Speaker 1: The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of
Speaker 1: the land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen
Speaker 1: Bear region. We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their
Speaker 1: connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect
Speaker 1: to their elders past and present and extend that respect
Speaker 1: to all Aboriginal and terrest Raide Islander peoples today. Hello
Speaker 1: and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This
Speaker 1: is the podcast for ordinary people who want to do
Speaker 1: extraordinary things. Hello and welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast.
Speaker 1: It is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner,
Speaker 1: mum all the things Today we have a little hotline
Speaker 1: app for you. These are our fun Friday episodes where
Speaker 1: you're sending your life dilemmas or questions and you know,
Speaker 1: Minateia really provide you with some unqualified two cents on
Speaker 1: the situation.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's like a dollar. I would say, love that
Speaker 2: for us. It's valuable.
Speaker 1: So today I love that we got asked our in
Speaker 1: and outs of twenty twenty three, I didn't even really
Speaker 1: understand what this whole trend was, and then once I
Speaker 1: found out I was like, yes, this is a vibe.
Speaker 1: So we go through that, and then we chat about
Speaker 1: the difference in between an abundant mindset and just spending
Speaker 1: all your money because some people get that mixed up,
Speaker 1: like me akoh Tier, and how you can deal with
Speaker 1: partners or family members that aren't on board with your
Speaker 1: manifestations or big goals. This is like one of the
Speaker 1: number one things I used to get asked in the project,
Speaker 1: So I love chatting about that because it's so so
Speaker 1: important to protect your energy. But guys, did you see
Speaker 1: the big announcement.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: I love it. Look, I've been seating that journal for
Speaker 1: fucking on your stories.
Speaker 2: We dropped it in the Facebook group obviously before we
Speaker 2: put it up on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I literally put it in a photo down.
Speaker 2: Someone literally commented, going, oh, we've seen it on John
Speaker 2: Dy's Instagram. I was like, yeah, but not the whole thing.
Speaker 1: So if you didn't pick up the very vet very
Speaker 1: subtle hints, not so subtle hints, we are releasing our
Speaker 1: very own manifestation journal alongside the launch of another live
Speaker 1: round of the project. We announced on Wednesday, and I'm
Speaker 1: just so excited because this journal really came from a
Speaker 1: place of I love journals. I love writing down, you know,
Speaker 1: when I'm manifesting something or just brain dumping and all
Speaker 1: the things. And I really wanted a journal that was
Speaker 1: like very specific to like how I manifest and how
Speaker 1: I do things, and so we created one and it's
Speaker 1: a lot of fun. It's so much fun. So in
Speaker 1: the first part of the journal, I literally go through
Speaker 1: my manifestation formula, we go through limiting beliefs, we go
Speaker 1: through a lot of like concepts to do with manifesting
Speaker 1: and just like really setting yourself up. And then the
Speaker 1: journal gets to it starts with a monthly breakdown, reflection audit,
Speaker 1: a monthly manifestation, and then you get to your weak
Speaker 1: reflection and then you get to free writing. So that
Speaker 1: was like a big thing for me, is I love
Speaker 1: when there's prompts and I love when there's you know, reflections,
Speaker 1: but then I also need space to free write. So
Speaker 1: that's what the journal you know reflects. And then also
Speaker 1: in there there's literally over one hundred one hundred, like
Speaker 1: probably more than two hundred, how many proms track and
Speaker 1: there is.
Speaker 2: Oh pay, like I think there's like a good five
Speaker 2: six pages filled with double column prompts.
Speaker 1: Yes, so the biggest thing. And also the journal includes
Speaker 1: how to actually journal, yeah, which is one of our
Speaker 1: most asked questions. I think when I talk about journaling,
Speaker 1: I just like think everyone knows what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: And it's not like dear diary blah blah blah. It's different.
Speaker 1: It's a you know, it's a tool we use to
Speaker 1: do the inner work and to manifest. And so a
Speaker 1: lot of people don't even know what journaling is or
Speaker 1: they don't like they don't know what questions to ask
Speaker 1: themselves to really get like dig deep and do the
Speaker 1: inner work. So we've literally got five pages of double
Speaker 1: columns of journal prompts, and they're very specific to like
Speaker 1: if you're feeling lost, if you know you're having a
Speaker 1: hard time with this or that, Like, they're very specific.
Speaker 1: So for example, if you're you know, wanting to journal
Speaker 1: and something specific, you can just go to those prompts
Speaker 1: and then you know, use those in the free writing section.
Speaker 1: So we've spent so much time and love on this
Speaker 1: journal to make it perfect, and it really is very
Speaker 1: specific to the RNC fam. If you have done the
Speaker 1: project before, you will fucking die over this journal because
Speaker 1: it's so good. It will be how you journal and
Speaker 1: it will be like so tailored for you. If you
Speaker 1: are brand new to journaling, you will love it because
Speaker 1: it's literally this is how you journal, this is what
Speaker 1: you do, and it's giving you all the tools. It's
Speaker 1: a really really fun way to get into it. So
Speaker 1: obviously you don't have like have to have done the
Speaker 1: project before. It's just gonna be a great tool alongside.
Speaker 1: And if you are planning on doing the project, I
Speaker 1: really really encourage you to also get the journal because
Speaker 1: it's just yeah, it's such a beautiful tool to use
Speaker 1: with it, and I just I know you guys got
Speaker 1: to be as obsessed as we are. But yeah, so
Speaker 1: glad I could finally like officially tell you guys, because
Speaker 1: I really struggle to put that in content. So that
Speaker 1: is literally launching next Wednesday on the eighteenth hair tier. Yes,
Speaker 1: so I cannot wait. All the details will be in
Speaker 1: the show notes. So the project is going live. If
Speaker 1: you guys don't know what the project is, if you're
Speaker 1: new here, it is my seven week self development and
Speaker 1: manifestation course. It is my signature program. This is something
Speaker 1: thousands of women have done and it completely changed their life.
Speaker 1: It changed the trajectory of like where they were going.
Speaker 1: You know what's really weirder t here. Most people who
Speaker 1: now work for me have done the project like yourself
Speaker 1: and like Jamie. Yeah, and then like I loved the project.
Speaker 1: I know like Kira and I know Leah, like a
Speaker 1: lot of the girls who we then hired. It's like
Speaker 1: I attract these self development queen. You do. So it's
Speaker 1: a really really beautiful intro into self development. And then
Speaker 1: also as a byproduct knowing my manifestation formula and really
Speaker 1: applying it to your own life. So it's not like
Speaker 1: a reading the Secret Book and being like a wish
Speaker 1: for something and then it a p or I get
Speaker 1: a check in the mail or anything like that. This
Speaker 1: is really doing the work, and this is really beautiful
Speaker 1: work that once you have these tools, you will continue
Speaker 1: And the way that I kind of chat about it
Speaker 1: is these tools that you will learn you will continue
Speaker 1: to apply at every like next stage and level of
Speaker 1: your life, because like self development, it's not an end destination.
Speaker 1: It's a journey. But you don't know what you don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So this, like I guarantee you anyone who sticks to
Speaker 1: this course, it will change your life.
Speaker 2: Do you agree that here a hundred I cannot even
Speaker 2: explain what a different person it made me after doing it.
Speaker 1: It's that and that, because that's the thing is like
Speaker 1: like some you know, some people do the project and
Speaker 1: they manifest their dream house or their dream partner or
Speaker 1: their dream job. But then also some people do it
Speaker 1: and they literally just change so much internally that it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, it always changes their reality because when you
Speaker 1: change internally externally you have to change, but it just
Speaker 1: it will give you so much.
Speaker 2: Like I I kind of did both, like I manifested
Speaker 2: my card during while doing the project, but I will
Speaker 2: still always say the biggest shift for me was internally,
Speaker 2: and I kind of forget that sometimes I manifested my
Speaker 2: card doing the project because everything else made way more
Speaker 2: of a difference.
Speaker 1: Yeah, to how I am as person. It's even what
Speaker 1: I say on this podcast of like how I market
Speaker 1: the project on Instagram is usually a lot of I
Speaker 1: manifested my pausch my dream house and this and this,
Speaker 1: and then they get into the project and I'm like,
Speaker 1: let's do the inner word, like tricking them to your
Speaker 1: self developmment, Like I'm not going to be like you're
Speaker 1: going to be your most authentic self. I actually do
Speaker 1: that a lot. You do, but like you trust me
Speaker 1: when I say, when you do this course and you
Speaker 1: do the inner work, like your life will change. When
Speaker 1: you do the internal stuff, the external will change. So
Speaker 1: this course is really for someone who is looking for
Speaker 1: their reality to change, because that will happen. I have
Speaker 1: no fucking doubts about that. So hold on because it's
Speaker 1: going to be a ride. But if you're looking for
Speaker 1: your reality to change, maybe you're feeling like lost and unclear.
Speaker 1: You're not clear on what your next level self is,
Speaker 1: You're not clear on what your dream life is like.
Speaker 1: Because I know on this podcast we talk a lot
Speaker 1: about our next level self or my big life and
Speaker 1: these concepts, and I know a lot of you would
Speaker 1: be even thinking, I don't even know what that looks
Speaker 1: like for me, or you know, you don't have any
Speaker 1: of those that clarity, and that's so okay. I didn't either,
Speaker 1: and a lot of people don't because they're just you know,
Speaker 1: wanting things because you know, their mom, their partner or
Speaker 1: their dog wants it, not necessarily because they want it
Speaker 1: a bit. What you will find is if you constantly
Speaker 1: chase these things where you haven't done the inner work
Speaker 1: and you're not completely clear from a very like heart
Speaker 1: centered place, you will never feel fulfilled, you'll never feel happy,
Speaker 1: you will always feel that lost feeling. Yeah, so that's
Speaker 1: why it's so important to you know, do this work first,
Speaker 1: and then once you know you get clear and that
Speaker 1: you will then learn the formula that you can apply
Speaker 1: to any situation in your life to upgrade it, to
Speaker 1: go to the next level, to manifest really really big.
Speaker 1: Like the like the little thing is like the effort
Speaker 1: it takes to manifest something big is the exact same
Speaker 1: as something small. And that's what if that mind fuck
Speaker 1: you a little bit, don't worry, we get into it.
Speaker 1: But it really is a life changing course and it's
Speaker 1: like manifestation one on one, but also so much self
Speaker 1: development in just getting you to a place where you
Speaker 1: fucking love who you are and you fucking love your
Speaker 1: life and you are so excited and like that is
Speaker 1: like that's where I want everyone to sit and feel
Speaker 1: and just feel so like, oh my god, I'm living
Speaker 1: my dream reality, even like it's going to be so
Speaker 1: different for everyone.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So project literally launches on the eighteenth. It actually like
Speaker 1: we don't start until let's have a look, so we
Speaker 1: don't actually start to the thirteenth of February. And that's
Speaker 1: just because we wanted to leave the cart open for
Speaker 1: a good amount of time, just because I know it
Speaker 1: is an investment, and I also know how chaotic January
Speaker 1: can sometimes, and I know, like you know, we're just
Speaker 1: getting back into work. We're like really creating those strong habits,
Speaker 1: We're creating routine, and I really wanted you guys to
Speaker 1: be out a point where you can put a lot
Speaker 1: of time and energy into this because honestly, the amount
Speaker 1: of energy you put into it is what you will
Speaker 1: get out of it. And it does like it's literally
Speaker 1: life changing, So of course there's going to be an
Speaker 1: energy exchange of like you need to show up and
Speaker 1: you need to put in the work. So I just
Speaker 1: wanted to make sure it was at a time where
Speaker 1: you guys could do that. All the details would be
Speaker 1: on the website or my Instagram or anywhere. And yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm really excited. This is a live round, which means
Speaker 1: there's a live Facebook group, there is life calls. I'll
Speaker 1: be in the Facebook group, you know, the team will
Speaker 1: be in there will be making sure you have the
Speaker 1: best experience. And yeah, I'm so bloody excited for another
Speaker 1: round it here. I'm really like, after the holidays, my
Speaker 1: cup is feeling so full and I'm like feeling on
Speaker 1: fire for this one mean too. And then to have
Speaker 1: the journal I know it's gonna be so good. It's
Speaker 1: such an epic tool, and it's just it's so pretty
Speaker 1: and it's just such a vibe. So really excited to
Speaker 1: bring that to you as well. Before we get into
Speaker 1: the hot land or a tear watch your recommendation, I
Speaker 1: have to tell.
Speaker 2: Us My first one is just like for your year,
Speaker 2: pick a skill that you want to get better at,
Speaker 2: and and find something you can put out into the
Speaker 2: world that helps you get better at that.
Speaker 1: Skill, if that makes sense. So give me an example.
Speaker 2: So, like, I want to get better at copywriting. So
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna start like.
Speaker 1: Doing a little news Let please do slash blog. My god,
Speaker 1: I'm so tru called out. You're honestly amazing at copywriting.
Speaker 1: Thank you. You're honestly really good. Why am I so mean?
Speaker 2: So that's what I want to do every week, just
Speaker 2: so I build the habit and then I can just
Speaker 2: like reflect and see how far I've come and.
Speaker 1: Look back at things. I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then my second recommendation is actually Pinterest Predicts.
Speaker 1: Oh you you sent this to me and I sent
Speaker 1: it to your Joe. Yeah, Jodja does that a look
Speaker 1: so I'm not on my phone.
Speaker 2: A Pinterest Predicts is a report Pinterest put out at
Speaker 2: the beginning of every year where they predict the upcoming
Speaker 2: trends of the year based on what people are pinning
Speaker 2: because people pin for the future. So in the past
Speaker 2: three years their trend predictions have been eighty percent correct.
Speaker 1: Wow, And I just love reading these.
Speaker 2: So that is my other recommendation for your week is
Speaker 2: have a look at Pinterest Predicts, just for a bit
Speaker 2: of fun, to see what's coming up this year, to
Speaker 2: see what trends might be around, especially if you're running
Speaker 2: a business and or you work in social media and
Speaker 2: you want to make sure that you're like up.
Speaker 1: With all that stuff.
Speaker 2: It's a good, good little report. It's very aesthetic to read,
Speaker 2: very easy to read too.
Speaker 1: I love that recommendation. A tear, thank you. I'll be
Speaker 1: looking at the report after Okay. So I also have
Speaker 1: two because I wanted to copy you. So I have
Speaker 1: been very immersed in health yes content right now, and
Speaker 1: I've got a great podcast for you guys. The podcast
Speaker 1: is The Diary of a CEO with Deven Bartlet and
Speaker 1: it's episode two O nine, Doctor Tim Spector. The title
Speaker 1: is The Shocking New Truth about Weight Loss, calories and diets.
Speaker 1: So interesting every like doesn't need a bit of a trigger.
Speaker 1: Whatding no no in such a good way of like,
Speaker 1: if you're like a BT, you're probably gonna fucking hate it.
Speaker 1: It just contradicts so much hit on Instagram. I cannot
Speaker 1: You need to listen to it. Yeah, well it's fucking
Speaker 1: so interesting. But it made me really look at things
Speaker 1: a different way and like it was a catalyst to me,
Speaker 1: like really putting some like health goals in place. So
Speaker 1: listen to that. It's a goodie. We'll put in the
Speaker 1: show notes. And then my second one is Avatar. I
Speaker 1: recommended that in our idim did you tell us about it? So,
Speaker 1: I honestly could not remember the first one. I saw
Speaker 1: it when I was fourteen, and I just I was nine.
Speaker 1: I could not remember. I remember liking it. So me
Speaker 1: and him watch that and I loved it, and I
Speaker 1: was like, we need to see the second one. So
Speaker 1: we went to the movies. We went gold class and
Speaker 1: really treated ourselves and it was just amazing. Like I
Speaker 1: just I loved the story. It was one of those
Speaker 1: movies I could not like stop watching. I was in
Speaker 1: so much anticipation. I actually felt bitter anxious some of
Speaker 1: the movie. Yeah, it just grips you. It grips you,
Speaker 1: and I love a movie that grips you, and for
Speaker 1: a movie to grip you for like three hours is extraordinary.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I definitely recommend. It was interesting because I
Speaker 1: literally had a girlfriend who saw it who I asked her.
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, is it worth going to the cinemas?
Speaker 1: And then like in that time, I already booked the cinemas,
Speaker 1: and then she was like, nah, just watch it at home.
Speaker 1: So I went in thinking, oh, it's probably not going
Speaker 1: to be that good, but I left thinking what the
Speaker 1: fuck is She just so highly highly recommend. I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's still in cinemas.
Speaker 2: But it is, and I would highly recommend seeing it
Speaker 2: in the cinema because you're not going to get that
Speaker 2: experience at home from your TV.
Speaker 1: It was epek. I'm also watching Ginny and Georgia season
Speaker 1: two on Netflix. Let's get into the show.
Speaker 2: Our first question, what are your ins and outs for
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three? Oh?
Speaker 1: I love this.
Speaker 2: I mean too. I've been seeing it all over Instagram
Speaker 2: and I'm obsessed.
Speaker 1: So ins and outs. I love this law trend at
Speaker 1: the moment.
Speaker 2: I also love that now again socially acceptable to put
Speaker 2: screenshots of notes Yeah on Instagram feeds.
Speaker 1: It's back up, love it back Okay, So ince lucky
Speaker 1: girl syndrome. I love lucky girls syndrome. I love that
Speaker 1: this is a trend on I think it's TikTok is it?
Speaker 1: It's more on TikTok And I love it because I'm like,
Speaker 1: welcome to the club. This is literally just manifesting and
Speaker 1: everyone's like, oh my god, there's new concept and I'm
Speaker 1: like nice hello. So R and C fam are probably like, yeah,
Speaker 1: old news, but it's like it's our core belief of
Speaker 1: life happens for me, and sitting in that feeling of
Speaker 1: even when something's going wrong, it's like no, no, this
Speaker 1: is actually happening for me exactly. It still gets to
Speaker 1: be like amazing and it's going to end up better
Speaker 1: than how you could have imagined. And like most of
Speaker 1: so if you guys don't know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: On TikTok, everyone's talking about this lucky girl syndrome where
Speaker 1: they are a quote unquote lucky girl and certain things
Speaker 1: will happen and they will just like fall into place,
Speaker 1: or you know, maybe they'll miss the bus but then
Speaker 1: something happens when they get the next bus or you know,
Speaker 1: certain things like that, which is like serendipitous. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I'm my gosh, this is all just manifesting and living
Speaker 1: in the core belief of life happens for me. So
Speaker 1: I love it. It's just like making it more mainstream.
Speaker 1: SO love that. That's definitely an INN and we're going
Speaker 1: to continue the life happens for me. Next one capsule
Speaker 1: wardrobe a tear. If I can't wear something ten times,
Speaker 1: we're not buying it. I love it. We're buying pieces
Speaker 1: that we can continuously wear and like dial differently and
Speaker 1: quality over quantity. That's like my big thing this year.
Speaker 1: And I don't want just like a closet full of clothes.
Speaker 1: I want things that match and go together and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna wear and that feel really good and are like
Speaker 1: high quality.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: Next linen, she's going through her linen era. We are
Speaker 1: you wearing linen today? Yeah? Yeah, I love it. We're
Speaker 1: both wearing linen and it's neutral. Yeah, it's just a
Speaker 1: bit of a vibe and it feels I have linen
Speaker 1: sheets also, and it's so My interior designer was like, oh,
Speaker 1: do you guys want linen sheets? And I was like,
Speaker 1: oh no, like scratcheas yeah, scratchyet and she's like no,
Speaker 1: trust me, they will change your life, like once you've
Speaker 1: slept in them for a couple of nights. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: so I was like, okay, I'll try them. And I
Speaker 1: got them and Tim said the exact same thing, and
Speaker 1: he's like, why would you get linen? Bobba like going off.
Speaker 1: We put them on and we are both obsessed, like obsessed.
Speaker 1: If you don't have linen sheets, this is what you
Speaker 1: need to try in twenty twenty three. And of course
Speaker 1: leton clothes guys. Next one. Oysters what this is so abandoned,
Speaker 1: but I just feel so passionate about this. Oysters are
Speaker 1: so delicious and if you think they're gross, like my
Speaker 1: response to you is like, grow the fuck up. I
Speaker 1: know that's my response.
Speaker 2: I was just about to say, I'm a child and
Speaker 2: I hate seafood.
Speaker 1: You're a child. I'm anyone who's like ill the texture,
Speaker 1: I'm like, grow the fuck up. Honestly, that's how I
Speaker 1: fucking feel about oysters. And that's it. And also oysters
Speaker 1: and champagne is just a vibey take your word on that.
Speaker 1: The next in strong boundaries a tear. Last year nearly
Speaker 1: broke me. I know, I know, christ, but this year
Speaker 1: is strong boundaries, sticking to my word, my word is
Speaker 1: all and really being like if it is not a hell, yes,
Speaker 1: it's a no, and sticking to that, not dancing around
Speaker 1: the fact, and being very unapologetic. I actually I had
Speaker 1: this thing that came up, a text message something someone
Speaker 1: wanting me, wanting something from me. And I would usually
Speaker 1: like respond to someone and be like, oh, let me
Speaker 1: have a think about it, or like make up an
Speaker 1: excuse or you know, something like to lessen the blow yep,
Speaker 1: but I was just like no, Wow. I fully was like, no,
Speaker 1: that's not in integrity with how I want to shop
Speaker 1: up this year, blah blah blah, and put down the boundary. Congratulations,
Speaker 1: that's amazing, and was so unapologetic about it, and I
Speaker 1: was like yes, and I even was so tempted to
Speaker 1: be like, oh, not right now, but I'm like no, no,
Speaker 1: so no. Yeah. So that's like a big thing I'm
Speaker 1: trying to set into. Oh and also and the next
Speaker 1: in is aware parenting. What is that for us that
Speaker 1: don't have children? So really random? My massage a lady
Speaker 1: is like so wo wo And we were talking about
Speaker 1: a lot of different concepts while getting a message, and
Speaker 1: she was telling me about this podcast called a ware Parenting.
Speaker 1: Let me get it up on Spotify, the Wear Parenting
Speaker 1: podcasts by Marion Rose PhD and Layel Stone. And so
Speaker 1: it's just this concept of It's really funny because in
Speaker 1: my journal I've been writing a lot about how like
Speaker 1: I love my parents, but some of how they parented me.
Speaker 1: I don't want to parent Ivy in the same way.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to just parent her how I
Speaker 1: was parented. I kind of want to learn and have
Speaker 1: all the tools and then decide myself if that makes sense.
Speaker 1: I don't want to just be conditioned to parent a
Speaker 1: certain way because my parents parented a certain way, Like
Speaker 1: I had a great childhood. I love my parents and
Speaker 1: I'm very thankful of how they parented me. I just
Speaker 1: kind of want to, you know, experiment, experiment and like
Speaker 1: make my own pathway and have all the tools, because
Speaker 1: that's how I do everything in life. And I have
Speaker 1: been like writing my journal about finding either a course
Speaker 1: or something to come up to help me with parenting Ivy,
Speaker 1: just because me and Tim are noticing she's only one,
Speaker 1: but she's starting to like she's so developed, and she's
Speaker 1: so smart, and she's starting to understand concept concepts, and
Speaker 1: we're even even noticing, like we'll laugh at her and
Speaker 1: then she'll do that thing again. Ah, but usually that
Speaker 1: thing is like you know, naughty, yeah, or like she's
Speaker 1: throwing food or something, and so we're just noticing, like
Speaker 1: we have to be conscious now how we show up
Speaker 1: and how we like parent her.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And so I've been writing my journal literally probably since
Speaker 1: I reckon September last year. I wanted a way of
Speaker 1: parenting to come up that felt really good and felt
Speaker 1: really aligned. I'd done a little bit of research, but
Speaker 1: like nothing felt good anyway. I listened to this podcast
Speaker 1: and I love it. I love what they talk about,
Speaker 1: and it's all about letting your children experience their feelings
Speaker 1: and not feeling shame, but also having strong boundaries and
Speaker 1: just it's very interesting and it's beautiful. And so I'm
Speaker 1: actually going to do a course about aware parenting and
Speaker 1: me and him are going to do it together, and
Speaker 1: I just I feel really excited about it because it
Speaker 1: just it feels really good and I hadn't heard it before.
Speaker 1: That's so cool. So where parenting is in, well, like
Speaker 1: for now, we'll see. I'll see if I like the course.
Speaker 1: My outs, Yes, tell them mom guilt good, Mum Guilt's gone.
Speaker 1: We're done with her. And she's out snoozing my alarm.
Speaker 1: So I always I always get to my gym session,
Speaker 1: but most of the time it's like just on time, yeah,
Speaker 1: or usually a couple of minutes after because I've snoozed
Speaker 1: my alarm. And I just this concept that I've been
Speaker 1: really leaning into in the new year is this how
Speaker 1: you do one thing is how you do everything. So
Speaker 1: like really trying to show up of I can't be
Speaker 1: like you jump on this podcast and be like Georgie
Speaker 1: on her next level in twenty twenty three and I'm
Speaker 1: a powerful beach and blah blah blah, and then I'm
Speaker 1: still fucking snoozing my alarm to me like I want
Speaker 1: I love this word. Ellie was talking to me about
Speaker 1: of like having integrity with everything you do, and I
Speaker 1: want to show up in integrity in even the small things,
Speaker 1: because you know they're truly the big thing. So I thought,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, that is something that
Speaker 1: I do is snooze my alarm and something similar to
Speaker 1: that on that kind of wavelength is scrolling before I
Speaker 1: go to bed. That is out a tr go so bad.
Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking, what I'm gonna do is put a
Speaker 1: timer on and give myself twenty minutes, like because I
Speaker 1: don't go on my phone once I get home because
Speaker 1: I'm with Ivy. Yeah, so as soon as she's asleep,
Speaker 1: I will put a timer on and I'll give myself
Speaker 1: twenty minutes. And then the phone is on air aplane
Speaker 1: in Mote and I'm either reading, journaling or meditating. We're
Speaker 1: not scrolling. Another out is gluten. Oh, Gluten's out. And
Speaker 1: this is not like this is because of my thyroid.
Speaker 1: I CA Yeah, it's not like me saying I don't
Speaker 1: want eat gluten because it you know, I love gluten.
Speaker 1: I love gluten too.
Speaker 2: It's good that you're doing that for your thyroid. Though
Speaker 2: it's important.
Speaker 1: Well, it's so important. Even Ellie kind of called me
Speaker 1: out of it and was like, you dabble in gluten
Speaker 1: and then you complain about your thyroid's not getting better,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, so gluten's out for me personally, just
Speaker 1: because thyroid issues. Picking the easier option, going back to
Speaker 1: the is this integral with like my next level self
Speaker 1: or am I just picking the easy option? Because a
Speaker 1: lot of the time last year, I just picked the
Speaker 1: easy option, which I think is okay. I gave myself
Speaker 1: grace because a lot was on last year. But this year,
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I'm standing in integrity. And then the
Speaker 1: last out is comparing my body to anyone else or
Speaker 1: even my previous self. We're not doing that this year
Speaker 1: because I think being postpartum last year, I never expressed it,
Speaker 1: but I was comparing myself a lot. Yeah, and I'm
Speaker 1: just like, such a waste of brain capacity, and we're
Speaker 1: not doing that, And I'm just embracing myself and like
Speaker 1: even to my past self, because I was really good
Speaker 1: at not comparing myself to like rather people. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I would compare myself to my previous self. But I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm not going backwards. I'm going forward and I'm just
Speaker 1: not doing that.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: So they are my ins and outs. What are yours?
Speaker 2: My ins and outs? And I wrote this before I
Speaker 2: heard yours, but some of them are the same, which
Speaker 2: excites me. My first is risk taking. So I feel
Speaker 2: like a lot of my life I've wanted to do
Speaker 2: these big, amazing things and then I psyck myself out
Speaker 2: and I really don't want to do that. In twenty
Speaker 2: twenty three, I'm gonna do things if I want to
Speaker 2: do them. I'm not gonna worry about if it's gonna
Speaker 2: work or not. I'm not gonna worry about if people
Speaker 2: are gonna like it or not, or what they're gonna think.
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna do it and see what happens. And
Speaker 2: then number two, my second in is making my word law.
Speaker 2: I really am. Similar to what you said and what
Speaker 2: Ellie's talking about is living with integrity. If I say
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do something, I'm actually gonna do it. I
Speaker 2: don't want to be a flaky person. I want to
Speaker 2: be someone who respects myself and takes myself seriously. So
Speaker 2: I really want to make that a big deal this year.
Speaker 2: Number three in is my health. I really want to
Speaker 2: prioritize it and respect it and respect that time as
Speaker 2: equally as.
Speaker 1: My other values.
Speaker 2: So if I'm going to catch up up with someone
Speaker 2: and they ask me to do it in my gym time,
Speaker 2: I need to be a bit stricter with my boundaries
Speaker 2: and say no.
Speaker 1: Love.
Speaker 2: And then another in for me is balance. I want
Speaker 2: to make sure I'm filling all my buckets up and
Speaker 2: valuing them all equally. Again, I think that's something that
Speaker 2: I haven't done in the past. Is I valued some
Speaker 2: buckets over others when they're all as important as each other.
Speaker 2: And just like be a well rounded person love, My
Speaker 2: other one is investing purposefully. So I don't want to
Speaker 2: be buying things material or not that I will not
Speaker 2: get the most value out of. And I really want
Speaker 2: it to be a considered decision, not an impulse decision,
Speaker 2: so almost take things a little bit slower. Then another
Speaker 2: in for me is a reflection. I want to be
Speaker 2: open to reflecting on the things I do and the
Speaker 2: things I don't do and why and how does that
Speaker 2: make me feel? More often than I have been. And
Speaker 2: then that's actually something.
Speaker 1: I got from the do it for your future self
Speaker 1: of course is I thought, I really need to be
Speaker 1: doing this monthly.
Speaker 2: Literally, like when I tried to do that audit, I
Speaker 2: was it took me hours, I know, because you hadn't
Speaker 2: done it in so long, and I just said, every week,
Speaker 2: I need to sit down. I need to hire loan
Speaker 2: a milestone, no matter how big or small, so that
Speaker 2: when I get to the six month mark in the
Speaker 2: year or the year or a year mark and I
Speaker 2: redo the do it for your future self. Course, this
Speaker 2: needs to be easy for me because there needs to
Speaker 2: be something I do often.
Speaker 1: That's even like I literally put in a calendar thing
Speaker 1: that's like the first on every month to do an audit.
Speaker 1: I love that because, let's be honest, I'm not doing
Speaker 1: it weekly, that's true, and I'm going to do it
Speaker 1: every month of like look at my buckets and be
Speaker 1: like where am I actually like lacking right now and
Speaker 1: where do I need to like put more time and
Speaker 1: energy the next month. It's like I lowly important until
Speaker 1: it gets like empty and literally broken, because I realize
Speaker 1: a lot last year was like just one or two
Speaker 1: buckets feeling broken all the time and really leaking energy,
Speaker 1: and then that making me feel like it was like
Speaker 1: not like a shit year, but like it was only
Speaker 1: one bucket, and if I just like evened the attention,
Speaker 1: it would have felt so much less overwhelming.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: My last in is the five four three two one technique.
Speaker 1: What's that?
Speaker 2: And that's gonna help me make my word law in
Speaker 2: that if I say I'm gonna do something, I just
Speaker 2: need to do it straight away. I need to count
Speaker 2: down from five four three two one and then just
Speaker 2: do it. Oh's that from Mel Robbins? Yes, so did
Speaker 2: you read her book? I haven't, I do need to?
Speaker 2: It's it actually popped up on my TikTok feed where
Speaker 2: someone explained that by counting down from five, you interrupt
Speaker 2: your sort of risk not risk taking, but the bit
Speaker 2: of your brain that questions what you're about to do
Speaker 2: or is able to give you excuses. You interrupt that
Speaker 2: thought pattern and it just gets you ready to do it.
Speaker 1: Do I need to do that when my alarm goes off?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Five four three two one and get out of bed. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: So that's my last in. My aunt's leaky energy.
Speaker 1: Mmm, done with it.
Speaker 2: I'm dealing with things in.
Speaker 1: The moment, fucking done with it.
Speaker 2: I'm dealing with things in the moment, and if I don't,
Speaker 2: that's on me. I need a little burning ceremony and
Speaker 2: internally close it.
Speaker 1: Up, not letting it fester. Yes, no festering. No festering here.
Speaker 2: And then my second one was comparison with your Yes,
Speaker 2: I feel like not just with my body, but with
Speaker 2: like life stages, especially like now I'm twenty two, twenty three,
Speaker 2: everyone's so different, Like people are getting engaged.
Speaker 1: Now I'm old and twenty two.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like some people are getting engaged that I know,
Speaker 2: some people are still single, some people are having babies
Speaker 2: at twenty two, babies euro Summers. Like everybody's so deep,
Speaker 2: so wild, and I need to stop worrying about that
Speaker 2: and just really connect with my own path and my
Speaker 2: values and not and not let that make me feel
Speaker 2: like I'm not doing things right.
Speaker 1: Love. Yeah, what others think is also out.
Speaker 2: I need to stop worrying about it. I just need
Speaker 2: to do my own thing and not worry about, oh
Speaker 2: what will this person think if they see that or
Speaker 2: that sort of stuff.
Speaker 1: Interesting, it's a big one for me.
Speaker 2: And then I've obviously put impulse purchases. They're out, yes,
Speaker 2: and binging, binging, is out for me in twenty twenty three,
Speaker 2: I want what do you mean by that? Like content?
Speaker 2: I don't want to binge watch Netflix. I don't like
Speaker 2: if a TV series comes out, I really want to
Speaker 2: take my time with it, watch an episode a week
Speaker 2: or an episode a day.
Speaker 1: I'm really good at that, I know you are, and
Speaker 1: I'm not. And like, because Tim will literally want to
Speaker 1: be in something and I'm like, no, let's say that. Yes,
Speaker 1: and he's like, but why it literally hates me. And
Speaker 1: I'm also like, I if I love a show and
Speaker 1: I find it during the week, I will literally not
Speaker 1: watch it and wait till the weekend because I like
Speaker 1: to save her something.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I'm really good at that.
Speaker 2: So I want to get better at just because why
Speaker 2: the reason I would constantly binge things? And literally at
Speaker 2: the end of the year, I was like, I got
Speaker 2: nothing left it watch like there's nothing Yeah, And then
Speaker 2: I feel that time with stupid fhit And so I
Speaker 2: really want to be able to be patient enough and
Speaker 2: disciplined enough to know this is not the time for me.
Speaker 1: To be what's it called delayed gratification.
Speaker 2: Yes, And I think, especially now, we're very much conditioned
Speaker 2: to have instant gratification.
Speaker 1: Sorry, just dropped again. Yeah, I'm actually so good at
Speaker 1: delayed gratification, even the way of I've got all these
Speaker 1: parcels downstairs of like stuff I bought on Boxing Day,
Speaker 1: and I'm only taking home one parcel and then like
Speaker 1: I'll slowly take it home and open it.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I want the delayed gratification. God, I
Speaker 2: literally could never do that. And that's that's not wild,
Speaker 2: that's so good.
Speaker 1: I remember my parents teaching me delayed gratification growing up.
Speaker 2: My mom tried, she really tried. It didn't work, And.
Speaker 1: Like I remember my parents saying stuff like if my
Speaker 1: brothers wanted tattoos, they had to wait like three months
Speaker 1: and if then they still wanted it and they could
Speaker 1: get it, and stuff like that, Wow. Or if you
Speaker 1: wanted something growing up, I would have to wait a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks to see if you still wanted that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my rule for myself this year too. I
Speaker 2: need to wait four to eight weeks for anything I
Speaker 2: want to buy, unless it's a replacement of something.
Speaker 1: What if I've sold out too bad?
Speaker 2: So sad? Did I really need it?
Speaker 1: Shocked?
Speaker 2: I know?
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: Let's see if that I have wish list already, it's.
Speaker 1: I also I want to make a wish list this year. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I saw everyone had one last year, and when
Speaker 1: like when people asked me what my wishes, I had nothing.
Speaker 1: I've bought everything I want or I just like I
Speaker 1: want sing and I forget because I didn't put on
Speaker 1: the list. Yeah, right, and make a lessens say that's love.
Speaker 1: Those in and outs love this for us.
Speaker 2: And then I added snoozing my alarm when you said it,
Speaker 2: and I also had mindless scrolling on.
Speaker 1: There, so yeah, that's really getting us. I just want
Speaker 1: to be purposeful with my time. Yeah. And also sometimes
Speaker 1: I think like it's also just a weird concept to
Speaker 1: not be present in your life, to watch someone else's life.
Speaker 1: That's what my dad always says to me. He's like,
Speaker 1: you're wasting your life watching other people live theirs. That's
Speaker 1: oh my god. That gets me all the time. And
Speaker 1: I say that to Tim too, and he's always like,
Speaker 1: I'm literally in bed doing nothing, and I might to
Speaker 1: share you're literally watching Netflix. Shut the fuck up, all right.
Speaker 2: Next question, our next question.
Speaker 1: I love this one, so.
Speaker 2: I'd love to get our insight on how a scarcity
Speaker 2: or lack mindset works in terms of money, things and
Speaker 2: experiences and feeling like you can't get enough of it,
Speaker 2: regardless of earning a what is considered a good income.
Speaker 2: And she's also said she struggles to save and she
Speaker 2: used to not quite understand the concept of an abundant
Speaker 2: mindset and thought it was just acting like a rich
Speaker 2: person and spending.
Speaker 1: All her money. I'd love this so much because I
Speaker 1: can relate. See, I'm like the opposite in the regards
Speaker 1: of I used to be such are what's the word
Speaker 1: when you're like really good at saving money? Frugal? Ah,
Speaker 1: so frugal and so good at the words living within
Speaker 1: your means were like my Bible. Yeah, I was so
Speaker 1: good at that and so like frifty. And then once
Speaker 1: I found manifesting and abundance, so that worked quite well for.
Speaker 2: Me because.
Speaker 1: So that why can well because I was like the opposite.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But anyway back to the question, so I know I do.
Speaker 1: I love this question because like, being abundant is not
Speaker 1: just spending all your money. Yeah, Because if we're going
Speaker 1: back to like what we're talking about with integrity, like
Speaker 1: I guarantee you that is not in integrity with your
Speaker 1: goals or with you as a person, or what you value.
Speaker 1: So I'm guessing and I do kind of know this person,
Speaker 1: so I kind of I know exactly what she's talking about.
Speaker 1: And it's being abundant in the way of like, you know,
Speaker 1: being like, oh, well, I've got to act abundance. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go buy that y a cell bag. Where it's
Speaker 1: like you might have a wage that can you know,
Speaker 1: support that, but do you also have other priorities in
Speaker 1: your life like your partner and you wanting to buy
Speaker 1: a house, yeah, or like wanting to go overseas on
Speaker 1: trip correct. Yeah, And so in those times, I really
Speaker 1: really do not believe in being abundant is spending all
Speaker 1: your money, yeah, because that is not abundance. That is
Speaker 1: putting yourself in a mode of lack because then once
Speaker 1: you spend that money.
Speaker 2: You don't have any well correct, thank you pointing that out.
Speaker 1: So I want you to start thinking of like you
Speaker 1: can still have a budget, be thrifty, be conscious and
Speaker 1: good with your money, but still be abundant because it's
Speaker 1: the energy in which you spend and it's the energy
Speaker 1: in which you you know, think and feel about money. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that is different. To the actual doing. So the doing
Speaker 1: abundant might be spending the money, but the being abundant
Speaker 1: is not spending the money when that is not integral
Speaker 1: with who you are and your prodies and your goals.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: So I feel like that kind of like explains it
Speaker 1: a little bit. And also this energy of I what
Speaker 1: does she say, like you can never get enough? What
Speaker 1: reckon she means by that? I too well?
Speaker 2: For me, it's almost like no matter how hard you try,
Speaker 2: or you're maybe earning a decent wage or like a
Speaker 2: good income, it's still not enough for the life you
Speaker 2: want kind of thing. Yeah, like not feeling abundant enough,
Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, so.
Speaker 1: I think you need to shift in regards to living
Speaker 1: within your means does not mean you're in a scarcity mindset. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like that does not mean that at all. You can
Speaker 1: still live within your means and budget and thrift and
Speaker 1: whatnot and still be in an abundant mindset because you've
Speaker 1: also got to be like, you also have to be
Speaker 1: conscious about your priorities and if you are saving money
Speaker 1: or you yeah, you need to have a certain amount
Speaker 1: of money, you're not gonna go then spend it, because
Speaker 1: that is going to put you in a scarcity mindset.
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I feel like something that clicked for me with
Speaker 2: this is things like, for example, fuel, I would struggle
Speaker 2: to fill my tank up when fuel was expensive because
Speaker 2: it felt weird, like it felt so expensive to pay
Speaker 2: all that money for fuel at once. So I do
Speaker 2: like fifty dollars at a time instead of putting one
Speaker 2: hundred and fifty dollars and just filling my fuel tank up,
Speaker 2: Whereas now I'll just fill my fuel tank up, like
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna wait for the price to go down
Speaker 2: a couple of cents and things like that, because it
Speaker 2: I need fuel to get to work to make money, yes,
Speaker 2: and so I'm okay for spending that and it doesn't
Speaker 2: feel gross or ichy, and I don't feel bad when
Speaker 2: I spend that money, whereas I used to feel bad
Speaker 2: when I spent that money and would make myself spend less.
Speaker 1: And it's the shift in.
Speaker 2: Mindset for me. And also like I feel good when
Speaker 2: I find a DIY hack for something. Yeah, so I'll
Speaker 2: do it and I love that, yeah, and it feels right.
Speaker 1: That's even like a tear I was thinking the other
Speaker 1: day because I did a big like closet, clean out
Speaker 1: of my closet and also Ivy's closet, and I like
Speaker 1: there was a bunch of stuff that I was giving
Speaker 1: away to like some girlfriends and like my mom and stuff.
Speaker 1: But then there was also a bunch of stuff that
Speaker 1: is like I had literally recently bought, especially because Ivy
Speaker 1: fucking grows so much, but like I had just bought
Speaker 1: and she's worn once or I've just bought, and like
Speaker 1: I've worn once, and I was like I should really
Speaker 1: put this on deepop yeah. And but then there was
Speaker 1: a part of me who is like, what a waste
Speaker 1: of time and energy And it's not even like you're
Speaker 1: going to get you know, much back or anything like yeah,
Speaker 1: but it was like the energy of what's going to
Speaker 1: feel really good for you because this year I do
Speaker 1: want to be like way more sustainable and not just
Speaker 1: like bye bye bye bye bye.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, no, it actually feels really
Speaker 1: good to make sure this goes to like a good home.
Speaker 2: And to someone who will love it and use it
Speaker 2: and who wants it.
Speaker 1: Yes, and it won't feel like just wasted energy.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And it was like, yeah, it was like this weird
Speaker 1: thing I had to like progress and get into absolutely
Speaker 1: love that.
Speaker 2: That was a big thing for me, I think because
Speaker 2: I used to very much think abundance of just spending money.
Speaker 1: I think also like people think manifesting, and you know,
Speaker 1: an abundant mindset doesn't mesh with a budget. But like
Speaker 1: that's not correct because again it's I used to explain
Speaker 1: like you, like you said, if I find a bargain
Speaker 1: somewhere and it's something that I was going to buy
Speaker 1: anyway and I really needed and I loved and I
Speaker 1: was gonna buy it anyway, and it's a bargain, I
Speaker 1: don't go, oh well, I'm not gonna buy it because
Speaker 1: that's like a scarcity mindset. Or I don't buy cheap
Speaker 1: things anymore because I'm about quality and abundance. It's like
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. That is different compared to buying something
Speaker 1: that's cheaper because it's cheaper. Yes, when you like the
Speaker 1: full price thing more, yes, yes, that is the difference.
Speaker 1: And it took me so long to get on board
Speaker 1: with that. And that is like that's a similar thing
Speaker 1: of don't just spend your money willy nilly, because that's
Speaker 1: also not the energy and what you want to spend
Speaker 1: things you want to spend your money because you need,
Speaker 1: you love, you want, not just an impulse buy or
Speaker 1: because you think you know this thing will make you
Speaker 1: feel a certain way. That's like different energies.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I've now noticed in myself that I feel
Speaker 2: so much better when I really think about something and
Speaker 2: maybe even don't buy something than if I bought it,
Speaker 2: Like I feel better inside when I don't buy it
Speaker 2: because I'm like, you know what, I actually didn't need that,
Speaker 2: Like I just wanted to spend money to spend money.
Speaker 1: I love that so much. Confessions of a chopperholic. You
Speaker 1: really are, I know, not this year, not this year.
Speaker 2: It's the ninth of January.
Speaker 1: I've not brought anything but the abundance money. Makeover money,
Speaker 1: my book Makeover ebook would be amazing for this person.
Speaker 1: And we'll chuck the link in the show notes because
Speaker 1: it is so about the energy. And I also think
Speaker 1: like it is important to if you do have you know,
Speaker 1: certain money goals, or you want to buy a house
Speaker 1: or go overseas, like I think it is important to
Speaker 1: have a budget, absolutely have certain saving hacks, Like I
Speaker 1: don't think that is yet different to like manifesting. It's
Speaker 1: not like, what's that called like conflicting? Yeah at all?
Speaker 2: Yeah, they work really well together.
Speaker 1: It's well about the energy. It's all about the energy.
Speaker 2: Lucky. Last question, Hey, Gi, I love some advice on
Speaker 2: how to deal with partners or family members that don't
Speaker 2: believe in manifesting. I'm currently really trying to start pushing
Speaker 2: myself to dream bigger and go for my goals. In
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three PS, I did the do It for
Speaker 2: your Future Self course and loved it. I shared my
Speaker 2: goals and things I want to start manifesting with my partner,
Speaker 2: but he called me a bit crazy and told me
Speaker 2: that it's not really possible. I love him and he's amazing,
Speaker 2: but would love some tips on how to get through
Speaker 2: things like this, as his opinion obviously means a lot
Speaker 2: to me and I'm unsure on what to do. Thank you.
Speaker 1: So this is controversial, but I do not tell Tim anything.
Speaker 1: I'm just really no, not anything. But I am so
Speaker 1: specific with telling people what I'm manifesting or my big life,
Speaker 1: like I doubt anyone knows in my head, like what
Speaker 1: is my big big life. I'm just I just refuse
Speaker 1: to tell anyone that I know is going to tarnish
Speaker 1: is going to bring me down or not let me
Speaker 1: believe in that big life, because honestly, like sixty percent
Speaker 1: of what manifesting is is you believing you are worthy
Speaker 1: for that thing. Yeah, that's honestly the hard part. And
Speaker 1: that's where you know, going through your limiting beliefs and
Speaker 1: like doing the inner work and the shadow work comes in.
Speaker 1: And that's why I feel like I'd been able to
Speaker 1: manifest things quite fast and a certain way is because
Speaker 1: I don't tell people, because that just creates another barrier.
Speaker 1: Like I'm already trying to convince myself that I deserve
Speaker 1: this thing. I don't have to fucking convince someone else
Speaker 1: to do it. It's hard work to do that. And so
Speaker 1: it's a little bit different now with Tim because he
Speaker 1: does believe in you know, manifesting and all the tools
Speaker 1: that I talk about, and and but that's just because
Speaker 1: of how much evidence we have now. And so if
Speaker 1: you asked him to believe in manifesting, he's like, of
Speaker 1: course I do, like look at our house and life
Speaker 1: and everything. Yeah, Whereas when I just started getting into
Speaker 1: you know, a spirit, my spirituality and using these tools
Speaker 1: and manifesting, I literally would not tell Tim about my
Speaker 1: big life and my big dream because it is it's
Speaker 1: hard to get on the vibration if other people are
Speaker 1: pulling you back. So my big thing is like if
Speaker 1: you like, can't you know, really convince that person, like
Speaker 1: just keep it close to your heart. Yeah, Like I
Speaker 1: just don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's not
Speaker 1: being you know, secretive or I just don't think. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just don't think there's anything wrong with it. And
Speaker 1: I truly believe also in this saying in the self
Speaker 1: development world of like keep your side of the street clean.
Speaker 1: I love that quote, and that is just about like
Speaker 1: make sure you're in check with your integrity, with your beliefs,
Speaker 1: and do like what you're saying you're going to do,
Speaker 1: and you know, do your routines and rituals, and do
Speaker 1: not be worried about what other people are doing, including
Speaker 1: your partner and family. And I know that can be
Speaker 1: so hard for people who they you know, they want
Speaker 1: to share and they get excited. This is this always
Speaker 1: happens to me. Is like you know, I you know,
Speaker 1: I get excited and I feel this and I just
Speaker 1: want to you want to tell people, but you have
Speaker 1: to be so conscious because a lot of people they
Speaker 1: don't like it's not on their heart, so they can't get,
Speaker 1: you know, onto your level. So it's going to be
Speaker 1: really hard for them to be supportive, especially if they
Speaker 1: are someone who you know, has a lot of limiting
Speaker 1: beliefs and has a lot of like these negative thought loops.
Speaker 1: So my biggest advice is to like just keep it
Speaker 1: to yourself, keep your side of the street clean, do
Speaker 1: your work. And what's really beautiful is the people who
Speaker 1: are meant to be in your life and who will
Speaker 1: support you will stay there, and a lot of the
Speaker 1: time they will evolve, which I've spoken a lot about,
Speaker 1: you know, tim you know evolving and up leveling and
Speaker 1: you know, now believing and manifesting. Yeah, and also I
Speaker 1: have a beautiful story of my best friend, Lessinda, who
Speaker 1: we met when I was thirteen, And there was definitely
Speaker 1: a period when we were maybe twenty two to like
Speaker 1: twenty five or twenty four, like a good couple of
Speaker 1: years where I was full into self development and she wasn't,
Speaker 1: and we were quite distant, like we were always really
Speaker 1: great friends. Yeah, but it's like I just I didn't
Speaker 1: talk to her about self development because I knew she
Speaker 1: couldn't quite grasp where I was. Yeah, and then she
Speaker 1: had a really life changing, you know, tragic thing that
Speaker 1: happened that turned her to self development. And then she
Speaker 1: got into self development. And now we're really on the
Speaker 1: same level where we can have these really beautiful conversations
Speaker 1: of our big life and I feel like I'm not
Speaker 1: worried about her, you know, shitting on it. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I know it's kind of a tough one, but that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be my advice. It is.
Speaker 2: I am open about some of my goals because they
Speaker 2: are big, but I always have to go back to
Speaker 2: the quote of if someone's not laughing at your dreams or.
Speaker 1: Not big enough, I know, but you've got to be theer.
Speaker 1: You've got to be the person who's able to deal
Speaker 1: with someone laughing at your dreams. Yea, I am so
Speaker 1: not the person if you laugh on my dreams, I
Speaker 1: would be quite upset. So I'm just not going to
Speaker 1: tell you. Yeah, that's so fair.
Speaker 2: I think there are some people that if they laughed,
Speaker 2: I'd be quite affected, but others.
Speaker 1: I'm just like something I'm going to that I love it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it depends what sort of person I want.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I'm gone prove you wrong. But in saying that,
Speaker 2: big big, big goals. And it's different when it's your
Speaker 2: partner or your family telling you that they don't think
Speaker 2: you can do it, because obviously that's a lot harder
Speaker 2: than just someone else. Yeah, I would, yeah, either keep
Speaker 2: it to myself or I feel like, if it's a
Speaker 2: heart desire and they're not on board, I just very
Speaker 2: nicely tell them that don't don't bring that energy into
Speaker 2: my zone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Don't want to hear your negative thoughts about it. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna go ahead and do this. I now understand that
Speaker 2: that's a bit of a taboo subject for us, and
Speaker 2: I won't talk to you about it again.
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, I totally agree of if you have
Speaker 1: already brought that up with that person and they maybe
Speaker 1: you know, didn't react in the way you wanted to.
Speaker 1: Definitely then creating that boundary where you're like, yeah, we're
Speaker 1: not going to talk about this thing because it, you know,
Speaker 1: upsets me and brings the vibe down. Yeah, and even
Speaker 1: just flagging that because sometimes they might not realize. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like if someone says, oh, like you're not going to
Speaker 1: be able to do that because of X and X reason,
Speaker 1: and you know that it's coming from a place of goodness.
Speaker 1: Like when I bought my car, I bought it brand new,
Speaker 1: and I did have people close to me tell me, oh,
Speaker 1: you don't buy a car brand new.
Speaker 2: You don't buy a car brand you're Oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: how are you going to get alone? Like you're so
Speaker 2: young and you're applying for it by yourself, and there's
Speaker 2: no way the bank's going to approve you for that.
Speaker 2: So don't get too disappointed if you can't get it.
Speaker 2: And I would just I turned around and it said
Speaker 2: to them, like, I really appreciate where you're coming from,
Speaker 2: because I know you're trying to protect me, but I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't appreciate being told I can't do something that
Speaker 2: I want. Yeah, because I'll get it and I did
Speaker 2: and I did. So just being able to say that
Speaker 2: in that moment, I think is important too, Yeah, because
Speaker 2: they might not realize that they're actually affecting you that
Speaker 2: much because you value what they think.
Speaker 1: Self development and having big goals can be lonely. It is.
Speaker 1: And in saying that, though, I think there's a lot
Speaker 1: of great and there's a lot of like something I
Speaker 1: personally like just love is I love, not like not
Speaker 1: telling anyone I'm doing something and then just being like bam,
Speaker 1: so what's that quote? It's like don't tell people, show people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so like, you know, if you do have manifesting
Speaker 1: goals or exciting goals, like just work on them by
Speaker 1: yourself and stay in your own lane and don't be
Speaker 1: you know what. Sometimes like I can't stand people who
Speaker 1: like they talk the talk, but they can't walk the walk.
Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking of someone very particular right now, and
Speaker 1: they'll tell you they've got all these big goals and dreams,
Speaker 1: but it's like you've been saying that for years and
Speaker 1: I have not seen anything. And there's just so much
Speaker 1: grace in because I thought it was me that I
Speaker 1: was like, you haven't known me for you No, there's
Speaker 1: an insecurity you need to work on that trigger. I
Speaker 1: just feel like there's so much grace in just like
Speaker 1: doing the thing and doing it for yourself and quietly,
Speaker 1: not other people. And I feel like sometimes one more
Speaker 1: thing you need to figure out you telling that person,
Speaker 1: You need to figure out you need to figure out
Speaker 1: you telling that person and them validating you is what
Speaker 1: you're looking for and indeed think why am I needing
Speaker 1: this validation? Like is this? Am I doing this for
Speaker 1: this person to impress them? Yeah, that's also just like
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, obviously it's her partner. So it's like,
Speaker 1: I get what you want to tell you. That's so
Speaker 1: fair enough. But if you are someone who just like
Speaker 1: wants to tell people, I would just be super interested
Speaker 1: to even be like, why do you want to tell
Speaker 1: people something to journal on? Anyway, I think that's all
Speaker 1: we've got time for today. Yeah, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for listening. Guys, it's so good to be back in
Speaker 1: your ears. And yeah, we'll chaut to you later.
Speaker 2: Bye.
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