WEBVTT - How to be okay with change ✨ 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.160 I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:06.560 land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:10.520 Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 0:00:10.600 --> 0:00:14.319 and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:22.680 Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:30.240 and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:33.800 the podcast where we have mindset, self development and becoming 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:37.159 your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:40.360 plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.800 and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:47.479 of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:49.839 matter where you are in your journey, we're here to 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:53.800 help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:58.480 self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:01.680 seat of your own life, stop letting life pass you by, 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:10.600 then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, and welcome 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:15.280 back to the RONC Potty. Firstly, I apologize for my voice. 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:18.479 I have been on well, but luckily we have pre 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:21.160 recorded this episode, so it's just the intro that sounds 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:25.160 like this. But today we are talking about how to 0:01:25.200 --> 0:01:29.640 be okay with being a beginner and starting again. We 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:32.680 noticed a reoccurring theme in our community of people wanting 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:35.560 to make big life changes but not wanting to start 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:39.640 again and wondering if they are doing things too late. 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:43.520 So in this episode we unpack it all. We really 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:45.760 get into what it could feel like to start again, 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:50.040 embracing change, and how important it is really to embrace 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:53.640 change for your success. But before we get into the episode, 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:57.840 A Tia, do you have any weekly recommendations for us? Yes, 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:05.360 mine's pilates. You can't take my recommendation, you know what 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:08.639 I've been doing polite, I know, but it's so fun 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:13.040 and it's just it's so feminine. Let's just like Coke 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:13.639 collab on. 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:18.840 This recommendation, our joint recommendation. Literally, I just feel like 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:23.079 I feel so strong but so relaxed after doing a class. 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:27.040 And the music's always really relaxing too. I feel the 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:31.519 exact same, and it's really invoking like my feminine energy. Yeah, 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:34.840 and I'm like, I feel like everything's lengthening and like 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:38.840 I feel so long and strong and it's just, yeah, 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:41.560 it's really relaxing. Like I feel like my quartersole is 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:43.519 just being reduced. 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:46.560 Yeah, and I love it. Because I genuinely get excited 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:49.000 for it as opposed to like weight training. I'll go 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:50.919 and I'll do it, and I know I feel good after, 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.400 but it's like pilates, I feel good before. 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:54.840 Yeah, you're like, oh, I'm excited. 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:55.400 Yes. 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:56.560 Yeah. 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:59.919 I will also mention we had our rebirth event at 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:03.840 free Living Polaratei studio, and if you are looking to 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:05.920 get into Pilarti's in the Gold Coast area, we do 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:08.480 have like a discounted one month membership for our R 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:11.160 and Z listeners. They kindly sent us a little link. 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:15.079 Yay. Free Living is amazing guys, if you're in that area, 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:16.160 makes you check them out? 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:18.079 And what popular link in the show notes for you? 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:27.440 Amazing? Well, should we get into the episode, I'm gonna 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:28.800 kind of take this in a different direction. 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:34.240 Ok, it'll be good anyway. 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:43.160 Should I leave that in for everyone? So we're to 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:46.880 your rights notes for apisodes, and I read them. I'll 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:51.880 say I read them before too, and planes and then 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.960 we record like a week later, and more often than not, 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:59.560 I'm like, we're changing us or I'm vibing this. Let's 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:01.320 get straight to this, all right, Well, let's get straight 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:05.360 into it. So I just think this is such a 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:13.080 skill to strengthen that is going to make you successful. 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:18.160 I think, well, this skill. So this come up because 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:22.240 we actually had a question in the Facebook group about this, 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:25.240 and we've noticed who we have a lot of people 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:28.440 in the Facebook group talking about, you know, maybe changing 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:33.080 careers or starting from scratch. And look, this is something 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:36.159 I'm great at because literally did a six year law degree, 0:04:36.480 --> 0:04:38.919 got into law and then I was like, not for me, 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:43.800 let's do something different, let's start from scratch. And I think, honestly, 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:48.359 this is the skill that is going to make you 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:52.280 successful in life, the one skill you probably need a 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:59.320 couple more so, if you can embrace change and meet 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:04.320 yourself where you're at and be keen to learn new 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:10.480 things to embrace you know, learning new skills, changing how 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:13.839 you do things, I truly believe this is a skill 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:18.200 that is going to make you so successful. Now let 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:20.839 me Obviously there's a logical side, and then there's a 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:25.239 shadow lens side. Yeah, and so I think it's really 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:32.080 really important to be okay with being a beginner and 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:35.599 learning new skills and not letting your ego get in 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:39.560 the way of you evolving, because if you think about it, 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:46.520 if you cannot embrace change like within other people, within 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:51.600 a situation, within yourself, you will never be able to evolve. 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:56.760 And as humans, we need to be evolving, like we 0:05:56.880 --> 0:06:01.000 need to be going forward. And so for example, and 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:06.080 this is actually something I notice in employees. So how 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:09.040 I know if an employee is going to be quite 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:13.839 successful in their career is how much change they can embrace. 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.720 So like how adaptable you are to your surroundings. 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:22.960 Yeah, if an employee gets stressed out really easy, they 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:26.159 can't deal with like me changing a deadline or you know, 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:29.080 like a topic or you know, like in this situation, 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:32.880 like so I get it, so you do it well 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:37.039 or like you know, something like that stresses them out. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:42.680 I straight away get like, oh, very interesting, because if 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:46.360 you can't embrace and like obviously use your discernment here. 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.440 If I'm constantly changing deadlines, you're allowed to pull me up, 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:51.400 Like that's what That's what I'm not saying because I've 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:54.760 done that, But I'm just saying if someone gets stressed 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:58.080 out very easy because something changes and they can't adapt 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:00.480 to me, that's a bit of a red flag straight 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:03.560 away because I'm like, oh, you can't deal with change, 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:07.760 And if you can't deal with change externally, You're not 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:10.280 going to be able to deal with change internally, and 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:14.760 that's how you evolve and that's how you're going to succeed. Guys, 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:17.720 my mouth is on the floor. I've never thought about 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:21.160 it like that. Yeah, you like, do you see from 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:24.440 your subconscious it's kind of like a shadow work lens 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:27.480 of you can't deal with change, so you're never going 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:32.560 to be able to allow yourself to change. And that's 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:37.400 even something like, notice how judgmental you are to other 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:41.760 people if they change, if they change careers, if they 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:45.120 you know, even I remember there was such this story 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:48.680 of like, oh, she keeps changing her degree, like she 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:50.760 just can't stick to a degree, you know, and like 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.360 they'd say that about like their unifriends as well. Yeah, 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:55.360 and I'd be like, so interesting, Like why are you 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:56.840 upset about that? Yeah? 0:07:56.840 --> 0:07:58.080 Why how is it affecting you? 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:01.080 And that's because they probably have a lot of beliefs 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:04.360 around I can't change. I have to be one person 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:06.960 and I have to follow this direct line and I 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:07.760 cannot change. 0:08:08.160 --> 0:08:10.960 And do you think that comes from almost feeling shame 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:15.360 if you do change? Yeah, or like quote unquote give 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:16.720 up on something. 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.440 Yeah, like almost like this mentality of like I must 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:22.000 see this to the end, and I think, I think 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:26.520 there's good things about that mentality. But I've just noticed 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:30.160 even in myself, I had a great reflection at the 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:34.120 start of the year, is I actually stopped my evolution 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:38.600 in regards to when I had IVY because I couldn't 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:42.320 adapt to my new self. And that's what like the 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:46.400 whole rebirth course was about, is adapting to your new self. 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:52.000 And I had a lot of issues around that because 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:54.880 of how like kind of like not said in my ways, 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:59.880 but how logically I saw evolution and how I wasn't 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:03.319 able to adapt to my new self because it wasn't 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:07.960 what I thought right, And so I stopped my own. 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:12.600 Growth because you almost boxed yourself into I'm evolving, but 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:13.160 it's this. 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:15.520 Way, yeah, and it can only be this way, and 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:18.000 that it only makes sense to me if it's this way. 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:19.720 And what shifted for you? 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:24.040 I guess we'll like doing the identity work around not 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:26.800 having to be in that box and not having to 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:30.840 have limitations. And I think like the way that you 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:33.600 can strengthen this side of yourself, like bringing it back 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:37.200 to the main question of being able to deal with 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:40.199 change and being able to be a beginner. And I'll 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.400 get to the beginner side in a second. But in 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:47.440 regards to being able to deal with change, is I 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:53.120 guess like strengthening that is well, it's it's like our 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.199 life happens for me a tia like we queens have 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:59.400 been able to deal with change because we have actually 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:03.439 ref to our mindset that when ship doesn't go our way, 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:05.880 we actually go, oh no, this is happening for me. 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:11.320 Yeah, And you know when I realized how strong that 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.600 is in us. He always know this. But Cooper broke 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:19.280 his arm. This is a weird story, but he broke 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:21.240 his arm and he was supposed to go on his 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:24.040 spear fishing trip. And when he came in and told Jamie, 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:26.600 Georgina and I that he broke his arm, we were like, oh, well, 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:29.120 obviously maybe something was bad was going to happen on 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:30.800 the spear fishing trip, so you broke your arm so 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:33.640 that nothing bad happened. And we were like, gosh, we're 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:37.000 like really positive. Most people would just be sad that 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:39.280 they broke their arm and couldn't go on their holiday. 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:43.640 Was he like responsible to that? I remember, No, I 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:44.720 think he agreed. 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:47.360 He was just upset his arm was broken, but yeah, 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:49.800 he was just like, yeah, it probably is, like that's 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:52.880 like what he definitely agreed with it. But it was 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:56.600 just like interesting to see how quickly our minds went 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:59.480 there instead of ever thinking, oh, just sucks, you can't 0:10:59.520 --> 0:10:59.960 go on your hold. 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:02.800 Yes, And that's what I mean, Like, this is going 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:05.679 to be such a huge tool for you if you 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:09.800 can embrace change, because like a lot of people, something 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:14.319 happens and they sit in a low frequency for days, weeks, 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.000 and then what happens is you're sitting in a low 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:20.840 frequency and you attract more low frequency things. So if 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:24.800 you can be able to embrace change and actually be 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:27.920 like cool, this actually might be happening for me, or 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.760 even just like a neutral state of like cool, I'm 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:32.440 not going to let this be the end of the world. 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:36.040 It's like something Brookie was saying when we did our 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:41.760 end Hah retreat. She's like, my favorite thing with the 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:48.640 team is like we don't cry anymore when something goes wrong, because, 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:50.800 like you know, right at the start, especially when you're 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:54.360 first starting a business, it can feel like if like 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:55.880 one thing happens and it can. 0:11:55.800 --> 0:11:58.319 Just feel like the end of the world, like your 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.600 bad it doesn't change in the right or. 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:03.959 Yeah, like something happens, and like I do remember there 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:06.520 was quite a few times we'd have a lot of 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.760 people crying in the office or just like you know, 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:11.560 feeling stressed, and then because they're feeling stressed, you're feeling stressed, 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:14.880 and it just creates this whole atmosphere. Whereas we've shifted 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:18.040 our whole perspective now and like I've evolved how I 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.360 do things, and the team has evolved how they do things, 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:24.400 and like something happens, and Brookie straight away she's like, cool, 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:26.760 well the solution, we can do this, this and this, 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:27.560 what do you want to do? 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:27.800 Gee? 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:30.679 And I'm like, cool, well let's do this amazing and 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:33.840 we just move forward. We embrace it. Whereas if you're 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:36.080 that person that like goes to your boss and you're like, 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:38.280 oh my god, this thing's happen. It's the worst fucking 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:41.960 thing and you're stressed, I guarantee your boss is going 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:48.240 to be like red flags. I feel like we've been there. Yeah, look, 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.600 I've been that. I've been that person. And that's what 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:53.920 I mean is like I can truly see, like the 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:57.520 rate at how successful someone is going to be by 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:02.440 the way that they can embrace and hold change, because 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:06.200 if you think about it, it's just holding an uncomfortable feeling. 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:10.480 That's so true, and in your life to succeed, to 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:13.400 go to that next level, you are going to have 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.319 to go through uncomfortable feelings. You're going to have to 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.679 go through uncomfortable stages. So the people that I can 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:23.640 see that can actually hold that and stay true to 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:26.520 who they are and stable to who they are are 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:30.200 obviously going to be able to combat more, get through more, 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:33.240 get through more levels. And so that's why I truly believe. 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:36.720 It's like it's a skill, and the great thing is 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.280 it's a skill you can strengthen. So I think I 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:42.400 was going to this before that I jumped. But so 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:45.200 how you can do this is like bring it back 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:49.319 to little moments when things don't go your way and 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:53.400 being like, oh, how can I actually see the positive 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.800 or how can I sit in the feeling of this 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.560 being really uncomfortable but not freak out. 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:02.880 I so agree with that, and I think sometimes it 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:07.760 just because I definitely was someone like, especially through high school, 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:12.160 I got rattled so easily, Like if the tiniest thing 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:16.040 went wrong. It was end of the world and something 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:18.960 that helped me first before obviously being able to like 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:23.400 completely just let things flow and happen and just adapt. 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:26.160 I would just try to be unbothered like I would. 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:28.600 I just worked on that initial reaction of when something 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:31.400 goes wrong, what do I do? And I think if 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:34.200 it like sometimes when you drive, and then I'll be 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:35.800 the best driver. So I don't know if everyone will 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:38.760 relate to this, but have you ever hit the curb 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:39.480 a little bit? 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:40.400 I definitely haven't. 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:42.800 Yeah, So it's like it comes down to whether you 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:44.920 hit the curb and you're like, oh my god, pull over, 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.440 check the car, blah blah blah, or like you just 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:49.840 roll over the curb and like okay, cool and then 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:51.160 carry on driving. 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:58.960 My god, love that example. It's so true. I've never 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:01.480 got an ad Oh we'll deal with I'll deal with 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:03.640 it when I stopped. Well, that's even Like me and 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:08.520 Cooper spoke at a conference the other day, and it's 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.000 really interesting because I hadn't really done a public speaking 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:14.360 thing to that extent, especially in between in front of 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:16.960 like a whole room of professionals, and it was really 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:19.160 cooled that n H got invited, and we were talking 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:23.040 about our sustainability journey and also just like how we 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.800 really lean into our community and our social activations to 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:30.120 drive the brand. So it was a topic that I absolutely, 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:32.520 you know, loved and wanted to chat about. But I 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:37.440 did notice, like Cooper was quite nervous, and I noticed 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:43.280 in myself this feeling of being nervous. But also, you know, 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:46.840 I had the questions. I had prepared the questions, and 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:50.760 then I noticed this part of myself who literally like 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:54.680 kind of said to myself, I prepared. I'm here because 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.560 you know, n H deserves to be here. You know, 0:15:57.600 --> 0:15:59.200 we have it, we have a spot at the table, 0:15:59.560 --> 0:16:02.400 we have some stuff that people would want to know, 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:07.240 and so I choose to be unbothered, like and I 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:10.920 noticed though that being a choice yeah, and being like, oh, like, 0:16:11.120 --> 0:16:15.040 worst case scenario, I stuff up, something happens, but I've 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:18.840 literally done all I can. I prepared. There's like there's 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:21.320 not much more I can do. So it's like whatever 0:16:21.520 --> 0:16:24.560 happens is going to happen, and I can't really change 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:27.040 it either way. So I most will sit in this 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:28.320 feeling of like cool. 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:31.640 I'm chill, And do you think sometimes that feeling of 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:33.920 not being able to handle the change or on comfort 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:35.440 comes from under preparing. 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:40.720 Yeah, I also think it comes from a choice. And 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:43.840 that's the thing is if there is truth to you 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:48.560 feeling nervous, yeah, maybe you have underprepared. And in saying that, 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:51.480 like I didn't, It's not like I was preparing for weeks. 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:53.400 I wrote it in my notes, I said it a 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:58.200 couple of times, and that's me preparing it pretty well, 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:03.040 sounds good, So a hundred percent bit like I did 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:05.240 notice even that thought in my mind of like, oh, 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:07.560 maybe I should like practice a bit more, and I 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:10.399 just went, no, yeah, I'm not doing I'm not leaning 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:13.080 into that story. And I guess that's what I'm trying 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:15.879 to say is a lot of people they think they 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:18.679 don't have that awareness and they think they don't have 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:22.000 that choice, but you actually do. You just have to 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:25.840 be a bit more aware and conscious before that feeling 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:29.320 takes over. And obviously that does come with practice. Yeah, 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:31.720 And that's what I mean. It's like, you know, when 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:33.680 you go to the gym and you work out, you're 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:36.480 not straight away a fit person. You have to do practice 0:17:36.480 --> 0:17:38.800 and then you're a fit person. And obviously I have 0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:41.879 done quite a bit of public speaking. I speak on 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:46.159 a podcast, so it would come more easier to me 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:49.520 because I have practice and I've strengthened that side of myself. 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:51.960 But I did notice it's still a choice I have 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.159 to make. Yeah, And I think a lot of people 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:57.960 just think, oh, well, she's just naturally gifted or she's 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:01.760 just naturally chill. I was very much like you a tear, 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:05.480 Like things would happen and I would have fucking meltdown. Yeah, 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:07.600 Like even how I said, like at the start of 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:09.400 n H, like the whole team would have a meltdown 0:18:09.440 --> 0:18:14.760 and cry and don't laugh and we just and now 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:16.960 we just don't do it, Like I just refuse to 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:21.000 feed into the story. And also I like, I just 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:23.919 truly believe that you can be transparent and everything's going 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:24.520 to be okay. 0:18:24.880 --> 0:18:25.440 I agree. 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:28.640 So I just I'm like, why what, like why worry? 0:18:28.720 --> 0:18:29.679 Why feed into that? 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:34.320 I think something that you actually just said sparked a 0:18:34.320 --> 0:18:37.520 little aha moment for me in that I feel like 0:18:37.680 --> 0:18:41.840 sometimes people freak out because society feeds that, and it's 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:47.879 almost quote unquote cool like to be able to talk, like, 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:49.840 for example, just like a work one if you have 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:52.119 a job that you're super passionate about and you like 0:18:52.240 --> 0:18:55.240 have meltdowns when things go wrong. A lot of people 0:18:55.280 --> 0:18:57.320 will validate that and be like, oh, it's all good, 0:18:57.359 --> 0:19:00.800 You're just crying because you care. Yeah, And it then 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:03.360 feeds that. It feeds that for you because I used 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:05.080 to think, oh my gosh, I'm crying because I care. 0:19:05.119 --> 0:19:07.800 I'm just passionate about what I do. It's fine to care, 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:11.119 like I need to just let my emotions happen. But 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:13.920 there's also a line of like, am I crying because 0:19:13.960 --> 0:19:18.640 I care? Or am I crying because I can't self regulate? Wow? 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:21.240 Yeaes and like you can have a job and be 0:19:21.320 --> 0:19:24.000 passionate and not cry when something goes wrong. 0:19:24.880 --> 0:19:27.080 That's such a great point in to Yeah, and I 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:29.920 think that comes in like that comes in a lot 0:19:29.920 --> 0:19:33.399 of self responsibility. Yeah, And that's like it's something you 0:19:33.480 --> 0:19:35.800 might need to kind of check in with yourself because 0:19:35.840 --> 0:19:39.560 also this is probably getting a bit too deep. But 0:19:40.280 --> 0:19:43.159 a lot of the time that person would be getting 0:19:43.240 --> 0:19:47.239 secondhand gain from doing that, so yeah, you know, they 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:49.640 would be getting well, I cry and then my partner's 0:19:49.680 --> 0:19:50.480 like quite nice to. 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:54.760 Me, and everyone's like, oh, it's okay, or even. 0:19:54.640 --> 0:19:57.200 In an employee's sense because oh my god, this so happened. 0:19:57.560 --> 0:20:00.520 If you know someone is like they can't ill stress, 0:20:00.600 --> 0:20:03.800 or that they're quite sensitive, maybe their workload isn't as big, 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:07.399 and people purposely don't give them work or purposely is like, 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:10.400 don't tell this person. They're gonna freak out. Like I've 0:20:10.400 --> 0:20:12.760 actually I've done that with employees, be like, oh my god, 0:20:12.840 --> 0:20:15.240 fucking let's sort it out together. Don't tell this person 0:20:15.280 --> 0:20:18.360 because they can't deal with it. And so even that person, 0:20:18.480 --> 0:20:21.440 they might even be feeding into that because they get 0:20:21.480 --> 0:20:25.760 secondhand gain. They get people like walking on eggshells around them, 0:20:25.960 --> 0:20:27.760 and that's too careful with how they ask them to 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:34.120 do things. Yes, yes, so again that's take some responsibility there. Yeah, 0:20:34.160 --> 0:20:36.880 and obviously you know the people around you. Just check 0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:40.280 in if they're feeding into the positive story or if 0:20:40.280 --> 0:20:44.000 they're feeding into the negative story. But I truly like 0:20:44.320 --> 0:20:47.159 coming back to it though, I truly believe if you 0:20:47.200 --> 0:20:52.840 can learn how to embrace change and actually thrive of change, 0:20:53.480 --> 0:20:56.680 holy shit, you're going to be such a solid human 0:20:56.760 --> 0:21:00.720 That is going to lead to so just so many 0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:03.800 up levels. And I, yeah, I just I think that's 0:21:05.040 --> 0:21:08.159 just such a thing that people don't talk about and 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:13.240 then also just to feedback into our original topic, let's 0:21:13.280 --> 0:21:17.479 give them some tips. So I am just such a 0:21:17.840 --> 0:21:23.920 big believer that you should always be okay with being 0:21:24.080 --> 0:21:26.879 a beginner. And I just think you can miss so 0:21:27.000 --> 0:21:29.680 much if you And this is like, this is a 0:21:29.800 --> 0:21:33.639 very ego thing, but it's like if you refuse to 0:21:34.119 --> 0:21:37.159 get taught something, or you refuse to kind of like 0:21:37.240 --> 0:21:39.760 go to the quote unquote bottom because you're used to 0:21:39.840 --> 0:21:43.440 being in a certain area of your employment or your 0:21:43.440 --> 0:21:46.320 small business or your business or your company or I 0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:50.439 know whatever. Yeah, it's like you're going to miss so much. 0:21:50.520 --> 0:21:54.200 And that's even like something that I love is at 0:21:54.240 --> 0:21:57.640 our end Hatred Retreat, we were doing our values and 0:21:57.720 --> 0:22:01.119 someone said, what I love about our team is there's 0:22:01.359 --> 0:22:05.480 no job small enough that someone won't come in and help. 0:22:05.560 --> 0:22:07.919 So it's like, for example, if shit's going down in 0:22:07.960 --> 0:22:11.440 customer service, you know Alex who's like head of logistics, 0:22:11.480 --> 0:22:12.840 it is like Brookie, what do you need? I can 0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:16.439 jump in and like no one's above anyone else, and 0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:18.960 we're all ready to like you know, get in there 0:22:19.080 --> 0:22:21.720 and help someone else. And I think it's just such 0:22:21.720 --> 0:22:25.520 an amazing skill. And again It's like, if you refuse 0:22:25.640 --> 0:22:28.480 to go back to being a beginner and learning and 0:22:28.960 --> 0:22:33.480 basically embracing change, you are not going to be able 0:22:33.760 --> 0:22:38.439 to evolve in yourself because you've basically told yourself, no, 0:22:38.520 --> 0:22:41.160 we don't need to learn that we're perfect as we are. 0:22:41.600 --> 0:22:44.000