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Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present

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Speaker 1: and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and

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Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,

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Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is

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Speaker 1: the podcast where we have mindset, self development and becoming

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Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,

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Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses

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Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo

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Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No

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Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, we're here to

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Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical

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Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's

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Speaker 1: seat of your own life, stop letting life pass you by,

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Speaker 1: then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, and welcome

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Speaker 1: back to the RONC Potty. Firstly, I apologize for my voice.

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Speaker 1: I have been on well, but luckily we have pre

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Speaker 1: like this. But today we are talking about how to

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Speaker 1: noticed a reoccurring theme in our community of people wanting

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Speaker 1: again and wondering if they are doing things too late.

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Speaker 1: So in this episode we unpack it all. We really

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Speaker 1: get into what it could feel like to start again,

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Speaker 1: embracing change, and how important it is really to embrace

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Speaker 1: change for your success. But before we get into the episode,

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Speaker 1: A Tia, do you have any weekly recommendations for us? Yes,

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Speaker 1: mine's pilates. You can't take my recommendation, you know what

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Speaker 1: I've been doing polite, I know, but it's so fun

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Speaker 1: and it's just it's so feminine. Let's just like Coke

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Speaker 2: This recommendation, our joint recommendation. Literally, I just feel like

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Speaker 1: And the music's always really relaxing too. I feel the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I love it. Because I genuinely get excited

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Speaker 2: for it as opposed to like weight training. I'll go

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Speaker 2: but it's like pilates, I feel good before.

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Speaker 2: free Living Polaratei studio, and if you are looking to

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Speaker 1: Yay. Free Living is amazing guys, if you're in that area,

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Speaker 2: And what popular link in the show notes for you?

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Speaker 1: Amazing? Well, should we get into the episode, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: your rights notes for apisodes, and I read them. I'll

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Speaker 1: into it. So I just think this is such a

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Speaker 1: We build character, we build our skills. We strengthen our

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Speaker 1: and that has helped us so much. So again, get

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Speaker 1: into your world for a reason. These things are happening

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Speaker 1: It's trying to evolve you, and you need to start

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Speaker 1: Or It's a great example for me is you know,

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Speaker 1: What didn't? How can we move forward? And we have

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Speaker 1: check myself because at the start I noticed I was like,

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Speaker 1: we're not corporate, we don't do things that way. Like

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Speaker 1: I wasn't. I wasn't saying that to him, but I

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Speaker 1: be like, are you just in your ego? Because also

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Speaker 1: we can be a company that's not quote unquote corporate,

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Speaker 1: but we can have some really great systems and practices.

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Speaker 1: And that's what I mean. It's like I had to

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Speaker 1: they matter. And I asked him for help and he

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Speaker 1: oh my god, yes, let me teach you. Because I

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Speaker 1: And I think people are really responsive when you put

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Speaker 1: ask for direction, because people actually love helping. People generally

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Speaker 2: I love that you said that, because I think that

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Speaker 2: that is one of the biggest things that people struggle

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Speaker 2: for help because you do have to get out of

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Speaker 2: your ego. But if you think about it, that is

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Speaker 2: the best way to get things done. Like, for example,

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Speaker 2: are struggling because obviously something you find interesting is like

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Speaker 2: you do lose that secondhand gain from everything you quote

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Speaker 2: unquote put into the job prior, like that doesn't necessarily

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Speaker 2: get carried over to the new business and you're having

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Speaker 2: to prove yourself again. And I think people go into

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Speaker 2: everything right. I can't ask questions, I can't ask for help.

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Speaker 2: I really want to impress people. And what's impressive is

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Speaker 2: actually being vulnerable and saying, hey, no idea what your

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Speaker 2: business's processes are? Could we take half an hour an

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Speaker 2: hour to so you can run me through it, and

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Speaker 2: don't be scared to ask a million and one questions

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Speaker 2: when you first start something, because it just makes you

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Speaker 2: that much better, that much faster, rather than like trying

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Speaker 2: to be impressive and then getting three months in and

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Speaker 2: going like, I actually have no idea what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Because yes, I love that. And that's also like something

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Speaker 1: we really encourage in both businesses as like anything you

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Speaker 1: want to know, need to know, Like let's communicate and

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Speaker 1: let's talk about that. Don't just like pretend you know

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Speaker 1: and then like not do good work. Yeah, right, Like

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Speaker 1: that's the silliest thing ever. So I love that you

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Speaker 1: touched on that. But guys, I hope you have absolutely

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Speaker 1: loved this episode. A bit of a riff, but it

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Speaker 1: was so good. And guys, make sure you come and

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Speaker 1: jump in our Facebook group because that's where we chat

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Speaker 1: about all this stuff. And yeah, come and join us.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of

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Speaker 1: the Rise and Conker podcast. If you enjoyed it and

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