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Speaker 1: I'm my own man, I'm an independent boy. A minute,

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Speaker 1: let's just go back one second. What do you like?

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Speaker 1: What do you like to do? What do I like

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Speaker 1: I like that for you? I like food. Do you

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Speaker 1: like your beard? Matt Now it was too witchy? Okay,

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Speaker 1: Laura memories say that. Welcome back to two notting dads,

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Speaker 1: I and Mattie J. And I'm ash And this is

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Speaker 1: a podcast all about parenting. It is the good, it

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Speaker 1: a podcast where you get advice. Absolutely not. We might

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Speaker 1: is getting a bit hot in here, isn't it? It is?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just like a it's just your thing and

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Speaker 2: I've just got a different view of what's happening. Unless

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Speaker 2: No, dude, I'm early thirty, thirty four and a half.

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Speaker 2: I can't say how long it's been since I've had

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Speaker 2: She was like, look, have you not been exercising lately?

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Speaker 1: No, come on, but she's doing great, really good, she

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Speaker 2: They're tiles that look like wallpaper. I like the green,

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Speaker 1: The green. It's beige, but that's fine.

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Speaker 2: my style, but I really appreciate it. Looks fun and

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Speaker 1: the retail. Good luck with the retail much more. And

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00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:13,399
Speaker 1: I was like, you have to pry the keys out

432
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:15,520
Speaker 1: of my cold dead hands. This is for you and

433
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:18,359
Speaker 1: your family to enjoy. People can get someone a lot

434
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:21,680
Speaker 1: of money for the house. You wouldn't be able to

435
00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 1: pay me to shue in there.

436
00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:24,359
Speaker 2: It's like you should invite that guy over, give me

437
00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 2: a shit load of laxities, and then lock the fucking

438
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:29,119
Speaker 2: bathery door. There you go.

439
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:32,760
Speaker 1: You've got to pay me. Fuck It's been a rollercoaster

440
00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:37,520
Speaker 1: of emotions, Ash.

441
00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,760
Speaker 2: I've been doing a lot of work on myself. As

442
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:38,560
Speaker 2: we spoke about with.

443
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:42,199
Speaker 1: H once again, you should be commended, thank you, and

444
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:43,600
Speaker 1: I do need it.

445
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:47,720
Speaker 2: But with that becomes a lot of flashbacks, a lot

446
00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:50,800
Speaker 2: of memories, and we have the memory about the quantus,

447
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:54,280
Speaker 2: which I've never fully recovered. I actually went to an

448
00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 2: art gallery with a guy who sat next to me

449
00:21:56,920 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 2: in that exact classroom where that happened. But that's not

450
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:04,119
Speaker 2: the story. The story is that I went to a

451
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:07,280
Speaker 2: gallery which very out of the ordinary for me, but

452
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,680
Speaker 2: local artist was having an opening and I thought I'll

453
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:11,360
Speaker 2: be doing the right thing, and I'll go you've.

454
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 1: Changed, thank you, I've changed in like a week. That's great.

455
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 1: That's what I could do with a decent amount of time.

456
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 1: I went to the theater. I went to the theater

457
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 1: with we watched some ballet. Gallery afterwards.

458
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,160
Speaker 2: I actually went to a night girl and they got

459
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:28,720
Speaker 2: you faced afterwards, So it doesn't matter they had they

460
00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 2: had a margarita bar. But it got me thinking about

461
00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 2: galleries and the last time I was at a gallery,

462
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 2: which happened to me when I was a child. My

463
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 2: dad used to be a sales rep. We lived in

464
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:44,880
Speaker 2: Sydney at the time. He was all about networking because

465
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:46,920
Speaker 2: there was no social media. It was about going out

466
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 2: a meeting people. He got one of his friends that

467
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:53,359
Speaker 2: he worked with. Their partner was an artist, and invited

468
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 2: all of us to this gallery. Mind you, two kids, mom, dad,

469
00:22:58,119 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 2: four of us.

470
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 1: You all went. We all went. It was like a weekend. Well,

471
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 1: I was probably more like we brought kids to an

472
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 1: art gallery. I didn't bring kids.

473
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 2: My dad brang the kids because I don't think they

474
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 2: I think we were too young to just leave us

475
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,840
Speaker 2: and they probably didn't have anyone to look after us.

476
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 1: So we all went. It was Sorry. I'm so sorry.

477
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:18,679
Speaker 1: I thought you're talking about when you went to the gallery.

478
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 1: This is when you were a kid. Are you not

479
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:22,920
Speaker 1: listening to my I was not listening. I'll be honest, Well,

480
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:26,159
Speaker 1: listen to shoe on the other foot. I'm usually I'm

481
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 1: the one who can't listen. Sorry, let me start again.

482
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 1: Then I can't keep up with him now that you're

483
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:33,679
Speaker 1: on medications.

484
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:38,360
Speaker 2: Sorry, I told you my brain power today is unbelievable.

485
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 2: I Telly potted here, exhausted, like I need to go

486
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:46,080
Speaker 2: to Matt's house. I'm here, mom, dad, me and my sister.

487
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:50,080
Speaker 2: How old I would have been, maybe like eight or nine? Great,

488
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,359
Speaker 2: my sister's a little bit older than me, like same

489
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 2: age as you, thirty forty five and.

490
00:23:57,200 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: Giggled myself. Sorry, I just couldn't help yourself. I couldn't

491
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 1: help myself. Sorry, I'm sorry, I'm really sorry. And anyway,

492
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:11,640
Speaker 1: so we went to this gallery on a weekend.

493
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 2: It was what I recall, it was beautiful, but in

494
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 2: the middle of this gallery, in the middle of Surrey.

495
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,680
Speaker 1: Hills, and we know what Surry Hills like, it's quite

496
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:25,119
Speaker 1: a fancy who say fancy? I don't know a niche suburb.

497
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 1: Let's say it's a niche suburb. There's a lot party.

498
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,040
Speaker 1: Thank you, you said, let me go after him, not me,

499
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 1: and we all went that.

500
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 2: There was a centerpiece, okay, and it was I remember

501
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 2: it was like glass, dish looking things stacked up nicely,

502
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 2: similar color to that light actually.

503
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:45,960
Speaker 1: Green for thoseg.

504
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 2: And next to it was a book that you would

505
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 2: write your thoughts on the piece. It was like the

506
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 2: main centerpiece for the whole gallery, like.

507
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 1: When you check out. It was the centerpiece to the

508
00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:00,199
Speaker 1: whole event. Who the fuck is writing in books? Being

509
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 1: like the art was great?

510
00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 2: Well, I'll tell you was mister Wayne Wicks, who happened

511
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 2: to be my father. And I am at this point,

512
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:08,240
Speaker 2: I'm out the front of the gallery with my sister,

513
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 2: real fucking bored as you would be as kids, and

514
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 2: I hear a commotion followed by a lot of glass smashing.

515
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 2: What's happened is my dad was writing in the book

516
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:23,879
Speaker 2: and he had his sleeve rolled up to hear he

517
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:27,360
Speaker 2: was writing in the book, and his sleeve brushed one

518
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 2: of the glass pieces of the centerpiece of art, and

519
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 2: I didn't know it was dad at this time. It

520
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:41,159
Speaker 2: has smashed all over the polished concrete floor everywhere, and

521
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:42,919
Speaker 2: I looked at my sister and I was like, I

522
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:46,640
Speaker 2: hope that's not Dad. And I've walked in and I've

523
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,119
Speaker 2: never seen this look on my father's face, and I'll

524
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 2: never forget it. It is burned in my brain. I

525
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,639
Speaker 2: remember he was holding his hand like this because he

526
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:57,120
Speaker 2: was so embarrassed about it.

527
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:58,160
Speaker 1: Like this.

528
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 2: The place was fucking sil You could hear a pin drop.

529
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 2: There's glass all over the floor. My dad's face is

530
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:09,480
Speaker 2: bright red and he's sitting there like the remember this specifically,

531
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 2: and he was just he was just like a hand

532
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 2: over the other hand, like.

533
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: He's shaking his own hand again, like what have I done?

534
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 1: What have I done? Ninety thousand dollars this thing? Ninety thousand,

535
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 1: ninety thousand, that's how much it was to buy it.

536
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 1: Oh my fucking god.

537
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 2: It is dead silent in this gallery, Like I said, drop.

538
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: Thankfully Dad knew the partner of the artist and it

539
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 2: happened to be on that day a replica, but we

540
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:51,000
Speaker 2: didn't know that at first. We didn't know going into it.

541
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 2: He thinks off uk and my mom's like off fuck,

542
00:26:56,840 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 2: and we're all like, holy shit, that's what it was

543
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:04,640
Speaker 2: like anyway, So thankfully they were like after the commotion

544
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 2: and clean up and we we pretty much had to leave,

545
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 2: like you can't sit there and Harry. And the worst

546
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 2: part about it was because we we weren't a well

547
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 2: off family, we we took that that invited a day

548
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 2: for maybe a day in the city with the family

549
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 2: asked for we had a The worst part about it

550
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 2: is we had a lunch booked the four of us

551
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 2: to go to a really old traditional Italian restaurant that

552
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 2: was you know it was. It was a chaotic sort

553
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 2: of style restaurant. Anyway, I remember we all went and.

554
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: Not a fucking word was spoken. And did your dad

555
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: write in the book at the end or I think

556
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: he didn't get to finish what he was writing. I

557
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:48,959
Speaker 1: really loved the piece.

558
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:51,679
Speaker 2: Sorry about the mess, which it wasn't made out of glass,

559
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:58,679
Speaker 2: But I remember sitting at this restaurant completely silent for

560
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 2: what felt like a life time, and then having drive

561
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 2: it all the way back to all the beaches, and

562
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 2: it's safe to say both my dad and I had

563
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 2: not This is the first time I've been back in an.

564
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:13,120
Speaker 1: Art gallery and that was twenty something. Did you break

565
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: anything out of principle. Yes.

566
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 2: I was talking to the director of the gallery, like

567
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 2: just in conversation, and I told her the story and

568
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 2: she said to me, you need to close the circle.

569
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 1: It's like, what what do you mean?

570
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:29,239
Speaker 2: Do you want to You want me to smash something up?

571
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:31,640
Speaker 2: But she's no, no, no, just don't smash anything up.

572
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 2: And when you finish, you leave without making a man.

573
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 1: He's just walking around holding your hands closed it so

574
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 1: but the guy I was with Cam was like, look

575
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: at this artwork. I don't look at it. My fault.

576
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 2: Anyway, they had a margarita bar, so that really took

577
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 2: the edge off. And then I smashed up everything and

578
00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 2: I left and.

579
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 1: I left without smashing anything.

580
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 2: But I did find myself like having one of those

581
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 2: moments where I was like, oh.

582
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 1: Has this circle been closed? Yeah? Wait, that was the

583
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 1: most unsure. Yeah, it's like, did you fucking break anything? On? Well,

584
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 1: the circle's close circles class? Did you break the circle?

585
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 2: I did take a way up against the fans out

586
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 2: of the bag when I left, as long as no

587
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 2: art was damaged in the process.

588
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was duck. So I'm not sure an all good,

589
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 1: well done, Thank you? Have you seen what chapel Ron

590
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 1: has said about parents. No, for anyone who is not familiar,

591
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 1: we're going to play it for you now and ash

592
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 1: it'll refresh our memories. This is what chapel has said

593
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 1: about parents slash kids. All of my friends who have

594
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: kids are in health.

595
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 2: I actually don't know anyone who's like happy and has

596
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 2: children at this age.

597
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: Anyone who has like light in their eyes, anyone who.

598
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 3: Has who has slept? Do they think this is all wild?

599
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 3: Like how famous you are and like all of it.

600
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 3: When they see articles about you orre they like calling

601
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 3: you up and be like Kaylie, what the fuck? Or

602
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 3: are they just like this is your life, bitch like

603
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 3: Texas when you want to come over.

604
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like they're just like their mothers, Like they're fucking

605
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 2: busy and they have jobs in life.

606
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 1: Like I am just their friend, you know what I mean?

607
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 3: Like they are so sweet and so supportive and come

608
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,480
Speaker 3: out to shows and like they have to get fucking

609
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 3: babysitters to come to my show.

610
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 1: First of all, she's shout on all her friends because

611
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 1: they have to get babysitters to come to shows.

612
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 2: They're in hell. That's your idea of hell. It's probably

613
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 2: not their idea of hell. Okay, firstly, that's my first point.

614
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 2: And then she was like, but then they text me

615
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 2: and love and support me and all this sort of stuff,

616
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 2: Well why don't you instead of shitting on your fucking mates.

617
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 2: But like, they've made choices. Okay, it's not my choice

618
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 2: for now. They're probably happy, but don't say they're in

619
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 2: fucking hell.

620
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 1: I think it's pretty hard though, though, isn't it?

621
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 2: It is hard, and it's it's my hell, it's not

622
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 2: her hell, you know what I mean. So we can

623
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 2: agree with that, can be there's moments that it's in hell,

624
00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 2: but I'm not.

625
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 1: I'm not.

626
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 2: I'm not going to sit here and say, Okay, I've

627
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 2: got two kids, I'm in hell all the fucking time.

628
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 2: And some people struggle, right, have real fucking struggles and

629
00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 2: might feel like they're in hell. But they made a

630
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 2: choice to be parents right in most instances, And then

631
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: said they're really supportive of me. Return the favor maybe,

632
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 2: and then you know, I would. I guarantee her fucking

633
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,960
Speaker 2: friends aren't that supportive if she's talking about them like that.

634
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 1: But is she wrong though she talks about the fact

635
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 1: that it's parenting's really hard it is hard, and they don't.

636
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 1: Her friends look like they don't. They're not happy, they're

637
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 1: not having sleep. So is she wrong? Is she wrong

638
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: to point out that, like, hey, parenting from my perspective

639
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 1: looks pretty shit.

640
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fine to have that opinion. Fine to have

641
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 2: that opinion, and but be like, hey, look, you know

642
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 2: you can't just say they're in hell.

643
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 1: And every parent knows it's hard. But literally, my child could.

644
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 2: Turn around and smile at me and it completely wipes

645
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 2: that off the fucking face of the planet. I can't

646
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 2: sit here and go they're in hell, because the hell

647
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 2: is the worst place you can end up, always, forever, infinite.

648
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 1: I look at it this way, and I think, on

649
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 1: the one hand, yeah, parenting is really hard, but I

650
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 1: think it is why parents have been offended by it

651
00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 1: is because it's like having a job, right, give a job.

652
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: It's really really hard. You know, you're working nine to

653
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 1: five long hours, you're underpaid, and then for someone else

654
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: external to your situation to look in and point at

655
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 1: you and go, your life looks fucking awful. It looks

656
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 1: it's like kick a man while he's down. That's it.

657
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 1: I think one thing that she's really forgotten to include reality.

658
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 1: Fuck now is the fact that, hey, look, we're not

659
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 1: going to sit here and say that parenting is amazing,

660
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 1: because you know, anyone who's listening to the podcast knows

661
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 1: that we talk about the fact that it is really

662
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 1: bloody hard a lot of the time. But I think

663
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 1: what makes parenting worthwhile is those moments where you do

664
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 1: get that little connection the affection from your kids. And

665
00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 1: it's not all the time. It's only, like, you know,

666
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 1: ten to fifteen twenty percent of the time, but that

667
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 1: entirely outweighs all of the bad parts of parenting.

668
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 2: Sure, you can have the worst day on the fucking planet,

669
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 2: with or without your kids, right and you can get

670
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:58,160
Speaker 2: home and little Macy comes and gives me a cuddle

671
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 2: with no stream is attached to it whatsoever, just and

672
00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 2: then nuzzle it head up against me, and that whatever

673
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 2: has happened that day is forgotten about completely. It's not

674
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 2: I don't live in infinite hell, because that's what that is.

675
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 2: You have those moments and every parent will tell you

676
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 2: you be like, fuck, my kid pissed me off so

677
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 2: much yesterday and then he drew a picture and it

678
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 2: was like super sick, and it was like that completely

679
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 2: fucking changed everything, Like expect to not cop any flak

680
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,719
Speaker 2: from someone like me, Like, I won't comment on that

681
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 2: on it because I don't need the fucking reoccurring notifications.

682
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 2: I will say what I need to be said now,

683
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:37,320
Speaker 2: and then that's it. If one of my mates turned

684
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 2: around and said to me and said, well, I just

685
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 2: live in hell all the time, I'd say, you need

686
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 2: to go and fucking seek some help, because it's not.

687
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 1: It's not all hell, it's not infinite. I love it

688
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: when you get passionate. Sorry, no, that's nice. I think

689
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 1: I'm on to no illusion that parenting is not for everybody.

690
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 1: There's there's lots of friends of mine who don't have kids.

691
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: Some of them come into town and I'm like, let's

692
00:33:58,600 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: meet up and they're like, great, where do you want

693
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,040
Speaker 1: to meet And I'm like, well, there's there's the kids

694
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: end of Bondai Beach, which you know, I could meet

695
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 1: you down there in like an hour with Marley and Lola.

696
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 1: And they're like, oh, couldn't eat anything worse, And that's

697
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,760
Speaker 1: totally fine. Not everyone, like, not everyone likes my bathroom,

698
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,280
Speaker 1: but not everyone's gonna like my situation. It doesn't surprise

699
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 1: me that people look at parenting and go that looks

700
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: absolutely horrendous and there's no way I'd want to do that.

701
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:23,320
Speaker 1: And I'm like, that's fine. I just hope that anyone

702
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: who was on the fence of potentially having kids is

703
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: like not looking at those comments and being like, wow,

704
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,280
Speaker 1: I don't really want to have kids because for the record,

705
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 1: printing is hard, but it's also the most amazing, life changing,

706
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 1: most so rewarding, ful filling time of my life.

707
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, like at the moment because at Oscar school, it's

708
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 2: like a long track to get there, and like go

709
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 2: and pick him, going to pick him up in an

710
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 2: afternoon and watching him, you know, walk up independently on

711
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 2: his own. There's something that that gives me that nothing

712
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 2: else in the world will ever give me. And it's

713
00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 2: such a combination of pride and and just fulfillment, Like

714
00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:06,080
Speaker 2: there's some there is something there that than nothing else

715
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:08,399
Speaker 2: in the world will give me. I agree, and non

716
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: parents won't understand that. But you don't have to understand it.

717
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 2: If it's not for you.

718
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:13,800
Speaker 1: It's not for you, that's fine, but fucking keep it

719
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: to yourself. But I will lose a bit of sleep

720
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 1: to have those feelings for sure, Ash, it is now

721
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 1: time for parenting lies. Tell me loud, tell me little

722
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:31,200
Speaker 1: lived Ash. This one is from Kate and she says

723
00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: we convinced our kids that the WiFi ruder is actually

724
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,359
Speaker 1: a pet and if they leave the room for too long,

725
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 1: it gets lonely and stops working. The Wi Fi routerer?

726
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 1: What why is it a pet? Yeah? I mean I

727
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 1: don't want to Kate. I don't want to call you

728
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: out here, but like, do you want to encourage your

729
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 1: kids to go outside? Okay? I did. I just thought

730
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 1: it was a sleep at the time. I didn't want

731
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 1: to bring it up. R router, it's a Wi Fi router. Well,

732
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:01,240
Speaker 1: there's no need to yell ruter. Well. I regret picking

733
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 1: this lie A because I said it wrong and B

734
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 1: because I don't know why Kate I did think it

735
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 1: was strange.

736
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 2: So she wants the kids to stay inside with it. Yeah,

737
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:15,400
Speaker 2: I'm confused. They're inside kids and outside this harm.

738
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 1: Maybe they live in a war zone, Let's move on.

739
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:19,320
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

740
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:21,319
Speaker 2: Maybe they live in a national park and they could

741
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 2: be wild animals outside.

742
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 1: We don't know.

743
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 2: This one's from Rebecca. When my kids refuse to leave somewhere.

744
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 2: I tell them mosquitoes are coming out. If they still

745
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 2: don't move, I slap my legs and say, mosquitos are

746
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:33,319
Speaker 2: biding me.

747
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 1: That's very good. That's good because my kids hate mosquitoes.

748
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 2: I can just see Kate going, We've got to stay

749
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 2: home because if you go outside, this mosquito.

750
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 1: That is genius. At the back of our garden here

751
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: we got a lot of mozzies and the kids hate it.

752
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,919
Speaker 1: If they get bitten by mossie, it's like they've lost

753
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 1: a limb.

754
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 2: It's not it's weird that what what areas they're attracted to?

755
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:59,319
Speaker 2: It's not very swampy out there at all. When I

756
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 2: lived in Tweet, we lived above with it on a hill.

757
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:05,760
Speaker 2: That below was like the road went through a swamp.

758
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 2: Pretty much. It was always where it was mossy fucking heaven.

759
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 2: But thankfully they don't like me. So my sister, the

760
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,760
Speaker 2: poor thing got attacked. She got attacked on a rag.

761
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 1: And this is from Annabelle. She says that brushing your

762
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 1: teeth will cure you're sore tummy. Clever, clever, clever. What

763
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 1: if the kids don't have a saw tummy? Though? She's

764
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 1: we got it, we tricked it, we got it.

765
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 2: It's funny like Oscar and I don't know if your

766
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,440
Speaker 2: kids do this too, where they'll go.

767
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 1: He's like, oh my Tommy saw no, I don't get that.

768
00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 1: I get that.

769
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:40,719
Speaker 2: He's like, I want to eat it. I want to

770
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 2: eat it. But at the moment my Tommy saw no,

771
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 2: he's just trying to trick me. Ship Okay, last one

772
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 2: from me from Diane.

773
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:50,399
Speaker 1: A lot of.

774
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 2: Consistent regular names this week, great names. Last week we

775
00:37:54,920 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 2: had some mascua names like crystal shitry was it down?

776
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 1: Remember like that that shrewdy? I don't know anyway, Diane.

777
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,279
Speaker 2: My mother in law convinced my husband that he was

778
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 2: allergic to fizzy drinks.

779
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: He believed until he was fifteen. Do you know what

780
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 1: I believed until I was like, I still kind of

781
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 1: believe it. Now you're allergic to hey know that? Do

782
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: you know when you remember grade one? My neighbor told

783
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: me this lie right, you know when you go and

784
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 1: you're like you're pushing out a pool and make yourself

785
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 1: go really red. Oh yeah yeah yeah. They said if

786
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 1: you do that, your brain will drop through your mouth,

787
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: like into your mouth, yeah, like your brain will get

788
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:37,359
Speaker 1: dislodged and like fall into your mouth, and so growing up,

789
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 1: I could never do that. I could never make myself

790
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,640
Speaker 1: go red because of my neighbor one time told me

791
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:44,879
Speaker 1: that Lie, it's like you're the roof of your mouth.

792
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:48,839
Speaker 1: It's like not existence it down. Then there you go.

793
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 2: Before we go into questions, Matt, if any parents out

794
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 2: there have any lies that they tell their kids, or

795
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 2: we're told, or any many generations ago, I don't mind,

796
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,360
Speaker 2: because look at Elie. She's coming out with all the goods.

797
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 2: You can email us.

798
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:06,719
Speaker 1: Hello too, don't Dad's or you can go to Instagram, dads,

799
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 1: dms or Facebook time for questions as I've got one here.

800
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 1: There's actually one that I've wondered myself. This is off

801
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 1: the back of Marley. I think maybe a kid at

802
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 1: school lost a tooth and Marley's pumped she lost her too,

803
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: not yet, but she's like, I think this one's wobbling,

804
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like, is it? And she's like, maybe she

805
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 1: is ready, she is wobbling all the teeth. But I

806
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:36,399
Speaker 1: was wondering what is standard practice for tooth fairy visits?

807
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 1: Like what are we giving these days? What do the

808
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: kids want? What do they need? What do they deserve.

809
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 2: We haven't had the conversation about tooth fairries yet, and

810
00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 2: I'm trying to remember when.

811
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 1: What did you get as a kid. I don't think

812
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:47,879
Speaker 1: we did anything like that. What well?

813
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 2: Come from a childhood where we didn't celebrate Halloween, Christmas, Easter.

814
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:56,280
Speaker 1: No tooth fairy, no tooth fairy. But I can recall

815
00:39:56,640 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 1: what you were robbed of a childhood. Yeah, if you

816
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 1: lost the two, that's what would happen. I think I'd

817
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 1: just give them to mum and dad. I don't know

818
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: what they did with them, and you've got nothing in return. No, okay, interesting,

819
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 1: not to bring up more childhood trauma. Let's let's do it.

820
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:14,360
Speaker 1: This is revealing a lot. I used to get a dollar.

821
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 1: That's pretty good.

822
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 2: There's this day and age. Probably not inflation, Yeah, this

823
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 2: age pathetic. The twoth faiies not immune to inflation, my guy.

824
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 1: But I'm wondering what is what is standard practice? So

825
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:26,320
Speaker 1: I put the call out to the Facebook group. Okay,

826
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 1: because you know, will you do anything for Oscar Macic

827
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 1: when they lose a tooth or will you follow the

828
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 1: So yeah, very much love that. We will definitely do something.

829
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,439
Speaker 2: Because April loves that sort of stuff, so I don't

830
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:37,919
Speaker 2: see why we wouldn't, but I wouldn't know how much

831
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 2: to give them, So.

832
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:40,839
Speaker 1: This is very helpful. Well, actually put the call out

833
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 1: there to the Facebook group and they've given us a

834
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 1: few responses. Actually, this is from Joe. She says, shiny

835
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: coins always Sometimes the fairy has a quiet night, so

836
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 1: that's the reason some kids at school get more. Busy

837
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 1: nights mean more kids to spread the total amount between.

838
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 1: So there's just like a total kiddy. Yeah, so if

839
00:40:57,840 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: she's in it's a busy night, you may get thirty cents.

840
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 1: Would you withhold your tooth?

841
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 2: You wouldn't know, it would be frustrating when yes, it's

842
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 2: roll of the Essentially, what's happening there, they're introducing gambling.

843
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:13,359
Speaker 2: It's gambling gambling for kids. This is from Shads. We

844
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,720
Speaker 2: put it in a drawstring bag on the bedside table.

845
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 2: For the tooth Fairy. We did ten bucks the first tooth,

846
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 2: along with a note saying the tooth Fairy only takes nice, clean,

847
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 2: well brushed teeth. After that it was five dollars or two.

848
00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 2: I love the brushed clean to think ten bucks.

849
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 1: That's a lot. That's a lot. One person wrote and said,

850
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 1: five dollars a standard practice. I think five is a

851
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 1: nice amount ash if this makes sense. So you put

852
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 1: the tooth in a glass cup next to the bed, right.

853
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 1: Then you make sure you have an identical cup to

854
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: the one that the tooth is in. Okay, okay, so

855
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:57,840
Speaker 1: like your glass wear, make sure it's all consistent. Yeah,

856
00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 1: my house'll be fucked. Then get the other cup, ad glitter,

857
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 1: coins and even food die if you like. And so

858
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 1: when they're a sleepy to a quick switch far out.

859
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 1: People really going and we're going hard. If the kid

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Speaker 1: knocks the glass and you've got fucking glass. And if

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Speaker 1: they knocked the glass, get up, we step on the glass.

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Speaker 1: It could be a whole thing. And then they cut

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Speaker 1: an artery. Imagine that.

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Speaker 2: And the foot artery is very well known. Kids bleeding

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Speaker 2: out minutes minutes. The tooth fairy, like my plan, set

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Speaker 1: Have no need to yell.

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Speaker 2: One time the tooth Fairy did a no show, fell

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Speaker 2: of apology to my son. Apparently it was too windy

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Speaker 2: for the tooth Fairy on that particular.

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Speaker 1: She hates high wind that's a known fact. These are good.

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Speaker 1: I like it. Last one is oh god, no Jessemine.

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Speaker 1: Did we have a Jesmine last time? Same Jessemine min An.

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Speaker 1: I'll be backing them in sounds. Made up all these names. Guys.

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Speaker 1: She said, this is really this is your this is

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Speaker 1: Day and gave my daughter twenty bucks for a first tooth.

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Speaker 1: Love that. I love how that twenty dollars were coming

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Speaker 1: about too.

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Speaker 2: Would have been like at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: Treat yourself. He's twenty bucks to get your old men

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Speaker 1: and beer. Very good. I like that. Look normally we

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Speaker 1: have two questions. We have run out of time. That's

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