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Speaker 1: New Jersey and Amanda jam Nation Double a Chattery. I

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Speaker 1: dropped yesterday, it dropped baby and this episode this is

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Speaker 1: a podcast I do with my friend Anita McGregor. She's

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Speaker 1: a forensic psychologist, so she has an interesting sort of

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Speaker 1: spin on life and a great Canadian lit she does.

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Speaker 1: And we're looking at kind of new beginnings because she

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Speaker 1: runs the forensic psychology department at a university, so a

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Speaker 1: whole lot of new students are coming in. My son

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Speaker 1: is studying a postgrad course, so new beginnings for a

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Speaker 1: lot of students and people. And she said there was

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Speaker 1: some advice that she wished she'd taken when she was

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Speaker 1: starting out, which is kind of don't go in too

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Speaker 1: early to the room, be early, but not too early.

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Speaker 1: Sit next to someone and strike up a conversation. She said,

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Speaker 1: think about who you want to be, who what the

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Speaker 1: perception of you will be, and rise to that when

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Speaker 1: you're starting a new beginning, she said, even she even

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Speaker 1: does that now when she goes into a social situation

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Speaker 1: she's not sure of, or a work situation. How do

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Speaker 1: you want to be perceived? Give it some thought, particularly

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Speaker 1: when you're starting something news. So what's the ultimate thing

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Speaker 1: to do when you go into us. Well, that's it,

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Speaker 1: she said. If you have you know she would, but

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Speaker 1: no one wants to hear this advice. And with all

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Speaker 1: her clients, and as a forensic psychologist she works with

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Speaker 1: people who are in front of the courts, so they

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Speaker 1: commit fruit cakes. There'd be some stories, absolutely, and she

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Speaker 1: said a lot of them said I wish I'd done

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Speaker 1: this all that, And she said, be honest, would you

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Speaker 1: ever have taken that advice then? And they will go no,

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Speaker 1: we're all the same, So free yourself up from that.

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Speaker 1: No one is ever going to take that advice, but

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Speaker 1: don't you wish you did? So? As adults, now maybe

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Speaker 1: we can take that advice to be friendly, be open,

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Speaker 1: ask questions of the person who's sitting next to because

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Speaker 1: you and I know this, people have lost the art

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Speaker 1: of that. I sometimes at an event that we go

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Speaker 1: to or a charity or whatever, you find yourself interviewing

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Speaker 1: the people next to you because you get nothing back.

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Speaker 1: You ask a question and no one talks back. No

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Speaker 1: one asks you anything back. I know a friend who

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Speaker 1: says that they give three questions and if they don't

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Speaker 1: get a question back, they turn from that person and

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Speaker 1: either talk to the person likes them, or they think, well,

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Speaker 1: I've done my bit now, because A not saying interesting

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Speaker 1: people are interested. Curiosity is such an attractive quality, and

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Speaker 1: we've all lost the art of that. You're into the

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Speaker 1: room and go what's up? Then I wish I'd brought

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Speaker 1: my taser. Anyways, lots of interesting stuff's being discussed today.

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Speaker 1: Double a Chattery you get it wherever you get your podcasts,

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