Speaker 1: Cute flex and frooms getting near it.
Speaker 2: It's on the tip of my tongue though, cutting grass
Speaker 2: and a bit of.
Speaker 1: Flex and from.
Speaker 3: Whitty Pies and everybody else. We are on holidays. These
Speaker 3: girls do need breaks. It's actually like a legal requirement.
Speaker 3: But we thought we couldn't leave you high end. I
Speaker 3: would never do that because we have a commitment to you.
Speaker 3: And so here is a little sweet bone. If before
Speaker 3: you hope you love and if you do share it,
Speaker 3: why are you gatekeeping on? Tell your friends and tell
Speaker 3: a friend, please please, mister Deeley.
Speaker 2: This is flex and Frooms on kit. So last week
Speaker 2: I received a DM. Somebody slid in, a little cheeky one,
Speaker 2: a cheeky DM from a man. Yes, very presumptuous, but
Speaker 2: he slid in saying, oh, just give you a bit
Speaker 2: of context. Yeah. So I didn't know who he was,
Speaker 2: but I clicked on his profile because his little avatar
Speaker 2: was like quite attractive. And it turns out that he
Speaker 2: is an ex Survivor star. Oh I've never watched the show, okay,
Speaker 2: but like we get it, we get to watch the
Speaker 2: viver to know. So he slides into my DMS saying,
Speaker 2: you're funny at times.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's worse than I thought.
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 1: I thought?
Speaker 3: You said you're kind of funny? Sometimes you're funny at times?
Speaker 2: I yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, pistuff. I'm feeling anger in
Speaker 2: my loins at this.
Speaker 3: Because now I want the I don't want the feedback,
Speaker 3: but like, what's not clicking?
Speaker 2: You know, like what didn't hit?
Speaker 3: What didn't land? Which bit fell fell dry?
Speaker 2: Is it the shred content? Is it a bit too Weirdeah?
Speaker 2: Are we going more for the skits like I need?
Speaker 3: And also funny compared to what? What's your humor? Mister
Speaker 3: stranger aside from what he's come in with? How do
Speaker 3: you feel about a cheeky DM slide? I feel like
Speaker 3: I don't respond well to compliments coming from straight men
Speaker 3: because I worry about their taste sometimes. Oh do you know,
Speaker 3: like there's that meme that says that if you ever
Speaker 3: give your opinion on the internet and a bunch of
Speaker 3: straight guys agree with you, you've given the wrong one.
Speaker 3: You've given the wrong one. It's not the correct one.
Speaker 3: You gotta read them, you know.
Speaker 1: That's what it feels like sometimes, and of course there
Speaker 1: are exceptions.
Speaker 2: Well, my approach to getting dms can't say it's ever worked,
Speaker 2: but we'll say the ego boost don't appreciated.
Speaker 1: Keep sliding in because it could be your turn next.
Speaker 2: In this instance, let's call him James. We've decided that
Speaker 2: there's only one way to reply to this slid in.
Speaker 2: He said, you're funny at times, it's jog behavior. So
Speaker 2: you have suggested that we send him barks a.
Speaker 3: Voice memor of us barking at him that is as
Speaker 3: sensical as what he sent.
Speaker 1: All right, should I go first? Okay, We're give him
Speaker 1: two tracks? Two tracks?
Speaker 2: Okay, any tips?
Speaker 1: Just go with your heart.
Speaker 3: Wait, go with your godby okay, yeah, alright.
Speaker 2: Not too much.
Speaker 1: I need to do to back yourself bad? Okay, hold
Speaker 1: on here.
Speaker 2: All right? Earth?
Speaker 1: Oh nah, again it sounds him.
Speaker 4: Let me do.
Speaker 3: It all right, center, Thank you. It's gonna give him
Speaker 3: so k.
Speaker 1: I'm comfortable with that.
Speaker 3: This is literally the grown up equivalent of sitting in
Speaker 3: a circle at lunchtime in year eleven, getting all your
Speaker 3: friends to co sign the text you send the guy
Speaker 3: who literally wouldn't care if you lived or died, and
Speaker 3: you're like, do I do one emoji? Two emojis?
Speaker 1: He don't know if you exist.
Speaker 2: Now. I want you to imagine this, and if you're listening,
Speaker 2: I would like you to do the same. Deep breath
Speaker 2: in as I say, and out through the nose.
Speaker 1: Did a bullet? Come on, Brookie?
Speaker 3: You went in through the mouth, out through the mouth,
Speaker 3: through the through the mouth.
Speaker 2: Into the microphone. All right, close your eyes now, if
Speaker 2: you're driving, do not close your eyes. You you've just
Speaker 2: broken up with your boyfriend, but you are still on
Speaker 2: good terms. He still has the keys to the apartment.
Speaker 2: It's a nightmare. He still has the keys to the
Speaker 2: apartment you shared and messages you if he can come
Speaker 2: over and grab some stuff while you're out. You think
Speaker 2: nothing of it and say yeah, sure. Minutes later you
Speaker 2: remember you had a guy over the night before and
Speaker 2: left dong nom. You know what that means, wrappers on
Speaker 2: the bench right next to where he needed to get
Speaker 2: his stuff.
Speaker 1: I love the way practicing safety, though.
Speaker 2: Yeah, do you need to give him a heads up
Speaker 2: and potentially make it work or say nothing? Let him
Speaker 2: see it and wait to see if he brings it
Speaker 2: up with you. Just let that sink in.
Speaker 3: That is literally so scary to me, you know, it's
Speaker 3: so crazy. I used to be the kind of person
Speaker 3: who'd be like, you can definitely be friends with your ex.
Speaker 3: But that was in my narcissist era, where I couldn't
Speaker 3: stand that somebody who loved me would now hate me,
Speaker 3: So in like a manipulative thing, I would maintain this
Speaker 3: air of like mutual joviality. We're like friends and we're friendly,
Speaker 3: and you still love me, which is terrifying because realistically,
Speaker 3: what gets you to a breakup is someone's bad behavior,
Speaker 3: a lack of reciprocity, or in some way shape of
Speaker 3: form eroded trust, eroded care. These things are not fundamental
Speaker 3: or like. These things are not are not like, they're
Speaker 3: not the formula for a good relationship. I also think
Speaker 3: that like maintaining a good relationship with your ex is
Speaker 3: very confusing because humans and have the capacity to like
Speaker 3: hold to incompatible things and understand them both. Like in
Speaker 3: your head, you're compartmentalizing in a way that's not healthy
Speaker 3: for you and often beneficial for the other person. So
Speaker 3: all those times where I was like I'm just gonna
Speaker 3: be friendly, I'm gonna be friendly, you know what I
Speaker 3: was doing hurting them? I was hurting myself number one,
Speaker 3: because I was denying that I wasn't actually in a
Speaker 3: good place to like be nice to you, Like I
Speaker 3: don't feel good about this, so expressing my emotions number one.
Speaker 1: Number two, I.
Speaker 3: Was like prioritizing the way it looked as opposed to
Speaker 3: the reality of what it was. And I was forcing
Speaker 3: myself to choose and decide how everything had to felt
Speaker 3: in the now, as opposed to letting things just be
Speaker 3: awkward for a bit, like letting things just be like
Speaker 3: awkward whatever, like existing that no man let know what's
Speaker 3: it called no man's land territory, Like.
Speaker 1: It's not nothing, but it wasn't what it was. Since
Speaker 1: we figure out what it is, things just need to
Speaker 1: be awkward.
Speaker 3: I will say, though, seeing the miscellaneous rappers from the
Speaker 3: night before is punishment for being too comfortable in the dynamic.
Speaker 3: Why are you do it in a batch? You get
Speaker 3: two batches in and out facts, one for the things
Speaker 3: you can put into your car, the other for the
Speaker 3: removal list.
Speaker 2: If like, oh, it's so awful, isn't it? I just
Speaker 2: heard everything about it? You know what I want to say?
Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, no no, no, Let's.
Speaker 1: Just stop breaking up.
Speaker 3: Let's just continue to date everyone we've ever dated before,
Speaker 3: or knock them off, cre create a web. You know
Speaker 3: it's like will always be because you know, like the
Speaker 3: thing I don't like about an X, the word makes
Speaker 3: you feel like you're not connected. But the reality is
Speaker 3: you are connected forever are you. You're my ex, I'm
Speaker 3: your ex. Whether or not we ever have content, whether
Speaker 3: or not we ever have contact in the future, what
Speaker 3: I experience with you affects my life forever. What you
Speaker 3: experienced with me affects my life forever, vice versa right.
Speaker 3: So for that reason, I don't need some kind of
Speaker 3: like not contact but acknowledgment of that. I don't like
Speaker 3: how you go from being like someone's every day to
Speaker 3: like nothing.
Speaker 1: Babes, I'm in your law.
Speaker 3: When someone opens the book of your life, babes, I'm
Speaker 3: chapters one through four.
Speaker 2: You can't even.
Speaker 1: Get to five through thirteen without going through me. First.
Speaker 1: White out is needed.
Speaker 3: So it's flex on Kit and this week we are
Speaker 3: making dreams come true.
Speaker 1: I swear to you. We surprised rooms.
Speaker 3: My special co host, she's one of her favorite people
Speaker 3: in the whole white world. Gavin Rubinstein from lux Listing, Sydney.
Speaker 3: We had her in the studio and when I tell
Speaker 3: you she squealed, was in hysterics, huffing, puffing.
Speaker 1: It was really quite beautiful.
Speaker 3: I think there was chemistry all round, and I think
Speaker 3: you want to pay attention and stay tuned so you
Speaker 3: can hear exactly how it went down.
Speaker 1: O God, this is phenomenal.
Speaker 3: Last week threw me over here, probably gave us a
Speaker 3: fifty minute monologue about how obsessed she is, not just
Speaker 3: lux listening, So it's not even about that, it's about you.
Speaker 4: I appreciate that, Thank you very much.
Speaker 1: She is freaking, I actually am.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I don't even get nervous. I forgot what it's like
Speaker 5: to be nervous.
Speaker 2: I know that I said that we both love Simon
Speaker 2: and Gavin flex big fans appreciate that. I said, I'm
Speaker 2: probably more of a Gavin.
Speaker 4: You better not have said you prefer Simon.
Speaker 3: I would never say that she's good, yeah cool.
Speaker 1: I would describe us both as like professional friends. You
Speaker 1: Simon and Dalene. What is the relationship there?
Speaker 5: It's a weird dynamic. So like Dleene and I have
Speaker 5: no real friendship at all. And that's true on a
Speaker 5: professional level. If we cross over, we cross over, but
Speaker 5: we don't have much of a professional relationship either, Simon,
Speaker 5: I have a good working relationship. We've got a good friendship.
Speaker 5: We don't always see eye to eye. You've got to remember,
Speaker 5: he's kind of representing the buyer. I'm representing the seller.
Speaker 5: He's trying to buy low. I'm trying to sell.
Speaker 1: High and enemies. Love story.
Speaker 4: I know about love story.
Speaker 3: It needs are direct quotes I'm getting from GAM's mouth
Speaker 3: modal enemies. Now, while we're here, I want to say
Speaker 3: thank you for extending your time to us.
Speaker 4: It's a pleasure even do it.
Speaker 1: If I have a full day. I'm not stopping for anyone. However,
Speaker 1: while you're here, a few rapid fire questions. I want
Speaker 1: to get to know you.
Speaker 3: Have you ever used a property you were selling for
Speaker 3: anything other than work purposes? Don't incriminate yourself, but if
Speaker 3: it's a yeah, okay, that's all we need.
Speaker 4: Cool.
Speaker 2: Who do you think is dirtier people that sell houses
Speaker 2: or people that sell cars?
Speaker 5: Depends both pretty much on the same level, right you
Speaker 5: know what? Really, I think the perception of used car
Speaker 5: salesmen and real estate agents from from a society perspective
Speaker 5: is they're pretty even. I do what I can to
Speaker 5: change that. Perspective. One guy is not going to change.
Speaker 5: I know there are a couple of other good agents
Speaker 5: who do three. Yeah, there's three or four out there.
Speaker 1: And I've got one last question. Do you have one?
Speaker 1: You go and I'll see probably the most important question
Speaker 1: I've asked, and I.
Speaker 2: Guess what it is. Of course, Burple far not at
Speaker 2: all bad, not at all.
Speaker 1: I'm using this time properly. I'm planning for the future.
Speaker 4: But yeah, just what were the kitchen? Was there? I
Speaker 4: thought i'd just answer it.
Speaker 3: Wow, would you rather be the first or last person
Speaker 3: to know about a zombie apocalypse?
Speaker 4: I want to be the first, because I want to plan.
Speaker 1: Were you planning for escape? We're going.
Speaker 5: I'll find a way. I'll find a place. Got resources,
Speaker 5: use them. There's always a way, There's always a way.
Speaker 1: Man is overrun.
Speaker 4: There is always a way. Am I am?
Speaker 2: I am I the asshole?
Speaker 1: I said.
Speaker 3: One of my twenty twenty three outs was respectability politics,
Speaker 3: and that you know a lot of us find us
Speaker 3: shackled by the idea that we have to say things
Speaker 3: in the right way to be heard or the polite way,
Speaker 3: and I'm just over it. This year, I'm getting really
Speaker 3: annoyed because I feel like we spent the last five
Speaker 3: years learning how to critically think like unpacked stuff, become smarter,
Speaker 3: and yet we keep asking ourselves really silly questions or
Speaker 3: ones that don't need this much thought at all. This
Speaker 3: am I the asshole in particular? No shade to the author,
Speaker 3: but I just feel like, is this what we need
Speaker 3: to be thinking about on a day to day.
Speaker 2: And yet you're hooked?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Here, I am the problem? I am what do
Speaker 1: you call it a.
Speaker 3: Problem? Am I the arsehole for buying a gift cards
Speaker 3: a birthday gift? Off the top OFFT No, No, we'll see.
Speaker 3: So am I the asshole for buying my mother in
Speaker 3: law a gift card for her birthday? It was a
Speaker 3: marvelous night, lots of fun until she opened my present
Speaker 3: and everyone stared at me with effing, flaming daggers. Mother
Speaker 3: in law had no issue at all, or she's a
Speaker 3: very talented actress using her best smile. My significant other
Speaker 3: significant other thinks I'm the asshole because I'm supposed to
Speaker 3: give someone an actual gift on their birthday, which I
Speaker 3: did a Nike gift card for seventy five dollars to
Speaker 3: buy workout clothes from her favorite brand. I feel I'm
Speaker 3: not the asshole for the simple fact that my gift
Speaker 3: had thought and value. Meanwhile, there were some very heavy
Speaker 3: hidden gifts jewelry, expensive shoes, Bloomingdale clothes, etc. And I
Speaker 3: can't even afford more than seventy five dollars without breaking
Speaker 3: Christmas budget or you know, paying my rent. Am I
Speaker 3: the crazy one here?
Speaker 1: Please?
Speaker 3: I know I'm already conflicted about the situation. I felt
Speaker 3: bad enough that the rest of the night I hit
Speaker 3: in the bathroom because.
Speaker 1: Of the food. It was not the food that is
Speaker 1: the real issue. It was not the food. You know.
Speaker 3: That one is a little bit more complex because gifting culture,
Speaker 3: much like tipping culture, a lot of unspoken rules, a
Speaker 3: not a lot of like middle ground at all. Do
Speaker 3: not say too much, miss and not.
Speaker 2: This is just a horrible, horrible situation on behalf of
Speaker 2: everybody but this woman first and foremost. Am I ever
Speaker 2: going to be getting my mother in law as seventy
Speaker 2: five dollars gift card? No? Sorry, gift full stop? Absolutely not?
Speaker 1: Oh never.
Speaker 2: I think there's either under fifty or if it's like
Speaker 2: the first birthday with your partner or like your parents,
Speaker 2: you do in the upper hundreds. Okay, seventy five is
Speaker 2: the weirdest amount, so.
Speaker 1: It's the number amount that's really got it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it has seventy five dollars, Like, how did you
Speaker 2: think about it? You may as well just have done
Speaker 2: like sixty two or something. I will say it's very thoughtful.
Speaker 2: Nike is her favorite brand, and sports where is something
Speaker 2: that's very particular. I don't want someone going out and
Speaker 2: buying me a pair of short It's like a very
Speaker 2: specific type. I personally have nothing against gift cards.
Speaker 3: Who started anti gift card propaganda because I think a
Speaker 3: few people have Number one, overestimated their importance to assume
Speaker 3: that I have enough time, space energy to go out
Speaker 3: and find you a physical gift.
Speaker 1: When you can do that in your own time, it's
Speaker 1: your gift.
Speaker 3: ME providing the resources for you to get exactly what
Speaker 3: you want feels like the most thoughtful thing to do.
Speaker 2: Now as an adult, I realize why people think that
Speaker 2: it's rude to get gift cards, because I understand how
Speaker 2: hard it is to make time to get gifts. If
Speaker 2: that makes sense. Yes, I used to never think it was.
Speaker 2: I didn't think there was anything difference between going out
Speaker 2: and getting a gift card and buying something in terms
Speaker 2: of like the labor, I will say there.
Speaker 3: Is a difference, Like, if there's anyone in my life
Speaker 3: who's important enough to me that warrants a gift or
Speaker 3: expects a gift, I will do the due diligence and
Speaker 3: go out and get them a gift.
Speaker 1: Right, But a mother in law is a very.
Speaker 3: Specific niche of gift giving, like I don't really know
Speaker 3: you like that.
Speaker 1: I might know of you, so I feel like a gift.
Speaker 3: But to be honest, I would go to like six
Speaker 3: No six, a diptyque candle and call it a day.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna know, say the hand crem a hand crem
Speaker 2: pack from where just a body shop number. Okay, we're
Speaker 2: not we're not.
Speaker 1: Doctoring, built different, different, and that's okay.
Speaker 2: Mother in law is specifically with the awkwardest. Actually, a
Speaker 2: father in law might be awkward as well.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm not getting him a gift.
Speaker 2: I got my ex's sister a we're doing siblings.
Speaker 1: It was yeah.
Speaker 2: I was like, meant to go up and see it.
Speaker 2: We ended up like breaking up. I already got in
Speaker 2: the present, but then we broke up. But I got
Speaker 2: to like a Mason Balzac, like the carafe and the
Speaker 2: class moment before it was very popular, mind you, okay,
Speaker 2: just saying tastemaker. So yeah, but never met her actually either,
Speaker 2: So just be careful.
Speaker 1: You were doing too much.
Speaker 2: I was doing a lot.
Speaker 1: That's okay, that's okay.
Speaker 2: I went out in style.
Speaker 1: How many times do I have to tell you?
Speaker 2: Honey?
Speaker 1: Are you sing?
Speaker 5: Karen?
Speaker 4: If you want to the life of a character, character.
Speaker 2: Flex see that day I went to go get myself
Speaker 2: a juice. Do you use beverage or perhaps a smoothie?
Speaker 2: We will keep that under wraps because what I'm about
Speaker 2: to say is potentially incriminating. I want to go get
Speaker 2: myself a juice. I'm starving. I'm a ravenous in the morning.
Speaker 2: Need my juice now, bitty kneed juice. The chick takes
Speaker 2: my order up at the cash register. Gloves on, yep,
Speaker 2: that'd be thirteen dollars and ninety five cents. Why are
Speaker 2: her fingers tapping the phone? Why her fingers tapping the
Speaker 2: f bos machine? I thought, you know what, maybe she'll
Speaker 2: take the gloves off and then go and make the smoothie.
Speaker 2: Why does she then go touching the cash register? All
Speaker 2: the way back to grab the banana, grab the protein,
Speaker 2: put it into the thing, put the lid on it,
Speaker 2: give it to me.
Speaker 1: Hold on a second.
Speaker 3: If the gloves are clean, So you're saying it's bad
Speaker 3: food safety preus.
Speaker 2: That is food safety braxis one oh one. And what
Speaker 2: not to do is use the gloves on the cash
Speaker 2: register into making me my premium large smoothie juice.
Speaker 3: So what you're advocating for is that she take this
Speaker 3: single use plastic off before she make you your smoothie.
Speaker 2: Like, yeah, I actually would. I don't want to get.
Speaker 3: Well, no gloves for the registered gloves on for the
Speaker 3: for the food prem What.
Speaker 2: I would mostly prefer if we're thinking about plastic use
Speaker 2: tippity tappity, go wash your hands, give it a thirty
Speaker 2: second wash, make the juice. Then again, dermatitis. Stick yourself.
Speaker 2: I have dermatitis because I'm that clean. I'm serious, guys,
Speaker 2: Look at the dermatitis that's giving Clean Girl Era.
Speaker 1: Clean Girl Era hand is falling off Clean Girl Era.
Speaker 2: But seriously, I have a problem with this. I drank
Speaker 2: it anyway, as I said, I was starving ravenous, and
Speaker 2: I thought I'm ravenous. I'm not going to be grumpy
Speaker 2: about this. I just took my juice.
Speaker 1: What would it take for you to say something?
Speaker 2: I have exited my Karen in public era for multiple reasons.
Speaker 1: For the optics.
Speaker 2: Oh, purely optics. I feel everything inside. It hasn't gone away.
Speaker 2: I didn't say anything. I had told you the time
Speaker 2: about it. At the time I went to a sandwich
Speaker 2: artist establishment. This is about twenty years ago, so about
Speaker 2: twenty literally, he knew you were old. The chick tariachy chicken, okay,
Speaker 2: with the cheddar cheese. Why does she put it in
Speaker 2: the oven? Takes it out of the oven.
Speaker 3: It flips under her arm.
Speaker 2: Cheese and jeriachy chicken. I'm gonna arm.
Speaker 3: She's got a third degree burn, making you which you're
Speaker 3: about to complain?
Speaker 1: What will happen next? Flaps it back.
Speaker 2: I had to say something. I said, listen, did you
Speaker 2: took it away? I'm a school child, take it away?
Speaker 2: I better go back in. I said, I'm sorry, I
Speaker 2: need you, but dropped in your arm? Be serious, serious?
Speaker 2: What's your arm? There's hair on the arm. There's a
Speaker 2: hair on her arm, like it was one of the
Speaker 2: would like that's a core memory. What I mean still
Speaker 2: think about it twenty years on that serious, guys, you
Speaker 2: weren't joking about twenty years too.
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