WEBVTT - The Ick

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<v Speaker 1>Bring me a good old Britney special. What's that? Actually?

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<v Speaker 1>What's a Britney special? Just a good solid love? I

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<v Speaker 1>mean you know that's gonna come alrighty, Hi guys, and

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<v Speaker 1>welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. Sorry that

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<v Speaker 1>we couldn't make it last week. Have we missed out?

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<v Speaker 1>Askar and cut special. I'm gonna straight up blame Laura. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>well yeah, okay, I'm actually I'm gonna take that back.

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<v Speaker 1>I was mean, I am gonna blame Laura. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>good taking it back there, fort that was solid. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna blame Laura. Let me finish my sentence. Gonna

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<v Speaker 1>blame Laura. But I'm not gonna pretend I wasn't slightly

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<v Speaker 1>relieved because I was the most I have ever been.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you pulled the pin, I was like, it's okay, Han,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll make it work. And I was like, hallelujah. You

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<v Speaker 1>were like, oh that's yeah. Yeah, you have been sick.

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<v Speaker 1>We shouldn't do it. Don't push yourself, really, you just

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<v Speaker 1>take care of yourself, babe. Now I understand where it

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<v Speaker 1>really came from. Honestly, I mean I would have done

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<v Speaker 1>it obviously, because I'm a team player, but I was

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<v Speaker 1>relieved for sure. Well, guys, you know that we hate

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<v Speaker 1>missing an episode, but sometimes life gets in the way,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why we're bringing you a cracker episode today.

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<v Speaker 1>Dun dun du. But you were crook right. You had

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<v Speaker 1>the flu? Yes, I complained about it on the last episode,

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<v Speaker 1>or complained about it on this episode. I had a

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<v Speaker 1>flu or a cold or something that was just hanging around. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it just wasn't a fun week. And then on the

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<v Speaker 1>weekend it was Marley's birthday. Yes, she's one, which I'm

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<v Speaker 1>mind won't. This has been the longest and also the

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<v Speaker 1>shortest year of my entire life. It's wild to me

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<v Speaker 1>that she's won. But also I feel like I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>slept for an entire year. I don't think you. I

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<v Speaker 1>just can't believe because I remember when we started the podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>she was in your belly and we were talking about, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we only have a few months before she pops, And

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<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden, it's her first birthday, she's going

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<v Speaker 1>off to college, she's got a boyfriend on them The

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<v Speaker 1>other day, it was really awkward, did you too, I

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<v Speaker 1>did see her like cuddling up to another little toddler. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that was a cousin, my cousin oh on Instagram. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was her cousin. I actually used to have like

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<v Speaker 1>a love affair with my cousin when I was one,

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<v Speaker 1>two three. We were I'm so glad that you like

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<v Speaker 1>put in there the age. Oh, it was a really

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<v Speaker 1>great love affair with my cousin when I was thirteen,

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<v Speaker 1>and that was very formative. But you watched them, You

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<v Speaker 1>watch them. Cut that sentence and be a headline sound

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<v Speaker 1>by Brittany has awkward relationship with cousins, Thank you Daily Mail. No,

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<v Speaker 1>but we he was my cousins and we were with

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<v Speaker 1>the same age. We were very, very very little, but

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<v Speaker 1>we just loved each other. We used to hold hands

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<v Speaker 1>and like leaning, like you know when you're a meter

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<v Speaker 1>of part, used to leave in and like peck on

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<v Speaker 1>the lips and stuff. We have photos like that. I'm like, MoMA,

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<v Speaker 1>why did you? Why did you allow this to happen?

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<v Speaker 1>Like this is like this is added to my adult

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<v Speaker 1>trauma and I'm still living through. This is the reason

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<v Speaker 1>why a boy friend I've been in love with my cousin.

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<v Speaker 1>Sh It's getting really weird really quick. On this podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>I can guarantee so many of you listening right now

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<v Speaker 1>have loved what you've loved a cousin or something for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>That's fine because it's innocent. Oh wow, can only go

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<v Speaker 1>up from here? Guys? What else have you done? Well? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I're gonna sit on Marley's birthday for a little while

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<v Speaker 1>because it was like it was a really big milestone,

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<v Speaker 1>but I am more of a milestone for me. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>She's definitely not going to remember her birthday, but I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the year. This is the day that my

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<v Speaker 1>entire life changed and will never ever go back to

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<v Speaker 1>what it was. Well, first birthdays they're more for the parents,

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<v Speaker 1>aren't they. They're more for the adults to celebrate, do

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<v Speaker 1>you think, Yeah, it's like I am celebrating the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that I am actually a responsible adult and kept a

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<v Speaker 1>whole other human alive for an entire year. Like that

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<v Speaker 1>shit is worth celebrating. Yeah, right, with many Rose's Thank

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<v Speaker 1>god Nana was there to be the responsible adult for

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<v Speaker 1>the day. How is your weekend? Oh my, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>going to straight up complain. I am so exhausted. I

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<v Speaker 1>have had the biggest work week of my entire life.

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<v Speaker 1>I went to work at six am and I came

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<v Speaker 1>home two days later and it's it's just been nuts.

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<v Speaker 1>My saving grace is that I was doing it with

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<v Speaker 1>my sister. We were on the same shifts together. But

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<v Speaker 1>the hospital has been mental and I just haven't felt

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<v Speaker 1>this fatigued in a really long time. And I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>a complainer, guys. I'm always a hard worker. That's fine,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is the next level. I just went to sleep.

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<v Speaker 1>I sat on my bed right to meet Laura. I

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<v Speaker 1>sat on my bed. I don't remember closing my eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>It was twenty minutes. I was drawling. I was pasted

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<v Speaker 1>out cold. Then I get a message from Laura being like, hey, babes,

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<v Speaker 1>like you coming up And I was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like crazy, that's my face, wiped the drawl off,

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<v Speaker 1>ran up here. But other than that, like that's literally

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<v Speaker 1>what I did. What didn't help is before I knew

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<v Speaker 1>these mannic shifts were coming, a friend of mine was like,

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<v Speaker 1>come and meet me for a drink. I was like, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>but I have the biggest week of my life ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go for one drink and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to be home early. That went to about midnight. I

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<v Speaker 1>got home at midnight. I'm in my new apartment. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in my bathroom with the window closed, and I hear

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<v Speaker 1>someone say, Brittany, Now this is frosted glass. You can't

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<v Speaker 1>see into my window. Wait, you're in the bathroom. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in my bathroom. Are you in the shower? No, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in the mirror about to take my makeup off. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not in the mirror. I'm looking in the mirror next

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<v Speaker 1>to the window, windows, frosted glass, the lights on, and

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<v Speaker 1>I hear this Brittany. I was like, what lift the window.

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<v Speaker 1>I pulled my head out and there's a full blown

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<v Speaker 1>party next door and I'm looking at these people with

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<v Speaker 1>the lights in my eyes so I can't identify them.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, did you just call my name?

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<v Speaker 1>And they're like, I knows your name, Brittany, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like yeah. They're like, oh, get fucked. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, well, no, like you know that because you

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<v Speaker 1>just said my name. And they're like, we actually didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>We just saw a shadow. We just picked it. We

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<v Speaker 1>literally picked a name out of thin air. They swear

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<v Speaker 1>to God that they just picked a random name and

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<v Speaker 1>said Brittany. And I was like, oh, well that's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my name, and they're like, you want to come over?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like sure, So I went back downstairs

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<v Speaker 1>and just went over to his party. They're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll meet you out the front. Because I'm really big

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<v Speaker 1>on being like sometimes the best things come from saying yes. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>That was a huge per se. So I walked down

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<v Speaker 1>to this party. Now, because they're bright party lights in

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<v Speaker 1>my eyes, I couldn't see who I was talking to.

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<v Speaker 1>But there were a bunch that were like seven guys

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<v Speaker 1>a few chicks, and I was like, what's the worst

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<v Speaker 1>that could happen. I'll go to this party or make

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<v Speaker 1>some new friends. This is the middle of the night

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<v Speaker 1>as well, yes, correct midnight? Okay. Then I get down

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<v Speaker 1>to the party and the guy that meets me is me.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't. He had a lot of facial hair, he

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<v Speaker 1>was a bit drunk, he had a hat on. I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't really identify him or his age. Brittany ends up

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<v Speaker 1>a swingers party. No, that would have been like leave

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<v Speaker 1>your keys in the bowl right here and take your

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<v Speaker 1>pants off. Her swingers party would have been better. I

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<v Speaker 1>walked in and it is packed. This is a proper party.

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<v Speaker 1>They've got a DJ, there's probably sixty seventy people in

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<v Speaker 1>this huge house, and I'm like, this could be fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Get down the back and he's like, do you want

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<v Speaker 1>to drink? I was like, that'd be great. I'm standing

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<v Speaker 1>there in like a turtleneck. We all know I love turtlenecks.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm standing there in like a cashmere turtleneck. Oh my

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<v Speaker 1>gold jewelry. I had the most beautiful, expensive trench coat on.

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<v Speaker 1>He goes, what are you doing? Take your coat off?

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like before I came in the house. He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>take you caut of. I'm like, it's fine. I like

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<v Speaker 1>my coat. He's like, I'm gonna get you a drink.

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<v Speaker 1>And I start to look around the party. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I reckon the oldest person here. Oldest

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<v Speaker 1>was twenty one oldest, so I was like, these people

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<v Speaker 1>had to have been seventeen, eighteen nineteen. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I look like the mum that's come to check in

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<v Speaker 1>on the kids. I was like, oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>need to get out of here. I was like, but

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<v Speaker 1>he's getting me a drink, so I'll just wait. He comes,

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<v Speaker 1>he's like he pops his head back around the corner.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, hey, Babes is a beer fine, and I'm like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>just get me something quickly because I was just standing

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<v Speaker 1>there awkward. I was like, A bee's fine. I'm surprised

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't come out with like a cocksacking cowboy, like

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<v Speaker 1>a Buddy smurt Off black. He comes back and he's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we're actually all out of everything, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, it's probably time for me to go anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>I walked to the front door. He walked behind me,

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<v Speaker 1>tried to kiss me. I was like, God, this could

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<v Speaker 1>not get any worse. I just like ran, and now

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<v Speaker 1>they know where I live and that's the end of

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<v Speaker 1>my story. So anyway, sometimes saying yes he'sn't the best idea. Wow. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even know I was going to tell that

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<v Speaker 1>story twenty These are the crazy things that happened when

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<v Speaker 1>you're single and you live alone. And that thing never

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<v Speaker 1>gonna happen to me as far as I know. You'll

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<v Speaker 1>be the person that pokes your head out and he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>can you turn that deck? I thought like, I will

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<v Speaker 1>call the fucking police if you don't turn that music off. Honest,

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<v Speaker 1>stop calling for Brittany. I'm very angry at her right

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<v Speaker 1>now and then do you know something even funnier. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not funnier, it's weird. Like I woke up in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning, I had to go to work at five am.

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up and I was so mad. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't believe this party is still going. I could

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<v Speaker 1>hear the music still blaring. I was like, this is ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 1>I walk out into my living room and it was me.

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<v Speaker 1>The TV had turned itself on. I'm not kidding. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I have a ghost. The TV turned itself on,

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<v Speaker 1>put it onto an ABC music channel, and at full

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<v Speaker 1>ball was blaring music and it had gone all night.

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<v Speaker 1>So now my neighbors think I'm a party animal. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought it was the next door neighbors the whole time.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you have a ghost. I think that

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<v Speaker 1>you probably have a ruined TV from the time that

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<v Speaker 1>you flattered your apartment. But live and learn, baby, live

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<v Speaker 1>and learn. Oh it sounds like you for someone who's

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<v Speaker 1>worked so oh March this week, you have actually had

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<v Speaker 1>a very very eventful weekend. Yeah. Anyway, other than that, Oh, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I will tell you something. Oh dear God, it keeps coming.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh God, make it stop. Okay, so like, this really

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<v Speaker 1>shit thing happened. I went. I was feeling a bit like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna live on the edge, you know, parked in

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<v Speaker 1>a one hour park anywhere in Sydney, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>that's living on the edge. I had to go do

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<v Speaker 1>some errands. I was walking back to my car. I

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<v Speaker 1>knew I had been about one hour and six six

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<v Speaker 1>point five minutes. Oh really, I was with the devil.

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<v Speaker 1>I was dancing. I was like, oh my god, please

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<v Speaker 1>don't let me have a fine walked up to my car.

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<v Speaker 1>I could see it a little flap. I could see

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<v Speaker 1>it flapping in the wind. I was like, kill me,

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<v Speaker 1>walk up to it, pick it up two hundred and

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<v Speaker 1>twenty dollars for this six minutes over and I was

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<v Speaker 1>beside myself. I was like, I just you know, when

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<v Speaker 1>you're just so defeated. I was like, I just can't anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Went to unlock my car to get in. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>my car. What was I dig it? I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I was like big trope and the

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<v Speaker 1>door didn't open, and I had this. I looked back

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<v Speaker 1>down the ticket, looked at the red role on the car,

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<v Speaker 1>looked at the car, and I was like, hellelujah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not my car. I put this poor person's ticket on

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<v Speaker 1>and ran two cars up to my car that I

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<v Speaker 1>had no ticket. I was really on a roller coaster

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<v Speaker 1>with you. Then. Anyway, I got my emotions. There were

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of emotions in a really short period of time.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't really know what to do with it. But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of jealous that you can have such a

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<v Speaker 1>busy week and yet still so many things happened to you.

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<v Speaker 1>The most exciting thing that I've done in the last

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<v Speaker 1>week is that Matt and I opened a joint bank account.

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<v Speaker 1>Our first one was that after our episode. Yes, congratulations,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you guys, we're fully fledged adults. Now we parent

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<v Speaker 1>a child and we have a joint bank account. So

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<v Speaker 1>would you say you're official now? I would say that

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<v Speaker 1>we are a proper couple. You know, a child wasn't enough,

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<v Speaker 1>but having a joint bank account has really solidified our relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>But now you can see what each other buy. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a dangerous thing. Oh no, no, no, We're still going

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<v Speaker 1>to get our wages into our own bank account. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>be crazy before we get into accidentally unfiltered. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to tell the people what The episode is about,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, have you ever been in that situation where

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<v Speaker 1>you are smitten? All you can think about is this person.

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<v Speaker 1>All you want to do is see them and speak

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<v Speaker 1>to them and make out with them. And when you're

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<v Speaker 1>with them, you just want to roll all over them

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<v Speaker 1>and touch them and be affectionate and do everything with them.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're not with them, you're messaging them, you're sending

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<v Speaker 1>them carry your pigeons, you're talking to them constantly. Then

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<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden you find them repulsive. That's a

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<v Speaker 1>real bait and switch, there wasn't it. Well that Ladies

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<v Speaker 1>and Gentlemen has a really technical name, and it's called

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<v Speaker 1>the ick. Yes, and that's what we're going to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about today, the ick. But before we get into the ick,

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<v Speaker 1>we are going to give you our favorite part of

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<v Speaker 1>the episode. And you know what that is, Ladies and Gentlemen.

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<v Speaker 1>The one gentleman who listens to this podcast, I think

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<v Speaker 1>is twelve percent. Wait, have you actually looked at the

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<v Speaker 1>figures of our podcasts or is this just a brittany guest? No,

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<v Speaker 1>it is. You know, Hey, I'm on the back end.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the business end. Mate. We we got men, all right? Good?

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<v Speaker 1>So and men would listen to this podcast to try

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<v Speaker 1>and figure out what women want. Well they should. If

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<v Speaker 1>they're not there, go tell your boyfriends. Actually just on this.

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<v Speaker 1>We got a message today which was from somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>has been listening to the episodes, and she she wrote

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<v Speaker 1>it in as an accidentally unfiltered but it was more

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<v Speaker 1>about her fiance, and she says, today I discovered that

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<v Speaker 1>my fiance didn't know that women have two holes down there,

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<v Speaker 1>like he thought that we peed and he uses the

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<v Speaker 1>same holes. How many men he thought you peed and

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<v Speaker 1>had sex and did everything? Everything was just one hole.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a sexy pee baby making hole of magic. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god. How many men do you think are walking

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<v Speaker 1>around on planet Earth who don't realize that women have

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<v Speaker 1>two holes? Three holes? I actually mate one for the

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<v Speaker 1>number two's I thank god. I actually think more men

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<v Speaker 1>than not would think that. I think more men would

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<v Speaker 1>think there's that one hole. I have a feeling Matt

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<v Speaker 1>thought this when we first got together, because I remember

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<v Speaker 1>saying something to him and him looking confused but being like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know you're talking, no idea. Should we get him

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<v Speaker 1>in just to ask him? Yeah, I'm Matt, okay, coming

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<v Speaker 1>to my Matthew Johnson, thank you for this cameo. I've

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<v Speaker 1>just I've just pulled him out from the lounge room

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<v Speaker 1>into the bedroom. Matthew Johnson, how many holes do you

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<v Speaker 1>think a woman has? Twelve? No? Really how many? Some

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<v Speaker 1>have twelve?

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<v Speaker 2>Others have ten?

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<v Speaker 1>How many holes I used to between your legs? We're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about specific are you used to?

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<v Speaker 2>I used to think it was two.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was when we got together. You still

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<v Speaker 1>want it was two?

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<v Speaker 2>I when did we have that conversation?

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<v Speaker 1>I have this very vivid memory of talking about it

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<v Speaker 1>and you at one point being like yeah, no, like

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<v Speaker 1>I knew that you did.

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<v Speaker 2>For a lot of guys, it's a big mystery. I

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<v Speaker 2>remember in high school guys sitting there going how many

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<v Speaker 2>did you reckon?

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<v Speaker 1>I reckon seven?

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<v Speaker 2>How made you reckon? There's gotta be like one?

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<v Speaker 1>But don't you do sex ed like you literally do

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<v Speaker 1>a whole sex end class where you look at vaginas

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't you want to look at the vagina? And like,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you all talk about you? Don't you talk amongst

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<v Speaker 1>your friends as teenage boys being like I want to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure I'm really good at sex and I know

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<v Speaker 1>what to do when the moment happens, so you learn

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<v Speaker 1>about it or do you just wing it?

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<v Speaker 2>I think we had sex ed. I think it was

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<v Speaker 2>half an hour of learning what a condom was, and

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<v Speaker 2>that was it. There was nothing else. All my guy

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<v Speaker 2>mates in high school, we just had no idea.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, let's let's give you the benefit out and say

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<v Speaker 1>that you already knew when we got into a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>At what age do you think you were when you

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<v Speaker 1>realize that I don't piss out of my survex. When

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<v Speaker 1>did you realize that the whole hidden He still doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>know whether I had. I have no idea where it is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's there somewhere, God knows.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, ladies, for everyone who's listening to this, please

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<v Speaker 1>go home and ask your men or the man closest

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<v Speaker 1>to you, maybe it's your dad. Don't ask your dad.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to ask them how many holes do they

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<v Speaker 1>think a woman has? Because I don't think that this

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<v Speaker 1>listener is alone. I think that there are a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of men out there who have absolutely no clues.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I think I was. I can't say an age

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<v Speaker 2>otherwise it'll end.

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<v Speaker 1>Up in daily mail.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what question for you then? About the male anatomy

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<v Speaker 2>on average, how many sperm will be in a guy's ejaculation.

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<v Speaker 1>Two and twenty one thousands.

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<v Speaker 2>I have no idea.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll let me google it. Holy shit, holy shit, we

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<v Speaker 1>just googled it.

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<v Speaker 2>Googled it, and the answer is, on average, each time

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<v Speaker 2>a man ejaculates, he releases nearly one hundred million sperm.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, one hundred million. Thank you, doctor Google. That's all

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<v Speaker 1>a little swimmers. Anyways, Can I thank you for cameo? Matt?

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<v Speaker 1>Please go back to life dinner now? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, great, good chat, big shout outs. All the life

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<v Speaker 2>is out there. I hope you're having a great day.

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<v Speaker 2>I look forward to chatting you guys next time.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, bye. Maybe we should do an episode where

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<v Speaker 1>we get questions written in and from a man's perspective,

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<v Speaker 1>Matt can answer them. We'll interview him one day properly.

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<v Speaker 1>Because that was really rogue. Okay, well, look that idea

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<v Speaker 1>sounds great, But considering he submitted he didn't know how

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<v Speaker 1>many holes woman has, I don't know how great Math's

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<v Speaker 1>advice is going to be. Like, we're not saying that

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<v Speaker 1>you have to take his advice. I think it'd be

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<v Speaker 1>nice to hear things from man's perspective, So then we

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<v Speaker 1>can tell him how wrong he is. I think so too,

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<v Speaker 1>which is how we run our relationship. Anyway, we can

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<v Speaker 1>have a panel of men who don't know what they're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about. Actually one, don't we have two men, because

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<v Speaker 1>that way they might have different opinions. All right, let's

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<v Speaker 1>go to Accidentally Unfiltered. That was a rogue section. So

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<v Speaker 1>Accidentally Unfiltered. You know what this is. It is our

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<v Speaker 1>favorite section of the podcast. It is when you write

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<v Speaker 1>in your most embarrassing stories and we all laugh at

0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:54.280
<v Speaker 1>you anonymously, of course, but honestly we love it so

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<v Speaker 1>so much. We feel for you in your embarrassment, but

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<v Speaker 1>also we're here for you with the lulls. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>coming in hard and fast than the last week or two,

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<v Speaker 1>haven't they. Well last week we kind of put out

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<v Speaker 1>there that we were thinking about doing a whole Accidentally

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<v Speaker 1>Unfiltered episode and it was received gloriously. You all want one,

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<v Speaker 1>We will put one together. It's in the works, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>hit me with number one. Ahem. Okay, I love this

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<v Speaker 1>from multitude of reasons. She starts by saying, I make

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<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend listen when we're in the car, and he

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<v Speaker 1>laughs along and nods at your great advice too. He

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<v Speaker 1>actually really loves the show. I have an accidentally unfiltered

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<v Speaker 1>embarrassing moment for you, But I do have to admit

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<v Speaker 1>before I tell you, it took me a really long

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<v Speaker 1>time before I realized that all these stories weren't Britney's stories.

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<v Speaker 1>She thought every accent, she must have thought I was

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<v Speaker 1>a fuck god. She thought every single accidentally unfiltered was

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<v Speaker 1>from me. Why would you think that they're all from you?

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<v Speaker 1>When I tell half of them as, I'm so perplexed,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I know, guys, we've gone into a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>crazy shit in our lives. But I can tell you

0:18:55.760 --> 0:18:58.280
<v Speaker 1>that this is not all our crazy shit. Can you

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<v Speaker 1>imagine if they were all? I wonder? I've been single

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<v Speaker 1>ten years? Had some faith in me? Girl? Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>I finally got out to grab a coffee this morning,

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<v Speaker 1>and as I was waiting, I noticed that the bristo

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<v Speaker 1>was really cute. I'm in a happy relationship, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not blind. It's a really small cafe, so he

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<v Speaker 1>took my order and then he said, hey, before you go,

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<v Speaker 1>can I grab your number? I laughed, and I was

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<v Speaker 1>so flattered, and I said, look, I'm really flattered, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, but I have a boyfriend and I'm really

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<v Speaker 1>happy with him. But it's really sweet. Thank you. He

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<v Speaker 1>laughed and replied, Oh no, it's for the coronavirus tracking,

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<v Speaker 1>so we can contact you with someone else here. I

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<v Speaker 1>was so embarrassed. I apologized and walked outside to wait

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<v Speaker 1>for the coffee there. But then I ended up in

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<v Speaker 1>my car all of a sudden, I drove home without

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<v Speaker 1>my coffee. Now I can never go back. She didn't

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<v Speaker 1>even take a coffee, that she has a boyfriend, and

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<v Speaker 1>she was still so embarrassed. Like, just I actually think

0:20:05.400 --> 0:20:08.359
<v Speaker 1>that's funny. Imagine imagine that happening. Imagine you'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry, I've got a boyfriend. He's like, what, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just for like a reservation. Like imagine, just like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh god, I love that so much. Do you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm gonna I'm gonna call it on this guy's ass.

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<v Speaker 1>I reckon he maybe had asked for your number, and

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<v Speaker 1>then that was his reaction to being rejected. Try and

0:20:22.440 --> 0:20:26.280
<v Speaker 1>think of it that way. That's super optimistic. But every place,

0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:29.200
<v Speaker 1>like every cafe and restaurant i've been to recently, I've

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<v Speaker 1>had to write my number down, So I think I

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<v Speaker 1>think it was just possibility there that this was misinterpreted,

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<v Speaker 1>and actually he thought you're a babe, and he's really

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<v Speaker 1>embarrassed and he's running around with his tail between his legs,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know what, girlfriend, you've still got it, even

0:20:42.520 --> 0:20:44.160
<v Speaker 1>though you've got a boyfriend, You've still got it. It's

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<v Speaker 1>actually one of my favorite ones we've had. All right, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so accidentally unfiltered number two. A few years ago, I

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<v Speaker 1>went on a family holiday with my parents to visit

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<v Speaker 1>my sister. One night, when I was out with my sister,

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<v Speaker 1>she took me to a gathering to meet some of

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<v Speaker 1>her friends. This is where I met a hot guy

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<v Speaker 1>and we headed off. With my sister's blessing, we agreed

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<v Speaker 1>to go on a date the following night. We watched

0:21:04.760 --> 0:21:07.480
<v Speaker 1>a movie at his and then we ended up sleeping together.

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<v Speaker 1>After we finished having sex, he walked outside, button naked

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<v Speaker 1>and sat on the veranda stairs to have a smoke.

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<v Speaker 1>Still naked. I walked out and went to sit down

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<v Speaker 1>next to him, but because it was dark, I didn't

0:21:19.320 --> 0:21:22.479
<v Speaker 1>realize that where I was going to sit wasn't actually

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<v Speaker 1>the stairs at the edge of the verandah. I fell

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<v Speaker 1>two meters to the concrete below onto a gas bottle.

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<v Speaker 1>I lay there, stark naked, bleeding from my back and

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<v Speaker 1>my arm, while the poor guy was screaming, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>this is actually like dangerous. Yeah it was, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of funny. Did she die? The guy is screaming

0:21:43.000 --> 0:21:45.920
<v Speaker 1>naked and comes raising down the stairs thinking his one

0:21:46.000 --> 0:21:53.000
<v Speaker 1>night stand is dead and she's naked. They're both dude.

0:21:53.359 --> 0:21:55.600
<v Speaker 1>After I managed to get my breath back, I asked

0:21:55.640 --> 0:21:57.320
<v Speaker 1>my clothes and for him to drive me back to

0:21:57.359 --> 0:22:00.000
<v Speaker 1>the hotel I was staying at. We've literally never spoken.

0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:04.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm actually concerned for the girl. I'm glad that she's

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<v Speaker 1>well enough to tell the tale. You can laugh at

0:22:06.480 --> 0:22:10.119
<v Speaker 1>herself and her own misfortune. Naked onto your back onto

0:22:10.160 --> 0:22:14.040
<v Speaker 1>a gas bottle, it could have exploded. Oh my god,

0:22:14.920 --> 0:22:21.080
<v Speaker 1>just imagine doing it now, imagine doing a cloth. Oh guys,

0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:23.280
<v Speaker 1>Maya are so brilliant. Thank you for running them in.

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<v Speaker 1>Please keep them coming. And I feel like every week

0:22:25.600 --> 0:22:28.199
<v Speaker 1>we read one, it triggers something in someone. Someone's like,

0:22:28.240 --> 0:22:29.879
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, that reminded me of mine. And you

0:22:29.920 --> 0:22:31.959
<v Speaker 1>write it in and that's what we want. Keep them

0:22:32.000 --> 0:22:34.040
<v Speaker 1>coming so we can keep bringing you the lull. First,

0:22:34.560 --> 0:22:39.119
<v Speaker 1>beautiful Brianny beautifully said, thank you, thank you so much.

0:22:39.840 --> 0:22:43.280
<v Speaker 1>Now let's get into the episode. Okay, So guys, this

0:22:43.359 --> 0:22:46.680
<v Speaker 1>episode we're talking about the ick. And it's that feeling

0:22:46.680 --> 0:22:48.560
<v Speaker 1>that I think most of you have had at some

0:22:48.600 --> 0:22:50.760
<v Speaker 1>point in your life. If you haven't had it yet,

0:22:50.840 --> 0:22:53.120
<v Speaker 1>you're really lucky. And I hope you don't get it.

0:22:53.400 --> 0:22:55.520
<v Speaker 1>I have had it, Laura, I know you've had it.

0:22:55.520 --> 0:22:57.480
<v Speaker 1>It is just that feeling that hits you like a

0:22:57.520 --> 0:23:00.159
<v Speaker 1>ton of bricks when you think you're in love and

0:23:00.320 --> 0:23:02.800
<v Speaker 1>last and you're in this amazing relationship and you can't

0:23:02.800 --> 0:23:05.800
<v Speaker 1>get enough of each other and then one day, Beam,

0:23:06.560 --> 0:23:10.000
<v Speaker 1>you just can't stand them anymore. I reckon so many

0:23:10.040 --> 0:23:12.520
<v Speaker 1>people have gone through this and that this is such

0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:16.320
<v Speaker 1>a relatable topic. But I just don't reckon that many

0:23:16.320 --> 0:23:19.240
<v Speaker 1>people know the name of it, or like haven't haven't

0:23:19.280 --> 0:23:21.840
<v Speaker 1>given it a title before, really technical name. But this

0:23:22.080 --> 0:23:25.400
<v Speaker 1>really technical name which has been coined is the ick.

0:23:25.640 --> 0:23:28.200
<v Speaker 1>And because we're being so incredibly technical with this name

0:23:28.200 --> 0:23:30.840
<v Speaker 1>and everything, I want to read you the definition of

0:23:30.880 --> 0:23:34.520
<v Speaker 1>the ick from somewhere, which is a very reliable source

0:23:34.560 --> 0:23:36.359
<v Speaker 1>where we get a lot of our information from, and

0:23:36.400 --> 0:23:38.520
<v Speaker 1>that is the Urban Dictionary. Oh, I thought you're gonna

0:23:38.520 --> 0:23:40.399
<v Speaker 1>say Daily Mail. You could be on the crips with

0:23:40.440 --> 0:23:43.160
<v Speaker 1>a guy or girl. Everything seems to be going fine,

0:23:43.359 --> 0:23:45.720
<v Speaker 1>you think you like them, but then you suddenly catch

0:23:45.800 --> 0:23:48.240
<v Speaker 1>the ick. From then on, you can't look at the

0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:50.960
<v Speaker 1>person in the same way. You just progressively get more

0:23:50.960 --> 0:23:53.639
<v Speaker 1>and more turned off by them, weirdly, and maybe for

0:23:53.680 --> 0:23:56.879
<v Speaker 1>no reason in particular, just grossed out by them. You'll

0:23:56.880 --> 0:23:59.960
<v Speaker 1>cringe at the thought of you and them together. Nothing

0:24:00.000 --> 0:24:01.919
<v Speaker 1>will be the same. You won't be able to do

0:24:01.960 --> 0:24:04.200
<v Speaker 1>it any longer, and eventually you're gonna have to cut

0:24:04.240 --> 0:24:08.720
<v Speaker 1>it off. This originated well they say it originated from

0:24:08.760 --> 0:24:11.520
<v Speaker 1>Love Island, courtesy of Olivia from Love Island, and I'm

0:24:11.560 --> 0:24:13.840
<v Speaker 1>guessing this is the American Love Island, so we haven't

0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:16.199
<v Speaker 1>really got access to it. But there was also an

0:24:16.240 --> 0:24:20.639
<v Speaker 1>episode in Friends that was the original Friends. There you go. Well,

0:24:20.680 --> 0:24:23.000
<v Speaker 1>it was when Monicaarden of you guys. I mean, we

0:24:23.040 --> 0:24:27.120
<v Speaker 1>all know that Laura prefers Seinfeld because she's a psychopath. Yeah,

0:24:27.160 --> 0:24:28.720
<v Speaker 1>we all know that. I've not actually seen the episode,

0:24:28.720 --> 0:24:30.280
<v Speaker 1>and I was just going off the articles I've read,

0:24:30.359 --> 0:24:33.800
<v Speaker 1>so I was just kind of running in the wind there, guys.

0:24:33.920 --> 0:24:36.080
<v Speaker 1>You guys remember when Monica was like twenty five and

0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:38.520
<v Speaker 1>she was dating a guy that was younger. He said

0:24:38.560 --> 0:24:41.199
<v Speaker 1>he was like nineteen or twenty or something, so she

0:24:41.320 --> 0:24:43.920
<v Speaker 1>lied since she was twenty two. She was super into

0:24:43.960 --> 0:24:45.240
<v Speaker 1>it that were hooking up, and then all of a

0:24:45.280 --> 0:24:49.040
<v Speaker 1>sudden he told her he was only seventeen. He was underage.

0:24:49.080 --> 0:24:51.800
<v Speaker 1>And that is when she says she has the egg.

0:24:51.880 --> 0:24:53.640
<v Speaker 1>And this was a long, long, long, long time ago,

0:24:53.720 --> 0:24:56.359
<v Speaker 1>and that is actually where it originated, but it was

0:24:56.400 --> 0:24:59.119
<v Speaker 1>thrust back into our faces from Love Island. It's a

0:24:59.160 --> 0:25:02.640
<v Speaker 1>feeling and a sensation that we've always known, but we've

0:25:02.680 --> 0:25:04.480
<v Speaker 1>never ever been able to label it. So all it's

0:25:04.520 --> 0:25:07.199
<v Speaker 1>done now is give it that label. Brittany, tell me

0:25:07.240 --> 0:25:10.120
<v Speaker 1>a time when you've caught the ick. Oh, I had

0:25:10.119 --> 0:25:13.600
<v Speaker 1>the ick so bad. It's only ever happened once, And

0:25:14.119 --> 0:25:16.080
<v Speaker 1>I actually feel bad for saying it, Like I still

0:25:16.119 --> 0:25:20.040
<v Speaker 1>feel bad to this day because this person was really great,

0:25:20.160 --> 0:25:22.280
<v Speaker 1>really nice, did nothing wrong, really, I mean, we just

0:25:22.280 --> 0:25:25.720
<v Speaker 1>didn't get along. But what happened was I was dating

0:25:25.760 --> 0:25:28.520
<v Speaker 1>this guy, but I wasn't dating him for very long

0:25:28.600 --> 0:25:31.399
<v Speaker 1>we were pretty new. We were long distance, so we

0:25:31.440 --> 0:25:34.200
<v Speaker 1>didn't know each other that well, but that means the

0:25:34.200 --> 0:25:38.040
<v Speaker 1>infatuation was it was easy and effortless because we spoke

0:25:38.119 --> 0:25:39.960
<v Speaker 1>on the phone, we send our messages every few weeks.

0:25:39.960 --> 0:25:42.760
<v Speaker 1>Would have a great weekend in Sydney. I also think

0:25:42.800 --> 0:25:44.800
<v Speaker 1>sometimes when you're doing that sort of long distance, it

0:25:44.840 --> 0:25:48.000
<v Speaker 1>almost amplifies and intensifies the relationship a little bit, where

0:25:48.080 --> 0:25:51.800
<v Speaker 1>like they become even more desirable because you're not being

0:25:51.840 --> 0:25:53.720
<v Speaker 1>exposed to them all the time. So it's like that

0:25:53.760 --> 0:25:56.280
<v Speaker 1>distance makes the heart grow fonder kind of thing exactly.

0:25:56.960 --> 0:26:00.159
<v Speaker 1>So I had decided to go on a holiday. I'd

0:26:00.160 --> 0:26:03.480
<v Speaker 1>booked a trip from and just by myself, and he says, well,

0:26:03.480 --> 0:26:05.280
<v Speaker 1>you can't go by yourself, like why don't I come?

0:26:05.320 --> 0:26:07.359
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, well, no, I can go by myself,

0:26:07.359 --> 0:26:09.480
<v Speaker 1>like that was the plan until I met you type thing.

0:26:09.800 --> 0:26:12.199
<v Speaker 1>He's like, look I can get leave, I'll come, And

0:26:12.280 --> 0:26:15.720
<v Speaker 1>I thought, okay, this could actually be fun. We booked

0:26:15.720 --> 0:26:18.159
<v Speaker 1>a trip we went to America, which was not on

0:26:18.160 --> 0:26:20.120
<v Speaker 1>my list. I went there for him because he really

0:26:20.160 --> 0:26:24.080
<v Speaker 1>wanted to go. We were going for five weeks. Oh god,

0:26:24.720 --> 0:26:29.879
<v Speaker 1>three days in and I just woke up and I

0:26:29.920 --> 0:26:32.680
<v Speaker 1>had the eke so bad that I couldn't even look

0:26:32.680 --> 0:26:34.520
<v Speaker 1>at him, and I can't even explain it. We'd had

0:26:34.520 --> 0:26:36.240
<v Speaker 1>an argument the night before and then I just could

0:26:36.320 --> 0:26:37.760
<v Speaker 1>not even look at him. I was like, I can

0:26:37.800 --> 0:26:41.439
<v Speaker 1>never touch you again. And I had no choice. It

0:26:41.480 --> 0:26:43.480
<v Speaker 1>was so severe that I couldn't even try and ride

0:26:43.520 --> 0:26:45.200
<v Speaker 1>it out for the holiday, Like I couldn't even wait

0:26:45.200 --> 0:26:49.400
<v Speaker 1>another day. So not a day we're in Vegas. It's

0:26:49.440 --> 0:26:52.239
<v Speaker 1>so dramatic. I'm done. I have to run away from

0:26:52.280 --> 0:26:54.000
<v Speaker 1>this man. No, that's what I did. The last thing

0:26:54.040 --> 0:26:55.679
<v Speaker 1>you want to do is be on a holiday with

0:26:55.760 --> 0:26:58.760
<v Speaker 1>someone and get to the UK. So I say to him,

0:26:59.119 --> 0:27:01.680
<v Speaker 1>I can't do this, and I mean, we're not years

0:27:01.680 --> 0:27:03.640
<v Speaker 1>down the track. It was early days. I was like, hey,

0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:06.359
<v Speaker 1>like this isn't working for me. He's like he was

0:27:06.359 --> 0:27:09.640
<v Speaker 1>beside himself. He was really upset. He was crying, and Brittany,

0:27:09.680 --> 0:27:13.760
<v Speaker 1>who's obviously really has high emotions not just was looking

0:27:13.800 --> 0:27:15.320
<v Speaker 1>at him and he was crying. I was like, I'm sorry,

0:27:15.400 --> 0:27:18.080
<v Speaker 1>like this is over. Were you like almost more repulse

0:27:18.119 --> 0:27:19.560
<v Speaker 1>by the fact that he was crying at the time,

0:27:19.640 --> 0:27:22.199
<v Speaker 1>I was just staying even more turned off by you.

0:27:22.280 --> 0:27:23.720
<v Speaker 1>Now yep. In my head, I was just like, make

0:27:23.760 --> 0:27:25.720
<v Speaker 1>this stop and leave. I was like, in my head,

0:27:25.720 --> 0:27:27.800
<v Speaker 1>I was like end it and get out anyway. So

0:27:27.840 --> 0:27:30.919
<v Speaker 1>I said, look, it's not going to work. If you

0:27:31.000 --> 0:27:33.480
<v Speaker 1>want to keep traveling together as friends because we'd planned

0:27:33.480 --> 0:27:36.600
<v Speaker 1>a trip, that's fine, we can travel together as friends.

0:27:36.680 --> 0:27:40.280
<v Speaker 1>And he I think he didn't realize how independent I was,

0:27:40.320 --> 0:27:42.960
<v Speaker 1>how much travel I'd done on my own, and he's like,

0:27:43.000 --> 0:27:45.800
<v Speaker 1>the only way we're traveling together is if it's together

0:27:45.800 --> 0:27:47.800
<v Speaker 1>as boyfriend and girlfriend. So if you don't want to

0:27:47.800 --> 0:27:49.480
<v Speaker 1>be alone, then you're gonna have to be my boyfriend.

0:27:49.480 --> 0:27:51.479
<v Speaker 1>Like he was always trying to bribe me. And I

0:27:51.560 --> 0:27:53.679
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, that's cool, okay, I no worries. I'll

0:27:53.760 --> 0:27:56.000
<v Speaker 1>leave tomorrow and he was like what and I was

0:27:56.000 --> 0:27:57.840
<v Speaker 1>like yeah, like I'll just replay the trip. I was like,

0:27:57.960 --> 0:27:59.399
<v Speaker 1>I would rather be on my own than have to

0:27:59.400 --> 0:28:05.320
<v Speaker 1>have sex. So I knew that he wasn't a big

0:28:05.359 --> 0:28:06.760
<v Speaker 1>traveler and he hadn't done a lot on his own,

0:28:06.760 --> 0:28:08.160
<v Speaker 1>and I did feel bad for him. That's why I said,

0:28:08.160 --> 0:28:09.800
<v Speaker 1>if you want to keep traveling his friends, like, we'll

0:28:09.800 --> 0:28:14.000
<v Speaker 1>do that. So I let him keep the trip basically,

0:28:14.040 --> 0:28:17.000
<v Speaker 1>and I just rearranged everything and I left the next day.

0:28:17.880 --> 0:28:20.280
<v Speaker 1>And I'm not kidding. I never saw him it like

0:28:20.320 --> 0:28:23.880
<v Speaker 1>that was it, Just like I just I just went

0:28:23.880 --> 0:28:26.320
<v Speaker 1>on a five week callidad through America by myself at

0:28:26.359 --> 0:28:28.280
<v Speaker 1>the time of my life. I ran into him like

0:28:28.440 --> 0:28:31.760
<v Speaker 1>two years later. But that was it. And I can't

0:28:31.840 --> 0:28:34.040
<v Speaker 1>to this day. I can't put a finger on it,

0:28:34.119 --> 0:28:35.520
<v Speaker 1>can't put my finger on it, but I remember it.

0:28:35.720 --> 0:28:37.480
<v Speaker 1>I remember looking at him, and it was the way

0:28:37.520 --> 0:28:39.920
<v Speaker 1>he was speaking, it was the way he was delivering

0:28:39.960 --> 0:28:42.120
<v Speaker 1>it, it was everything about him, and it just changed in

0:28:42.160 --> 0:28:44.640
<v Speaker 1>a heartbeat. So I just that was it. I dumped

0:28:44.680 --> 0:28:47.280
<v Speaker 1>the poor guy in America and off I trot. Well.

0:28:47.320 --> 0:28:49.400
<v Speaker 1>I think that that's the whole concept, right at least,

0:28:49.480 --> 0:28:51.720
<v Speaker 1>like catching the ick is that it It kind of

0:28:52.080 --> 0:28:55.840
<v Speaker 1>can be something that turns. It turns almost instantly, Like

0:28:55.960 --> 0:28:58.280
<v Speaker 1>it could be because of something they said, but it

0:28:58.280 --> 0:29:00.480
<v Speaker 1>could also be because of like a habit. It could

0:29:00.480 --> 0:29:02.480
<v Speaker 1>be because of some like the way they look. Maybe

0:29:02.480 --> 0:29:04.680
<v Speaker 1>it's the way they eat their food. Like it's something

0:29:04.720 --> 0:29:08.640
<v Speaker 1>that seems very insignificant that has an extremely significant reaction

0:29:08.720 --> 0:29:11.200
<v Speaker 1>from someone. Oh he used to do really bad, wiz pops.

0:29:11.360 --> 0:29:13.400
<v Speaker 1>I remember that that was a real turn off. You

0:29:13.440 --> 0:29:18.480
<v Speaker 1>don't like people farting around you, whiz bobbing farting. Mate,

0:29:18.560 --> 0:29:20.920
<v Speaker 1>you would not get along with Matthew Johnson very well.

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:24.200
<v Speaker 1>I've learned to love him in all of his imperfections.

0:29:24.720 --> 0:29:28.200
<v Speaker 1>He's a beautiful man. What's your what's your eck stories?

0:29:28.200 --> 0:29:30.200
<v Speaker 1>It simp okay. I have a few ex stories, But

0:29:30.240 --> 0:29:31.800
<v Speaker 1>my first one, and the one that I think is

0:29:31.800 --> 0:29:34.600
<v Speaker 1>the biggest one, is is I was dating this guy.

0:29:35.120 --> 0:29:37.840
<v Speaker 1>He was a friend of my friends, and I'd heard

0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:40.040
<v Speaker 1>about him quite a bit, and they were like trying

0:29:40.080 --> 0:29:42.200
<v Speaker 1>to set us up on this date. And then by

0:29:42.200 --> 0:29:44.680
<v Speaker 1>a chance, we actually ended up matching on Tinder anyway,

0:29:44.880 --> 0:29:46.280
<v Speaker 1>and so we went on a date and I was like,

0:29:46.280 --> 0:29:48.680
<v Speaker 1>I think this guy is amazing. I think he's so great.

0:29:49.200 --> 0:29:52.280
<v Speaker 1>And then we went on a few more dates and honestly,

0:29:52.320 --> 0:29:55.440
<v Speaker 1>like he was he was such a great guy, and

0:29:55.480 --> 0:29:59.280
<v Speaker 1>then we had sex. There's one night so so we

0:30:00.200 --> 0:30:02.640
<v Speaker 1>like I was the one who was disgusting, Like I

0:30:02.640 --> 0:30:06.200
<v Speaker 1>am the one who I am the one who should

0:30:06.200 --> 0:30:07.880
<v Speaker 1>have been dumped after this, Like I rocked up at

0:30:07.920 --> 0:30:11.920
<v Speaker 1>his house drunk. I was I went to his house

0:30:11.960 --> 0:30:14.440
<v Speaker 1>for a booty call and was like sloppy and gross,

0:30:14.480 --> 0:30:18.040
<v Speaker 1>and anyway, he was a total gentleman. I mean he

0:30:18.080 --> 0:30:19.880
<v Speaker 1>had sex with me, but he was still a total gentleman.

0:30:20.000 --> 0:30:22.200
<v Speaker 1>I was sloppy, drunk and gross. He's still had sex

0:30:22.240 --> 0:30:24.080
<v Speaker 1>with me, but he was he was a gentleman. This

0:30:24.120 --> 0:30:26.360
<v Speaker 1>is the Cheesecake story all over it. I mean, I

0:30:26.400 --> 0:30:28.040
<v Speaker 1>wasn't so drunk that I don't remember sex. Like I

0:30:28.040 --> 0:30:30.400
<v Speaker 1>remember sex and it wasn't good. And I wrote woke

0:30:30.480 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 1>up the next day and it was like a cloud

0:30:32.440 --> 0:30:34.600
<v Speaker 1>had just been lifted. I imagine it's like how guys

0:30:34.640 --> 0:30:36.640
<v Speaker 1>feel sometimes when guys are just in it for sex.

0:30:36.680 --> 0:30:39.600
<v Speaker 1>But I wasn't originally like I was. I actually thought

0:30:39.640 --> 0:30:41.320
<v Speaker 1>that we were going to end up dating. I actually

0:30:41.320 --> 0:30:42.800
<v Speaker 1>thought they were going to end up in a relationship.

0:30:42.840 --> 0:30:44.720
<v Speaker 1>But I woke up that next morning and I was

0:30:44.800 --> 0:30:48.000
<v Speaker 1>like repulsed by him, just it was not attracted to

0:30:48.080 --> 0:30:49.840
<v Speaker 1>him anymore. Knew I didn't want to be in a

0:30:49.880 --> 0:30:52.080
<v Speaker 1>relationship with him, Like could not get out of that

0:30:52.160 --> 0:30:54.560
<v Speaker 1>house fast enough. I don't know what it was. It

0:30:54.640 --> 0:30:57.560
<v Speaker 1>wasn't necessarily the sex. It wasn't him, it wasn't me,

0:30:57.760 --> 0:30:59.640
<v Speaker 1>Like I couldn't pin down what it was about the

0:30:59.680 --> 0:31:02.000
<v Speaker 1>whole situation that I didn't like, but there was something

0:31:02.080 --> 0:31:05.240
<v Speaker 1>about him that switch had just flipped and I was

0:31:05.760 --> 0:31:09.800
<v Speaker 1>out of there. And I think that, like that feeling

0:31:09.960 --> 0:31:11.960
<v Speaker 1>is something that probably a lot of women, and I

0:31:12.000 --> 0:31:15.680
<v Speaker 1>think more women than men, have experienced in different relationships

0:31:15.720 --> 0:31:17.920
<v Speaker 1>and dating when just for no reason, all of a sudden,

0:31:18.240 --> 0:31:21.240
<v Speaker 1>you were totally off the guy who a week earlier

0:31:21.440 --> 0:31:26.000
<v Speaker 1>you were all over. Did you get up and leave? Yeah,

0:31:26.320 --> 0:31:28.160
<v Speaker 1>but like without speaking to him, No, Like we had

0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:30.800
<v Speaker 1>our morning pleasantries and then I left, but I was like,

0:31:30.880 --> 0:31:32.800
<v Speaker 1>don't touch me. Yeah. And prior to that, we'd been

0:31:32.840 --> 0:31:35.320
<v Speaker 1>texting all the time, we'd been very, very flirty, and

0:31:35.360 --> 0:31:37.800
<v Speaker 1>then the thought of kissing him, I was like, oh,

0:31:38.280 --> 0:31:43.120
<v Speaker 1>did it happen because the sex was bad? Well, I mean,

0:31:43.280 --> 0:31:46.000
<v Speaker 1>but then like i'd been drinking, so maybe I feel

0:31:46.000 --> 0:31:48.520
<v Speaker 1>like I feel like I could have given him another

0:31:48.640 --> 0:31:53.440
<v Speaker 1>chance and that would have potentially been better, but my

0:31:53.560 --> 0:31:57.360
<v Speaker 1>physical repulsion to giving him like there was a full

0:31:57.360 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 1>on blockage that I couldn't do it. Yeah. So I

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:01.200
<v Speaker 1>don't know, and I don't know where it came from,

0:32:01.240 --> 0:32:02.600
<v Speaker 1>and I don't know what it is. But the more

0:32:02.640 --> 0:32:06.120
<v Speaker 1>research that we've done on this specifically for this episode, guys,

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:09.720
<v Speaker 1>is that the is something that there is an underlying

0:32:10.160 --> 0:32:13.160
<v Speaker 1>psychological reason as to why you were turned off that person,

0:32:13.400 --> 0:32:15.920
<v Speaker 1>and it's like a visceral gut instinct. So, I mean,

0:32:15.960 --> 0:32:18.600
<v Speaker 1>we talk a lot about believing in your intuition and

0:32:18.680 --> 0:32:21.560
<v Speaker 1>following like what your intuition tells you, and it could

0:32:21.560 --> 0:32:23.720
<v Speaker 1>be a case that your moral values don't align and

0:32:23.760 --> 0:32:26.200
<v Speaker 1>instead of like you being very conscious and cognitive at

0:32:26.240 --> 0:32:29.440
<v Speaker 1>that there is like this gut and guttural instinct and reaction.

0:32:30.040 --> 0:32:34.440
<v Speaker 1>So you may be almost like pinpointing small and insignificant things,

0:32:34.440 --> 0:32:37.560
<v Speaker 1>but there's actually an underlying reason that's a much bigger

0:32:37.800 --> 0:32:39.959
<v Speaker 1>and much more profound reason as to why you've been

0:32:40.000 --> 0:32:43.080
<v Speaker 1>turned off this person. It's funny that you say, you

0:32:43.160 --> 0:32:48.080
<v Speaker 1>bring up these gut instincts, because did you know that humans,

0:32:48.360 --> 0:32:51.560
<v Speaker 1>we are the only species, like the only animal that

0:32:52.600 --> 0:32:55.720
<v Speaker 1>doesn't listen to our gut instinct and doesn't listen to

0:32:55.800 --> 0:32:58.080
<v Speaker 1>our natural instincts fight it were the only ones that

0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:01.040
<v Speaker 1>are like, oh, maybe it's not right, maybe I'm overthinking it,

0:33:01.080 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 1>maybe we can work through it. Whereas every other animal,

0:33:03.400 --> 0:33:06.320
<v Speaker 1>I mean, we have so many nerves and so many

0:33:06.360 --> 0:33:09.360
<v Speaker 1>sensations around our body that work together for a gut instinct,

0:33:09.360 --> 0:33:12.960
<v Speaker 1>and that's why animals listen to them for fear when

0:33:12.960 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 1>a predator's coming, when they just know something isn't right.

0:33:15.400 --> 0:33:17.440
<v Speaker 1>We're the only ones that are like, ah, there's so

0:33:17.560 --> 0:33:20.000
<v Speaker 1>many red flags. Maybe we'll just keep working through that.

0:33:20.760 --> 0:33:22.600
<v Speaker 1>I think the problem with that is that because we

0:33:22.720 --> 0:33:25.000
<v Speaker 1>have such a strong sense of being, which comes from

0:33:25.240 --> 0:33:29.200
<v Speaker 1>our ability to think things through and rationalize things. So

0:33:29.440 --> 0:33:31.560
<v Speaker 1>if you're having these gut reactions to something but you

0:33:31.600 --> 0:33:35.360
<v Speaker 1>can't rationalize why you're feeling them or thinking them, your

0:33:35.360 --> 0:33:38.640
<v Speaker 1>brain almost wants to take power in that situation. But

0:33:38.680 --> 0:33:42.920
<v Speaker 1>I guess sometimes your thoughts and your intuition they don't

0:33:42.920 --> 0:33:45.000
<v Speaker 1>work together. They almost work against each other. It's like

0:33:45.040 --> 0:33:47.160
<v Speaker 1>when people say, like your heart and your head are

0:33:47.200 --> 0:33:49.320
<v Speaker 1>working against each other, it's the same thing, like your

0:33:49.320 --> 0:33:51.760
<v Speaker 1>gut and your head are working against each other. Yeah,

0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:53.880
<v Speaker 1>and you and I do always we are big advocates,

0:33:53.880 --> 0:33:57.160
<v Speaker 1>but go with your gut instinct, Like, if you really

0:33:57.200 --> 0:34:00.640
<v Speaker 1>do have that deep, deep guttural feeling, then it is

0:34:00.720 --> 0:34:03.440
<v Speaker 1>probably worth listening to your intuition as well. Is like,

0:34:03.480 --> 0:34:05.280
<v Speaker 1>and we've said this in past episodes, but it is

0:34:05.320 --> 0:34:08.680
<v Speaker 1>your body's dangerousponse. It's your body telling you that something's wrong,

0:34:08.960 --> 0:34:12.000
<v Speaker 1>and it's your first very visceral response to kind of

0:34:12.040 --> 0:34:14.520
<v Speaker 1>like be aware of what's happening in a situation. So

0:34:14.680 --> 0:34:17.920
<v Speaker 1>I think we have always said that you need to

0:34:18.080 --> 0:34:21.240
<v Speaker 1>really listen to your intuition and prioritize those feelings because

0:34:21.719 --> 0:34:26.600
<v Speaker 1>they're very rarely wrong unless you're somebody who has commitment issues.

0:34:27.120 --> 0:34:29.800
<v Speaker 1>But if if it's a feeling that you've had about

0:34:29.880 --> 0:34:33.400
<v Speaker 1>someone or about something, I think that those feelings are

0:34:33.400 --> 0:34:35.520
<v Speaker 1>presenting themselves for a reason and we need to pay

0:34:35.520 --> 0:34:39.279
<v Speaker 1>attention to them. I had when I was in this

0:34:39.600 --> 0:34:43.160
<v Speaker 1>relationship with the sociopath for two years and sood number

0:34:43.160 --> 0:34:46.480
<v Speaker 1>three I said three, so dated a sociopath. I had

0:34:46.600 --> 0:34:50.680
<v Speaker 1>that gut instinct the whole time, from day one, and

0:34:50.719 --> 0:34:53.719
<v Speaker 1>I buried it the whole time because I just thought

0:34:53.760 --> 0:34:56.400
<v Speaker 1>I was I just kept telling myself, you're overreacting, you're

0:34:56.440 --> 0:34:59.719
<v Speaker 1>making things up. There's no way, you know, just embracing forward.

0:34:59.719 --> 0:35:01.600
<v Speaker 1>It is. He's been so great to you, he's treating

0:35:01.640 --> 0:35:04.680
<v Speaker 1>you so great, he's buying you all these things. But

0:35:05.000 --> 0:35:08.040
<v Speaker 1>I'd be lying if I didn't say that my gut

0:35:08.080 --> 0:35:09.600
<v Speaker 1>was telling me that it was wrong from day one,

0:35:09.719 --> 0:35:11.399
<v Speaker 1>and I just ignored it. And I think a lot

0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:13.799
<v Speaker 1>of women who go through really difficult and men who

0:35:13.840 --> 0:35:18.399
<v Speaker 1>go through really difficult relationships and really difficult experiences can

0:35:18.480 --> 0:35:22.160
<v Speaker 1>look back and acknowledge that there was some inkling, like

0:35:22.200 --> 0:35:24.919
<v Speaker 1>there was some intuition there, and I think some people

0:35:24.960 --> 0:35:27.200
<v Speaker 1>are way more attuned to it than others. But I

0:35:27.239 --> 0:35:29.920
<v Speaker 1>do think, as a general rule, like we know that

0:35:30.040 --> 0:35:33.920
<v Speaker 1>something's up, like you know from your partner's behavior. You

0:35:34.000 --> 0:35:38.520
<v Speaker 1>know from like the way that they're interacting with you.

0:35:38.520 --> 0:35:40.440
<v Speaker 1>You know from the way that they're dealing with like

0:35:40.560 --> 0:35:42.680
<v Speaker 1>phone calls or their phone or like all different things.

0:35:42.840 --> 0:35:44.279
<v Speaker 1>We're kind of getting a little bit off topic from

0:35:44.280 --> 0:35:46.120
<v Speaker 1>the dick, But I think, like we've said at time

0:35:46.120 --> 0:35:48.320
<v Speaker 1>and time again, but intuition is just such a strong

0:35:48.360 --> 0:35:50.440
<v Speaker 1>factor that you need to listen to, and that plays

0:35:50.480 --> 0:35:52.960
<v Speaker 1>into this concept of the ick. Yeah, okay, so there's

0:35:52.960 --> 0:35:55.080
<v Speaker 1>a big difference between like what Laura and I just

0:35:55.080 --> 0:35:59.000
<v Speaker 1>discussed our personal ick issues situations, and that was that

0:35:59.080 --> 0:36:02.160
<v Speaker 1>Laura had hers what two nights in you just you

0:36:02.239 --> 0:36:04.080
<v Speaker 1>just knew him two weeks. Yeah, I can, like I

0:36:04.080 --> 0:36:05.640
<v Speaker 1>wasn't sleeping with some of the second you said it

0:36:05.680 --> 0:36:08.160
<v Speaker 1>was the one night stand. Well we dated for a

0:36:08.160 --> 0:36:10.840
<v Speaker 1>little while. It was the first time we had Oh okay, okay,

0:36:10.880 --> 0:36:12.440
<v Speaker 1>so you had yours, you went with him, you went

0:36:12.440 --> 0:36:14.560
<v Speaker 1>in a relationship. It was two weeks. But I reckon

0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:17.880
<v Speaker 1>the happens often after having sex. What did he do

0:36:17.960 --> 0:36:23.720
<v Speaker 1>to you? I got the egg from another guy after

0:36:23.719 --> 0:36:26.080
<v Speaker 1>I had sex with him, and that was because he

0:36:26.120 --> 0:36:28.640
<v Speaker 1>had a very questionable penis, and I was like, I

0:36:28.680 --> 0:36:30.920
<v Speaker 1>can't date that penis. What do you mean? What do

0:36:31.000 --> 0:36:36.880
<v Speaker 1>you mean? It was? What was a questioning? It just

0:36:37.400 --> 0:36:40.560
<v Speaker 1>wasn't for me. I can see you. I can look

0:36:40.560 --> 0:36:42.920
<v Speaker 1>at you now and you're literally weighing up do I

0:36:42.960 --> 0:36:44.960
<v Speaker 1>do this or do I not? I'm just throw a

0:36:45.080 --> 0:36:50.960
<v Speaker 1>pulse by like shape, like visceral reaction. It was like

0:36:51.360 --> 0:36:59.000
<v Speaker 1>tell on the back a strange of spaghetti. Oh my god,

0:36:59.239 --> 0:37:01.680
<v Speaker 1>I know, and I feel like I'm dick shaming people.

0:37:01.719 --> 0:37:06.120
<v Speaker 1>But it's honestly just I couldn't do it. Guys. How

0:37:06.120 --> 0:37:08.279
<v Speaker 1>many times an episode do Laura and I look at

0:37:08.280 --> 0:37:09.800
<v Speaker 1>each other and say, you should we delete that? I

0:37:09.840 --> 0:37:13.359
<v Speaker 1>shouldn't delete that talk about it after look, I mean,

0:37:13.400 --> 0:37:16.319
<v Speaker 1>it's not nice, Like it's not a PC thing to say,

0:37:16.719 --> 0:37:18.239
<v Speaker 1>and I'm sure there'll be another woman out there who

0:37:18.280 --> 0:37:20.960
<v Speaker 1>does want it, but for sure it's different for everyone.

0:37:20.960 --> 0:37:23.439
<v Speaker 1>People want different things totally. But I am absolutely sure

0:37:23.440 --> 0:37:25.839
<v Speaker 1>that there are other women out there who have had

0:37:25.880 --> 0:37:29.480
<v Speaker 1>sexual experiences with a guy and then they've decided after that, like, WHOA,

0:37:29.560 --> 0:37:32.000
<v Speaker 1>this is like not for me for whatever reason. And

0:37:32.040 --> 0:37:33.800
<v Speaker 1>I think that there is I really do think that

0:37:33.840 --> 0:37:36.440
<v Speaker 1>the it can be strongly tied to sex, and because

0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:38.760
<v Speaker 1>that's when like that's when something shifts in a relationship

0:37:38.760 --> 0:37:41.160
<v Speaker 1>as well, that's when the power dynamic shifts, that's when

0:37:41.280 --> 0:37:44.000
<v Speaker 1>physically the relationship shifts. So I do think that there

0:37:44.040 --> 0:37:46.240
<v Speaker 1>is a lot of this conversation that's tied up in sex.

0:37:46.480 --> 0:37:49.719
<v Speaker 1>There's this idea of you get the ick and you

0:37:49.800 --> 0:37:51.799
<v Speaker 1>have to leave and you can't overcome it because there's

0:37:51.840 --> 0:37:55.120
<v Speaker 1>just like no moving past that. But the further we

0:37:55.280 --> 0:37:57.439
<v Speaker 1>dug and the more research we did, and the more

0:37:57.520 --> 0:38:01.239
<v Speaker 1>psychologists we chatted to, we found out that that's not

0:38:01.280 --> 0:38:03.560
<v Speaker 1>necessarily the truth. You don't have to get the egg

0:38:03.600 --> 0:38:05.560
<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't have to be the end because there

0:38:05.600 --> 0:38:08.400
<v Speaker 1>are different levels and different stages, whether it happens at

0:38:08.400 --> 0:38:11.520
<v Speaker 1>the beginning or long term, when you're married, when you're

0:38:11.560 --> 0:38:14.799
<v Speaker 1>first dating, whether you're official, it doesn't have to be

0:38:14.800 --> 0:38:16.600
<v Speaker 1>the end. So we're gonna just chat about that. Well.

0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:19.000
<v Speaker 1>I did actually read a really interesting article as well,

0:38:19.000 --> 0:38:20.839
<v Speaker 1>which is going back a little while now, but it's

0:38:20.880 --> 0:38:23.200
<v Speaker 1>called the ick is bullshit and we've got to stop

0:38:23.280 --> 0:38:25.120
<v Speaker 1>using it as a reason to break up. So this

0:38:25.239 --> 0:38:29.120
<v Speaker 1>article was on Pedestrian by a journalist named Melissa Mason,

0:38:29.280 --> 0:38:32.000
<v Speaker 1>and the whole premise behind this, and what she's saying

0:38:32.080 --> 0:38:36.640
<v Speaker 1>in her article is that saying that you automatically decided

0:38:36.760 --> 0:38:39.680
<v Speaker 1>one day that you're no longer attracted to someone is

0:38:39.719 --> 0:38:42.239
<v Speaker 1>like incredibly superficial because we live in this day and

0:38:42.280 --> 0:38:45.480
<v Speaker 1>age now where we have zero patients, and she's written

0:38:45.480 --> 0:38:47.480
<v Speaker 1>on this, you know, she blames this on the internet,

0:38:47.520 --> 0:38:50.760
<v Speaker 1>on smartphones, on social media, we can get information in minutes.

0:38:50.840 --> 0:38:54.640
<v Speaker 1>It's made us impatient, little bitches. We want promotions now,

0:38:54.800 --> 0:38:57.600
<v Speaker 1>money now, and love now. And the thing with relationships

0:38:57.680 --> 0:39:00.920
<v Speaker 1>is they grow, they don't just magically sprang into phenomenal

0:39:00.960 --> 0:39:03.640
<v Speaker 1>intimate lovefests. And I think that there is truth to

0:39:03.680 --> 0:39:05.480
<v Speaker 1>this as well, Like I do think that that you

0:39:05.600 --> 0:39:08.320
<v Speaker 1>have to identify in yourself and you're going to be

0:39:08.360 --> 0:39:11.160
<v Speaker 1>the only one who knows. Have to identify whether you've

0:39:11.160 --> 0:39:15.560
<v Speaker 1>caught the ick over super superficial reasons and something that

0:39:15.640 --> 0:39:19.120
<v Speaker 1>you could actually overcome, or is it something where your

0:39:19.160 --> 0:39:22.440
<v Speaker 1>moral and your judgment values are actually not aligned our

0:39:22.560 --> 0:39:25.680
<v Speaker 1>personality values. Whatever it is, there's something of your core

0:39:25.719 --> 0:39:28.919
<v Speaker 1>beliefs that aren't aligned. They're two very different things, and

0:39:29.040 --> 0:39:30.480
<v Speaker 1>one of them is you're going to be able to

0:39:30.520 --> 0:39:32.799
<v Speaker 1>get over and maybe your feelings will change, and the

0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:36.040
<v Speaker 1>other one is like, okay, time to part ways. Yeah,

0:39:36.040 --> 0:39:38.400
<v Speaker 1>there's a lot I do agree with on this, and

0:39:38.440 --> 0:39:40.360
<v Speaker 1>not just in relation to the eck, in relation to

0:39:40.560 --> 0:39:46.440
<v Speaker 1>our generation in general and dating, jobs, job satisfaction, money savings,

0:39:46.440 --> 0:39:49.600
<v Speaker 1>buying houses. We do have a generation now where we

0:39:49.640 --> 0:39:53.160
<v Speaker 1>want things faster for less work. We want we want

0:39:53.200 --> 0:39:57.160
<v Speaker 1>it now, We are impatient, we have done a whole episode.

0:39:57.160 --> 0:39:59.360
<v Speaker 1>Actually on the grass is always greener, and the grass

0:39:59.400 --> 0:40:01.479
<v Speaker 1>is always greener. I think that comes into when someone

0:40:01.480 --> 0:40:05.040
<v Speaker 1>develops the inch a lot, because I think sometimes we

0:40:05.080 --> 0:40:07.799
<v Speaker 1>get scared of commitment or we're unsure, and so we

0:40:07.880 --> 0:40:11.000
<v Speaker 1>are actually searching for something to happen to make us

0:40:11.080 --> 0:40:13.839
<v Speaker 1>uncomfortable so we can have a reason to leave. Think

0:40:13.840 --> 0:40:16.520
<v Speaker 1>that you can look at this concept in two different lenses.

0:40:16.800 --> 0:40:18.840
<v Speaker 1>You can look at it from the lens of like, Okay,

0:40:18.840 --> 0:40:20.800
<v Speaker 1>your intuition is telling you something and you've got to

0:40:20.800 --> 0:40:22.640
<v Speaker 1>get out. Or you can look at it from the

0:40:22.760 --> 0:40:26.640
<v Speaker 1>lens of impatience and go, well, maybe you're being impatient.

0:40:26.760 --> 0:40:30.040
<v Speaker 1>You're expecting your relationship or you're expecting this person to

0:40:30.120 --> 0:40:33.080
<v Speaker 1>be a level of perfection that maybe you're not either.

0:40:33.239 --> 0:40:36.120
<v Speaker 1>A psychologist Meritith Fuller, she talks about why we get

0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:38.000
<v Speaker 1>the ick and how we can actually stop it from

0:40:38.000 --> 0:40:41.960
<v Speaker 1>sabotaging relationships that are good on paper. A lot of

0:40:41.960 --> 0:40:44.920
<v Speaker 1>the times we are searching for reasons to leave, like

0:40:44.960 --> 0:40:47.000
<v Speaker 1>we just said, but she breaks it down into sort

0:40:47.040 --> 0:40:50.560
<v Speaker 1>of I guess three stages or levels of the ick.

0:40:50.800 --> 0:40:53.239
<v Speaker 1>So let's just like nut those out for a second.

0:40:53.600 --> 0:40:56.840
<v Speaker 1>She says number one, the number one inch your opposites

0:40:56.840 --> 0:41:00.680
<v Speaker 1>attract theory. So what she's saying is, when you first

0:41:00.719 --> 0:41:03.680
<v Speaker 1>get together, you love that you're so different from your partner.

0:41:04.200 --> 0:41:07.799
<v Speaker 1>You know, they might be tattered up, they might be

0:41:07.880 --> 0:41:10.719
<v Speaker 1>wanting to adventure, they might have five different jobs. They

0:41:10.800 --> 0:41:13.040
<v Speaker 1>might be dolphin trainer, they might love to hike on

0:41:13.080 --> 0:41:16.359
<v Speaker 1>the weekends and motocross and you you're happy in your

0:41:16.440 --> 0:41:19.680
<v Speaker 1>nine to five, you like to play chess on the weekends.

0:41:19.960 --> 0:41:21.640
<v Speaker 1>You don't like to get your nails dirty, Like you're

0:41:21.680 --> 0:41:24.759
<v Speaker 1>so opposite. But this is why you this is why

0:41:24.760 --> 0:41:27.040
<v Speaker 1>you get together, because you take something from each other

0:41:27.080 --> 0:41:29.359
<v Speaker 1>and it's exciting and it's out of your comfort zone

0:41:29.400 --> 0:41:33.080
<v Speaker 1>and you think it's fantastic. But that only lasts so long,

0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:35.600
<v Speaker 1>and once the magic fades from the beginning, once the

0:41:35.600 --> 0:41:38.920
<v Speaker 1>honeymoon's over, you realize you literally just don't have anything

0:41:38.960 --> 0:41:41.880
<v Speaker 1>in common anymore. People are like on their best behavior

0:41:41.920 --> 0:41:44.480
<v Speaker 1>for the first month. They're like the Christmas version of themselves.

0:41:44.640 --> 0:41:48.600
<v Speaker 1>So I think, you what do you mean, I'm a

0:41:48.680 --> 0:41:50.799
<v Speaker 1>Christmas version of myself the first month, except I rock

0:41:50.800 --> 0:41:52.359
<v Speaker 1>out to people's houses drunk and trying to have sex

0:41:52.400 --> 0:41:57.640
<v Speaker 1>with them. Anyway, long story, that was Christmas forre But

0:41:57.719 --> 0:41:59.600
<v Speaker 1>like you know, we get the best version of people.

0:41:59.600 --> 0:42:00.919
<v Speaker 1>And I think that was another thing that was touched

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:03.160
<v Speaker 1>in this article that I just referenced, Like, you know,

0:42:03.239 --> 0:42:05.680
<v Speaker 1>you get the best jokes, you get the best messages,

0:42:05.719 --> 0:42:08.480
<v Speaker 1>you get the best attention, you get the best version

0:42:08.800 --> 0:42:10.799
<v Speaker 1>of a person for the first couple of months, and

0:42:10.840 --> 0:42:13.759
<v Speaker 1>then after that their true self starts to show, and

0:42:13.800 --> 0:42:15.960
<v Speaker 1>I think you know you also have to be introspective

0:42:15.960 --> 0:42:18.720
<v Speaker 1>and realize that the same goes for yourself as well,

0:42:18.760 --> 0:42:21.319
<v Speaker 1>Like you're giving the best version of yourself, and then

0:42:21.400 --> 0:42:23.520
<v Speaker 1>after a couple of months, guess what, your jokes probably

0:42:23.560 --> 0:42:25.319
<v Speaker 1>aren't quite as funny and you're not quite as good

0:42:25.360 --> 0:42:27.960
<v Speaker 1>at the banter or whatever. It is, Like, things do

0:42:28.120 --> 0:42:30.879
<v Speaker 1>level themselves out as well. But what are your what's

0:42:30.920 --> 0:42:33.919
<v Speaker 1>your opinion on opposites attract? Look, it's an interesting one.

0:42:33.960 --> 0:42:36.239
<v Speaker 1>I used to be. I used to be really really

0:42:36.280 --> 0:42:38.560
<v Speaker 1>pro opposites attract, and I used to like to date

0:42:38.960 --> 0:42:42.839
<v Speaker 1>people that were opposite to me. But for me that

0:42:43.160 --> 0:42:45.560
<v Speaker 1>was I don't know if you guys know, but I'm

0:42:45.600 --> 0:42:49.840
<v Speaker 1>pretty loud for me that way. I dated an intrabad

0:42:49.920 --> 0:42:51.680
<v Speaker 1>and all I did was talk at him and it

0:42:51.719 --> 0:42:54.480
<v Speaker 1>didn't work out. So crazy, No, I dated people that

0:42:54.520 --> 0:43:01.400
<v Speaker 1>were actually like quite shine reserved, and it never worked

0:43:01.400 --> 0:43:03.279
<v Speaker 1>for me because then all of a sudden, and I

0:43:03.280 --> 0:43:06.440
<v Speaker 1>remember saying to my mom. I remember saying, Mummy, he

0:43:06.520 --> 0:43:09.240
<v Speaker 1>can't even swim because he couldn't The guy was dating

0:43:09.280 --> 0:43:11.520
<v Speaker 1>for a long time couldn't swim. And she's like, pretty,

0:43:11.560 --> 0:43:12.680
<v Speaker 1>that's not the end of the world. And I'm like,

0:43:12.680 --> 0:43:14.560
<v Speaker 1>well it is because I want to go swimming on

0:43:14.600 --> 0:43:17.279
<v Speaker 1>the weekend and he can't come because he'll drowned. And

0:43:17.320 --> 0:43:19.879
<v Speaker 1>that's why. And that's whenhen we got to the point

0:43:19.880 --> 0:43:21.760
<v Speaker 1>where I we were like, oh, okay, so the opposites

0:43:21.760 --> 0:43:24.239
<v Speaker 1>attracting war off really quickly. And now I didn't realize

0:43:24.239 --> 0:43:26.080
<v Speaker 1>we don't have anything in common. That's also what happened

0:43:26.120 --> 0:43:27.840
<v Speaker 1>with the guy that I got the EQ with overseas.

0:43:27.960 --> 0:43:31.719
<v Speaker 1>I didn't realize until we got there we had absolutely

0:43:31.760 --> 0:43:34.799
<v Speaker 1>nothing in common. He wanted to do this food tour

0:43:34.880 --> 0:43:37.640
<v Speaker 1>of America. Now I love my food. We all know that.

0:43:38.000 --> 0:43:39.719
<v Speaker 1>But I was there in my mind. I was like,

0:43:39.719 --> 0:43:42.040
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna go hiking in your seventy National Park. We're

0:43:42.040 --> 0:43:44.839
<v Speaker 1>gonna get bungee jumping, We're gonna do camping, We're gonna

0:43:44.840 --> 0:43:46.960
<v Speaker 1>do all this amazing stuff. We're gonna go diving. We're

0:43:46.960 --> 0:43:49.359
<v Speaker 1>gonna see whales. I'm gonna free dive. He was like,

0:43:49.840 --> 0:43:52.239
<v Speaker 1>We're gonna go to Texas to get a Texan barbecue,

0:43:52.560 --> 0:43:54.479
<v Speaker 1>when you were like, I'm not signing up. We're gonna

0:43:54.520 --> 0:43:56.719
<v Speaker 1>go to San fran to get the chowder we're gonna

0:43:56.800 --> 0:43:58.040
<v Speaker 1>like it was a food. And I just looked at

0:43:58.080 --> 0:43:59.600
<v Speaker 1>him and I was like, oh my god, Like I

0:43:59.719 --> 0:44:01.000
<v Speaker 1>want to do nothing that you want to do, and

0:44:01.040 --> 0:44:02.600
<v Speaker 1>you want to do nothing that I want to do.

0:44:02.680 --> 0:44:04.920
<v Speaker 1>And that was a moment I was like, Okay, you

0:44:04.960 --> 0:44:08.239
<v Speaker 1>can't actually be with someone that is pole opposite. Yeah,

0:44:08.280 --> 0:44:09.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm a big believer. Like I mean, I'm sure that

0:44:09.960 --> 0:44:13.239
<v Speaker 1>there are relationships out there where people would say, like,

0:44:13.280 --> 0:44:15.600
<v Speaker 1>we're so opposite, But I think your core values will

0:44:15.600 --> 0:44:17.760
<v Speaker 1>always align, Like the things that you want in your family,

0:44:17.800 --> 0:44:19.560
<v Speaker 1>the things that you believe in the way that you

0:44:19.600 --> 0:44:21.520
<v Speaker 1>show respect for each other. I think that your core

0:44:21.640 --> 0:44:23.960
<v Speaker 1>values have to be aligned. It's okay for there to

0:44:24.000 --> 0:44:26.759
<v Speaker 1>be some parts of you that are very opposite, but

0:44:26.800 --> 0:44:28.560
<v Speaker 1>I think the things that ground you and make you

0:44:28.600 --> 0:44:30.520
<v Speaker 1>work as a couple is that there are some very

0:44:31.080 --> 0:44:34.640
<v Speaker 1>there are some very significant underlying similarities. And when I

0:44:34.640 --> 0:44:36.400
<v Speaker 1>speak to Mad about this, like, I think one of

0:44:36.440 --> 0:44:38.520
<v Speaker 1>the reasons why we work so well as a couple

0:44:38.600 --> 0:44:41.440
<v Speaker 1>is because we are almost the same. Like, we are

0:44:41.520 --> 0:44:44.640
<v Speaker 1>so identical in our personalities that we know each other's

0:44:44.640 --> 0:44:47.600
<v Speaker 1>triggers for what can set the other one off really badly.

0:44:47.920 --> 0:44:50.800
<v Speaker 1>But we also know exactly how one person wants to

0:44:50.840 --> 0:44:52.719
<v Speaker 1>be loved, how one person wants to be nurtured. Like

0:44:52.800 --> 0:44:54.960
<v Speaker 1>we are so similar, and I think that that has

0:44:55.440 --> 0:44:58.160
<v Speaker 1>been to our strength in a relationship. More so one

0:44:58.160 --> 0:45:02.759
<v Speaker 1>of my best friends, she is the nicest, sweetest girl,

0:45:03.080 --> 0:45:06.000
<v Speaker 1>but you'd almost think she was a bitch because she's

0:45:06.000 --> 0:45:09.840
<v Speaker 1>so shy, like she's so softly spoken and reserved, but

0:45:09.880 --> 0:45:13.399
<v Speaker 1>she's such a beautiful, loyal person when you know her.

0:45:13.680 --> 0:45:18.000
<v Speaker 1>And her husband is like the opposite. He's so loud,

0:45:18.120 --> 0:45:20.560
<v Speaker 1>he's such a big personality. He's so funny. He's the

0:45:20.640 --> 0:45:23.040
<v Speaker 1>life of the party, like he will light up any room.

0:45:23.719 --> 0:45:28.080
<v Speaker 1>And they get along swimmingly, like they're perfect for each

0:45:28.120 --> 0:45:32.560
<v Speaker 1>other because every other value and everything else in their

0:45:32.600 --> 0:45:34.719
<v Speaker 1>life is the same. It's a line. So they have

0:45:34.760 --> 0:45:37.000
<v Speaker 1>all that in common, and they actually compliment each other.

0:45:37.080 --> 0:45:39.719
<v Speaker 1>She needed somebody that was like that because that wasn't

0:45:39.719 --> 0:45:41.879
<v Speaker 1>her own a party, you know, So she needed that.

0:45:42.040 --> 0:45:44.879
<v Speaker 1>He needed her to be like babe's rainingy and rein

0:45:44.920 --> 0:45:46.359
<v Speaker 1>it in and so she pulls him back and it

0:45:46.400 --> 0:45:48.680
<v Speaker 1>just works really well. But it only works because every

0:45:48.680 --> 0:45:50.759
<v Speaker 1>other part of their life is in line. You can

0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:54.080
<v Speaker 1>date somebody who has opposite personality traits because you admire

0:45:54.160 --> 0:45:56.440
<v Speaker 1>that of them, especially if you're dating someone who is

0:45:56.440 --> 0:45:59.200
<v Speaker 1>an extrovert or is who who finds it really easy

0:45:59.280 --> 0:46:01.600
<v Speaker 1>in gatherings to go and talk to anyone at the party,

0:46:01.960 --> 0:46:06.200
<v Speaker 1>like they're very attractive personality traits. But I don't think

0:46:06.200 --> 0:46:08.399
<v Speaker 1>that you need to have everything the same in order

0:46:08.480 --> 0:46:10.680
<v Speaker 1>to be able to have a sustained relationship. But you,

0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:12.799
<v Speaker 1>like you said, and like I said, I mean, there

0:46:12.800 --> 0:46:14.719
<v Speaker 1>we go love it when we agree. There has to

0:46:14.800 --> 0:46:17.680
<v Speaker 1>be those core things that underlyingly are the same. And

0:46:17.680 --> 0:46:19.120
<v Speaker 1>I think for a lot of people when they end

0:46:19.160 --> 0:46:23.040
<v Speaker 1>up catching the ick, it's because there's something fundamental in

0:46:23.080 --> 0:46:25.719
<v Speaker 1>their relationship that's not the same. There's something that's been said,

0:46:25.760 --> 0:46:28.799
<v Speaker 1>there's something that's been done, There's something that's shifted in

0:46:28.880 --> 0:46:31.560
<v Speaker 1>their core values that's made them go, oh no, no, no,

0:46:31.960 --> 0:46:33.399
<v Speaker 1>this is not going to work out with this guy.

0:46:33.680 --> 0:46:36.000
<v Speaker 1>We just discussed it. Point number two is there's a

0:46:36.000 --> 0:46:39.600
<v Speaker 1>fundamental difference in your attitude. So you're ahead of the psychologist.

0:46:40.560 --> 0:46:43.280
<v Speaker 1>I know, askan Kat, here we go, here's your free

0:46:43.280 --> 0:46:45.960
<v Speaker 1>therapy session. So Meredith Fuller, she does actually use the

0:46:46.000 --> 0:46:48.800
<v Speaker 1>example we're discussed about an introvert an extra for dating,

0:46:48.880 --> 0:46:51.160
<v Speaker 1>and how it actually can work as long as they're

0:46:51.200 --> 0:46:53.400
<v Speaker 1>in line with everything else. So we already really covered

0:46:53.480 --> 0:46:57.880
<v Speaker 1>number two. That's amazing, look at us go. But what

0:46:57.960 --> 0:47:00.359
<v Speaker 1>she does say is these x can still be worked

0:47:00.400 --> 0:47:04.000
<v Speaker 1>through even if you are even if you do fundamentally

0:47:04.080 --> 0:47:06.680
<v Speaker 1>have some differences. It doesn't have to be the end.

0:47:06.760 --> 0:47:08.600
<v Speaker 1>She's saying. It just means you have to have a

0:47:08.840 --> 0:47:11.960
<v Speaker 1>lot lot more open communication and you do have to

0:47:12.000 --> 0:47:13.560
<v Speaker 1>be open to put it in the work and not

0:47:13.640 --> 0:47:16.719
<v Speaker 1>jumping ships straight away. But that leads us to number three.

0:47:17.120 --> 0:47:19.720
<v Speaker 1>Three is what we've been talking about earlier in the episode,

0:47:19.719 --> 0:47:22.920
<v Speaker 1>which is out of nowhere. You just don't like them anymore,

0:47:23.200 --> 0:47:26.000
<v Speaker 1>like you're trying to find a valid excuse why. And

0:47:26.040 --> 0:47:28.239
<v Speaker 1>this one is when, like we said, you might have

0:47:28.239 --> 0:47:30.800
<v Speaker 1>been dating for a few weeks, the relationship is relatively

0:47:30.840 --> 0:47:35.319
<v Speaker 1>fresh and literally out of nowhere. It almost feels like

0:47:35.400 --> 0:47:39.560
<v Speaker 1>you're just off them, like totally turned off. Yeah, and

0:47:39.640 --> 0:47:44.520
<v Speaker 1>like you know rationally that someone putting two exits at

0:47:44.520 --> 0:47:46.479
<v Speaker 1>the end of a text shouldn't make you feel sick

0:47:46.680 --> 0:47:49.359
<v Speaker 1>or for a smooch, and you're like, oh my god,

0:47:49.400 --> 0:47:51.000
<v Speaker 1>the word smooch makes me want to punch you in

0:47:51.040 --> 0:47:52.960
<v Speaker 1>the face. Oh, I hate the word smooth. Tell me

0:47:53.000 --> 0:47:56.120
<v Speaker 1>for a smoochy smooth like smooch me smoochie. I think

0:47:56.160 --> 0:47:59.560
<v Speaker 1>baby talk is a big oh me too. And people

0:47:59.600 --> 0:48:02.560
<v Speaker 1>that talk to their dog like a baby. I know

0:48:02.600 --> 0:48:07.399
<v Speaker 1>why you're saying this. Britt Semi recently dated a guy

0:48:07.600 --> 0:48:09.680
<v Speaker 1>who spoke to his dog like it was a child.

0:48:09.719 --> 0:48:11.880
<v Speaker 1>And it even gave me the ick. It was in

0:48:11.920 --> 0:48:14.960
<v Speaker 1>an accent too. It was too much. Oh wow. Anyway,

0:48:15.080 --> 0:48:18.200
<v Speaker 1>needless to say, it didn't work out. But this sort

0:48:18.200 --> 0:48:20.680
<v Speaker 1>of a nick this is the one that she does say.

0:48:21.280 --> 0:48:25.359
<v Speaker 1>You can't really overcome it if you were that instantaneously

0:48:25.440 --> 0:48:28.840
<v Speaker 1>reposed and can't even bring yourself to touch him or

0:48:28.880 --> 0:48:31.640
<v Speaker 1>cuddle him or her, I should say, to cuddle your

0:48:31.680 --> 0:48:35.920
<v Speaker 1>partner in bed. If a message or them calling and

0:48:35.960 --> 0:48:37.600
<v Speaker 1>then their name pops up on your screen, it makes

0:48:37.640 --> 0:48:39.920
<v Speaker 1>you feel sick. There's not really a lot of coming

0:48:39.960 --> 0:48:42.280
<v Speaker 1>back from that. It doesn't make you a bad person.

0:48:42.320 --> 0:48:44.160
<v Speaker 1>If you're turned off someone and you don't want to

0:48:44.160 --> 0:48:46.600
<v Speaker 1>give it a shot, like, you don't have to rationalize

0:48:46.600 --> 0:48:47.839
<v Speaker 1>it in your head and try and be like, oh,

0:48:47.920 --> 0:48:49.480
<v Speaker 1>but they're really nice and they've done this and there's

0:48:49.480 --> 0:48:51.920
<v Speaker 1>no reason for me to feel this, Like it's okay

0:48:51.960 --> 0:48:53.959
<v Speaker 1>for you to pull a pin on a relationship early

0:48:54.120 --> 0:48:58.080
<v Speaker 1>because there's something about it that's made you feel like completely,

0:48:58.320 --> 0:49:00.759
<v Speaker 1>completely repulsed. Because you don't want to be in a

0:49:00.800 --> 0:49:03.000
<v Speaker 1>relationship where you feel like you need to change someone,

0:49:03.120 --> 0:49:04.879
<v Speaker 1>and you also want to be in a relationship where

0:49:04.880 --> 0:49:08.440
<v Speaker 1>you feel that intense desire for someone as well. Then

0:49:08.480 --> 0:49:10.839
<v Speaker 1>there's this idea of like, okay, so you've got the ick,

0:49:11.120 --> 0:49:12.799
<v Speaker 1>you have to work out what level of ick you

0:49:12.840 --> 0:49:15.879
<v Speaker 1>are and why it's happened, and then if it's worth

0:49:15.920 --> 0:49:18.640
<v Speaker 1>trying to salvage the relationship and work through it, Like

0:49:18.680 --> 0:49:22.960
<v Speaker 1>are you overreacting? For example, if the ick has something

0:49:23.000 --> 0:49:25.279
<v Speaker 1>to do with their personality, like maybe it's something they do.

0:49:25.480 --> 0:49:27.120
<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's the fact that they take their clothes off

0:49:27.160 --> 0:49:29.200
<v Speaker 1>and drop in the corner. Oh my god. Somebody messaged

0:49:29.200 --> 0:49:32.320
<v Speaker 1>in onto the Facebook group and said that she was

0:49:32.400 --> 0:49:34.799
<v Speaker 1>dating a guy who used to bite his own toenails

0:49:35.560 --> 0:49:38.719
<v Speaker 1>after he'd been walking around all day. I was like, that,

0:49:38.840 --> 0:49:40.839
<v Speaker 1>shit's a break up a bull offence right there? Also,

0:49:40.880 --> 0:49:45.839
<v Speaker 1>how flexible is he? Yeah? Impressive? That is impressive. I'm

0:49:45.880 --> 0:49:47.600
<v Speaker 1>not even mad, I'm impressed. But it doesn't have to

0:49:47.600 --> 0:49:49.239
<v Speaker 1>be something as crazy as that. Like a lot of

0:49:49.239 --> 0:49:51.240
<v Speaker 1>people have said that they got the ick from snoring,

0:49:51.400 --> 0:49:53.080
<v Speaker 1>or they got the ick because the person ate with

0:49:53.120 --> 0:49:55.880
<v Speaker 1>their mouth open, or it was because the way they

0:49:55.960 --> 0:49:58.120
<v Speaker 1>spoke to a waitress or a waiter at a restaurant,

0:49:58.160 --> 0:50:00.000
<v Speaker 1>like the way that people treat other people. I think

0:50:00.200 --> 0:50:02.920
<v Speaker 1>is a very valid reason to be instantly turned off someone.

0:50:03.160 --> 0:50:06.040
<v Speaker 1>But they are also the things that if you do

0:50:06.160 --> 0:50:08.240
<v Speaker 1>still love them and you want the relationship to work,

0:50:08.360 --> 0:50:09.880
<v Speaker 1>you can work on that because there are things that

0:50:09.920 --> 0:50:12.799
<v Speaker 1>can change. They're little easy things, and you probably just

0:50:12.880 --> 0:50:16.560
<v Speaker 1>haven't been open with your communication. You just need to say, hi, babe,

0:50:16.719 --> 0:50:19.320
<v Speaker 1>get your foot out of your mouth, gets stuck in discussion.

0:50:19.400 --> 0:50:21.360
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't turn me on. Yeah, and I do. I

0:50:21.360 --> 0:50:23.040
<v Speaker 1>do agree with this, I really, I mean, and we'll

0:50:23.040 --> 0:50:25.360
<v Speaker 1>always be advocates for communication. We think that that's the

0:50:25.400 --> 0:50:29.280
<v Speaker 1>most important thing in a relationship. But I also think secondly,

0:50:29.360 --> 0:50:31.759
<v Speaker 1>like before we just jump out and say, oh, well,

0:50:31.760 --> 0:50:35.080
<v Speaker 1>if you feel like this, then you should jump ship. Okay,

0:50:35.080 --> 0:50:36.680
<v Speaker 1>I know I said it's okay for you to do

0:50:36.719 --> 0:50:39.240
<v Speaker 1>that if you want to, but I will say before

0:50:39.239 --> 0:50:41.560
<v Speaker 1>you do, just jump ship. Something that I think is

0:50:41.600 --> 0:50:44.879
<v Speaker 1>really important is that feelings are fleeting, and you are

0:50:44.920 --> 0:50:46.920
<v Speaker 1>not your feelings. And I've said this before, but I

0:50:46.920 --> 0:50:50.239
<v Speaker 1>think sometimes we almost pay too much attention to how

0:50:50.320 --> 0:50:52.719
<v Speaker 1>we feel at a certain time, and the way you

0:50:52.760 --> 0:50:54.480
<v Speaker 1>feel today may not be the way that you feel

0:50:54.480 --> 0:50:57.440
<v Speaker 1>in two weeks time. And I think that you know,

0:50:57.520 --> 0:50:59.960
<v Speaker 1>be conscious of the fact that feelings are very dynam

0:51:00.320 --> 0:51:03.160
<v Speaker 1>feelings can shift, and I mean there's even times in

0:51:03.200 --> 0:51:05.160
<v Speaker 1>long term relationships where you may be turned off your

0:51:05.160 --> 0:51:07.319
<v Speaker 1>partner for whatever reason. But that doesn't mean that you

0:51:07.360 --> 0:51:10.279
<v Speaker 1>can't come full circle and be attracted to your partner again.

0:51:10.320 --> 0:51:13.080
<v Speaker 1>It just takes effort, it takes communication, it takes getting

0:51:13.080 --> 0:51:16.200
<v Speaker 1>back to a good place. But yeah, feelings really are dynamic,

0:51:16.280 --> 0:51:18.400
<v Speaker 1>and they change all the time, and they shouldn't be

0:51:18.520 --> 0:51:21.440
<v Speaker 1>what you totally base the decision off, especially not a

0:51:21.560 --> 0:51:24.120
<v Speaker 1>rash and quick decision. If you're one of those people,

0:51:24.200 --> 0:51:25.719
<v Speaker 1>if you're listening now and you're like, oh my god,

0:51:25.719 --> 0:51:27.080
<v Speaker 1>this is me. If you're one of those people that

0:51:27.160 --> 0:51:30.200
<v Speaker 1>actually gets the ick a lot, and you enter a

0:51:30.200 --> 0:51:32.759
<v Speaker 1>relationship and it's frequent and you're like, why does every

0:51:32.760 --> 0:51:34.799
<v Speaker 1>guy turn me off? You need to look a little

0:51:34.840 --> 0:51:37.759
<v Speaker 1>bit deeper, and chances are you might actually have some

0:51:37.800 --> 0:51:40.080
<v Speaker 1>commitment issues or there might be something more deep seated

0:51:40.080 --> 0:51:42.040
<v Speaker 1>there on your end, because it's not normal to get

0:51:42.080 --> 0:51:45.719
<v Speaker 1>the ick consistently or like most people get it once

0:51:45.800 --> 0:51:47.400
<v Speaker 1>or twice in their life, but if you're getting it

0:51:47.400 --> 0:51:50.360
<v Speaker 1>every time, you need to be like, Okay, am I

0:51:50.480 --> 0:51:52.719
<v Speaker 1>not giving this guy a chance? Am I? Am I

0:51:53.120 --> 0:51:55.239
<v Speaker 1>calling the shots way too soon? Do I have a

0:51:55.239 --> 0:51:57.960
<v Speaker 1>commitment issue? Is it me that actually is finding an

0:51:57.960 --> 0:52:01.040
<v Speaker 1>excuse because I don't want to open myself up to

0:52:01.600 --> 0:52:04.799
<v Speaker 1>hurt or to feel love or you know, so you

0:52:04.840 --> 0:52:09.000
<v Speaker 1>have to look at yourself and think, Okay, can we

0:52:09.040 --> 0:52:10.799
<v Speaker 1>work through this? And do I want to actually try

0:52:10.880 --> 0:52:13.120
<v Speaker 1>and work through this with this guy? Or are you

0:52:13.160 --> 0:52:14.600
<v Speaker 1>just going to breakup with him because he didn't stack

0:52:14.640 --> 0:52:17.319
<v Speaker 1>the dishwasher right yeah? Or are you suffering from this

0:52:17.440 --> 0:52:19.120
<v Speaker 1>idea of the grass is always green? Or I think

0:52:19.160 --> 0:52:21.440
<v Speaker 1>we often compare our relationships and the guys that we

0:52:21.480 --> 0:52:24.799
<v Speaker 1>start dating to our friends boyfriends, or what we see

0:52:24.800 --> 0:52:26.800
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram or what we can see on social media,

0:52:26.920 --> 0:52:29.719
<v Speaker 1>or what we think we could get or what we

0:52:29.760 --> 0:52:31.840
<v Speaker 1>think could be better. And I do think that this

0:52:31.960 --> 0:52:37.160
<v Speaker 1>constant comparison can really be the undoing, especially in early relationships. Also,

0:52:37.400 --> 0:52:40.879
<v Speaker 1>second to that, comparing somebody to your ex. We've had

0:52:40.920 --> 0:52:43.440
<v Speaker 1>this conversation before, but I think it's a really important

0:52:43.440 --> 0:52:45.560
<v Speaker 1>one as well, Like, you're never ever going to have

0:52:45.640 --> 0:52:47.960
<v Speaker 1>the intensity of feelings with somebody that you just met

0:52:47.960 --> 0:52:49.319
<v Speaker 1>as what you're going to have for someone who you

0:52:49.320 --> 0:52:51.920
<v Speaker 1>had a sustained relationship with, And so you're only robbing

0:52:51.920 --> 0:52:54.719
<v Speaker 1>yourself of the ability of having a great relationship if

0:52:54.760 --> 0:52:57.960
<v Speaker 1>you go into every new relationship comparing it to your

0:52:57.960 --> 0:53:00.759
<v Speaker 1>ex and what you've felt for them. Comparison is the

0:53:00.840 --> 0:53:04.120
<v Speaker 1>thief of joy. Favorite saying comparisons the fief of joy.

0:53:04.239 --> 0:53:06.040
<v Speaker 1>I think, just to really wrap it up, even if

0:53:06.080 --> 0:53:09.319
<v Speaker 1>it does seem logical, your intuition really is a powerful thing.

0:53:09.400 --> 0:53:11.799
<v Speaker 1>It disconnects your whole body, your mind, your spirit, and

0:53:11.840 --> 0:53:13.560
<v Speaker 1>you do need to trust it and listen to it

0:53:13.640 --> 0:53:18.120
<v Speaker 1>in every single circumstance. So really get in tune with

0:53:18.239 --> 0:53:33.880
<v Speaker 1>your body. Masturbate guys, and that's a wrap, all right, Guys.

0:53:33.880 --> 0:53:36.359
<v Speaker 1>We never end an episode without our suck and our

0:53:36.480 --> 0:53:38.560
<v Speaker 1>sweet and as much as we did a bit of

0:53:38.600 --> 0:53:41.239
<v Speaker 1>complaining at the beginning of this episode, we still have

0:53:41.320 --> 0:53:45.160
<v Speaker 1>some highlights. Yeah, but the complaining is not over. Well,

0:53:45.200 --> 0:53:49.040
<v Speaker 1>strap yourselves in, guys, Britt, what is your suck? My

0:53:49.239 --> 0:53:53.000
<v Speaker 1>suck would have to be. I worked really late into

0:53:53.960 --> 0:53:55.759
<v Speaker 1>I told you how much I worked. This is such

0:53:55.760 --> 0:53:58.400
<v Speaker 1>a minor thing, but I was more. Yeah, I worked

0:53:58.520 --> 0:54:01.680
<v Speaker 1>really late. Right. I get home midnight. Then I had

0:54:01.680 --> 0:54:04.080
<v Speaker 1>to get back up and be at work at seven.

0:54:04.160 --> 0:54:05.719
<v Speaker 1>So I get back up a quarter to six, so

0:54:05.880 --> 0:54:08.279
<v Speaker 1>I get like four and a half hours sleep. I'm

0:54:08.280 --> 0:54:12.479
<v Speaker 1>going to work for a seventeen eighteen hour shift. I'm

0:54:12.640 --> 0:54:16.480
<v Speaker 1>so tired. I have a triple shot coffee in the car.

0:54:16.520 --> 0:54:18.000
<v Speaker 1>I make it. I'm driving to work and I know

0:54:18.080 --> 0:54:21.280
<v Speaker 1>that I've got this eighteen hours ahead of me. I get,

0:54:21.360 --> 0:54:24.239
<v Speaker 1>I park my car. I walk like a zombie into

0:54:24.320 --> 0:54:27.960
<v Speaker 1>the hospital. I get in there and I realize that

0:54:28.040 --> 0:54:30.160
<v Speaker 1>I left my coffee in the car. Now, this is

0:54:30.160 --> 0:54:32.120
<v Speaker 1>the smallest thing, but I had tears in my eyes

0:54:32.120 --> 0:54:34.960
<v Speaker 1>because I was so emotionally drained. I was like. I

0:54:34.960 --> 0:54:37.440
<v Speaker 1>looked at my sister and I was like, she's like,

0:54:37.440 --> 0:54:39.279
<v Speaker 1>what's wrong. I was like, my coffee. She's like what.

0:54:39.400 --> 0:54:40.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, it's in the car. And that was so

0:54:40.960 --> 0:54:43.319
<v Speaker 1>far away, and it was raining, and that was my suck.

0:54:43.400 --> 0:54:46.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I was convinced that I can't get

0:54:46.120 --> 0:54:48.000
<v Speaker 1>through this without that coffee. That was I was so

0:54:48.080 --> 0:54:51.439
<v Speaker 1>beside myself and it's so ridiculous, But you know, when

0:54:51.480 --> 0:54:55.080
<v Speaker 1>you're fatigued, the smallest thing just sets you off. I think, Okay,

0:54:55.120 --> 0:54:58.600
<v Speaker 1>there's two parts of this one one. Part one is

0:54:58.600 --> 0:55:00.600
<v Speaker 1>that you had to then relive the when you got

0:55:00.600 --> 0:55:02.440
<v Speaker 1>back in the car and saw the cold coffee cup

0:55:02.480 --> 0:55:06.040
<v Speaker 1>sitting there. And two, why did you think going to

0:55:06.080 --> 0:55:08.920
<v Speaker 1>someone's party at midnight when you've had so much fucking

0:55:09.360 --> 0:55:12.320
<v Speaker 1>on was a good idea? That was like two nights before,

0:55:12.400 --> 0:55:14.360
<v Speaker 1>because I just, you know what, I had this moment

0:55:14.400 --> 0:55:17.520
<v Speaker 1>of like, I'm not living at the moment, I'm existing.

0:55:17.560 --> 0:55:18.840
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever had that you would have had that

0:55:18.880 --> 0:55:20.680
<v Speaker 1>feeling like, yeah, this is the last year of my

0:55:20.719 --> 0:55:25.000
<v Speaker 1>life exactly. I was parenting Brittany. I was like, I'm existing.

0:55:25.040 --> 0:55:26.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm not seeing any of my friends, i am not

0:55:26.840 --> 0:55:29.120
<v Speaker 1>doing anything. I'm just working to the bone. I'm going

0:55:29.120 --> 0:55:31.239
<v Speaker 1>from job to job to job. So I was like,

0:55:31.640 --> 0:55:34.320
<v Speaker 1>I knew I should have listened to my gut. Guys,

0:55:34.360 --> 0:55:36.439
<v Speaker 1>I knew I shouldn't go out, and I did because

0:55:36.440 --> 0:55:37.719
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I want to live and I want

0:55:37.760 --> 0:55:40.879
<v Speaker 1>to socialize with my friends. And anyway, that was my suck.

0:55:40.920 --> 0:55:43.480
<v Speaker 1>It's ridiculous. Yes, I cried because I left my coffee

0:55:43.480 --> 0:55:46.480
<v Speaker 1>in the cup. Also ridiculous, But fine, we get it.

0:55:46.520 --> 0:55:49.040
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes we're vulnerable. Small things tip you over the edge. Yeah,

0:55:49.080 --> 0:55:51.640
<v Speaker 1>I was. It's all right, You're you're meant to feel,

0:55:51.680 --> 0:55:55.879
<v Speaker 1>You're allowed to feel. My sweet is actually I feel

0:55:55.920 --> 0:55:58.440
<v Speaker 1>like it's about to happen. Guys, I don't know if

0:55:58.480 --> 0:56:02.840
<v Speaker 1>you saw it's about Yeah, is this referring to Paradise

0:56:02.920 --> 0:56:04.640
<v Speaker 1>about to be on tv? Because this is the longest,

0:56:04.640 --> 0:56:07.120
<v Speaker 1>most drawn out thing I've ever ever experienced in my life.

0:56:07.160 --> 0:56:09.560
<v Speaker 1>You know what, I'm over it already. There's no bigger

0:56:09.600 --> 0:56:11.960
<v Speaker 1>example of who I am right now that you think

0:56:12.040 --> 0:56:13.840
<v Speaker 1>that I'm talking about paradise. But I'm thinking about the

0:56:13.880 --> 0:56:15.560
<v Speaker 1>slice of cake I'm about to eat from your fruit.

0:56:16.080 --> 0:56:19.439
<v Speaker 1>It's my sweet. That has also been a very drawn

0:56:19.480 --> 0:56:21.520
<v Speaker 1>out experience of brit She walked in here wanting cake

0:56:21.560 --> 0:56:23.080
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, get in the bedroom. We need

0:56:23.120 --> 0:56:26.719
<v Speaker 1>to record there your butt in the bedroom. All I said,

0:56:26.800 --> 0:56:28.760
<v Speaker 1>in a really sexy voice, like get in the bedroom.

0:56:28.960 --> 0:56:31.480
<v Speaker 1>All I've wanted a piece of cake and I'm so

0:56:31.560 --> 0:56:34.000
<v Speaker 1>excited by it and it's going to get me through

0:56:34.120 --> 0:56:37.719
<v Speaker 1>my days. What's yours? Okay, So my suck this week

0:56:37.960 --> 0:56:40.279
<v Speaker 1>is that Marley had to have her one year vaccinations,

0:56:40.320 --> 0:56:43.640
<v Speaker 1>which happened today. Most sweet is that I didn't have

0:56:43.680 --> 0:56:47.279
<v Speaker 1>to take did That's all right? He sacrificed you for

0:56:47.320 --> 0:56:49.239
<v Speaker 1>the COVID test last week. This is the least you

0:56:49.280 --> 0:56:51.680
<v Speaker 1>could do. This is true. He was the sacrificial lamb today.

0:56:51.680 --> 0:56:54.080
<v Speaker 1>So Marley had to go and have her Yeah, the

0:56:54.080 --> 0:56:57.080
<v Speaker 1>one year vaccinations, which, like, it's very important. I'm very

0:56:57.080 --> 0:56:59.080
<v Speaker 1>happy that she could have them. But for anyone who

0:56:59.160 --> 0:57:02.400
<v Speaker 1>has small kids who have been vaccinated, you know that

0:57:02.480 --> 0:57:05.840
<v Speaker 1>they are just not very happy. Little criticis afterwards, So

0:57:05.960 --> 0:57:09.000
<v Speaker 1>did she did she like scream the house down? Was sure? Well, Matt,

0:57:09.120 --> 0:57:10.719
<v Speaker 1>So Matt took her. I ended up having to go

0:57:10.719 --> 0:57:12.399
<v Speaker 1>into work, but Matt took her in and she said

0:57:12.400 --> 0:57:15.080
<v Speaker 1>that He said that she was a real trooper. But

0:57:15.120 --> 0:57:16.560
<v Speaker 1>she was really upset when they did it, but then

0:57:16.600 --> 0:57:18.720
<v Speaker 1>she got over it pretty quickly. That's the thing about kids.

0:57:18.760 --> 0:57:21.600
<v Speaker 1>They have an attention span of a fish, and something

0:57:21.640 --> 0:57:23.480
<v Speaker 1>that makes them upset, they're over it in like two

0:57:23.520 --> 0:57:25.360
<v Speaker 1>seconds flat. Well, yeah, it'd just be the shock for

0:57:25.360 --> 0:57:28.280
<v Speaker 1>two seconds and then yeah, and then yeah, she'd like

0:57:28.320 --> 0:57:30.960
<v Speaker 1>the trauma of being pinned down. Why someone literally pins

0:57:31.000 --> 0:57:34.439
<v Speaker 1>you down? And I don't know, but she just had

0:57:34.480 --> 0:57:36.920
<v Speaker 1>like they get like a bit of a fever afterwards

0:57:36.920 --> 0:57:38.320
<v Speaker 1>and they feel a bit sick. So she's been a

0:57:38.360 --> 0:57:40.600
<v Speaker 1>bit shitty today and a bit sad. So I know

0:57:40.680 --> 0:57:42.240
<v Speaker 1>that I'm in for a bad night sleep tonight. So

0:57:42.320 --> 0:57:45.360
<v Speaker 1>that's my suck. My sweet is that it was her birthday.

0:57:45.480 --> 0:57:48.040
<v Speaker 1>It was her birthday party, and it was so cute

0:57:48.120 --> 0:57:50.280
<v Speaker 1>and it was really really small, like we just had

0:57:50.320 --> 0:57:53.760
<v Speaker 1>like my family, my sister and her little boy and

0:57:53.880 --> 0:57:56.680
<v Speaker 1>my like Matt's sister and brother, and like, it was

0:57:56.800 --> 0:57:59.760
<v Speaker 1>just so nice to have everyone together and all the kids,

0:57:59.800 --> 0:58:02.520
<v Speaker 1>and oh made me feel like such a parent. I

0:58:02.560 --> 0:58:05.120
<v Speaker 1>still can't. I just still can't believe she's one. It's

0:58:05.160 --> 0:58:07.240
<v Speaker 1>just mind blowing. I can't believe we've been doing this

0:58:07.280 --> 0:58:11.000
<v Speaker 1>podcast for so long. I also, guys, cannot believe that

0:58:11.080 --> 0:58:13.760
<v Speaker 1>we have almost hit two a million. Oh my god,

0:58:13.760 --> 0:58:16.840
<v Speaker 1>can you believe how quickly that has happened. It's crazy.

0:58:17.000 --> 0:58:20.200
<v Speaker 1>It has rolled around so fast. So since February we

0:58:20.240 --> 0:58:23.200
<v Speaker 1>would have done two million. We're gonna go out. We're

0:58:23.200 --> 0:58:25.960
<v Speaker 1>going to celebrate two million. Thank you to everybody who

0:58:26.000 --> 0:58:28.080
<v Speaker 1>has been listening to the podcast. Thank you to everybody

0:58:28.120 --> 0:58:30.320
<v Speaker 1>who has supported us from day dot, and to every

0:58:30.320 --> 0:58:33.280
<v Speaker 1>single person who sends us messages and reviews and just

0:58:33.400 --> 0:58:36.160
<v Speaker 1>tells us what a difference this podcast has made in

0:58:36.200 --> 0:58:37.920
<v Speaker 1>their life. Means so much to us, and we know

0:58:38.000 --> 0:58:40.480
<v Speaker 1>that it's made a difference to you because you tell us.

0:58:41.120 --> 0:58:43.960
<v Speaker 1>And can you guys imagine Laura's actual two million speech

0:58:44.000 --> 0:58:48.280
<v Speaker 1>If this is the Walmart She's getting aulterary and I'm like, babe,

0:58:48.320 --> 0:58:51.440
<v Speaker 1>we're not even there yet. No, but the part of

0:58:51.480 --> 0:58:53.320
<v Speaker 1>this is like doing the thing that has made us

0:58:53.440 --> 0:58:55.840
<v Speaker 1>keep on doing this podcast week in and week out

0:58:55.840 --> 0:58:59.200
<v Speaker 1>for the past year. Like we've done this through brit

0:58:59.320 --> 0:59:02.480
<v Speaker 1>having crazy work schedules. We've done this through me giving

0:59:02.520 --> 0:59:05.880
<v Speaker 1>birth and having a baby, done it and surving last

0:59:05.960 --> 0:59:08.600
<v Speaker 1>year of our yeah, surviving the first year of parenting,

0:59:08.840 --> 0:59:11.600
<v Speaker 1>through you doing another reality TV show. I've had some big,

0:59:11.720 --> 0:59:15.200
<v Speaker 1>big life events in this time, and you, Laura, have

0:59:15.200 --> 0:59:17.600
<v Speaker 1>shown up every week. Look now I'm getting emotional that

0:59:17.680 --> 0:59:20.000
<v Speaker 1>the reason why we do it is because so many

0:59:20.080 --> 0:59:22.720
<v Speaker 1>of you have message to say what a difference it

0:59:22.760 --> 0:59:25.040
<v Speaker 1>has made to your life, especially to some of you

0:59:25.040 --> 0:59:27.320
<v Speaker 1>who've gone through breakups or we've gone through some difficult

0:59:27.360 --> 0:59:29.840
<v Speaker 1>times in your relationships, and that to us means the

0:59:29.840 --> 0:59:31.640
<v Speaker 1>world and that is the only reason why we keep

0:59:31.640 --> 0:59:33.200
<v Speaker 1>doing it every week, and because we have so much

0:59:33.200 --> 0:59:35.840
<v Speaker 1>fun doing it as well. Yeah, the end, guys's definitely

0:59:35.880 --> 0:59:40.760
<v Speaker 1>not the dollar value. On that note, if you have

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