Speaker 1: For it's something I've spoken to you about a little bit,
Speaker 1: and it's honestly taken over my life. In the last
Speaker 1: couple of weeks is that Lola has started. So Lola's
Speaker 1: four years old now almost it's a birthday in a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks time she comes.
Speaker 2: Around quick, Oh, it's crazy, I just had a birthday.
Speaker 1: Came I thought I literally just gave birth to it.
Speaker 1: How is she for? She's she just started a new
Speaker 1: daycare and it shouldn't be a big deal. I know
Speaker 1: that sometimes transitioning to a new daycare can be a
Speaker 1: bit tricky and kids take a little while to adjust,
Speaker 1: but she she's been going to her old daycare for
Speaker 1: almost three and a half years, and I think we
Speaker 1: completely underestimated just how hard this transition was going to be.
Speaker 1: And it's been three weeks now and it doesn't feel
Speaker 1: like it is getting any easier. What I mean by
Speaker 1: that is is we're at the stage now that when
Speaker 1: I drop her off before work in the morning or
Speaker 1: I pick her up after work, she's screaming, crying, she
Speaker 1: is holding onto the car seat, and it's really it
Speaker 1: escalates when she's at home, so she can kind of
Speaker 1: sometimes be okay. When I get her into the daycare,
Speaker 1: it's the crying Mummy, please don't send me back to
Speaker 1: school the next day, and waking up in the nighttime
Speaker 1: begging to not go to school. And I actually do
Speaker 1: not know how to manage this transition.
Speaker 2: I know that you know the daycare, but there's got
Speaker 2: to be a part of you that's like, why don't
Speaker 2: you want to go to school? Like has she spoken
Speaker 2: about it?
Speaker 1: Like no, I don't want to catastrophize. It's nothing to
Speaker 1: do with the daycare, Like the daycare is great. It's
Speaker 1: just to do with it being new and being unfamiliar,
Speaker 1: and you know, it's scary being in a new place
Speaker 1: and having to process making all new friends, and Mummy's
Speaker 1: not here, and there's just been so much change for her,
Speaker 1: Like Dad's not home because he's in the jungle. His
Speaker 1: sister has just started at vacation care school. They used
Speaker 1: to go together, and so now she's just had all
Speaker 1: this change happen at the one time, and I just
Speaker 1: don't I almost think it's been too much for her
Speaker 1: in one go. And I want to talk about this
Speaker 1: because I know that we're coming up to school drop offs,
Speaker 1: and like school starting back, and so many parents who
Speaker 1: either have kids who are in kindergarten or parents who
Speaker 1: have gone through this period of trying to get their
Speaker 1: children ready for preschool or whatever. And there is nothing
Speaker 1: more heartbreaking than dropping your kid off somewhere and having
Speaker 1: them crying for you. And you've got to hold it together.
Speaker 1: You've got it because you've got to be the strong
Speaker 1: one who's trying to show them everything's okay. And you
Speaker 1: do it as a mum. You hold it all together,
Speaker 1: and then you get in the car and you cry
Speaker 1: in the car because you can't cry in front of them.
Speaker 1: But it's almost this impossible situation where I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: I have to go to work. I don't have a
Speaker 1: choice about that. Yeah, but I also don't want to
Speaker 1: be leaving my child to be crying at daycare by
Speaker 1: yourself because you just feel like you're doing such a
Speaker 1: terrible job. And I guess the question is you know
Speaker 1: that it's normal for kids not to love change, and
Speaker 1: it takes them a little minute to assimilate into their
Speaker 1: new environment. But then on the other hand, we're always
Speaker 1: told that kids are really malleable and they accept change
Speaker 1: pretty well pretty quickly.
Speaker 2: So the question that you have to ask yourself. I
Speaker 2: guess is like, how long do you wait of the
Speaker 2: crying before you say, you know what, she's not going
Speaker 2: to a and I take her back to the old daycare.
Speaker 1: Well, this is the big question, right, I'm like, is
Speaker 1: this just resilience building? Is this something that we should
Speaker 1: just suck it up and she will eventually get over
Speaker 1: it and be okay because we know the school is
Speaker 1: a fantastic school, Or do you care even go okay,
Speaker 1: We'll go back to the old daycare because you were
Speaker 1: just so happy and it was so easy when you
Speaker 1: were there. I don't know. I genuinely don't have the answers,
Speaker 1: and I don't know whether a three almost four year
Speaker 1: old needs this type of resilience building. I almost think
Speaker 1: it's too much for them.
Speaker 2: Believe it or not. I also don't know, But we
Speaker 2: do have this amazing woman, Michelle Mitchell. She's a parent
Speaker 2: and expert, she's a friend of the show. We've spoken
Speaker 2: to her before. I think we get her on next
Speaker 2: week and actually ask, because this is a really big
Speaker 2: decision that you need to make in the next week
Speaker 2: or two. And I think it's great that we can
Speaker 2: get some advice from Michelle.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and also for any other parents who are going
Speaker 1: through the same thing. It's truly heartbreaking. It's a really
Speaker 1: hard time to know whether you're doing the right thing
Speaker 1: by your kid. The last thing we want to do
Speaker 1: is be causing permanent damage.
Speaker 2: Well, we're thinking of Lola this week. Anyway, I'm glad
Speaker 2: you get Monday off with it.