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Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb

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Speaker 1: Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on

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Speaker 1: gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture.

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Speaker 1: This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive

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Speaker 1: to become the highest version of ourselves through curious conversations,

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Speaker 1: healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve.

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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation,

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Speaker 1: and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's

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Speaker 1: about putting you in the driver's seat of your own life.

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Speaker 2: Are you ready? Hello, guys, we are back in the

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Speaker 2: studio and I am joined by Cooper Stevenson, my brother,

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Speaker 2: co founder of Naked Hello. So you guys loved the

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Speaker 2: previous episode with Cooper. So's he's back in. He's been promoted.

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Speaker 3: You're welcome.

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Speaker 2: I don't think we're a lot to swear on this podcast.

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Speaker 2: Actually we do. We absolutely do, but you know some

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Speaker 2: moms have kids anyway, apologies about that. I want to

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Speaker 2: go straight in your magnetic Blueprint was the course that

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Speaker 2: we hosted at the start of the year, and it

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Speaker 2: is a course about setting goals, but it's also you know,

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Speaker 2: it's a fourteen day course, so it's like a mini course,

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Speaker 2: and for the first seven days we're really asking you

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Speaker 2: think we might even put like a discaln code. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It was the small moments, even like I said the

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Speaker 2: choose differently. Yeah, we're gonna love and leave you. This

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Speaker 3: Imagine feeling free God locked up, Yeah, in the bottom

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, guys, thanks so much for listening. Cooper

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