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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just answers. Now, Hello, this is

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Speaker 1: doctor Justin Coilson. I'm flying solid today. You can probably

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Speaker 1: hear it in my voice. I'm not quite sounding the

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Speaker 1: way that I normally do. As it happens in that

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Speaker 1: thing called COVID, that global pandemic, that thing that's been

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Speaker 1: affecting everyone. Well, it's finally got me. I've had my

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Speaker 1: three shots, I've been boosted, but finally, somewhere, somehow, I've

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Speaker 1: picked it up along the way. And it's kind of

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Speaker 1: just I know that some people reflected really badly by it.

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Speaker 1: Some people are completely asymptomatic. They don't even know that

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Speaker 1: they've got it other than the fact that they did

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Speaker 1: a test and oh look what I've got. In my case,

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Speaker 1: you can kind of just hear that little bit of

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Speaker 1: throatyness that I've got. I might be a little bit

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Speaker 1: flatter than normal, slight sniffle, but it's kind of like

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Speaker 1: a really mild version of man flu for me. Man

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Speaker 1: flu knocks me out, it puts me on my back

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Speaker 1: for days. COVID hasn't done that. It's just slowed me

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Speaker 1: down a little bit and made me, i don't know,

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Speaker 1: struggle a little bit compared to my normal level of health.

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Speaker 1: But in spite of that, I wanted to share a

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Speaker 1: podcast with you today, just a brief one, to emphasize

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Speaker 1: our upcoming webinar tonight. If you are a Happy Family's member,

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Speaker 1: this is included in your membership. You don't even have

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Speaker 1: to pay for It's already included in what you've paid

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Speaker 1: for already. And this is possibly one of the most

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Speaker 1: anticipated webinars that I've done this year. There has been

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Speaker 1: so much interest in it. If you're not a Happy

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Speaker 1: Family's member and you're hearing about it for the first time,

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Speaker 1: just jump online to Happy Families dot com, dot you

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Speaker 1: or go to my Facebook page doctor Justin Colson's Happy

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Speaker 1: Families and you'll see the info for Carrots and Sticks,

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Speaker 1: a webinar about punishment, reward, time out, praise, and all

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Speaker 1: of these other things that parents usually do to manage

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Speaker 1: their children's behavior better. Tonight's webinar is really about this

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Speaker 1: idea that punishments and rewards are the lowest form of

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Speaker 1: education and if we want to help our kids to thrive,

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Speaker 1: to flourish, and to do great stuff because it's the

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Speaker 1: right thing to do, and not because we're forcing them

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Speaker 1: to do it. We need to get away from the

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Speaker 1: reward chart. We need to get away from the threats

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Speaker 1: and bribes and actually just help our children to be awesome,

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Speaker 1: because they kind of are. There's a whole lot of

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Speaker 1: history that we're going to go through in terms of

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Speaker 1: why we parent the way that we do, what's been

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Speaker 1: taught to us, what our parents did to us, what

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Speaker 1: their parents did then, what their parents did to our grandparents,

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Speaker 1: and so on. I've been digging through the archives and

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Speaker 1: finding a whole lot of really fascinating stuff about why

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Speaker 1: carrots and sticks are just so popular. We're going to

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Speaker 1: talk about punishment and how that creates a whole lot

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Speaker 1: of problems, why we do it, and we're going to

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Speaker 1: talk about rewards and why, interestingly that also can create

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Speaker 1: a whole lot of problems, but why we consistently do it,

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Speaker 1: And then we'll move on to what I call the

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Speaker 1: motivation continuum. We're going to look at how we can

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Speaker 1: help our kids rather than hurt them, how we can

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Speaker 1: guide them rather than bribe them. We will also be

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Speaker 1: talking about time out, the research evidence that supports it,

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Speaker 1: and the problems with time out in spite of the

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Speaker 1: research that supports it. So I'm excited, very very excited

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Speaker 1: to share this one with you. I think that it's

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Speaker 1: going to blow your mind. If you're not already signed

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Speaker 1: up for it, please join me tonight for Carrots and Sticks.

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Speaker 1: All the information you need is at Happy families dot

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Speaker 1: com dot a U. Now. I'd love to tell you

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Speaker 1: more about it. Believe me, there will be solutions galore,

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Speaker 1: But in the interest of preserving my voice and making

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Speaker 1: sure that I can actually get through the night and

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Speaker 1: rubbing the vix on so that I don't even sound

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Speaker 1: sniffly or anything like that, tonight, I want to make

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Speaker 1: sure that I rest up. So I hope you have

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Speaker 1: a great day. I hope you get through the day

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Speaker 1: without relying on punishments and rewards with your kids. And

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Speaker 1: I hope that you can join me tonight for Carrots

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Speaker 1: and Sticks the webinar as we talk about how rewards

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Speaker 1: seem to not work or work in reverse, do exactly

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Speaker 1: the opposite, and punishment's the same. It's going to be

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Speaker 1: a great night. I'll look forward to seeing you then.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, as always, the Happy Families podcast is

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Speaker 1: produced by Justin Ruland from Bridge Media with Craig Bruces,

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Speaker 1: our executive producer, and if you would like more info

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Speaker 1: about making your family happier, join us for the webinar tonight,

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Speaker 1: check out our Happy Families memberships, or just visit happy

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Speaker 1: families dot com dot a. You get curious, not furious,

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Speaker 1: be we Your feeder mistakes lead to mastery. High emotions,

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Speaker 1: low intelligence. Have you ever heard these or any of

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Speaker 1: the other principles I share and thought I need to

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