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Speaker 1: The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of

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Speaker 1: to all Aboriginal and terrest Raide Islander peoples today. Hello

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Speaker 1: and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This

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Speaker 1: is the podcast for ordinary people who want to do

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Speaker 1: extraordinary things. Hello and welcome back to the Rising Conker Podcast.

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Speaker 1: It is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner,

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Speaker 1: mum all the things Today we have a little hotline

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Speaker 1: app for you. These are our fun Friday episodes where

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Speaker 1: you're sending your life dilemmas or questions and you know,

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Speaker 1: Minateia really provide you with some unqualified two cents on

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Speaker 2: Sometimes it's like a dollar. I would say, love that

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Speaker 1: So today I love that we got asked our in

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Speaker 1: So we go through that, and then we chat about

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Speaker 1: the difference in between an abundant mindset and just spending

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Speaker 1: number one things I used to get asked in the project,

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Speaker 1: So I love chatting about that because it's so so

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Speaker 1: important to protect your energy. But guys, did you see

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Speaker 1: the big announcement.

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Speaker 1: I love it. Look, I've been seating that journal for

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Speaker 2: We dropped it in the Facebook group obviously before we

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Speaker 2: Someone literally commented, going, oh, we've seen it on John

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Speaker 1: So if you didn't pick up the very vet very

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Speaker 1: subtle hints, not so subtle hints, we are releasing our

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Speaker 1: I reckon September last year. I wanted a way of

435
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,679
Speaker 1: parenting to come up that felt really good and felt

436
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 1: really aligned. I'd done a little bit of research, but

437
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 1: like nothing felt good anyway. I listened to this podcast

438
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 1: and I love it. I love what they talk about,

439
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 1: and it's all about letting your children experience their feelings

440
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 1: and not feeling shame, but also having strong boundaries and

441
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: just it's very interesting and it's beautiful. And so I'm

442
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 1: actually going to do a course about aware parenting and

443
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:28,639
Speaker 1: me and him are going to do it together, and

444
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 1: I just I feel really excited about it because it

445
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,359
Speaker 1: just it feels really good and I hadn't heard it before.

446
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 1: That's so cool. So where parenting is in, well, like

447
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,119
Speaker 1: for now, we'll see. I'll see if I like the course.

448
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 1: My outs, Yes, tell them mom guilt good, Mum Guilt's gone.

449
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 1: We're done with her. And she's out snoozing my alarm.

450
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 1: So I always I always get to my gym session,

451
00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 1: but most of the time it's like just on time, yeah,

452
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 1: or usually a couple of minutes after because I've snoozed

453
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: my alarm. And I just this concept that I've been

454
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,879
Speaker 1: really leaning into in the new year is this how

455
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 1: you do one thing is how you do everything. So

456
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 1: like really trying to show up of I can't be

457
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: like you jump on this podcast and be like Georgie

458
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 1: on her next level in twenty twenty three and I'm

459
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 1: a powerful beach and blah blah blah, and then I'm

460
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 1: still fucking snoozing my alarm to me like I want

461
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: I love this word. Ellie was talking to me about

462
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 1: of like having integrity with everything you do, and I

463
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 1: want to show up in integrity in even the small things,

464
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: because you know they're truly the big thing. So I thought,

465
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, that is something that

466
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,679
Speaker 1: I do is snooze my alarm and something similar to

467
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 1: that on that kind of wavelength is scrolling before I

468
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: go to bed. That is out a tr go so bad.

469
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:01,919
Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking, what I'm gonna do is put a

470
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: timer on and give myself twenty minutes, like because I

471
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 1: don't go on my phone once I get home because

472
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,040
Speaker 1: I'm with Ivy. Yeah, so as soon as she's asleep,

473
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: I will put a timer on and I'll give myself

474
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: twenty minutes. And then the phone is on air aplane

475
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: in Mote and I'm either reading, journaling or meditating. We're

476
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: not scrolling. Another out is gluten. Oh, Gluten's out. And

477
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 1: this is not like this is because of my thyroid.

478
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 1: I CA Yeah, it's not like me saying I don't

479
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: want eat gluten because it you know, I love gluten.

480
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: I love gluten too.

481
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 2: It's good that you're doing that for your thyroid. Though

482
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 2: it's important.

483
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,159
Speaker 1: Well, it's so important. Even Ellie kind of called me

484
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 1: out of it and was like, you dabble in gluten

485
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 1: and then you complain about your thyroid's not getting better,

486
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 1: and I'm like, so gluten's out for me personally, just

487
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: because thyroid issues. Picking the easier option, going back to

488
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:57,439
Speaker 1: the is this integral with like my next level self

489
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,439
Speaker 1: or am I just picking the easy option? Because a

490
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 1: lot of the time last year, I just picked the

491
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 1: easy option, which I think is okay. I gave myself

492
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 1: grace because a lot was on last year. But this year,

493
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I'm standing in integrity. And then the

494
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: last out is comparing my body to anyone else or

495
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: even my previous self. We're not doing that this year

496
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 1: because I think being postpartum last year, I never expressed it,

497
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 1: but I was comparing myself a lot. Yeah, and I'm

498
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 1: just like, such a waste of brain capacity, and we're

499
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 1: not doing that, And I'm just embracing myself and like

500
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 1: even to my past self, because I was really good

501
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: at not comparing myself to like rather people. Yeah, but

502
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 1: I would compare myself to my previous self. But I'm like,

503
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,479
Speaker 1: I'm not going backwards. I'm going forward and I'm just

504
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 1: not doing that.

505
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 2: I love it.

506
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 1: So they are my ins and outs. What are yours?

507
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 2: My ins and outs? And I wrote this before I

508
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 2: heard yours, but some of them are the same, which

509
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 2: excites me. My first is risk taking. So I feel

510
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 2: like a lot of my life I've wanted to do

511
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 2: these big, amazing things and then I psyck myself out

512
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 2: and I really don't want to do that. In twenty

513
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 2: twenty three, I'm gonna do things if I want to

514
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 2: do them. I'm not gonna worry about if it's gonna

515
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 2: work or not. I'm not gonna worry about if people

516
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 2: are gonna like it or not, or what they're gonna think.

517
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna do it and see what happens. And

518
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 2: then number two, my second in is making my word law.

519
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 2: I really am. Similar to what you said and what

520
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 2: Ellie's talking about is living with integrity. If I say

521
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do something, I'm actually gonna do it. I

522
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 2: don't want to be a flaky person. I want to

523
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 2: be someone who respects myself and takes myself seriously. So

524
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:46,480
Speaker 2: I really want to make that a big deal this year.

525
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 2: Number three in is my health. I really want to

526
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 2: prioritize it and respect it and respect that time as

527
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 2: equally as.

528
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 1: My other values.

529
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 2: So if I'm going to catch up up with someone

530
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 2: and they ask me to do it in my gym time,

531
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 2: I need to be a bit stricter with my boundaries

532
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 2: and say no.

533
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 1: Love.

534
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 2: And then another in for me is balance. I want

535
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 2: to make sure I'm filling all my buckets up and

536
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 2: valuing them all equally. Again, I think that's something that

537
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 2: I haven't done in the past. Is I valued some

538
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 2: buckets over others when they're all as important as each other.

539
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 2: And just like be a well rounded person love, My

540
00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 2: other one is investing purposefully. So I don't want to

541
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 2: be buying things material or not that I will not

542
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 2: get the most value out of. And I really want

543
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 2: it to be a considered decision, not an impulse decision,

544
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:47,479
Speaker 2: so almost take things a little bit slower. Then another

545
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 2: in for me is a reflection. I want to be

546
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 2: open to reflecting on the things I do and the

547
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 2: things I don't do and why and how does that

548
00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 2: make me feel? More often than I have been. And

549
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 2: then that's actually something.

550
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: I got from the do it for your future self

551
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: of course is I thought, I really need to be

552
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: doing this monthly.

553
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 2: Literally, like when I tried to do that audit, I

554
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 2: was it took me hours, I know, because you hadn't

555
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 2: done it in so long, and I just said, every week,

556
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 2: I need to sit down. I need to hire loan

557
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 2: a milestone, no matter how big or small, so that

558
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 2: when I get to the six month mark in the

559
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: year or the year or a year mark and I

560
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 2: redo the do it for your future self. Course, this

561
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 2: needs to be easy for me because there needs to

562
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 2: be something I do often.

563
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 1: That's even like I literally put in a calendar thing

564
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 1: that's like the first on every month to do an audit.

565
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: I love that because, let's be honest, I'm not doing

566
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: it weekly, that's true, and I'm going to do it

567
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 1: every month of like look at my buckets and be

568
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 1: like where am I actually like lacking right now and

569
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:51,959
Speaker 1: where do I need to like put more time and

570
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: energy the next month. It's like I lowly important until

571
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 1: it gets like empty and literally broken, because I realize

572
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: a lot last year was like just one or two

573
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 1: buckets feeling broken all the time and really leaking energy,

574
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 1: and then that making me feel like it was like

575
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 1: not like a shit year, but like it was only

576
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 1: one bucket, and if I just like evened the attention,

577
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 1: it would have felt so much less overwhelming.

578
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 2: I love that.

579
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 1: My last in is the five four three two one technique.

580
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 1: What's that?

581
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 2: And that's gonna help me make my word law in

582
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 2: that if I say I'm gonna do something, I just

583
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 2: need to do it straight away. I need to count

584
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: down from five four three two one and then just

585
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 2: do it. Oh's that from Mel Robbins? Yes, so did

586
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 2: you read her book? I haven't, I do need to?

587
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 2: It's it actually popped up on my TikTok feed where

588
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 2: someone explained that by counting down from five, you interrupt

589
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 2: your sort of risk not risk taking, but the bit

590
00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 2: of your brain that questions what you're about to do

591
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 2: or is able to give you excuses. You interrupt that

592
00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,479
Speaker 2: thought pattern and it just gets you ready to do it.

593
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 1: Do I need to do that when my alarm goes off?

594
00:32:58,360 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 2: Yeah?

595
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: Five four three two one and get out of bed. Okay, Yeah,

596
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: I love that.

597
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 2: So that's my last in. My aunt's leaky energy.

598
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 1: Mmm, done with it.

599
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 2: I'm dealing with things in.

600
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 1: The moment, fucking done with it.

601
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 2: I'm dealing with things in the moment, and if I don't,

602
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 2: that's on me. I need a little burning ceremony and

603
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 2: internally close it.

604
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: Up, not letting it fester. Yes, no festering. No festering here.

605
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 2: And then my second one was comparison with your Yes,

606
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 2: I feel like not just with my body, but with

607
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 2: like life stages, especially like now I'm twenty two, twenty three,

608
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 2: everyone's so different, Like people are getting engaged.

609
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: Now I'm old and twenty two.

610
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like some people are getting engaged that I know,

611
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 2: some people are still single, some people are having babies

612
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 2: at twenty two, babies euro Summers. Like everybody's so deep,

613
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 2: so wild, and I need to stop worrying about that

614
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 2: and just really connect with my own path and my

615
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 2: values and not and not let that make me feel

616
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 2: like I'm not doing things right.

617
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 1: Love. Yeah, what others think is also out.

618
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 2: I need to stop worrying about it. I just need

619
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,600
Speaker 2: to do my own thing and not worry about, oh

620
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 2: what will this person think if they see that or

621
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 2: that sort of stuff.

622
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 1: Interesting, it's a big one for me.

623
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 2: And then I've obviously put impulse purchases. They're out, yes,

624
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:30,399
Speaker 2: and binging, binging, is out for me in twenty twenty three,

625
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 2: I want what do you mean by that? Like content?

626
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 2: I don't want to binge watch Netflix. I don't like

627
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:38,839
Speaker 2: if a TV series comes out, I really want to

628
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 2: take my time with it, watch an episode a week

629
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 2: or an episode a day.

630
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: I'm really good at that, I know you are, and

631
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm not. And like, because Tim will literally want to

632
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 1: be in something and I'm like, no, let's say that. Yes,

633
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: and he's like, but why it literally hates me. And

634
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 1: I'm also like, I if I love a show and

635
00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 1: I find it during the week, I will literally not

636
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 1: watch it and wait till the weekend because I like

637
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:03,720
Speaker 1: to save her something.

638
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

639
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 1: So I'm really good at that.

640
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:11,399
Speaker 2: So I want to get better at just because why

641
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 2: the reason I would constantly binge things? And literally at

642
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:16,359
Speaker 2: the end of the year, I was like, I got

643
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 2: nothing left it watch like there's nothing Yeah, And then

644
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 2: I feel that time with stupid fhit And so I

645
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:27,359
Speaker 2: really want to be able to be patient enough and

646
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 2: disciplined enough to know this is not the time for me.

647
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 1: To be what's it called delayed gratification.

648
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:37,320
Speaker 2: Yes, And I think, especially now, we're very much conditioned

649
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 2: to have instant gratification.

650
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: Sorry, just dropped again. Yeah, I'm actually so good at

651
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,919
Speaker 1: delayed gratification, even the way of I've got all these

652
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 1: parcels downstairs of like stuff I bought on Boxing Day,

653
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Speaker 1: and I'm only taking home one parcel and then like

654
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 1: I'll slowly take it home and open it.

655
00:35:56,080 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I want the delayed gratification. God, I

656
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 2: literally could never do that. And that's that's not wild,

657
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:05,720
Speaker 2: that's so good.

658
00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 1: I remember my parents teaching me delayed gratification growing up.

659
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:11,799
Speaker 2: My mom tried, she really tried. It didn't work, And.

660
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 1: Like I remember my parents saying stuff like if my

661
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 1: brothers wanted tattoos, they had to wait like three months

662
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:17,839
Speaker 1: and if then they still wanted it and they could

663
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: get it, and stuff like that, Wow. Or if you

664
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 1: wanted something growing up, I would have to wait a

665
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 1: couple of weeks to see if you still wanted that. Yeah.

666
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my rule for myself this year too. I

667
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 2: need to wait four to eight weeks for anything I

668
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 2: want to buy, unless it's a replacement of something.

669
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 1: What if I've sold out too bad?

670
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 2: So sad? Did I really need it?

671
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: Shocked?

672
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 2: I know?

673
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 1: I love it.

674
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:47,399
Speaker 2: Let's see if that I have wish list already, it's.

675
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Speaker 1: I also I want to make a wish list this year. Yeah,

676
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:51,440
Speaker 1: because I saw everyone had one last year, and when

677
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 1: like when people asked me what my wishes, I had nothing.

678
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: I've bought everything I want or I just like I

679
00:36:57,239 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: want sing and I forget because I didn't put on

680
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 1: the list. Yeah, right, and make a lessens say that's love.

681
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,399
Speaker 1: Those in and outs love this for us.

682
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 2: And then I added snoozing my alarm when you said it,

683
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:09,399
Speaker 2: and I also had mindless scrolling on.

684
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 1: There, so yeah, that's really getting us. I just want

685
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:15,760
Speaker 1: to be purposeful with my time. Yeah. And also sometimes

686
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 1: I think like it's also just a weird concept to

687
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 1: not be present in your life, to watch someone else's life.

688
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:26,799
Speaker 1: That's what my dad always says to me. He's like,

689
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: you're wasting your life watching other people live theirs. That's

690
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 1: oh my god. That gets me all the time. And

691
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 1: I say that to Tim too, and he's always like,

692
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: I'm literally in bed doing nothing, and I might to

693
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 1: share you're literally watching Netflix. Shut the fuck up, all right.

694
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 2: Next question, our next question.

695
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 1: I love this one, so.

696
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Speaker 2: I'd love to get our insight on how a scarcity

697
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Speaker 2: or lack mindset works in terms of money, things and

698
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 2: experiences and feeling like you can't get enough of it,

699
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:16,720
Speaker 2: regardless of earning a what is considered a good income.

700
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Speaker 2: And she's also said she struggles to save and she

701
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 2: used to not quite understand the concept of an abundant

702
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 2: mindset and thought it was just acting like a rich

703
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 2: person and spending.

704
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Speaker 1: All her money. I'd love this so much because I

705
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: can relate. See, I'm like the opposite in the regards

706
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 1: of I used to be such are what's the word

707
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: when you're like really good at saving money? Frugal? Ah,

708
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:46,840
Speaker 1: so frugal and so good at the words living within

709
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 1: your means were like my Bible. Yeah, I was so

710
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 1: good at that and so like frifty. And then once

711
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:57,760
Speaker 1: I found manifesting and abundance, so that worked quite well for.

712
00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:58,800
Speaker 2: Me because.

713
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 1: So that why can well because I was like the opposite.

714
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

715
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 1: But anyway back to the question, so I know I do.

716
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:15,959
Speaker 1: I love this question because like, being abundant is not

717
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: just spending all your money. Yeah, Because if we're going

718
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:23,120
Speaker 1: back to like what we're talking about with integrity, like

719
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 1: I guarantee you that is not in integrity with your

720
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: goals or with you as a person, or what you value.

721
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 1: So I'm guessing and I do kind of know this person,

722
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 1: so I kind of I know exactly what she's talking about.

723
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: And it's being abundant in the way of like, you know,

724
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: being like, oh, well, I've got to act abundance. I'm

725
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 1: gonna go buy that y a cell bag. Where it's

726
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 1: like you might have a wage that can you know,

727
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 1: support that, but do you also have other priorities in

728
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 1: your life like your partner and you wanting to buy

729
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:58,840
Speaker 1: a house, yeah, or like wanting to go overseas on

730
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 1: trip correct. Yeah, And so in those times, I really

731
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:08,359
Speaker 1: really do not believe in being abundant is spending all

732
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Speaker 1: your money, yeah, because that is not abundance. That is

733
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 1: putting yourself in a mode of lack because then once

734
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 1: you spend that money.

735
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 2: You don't have any well correct, thank you pointing that out.

736
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 1: So I want you to start thinking of like you

737
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 1: can still have a budget, be thrifty, be conscious and

738
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: good with your money, but still be abundant because it's

739
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 1: the energy in which you spend and it's the energy

740
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Speaker 1: in which you you know, think and feel about money. Yeah,

741
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 1: that is different. To the actual doing. So the doing

742
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 1: abundant might be spending the money, but the being abundant

743
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: is not spending the money when that is not integral

744
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 1: with who you are and your prodies and your goals.

745
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Speaker 2: I love that.

746
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 1: So I feel like that kind of like explains it

747
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 1: a little bit. And also this energy of I what

748
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 1: does she say, like you can never get enough? What

749
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: reckon she means by that? I too well?

750
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:25,480
Speaker 2: For me, it's almost like no matter how hard you try,

751
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 2: or you're maybe earning a decent wage or like a

752
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 2: good income, it's still not enough for the life you

753
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 2: want kind of thing. Yeah, like not feeling abundant enough,

754
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:39,399
Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, so.

755
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 1: I think you need to shift in regards to living

756
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 1: within your means does not mean you're in a scarcity mindset. Yeah,

757
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 1: Like that does not mean that at all. You can

758
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:54,799
Speaker 1: still live within your means and budget and thrift and

759
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:58,239
Speaker 1: whatnot and still be in an abundant mindset because you've

760
00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:00,799
Speaker 1: also got to be like, you also have to be

761
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 1: conscious about your priorities and if you are saving money

762
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 1: or you yeah, you need to have a certain amount

763
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 1: of money, you're not gonna go then spend it, because

764
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: that is going to put you in a scarcity mindset.

765
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I feel like something that clicked for me with

766
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 2: this is things like, for example, fuel, I would struggle

767
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:25,440
Speaker 2: to fill my tank up when fuel was expensive because

768
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 2: it felt weird, like it felt so expensive to pay

769
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:30,880
Speaker 2: all that money for fuel at once. So I do

770
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 2: like fifty dollars at a time instead of putting one

771
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:35,879
Speaker 2: hundred and fifty dollars and just filling my fuel tank up,

772
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 2: Whereas now I'll just fill my fuel tank up, like

773
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna wait for the price to go down

774
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 2: a couple of cents and things like that, because it

775
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 2: I need fuel to get to work to make money, yes,

776
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:50,240
Speaker 2: and so I'm okay for spending that and it doesn't

777
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 2: feel gross or ichy, and I don't feel bad when

778
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 2: I spend that money, whereas I used to feel bad

779
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 2: when I spent that money and would make myself spend less.

780
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 1: And it's the shift in.

781
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 2: Mindset for me. And also like I feel good when

782
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 2: I find a DIY hack for something. Yeah, so I'll

783
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,319
Speaker 2: do it and I love that, yeah, and it feels right.

784
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: That's even like a tear I was thinking the other

785
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 1: day because I did a big like closet, clean out

786
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,279
Speaker 1: of my closet and also Ivy's closet, and I like

787
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:22,239
Speaker 1: there was a bunch of stuff that I was giving

788
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 1: away to like some girlfriends and like my mom and stuff.

789
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:26,719
Speaker 1: But then there was also a bunch of stuff that

790
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 1: is like I had literally recently bought, especially because Ivy

791
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:33,800
Speaker 1: fucking grows so much, but like I had just bought

792
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 1: and she's worn once or I've just bought, and like

793
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 1: I've worn once, and I was like I should really

794
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 1: put this on deepop yeah. And but then there was

795
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,959
Speaker 1: a part of me who is like, what a waste

796
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,879
Speaker 1: of time and energy And it's not even like you're

797
00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 1: going to get you know, much back or anything like yeah,

798
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 1: but it was like the energy of what's going to

799
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: feel really good for you because this year I do

800
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:02,359
Speaker 1: want to be like way more sustainable and not just

801
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 1: like bye bye bye bye bye.

802
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

803
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: And so I was like, no, it actually feels really

804
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,800
Speaker 1: good to make sure this goes to like a good home.

805
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:12,839
Speaker 2: And to someone who will love it and use it

806
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 2: and who wants it.

807
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: Yes, and it won't feel like just wasted energy.

808
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

809
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 1: And it was like, yeah, it was like this weird

810
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: thing I had to like progress and get into absolutely

811
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:23,840
Speaker 1: love that.

812
00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:25,439
Speaker 2: That was a big thing for me, I think because

813
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,360
Speaker 2: I used to very much think abundance of just spending money.

814
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 1: I think also like people think manifesting, and you know,

815
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 1: an abundant mindset doesn't mesh with a budget. But like

816
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 1: that's not correct because again it's I used to explain

817
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: like you, like you said, if I find a bargain

818
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: somewhere and it's something that I was going to buy

819
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: anyway and I really needed and I loved and I

820
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 1: was gonna buy it anyway, and it's a bargain, I

821
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:59,479
Speaker 1: don't go, oh well, I'm not gonna buy it because

822
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 1: that's like a scarcity mindset. Or I don't buy cheap

823
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 1: things anymore because I'm about quality and abundance. It's like

824
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. That is different compared to buying something

825
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:14,840
Speaker 1: that's cheaper because it's cheaper. Yes, when you like the

826
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 1: full price thing more, yes, yes, that is the difference.

827
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:20,600
Speaker 1: And it took me so long to get on board

828
00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: with that. And that is like that's a similar thing

829
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 1: of don't just spend your money willy nilly, because that's

830
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:29,319
Speaker 1: also not the energy and what you want to spend

831
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,560
Speaker 1: things you want to spend your money because you need,

832
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 1: you love, you want, not just an impulse buy or

833
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 1: because you think you know this thing will make you

834
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:42,320
Speaker 1: feel a certain way. That's like different energies.

835
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I've now noticed in myself that I feel

836
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 2: so much better when I really think about something and

837
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:54,880
Speaker 2: maybe even don't buy something than if I bought it,

838
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 2: Like I feel better inside when I don't buy it

839
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:58,879
Speaker 2: because I'm like, you know what, I actually didn't need that,

840
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 2: Like I just wanted to spend money to spend money.

841
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 1: I love that so much. Confessions of a chopperholic. You

842
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:10,399
Speaker 1: really are, I know, not this year, not this year.

843
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 2: It's the ninth of January.

844
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 1: I've not brought anything but the abundance money. Makeover money,

845
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 1: my book Makeover ebook would be amazing for this person.

846
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 1: And we'll chuck the link in the show notes because

847
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 1: it is so about the energy. And I also think

848
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 1: like it is important to if you do have you know,

849
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 1: certain money goals, or you want to buy a house

850
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 1: or go overseas, like I think it is important to

851
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 1: have a budget, absolutely have certain saving hacks, Like I

852
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 1: don't think that is yet different to like manifesting. It's

853
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: not like, what's that called like conflicting? Yeah at all?

854
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, they work really well together.

855
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 1: It's well about the energy. It's all about the energy.

856
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:03,799
Speaker 2: Lucky. Last question, Hey, Gi, I love some advice on

857
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 2: how to deal with partners or family members that don't

858
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 2: believe in manifesting. I'm currently really trying to start pushing

859
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 2: myself to dream bigger and go for my goals. In

860
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three PS, I did the do It for

861
00:47:15,880 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 2: your Future Self course and loved it. I shared my

862
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:22,760
Speaker 2: goals and things I want to start manifesting with my partner,

863
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 2: but he called me a bit crazy and told me

864
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 2: that it's not really possible. I love him and he's amazing,

865
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 2: but would love some tips on how to get through

866
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:33,319
Speaker 2: things like this, as his opinion obviously means a lot

867
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 2: to me and I'm unsure on what to do. Thank you.

868
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:41,720
Speaker 1: So this is controversial, but I do not tell Tim anything.

869
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm just really no, not anything. But I am so

870
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: specific with telling people what I'm manifesting or my big life,

871
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 1: like I doubt anyone knows in my head, like what

872
00:47:56,880 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 1: is my big big life. I'm just I just refuse

873
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: to tell anyone that I know is going to tarnish

874
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 1: is going to bring me down or not let me

875
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:15,480
Speaker 1: believe in that big life, because honestly, like sixty percent

876
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:19,760
Speaker 1: of what manifesting is is you believing you are worthy

877
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:22,440
Speaker 1: for that thing. Yeah, that's honestly the hard part. And

878
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 1: that's where you know, going through your limiting beliefs and

879
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:28,919
Speaker 1: like doing the inner work and the shadow work comes in.

880
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 1: And that's why I feel like I'd been able to

881
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 1: manifest things quite fast and a certain way is because

882
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:41,440
Speaker 1: I don't tell people, because that just creates another barrier.

883
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 1: Like I'm already trying to convince myself that I deserve

884
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:47,399
Speaker 1: this thing. I don't have to fucking convince someone else

885
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 1: to do it. It's hard work to do that. And so

886
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: it's a little bit different now with Tim because he

887
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,760
Speaker 1: does believe in you know, manifesting and all the tools

888
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 1: that I talk about, and and but that's just because

889
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:05,879
Speaker 1: of how much evidence we have now. And so if

890
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 1: you asked him to believe in manifesting, he's like, of

891
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: course I do, like look at our house and life

892
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:14,760
Speaker 1: and everything. Yeah, Whereas when I just started getting into

893
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:17,920
Speaker 1: you know, a spirit, my spirituality and using these tools

894
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 1: and manifesting, I literally would not tell Tim about my

895
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 1: big life and my big dream because it is it's

896
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: hard to get on the vibration if other people are

897
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 1: pulling you back. So my big thing is like if

898
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 1: you like, can't you know, really convince that person, like

899
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:39,839
Speaker 1: just keep it close to your heart. Yeah, Like I

900
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: just don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's not

901
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 1: being you know, secretive or I just don't think. Yeah,

902
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 1: I just don't think there's anything wrong with it. And

903
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:52,359
Speaker 1: I truly believe also in this saying in the self

904
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:56,880
Speaker 1: development world of like keep your side of the street clean.

905
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 1: I love that quote, and that is just about like

906
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:07,600
Speaker 1: make sure you're in check with your integrity, with your beliefs,

907
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 1: and do like what you're saying you're going to do,

908
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 1: and you know, do your routines and rituals, and do

909
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 1: not be worried about what other people are doing, including

910
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 1: your partner and family. And I know that can be

911
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 1: so hard for people who they you know, they want

912
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: to share and they get excited. This is this always

913
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 1: happens to me. Is like you know, I you know,

914
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:31,960
Speaker 1: I get excited and I feel this and I just

915
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:35,080
Speaker 1: want to you want to tell people, but you have

916
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 1: to be so conscious because a lot of people they

917
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 1: don't like it's not on their heart, so they can't get,

918
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 1: you know, onto your level. So it's going to be

919
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 1: really hard for them to be supportive, especially if they

920
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 1: are someone who you know, has a lot of limiting

921
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 1: beliefs and has a lot of like these negative thought loops.

922
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:59,319
Speaker 1: So my biggest advice is to like just keep it

923
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 1: to yourself, keep your side of the street clean, do

924
00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:07,160
Speaker 1: your work. And what's really beautiful is the people who

925
00:51:07,160 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 1: are meant to be in your life and who will

926
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 1: support you will stay there, and a lot of the

927
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: time they will evolve, which I've spoken a lot about,

928
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 1: you know, tim you know evolving and up leveling and

929
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 1: you know, now believing and manifesting. Yeah, and also I

930
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 1: have a beautiful story of my best friend, Lessinda, who

931
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 1: we met when I was thirteen, And there was definitely

932
00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:34,239
Speaker 1: a period when we were maybe twenty two to like

933
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 1: twenty five or twenty four, like a good couple of

934
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 1: years where I was full into self development and she wasn't,

935
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 1: and we were quite distant, like we were always really

936
00:51:45,680 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: great friends. Yeah, but it's like I just I didn't

937
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 1: talk to her about self development because I knew she

938
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 1: couldn't quite grasp where I was. Yeah, and then she

939
00:51:54,560 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 1: had a really life changing, you know, tragic thing that

940
00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 1: happened that turned her to self development. And then she

941
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: got into self development. And now we're really on the

942
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: same level where we can have these really beautiful conversations

943
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 1: of our big life and I feel like I'm not

944
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:14,919
Speaker 1: worried about her, you know, shitting on it. So yeah,

945
00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 1: I know it's kind of a tough one, but that, Yeah,

946
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:19,359
Speaker 1: that would be my advice. It is.

947
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,960
Speaker 2: I am open about some of my goals because they

948
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 2: are big, but I always have to go back to

949
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 2: the quote of if someone's not laughing at your dreams or.

950
00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 1: Not big enough, I know, but you've got to be theer.

951
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 1: You've got to be the person who's able to deal

952
00:52:36,040 --> 00:52:38,520
Speaker 1: with someone laughing at your dreams. Yea, I am so

953
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 1: not the person if you laugh on my dreams, I

954
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 1: would be quite upset. So I'm just not going to

955
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 1: tell you. Yeah, that's so fair.

956
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:47,280
Speaker 2: I think there are some people that if they laughed,

957
00:52:47,280 --> 00:52:49,840
Speaker 2: I'd be quite affected, but others.

958
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 1: I'm just like something I'm going to that I love it. Yeah,

959
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:56,040
Speaker 1: it depends what sort of person I want.

960
00:52:56,200 --> 00:53:00,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I'm gone prove you wrong. But in saying that,

961
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 2: big big, big goals. And it's different when it's your

962
00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:05,879
Speaker 2: partner or your family telling you that they don't think

963
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:07,720
Speaker 2: you can do it, because obviously that's a lot harder

964
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 2: than just someone else. Yeah, I would, yeah, either keep

965
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:15,400
Speaker 2: it to myself or I feel like, if it's a

966
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:20,480
Speaker 2: heart desire and they're not on board, I just very

967
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:25,640
Speaker 2: nicely tell them that don't don't bring that energy into

968
00:53:25,680 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 2: my zone.

969
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:27,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I.

970
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 2: Don't want to hear your negative thoughts about it. I'm

971
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,319
Speaker 2: gonna go ahead and do this. I now understand that

972
00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:32,840
Speaker 2: that's a bit of a taboo subject for us, and

973
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 2: I won't talk to you about it again.

974
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, I totally agree of if you have

975
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:41,840
Speaker 1: already brought that up with that person and they maybe

976
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,319
Speaker 1: you know, didn't react in the way you wanted to.

977
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:50,799
Speaker 1: Definitely then creating that boundary where you're like, yeah, we're

978
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: not going to talk about this thing because it, you know,

979
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:55,280
Speaker 1: upsets me and brings the vibe down. Yeah, and even

980
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:58,439
Speaker 1: just flagging that because sometimes they might not realize. Yeah,

981
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:00,800
Speaker 1: like if someone says, oh, like you're not going to

982
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:02,720
Speaker 1: be able to do that because of X and X reason,

983
00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:06,839
Speaker 1: and you know that it's coming from a place of goodness.

984
00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: Like when I bought my car, I bought it brand new,

985
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:12,160
Speaker 1: and I did have people close to me tell me, oh,

986
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 1: you don't buy a car brand new.

987
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 2: You don't buy a car brand you're Oh my gosh,

988
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:16,960
Speaker 2: how are you going to get alone? Like you're so

989
00:54:17,080 --> 00:54:19,959
Speaker 2: young and you're applying for it by yourself, and there's

990
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 2: no way the bank's going to approve you for that.

991
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 2: So don't get too disappointed if you can't get it.

992
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:26,080
Speaker 2: And I would just I turned around and it said

993
00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 2: to them, like, I really appreciate where you're coming from,

994
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:31,160
Speaker 2: because I know you're trying to protect me, but I don't.

995
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:34,480
Speaker 2: I don't appreciate being told I can't do something that

996
00:54:34,560 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 2: I want. Yeah, because I'll get it and I did

997
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:41,640
Speaker 2: and I did. So just being able to say that

998
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 2: in that moment, I think is important too, Yeah, because

999
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 2: they might not realize that they're actually affecting you that

1000
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 2: much because you value what they think.

1001
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 1: Self development and having big goals can be lonely. It is.

1002
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:57,680
Speaker 1: And in saying that, though, I think there's a lot

1003
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 1: of great and there's a lot of like something I

1004
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 1: personally like just love is I love, not like not

1005
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:12,800
Speaker 1: telling anyone I'm doing something and then just being like bam,

1006
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 1: so what's that quote? It's like don't tell people, show people. Yeah,

1007
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:20,400
Speaker 1: And so like, you know, if you do have manifesting

1008
00:55:20,440 --> 00:55:23,239
Speaker 1: goals or exciting goals, like just work on them by

1009
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:26,040
Speaker 1: yourself and stay in your own lane and don't be

1010
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 1: you know what. Sometimes like I can't stand people who

1011
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 1: like they talk the talk, but they can't walk the walk.

1012
00:55:33,680 --> 00:55:37,360
Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking of someone very particular right now, and

1013
00:55:37,400 --> 00:55:40,200
Speaker 1: they'll tell you they've got all these big goals and dreams,

1014
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:43,440
Speaker 1: but it's like you've been saying that for years and

1015
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:46,279
Speaker 1: I have not seen anything. And there's just so much

1016
00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:48,719
Speaker 1: grace in because I thought it was me that I

1017
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 1: was like, you haven't known me for you No, there's

1018
00:55:56,040 --> 00:56:01,960
Speaker 1: an insecurity you need to work on that trigger. I

1019
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,160
Speaker 1: just feel like there's so much grace in just like

1020
00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:08,400
Speaker 1: doing the thing and doing it for yourself and quietly,

1021
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:11,759
Speaker 1: not other people. And I feel like sometimes one more

1022
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:15,320
Speaker 1: thing you need to figure out you telling that person,

1023
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 1: You need to figure out you need to figure out

1024
00:56:18,680 --> 00:56:22,359
Speaker 1: you telling that person and them validating you is what

1025
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:26,840
Speaker 1: you're looking for and indeed think why am I needing

1026
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:30,239
Speaker 1: this validation? Like is this? Am I doing this for

1027
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 1: this person to impress them? Yeah, that's also just like

1028
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, obviously it's her partner. So it's like,

1029
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:38,239
Speaker 1: I get what you want to tell you. That's so

1030
00:56:38,280 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: fair enough. But if you are someone who just like

1031
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 1: wants to tell people, I would just be super interested

1032
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:45,200
Speaker 1: to even be like, why do you want to tell

1033
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 1: people something to journal on? Anyway, I think that's all

1034
00:56:48,800 --> 00:56:51,839
Speaker 1: we've got time for today. Yeah, thank you so much

1035
00:56:51,840 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 1: for listening. Guys, it's so good to be back in

1036
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:56,279
Speaker 1: your ears. And yeah, we'll chaut to you later.

1037
00:56:56,600 --> 00:57:00,839
Speaker 2: Bye.

1038
00:57:02,520 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of

1039
00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:09,200
Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer podcast. If you enjoyed it and

1040
00:57:09,320 --> 00:57:13,600
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1041
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1042
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1043
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1044
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