WEBVTT - Feeling Stuck? The Hidden Reason You’re Not Fully Free 🎭 

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<v Speaker 1>I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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<v Speaker 1>land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb

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<v Speaker 1>Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on

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<v Speaker 1>this land for thousands of years, and we show our

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<v Speaker 1>gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive

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<v Speaker 1>to become the highest version of ourselves through curious conversations,

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<v Speaker 1>healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation,

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<v Speaker 1>and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>about putting you in the driver's seat of your own life.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you ready? Hello, guys, we are back in the

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<v Speaker 2>studio and I am joined by Cooper Stevenson, my brother,

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<v Speaker 2>co founder of Naked Hello. So you guys loved the

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<v Speaker 2>previous episode with Cooper. So's he's back in. He's been promoted.

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<v Speaker 3>You're welcome.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think we're a lot to swear on this podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually we do. We absolutely do, but you know some

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<v Speaker 2>moms have kids anyway, apologies about that. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>go straight in your magnetic Blueprint was the course that

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<v Speaker 2>we hosted at the start of the year, and it

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<v Speaker 2>is a course about setting goals, but it's also you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a fourteen day course, so it's like a mini course,

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<v Speaker 2>and for the first seven days we're really asking you

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<v Speaker 2>questions that help you uncover maybe some masks you've been

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<v Speaker 2>wearing and some things that you have been doing that

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<v Speaker 2>you don't actually want to do, and the person like

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<v Speaker 2>you don't actually want to be, but it's from you thinking,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe from childhood or like how you're brought up or school,

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<v Speaker 2>that you have to be that person in order to

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<v Speaker 2>get something. We're really smart, and it's this coping mechanism

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<v Speaker 2>where it's like, well, if i'm this person, I'll get

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<v Speaker 2>this outcome. We tend to do it as children, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to get our parents to act a certain way or

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<v Speaker 2>be a certain way, or that's just what we think

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<v Speaker 2>we have to do to survive or whatnot. And then

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<v Speaker 2>we carry these masks as we get older, but they

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<v Speaker 2>tend to get heavy, and we tend to get burnt out,

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<v Speaker 2>and we tend to not like our lives because we're

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<v Speaker 2>almost like living it for other people, or like living

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<v Speaker 2>it from wounds so look pretty deep first seven days

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<v Speaker 2>of the course, and then the last seven days you're

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<v Speaker 2>making goals. So it's super fun. That course is actually

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<v Speaker 2>still available if you guys want to do it. I

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<v Speaker 2>think we might even put like a discaln code. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we'll we'll do a dissy for you if you want

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<v Speaker 2>to do it. Just because I know it's probably a

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<v Speaker 2>couple months into the air, but Cooper, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>ask you and get this conversation rolling of some mass

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<v Speaker 2>that you worn when you were younger or even now,

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<v Speaker 2>and like the coping mechanisms, just so people can understand

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<v Speaker 2>and get some examples and start getting their brain thinking

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<v Speaker 2>of like, oh, where am I actually doing life from

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<v Speaker 2>this very unconscious wounded state.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe you go.

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<v Speaker 2>The biggest one for me was very interesting. We grew

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<v Speaker 2>up in a family four children. I felt like I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't have much attention from mom and dad because they

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<v Speaker 2>worked so hard. You know, Mum had four children, She

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<v Speaker 2>didn't have a cleaner, she didn't have help, so she

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<v Speaker 2>was like always busy doing shit. Dad was obviously working

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<v Speaker 2>all the time. It was fun to play with my brothers,

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<v Speaker 2>but they're my brothers, Like I don't actually really care

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<v Speaker 2>for their attention, and so I developed this coping mechanism.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt very average, don't get me wrong, Like my parents,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like they loved me so much, and like

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't feel unloved. And also when I was younger,

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<v Speaker 2>I tried a whole bunch of like sports, gymnastic, dancing,

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<v Speaker 2>and I didn't feel good at anything, Like I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>excel at anything. I wasn't that smart in school, I

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<v Speaker 2>felt like I didn't get a lot of praise for things.

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<v Speaker 2>And then when I got older, because I know, shut up,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still upset about it.

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<v Speaker 3>It still because we know what gets dad's attention anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>But what well this let me tell you why.

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<v Speaker 2>So it literally didn't happen until I was older in

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<v Speaker 2>high school, and I decided I wanted to be a

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<v Speaker 2>lawyer because I watched Legally Blond and all. So our

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<v Speaker 2>oldest brother's girlfriend at the time was from like a

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<v Speaker 2>low socio economic family, and she said she was doing law,

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<v Speaker 2>and I remember thinking, fuck, are you no? But I

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<v Speaker 2>remember thinking, oh my god, like if she can do law,

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<v Speaker 2>surely I can do it. That's really toxic. Surely I

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<v Speaker 2>can do law. And so we were brought up, we

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<v Speaker 2>were so I then started doing really well at school.

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<v Speaker 2>Told mom and dad I wanted to be a lawyer,

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<v Speaker 2>and I got so much attention, Like I remember Die

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<v Speaker 2>being drunk telling random people, my daughter's going to be

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<v Speaker 2>a lawyer. She's so smart. And I was like, this

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<v Speaker 2>is amazing. This is the attention that I always wanted

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<v Speaker 2>as a child, you know, getting when I'm older. So I,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I do my law degree work really hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly it was very draining, but I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>got to finish this degree. Meanwhile, I'm doing my social media.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm earning money from my social media. And our parents

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<v Speaker 2>are very financially focused because they came from like a

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<v Speaker 2>low socio economic background, so like money means survival. Money

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<v Speaker 2>is important to them.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I started to get also a lot of praise from

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<v Speaker 2>mom and dad for earning money while I was like

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<v Speaker 2>at UNI and also super toxic too. I started getting

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<v Speaker 2>so much praise when I got really skinny from mom

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<v Speaker 2>and dad that it does make sense. Basically, my mask

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<v Speaker 2>was overachieving.

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<v Speaker 3>Great, I don't have one. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I know when you're like I've got nothing, I'm looking

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<v Speaker 2>at you, like, what are you talking about? You're like

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<v Speaker 2>the most wounded person growing up, So let me finish

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<v Speaker 2>one and then you can do yours. So I developed overachieving,

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<v Speaker 2>and so that's why I was doing law. Started making

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<v Speaker 2>money off social media, but like good money, like no

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<v Speaker 2>one else was making that sort of money. I got

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<v Speaker 2>like as skinny as possible, Like it was like everything

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<v Speaker 2>I did to the extreme because of the praise that

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<v Speaker 2>I got from people around me. And so I basically

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<v Speaker 2>then made every decision based off getting that praise and

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<v Speaker 2>approval from people. And I continued to make those decisions literally,

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<v Speaker 2>probably not until what like a couple of years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>I continued the high overachieving. I continued every time we'd

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<v Speaker 2>see Dad, he'd be like, how much money do you

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<v Speaker 2>end this week? He still kind of does it now.

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<v Speaker 2>But I actually remember when I was going through this

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<v Speaker 2>and realizing such a huge mass for me was this

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<v Speaker 2>overachieving and how burnt out and how like I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't want to be this person anymore. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to live for everyone else. And that's why

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<v Speaker 2>I had such a journey with like you know, with

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<v Speaker 2>my weight becoming just like my weight now and all

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<v Speaker 2>these things. It's almost like I was pushing against people,

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<v Speaker 2>being like, no, fuck you, I'm going to be who

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<v Speaker 2>I want to be and I'm not going to fit

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<v Speaker 2>inside your box. That was a huge thing for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I remember I even wanted to like dye my

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<v Speaker 2>head brown because I knew Dad loved blonde, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like weird shit like that, Like I feel weird saying

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<v Speaker 2>that by that makes sense. It makes sense. And so

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<v Speaker 2>you go through this thing where it's like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be what everyone thinks I need to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Even what we're talking about in our previous episode of

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<v Speaker 2>like this year not having as many stresses, definitely recommend

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<v Speaker 2>you guys listening to that. It was a good ee.

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<v Speaker 2>We just like we talked a lot of shit, but

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<v Speaker 2>there were some great points in it.

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<v Speaker 1>Which.

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<v Speaker 3>And then.

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<v Speaker 2>Well look real that was Georgia last year and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>still just paying for the consequences this year. Anyway, at

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<v Speaker 2>the moment, it's like what am I actually? You know,

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<v Speaker 2>what do I want? Even you know, with my followers

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<v Speaker 2>on Instagram or whatnot, Like it was very much how

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<v Speaker 2>can I be the most relatable person so everyone likes

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<v Speaker 2>me on Instagram? How can I fit the size so

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<v Speaker 2>everyone likes me on Instagram. I was just trying to

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<v Speaker 2>fit myself in a box so much, but I got

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<v Speaker 2>so tired, so exhausted. I developed physical things, like I

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<v Speaker 2>had a thio disease, which I've now actually completely reversed.

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<v Speaker 2>And even if you think about it, it's an autoimmune

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<v Speaker 2>disease where your body is attacking itself. Like I got

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<v Speaker 2>to the point where I was doing so many things

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<v Speaker 2>for other people's approval, it's like my body started attacking itself.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that's not normal for your body to do that,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I had to really do some deep work

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<v Speaker 2>to figure this all out and I did that.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's look at that what you've just said. Then there's

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<v Speaker 3>always good to bad. So having the things, having these masks,

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<v Speaker 3>all the good that has come out of it for

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<v Speaker 3>you so much good, amazing, Like look at my life now,

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<v Speaker 3>so grateful. You get to a point where you need

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<v Speaker 3>to transition and be like, no, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>wear this mask anymore. And it's that transition time that

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<v Speaker 3>you're going to get a dip because you're going into

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<v Speaker 3>a new reality of being the person you want to be.

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<v Speaker 3>So you're gonna have to go through some rough or

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<v Speaker 3>when you get out of it to drop the mask.

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<v Speaker 3>You're going to be in another journey and there's going

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<v Speaker 3>to be good from that because you've just gone into

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<v Speaker 3>a bit of a dip and now you get to

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<v Speaker 3>live your life and not have all these diseases and.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not going to be full of diseases, thank god.

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<v Speaker 2>But even I love that you brought that up. Even

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about that when I was, you know, going through

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<v Speaker 2>being too skinny and my body was not coping, I

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<v Speaker 2>remember thinking, oh my god, I'm going to lose my

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<v Speaker 2>followers now, blah blah blah. But even if we think

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<v Speaker 2>about that, when I start talking about intuitive eating, when I,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just was like working out and eating for

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<v Speaker 2>like what I loved, I actually gained this whole new

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<v Speaker 2>audience who was like, yes, thank you please, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want these like people on my feed who were so

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<v Speaker 2>like unattainable. So it actually became like relatable and like

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<v Speaker 2>a friend to someone else, different people. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's with the mass situation, as you will be scared

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<v Speaker 2>to take it off because it has benefited you for

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<v Speaker 2>such a long time. I still work through today with

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<v Speaker 2>the overachieving because I have so much of my identity

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<v Speaker 2>in you know, I'm the big influencer who like has

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<v Speaker 2>the businesses and he's a girl boss and like all

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<v Speaker 2>those sorts of things. But I'm even noticing this year

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<v Speaker 2>I want to transition even more to like being in

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<v Speaker 2>my feminine and like doing things differently in business and

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<v Speaker 2>not working how I used to work, and obviously focusing

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<v Speaker 2>on family. And it's scares me because I did things

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<v Speaker 2>so certainly for such a long time and got such

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<v Speaker 2>a good result. But it's so important for us to

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<v Speaker 2>like prove to ourselves that I can take off this

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<v Speaker 2>mask and I can do something different and still have

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<v Speaker 2>an incredible outcome. See even the other day it actually

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<v Speaker 2>triggered me a little bit when you were like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I feel like you said something about like

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<v Speaker 2>me maybe not working as much.

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<v Speaker 3>Why would I say that.

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<v Speaker 2>To you because you your fucking father's son.

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<v Speaker 3>No doulls what Because I don't like that about myself?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and everything, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 3>Doing it in myself. So I've just figured this out today.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually I was thinking, and I was like, I've figured

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<v Speaker 3>said it a few things in my head, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>George is just not really into it.

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<v Speaker 2>George is doing nothing.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I'm like, look at your Instagram and look at

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<v Speaker 3>what you're doing, and I'm like.

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<v Speaker 2>What the fuck am I talking about?

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<v Speaker 3>Literally everything, So always a reflection of yourself that you

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<v Speaker 3>don't like about yourself. So and then I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>that's why I'm changing, that's why I'm doing this, and

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<v Speaker 3>that's why I'm going in the business more. You should

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<v Speaker 3>never aly on other people to change yourself. You should

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<v Speaker 3>always do it. It's always in yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that triggered me because that was the old wound

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<v Speaker 2>of how Georgia. Remember how I was like a workaholic

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<v Speaker 2>when I was working twenty four to seven, and so

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<v Speaker 2>that's like it got me a certain outcome. So when

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<v Speaker 2>you said that to me, I was like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>like maybe I need to go back to the old

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<v Speaker 2>self and blah blah blah. But this year, I think

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<v Speaker 2>you missed this part. But I'm trying to step more

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<v Speaker 2>on my feminine and do things in a very different way.

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<v Speaker 2>So I acknowledged that comment and did think it's more

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<v Speaker 2>about him than me. He's going through something. I'll let

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<v Speaker 2>him process it and then we'll talk about it on Monday.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I am doing things a different way. There's guilt

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<v Speaker 2>because in a transition from Mars, it feels uncomfortable, it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't feel right. And so I had the initial thing

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<v Speaker 2>of like, oh is he right blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like no, yeah, so you got that

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<v Speaker 3>awareness and then you assessed it of no, that's not

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<v Speaker 3>what I want to do. Yes, this is what I

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<v Speaker 3>want to be. You're welcome process.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for triggering me. And well, that's what I

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<v Speaker 2>mean is like I had to be like, well, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to work harder to get a result.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not how I want to do things anymore. So

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<v Speaker 2>I can leave that there and yeah, realize that that's

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<v Speaker 2>not what I have to do. But that was a

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<v Speaker 2>great point for me.

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<v Speaker 3>All right. So my mask when I was younger was

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<v Speaker 3>the exact same thing I wanted to overachieve with sport.

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<v Speaker 3>So I remember I was in grade one and I

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<v Speaker 3>did the cross country and I come first, and I

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<v Speaker 3>remember my mom just going, oh my goodness, like could

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<v Speaker 3>you just come first, Like we've got a son that's

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<v Speaker 3>really good at sport. And then told Dad and he

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<v Speaker 3>was stoked and he praised me and said that was

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<v Speaker 3>so good, Cooper. So I got love in overchieving in sports.

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<v Speaker 3>So from then on, I always strived to be really

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<v Speaker 3>good at sport, like I had the ability. But that

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<v Speaker 3>was my mask to try and get love from Dad,

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<v Speaker 3>and it was one. And I always did sprinting and

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<v Speaker 3>I did soccer, and I just always tried to get

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<v Speaker 3>Dad's love for that. You were very athletic, So that

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<v Speaker 3>was my mask. But I got into high school and

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<v Speaker 3>then I was like, I actually don't like this. It

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<v Speaker 3>was too much pressure. I didn't really like it, so

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<v Speaker 3>I stopped. And then that's when I just kind of

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<v Speaker 3>didn't get much from Dad anymore. And then I went

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<v Speaker 3>and did plumbing. I just that was just the easy option.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't so I didn't really get much from Dad.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's when I started partying, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to close my eyes. I want to escape,

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<v Speaker 3>and yeah, I started doing drugs and I started which

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<v Speaker 3>everyone but anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure we'll go there.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So I just I needed to escape and I

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<v Speaker 3>just didn't get those things. And I didn't get love

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<v Speaker 3>from yeah Dad, And that was my biggest thing. Like

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<v Speaker 3>he obviously loved me, of course didn't. He's like the

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<v Speaker 3>best dad ever.

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<v Speaker 2>He's the best ad, did you feel like mom loved you?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I got loved from Mum. So I'm very grateful

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<v Speaker 3>that I had one parent that gave that gave me love.

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<v Speaker 3>But fast forward all three is so like I still

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<v Speaker 3>didn't get love from Dad with naked harvests, and I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, try my hardest and to be successful and

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<v Speaker 3>being successful, still didn't get it. I had a massive

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<v Speaker 3>blue with Dad and he said, well, the only reason

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<v Speaker 3>you're successful is Georgia.

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<v Speaker 2>And that breaks my heart so much.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I had a massive fight with him. I nearly

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<v Speaker 3>told him to get out of my house because he

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<v Speaker 3>was staying there anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a big.

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<v Speaker 3>Thing, and I was like, few, like, that's it. I've

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<v Speaker 3>just tried a couple of years, a few years, put

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<v Speaker 3>my life into this, got a big business and I

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<v Speaker 3>was going really good. Still it in your love. And

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<v Speaker 3>then I did my inner work stuff and I was

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<v Speaker 3>able to let go of all these masks and I

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<v Speaker 3>was I didn't need I didn't need Dad's love anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like also the approval.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I didn't need approval, didn't need love. I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>need anything from Dad. All I just said to him.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I want love and support, but if

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<v Speaker 3>you can't do it, it's okay because I love and

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<v Speaker 3>support myself. And so from that point, that's when I

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<v Speaker 3>started seeing a different relationship with Dad, and that's when

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<v Speaker 3>he started giving me love. That was the big turning

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<v Speaker 3>point in our relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>You stop changing it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, when I took the masks off and I become

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<v Speaker 3>my person and who I wanted to be, and like

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<v Speaker 3>Dad would never come to me for advice ever about anything,

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<v Speaker 3>and now they come to me, which is so weird.

0:18:27.160 --> 0:18:31.280
<v Speaker 3>And they asked we keep like with financial problems, with

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<v Speaker 3>mental problems, Like they come to me for advice and

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<v Speaker 3>they respect me so much. And it's all because I

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<v Speaker 3>respected myself. I loved myself. I had got a good

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<v Speaker 3>relationship with myself. So in a work, took all my

0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:52.320
<v Speaker 3>masks off. I love that. So that's when it fully

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<v Speaker 3>changed for me. Now I'm Riborn, Now I am Ribel.

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<v Speaker 3>It took a long while, but a lot of people

0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:05.200
<v Speaker 3>don't get there, and that's the sad part two order. Yeah,

0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:08.359
<v Speaker 3>so I'm very grateful that I've gotten to this point.

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<v Speaker 2>It was actually such a benefit to you, Dad going no,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think you're successful, no, blah, blah blah, because

0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:25.480
<v Speaker 2>that was like your rock bottom moment of like, well,

0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:29.360
<v Speaker 2>fuck you, I'm gonna go and just do it for myself.

0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:32.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna stop caring about you. And that's when everything shifted.

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<v Speaker 2>And obviously you benefited so much from that mask because

0:19:37.840 --> 0:19:40.639
<v Speaker 2>look at naked harvest, look at your life. Yeah, so

0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:43.720
<v Speaker 2>we always benefit. And it's like, it's really good if

0:19:43.760 --> 0:19:46.960
<v Speaker 2>you can see the benefit from the mask, because that

0:19:47.040 --> 0:19:50.479
<v Speaker 2>will help you understand why you've been wearing it for

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<v Speaker 2>so long. You can put it down, yeah, because other

0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:55.440
<v Speaker 2>as we see the mask and be like, oh, why

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<v Speaker 2>have I been doing this? You know, blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's like, see all the benefits really yeah, it

0:19:59.680 --> 0:20:02.520
<v Speaker 2>makes actually a lot of sense. And we're really smart,

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<v Speaker 2>Like we're so intelligent. Our subconscious will do what's best

0:20:06.960 --> 0:20:10.480
<v Speaker 2>for us in every scenario. And it's like, for whatever reason,

0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:13.960
<v Speaker 2>that was best for us. I even love how your

0:20:14.080 --> 0:20:18.280
<v Speaker 2>moment is like if I want the respect and love,

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<v Speaker 2>I need to give it to myself. And I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like not a lot of people even get to that realization.

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<v Speaker 2>That's huge.

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<v Speaker 3>But like having these masks, they all they can be

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<v Speaker 3>your survival as well.

0:20:30.440 --> 0:20:33.280
<v Speaker 2>Those masks most of the time. We started wearing them

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<v Speaker 2>for survival. If you think about a child, the parents

0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:40.080
<v Speaker 2>have to love them for them to survive. And so

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<v Speaker 2>it feels like unless you're in a position in your environment. Sorry,

0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:49.679
<v Speaker 2>now you've kind of got to be out of that

0:20:49.720 --> 0:20:53.879
<v Speaker 2>survival mode to even explore this. If you're still in survival,

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<v Speaker 2>it's going to be so hard to let go of

0:20:56.160 --> 0:20:59.680
<v Speaker 2>a mask because it's like your nervous system you're unconscious,

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<v Speaker 2>like it won't let you.

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<v Speaker 3>But it is very difficult to do this. That was

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<v Speaker 3>the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. So

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<v Speaker 3>it's not something that you can just say, yeah, just

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<v Speaker 3>do it it unconscious work. Yeah, the first thing is

0:21:16.520 --> 0:21:20.800
<v Speaker 3>awareness and then start talking about it, start looking for it.

0:21:21.040 --> 0:21:25.959
<v Speaker 3>Subconscious wants to go there anyway, so it's start doing it.

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<v Speaker 3>A small thing for me.

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<v Speaker 2>It was the small moments, even like I said the

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<v Speaker 2>other day, when you said something about me not working

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<v Speaker 2>as much, and then I had to in that moment decide,

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<v Speaker 2>even though what you said is someone who I love

0:21:39.760 --> 0:21:42.800
<v Speaker 2>and respect, I didn't want to wear that mask. So

0:21:42.880 --> 0:21:45.840
<v Speaker 2>I was going to continue in the uncertainty, in the

0:21:45.960 --> 0:21:50.320
<v Speaker 2>uncomfortable path of all I'm doing things differently, not wearing

0:21:50.359 --> 0:21:54.440
<v Speaker 2>the overachieving mask. Like that's a small step, and it's

0:21:54.480 --> 0:21:57.880
<v Speaker 2>like making those constantly where you're like, we don't want

0:21:57.880 --> 0:22:00.200
<v Speaker 2>to do it, how I've always done it? Go to

0:22:00.280 --> 0:22:05.120
<v Speaker 2>choose differently. Yeah, we're gonna love and leave you. This

0:22:05.240 --> 0:22:07.399
<v Speaker 2>is just a little episode to get your brain thinking of,

0:22:07.440 --> 0:22:10.560
<v Speaker 2>like maybe where you're wearing masks and how it could

0:22:10.600 --> 0:22:14.160
<v Speaker 2>literally be creating health issues, how it could be you know,

0:22:14.240 --> 0:22:19.600
<v Speaker 2>steering you in this unconscious constantly driving for something, and

0:22:19.640 --> 0:22:21.439
<v Speaker 2>it's like you don't actually need to carry it anymore,

0:22:21.480 --> 0:22:23.000
<v Speaker 2>you don't actually need to wear it, and you actually

0:22:23.000 --> 0:22:25.240
<v Speaker 2>feel so much better, Like, for example, do you feel

0:22:25.240 --> 0:22:28.640
<v Speaker 2>so much better now you're not like trying and pushing

0:22:28.680 --> 0:22:33.080
<v Speaker 2>and craving dads love? Oh, Like I'm free, free weight

0:22:33.119 --> 0:22:33.840
<v Speaker 2>off the shoulders.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine feeling free God locked up, Yeah, in the bottom

0:22:39.520 --> 0:22:42.000
<v Speaker 3>of the cage and then you finally get out. That's

0:22:42.119 --> 0:22:45.280
<v Speaker 3>literally what it feels like. That's what we're all chasing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all right, guys, thanks so much for listening. Cooper

0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:51.440
<v Speaker 2>will be back because you guys love him, and we'll

0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:53.320
<v Speaker 2>chat to you at some other point.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye.