and Brookie straight away she's like, cool,
Speaker 1: well the solution, we can do this, this and this,
Speaker 1: what do you want to do?
Speaker 2: Gee?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, cool, well let's do this amazing and
Speaker 1: we just move forward. We embrace it. Whereas if you're
Speaker 1: that person that like goes to your boss and you're like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this thing's happen. It's the worst fucking
Speaker 1: thing and you're stressed, I guarantee your boss is going
Speaker 1: to be like red flags. I feel like we've been there. Yeah, look,
Speaker 1: I've been that. I've been that person. And that's what
Speaker 1: I mean is like I can truly see, like the
Speaker 1: rate at how successful someone is going to be by
Speaker 1: the way that they can embrace and hold change, because
Speaker 1: if you think about it, it's just holding an uncomfortable feeling.
Speaker 1: That's so true, and in your life to succeed, to
Speaker 1: go to that next level, you are going to have
Speaker 1: to go through uncomfortable feelings. You're going to have to
Speaker 1: go through uncomfortable stages. So the people that I can
Speaker 1: see that can actually hold that and stay true to
Speaker 1: who they are and stable to who they are are
Speaker 1: obviously going to be able to combat more, get through more,
Speaker 1: get through more levels. And so that's why I truly believe.
Speaker 1: It's like it's a skill, and the great thing is
Speaker 1: it's a skill you can strengthen. So I think I
Speaker 1: was going to this before that I jumped. But so
Speaker 1: how you can do this is like bring it back
Speaker 1: to little moments when things don't go your way and
Speaker 1: being like, oh, how can I actually see the positive
Speaker 1: or how can I sit in the feeling of this
Speaker 1: being really uncomfortable but not freak out.
Speaker 2: I so agree with that, and I think sometimes it
Speaker 2: just because I definitely was someone like, especially through high school,
Speaker 2: I got rattled so easily, Like if the tiniest thing
Speaker 2: went wrong. It was end of the world and something
Speaker 2: that helped me first before obviously being able to like
Speaker 2: completely just let things flow and happen and just adapt.
Speaker 2: I would just try to be unbothered like I would.
Speaker 2: I just worked on that initial reaction of when something
Speaker 2: goes wrong, what do I do? And I think if
Speaker 2: it like sometimes when you drive, and then I'll be
Speaker 2: the best driver. So I don't know if everyone will
Speaker 2: relate to this, but have you ever hit the curb
Speaker 2: a little bit?
Speaker 1: I definitely haven't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So it's like it comes down to whether you
Speaker 2: hit the curb and you're like, oh my god, pull over,
Speaker 2: check the car, blah blah blah, or like you just
Speaker 2: roll over the curb and like okay, cool and then
Speaker 2: carry on driving.
Speaker 1: My god, love that example. It's so true. I've never
Speaker 1: got an ad Oh we'll deal with I'll deal with
Speaker 1: it when I stopped. Well, that's even Like me and
Speaker 1: Cooper spoke at a conference the other day, and it's
Speaker 1: really interesting because I hadn't really done a public speaking
Speaker 1: thing to that extent, especially in between in front of
Speaker 1: like a whole room of professionals, and it was really
Speaker 1: cooled that n H got invited, and we were talking
Speaker 1: about our sustainability journey and also just like how we
Speaker 1: really lean into our community and our social activations to
Speaker 1: drive the brand. So it was a topic that I absolutely,
Speaker 1: you know, loved and wanted to chat about. But I
Speaker 1: did notice, like Cooper was quite nervous, and I noticed
Speaker 1: in myself this feeling of being nervous. But also, you know,
Speaker 1: I had the questions. I had prepared the questions, and
Speaker 1: then I noticed this part of myself who literally like
Speaker 1: kind of said to myself, I prepared. I'm here because
Speaker 1: you know, n H deserves to be here. You know,
Speaker 1: we have it, we have a spot at the table,
Speaker 1: we have some stuff that people would want to know,
Speaker 1: and so I choose to be unbothered, like and I
Speaker 1: noticed though that being a choice yeah, and being like, oh, like,
Speaker 1: worst case scenario, I stuff up, something happens, but I've
Speaker 1: literally done all I can. I prepared. There's like there's
Speaker 1: not much more I can do. So it's like whatever
Speaker 1: happens is going to happen, and I can't really change
Speaker 1: it either way. So I most will sit in this
Speaker 1: feeling of like cool.
Speaker 2: I'm chill, And do you think sometimes that feeling of
Speaker 2: not being able to handle the change or on comfort
Speaker 2: comes from under preparing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I also think it comes from a choice. And
Speaker 1: that's the thing is if there is truth to you
Speaker 1: feeling nervous, yeah, maybe you have underprepared. And in saying that,
Speaker 1: like I didn't, It's not like I was preparing for weeks.
Speaker 1: I wrote it in my notes, I said it a
Speaker 1: couple of times, and that's me preparing it pretty well,
Speaker 1: sounds good, So a hundred percent bit like I did
Speaker 1: notice even that thought in my mind of like, oh,
Speaker 1: maybe I should like practice a bit more, and I
Speaker 1: just went, no, yeah, I'm not doing I'm not leaning
Speaker 1: into that story. And I guess that's what I'm trying
Speaker 1: to say is a lot of people they think they
Speaker 1: don't have that awareness and they think they don't have
Speaker 1: that choice, but you actually do. You just have to
Speaker 1: be a bit more aware and conscious before that feeling
Speaker 1: takes over. And obviously that does come with practice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And that's what I mean. It's like, you know, when
Speaker 1: you go to the gym and you work out, you're
Speaker 1: not straight away a fit person. You have to do practice
Speaker 1: and then you're a fit person. And obviously I have
Speaker 1: done quite a bit of public speaking. I speak on
Speaker 1: a podcast, so it would come more easier to me
Speaker 1: because I have practice and I've strengthened that side of myself.
Speaker 1: But I did notice it's still a choice I have
Speaker 1: to make. Yeah, And I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: just think, oh, well, she's just naturally gifted or she's
Speaker 1: just naturally chill. I was very much like you a tear,
Speaker 1: Like things would happen and I would have fucking meltdown. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like even how I said, like at the start of
Speaker 1: n H, like the whole team would have a meltdown
Speaker 1: and cry and don't laugh and we just and now
Speaker 1: we just don't do it, Like I just refuse to
Speaker 1: feed into the story. And also I like, I just
Speaker 1: truly believe that you can be transparent and everything's going
Speaker 1: to be okay.
Speaker 2: I agree.
Speaker 1: So I just I'm like, why what, like why worry?
Speaker 1: Why feed into that?
Speaker 2: I think something that you actually just said sparked a
Speaker 2: little aha moment for me in that I feel like
Speaker 2: sometimes people freak out because society feeds that, and it's
Speaker 2: almost quote unquote cool like to be able to talk, like,
Speaker 2: for example, just like a work one if you have
Speaker 2: a job that you're super passionate about and you like
Speaker 2: have meltdowns when things go wrong. A lot of people
Speaker 2: will validate that and be like, oh, it's all good,
Speaker 2: You're just crying because you care. Yeah, And it then
Speaker 2: feeds that. It feeds that for you because I used
Speaker 2: to think, oh my gosh, I'm crying because I care.
Speaker 2: I'm just passionate about what I do. It's fine to care,
Speaker 2: like I need to just let my emotions happen. But
Speaker 2: there's also a line of like, am I crying because
Speaker 2: I care? Or am I crying because I can't self regulate? Wow?
Speaker 2: Yeaes and like you can have a job and be
Speaker 2: passionate and not cry when something goes wrong.
Speaker 1: That's such a great point in to Yeah, and I
Speaker 1: think that comes in like that comes in a lot
Speaker 1: of self responsibility. Yeah, And that's like it's something you
Speaker 1: might need to kind of check in with yourself because
Speaker 1: also this is probably getting a bit too deep. But
Speaker 1: a lot of the time that person would be getting
Speaker 1: secondhand gain from doing that, so yeah, you know, they
Speaker 1: would be getting well, I cry and then my partner's
Speaker 1: like quite nice to.
Speaker 2: Me, and everyone's like, oh, it's okay, or even.
Speaker 1: In an employee's sense because oh my god, this so happened.
Speaker 1: If you know someone is like they can't ill stress,
Speaker 1: or that they're quite sensitive, maybe their workload isn't as big,
Speaker 1: and people purposely don't give them work or purposely is like,
Speaker 1: don't tell this person. They're gonna freak out. Like I've
Speaker 1: actually I've done that with employees, be like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: fucking let's sort it out together. Don't tell this person
Speaker 1: because they can't deal with it. And so even that person,
Speaker 1: they might even be feeding into that because they get
Speaker 1: secondhand gain. They get people like walking on eggshells around them,
Speaker 1: and that's too careful with how they ask them to
Speaker 1: do things. Yes, yes, so again that's take some responsibility there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and obviously you know the people around you. Just check
Speaker 1: in if they're feeding into the positive story or if
Speaker 1: they're feeding into the negative story. But I truly like
Speaker 1: coming back to it though, I truly believe if you
Speaker 1: can learn how to embrace change and actually thrive of change,
Speaker 1: holy shit, you're going to be such a solid human
Speaker 1: That is going to lead to so just so many
Speaker 1: up levels. And I, yeah, I just I think that's
Speaker 1: just such a thing that people don't talk about and
Speaker 1: then also just to feedback into our original topic, let's
Speaker 1: give them some tips. So I am just such a
Speaker 1: big believer that you should always be okay with being
Speaker 1: a beginner. And I just think you can miss so
Speaker 1: much if you And this is like, this is a
Speaker 1: very ego thing, but it's like if you refuse to
Speaker 1: get taught something, or you refuse to kind of like
Speaker 1: go to the quote unquote bottom because you're used to
Speaker 1: being in a certain area of your employment or your
Speaker 1: small business or your business or your company or I
Speaker 1: know whatever. Yeah, it's like you're going to miss so much.
Speaker 1: And that's even like something that I love is at
Speaker 1: our end Hatred Retreat, we were doing our values and
Speaker 1: someone said, what I love about our team is there's
Speaker 1: no job small enough that someone won't come in and help.
Speaker 1: So it's like, for example, if shit's going down in
Speaker 1: customer service, you know Alex who's like head of logistics,
Speaker 1: it is like Brookie, what do you need? I can
Speaker 1: jump in and like no one's above anyone else, and
Speaker 1: we're all ready to like you know, get in there
Speaker 1: and help someone else. And I think it's just such
Speaker 1: an amazing skill. And again It's like, if you refuse
Speaker 1: to go back to being a beginner and learning and
Speaker 1: basically embracing change, you are not going to be able
Speaker 1: to evolve in yourself because you've basically told yourself, no,
Speaker 1: we don't need to learn that we're perfect as we are.
Speaker 1: You're never gonna evolve, You're never going to move forward.
Speaker 1: So get okay with being beginner, learning new things, getting
Speaker 1: told things. Oh my god, like the biggest thing you
Speaker 1: will know if you're in your ego. If someone is
Speaker 1: telling you something and your response is like I already
Speaker 1: know that or I know better, their way is wrong,
Speaker 1: you know you're in your ego if those are the
Speaker 1: statements the thoughts in your head, and you need to
Speaker 1: check yourself and obviously use discernments. Sometimes that is completely correct. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but sometimes you are completely limiting your growth. And I
Speaker 1: guarantee you, if you do it once, you've done it
Speaker 1: a thousand times.
Speaker 2: And I guess something interesting with that could almost be
Speaker 2: that sometimes the universe will give you like a little
Speaker 2: bit of a nudge. And that might be someone saying, hey,
Speaker 2: like you're doing great at this, but you could improve
Speaker 2: and blah blah blah, and you and your head go,
Speaker 2: I already know that I'm across it. Everything, you will
Speaker 2: get pushed back down by the universe if necessary, if
Speaker 2: you're not listening to that little nudge and so just
Speaker 2: obviously again, like the.
Speaker 1: Lesson's gonna fucking keep coming up.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I truly believe in like karma lessons. So if like
Speaker 1: the universe is trying to show you a lesson and
Speaker 1: you constantly ignore it, you're going to keep having the
Speaker 1: same karma. You'll just be living the same thing over
Speaker 1: and over again. It might come through all different people,
Speaker 1: but you'll be like, why does this keep happening?
Speaker 2: Yeah? What are some other tips you have for people
Speaker 2: to I guess embrace being a beginner and embrace change.
Speaker 1: Definitely, you know, I like acknowledge it is hard and uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: but you can do hard and uncomfortable things. I think
Speaker 1: you're very you're living in a fairy tale. If you
Speaker 1: think life is just about things coming to you easy,
Speaker 1: things being easy, that's literally not how we do things.
Speaker 1: We build character, we build our skills. We strengthen our
Speaker 1: skills through uncomfortable and hard things, So start getting comfortable
Speaker 1: with them. Like I said, it's like realizing and reframing.
Speaker 1: So with our life happens for me motto, we've basically
Speaker 1: just reframed. When something bad happens, we're reframing that perspective
Speaker 1: and that has helped us so much. So again, get
Speaker 1: really good at catching yourself reframing. I think, just like
Speaker 1: trust your evolution. So it's like, these people are coming
Speaker 1: into your world for a reason. These things are happening
Speaker 1: for a reason, Like a Tia said, if things keep
Speaker 1: popping up and you're like why does this keep happening,
Speaker 1: start listening to the universe because it's trying to nudge you.
Speaker 1: It's trying to evolve you, and you need to start
Speaker 1: embracing it. Otherwise you're going to it's going to feel like,
Speaker 1: you know, you're hitting a wall all the time, Whereas
Speaker 1: it's like you can get a nudge and it can
Speaker 1: still be really beautiful. I think just like be really
Speaker 1: open to being a beginner and like be really humbled
Speaker 1: by even if you are an expert on your field.
Speaker 1: Or It's a great example for me is you know,
Speaker 1: I'm co owner and co creator of an eight figure business,
Speaker 1: but I'm so open to people giving me feedback, to
Speaker 1: people giving me information, Like we had one of our
Speaker 1: S and OP meetings the other day, which is just
Speaker 1: like systems and operations, which we have monthly to go
Speaker 1: through and hate like what were the things that worked well?
Speaker 1: What didn't? How can we move forward? And we have
Speaker 1: an external consultant for retail and he's involved in these
Speaker 1: meetings for the retail side of things, and he comes
Speaker 1: from a really like corporate background, so he's used to
Speaker 1: S and OP meetings of like one hundred million dollar
Speaker 1: companies and so he has brought in a lot of
Speaker 1: like the systems and processes. And I had to really
Speaker 1: check myself because at the start I noticed I was like,
Speaker 1: we're not corporate, we don't do things that way. Like
Speaker 1: I wasn't. I wasn't saying that to him, but I
Speaker 1: noticed the thought and I had to check myself and
Speaker 1: be like, are you just in your ego? Because also
Speaker 1: we can be a company that's not quote unquote corporate,
Speaker 1: but we can have some really great systems and practices.
Speaker 1: And that's what I mean. It's like I had to
Speaker 1: humble myself and I had to check in with myself,
Speaker 1: and that was a really great exercise for me. And
Speaker 1: that was the time where I had to go back
Speaker 1: to be being a beginner out because I had fucking
Speaker 1: no idea and sop medias. And also I remember asking
Speaker 1: him and being like, hey, I have no idea. I
Speaker 1: would love to learn the process. I would love to
Speaker 1: learn how you know you get these metrics and why
Speaker 1: they matter. And I asked him for help and he
Speaker 1: was so open to it, and he was so like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, yes, let me teach you. Because I
Speaker 1: was so like, I'm a beginner, you know, help me.
Speaker 1: And I think people are really responsive when you put
Speaker 1: yourself in when you ask for help and you actually
Speaker 1: ask for direction, because people actually love helping. People generally
Speaker 1: love helping. So if you can do it in a
Speaker 1: way that is really respectful, people generally like, yes, I
Speaker 1: want to help you.
Speaker 2: I love that you said that, because I think that
Speaker 2: that is one of the biggest things that people struggle
Speaker 2: with when they're a beginner, is asking questions and asking
Speaker 2: for help because you do have to get out of
Speaker 2: your ego. But if you think about it, that is
Speaker 2: the best way to get things done. Like, for example,
Speaker 2: I know a lot of the questions in the Facebook
Speaker 2: group are about like starting at new jobs, and people
Speaker 2: are struggling because obviously something you find interesting is like
Speaker 2: you do lose that secondhand gain from everything you quote
Speaker 2: unquote put into the job prior, like that doesn't necessarily
Speaker 2: get carried over to the new business and you're having
Speaker 2: to prove yourself again. And I think people go into
Speaker 2: this I have to be impressive. I have to get
Speaker 2: everything right. I can't ask questions, I can't ask for help.
Speaker 2: I really want to impress people. And what's impressive is
Speaker 2: actually being vulnerable and saying, hey, no idea what your
Speaker 2: business's processes are? Could we take half an hour an
Speaker 2: hour to so you can run me through it, and
Speaker 2: don't be scared to ask a million and one questions
Speaker 2: when you first start something, because it just makes you
Speaker 2: that much better, that much faster, rather than like trying
Speaker 2: to be impressive and then getting three months in and
Speaker 2: going like, I actually have no idea what's going on?
Speaker 1: Because yes, I love that. And that's also like something
Speaker 1: we really encourage in both businesses as like anything you
Speaker 1: want to know, need to know, Like let's communicate and
Speaker 1: let's talk about that. Don't just like pretend you know
Speaker 1: and then like not do good work. Yeah, right, Like
Speaker 1: that's the silliest thing ever. So I love that you
Speaker 1: touched on that. But guys, I hope you have absolutely
Speaker 1: loved this episode. A bit of a riff, but it
Speaker 1: was so good. And guys, make sure you come and
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