Speaker 1: The Flex and Frooms Daily Podcast.
Speaker 2: Good evening, good morning, and good afternoon, little ones. This
Speaker 2: is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast, and we
Speaker 2: are going to be talking about the alignment test. Have
Speaker 2: you done the alignment test before?
Speaker 1: I ask you?
Speaker 2: Though you cannot reply, if you are a fan of
Speaker 2: a flex, I would say you probably have.
Speaker 1: It's like one of the personality tests. I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm on this boat.
Speaker 3: Lo really, I feel like most of the stuff I
Speaker 3: post online are being humored.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's a shared interest.
Speaker 2: If you share the interest, send some love to my
Speaker 2: girl positive vives only.
Speaker 1: Literally, let's get into it, Flex and Rooms.
Speaker 3: As if there weren't already too many things to worry
Speaker 3: about in this world, you are now going to have
Speaker 3: to be concerned that your robots, your AI, your series Alexas, bixpi's.
Speaker 1: And everything in between.
Speaker 2: Bix p RP not rap now Bixbi's over apparently what
Speaker 2: yeah canceled.
Speaker 3: Well, you're gonna have to be worried that they're going
Speaker 3: to gain some kind of sentience and turn on you
Speaker 3: because they don't want to be, you know, subservient to you.
Speaker 3: Listen to this, A robot has crushed the finger of
Speaker 3: a seven year old opponent during a chess tournament in Russia.
Speaker 3: So if you can imagine there is a small boy
Speaker 3: and he's sitting across a kind of like a robotic
Speaker 3: arm that's playing chess with him. It's very futuristic, but
Speaker 3: nothing too out of this world. It's not the kind
Speaker 3: of robot that has a face. It's not giving like
Speaker 3: x Makina has a face.
Speaker 1: Feels like a person.
Speaker 3: Literally, a robotic arm not the kind of thing that
Speaker 3: you would feel has any kind of emotion, let alone
Speaker 3: the processing skills to feel frustration.
Speaker 1: But what ended up.
Speaker 3: Happening is that they're playing this game and you can
Speaker 3: imagine that maybe the robot is losing, because what it
Speaker 3: does is it grabs the boy's finger midgame and breaks
Speaker 3: it breaks it. Oh, and then you know three or
Speaker 3: four adults rushed to help out, and like this robot
Speaker 3: has a firm grip, is not letting the footage of it.
Speaker 1: No, I'm feeling with links.
Speaker 3: Okay, I saw footage of the adults pulling the boy
Speaker 3: away and you can see the robot holding on. But
Speaker 3: I'm assuming the break the snap. That's just creative interpretation.
Speaker 3: How else do things break you know, then the president
Speaker 3: of this has happened in Moscow, right, by the way,
Speaker 3: the president of the Moscow Moscow, Moscow, Moscow, Moscow for
Speaker 3: tomato Tomato. Yeah, I think it's an American thing. So
Speaker 3: this happened in Moscow. And the president of the Moscow
Speaker 3: Chess Federation said that the robot was rented for the competition,
Speaker 3: so they don't know why it freaked out. He was like, look,
Speaker 3: here are the facts. The robot broke the child's finger. Yeah,
Speaker 3: technically bad. However, it was rented by us and it's
Speaker 3: been used plenty.
Speaker 1: Of times before us.
Speaker 3: This is nothing to do with us, Like we are
Speaker 3: the victims in this situation, like we're so bad, we
Speaker 3: feel bad, but also not our fold. He said, the
Speaker 3: child made a move and after that mood, we need
Speaker 3: to give the robot time to answer. But the boy
Speaker 3: who made his move was hurrying the robot along, like
Speaker 3: wanted to keep the game going, and that's why the
Speaker 3: robot got frustrated. How so was he hurrying the robot well,
Speaker 3: like because you know how when you move a chest piece,
Speaker 3: you the robot made his turn, but hadn't like placed
Speaker 3: the piece down, was like still trying to move it
Speaker 3: around the board. It was thinking, I guess, and the
Speaker 3: boy had moved, had picked up his next piece to
Speaker 3: go in anticipation of the robot putting its piece down.
Speaker 1: Robot said no sis, please sorrow and got upset. Oh
Speaker 1: and here's the thing.
Speaker 3: You know, if this was if this was two kids playing,
Speaker 3: you'd be like, whoa bo chill. You know, you can't
Speaker 3: just break someone's finger when they're upset. But then if
Speaker 3: two seven year olds are playing, you could assume that, like,
Speaker 3: they're not smart enough to know any better. This thing
Speaker 3: has been programmed to be better, to do better, to
Speaker 3: act better, and this is my frustration. And it broke
Speaker 3: a finger. Oh what would it have done if another
Speaker 3: limb was closer?
Speaker 1: Crush the neck?
Speaker 2: And after all of this, I can't even blame the robot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh that's really scary.
Speaker 2: I mean, if your predictions are correct, something that you
Speaker 2: did say a few weeks ago was that when the
Speaker 2: robots gained sentience, you've been really nice to them, so
Speaker 2: therefore they're not going to hurt you. But you spreading
Speaker 2: these rumors and not rumors, this allegedly creating an environment
Speaker 2: where the robots can arrive knowing that the message has
Speaker 2: been spread adequately.
Speaker 1: Interesting.
Speaker 2: I think what you've done is quite slanderous, and if
Speaker 2: I were a robot, I'd be coming for you first.
Speaker 1: And this is why you're not bad, because robots are
Speaker 1: better than humans. They know better. I see what you're doing.
Speaker 1: Did that whole.
Speaker 2: One thing that robots don't currently have, I believe are
Speaker 2: morals and personalities, But.
Speaker 1: They get in there.
Speaker 2: We do, though, we that is the fact that we
Speaker 2: have them here on earth us humans.
Speaker 1: Is that a fact? I feel like it's debatable.
Speaker 2: I'm not prepared for this day.
Speaker 1: Flex and frooms.
Speaker 3: A few months ago, when we started this show, I'm
Speaker 3: sure the general perception is that we are two brain
Speaker 3: cells of one brain, very similar in esthetic, in interest,
Speaker 3: in likes, in needs, and strength.
Speaker 1: And with every episode we realize that is.
Speaker 3: Like half of the truth and the other half we
Speaker 3: are still uncovering. And so last week I was like,
Speaker 3: we need to do a personality test, but not like
Speaker 3: the fifty six, one hundred and twenty five question one,
Speaker 3: because I would never make you do that.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I would that was when you were oh no,
Speaker 1: and I would. I would love to do that.
Speaker 3: I know I would never make you do that, but
Speaker 3: I wanted to give you one that be easy and fun,
Speaker 3: and it's actually from Dungeons and Dragons, which is like
Speaker 3: this fantasy tabletop role playing game historically for nerds, but
Speaker 3: very cool. And as you're playing the game, you're meant
Speaker 3: to have a character, and in order to figure out,
Speaker 3: you know, how your character progresses in the game, you
Speaker 3: need to figure out what its personality is and what
Speaker 3: its morals are. And once you assess those personalities and
Speaker 3: those morals, you can make decisions on behalf of that character.
Speaker 3: Hence this test, and they call it the alignment test,
Speaker 3: and there are nine different alignments you can be and
Speaker 3: they exist in a bit of a spectrum, so you
Speaker 3: can either be a good evil or neutral or chaotic,
Speaker 3: lawful or evil, and then you like merge them all together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I got you to do the test. How'd
Speaker 1: you find it? Very funny?
Speaker 2: It very much gave me Dungeons and Dragons vibe. Because
Speaker 2: the website is two thousand and three style looks like
Speaker 2: better runs like RuneScape, yellow.
Speaker 3: Background, black Time's new Roman font noesthetic.
Speaker 2: Basically, it's probably like twenty questions, thirty six thirty six questions,
Speaker 2: Thank you quane. I'm all multiple choice answers, and the
Speaker 2: kind of terminology and words really tickled my fancy because
Speaker 2: they're kind of like, ah, would you what would be?
Speaker 3: I can read one out, thank you. It's very year old, okay.
Speaker 3: So an example of a question is if your family
Speaker 3: had arranged your marriage to someone loathsome would you go
Speaker 3: through with it proud to serve your family, agree, hiding
Speaker 3: your reluctance, or subtly work against the union or flee?
Speaker 3: Another example is your community is threatened with invasion. Do
Speaker 3: you help defend it to your last breath, defend the
Speaker 3: area with the rest of your community, flee as soon
Speaker 3: as things look grim, or cut a deal with the
Speaker 3: enemy to act as a spy. So none of this
Speaker 3: is really rooted in reality, so it can require a
Speaker 3: bit of creativity to think about what you would do
Speaker 3: or tie it into your reality.
Speaker 2: But what was your result? My result was neutral, good PERR.
Speaker 1: Does that mean anything to you?
Speaker 2: I feel I've actually done this test months ago and
Speaker 2: it was more chaotic like I think in the past.
Speaker 2: I got what's the So you can be good, evil
Speaker 2: or lawful? You can be good, neutral or evil yep,
Speaker 2: and lawful chaotic or true like in the middle.
Speaker 1: Right, So what's neutral good sat in the middle.
Speaker 3: Well, we're going to talk about so neutral good is
Speaker 3: not in the middle like you are you skewed to
Speaker 3: the side of good and in contrast, I got are
Speaker 3: you ready?
Speaker 1: I can't hear you? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yes, I got
Speaker 1: chaotic neutral.
Speaker 3: So you if neutral is right in the center, you're
Speaker 3: neutral good. So like you're most likely to do good
Speaker 3: things or neutral things. I'm neutral good or bad depending
Speaker 3: on my mind, which I think does paint a very
Speaker 3: clear picture definitely to me. Anyway, let me just give
Speaker 3: you a one line on what each of them is
Speaker 3: and then we can go into the podcast and like
Speaker 3: do a full analysis. Sure right, sure, So a neutral
Speaker 3: good character does the best that a good person can do.
Speaker 3: They are devoted to helping others, and they work with
Speaker 3: kings and magistrates, but does not feel beholden to them
Speaker 3: snitch snitch. Neutral good is the best alignment you can
Speaker 3: be because it means doing what is good without bias
Speaker 3: for or against order, and neutral good can be a
Speaker 3: dangerous alignment when it advances mediocrity by limiting the actions
Speaker 3: of the truly capable.
Speaker 1: That was a rose both that was a rose leadership abilities.
Speaker 3: And then really quickly for chaotic neutral. A chaotic neutral
Speaker 3: character follows his whims. What if I'm a shee babe?
Speaker 3: She is an individualist first and last. She values her
Speaker 3: own liberty but doesn't strive to protect others' freedoms. Chatok
Speaker 3: neutral is the best alignment you can be because it
Speaker 3: represents true freedom from both societies restrictions and a do
Speaker 3: good as zeal But katok neutral can also be a
Speaker 3: dangerous alignment when it seeks to eliminate all authority, harmony,
Speaker 3: and order in society. Like for vibes, why have good
Speaker 3: or bad when you can just do? Don't come near
Speaker 3: me when the apocalypse hits. I might be like, hey,
Speaker 3: let's go to the Supermarke together to find medicine and
Speaker 3: then we get it.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, okay, smiling, that's the bait and switch.
Speaker 2: I definitely see that for you. I think that's a
Speaker 2: great summation, and I think the wording and the style
Speaker 2: of these tests really suit you. Yeah, you do have
Speaker 2: aldi worldy charm in some ways.
Speaker 1: Okay, you have said that before.
Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, sometimes you hit me with words.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, that.
Speaker 3: One was from the eighteenth century. Loathsome is a good word.
Speaker 3: I really like personality tests, but the first difficulty with
Speaker 3: getting into them is that you have to be really
Speaker 3: good at self assessing in a way that's like what
Speaker 3: would I do now versus what would I do in
Speaker 3: the future versus how would somebody else perceive me? And
Speaker 3: that can be really complicated, especially if the questions aren't straightforward,
Speaker 3: like I don't know what I would do if I
Speaker 3: was put in an arranged marriage because that wouldn't happen,
Speaker 3: into how do you think creatively enough to be like
Speaker 3: this is what I would do?
Speaker 1: See.
Speaker 2: I find that easier, and I think that gives a
Speaker 2: better picture of someone regardless of their personal insight, because
Speaker 2: if you were to give them like a real routine,
Speaker 2: everyday life scenario, you know the appropriate way to react.
Speaker 2: So therefore they would just pretend to be It's like
Speaker 2: we've had this discussion.
Speaker 1: People that say that they're good. Yeah, anyone I know
Speaker 1: who says they're.
Speaker 2: Good are assholes speaking from the nutrients.
Speaker 1: Girls, some of us assess that way.
Speaker 2: But that's why I don't really I don't really resonate
Speaker 2: with my personality. I came across necessarily. I don't like good.
Speaker 1: What would you prefer?
Speaker 2: I like the idea that it's neutral to authority, like
Speaker 2: I'm not for or against necessarily the police or any
Speaker 2: other kind of like governing body, but I still respect
Speaker 2: them when respect is due.
Speaker 3: Every time you say the police, I think about when
Speaker 3: you were explaining to me how you shouldn't call triple
Speaker 3: zero but just go to your local police station.
Speaker 1: You can google their number. I was like, what, it
Speaker 1: isn't just one number? I stand by it.
Speaker 3: Perhaps you're more of a true neutral then yeah, I'll
Speaker 3: let you know what that is, LEU. I'm gonna read
Speaker 3: out true neutral, and you let me know if that
Speaker 3: resonates with you.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: A true neutral character does what seems to be a
Speaker 3: good idea. She doesn't feel strongly one way or the
Speaker 3: other when it comes to good versus evil, or law
Speaker 3: versus chaos. Most neutral characters exhibit a lack of conviction
Speaker 3: or bias. Rather than a commitment to neutrality. Such a
Speaker 3: character thinks of good as better than evil. After all,
Speaker 3: she would rather have good neighbors and rulers than evil ones. Still,
Speaker 3: she's not personally committed to upholding good in any abstract
Speaker 3: or universal way. Neutral is the best alignment you can
Speaker 3: be because it means you act naturally without prejudice or compulsion.
Speaker 3: But neutral can also be a dangerous alignment when it
Speaker 3: represents apathy, indifference, and.
Speaker 1: A lack of conviction. Yeah, that's a bit, that's a
Speaker 1: bit of me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, the way I read like that's got something
Speaker 2: to do with not really having any faith. Think, if
Speaker 2: you don't have much faith or religion in your life,
Speaker 2: it's really easy to be neutral and like wishy washy
Speaker 2: because you don't have like rules or values that have
Speaker 2: been preset for yourself. So of course you're one to question,
Speaker 2: oh is this the right thing to do? I don't know,
Speaker 2: don't have someone to tell me. WHOA Have you always
Speaker 2: been chaotic neutral?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: I wasn't chaotic neutral when I was younger because I
Speaker 3: was really told to follow the rules because Mum was like,
Speaker 3: the world is a dangerous place to throw a girl
Speaker 3: like yeah, so, like I feel like in instilling discipline,
Speaker 3: she also instilled a kind of not fear, but a
Speaker 3: very a very picture of the reality. She's like, I
Speaker 3: don't care about your individual approach. This is how you
Speaker 3: would be perceived in the context of the way the
Speaker 3: world is.
Speaker 1: Now, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: The older I get and I'm able to like shirk
Speaker 3: some of the norms that would have been impacting me
Speaker 3: when I was younger. I can be more chaotic because
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, they matter, but like my life proves
Speaker 3: that it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: I can just do whatever.
Speaker 2: Would the example be your tattoos, Yeah, that's a good example.
Speaker 3: So my mum when I was younger, she's like, you
Speaker 3: absolutely cannot get tattoos because look at the way the
Speaker 3: world responds to tattooed people.
Speaker 1: It's not overwhelmingly good.
Speaker 3: And I'm not gonna let like you are naive to
Speaker 3: think that your individual personality is going to trump the
Speaker 3: public perception of a tattoo, right, She's like, you're not like,
Speaker 3: She's like, you're special, but be realistic.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Or she would say things like if I like, she
Speaker 3: was really big on like respectability, She's like, when you're
Speaker 3: in your friend circles, you can act however you want
Speaker 3: to act. When you're in public, you've got to be
Speaker 3: really mindful of how it's going to be perceived. And
Speaker 3: then when you're younger, you operate in a way that's
Speaker 3: like the best or like the best for the environment.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, but it doesn't matter because I could
Speaker 3: do that and then stuff doesn't work out anyway.
Speaker 1: Liz Curtious Queen Curtious Queen not true usual, She's like true,
Speaker 1: good daughter. I love this. I love this. This is
Speaker 1: flex and frooms on Kada.
Speaker 3: We are people who are almost constantly having beefs with
Speaker 3: our real estate.
Speaker 1: Literally truly. It's actually quite frustrating.
Speaker 3: So we talked about the fact that I moved into
Speaker 3: a new apartment a couple of months ago maybe, and
Speaker 3: in that time, and mind you, this is a new apartment,
Speaker 3: no one's ever lived in it before. It was recently renovated,
Speaker 3: very bougie. But tell me why in the last three
Speaker 3: months we've got mysterious leaks, faulty plumbing, the don't work
Speaker 3: on the lights, tradesmen walking in unannounced because like the door,
Speaker 3: I turned the door and opened. What is happening While
Speaker 3: I was dealing with those things, I didn't realize that
Speaker 3: I was in the middle of having an interpersonal beef
Speaker 3: with my neighbor. I didn't know that this was news
Speaker 3: to me. So what's happened is we have a shared
Speaker 3: parking garage, and the way the parking garage works is
Speaker 3: you can I can access my apartment from the parking garage,
Speaker 3: but everybody else has to go.
Speaker 1: Into the lobby.
Speaker 3: So when I park my door is like I have
Speaker 3: two options. I can park one way and have my
Speaker 3: the wall be right next to my driver's side, or
Speaker 3: a car be next to me on the left hand side.
Speaker 3: So either way, I'm like sandwiched in between, you know,
Speaker 3: a wall and a car. And the person next to
Speaker 3: my neighbor has a tiny little car. I don't know
Speaker 3: the maker models.
Speaker 1: It's a little little rinky dink and twenty.
Speaker 3: No smaller like a smart car Vibe like a tiny
Speaker 3: little rinkydinkydink. And I'm driving a big boss suv right,
Speaker 3: so I'm gonna eat space. So what I doing is
Speaker 3: parking on the line so I can literally get out
Speaker 3: of my car.
Speaker 1: Big boss car, big boss girl. I gotta get out
Speaker 1: of the car. You know, I can't struggle, And I'm
Speaker 1: thinking they have a small car.
Speaker 3: So if I'm like on the line and I'm teetering,
Speaker 3: you know what to do?
Speaker 1: A big deal? Apparently it is a big deal. Because
Speaker 1: what did I wake up to today? A note on
Speaker 1: the car?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: Nah?
Speaker 1: Is it? Damn?
Speaker 3: It's like that, Sis said, dear car owner. And you
Speaker 3: know the thing that gets me. I tried to be friendly.
Speaker 3: On two occasions we have both been unloading our groceries
Speaker 3: at the same time.
Speaker 1: I looked over.
Speaker 3: Did my friendly neighborly thing? Sis didn't even can acknowledge me?
Speaker 3: I said, not really the demographic of the airport community.
Speaker 3: She pushing sixty. So I'm like, maybe it's just a
Speaker 3: hearing thing. I'll try again second time. Nothing. She doesn't
Speaker 3: see me caro, I said, all good, So I'm assuming
Speaker 3: those two those siscenarios we don't really vibe. Now she's
Speaker 3: leaving notes to car owner. Since we could have exchanged names,
Speaker 3: I could have explained to you my situation.
Speaker 2: What else did I say, dear car owner?
Speaker 1: Please refrain from parking your car over the line.
Speaker 3: As you know, the lines are there to indicate where
Speaker 3: we should park in between.
Speaker 1: Okay, service southwhere else? Oka?
Speaker 3: She's giving roads in maritime Okay, fine, I understand then,
Speaker 3: and let me paint a picture. It's a handwritten note,
Speaker 3: beautiful cursive blind paper, A five can, she says, if
Speaker 3: in future you could remember to park in between the lines,
Speaker 3: that would be great. Okay, no thank you, no sign off,
Speaker 3: no kind regards. We remain in this neutral state of
Speaker 3: being car owner to car owner, neighbor to neighbor. So
Speaker 3: here I am in my hard hearts. I don't want
Speaker 3: to beef with my neighbors. Right like sis, I'm already
Speaker 3: having issues with the realtor.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to be collateral. But also I.
Speaker 3: Will not change. I'm not gonna scrape my car door
Speaker 3: just to get out when she could move over. Her
Speaker 3: car is tiny. There's literally thirty five centimeters, not even
Speaker 3: what's thirty that's thirty five. There's like forty centimeters fifty
Speaker 3: centimeters either side of her car. If I'm on the
Speaker 3: line and you've got fifty centimeters on the other side, babes, you.
Speaker 1: Know what to do. Now I'm on her side. This
Speaker 1: is my chaotic future coming out cauld.
Speaker 3: I get what she's saying, but unfortunately I will not suffer.
Speaker 2: See, I think she's she's given you like quite a
Speaker 2: terse or like not a very friendly approach, because I
Speaker 2: think people would think you're being aggressive in taking up
Speaker 2: bad space. Sofore, she's trying to match the energy in
Speaker 2: a written form. But you you're explaining it, it does
Speaker 2: sound like it's fair enough. Maybe are you gonna go
Speaker 2: back and say, oh, I did this because.
Speaker 3: You're gonna write a handwritten letter with a little snacky
Speaker 3: little chocolate or something. Yeah, because like my approach to
Speaker 3: Stepford Housewife's gotta feel with kindness.
Speaker 2: Yes see, I'm more beefing over the neighbor a current
Speaker 2: affair style savagery that sending savage text messages.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I'm not going to accriminate myself. I can if
Speaker 1: you post it.
Speaker 3: I definitely feel like I want to put it in
Speaker 3: the budge. I don't want to have beef with her.
Speaker 3: I feel like if she knew my situation, I said, babe,
Speaker 3: look at the size of me and the gap you
Speaker 3: want going to work with.
Speaker 1: I can't do it. I can't harrowing. This is flex
Speaker 1: and frooms on Kita. We have a crisis.
Speaker 2: There's always some sort of crisis going down in the studio.
Speaker 2: This one is courtesy of a woman called lies on
Speaker 2: Instagram full Instagram.
Speaker 1: And Instagram name.
Speaker 2: She didn't say like keep it on on, so therefore
Speaker 2: I give it. Yeah, you know it's a free pass
Speaker 2: to her ham. Absolutely, we'll keep it lies, she wrote.
Speaker 2: My boyfriend and I have been together for about one
Speaker 2: and a half years now. Over the past few years,
Speaker 2: I've gotten really into podcasts, and we'll listen to something
Speaker 2: most days. My boyfriend, on the other hand, thinks they're
Speaker 2: annoying and cringe and just a way to fill the silence. Savage,
Speaker 2: because I'm always listening and laughing to pods, particularly you
Speaker 2: two gems Sparkly Heart, Sparkly Heart. I've got a lot
Speaker 2: of things and funny stories that I want to share
Speaker 2: with my boyfriend, But the second I mentioned the word podcast,
Speaker 2: he scoffs and refuses to listen any further.
Speaker 1: He literally blocks his ear.
Speaker 2: Am I the asshole for getting mad at him when
Speaker 2: he doesn't listen to any of my podcast recommendations or
Speaker 2: even let me tell him about something funny I've been
Speaker 2: listening to. Should I stop trying to make him be
Speaker 2: interested in the things I'm interested in? Or should he
Speaker 2: give my recommendations a goddamn chance and at least pretend
Speaker 2: to care about the things I want to share with
Speaker 2: him instead of sticking his fingers in his ears like
Speaker 2: a frickin' baby.
Speaker 1: That's hectic.
Speaker 2: I understand that this is probably just sounds like a
Speaker 2: rant ha ha ha, because it is, but any feedback
Speaker 2: would be much. I appreciate it. Thank you lies first
Speaker 2: and foremost haha ha.
Speaker 1: Gets me too, ha ha ha.
Speaker 3: That is a lot, and the cogs are turning. But
Speaker 3: let's give it a second when we come back from
Speaker 3: the break though, I want to figure out if there's
Speaker 3: an equivalent where or like an alternate world. But I
Speaker 3: would agree with the boyfriend, like, what's one thing I
Speaker 3: just don't want to hear about? And if someone starts talking,
Speaker 3: I'm like, not humoring this, not interested, not fun for me.
Speaker 2: He puts his fingers in his ears and goes la
Speaker 2: la la la la like a baby whenever she tries
Speaker 2: to talk about the chosen podcast that she listens to.
Speaker 2: Do you think she's the asshole for thinking that he
Speaker 2: is acting like a freakin' baby?
Speaker 1: Her words?
Speaker 3: No, definitely not the asshole for thinking that her boyfriend
Speaker 3: is acting like a baby. But I also think that
Speaker 3: if he's showing you this much disinterest, don't share sacred
Speaker 3: things with him, Like I feel like you're your interest
Speaker 3: in podcasting and the humor and the enjoyment you get,
Speaker 3: you should hold that more sacredly, like stop trying to
Speaker 3: share it with someone who's going to demean it. It's
Speaker 3: not working, Like, I don't think this is about changing
Speaker 3: his mind or trying to make him like podcasts. Generally,
Speaker 3: you really enjoy this thing, like it makes you laugh,
Speaker 3: it makes you happy. If he doesn't get it, I
Speaker 3: would hate for your loves for podcast to dissolve in
Speaker 3: trying to convince him to see what you see. And
Speaker 3: some things can't be explained, like the more you try
Speaker 3: and rationalize, like what should be easily understood from your perspective,
Speaker 3: like it's.
Speaker 1: Funny, and like they make jokes, like you can't explain that.
Speaker 1: It's like trying to explain a joke.
Speaker 3: It's like by the time you get to the point
Speaker 3: of being like and this is why it's funny, now.
Speaker 1: You hate the joke. A haha, Yeah, I reckon. I
Speaker 1: have a tip for her.
Speaker 2: I think you should have a brainstorm and think about
Speaker 2: things that he talks about that you don't like. H oh,
Speaker 2: and then therefore think about how you react. And I
Speaker 2: think what you'll find. Let's take the example he loves
Speaker 2: talking about AFL, but you are from Sydney and you
Speaker 2: don't give a rest ass about AFL. Hell, you might
Speaker 2: have be from Melbourne, do you Sidney people don't not
Speaker 2: like AFL. Oh, it's just a different cultural thing in
Speaker 2: Melbourne got supposedly despite the fact I don't really partake
Speaker 2: in it.
Speaker 1: Let's say you're not at.
Speaker 2: All interested in football, but he talks about it. He's
Speaker 2: got the scores, he's on his little bedding apps, et cetera.
Speaker 2: He starts talking about it, and you're like, shut up.
Speaker 2: Think about how that makes you feel. Think about the
Speaker 2: fact that, like you don't you're not angry at him
Speaker 2: when he does it, You're just not interested. Because I
Speaker 2: think sometimes it can be personally offensive, especially things that
Speaker 2: you enjoy and think are funny when other people don't
Speaker 2: find them funny. You can kind of be like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, are we totally not compatible. Consume is such
Speaker 2: a specific thing.
Speaker 3: So what you're saying it's less about him not liking
Speaker 3: your podcast and more about he might not be generally interested.
Speaker 3: So you're asking for that to self reflect and say, well,
Speaker 3: maybe like you would behave this way too if he
Speaker 3: was trying to get you to care about something that
Speaker 3: you just don't care about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, God, and that will alleviate any feelings because well,
Speaker 2: so you feel like sometimes you want show someone something
Speaker 2: and then they don't want to look at it, and
Speaker 2: you feel really offended.
Speaker 1: I've had that before.
Speaker 2: Don't want to show someone a YouTube video and they
Speaker 2: don't give a damn Yeah we ask, yeah it is YouTube, Yeah,
Speaker 2: far out And someone's like, let me show this video
Speaker 2: four minutes long, put me in a hole and given
Speaker 2: a little.
Speaker 3: One minute TikTok. I'm like, be for real, I man
Speaker 3: need the summary with the link, like I this is
Speaker 3: a petition. Don't stand raw links. I don't want to
Speaker 3: see a link without a context. I want to be
Speaker 3: like this is really funny, or like they made a
Speaker 3: really great point, Because.
Speaker 1: Then you send a link.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to deduce what the point was, and I've
Speaker 3: thought about it for too long. In this instance, you
Speaker 3: were allowed to be upset. Do you know what I
Speaker 3: want to recommend? Join a podcast group, join a group
Speaker 3: of people who share the same interests, or talk with
Speaker 3: people who share the same interests unless go one of
Speaker 3: those people.
Speaker 1: Is this anymore? Ah? A lot?
Speaker 3: Don't but like there are comments and Twitter threads and
Speaker 3: places where you can share these mutual things, unless you
Speaker 3: might be one of those people who don't have friends,
Speaker 3: and so the option is like this person who you.
Speaker 2: Date tricky, Well, hope you get better, but like good tricky,
Speaker 2: not bad tricky.
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