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<v Speaker 1>The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of

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<v Speaker 1>the land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen

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<v Speaker 1>Bear region. We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their

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<v Speaker 1>connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect

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<v Speaker 1>to their elders past and present and extend that respect

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<v Speaker 1>to all Aboriginal and terrest Raide Islander peoples today. Hello

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<v Speaker 1>and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the podcast for ordinary people who want to do

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<v Speaker 1>extraordinary things. Hello and welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner,

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<v Speaker 1>mum all the things Today we have a little hotline

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<v Speaker 1>app for you. These are our fun Friday episodes where

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<v Speaker 1>you're sending your life dilemmas or questions and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Minateia really provide you with some unqualified two cents on

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<v Speaker 1>the situation.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it's like a dollar. I would say, love that

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<v Speaker 2>for us. It's valuable.

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<v Speaker 1>So today I love that we got asked our in

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<v Speaker 1>and outs of twenty twenty three, I didn't even really

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<v Speaker 1>understand what this whole trend was, and then once I

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<v Speaker 1>found out I was like, yes, this is a vibe.

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<v Speaker 1>So we go through that, and then we chat about

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<v Speaker 1>the difference in between an abundant mindset and just spending

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<v Speaker 1>all your money because some people get that mixed up,

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<v Speaker 1>like me akoh Tier, and how you can deal with

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<v Speaker 1>partners or family members that aren't on board with your

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<v Speaker 1>manifestations or big goals. This is like one of the

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<v Speaker 1>number one things I used to get asked in the project,

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<v Speaker 1>So I love chatting about that because it's so so

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<v Speaker 1>important to protect your energy. But guys, did you see

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<v Speaker 1>the big announcement.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. Look, I've been seating that journal for

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<v Speaker 1>fucking on your stories.

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<v Speaker 2>We dropped it in the Facebook group obviously before we

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<v Speaker 2>put it up on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>I literally put it in a photo down.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone literally commented, going, oh, we've seen it on John

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<v Speaker 2>Dy's Instagram. I was like, yeah, but not the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you didn't pick up the very vet very

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<v Speaker 1>subtle hints, not so subtle hints, we are releasing our

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<v Speaker 1>very own manifestation journal alongside the launch of another live

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<v Speaker 1>round of the project. We announced on Wednesday, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just so excited because this journal really came from a

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<v Speaker 1>place of I love journals. I love writing down, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm manifesting something or just brain dumping and all

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<v Speaker 1>the things. And I really wanted a journal that was

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<v Speaker 1>like very specific to like how I manifest and how

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<v Speaker 1>I do things, and so we created one and it's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of fun. It's so much fun. So in

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<v Speaker 1>the first part of the journal, I literally go through

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<v Speaker 1>my manifestation formula, we go through limiting beliefs, we go

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<v Speaker 1>through a lot of like concepts to do with manifesting

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<v Speaker 1>and just like really setting yourself up. And then the

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<v Speaker 1>journal gets to it starts with a monthly breakdown, reflection audit,

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<v Speaker 1>a monthly manifestation, and then you get to your weak

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<v Speaker 1>reflection and then you get to free writing. So that

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<v Speaker 1>was like a big thing for me, is I love

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<v Speaker 1>when there's prompts and I love when there's you know, reflections,

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<v Speaker 1>but then I also need space to free write. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's what the journal you know reflects. And then also

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<v Speaker 1>in there there's literally over one hundred one hundred, like

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<v Speaker 1>probably more than two hundred, how many proms track and

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<v Speaker 1>there is.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh pay, like I think there's like a good five

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<v Speaker 2>six pages filled with double column prompts.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, so the biggest thing. And also the journal includes

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<v Speaker 1>how to actually journal, yeah, which is one of our

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<v Speaker 1>most asked questions. I think when I talk about journaling,

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<v Speaker 1>I just like think everyone knows what I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's not like dear diary blah blah blah. It's different.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a you know, it's a tool we use to

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<v Speaker 1>do the inner work and to manifest. And so a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people don't even know what journaling is or

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<v Speaker 1>they don't like they don't know what questions to ask

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<v Speaker 1>themselves to really get like dig deep and do the

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<v Speaker 1>inner work. So we've literally got five pages of double

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<v Speaker 1>columns of journal prompts, and they're very specific to like

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<v Speaker 1>if you're feeling lost, if you know you're having a

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<v Speaker 1>hard time with this or that, Like, they're very specific.

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<v Speaker 1>So for example, if you're you know, wanting to journal

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<v Speaker 1>and something specific, you can just go to those prompts

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<v Speaker 1>and then you know, use those in the free writing section.

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<v Speaker 1>So we've spent so much time and love on this

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<v Speaker 1>journal to make it perfect, and it really is very

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<v Speaker 1>specific to the RNC fam. If you have done the

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<v Speaker 1>project before, you will fucking die over this journal because

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<v Speaker 1>it's so good. It will be how you journal and

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<v Speaker 1>it will be like so tailored for you. If you

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<v Speaker 1>are brand new to journaling, you will love it because

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<v Speaker 1>it's literally this is how you journal, this is what

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<v Speaker 1>you do, and it's giving you all the tools. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a really really fun way to get into it. So

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<v Speaker 1>obviously you don't have like have to have done the

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<v Speaker 1>project before. It's just gonna be a great tool alongside.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you are planning on doing the project, I

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<v Speaker 1>really really encourage you to also get the journal because

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<v Speaker 1>it's just yeah, it's such a beautiful tool to use

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<v Speaker 1>with it, and I just I know you guys got

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<v Speaker 1>to be as obsessed as we are. But yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>glad I could finally like officially tell you guys, because

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<v Speaker 1>I really struggle to put that in content. So that

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<v Speaker 1>is literally launching next Wednesday on the eighteenth hair tier. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>so I cannot wait. All the details will be in

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<v Speaker 1>the show notes. So the project is going live. If

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<v Speaker 1>you guys don't know what the project is, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>new here, it is my seven week self development and

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<v Speaker 1>manifestation course. It is my signature program. This is something

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<v Speaker 1>thousands of women have done and it completely changed their life.

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<v Speaker 1>It changed the trajectory of like where they were going.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what's really weirder t here. Most people who

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<v Speaker 1>now work for me have done the project like yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and like Jamie. Yeah, and then like I loved the project.

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<v Speaker 1>I know like Kira and I know Leah, like a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of the girls who we then hired. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>I attract these self development queen. You do. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>a really really beautiful intro into self development. And then

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<v Speaker 1>also as a byproduct knowing my manifestation formula and really

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<v Speaker 1>applying it to your own life. So it's not like

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<v Speaker 1>a reading the Secret Book and being like a wish

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<v Speaker 1>for something and then it a p or I get

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<v Speaker 1>a check in the mail or anything like that. This

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<v Speaker 1>is really doing the work, and this is really beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>work that once you have these tools, you will continue

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<v Speaker 1>And the way that I kind of chat about it

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<v Speaker 1>is these tools that you will learn you will continue

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<v Speaker 1>to apply at every like next stage and level of

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<v Speaker 1>your life, because like self development, it's not an end destination.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a journey. But you don't know what you don't know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So this, like I guarantee you anyone who sticks to

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<v Speaker 1>this course, it will change your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you agree that here a hundred I cannot even

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<v Speaker 2>explain what a different person it made me after doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that and that, because that's the thing is like

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<v Speaker 1>like some you know, some people do the project and

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<v Speaker 1>they manifest their dream house or their dream partner or

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<v Speaker 1>their dream job. But then also some people do it

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<v Speaker 1>and they literally just change so much internally that it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it always changes their reality because when you

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<v Speaker 1>change internally externally you have to change, but it just

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<v Speaker 1>it will give you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I I kind of did both, like I manifested

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<v Speaker 2>my card during while doing the project, but I will

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<v Speaker 2>still always say the biggest shift for me was internally,

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<v Speaker 2>and I kind of forget that sometimes I manifested my

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<v Speaker 2>card doing the project because everything else made way more

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<v Speaker 2>of a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, to how I am as person. It's even what

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<v Speaker 1>I say on this podcast of like how I market

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<v Speaker 1>the project on Instagram is usually a lot of I

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<v Speaker 1>manifested my pausch my dream house and this and this,

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<v Speaker 1>and then they get into the project and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>let's do the inner word, like tricking them to your

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<v Speaker 1>self developmment, Like I'm not going to be like you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to be your most authentic self. I actually do

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<v Speaker 1>that a lot. You do, but like you trust me

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<v Speaker 1>when I say, when you do this course and you

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<v Speaker 1>do the inner work, like your life will change. When

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<v Speaker 1>you do the internal stuff, the external will change. So

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<v Speaker 1>this course is really for someone who is looking for

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<v Speaker 1>their reality to change, because that will happen. I have

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<v Speaker 1>no fucking doubts about that. So hold on because it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be a ride. But if you're looking for

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<v Speaker 1>your reality to change, maybe you're feeling like lost and unclear.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not clear on what your next level self is,

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<v Speaker 1>You're not clear on what your dream life is like.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I know on this podcast we talk a lot

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<v Speaker 1>about our next level self or my big life and

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<v Speaker 1>these concepts, and I know a lot of you would

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<v Speaker 1>be even thinking, I don't even know what that looks

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<v Speaker 1>like for me, or you know, you don't have any

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<v Speaker 1>of those that clarity, and that's so okay. I didn't either,

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of people don't because they're just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>wanting things because you know, their mom, their partner or

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<v Speaker 1>their dog wants it, not necessarily because they want it

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<v Speaker 1>a bit. What you will find is if you constantly

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<v Speaker 1>chase these things where you haven't done the inner work

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<v Speaker 1>and you're not completely clear from a very like heart

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<v Speaker 1>centered place, you will never feel fulfilled, you'll never feel happy,

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<v Speaker 1>you will always feel that lost feeling. Yeah, so that's

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<v Speaker 1>why it's so important to you know, do this work first,

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<v Speaker 1>and then once you know you get clear and that

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<v Speaker 1>you will then learn the formula that you can apply

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<v Speaker 1>to any situation in your life to upgrade it, to

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<v Speaker 1>go to the next level, to manifest really really big.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the like the little thing is like the effort

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<v Speaker 1>it takes to manifest something big is the exact same

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<v Speaker 1>as something small. And that's what if that mind fuck

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<v Speaker 1>you a little bit, don't worry, we get into it.

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<v Speaker 1>But it really is a life changing course and it's

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<v Speaker 1>like manifestation one on one, but also so much self

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<v Speaker 1>development in just getting you to a place where you

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<v Speaker 1>fucking love who you are and you fucking love your

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<v Speaker 1>life and you are so excited and like that is

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<v Speaker 1>like that's where I want everyone to sit and feel

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<v Speaker 1>and just feel so like, oh my god, I'm living

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<v Speaker 1>my dream reality, even like it's going to be so

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<v Speaker 1>different for everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So project literally launches on the eighteenth. It actually like

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<v Speaker 1>we don't start until let's have a look, so we

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<v Speaker 1>don't actually start to the thirteenth of February. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>just because we wanted to leave the cart open for

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<v Speaker 1>a good amount of time, just because I know it

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<v Speaker 1>is an investment, and I also know how chaotic January

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<v Speaker 1>can sometimes, and I know, like you know, we're just

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<v Speaker 1>getting back into work. We're like really creating those strong habits,

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<v Speaker 1>We're creating routine, and I really wanted you guys to

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<v Speaker 1>be out a point where you can put a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of time and energy into this because honestly, the amount

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<v Speaker 1>of energy you put into it is what you will

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<v Speaker 1>get out of it. And it does like it's literally

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<v Speaker 1>life changing, So of course there's going to be an

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<v Speaker 1>energy exchange of like you need to show up and

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<v Speaker 1>you need to put in the work. So I just

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to make sure it was at a time where

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<v Speaker 1>you guys could do that. All the details would be

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<v Speaker 1>on the website or my Instagram or anywhere. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really excited. This is a live round, which means

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<v Speaker 1>there's a live Facebook group, there is life calls. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be in the Facebook group, you know, the team will

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<v Speaker 1>be in there will be making sure you have the

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<v Speaker 1>best experience. And yeah, I'm so bloody excited for another

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<v Speaker 1>round it here. I'm really like, after the holidays, my

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<v Speaker 1>cup is feeling so full and I'm like feeling on

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<v Speaker 1>fire for this one mean too. And then to have

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<v Speaker 1>the journal I know it's gonna be so good. It's

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<v Speaker 1>such an epic tool, and it's just it's so pretty

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<v Speaker 1>and it's just such a vibe. So really excited to

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<v Speaker 1>bring that to you as well. Before we get into

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<v Speaker 1>the hot land or a tear watch your recommendation, I

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<v Speaker 1>have to tell.

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<v Speaker 2>Us My first one is just like for your year,

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<v Speaker 2>pick a skill that you want to get better at,

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<v Speaker 2>and and find something you can put out into the

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<v Speaker 2>world that helps you get better at that.

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<v Speaker 1>Skill, if that makes sense. So give me an example.

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<v Speaker 2>So, like, I want to get better at copywriting. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna start like.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing a little news Let please do slash blog. My god,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so tru called out. You're honestly amazing at copywriting.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. You're honestly really good. Why am I so mean?

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<v Speaker 2>So that's what I want to do every week, just

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<v Speaker 2>so I build the habit and then I can just

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<v Speaker 2>like reflect and see how far I've come and.

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<v Speaker 1>Look back at things. I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And then my second recommendation is actually Pinterest Predicts.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you you sent this to me and I sent

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<v Speaker 1>it to your Joe. Yeah, Jodja does that a look

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm not on my phone.

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<v Speaker 2>A Pinterest Predicts is a report Pinterest put out at

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<v Speaker 2>the beginning of every year where they predict the upcoming

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<v Speaker 2>trends of the year based on what people are pinning

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<v Speaker 2>because people pin for the future. So in the past

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<v Speaker 2>three years their trend predictions have been eighty percent correct.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, And I just love reading these.

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<v Speaker 2>So that is my other recommendation for your week is

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<v Speaker 2>have a look at Pinterest Predicts, just for a bit

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<v Speaker 2>of fun, to see what's coming up this year, to

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<v Speaker 2>see what trends might be around, especially if you're running

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<v Speaker 2>a business and or you work in social media and

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<v Speaker 2>you want to make sure that you're like up.

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<v Speaker 1>With all that stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a good, good little report. It's very aesthetic to read,

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<v Speaker 2>very easy to read too.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that recommendation. A tear, thank you. I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>looking at the report after Okay. So I also have

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<v Speaker 1>two because I wanted to copy you. So I have

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<v Speaker 1>been very immersed in health yes content right now, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a great podcast for you guys. The podcast

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<v Speaker 1>is The Diary of a CEO with Deven Bartlet and

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<v Speaker 1>it's episode two O nine, Doctor Tim Spector. The title

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<v Speaker 1>is The Shocking New Truth about Weight Loss, calories and diets.

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<v Speaker 1>So interesting every like doesn't need a bit of a trigger.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatding no no in such a good way of like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're like a BT, you're probably gonna fucking hate it.

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<v Speaker 1>It just contradicts so much hit on Instagram. I cannot

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<v Speaker 1>You need to listen to it. Yeah, well it's fucking

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<v Speaker 1>so interesting. But it made me really look at things

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<v Speaker 1>a different way and like it was a catalyst to me,

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<v Speaker 1>like really putting some like health goals in place. So

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<v Speaker 1>listen to that. It's a goodie. We'll put in the

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<v Speaker 1>show notes. And then my second one is Avatar. I

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<v Speaker 1>recommended that in our idim did you tell us about it? So,

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly could not remember the first one. I saw

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<v Speaker 1>it when I was fourteen, and I just I was nine.

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<v Speaker 1>I could not remember. I remember liking it. So me

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<v Speaker 1>and him watch that and I loved it, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, we need to see the second one. So

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<v Speaker 1>we went to the movies. We went gold class and

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<v Speaker 1>really treated ourselves and it was just amazing. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>just I loved the story. It was one of those

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<v Speaker 1>movies I could not like stop watching. I was in

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<v Speaker 1>so much anticipation. I actually felt bitter anxious some of

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<v Speaker 1>the movie. Yeah, it just grips you. It grips you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love a movie that grips you, and for

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<v Speaker 1>a movie to grip you for like three hours is extraordinary.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I definitely recommend. It was interesting because I

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<v Speaker 1>literally had a girlfriend who saw it who I asked her.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Oh, is it worth going to the cinemas?

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<v Speaker 1>And then like in that time, I already booked the cinemas,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she was like, nah, just watch it at home.

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<v Speaker 1>So I went in thinking, oh, it's probably not going

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<v Speaker 1>to be that good, but I left thinking what the

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<v Speaker 1>fuck is She just so highly highly recommend. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if it's still in cinemas.

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<v Speaker 2>But it is, and I would highly recommend seeing it

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<v Speaker 2>in the cinema because you're not going to get that

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<v Speaker 2>experience at home from your TV.

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<v Speaker 1>It was epek. I'm also watching Ginny and Georgia season

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<v Speaker 1>two on Netflix. Let's get into the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Our first question, what are your ins and outs for

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<v Speaker 2>twenty twenty three? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I love this.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean too. I've been seeing it all over Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm obsessed.

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<v Speaker 1>So ins and outs. I love this law trend at

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<v Speaker 1>the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>I also love that now again socially acceptable to put

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<v Speaker 2>screenshots of notes Yeah on Instagram feeds.

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<v Speaker 1>It's back up, love it back Okay, So ince lucky

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<v Speaker 1>girl syndrome. I love lucky girls syndrome. I love that

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<v Speaker 1>this is a trend on I think it's TikTok is it?

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<v Speaker 1>It's more on TikTok And I love it because I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to the club. This is literally just manifesting and

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's like, oh my god, there's new concept and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like nice hello. So R and C fam are probably like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>old news, but it's like it's our core belief of

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<v Speaker 1>life happens for me, and sitting in that feeling of

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<v Speaker 1>even when something's going wrong, it's like no, no, this

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<v Speaker 1>is actually happening for me exactly. It still gets to

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<v Speaker 1>be like amazing and it's going to end up better

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<v Speaker 1>than how you could have imagined. And like most of

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<v Speaker 1>so if you guys don't know what I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>On TikTok, everyone's talking about this lucky girl syndrome where

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<v Speaker 1>they are a quote unquote lucky girl and certain things

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<v Speaker 1>will happen and they will just like fall into place,

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, maybe they'll miss the bus but then

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<v Speaker 1>something happens when they get the next bus or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>certain things like that, which is like serendipitous. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm my gosh, this is all just manifesting and living

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<v Speaker 1>in the core belief of life happens for me. So

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. It's just like making it more mainstream.

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<v Speaker 1>SO love that. That's definitely an INN and we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to continue the life happens for me. Next one capsule

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<v Speaker 1>wardrobe a tear. If I can't wear something ten times,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not buying it. I love it. We're buying pieces

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<v Speaker 1>that we can continuously wear and like dial differently and

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<v Speaker 1>quality over quantity. That's like my big thing this year.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want just like a closet full of clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>I want things that match and go together and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna wear and that feel really good and are like

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<v Speaker 1>high quality.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>Next linen, she's going through her linen era. We are

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<v Speaker 1>you wearing linen today? Yeah? Yeah, I love it. We're

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<v Speaker 1>both wearing linen and it's neutral. Yeah, it's just a

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<v Speaker 1>bit of a vibe and it feels I have linen

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<v Speaker 1>sheets also, and it's so My interior designer was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>do you guys want linen sheets? And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh no, like scratcheas yeah, scratchyet and she's like no,

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<v Speaker 1>trust me, they will change your life, like once you've

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<v Speaker 1>slept in them for a couple of nights. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 1>so I was like, okay, I'll try them. And I

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<v Speaker 1>got them and Tim said the exact same thing, and

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, why would you get linen? Bobba like going off.

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<v Speaker 1>We put them on and we are both obsessed, like obsessed.

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't have linen sheets, this is what you

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<v Speaker 1>need to try in twenty twenty three. And of course

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<v Speaker 1>leton clothes guys. Next one. Oysters what this is so abandoned,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just feel so passionate about this. Oysters are

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<v Speaker 1>so delicious and if you think they're gross, like my

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<v Speaker 1>response to you is like, grow the fuck up. I

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<v Speaker 1>know that's my response.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just about to say, I'm a child and

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<v Speaker 2>I hate seafood.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a child. I'm anyone who's like ill the texture,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, grow the fuck up. Honestly, that's how I

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<v Speaker 1>fucking feel about oysters. And that's it. And also oysters

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<v Speaker 1>and champagne is just a vibey take your word on that.

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<v Speaker 1>The next in strong boundaries a tear. Last year nearly

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<v Speaker 1>broke me. I know, I know, christ, but this year

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<v Speaker 1>is strong boundaries, sticking to my word, my word is

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<v Speaker 1>all and really being like if it is not a hell, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a no, and sticking to that, not dancing around

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<v Speaker 1>the fact, and being very unapologetic. I actually I had

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<v Speaker 1>this thing that came up, a text message something someone

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<v Speaker 1>wanting me, wanting something from me. And I would usually

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<v Speaker 1>like respond to someone and be like, oh, let me

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<v Speaker 1>have a think about it, or like make up an

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<v Speaker 1>excuse or you know, something like to lessen the blow yep,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was just like no, Wow. I fully was like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not in integrity with how I want to shop

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<v Speaker 1>up this year, blah blah blah, and put down the boundary. Congratulations,

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<v Speaker 1>that's amazing, and was so unapologetic about it, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like yes, and I even was so tempted to

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<v Speaker 1>be like, oh, not right now, but I'm like no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>so no. Yeah. So that's like a big thing I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to set into. Oh and also and the next

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<v Speaker 1>in is aware parenting. What is that for us that

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<v Speaker 1>don't have children? So really random? My massage a lady

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<v Speaker 1>is like so wo wo And we were talking about

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of different concepts while getting a message, and

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<v Speaker 1>she was telling me about this podcast called a ware Parenting.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me get it up on Spotify, the Wear Parenting

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<v Speaker 1>podcasts by Marion Rose PhD and Layel Stone. And so

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<v Speaker 1>it's just this concept of It's really funny because in

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<v Speaker 1>my journal I've been writing a lot about how like

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<v Speaker 1>I love my parents, but some of how they parented me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to parent Ivy in the same way.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to just parent her how I

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<v Speaker 1>was parented. I kind of want to learn and have

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<v Speaker 1>all the tools and then decide myself if that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to just be conditioned to parent a

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<v Speaker 1>certain way because my parents parented a certain way, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I had a great childhood. I love my parents and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very thankful of how they parented me. I just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of want to, you know, experiment, experiment and like

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<v Speaker 1>make my own pathway and have all the tools, because

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<v Speaker 1>that's how I do everything in life. And I have

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<v Speaker 1>been like writing my journal about finding either a course

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<v Speaker 1>or something to come up to help me with parenting Ivy,

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<v Speaker 1>just because me and Tim are noticing she's only one,

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<v Speaker 1>but she's starting to like she's so developed, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>so smart, and she's starting to understand concept concepts, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're even even noticing, like we'll laugh at her and

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<v Speaker 1>then she'll do that thing again. Ah, but usually that

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<v Speaker 1>thing is like you know, naughty, yeah, or like she's

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<v Speaker 1>throwing food or something, and so we're just noticing, like

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<v Speaker 1>we have to be conscious now how we show up

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<v Speaker 1>and how we like parent her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I've been writing my journal literally probably since

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<v Speaker 1>I reckon September last year. I wanted a way of

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<v Speaker 1>parenting to come up that felt really good and felt

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<v Speaker 1>really aligned. I'd done a little bit of research, but

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<v Speaker 1>like nothing felt good anyway. I listened to this podcast

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<v Speaker 1>and I love it. I love what they talk about,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's all about letting your children experience their feelings

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<v Speaker 1>and not feeling shame, but also having strong boundaries and

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<v Speaker 1>just it's very interesting and it's beautiful. And so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>actually going to do a course about aware parenting and

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<v Speaker 1>me and him are going to do it together, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just I feel really excited about it because it

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<v Speaker 1>just it feels really good and I hadn't heard it before.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so cool. So where parenting is in, well, like

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<v Speaker 1>for now, we'll see. I'll see if I like the course.

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<v Speaker 1>My outs, Yes, tell them mom guilt good, Mum Guilt's gone.

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<v Speaker 1>We're done with her. And she's out snoozing my alarm.

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<v Speaker 1>So I always I always get to my gym session,

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<v Speaker 1>but most of the time it's like just on time, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>or usually a couple of minutes after because I've snoozed

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<v Speaker 1>my alarm. And I just this concept that I've been

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<v Speaker 1>really leaning into in the new year is this how

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<v Speaker 1>you do one thing is how you do everything. So

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<v Speaker 1>like really trying to show up of I can't be

0:26:20.720 --> 0:26:23.240
<v Speaker 1>like you jump on this podcast and be like Georgie

0:26:23.240 --> 0:26:25.840
<v Speaker 1>on her next level in twenty twenty three and I'm

0:26:25.880 --> 0:26:28.200
<v Speaker 1>a powerful beach and blah blah blah, and then I'm

0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:33.200
<v Speaker 1>still fucking snoozing my alarm to me like I want

0:26:33.400 --> 0:26:35.760
<v Speaker 1>I love this word. Ellie was talking to me about

0:26:35.840 --> 0:26:39.119
<v Speaker 1>of like having integrity with everything you do, and I

0:26:39.160 --> 0:26:42.320
<v Speaker 1>want to show up in integrity in even the small things,

0:26:42.359 --> 0:26:46.840
<v Speaker 1>because you know they're truly the big thing. So I thought,

0:26:46.880 --> 0:26:48.399
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh my god, that is something that

0:26:48.440 --> 0:26:50.679
<v Speaker 1>I do is snooze my alarm and something similar to

0:26:50.680 --> 0:26:54.600
<v Speaker 1>that on that kind of wavelength is scrolling before I

0:26:54.640 --> 0:26:59.280
<v Speaker 1>go to bed. That is out a tr go so bad.

0:26:59.400 --> 0:27:01.919
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm thinking, what I'm gonna do is put a

0:27:02.000 --> 0:27:05.840
<v Speaker 1>timer on and give myself twenty minutes, like because I

0:27:05.920 --> 0:27:08.240
<v Speaker 1>don't go on my phone once I get home because

0:27:08.240 --> 0:27:11.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm with Ivy. Yeah, so as soon as she's asleep,

0:27:11.160 --> 0:27:13.080
<v Speaker 1>I will put a timer on and I'll give myself

0:27:13.119 --> 0:27:16.160
<v Speaker 1>twenty minutes. And then the phone is on air aplane

0:27:16.200 --> 0:27:20.280
<v Speaker 1>in Mote and I'm either reading, journaling or meditating. We're

0:27:20.320 --> 0:27:24.280
<v Speaker 1>not scrolling. Another out is gluten. Oh, Gluten's out. And

0:27:24.320 --> 0:27:26.640
<v Speaker 1>this is not like this is because of my thyroid.

0:27:27.160 --> 0:27:29.760
<v Speaker 1>I CA Yeah, it's not like me saying I don't

0:27:29.760 --> 0:27:32.200
<v Speaker 1>want eat gluten because it you know, I love gluten.

0:27:33.400 --> 0:27:34.520
<v Speaker 1>I love gluten too.

0:27:35.160 --> 0:27:37.800
<v Speaker 2>It's good that you're doing that for your thyroid. Though

0:27:38.000 --> 0:27:38.680
<v Speaker 2>it's important.

0:27:38.880 --> 0:27:41.159
<v Speaker 1>Well, it's so important. Even Ellie kind of called me

0:27:41.200 --> 0:27:44.040
<v Speaker 1>out of it and was like, you dabble in gluten

0:27:44.280 --> 0:27:46.960
<v Speaker 1>and then you complain about your thyroid's not getting better,

0:27:47.000 --> 0:27:50.359
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, so gluten's out for me personally, just

0:27:50.400 --> 0:27:54.280
<v Speaker 1>because thyroid issues. Picking the easier option, going back to

0:27:54.680 --> 0:27:57.439
<v Speaker 1>the is this integral with like my next level self

0:27:57.800 --> 0:28:00.439
<v Speaker 1>or am I just picking the easy option? Because a

0:28:00.520 --> 0:28:02.399
<v Speaker 1>lot of the time last year, I just picked the

0:28:02.400 --> 0:28:05.320
<v Speaker 1>easy option, which I think is okay. I gave myself

0:28:05.359 --> 0:28:07.920
<v Speaker 1>grace because a lot was on last year. But this year,

0:28:07.960 --> 0:28:11.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, I'm standing in integrity. And then the

0:28:11.320 --> 0:28:15.280
<v Speaker 1>last out is comparing my body to anyone else or

0:28:15.320 --> 0:28:19.920
<v Speaker 1>even my previous self. We're not doing that this year

0:28:20.040 --> 0:28:25.800
<v Speaker 1>because I think being postpartum last year, I never expressed it,

0:28:25.880 --> 0:28:29.040
<v Speaker 1>but I was comparing myself a lot. Yeah, and I'm

0:28:29.119 --> 0:28:31.560
<v Speaker 1>just like, such a waste of brain capacity, and we're

0:28:31.640 --> 0:28:34.439
<v Speaker 1>not doing that, And I'm just embracing myself and like

0:28:34.600 --> 0:28:37.480
<v Speaker 1>even to my past self, because I was really good

0:28:37.520 --> 0:28:40.680
<v Speaker 1>at not comparing myself to like rather people. Yeah, but

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:43.400
<v Speaker 1>I would compare myself to my previous self. But I'm like,

0:28:43.440 --> 0:28:46.479
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going backwards. I'm going forward and I'm just

0:28:46.480 --> 0:28:47.040
<v Speaker 1>not doing that.

0:28:47.320 --> 0:28:47.880
<v Speaker 2>I love it.

0:28:48.800 --> 0:28:50.920
<v Speaker 1>So they are my ins and outs. What are yours?

0:28:51.040 --> 0:28:55.160
<v Speaker 2>My ins and outs? And I wrote this before I

0:28:55.240 --> 0:28:57.880
<v Speaker 2>heard yours, but some of them are the same, which

0:28:58.080 --> 0:29:03.800
<v Speaker 2>excites me. My first is risk taking. So I feel

0:29:03.840 --> 0:29:06.920
<v Speaker 2>like a lot of my life I've wanted to do

0:29:06.960 --> 0:29:10.160
<v Speaker 2>these big, amazing things and then I psyck myself out

0:29:10.880 --> 0:29:12.920
<v Speaker 2>and I really don't want to do that. In twenty

0:29:12.960 --> 0:29:15.400
<v Speaker 2>twenty three, I'm gonna do things if I want to

0:29:15.400 --> 0:29:17.160
<v Speaker 2>do them. I'm not gonna worry about if it's gonna

0:29:17.160 --> 0:29:19.000
<v Speaker 2>work or not. I'm not gonna worry about if people

0:29:19.000 --> 0:29:20.920
<v Speaker 2>are gonna like it or not, or what they're gonna think.

0:29:21.200 --> 0:29:24.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna do it and see what happens. And

0:29:24.600 --> 0:29:28.560
<v Speaker 2>then number two, my second in is making my word law.

0:29:29.280 --> 0:29:32.160
<v Speaker 2>I really am. Similar to what you said and what

0:29:32.200 --> 0:29:34.960
<v Speaker 2>Ellie's talking about is living with integrity. If I say

0:29:34.960 --> 0:29:36.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do something, I'm actually gonna do it. I

0:29:36.920 --> 0:29:39.240
<v Speaker 2>don't want to be a flaky person. I want to

0:29:39.240 --> 0:29:43.080
<v Speaker 2>be someone who respects myself and takes myself seriously. So

0:29:43.160 --> 0:29:46.480
<v Speaker 2>I really want to make that a big deal this year.

0:29:47.640 --> 0:29:51.360
<v Speaker 2>Number three in is my health. I really want to

0:29:51.400 --> 0:29:56.200
<v Speaker 2>prioritize it and respect it and respect that time as

0:29:56.320 --> 0:29:57.120
<v Speaker 2>equally as.

0:29:57.120 --> 0:29:58.160
<v Speaker 1>My other values.

0:29:58.600 --> 0:30:00.640
<v Speaker 2>So if I'm going to catch up up with someone

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:03.360
<v Speaker 2>and they ask me to do it in my gym time,

0:30:03.520 --> 0:30:05.480
<v Speaker 2>I need to be a bit stricter with my boundaries

0:30:05.480 --> 0:30:05.960
<v Speaker 2>and say no.

0:30:07.000 --> 0:30:07.280
<v Speaker 1>Love.

0:30:07.520 --> 0:30:11.960
<v Speaker 2>And then another in for me is balance. I want

0:30:12.000 --> 0:30:15.240
<v Speaker 2>to make sure I'm filling all my buckets up and

0:30:16.040 --> 0:30:18.760
<v Speaker 2>valuing them all equally. Again, I think that's something that

0:30:18.800 --> 0:30:21.080
<v Speaker 2>I haven't done in the past. Is I valued some

0:30:21.200 --> 0:30:24.080
<v Speaker 2>buckets over others when they're all as important as each other.

0:30:24.560 --> 0:30:27.920
<v Speaker 2>And just like be a well rounded person love, My

0:30:28.040 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 2>other one is investing purposefully. So I don't want to

0:30:32.440 --> 0:30:36.600
<v Speaker 2>be buying things material or not that I will not

0:30:36.680 --> 0:30:39.480
<v Speaker 2>get the most value out of. And I really want

0:30:39.520 --> 0:30:42.560
<v Speaker 2>it to be a considered decision, not an impulse decision,

0:30:43.280 --> 0:30:47.479
<v Speaker 2>so almost take things a little bit slower. Then another

0:30:47.560 --> 0:30:50.760
<v Speaker 2>in for me is a reflection. I want to be

0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:53.440
<v Speaker 2>open to reflecting on the things I do and the

0:30:53.440 --> 0:30:56.560
<v Speaker 2>things I don't do and why and how does that

0:30:56.600 --> 0:30:59.640
<v Speaker 2>make me feel? More often than I have been. And

0:30:59.680 --> 0:31:01.720
<v Speaker 2>then that's actually something.

0:31:01.560 --> 0:31:03.240
<v Speaker 1>I got from the do it for your future self

0:31:03.240 --> 0:31:05.880
<v Speaker 1>of course is I thought, I really need to be

0:31:05.960 --> 0:31:06.760
<v Speaker 1>doing this monthly.

0:31:07.360 --> 0:31:10.120
<v Speaker 2>Literally, like when I tried to do that audit, I

0:31:10.280 --> 0:31:14.000
<v Speaker 2>was it took me hours, I know, because you hadn't

0:31:14.000 --> 0:31:16.840
<v Speaker 2>done it in so long, and I just said, every week,

0:31:16.920 --> 0:31:18.440
<v Speaker 2>I need to sit down. I need to hire loan

0:31:18.480 --> 0:31:20.760
<v Speaker 2>a milestone, no matter how big or small, so that

0:31:20.960 --> 0:31:23.000
<v Speaker 2>when I get to the six month mark in the

0:31:23.040 --> 0:31:25.080
<v Speaker 2>year or the year or a year mark and I

0:31:25.120 --> 0:31:27.200
<v Speaker 2>redo the do it for your future self. Course, this

0:31:27.280 --> 0:31:29.000
<v Speaker 2>needs to be easy for me because there needs to

0:31:29.000 --> 0:31:30.000
<v Speaker 2>be something I do often.

0:31:30.720 --> 0:31:34.920
<v Speaker 1>That's even like I literally put in a calendar thing

0:31:35.080 --> 0:31:37.520
<v Speaker 1>that's like the first on every month to do an audit.

0:31:37.800 --> 0:31:40.040
<v Speaker 1>I love that because, let's be honest, I'm not doing

0:31:40.080 --> 0:31:44.000
<v Speaker 1>it weekly, that's true, and I'm going to do it

0:31:44.000 --> 0:31:46.400
<v Speaker 1>every month of like look at my buckets and be

0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:50.000
<v Speaker 1>like where am I actually like lacking right now and

0:31:50.040 --> 0:31:51.959
<v Speaker 1>where do I need to like put more time and

0:31:52.080 --> 0:31:56.280
<v Speaker 1>energy the next month. It's like I lowly important until

0:31:56.320 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 1>it gets like empty and literally broken, because I realize

0:31:59.680 --> 0:32:02.560
<v Speaker 1>a lot last year was like just one or two

0:32:02.600 --> 0:32:06.400
<v Speaker 1>buckets feeling broken all the time and really leaking energy,

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:09.000
<v Speaker 1>and then that making me feel like it was like

0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:12.280
<v Speaker 1>not like a shit year, but like it was only

0:32:12.320 --> 0:32:15.560
<v Speaker 1>one bucket, and if I just like evened the attention,

0:32:15.880 --> 0:32:18.160
<v Speaker 1>it would have felt so much less overwhelming.

0:32:18.920 --> 0:32:19.520
<v Speaker 2>I love that.

0:32:19.680 --> 0:32:22.880
<v Speaker 1>My last in is the five four three two one technique.

0:32:23.040 --> 0:32:23.360
<v Speaker 1>What's that?

0:32:23.560 --> 0:32:26.400
<v Speaker 2>And that's gonna help me make my word law in

0:32:26.440 --> 0:32:29.080
<v Speaker 2>that if I say I'm gonna do something, I just

0:32:29.120 --> 0:32:30.520
<v Speaker 2>need to do it straight away. I need to count

0:32:30.560 --> 0:32:33.160
<v Speaker 2>down from five four three two one and then just

0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:36.600
<v Speaker 2>do it. Oh's that from Mel Robbins? Yes, so did

0:32:36.640 --> 0:32:39.040
<v Speaker 2>you read her book? I haven't, I do need to?

0:32:39.720 --> 0:32:42.040
<v Speaker 2>It's it actually popped up on my TikTok feed where

0:32:42.080 --> 0:32:45.480
<v Speaker 2>someone explained that by counting down from five, you interrupt

0:32:45.600 --> 0:32:49.000
<v Speaker 2>your sort of risk not risk taking, but the bit

0:32:49.040 --> 0:32:50.880
<v Speaker 2>of your brain that questions what you're about to do

0:32:51.000 --> 0:32:53.320
<v Speaker 2>or is able to give you excuses. You interrupt that

0:32:53.360 --> 0:32:55.479
<v Speaker 2>thought pattern and it just gets you ready to do it.

0:32:55.760 --> 0:32:58.240
<v Speaker 1>Do I need to do that when my alarm goes off?

0:32:58.360 --> 0:32:58.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:32:58.800 --> 0:33:01.480
<v Speaker 1>Five four three two one and get out of bed. Okay, Yeah,

0:33:01.960 --> 0:33:02.440
<v Speaker 1>I love that.

0:33:02.800 --> 0:33:06.640
<v Speaker 2>So that's my last in. My aunt's leaky energy.

0:33:07.080 --> 0:33:08.600
<v Speaker 1>Mmm, done with it.

0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:10.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm dealing with things in.

0:33:10.000 --> 0:33:11.800
<v Speaker 1>The moment, fucking done with it.

0:33:13.120 --> 0:33:15.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm dealing with things in the moment, and if I don't,

0:33:15.760 --> 0:33:18.160
<v Speaker 2>that's on me. I need a little burning ceremony and

0:33:18.280 --> 0:33:19.280
<v Speaker 2>internally close it.

0:33:19.320 --> 0:33:22.880
<v Speaker 1>Up, not letting it fester. Yes, no festering. No festering here.

0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:27.680
<v Speaker 2>And then my second one was comparison with your Yes,

0:33:28.040 --> 0:33:29.920
<v Speaker 2>I feel like not just with my body, but with

0:33:30.080 --> 0:33:34.080
<v Speaker 2>like life stages, especially like now I'm twenty two, twenty three,

0:33:34.200 --> 0:33:37.200
<v Speaker 2>everyone's so different, Like people are getting engaged.

0:33:36.800 --> 0:33:38.040
<v Speaker 1>Now I'm old and twenty two.

0:33:38.120 --> 0:33:44.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but like some people are getting engaged that I know,

0:33:44.360 --> 0:33:46.840
<v Speaker 2>some people are still single, some people are having babies

0:33:46.840 --> 0:33:51.360
<v Speaker 2>at twenty two, babies euro Summers. Like everybody's so deep,

0:33:51.440 --> 0:33:55.320
<v Speaker 2>so wild, and I need to stop worrying about that

0:33:55.480 --> 0:33:58.600
<v Speaker 2>and just really connect with my own path and my

0:33:58.760 --> 0:34:03.840
<v Speaker 2>values and not and not let that make me feel

0:34:03.880 --> 0:34:05.200
<v Speaker 2>like I'm not doing things right.

0:34:06.280 --> 0:34:09.239
<v Speaker 1>Love. Yeah, what others think is also out.

0:34:09.760 --> 0:34:11.960
<v Speaker 2>I need to stop worrying about it. I just need

0:34:12.000 --> 0:34:14.600
<v Speaker 2>to do my own thing and not worry about, oh

0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:16.560
<v Speaker 2>what will this person think if they see that or

0:34:17.000 --> 0:34:17.880
<v Speaker 2>that sort of stuff.

0:34:18.200 --> 0:34:19.880
<v Speaker 1>Interesting, it's a big one for me.

0:34:20.520 --> 0:34:25.600
<v Speaker 2>And then I've obviously put impulse purchases. They're out, yes,

0:34:27.160 --> 0:34:30.399
<v Speaker 2>and binging, binging, is out for me in twenty twenty three,

0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:32.800
<v Speaker 2>I want what do you mean by that? Like content?

0:34:33.080 --> 0:34:36.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to binge watch Netflix. I don't like

0:34:36.360 --> 0:34:38.839
<v Speaker 2>if a TV series comes out, I really want to

0:34:39.000 --> 0:34:41.120
<v Speaker 2>take my time with it, watch an episode a week

0:34:41.200 --> 0:34:42.200
<v Speaker 2>or an episode a day.

0:34:42.840 --> 0:34:45.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm really good at that, I know you are, and

0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:48.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm not. And like, because Tim will literally want to

0:34:48.120 --> 0:34:50.640
<v Speaker 1>be in something and I'm like, no, let's say that. Yes,

0:34:50.880 --> 0:34:54.640
<v Speaker 1>and he's like, but why it literally hates me. And

0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:58.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm also like, I if I love a show and

0:34:58.400 --> 0:35:00.600
<v Speaker 1>I find it during the week, I will literally not

0:35:00.640 --> 0:35:02.680
<v Speaker 1>watch it and wait till the weekend because I like

0:35:02.760 --> 0:35:03.720
<v Speaker 1>to save her something.

0:35:04.160 --> 0:35:04.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:35:04.640 --> 0:35:05.960
<v Speaker 1>So I'm really good at that.

0:35:05.680 --> 0:35:11.399
<v Speaker 2>So I want to get better at just because why

0:35:11.800 --> 0:35:14.560
<v Speaker 2>the reason I would constantly binge things? And literally at

0:35:14.560 --> 0:35:16.359
<v Speaker 2>the end of the year, I was like, I got

0:35:16.400 --> 0:35:19.799
<v Speaker 2>nothing left it watch like there's nothing Yeah, And then

0:35:20.040 --> 0:35:24.799
<v Speaker 2>I feel that time with stupid fhit And so I

0:35:24.840 --> 0:35:27.359
<v Speaker 2>really want to be able to be patient enough and

0:35:27.400 --> 0:35:30.000
<v Speaker 2>disciplined enough to know this is not the time for me.

0:35:29.960 --> 0:35:32.160
<v Speaker 1>To be what's it called delayed gratification.

0:35:32.400 --> 0:35:37.320
<v Speaker 2>Yes, And I think, especially now, we're very much conditioned

0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 2>to have instant gratification.

0:35:40.160 --> 0:35:43.040
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, just dropped again. Yeah, I'm actually so good at

0:35:43.080 --> 0:35:45.919
<v Speaker 1>delayed gratification, even the way of I've got all these

0:35:45.920 --> 0:35:48.759
<v Speaker 1>parcels downstairs of like stuff I bought on Boxing Day,

0:35:49.280 --> 0:35:53.719
<v Speaker 1>and I'm only taking home one parcel and then like

0:35:53.760 --> 0:35:56.040
<v Speaker 1>I'll slowly take it home and open it.

0:35:56.080 --> 0:36:00.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I want the delayed gratification. God, I

0:36:01.239 --> 0:36:04.160
<v Speaker 2>literally could never do that. And that's that's not wild,

0:36:04.800 --> 0:36:05.720
<v Speaker 2>that's so good.

0:36:06.280 --> 0:36:09.200
<v Speaker 1>I remember my parents teaching me delayed gratification growing up.

0:36:09.280 --> 0:36:11.799
<v Speaker 2>My mom tried, she really tried. It didn't work, And.

0:36:11.719 --> 0:36:13.920
<v Speaker 1>Like I remember my parents saying stuff like if my

0:36:13.920 --> 0:36:16.279
<v Speaker 1>brothers wanted tattoos, they had to wait like three months

0:36:16.320 --> 0:36:17.839
<v Speaker 1>and if then they still wanted it and they could

0:36:17.880 --> 0:36:19.640
<v Speaker 1>get it, and stuff like that, Wow. Or if you

0:36:19.880 --> 0:36:21.960
<v Speaker 1>wanted something growing up, I would have to wait a

0:36:22.000 --> 0:36:24.200
<v Speaker 1>couple of weeks to see if you still wanted that. Yeah.

0:36:24.280 --> 0:36:26.799
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's my rule for myself this year too. I

0:36:26.840 --> 0:36:29.560
<v Speaker 2>need to wait four to eight weeks for anything I

0:36:29.600 --> 0:36:32.160
<v Speaker 2>want to buy, unless it's a replacement of something.

0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:34.759
<v Speaker 1>What if I've sold out too bad?

0:36:34.840 --> 0:36:37.920
<v Speaker 2>So sad? Did I really need it?

0:36:38.120 --> 0:36:38.520
<v Speaker 1>Shocked?

0:36:38.960 --> 0:36:39.239
<v Speaker 2>I know?

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:40.000
<v Speaker 1>I love it.

0:36:40.120 --> 0:36:47.399
<v Speaker 2>Let's see if that I have wish list already, it's.

0:36:46.840 --> 0:36:49.319
<v Speaker 1>I also I want to make a wish list this year. Yeah,

0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:51.440
<v Speaker 1>because I saw everyone had one last year, and when

0:36:51.480 --> 0:36:54.279
<v Speaker 1>like when people asked me what my wishes, I had nothing.

0:36:54.320 --> 0:36:57.200
<v Speaker 1>I've bought everything I want or I just like I

0:36:57.239 --> 0:36:58.719
<v Speaker 1>want sing and I forget because I didn't put on

0:36:58.800 --> 0:37:02.080
<v Speaker 1>the list. Yeah, right, and make a lessens say that's love.

0:37:02.160 --> 0:37:04.399
<v Speaker 1>Those in and outs love this for us.

0:37:04.920 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 2>And then I added snoozing my alarm when you said it,

0:37:07.360 --> 0:37:09.399
<v Speaker 2>and I also had mindless scrolling on.

0:37:09.400 --> 0:37:12.719
<v Speaker 1>There, so yeah, that's really getting us. I just want

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:15.760
<v Speaker 1>to be purposeful with my time. Yeah. And also sometimes

0:37:15.760 --> 0:37:19.040
<v Speaker 1>I think like it's also just a weird concept to

0:37:20.480 --> 0:37:24.520
<v Speaker 1>not be present in your life, to watch someone else's life.

0:37:24.600 --> 0:37:26.799
<v Speaker 1>That's what my dad always says to me. He's like,

0:37:27.000 --> 0:37:30.600
<v Speaker 1>you're wasting your life watching other people live theirs. That's

0:37:30.840 --> 0:37:34.759
<v Speaker 1>oh my god. That gets me all the time. And

0:37:34.800 --> 0:37:36.799
<v Speaker 1>I say that to Tim too, and he's always like,

0:37:36.960 --> 0:37:40.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm literally in bed doing nothing, and I might to

0:37:40.440 --> 0:37:51.719
<v Speaker 1>share you're literally watching Netflix. Shut the fuck up, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>Next question, our next question.

0:37:56.200 --> 0:37:57.640
<v Speaker 1>I love this one, so.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd love to get our insight on how a scarcity

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<v Speaker 2>or lack mindset works in terms of money, things and

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<v Speaker 2>experiences and feeling like you can't get enough of it,

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<v Speaker 2>regardless of earning a what is considered a good income.

0:38:17.320 --> 0:38:20.400
<v Speaker 2>And she's also said she struggles to save and she

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<v Speaker 2>used to not quite understand the concept of an abundant

0:38:23.560 --> 0:38:25.960
<v Speaker 2>mindset and thought it was just acting like a rich

0:38:26.000 --> 0:38:27.400
<v Speaker 2>person and spending.

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<v Speaker 1>All her money. I'd love this so much because I

0:38:30.880 --> 0:38:35.680
<v Speaker 1>can relate. See, I'm like the opposite in the regards

0:38:35.760 --> 0:38:39.160
<v Speaker 1>of I used to be such are what's the word

0:38:39.160 --> 0:38:42.160
<v Speaker 1>when you're like really good at saving money? Frugal? Ah,

0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:46.840
<v Speaker 1>so frugal and so good at the words living within

0:38:46.920 --> 0:38:50.480
<v Speaker 1>your means were like my Bible. Yeah, I was so

0:38:50.600 --> 0:38:53.719
<v Speaker 1>good at that and so like frifty. And then once

0:38:53.760 --> 0:38:57.760
<v Speaker 1>I found manifesting and abundance, so that worked quite well for.

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<v Speaker 2>Me because.

0:39:00.760 --> 0:39:03.680
<v Speaker 1>So that why can well because I was like the opposite.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:39:04.640 --> 0:39:08.880
<v Speaker 1>But anyway back to the question, so I know I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this question because like, being abundant is not

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<v Speaker 1>just spending all your money. Yeah, Because if we're going

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<v Speaker 1>back to like what we're talking about with integrity, like

0:39:23.280 --> 0:39:27.080
<v Speaker 1>I guarantee you that is not in integrity with your

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<v Speaker 1>goals or with you as a person, or what you value.

0:39:30.920 --> 0:39:33.560
<v Speaker 1>So I'm guessing and I do kind of know this person,

0:39:33.719 --> 0:39:36.880
<v Speaker 1>so I kind of I know exactly what she's talking about.

0:39:37.239 --> 0:39:40.600
<v Speaker 1>And it's being abundant in the way of like, you know,

0:39:40.680 --> 0:39:42.680
<v Speaker 1>being like, oh, well, I've got to act abundance. I'm

0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:45.680
<v Speaker 1>gonna go buy that y a cell bag. Where it's

0:39:45.760 --> 0:39:49.120
<v Speaker 1>like you might have a wage that can you know,

0:39:49.360 --> 0:39:53.319
<v Speaker 1>support that, but do you also have other priorities in

0:39:53.360 --> 0:39:56.120
<v Speaker 1>your life like your partner and you wanting to buy

0:39:56.160 --> 0:39:58.840
<v Speaker 1>a house, yeah, or like wanting to go overseas on

0:39:59.000 --> 0:40:03.520
<v Speaker 1>trip correct. Yeah, And so in those times, I really

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<v Speaker 1>really do not believe in being abundant is spending all

0:40:08.360 --> 0:40:12.080
<v Speaker 1>your money, yeah, because that is not abundance. That is

0:40:12.200 --> 0:40:16.359
<v Speaker 1>putting yourself in a mode of lack because then once

0:40:16.440 --> 0:40:17.880
<v Speaker 1>you spend that money.

0:40:17.640 --> 0:40:23.600
<v Speaker 2>You don't have any well correct, thank you pointing that out.

0:40:25.680 --> 0:40:30.160
<v Speaker 1>So I want you to start thinking of like you

0:40:30.200 --> 0:40:36.080
<v Speaker 1>can still have a budget, be thrifty, be conscious and

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<v Speaker 1>good with your money, but still be abundant because it's

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<v Speaker 1>the energy in which you spend and it's the energy

0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:50.600
<v Speaker 1>in which you you know, think and feel about money. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that is different. To the actual doing. So the doing

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<v Speaker 1>abundant might be spending the money, but the being abundant

0:40:57.719 --> 0:41:00.680
<v Speaker 1>is not spending the money when that is not integral

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<v Speaker 1>with who you are and your prodies and your goals.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that.

0:41:05.000 --> 0:41:09.000
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like that kind of like explains it

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit. And also this energy of I what

0:41:13.719 --> 0:41:19.319
<v Speaker 1>does she say, like you can never get enough? What

0:41:19.400 --> 0:41:21.680
<v Speaker 1>reckon she means by that? I too well?

0:41:21.800 --> 0:41:25.480
<v Speaker 2>For me, it's almost like no matter how hard you try,

0:41:25.800 --> 0:41:29.480
<v Speaker 2>or you're maybe earning a decent wage or like a

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<v Speaker 2>good income, it's still not enough for the life you

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<v Speaker 2>want kind of thing. Yeah, like not feeling abundant enough,

0:41:37.400 --> 0:41:39.399
<v Speaker 2>I think, Yeah, so.

0:41:39.360 --> 0:41:43.200
<v Speaker 1>I think you need to shift in regards to living

0:41:43.239 --> 0:41:49.000
<v Speaker 1>within your means does not mean you're in a scarcity mindset. Yeah,

0:41:49.160 --> 0:41:52.279
<v Speaker 1>Like that does not mean that at all. You can

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<v Speaker 1>still live within your means and budget and thrift and

0:41:54.840 --> 0:41:58.239
<v Speaker 1>whatnot and still be in an abundant mindset because you've

0:41:58.239 --> 0:42:00.799
<v Speaker 1>also got to be like, you also have to be

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:04.440
<v Speaker 1>conscious about your priorities and if you are saving money

0:42:04.520 --> 0:42:06.920
<v Speaker 1>or you yeah, you need to have a certain amount

0:42:06.960 --> 0:42:09.000
<v Speaker 1>of money, you're not gonna go then spend it, because

0:42:09.040 --> 0:42:11.520
<v Speaker 1>that is going to put you in a scarcity mindset.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely. I feel like something that clicked for me with

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<v Speaker 2>this is things like, for example, fuel, I would struggle

0:42:21.239 --> 0:42:25.440
<v Speaker 2>to fill my tank up when fuel was expensive because

0:42:25.560 --> 0:42:28.480
<v Speaker 2>it felt weird, like it felt so expensive to pay

0:42:28.520 --> 0:42:30.880
<v Speaker 2>all that money for fuel at once. So I do

0:42:31.000 --> 0:42:33.600
<v Speaker 2>like fifty dollars at a time instead of putting one

0:42:33.640 --> 0:42:35.879
<v Speaker 2>hundred and fifty dollars and just filling my fuel tank up,

0:42:36.200 --> 0:42:39.560
<v Speaker 2>Whereas now I'll just fill my fuel tank up, like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna wait for the price to go down

0:42:41.239 --> 0:42:44.120
<v Speaker 2>a couple of cents and things like that, because it

0:42:44.239 --> 0:42:46.719
<v Speaker 2>I need fuel to get to work to make money, yes,

0:42:47.080 --> 0:42:50.240
<v Speaker 2>and so I'm okay for spending that and it doesn't

0:42:50.280 --> 0:42:54.839
<v Speaker 2>feel gross or ichy, and I don't feel bad when

0:42:54.840 --> 0:42:57.000
<v Speaker 2>I spend that money, whereas I used to feel bad

0:42:57.040 --> 0:43:00.000
<v Speaker 2>when I spent that money and would make myself spend less.

0:42:59.680 --> 0:43:00.839
<v Speaker 1>And it's the shift in.

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<v Speaker 2>Mindset for me. And also like I feel good when

0:43:04.080 --> 0:43:07.040
<v Speaker 2>I find a DIY hack for something. Yeah, so I'll

0:43:07.040 --> 0:43:10.319
<v Speaker 2>do it and I love that, yeah, and it feels right.

0:43:10.800 --> 0:43:12.880
<v Speaker 1>That's even like a tear I was thinking the other

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<v Speaker 1>day because I did a big like closet, clean out

0:43:16.600 --> 0:43:20.279
<v Speaker 1>of my closet and also Ivy's closet, and I like

0:43:20.440 --> 0:43:22.239
<v Speaker 1>there was a bunch of stuff that I was giving

0:43:22.280 --> 0:43:25.040
<v Speaker 1>away to like some girlfriends and like my mom and stuff.

0:43:25.040 --> 0:43:26.719
<v Speaker 1>But then there was also a bunch of stuff that

0:43:27.480 --> 0:43:31.000
<v Speaker 1>is like I had literally recently bought, especially because Ivy

0:43:31.080 --> 0:43:33.800
<v Speaker 1>fucking grows so much, but like I had just bought

0:43:33.800 --> 0:43:36.040
<v Speaker 1>and she's worn once or I've just bought, and like

0:43:36.120 --> 0:43:38.640
<v Speaker 1>I've worn once, and I was like I should really

0:43:38.640 --> 0:43:42.400
<v Speaker 1>put this on deepop yeah. And but then there was

0:43:42.440 --> 0:43:44.959
<v Speaker 1>a part of me who is like, what a waste

0:43:45.000 --> 0:43:48.879
<v Speaker 1>of time and energy And it's not even like you're

0:43:48.920 --> 0:43:51.960
<v Speaker 1>going to get you know, much back or anything like yeah,

0:43:51.960 --> 0:43:55.799
<v Speaker 1>but it was like the energy of what's going to

0:43:55.960 --> 0:43:59.520
<v Speaker 1>feel really good for you because this year I do

0:43:59.600 --> 0:44:02.359
<v Speaker 1>want to be like way more sustainable and not just

0:44:02.400 --> 0:44:04.080
<v Speaker 1>like bye bye bye bye bye.

0:44:04.320 --> 0:44:04.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:44:04.680 --> 0:44:08.040
<v Speaker 1>And so I was like, no, it actually feels really

0:44:08.080 --> 0:44:10.800
<v Speaker 1>good to make sure this goes to like a good home.

0:44:10.760 --> 0:44:12.839
<v Speaker 2>And to someone who will love it and use it

0:44:12.880 --> 0:44:14.040
<v Speaker 2>and who wants it.

0:44:14.000 --> 0:44:17.040
<v Speaker 1>Yes, and it won't feel like just wasted energy.

0:44:17.239 --> 0:44:17.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:44:17.719 --> 0:44:19.279
<v Speaker 1>And it was like, yeah, it was like this weird

0:44:19.280 --> 0:44:22.560
<v Speaker 1>thing I had to like progress and get into absolutely

0:44:22.760 --> 0:44:23.840
<v Speaker 1>love that.

0:44:23.840 --> 0:44:25.439
<v Speaker 2>That was a big thing for me, I think because

0:44:25.480 --> 0:44:28.360
<v Speaker 2>I used to very much think abundance of just spending money.

0:44:28.520 --> 0:44:33.920
<v Speaker 1>I think also like people think manifesting, and you know,

0:44:34.040 --> 0:44:38.080
<v Speaker 1>an abundant mindset doesn't mesh with a budget. But like

0:44:38.560 --> 0:44:43.040
<v Speaker 1>that's not correct because again it's I used to explain

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<v Speaker 1>like you, like you said, if I find a bargain

0:44:48.320 --> 0:44:51.239
<v Speaker 1>somewhere and it's something that I was going to buy

0:44:51.400 --> 0:44:53.600
<v Speaker 1>anyway and I really needed and I loved and I

0:44:53.640 --> 0:44:56.080
<v Speaker 1>was gonna buy it anyway, and it's a bargain, I

0:44:56.160 --> 0:44:59.479
<v Speaker 1>don't go, oh well, I'm not gonna buy it because

0:44:59.480 --> 0:45:02.640
<v Speaker 1>that's like a scarcity mindset. Or I don't buy cheap

0:45:02.680 --> 0:45:06.759
<v Speaker 1>things anymore because I'm about quality and abundance. It's like

0:45:07.360 --> 0:45:10.680
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't matter. That is different compared to buying something

0:45:10.760 --> 0:45:14.840
<v Speaker 1>that's cheaper because it's cheaper. Yes, when you like the

0:45:14.880 --> 0:45:17.960
<v Speaker 1>full price thing more, yes, yes, that is the difference.

0:45:17.960 --> 0:45:20.600
<v Speaker 1>And it took me so long to get on board

0:45:20.600 --> 0:45:23.239
<v Speaker 1>with that. And that is like that's a similar thing

0:45:23.360 --> 0:45:27.359
<v Speaker 1>of don't just spend your money willy nilly, because that's

0:45:27.400 --> 0:45:29.319
<v Speaker 1>also not the energy and what you want to spend

0:45:29.400 --> 0:45:32.560
<v Speaker 1>things you want to spend your money because you need,

0:45:32.680 --> 0:45:37.360
<v Speaker 1>you love, you want, not just an impulse buy or

0:45:37.400 --> 0:45:39.560
<v Speaker 1>because you think you know this thing will make you

0:45:39.640 --> 0:45:42.320
<v Speaker 1>feel a certain way. That's like different energies.

0:45:42.520 --> 0:45:47.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I've now noticed in myself that I feel

0:45:47.680 --> 0:45:51.200
<v Speaker 2>so much better when I really think about something and

0:45:51.280 --> 0:45:54.880
<v Speaker 2>maybe even don't buy something than if I bought it,

0:45:54.960 --> 0:45:56.960
<v Speaker 2>Like I feel better inside when I don't buy it

0:45:56.960 --> 0:45:58.879
<v Speaker 2>because I'm like, you know what, I actually didn't need that,

0:45:59.000 --> 0:46:01.200
<v Speaker 2>Like I just wanted to spend money to spend money.

0:46:01.840 --> 0:46:06.840
<v Speaker 1>I love that so much. Confessions of a chopperholic. You

0:46:06.960 --> 0:46:10.399
<v Speaker 1>really are, I know, not this year, not this year.

0:46:10.440 --> 0:46:11.440
<v Speaker 2>It's the ninth of January.

0:46:11.520 --> 0:46:17.360
<v Speaker 1>I've not brought anything but the abundance money. Makeover money,

0:46:17.360 --> 0:46:20.480
<v Speaker 1>my book Makeover ebook would be amazing for this person.

0:46:20.560 --> 0:46:23.080
<v Speaker 1>And we'll chuck the link in the show notes because

0:46:23.640 --> 0:46:26.759
<v Speaker 1>it is so about the energy. And I also think

0:46:26.840 --> 0:46:30.680
<v Speaker 1>like it is important to if you do have you know,

0:46:30.840 --> 0:46:33.840
<v Speaker 1>certain money goals, or you want to buy a house

0:46:34.000 --> 0:46:36.719
<v Speaker 1>or go overseas, like I think it is important to

0:46:36.800 --> 0:46:40.440
<v Speaker 1>have a budget, absolutely have certain saving hacks, Like I

0:46:40.440 --> 0:46:44.799
<v Speaker 1>don't think that is yet different to like manifesting. It's

0:46:44.840 --> 0:46:49.040
<v Speaker 1>not like, what's that called like conflicting? Yeah at all?

0:46:49.600 --> 0:46:51.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they work really well together.

0:46:53.560 --> 0:46:55.920
<v Speaker 1>It's well about the energy. It's all about the energy.

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<v Speaker 2>Lucky. Last question, Hey, Gi, I love some advice on

0:47:03.840 --> 0:47:07.000
<v Speaker 2>how to deal with partners or family members that don't

0:47:07.040 --> 0:47:11.000
<v Speaker 2>believe in manifesting. I'm currently really trying to start pushing

0:47:11.000 --> 0:47:13.279
<v Speaker 2>myself to dream bigger and go for my goals. In

0:47:13.320 --> 0:47:15.840
<v Speaker 2>twenty twenty three PS, I did the do It for

0:47:15.880 --> 0:47:19.000
<v Speaker 2>your Future Self course and loved it. I shared my

0:47:19.200 --> 0:47:22.760
<v Speaker 2>goals and things I want to start manifesting with my partner,

0:47:23.080 --> 0:47:25.000
<v Speaker 2>but he called me a bit crazy and told me

0:47:25.040 --> 0:47:28.400
<v Speaker 2>that it's not really possible. I love him and he's amazing,

0:47:28.560 --> 0:47:30.719
<v Speaker 2>but would love some tips on how to get through

0:47:30.760 --> 0:47:33.319
<v Speaker 2>things like this, as his opinion obviously means a lot

0:47:33.360 --> 0:47:36.000
<v Speaker 2>to me and I'm unsure on what to do. Thank you.

0:47:37.400 --> 0:47:41.720
<v Speaker 1>So this is controversial, but I do not tell Tim anything.

0:47:41.719 --> 0:47:47.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm just really no, not anything. But I am so

0:47:47.239 --> 0:47:52.680
<v Speaker 1>specific with telling people what I'm manifesting or my big life,

0:47:52.719 --> 0:47:56.680
<v Speaker 1>like I doubt anyone knows in my head, like what

0:47:56.880 --> 0:48:00.680
<v Speaker 1>is my big big life. I'm just I just refuse

0:48:01.239 --> 0:48:05.680
<v Speaker 1>to tell anyone that I know is going to tarnish

0:48:06.200 --> 0:48:10.160
<v Speaker 1>is going to bring me down or not let me

0:48:10.440 --> 0:48:15.480
<v Speaker 1>believe in that big life, because honestly, like sixty percent

0:48:15.800 --> 0:48:19.760
<v Speaker 1>of what manifesting is is you believing you are worthy

0:48:19.800 --> 0:48:22.440
<v Speaker 1>for that thing. Yeah, that's honestly the hard part. And

0:48:22.480 --> 0:48:25.080
<v Speaker 1>that's where you know, going through your limiting beliefs and

0:48:25.200 --> 0:48:28.919
<v Speaker 1>like doing the inner work and the shadow work comes in.

0:48:29.400 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 1>And that's why I feel like I'd been able to

0:48:33.360 --> 0:48:38.120
<v Speaker 1>manifest things quite fast and a certain way is because

0:48:38.160 --> 0:48:41.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't tell people, because that just creates another barrier.

0:48:41.560 --> 0:48:44.480
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm already trying to convince myself that I deserve

0:48:45.000 --> 0:48:47.399
<v Speaker 1>this thing. I don't have to fucking convince someone else

0:48:47.440 --> 0:48:50.400
<v Speaker 1>to do it. It's hard work to do that. And so

0:48:51.280 --> 0:48:54.480
<v Speaker 1>it's a little bit different now with Tim because he

0:48:54.520 --> 0:48:57.760
<v Speaker 1>does believe in you know, manifesting and all the tools

0:48:57.800 --> 0:49:01.880
<v Speaker 1>that I talk about, and and but that's just because

0:49:02.080 --> 0:49:05.879
<v Speaker 1>of how much evidence we have now. And so if

0:49:05.880 --> 0:49:08.520
<v Speaker 1>you asked him to believe in manifesting, he's like, of

0:49:08.560 --> 0:49:10.640
<v Speaker 1>course I do, like look at our house and life

0:49:10.680 --> 0:49:14.760
<v Speaker 1>and everything. Yeah, Whereas when I just started getting into

0:49:14.920 --> 0:49:17.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, a spirit, my spirituality and using these tools

0:49:17.960 --> 0:49:22.080
<v Speaker 1>and manifesting, I literally would not tell Tim about my

0:49:22.160 --> 0:49:24.680
<v Speaker 1>big life and my big dream because it is it's

0:49:24.760 --> 0:49:28.520
<v Speaker 1>hard to get on the vibration if other people are

0:49:28.560 --> 0:49:33.120
<v Speaker 1>pulling you back. So my big thing is like if

0:49:33.160 --> 0:49:36.960
<v Speaker 1>you like, can't you know, really convince that person, like

0:49:37.440 --> 0:49:39.839
<v Speaker 1>just keep it close to your heart. Yeah, Like I

0:49:39.960 --> 0:49:42.200
<v Speaker 1>just don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's not

0:49:42.239 --> 0:49:47.120
<v Speaker 1>being you know, secretive or I just don't think. Yeah,

0:49:47.120 --> 0:49:48.920
<v Speaker 1>I just don't think there's anything wrong with it. And

0:49:49.000 --> 0:49:52.359
<v Speaker 1>I truly believe also in this saying in the self

0:49:52.360 --> 0:49:56.880
<v Speaker 1>development world of like keep your side of the street clean.

0:49:57.520 --> 0:50:00.920
<v Speaker 1>I love that quote, and that is just about like

0:50:01.880 --> 0:50:07.600
<v Speaker 1>make sure you're in check with your integrity, with your beliefs,

0:50:07.840 --> 0:50:10.759
<v Speaker 1>and do like what you're saying you're going to do,

0:50:11.280 --> 0:50:15.120
<v Speaker 1>and you know, do your routines and rituals, and do

0:50:15.320 --> 0:50:19.120
<v Speaker 1>not be worried about what other people are doing, including

0:50:19.160 --> 0:50:21.600
<v Speaker 1>your partner and family. And I know that can be

0:50:21.680 --> 0:50:24.480
<v Speaker 1>so hard for people who they you know, they want

0:50:24.480 --> 0:50:27.040
<v Speaker 1>to share and they get excited. This is this always

0:50:27.080 --> 0:50:29.680
<v Speaker 1>happens to me. Is like you know, I you know,

0:50:29.800 --> 0:50:31.960
<v Speaker 1>I get excited and I feel this and I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to you want to tell people, but you have

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<v Speaker 1>to be so conscious because a lot of people they

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<v Speaker 1>don't like it's not on their heart, so they can't get,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, onto your level. So it's going to be

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<v Speaker 1>really hard for them to be supportive, especially if they

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<v Speaker 1>are someone who you know, has a lot of limiting

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<v Speaker 1>beliefs and has a lot of like these negative thought loops.

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<v Speaker 1>So my biggest advice is to like just keep it

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<v Speaker 1>to yourself, keep your side of the street clean, do

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<v Speaker 1>your work. And what's really beautiful is the people who

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<v Speaker 1>are meant to be in your life and who will

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<v Speaker 1>support you will stay there, and a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>time they will evolve, which I've spoken a lot about,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, tim you know evolving and up leveling and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, now believing and manifesting. Yeah, and also I

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<v Speaker 1>have a beautiful story of my best friend, Lessinda, who

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<v Speaker 1>we met when I was thirteen, And there was definitely

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<v Speaker 1>a period when we were maybe twenty two to like

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five or twenty four, like a good couple of

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<v Speaker 1>years where I was full into self development and she wasn't,

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<v Speaker 1>and we were quite distant, like we were always really

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<v Speaker 1>great friends. Yeah, but it's like I just I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>talk to her about self development because I knew she

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't quite grasp where I was. Yeah, and then she

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<v Speaker 1>had a really life changing, you know, tragic thing that

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<v Speaker 1>happened that turned her to self development. And then she

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<v Speaker 1>got into self development. And now we're really on the

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<v Speaker 1>same level where we can have these really beautiful conversations

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<v Speaker 1>of our big life and I feel like I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>worried about her, you know, shitting on it. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's kind of a tough one, but that, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that would be my advice. It is.

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<v Speaker 2>I am open about some of my goals because they

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<v Speaker 2>are big, but I always have to go back to

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<v Speaker 2>the quote of if someone's not laughing at your dreams or.

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<v Speaker 1>Not big enough, I know, but you've got to be theer.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to be the person who's able to deal

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<v Speaker 1>with someone laughing at your dreams. Yea, I am so

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<v Speaker 1>not the person if you laugh on my dreams, I

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<v Speaker 1>would be quite upset. So I'm just not going to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you. Yeah, that's so fair.

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<v Speaker 2>I think there are some people that if they laughed,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be quite affected, but others.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like something I'm going to that I love it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it depends what sort of person I want.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like, I'm gone prove you wrong. But in saying that,

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<v Speaker 2>big big, big goals. And it's different when it's your

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<v Speaker 2>partner or your family telling you that they don't think

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<v Speaker 2>you can do it, because obviously that's a lot harder

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<v Speaker 2>than just someone else. Yeah, I would, yeah, either keep

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<v Speaker 2>it to myself or I feel like, if it's a

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<v Speaker 2>heart desire and they're not on board, I just very

0:53:20.560 --> 0:53:25.640
<v Speaker 2>nicely tell them that don't don't bring that energy into

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<v Speaker 2>my zone.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't want to hear your negative thoughts about it. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna go ahead and do this. I now understand that

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<v Speaker 2>that's a bit of a taboo subject for us, and

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<v Speaker 2>I won't talk to you about it again.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, no, I totally agree of if you have

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<v Speaker 1>already brought that up with that person and they maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you know, didn't react in the way you wanted to.

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely then creating that boundary where you're like, yeah, we're

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<v Speaker 1>not going to talk about this thing because it, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>upsets me and brings the vibe down. Yeah, and even

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<v Speaker 1>just flagging that because sometimes they might not realize. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like if someone says, oh, like you're not going to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to do that because of X and X reason,

0:54:02.800 --> 0:54:06.839
<v Speaker 1>and you know that it's coming from a place of goodness.

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<v Speaker 1>Like when I bought my car, I bought it brand new,

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<v Speaker 1>and I did have people close to me tell me, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't buy a car brand new.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't buy a car brand you're Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>how are you going to get alone? Like you're so

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<v Speaker 2>young and you're applying for it by yourself, and there's

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<v Speaker 2>no way the bank's going to approve you for that.

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<v Speaker 2>So don't get too disappointed if you can't get it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I would just I turned around and it said

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<v Speaker 2>to them, like, I really appreciate where you're coming from,

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<v Speaker 2>because I know you're trying to protect me, but I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't appreciate being told I can't do something that

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<v Speaker 2>I want. Yeah, because I'll get it and I did

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<v Speaker 2>and I did. So just being able to say that

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<v Speaker 2>in that moment, I think is important too, Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 2>they might not realize that they're actually affecting you that

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<v Speaker 2>much because you value what they think.

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<v Speaker 1>Self development and having big goals can be lonely. It is.

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<v Speaker 1>And in saying that, though, I think there's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of great and there's a lot of like something I

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<v Speaker 1>personally like just love is I love, not like not

0:55:09.360 --> 0:55:12.800
<v Speaker 1>telling anyone I'm doing something and then just being like bam,

0:55:13.080 --> 0:55:17.960
<v Speaker 1>so what's that quote? It's like don't tell people, show people. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And so like, you know, if you do have manifesting

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<v Speaker 1>goals or exciting goals, like just work on them by

0:55:23.280 --> 0:55:26.040
<v Speaker 1>yourself and stay in your own lane and don't be

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<v Speaker 1>you know what. Sometimes like I can't stand people who

0:55:30.280 --> 0:55:33.600
<v Speaker 1>like they talk the talk, but they can't walk the walk.

0:55:33.680 --> 0:55:37.360
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm thinking of someone very particular right now, and

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<v Speaker 1>they'll tell you they've got all these big goals and dreams,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's like you've been saying that for years and

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<v Speaker 1>I have not seen anything. And there's just so much

0:55:46.520 --> 0:55:48.719
<v Speaker 1>grace in because I thought it was me that I

0:55:48.760 --> 0:55:56.000
<v Speaker 1>was like, you haven't known me for you No, there's

0:55:56.040 --> 0:56:01.960
<v Speaker 1>an insecurity you need to work on that trigger. I

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<v Speaker 1>just feel like there's so much grace in just like

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<v Speaker 1>doing the thing and doing it for yourself and quietly,

0:56:08.560 --> 0:56:11.759
<v Speaker 1>not other people. And I feel like sometimes one more

0:56:11.800 --> 0:56:15.320
<v Speaker 1>thing you need to figure out you telling that person,

0:56:16.360 --> 0:56:18.520
<v Speaker 1>You need to figure out you need to figure out

0:56:18.680 --> 0:56:22.359
<v Speaker 1>you telling that person and them validating you is what

0:56:22.400 --> 0:56:26.840
<v Speaker 1>you're looking for and indeed think why am I needing

0:56:26.840 --> 0:56:30.239
<v Speaker 1>this validation? Like is this? Am I doing this for

0:56:30.320 --> 0:56:34.040
<v Speaker 1>this person to impress them? Yeah, that's also just like

0:56:34.120 --> 0:56:36.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, yeah, obviously it's her partner. So it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I get what you want to tell you. That's so

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<v Speaker 1>fair enough. But if you are someone who just like

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<v Speaker 1>wants to tell people, I would just be super interested

0:56:43.239 --> 0:56:45.200
<v Speaker 1>to even be like, why do you want to tell

0:56:45.239 --> 0:56:48.799
<v Speaker 1>people something to journal on? Anyway, I think that's all

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<v Speaker 1>we've got time for today. Yeah, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for listening. Guys, it's so good to be back in

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<v Speaker 1>your ears. And yeah, we'll chaut to you later.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye.

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