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Speaker 1: You're listening to the Jonesy and Demanda podcast, you know,

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Speaker 1: we're just talking about Valentine's Day. And for those of

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Speaker 1: you that are new to this show, you may not

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Speaker 1: know that my husband has a neurological disorder. He's got

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Speaker 1: like a form of Parkinson's and he's had it for

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Speaker 1: a number of years now, and it's really hard that

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Speaker 1: he's always been a giant brainiac and not only does

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Speaker 1: this stuff affect you physically, but neurologically as well. And

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Speaker 1: so I've learned that sometimes those big events like birthdays,

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day, anniversaries, our easy banter, our easy chat, our

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Speaker 1: easy being with each other isn't as easy. He's still

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Speaker 1: highly but it's sometimes those it's the ease of the

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Speaker 1: chat isn't always there. And so I've learned not to

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Speaker 1: get upset when they're big days and I don't get

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Speaker 1: back what I want, if you know what I mean emotionally,

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Speaker 1: I'm talking sure about here. And so on Valentine's Day

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Speaker 1: in the morning, I I wrote him a car and

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Speaker 1: I said Happy Valentine's Day, and he said Happy Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 1: And then for some reason I said, yes, it's valid.

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Speaker 1: I just you know, I couldn't help myself. Valentine's Day

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Speaker 1: and I looked at me in the face, said you

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Speaker 1: know what I'm telling you is VALENTI And he said, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Happy Valentine's Day. But we've been married for this will

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Speaker 1: be our thirty sixth wedding anniversary. So we've been had

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Speaker 1: thirty six Valentine's Days. And it's so hard as you

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Speaker 1: can imagine to see the person you love not be

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Speaker 1: as able as they used to be. Sure, it's so hard.

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Speaker 1: But I went for a walk with a dog and

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Speaker 1: I came home and there were some beautiful flowers on

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Speaker 1: the kitchen bench and he obviously got someone to help

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Speaker 1: him with that, and his handwriting is so scrawling now,

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Speaker 1: but it's a little card that said, please be my

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Speaker 1: Valentine's forever. And I just thought, when we're just talking

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Speaker 1: about the effort, is the effort worth? You know, it's

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Speaker 1: the effort more than than the thought. Any effort from

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Speaker 1: him like that just means so much to me. It's

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Speaker 1: a big deal. And I showed it to our sons

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Speaker 1: to say, look, look how amazing your dad is. In

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Speaker 1: the midst of all of this, he knew that that

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Speaker 1: would matter to me, and that's why he did that.

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Speaker 1: So you know, you you do hold on to that

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Speaker 1: previous chorus that she's just a husband, and that really

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Speaker 1: that did you run home? Didn't? Yeah? Absolutely, don't sweat

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Speaker 1: the small stuff. It is the gesture though, well but

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Speaker 1: it is. It is the gesture, but the thought behind it.

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Speaker 1: He knew that mattered to me, of course, and so

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Speaker 1: he went out of his way to do that, and

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Speaker 1: I'm very very grateful. It was lovely great, Yeah,