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Speaker 1: This is a podcast about failure.

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Speaker 2: With me Lola Berry, author, nutritionist, and yoga teacher, join

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Speaker 2: me as we get to know these guests and learn

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Speaker 2: about how their failures have ultimately shaped their dreams. Welcome

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Speaker 2: to Fearlessly Failing with Lola Berry.

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Speaker 1: Yaday, it's Lola here. Can you believe it?

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Speaker 2: We are up to the final episode of season four.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for your continued support. You are

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Speaker 2: the reason this podcast exists. So from the bottom of

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Speaker 2: my heart, thank you so so so much. This final

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Speaker 2: episode is with me and Boss Rooney aka Matt Sofo.

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Speaker 1: He is wonderful.

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Speaker 2: He's also my boyfriend, which you probably know by this

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Speaker 2: stage of the game. We basically always at the end

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Speaker 2: of each season do a season roundup, and on top

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Speaker 2: of this, we've done a Q and A as well,

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Speaker 2: so hopefully you get to know us a little bit better.

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Speaker 2: And big love from us at Fearlessly Failing Podcast. Thank

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Speaker 2: you so much for tuning in. We are already pumped

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Speaker 2: for season five. Big love, we live Yalloha. Hello, Welcome

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Speaker 2: to the pod. Basso aka Matt Sofo, Music producer extraordinaire. Oh,

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Speaker 2: thank you, thank you for doing We always do a

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Speaker 2: round up together, don't we yees?

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Speaker 3: Season round up?

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Speaker 1: So this is season four roundup.

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Speaker 3: Well it's gone fast, hasn't it?

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Speaker 1: Oh big time? But we're actually going to turn this

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Speaker 1: into a bit of a Q and A because I

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Speaker 1: did a little call that on insta earlier this morns.

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Speaker 1: So we do a quick round up and then I

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Speaker 1: think we should We've got so many Q and as

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Speaker 1: we should just dive on in.

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Speaker 2: Right, Okay, I'm in the zone, aren't We're in the

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Speaker 2: zone today. Two coffees down to Lolocoto.

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Speaker 3: Here you go.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so this is do you remember who? Season four

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Speaker 2: started with No Finchy amazing Rachel Finch's been snacking on

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Speaker 2: her new Collagen bars, haven't we Collagen?

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Speaker 1: Then it went to Max May legend absolutely and I

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Speaker 1: got a bit star struck with him, did I did?

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Speaker 4: I remember that day? And you were like a little

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Speaker 2: I love one to agency girls, Awesome, amazing girls, legends,

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Speaker 2: self made Albi Gilmore.

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Speaker 3: She's really cool.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, super inspiring for Mama bears out there as well.

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Speaker 1: I reckon. She's just had her twenty seventh birthday, big girl,

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Speaker 1: Happy birthday. For a couple of days ago, yep.

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Speaker 2: Our mate Billy Bizz Billy Bizz ceo of skip Appa Legend,

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Speaker 2: Absolute legend, Olivia Molly Rodgers.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she's really cool as well. Speech speech not pathologists.

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Speaker 1: Pathologists the right word.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's right. An artist yep.

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Speaker 2: We had Jennifer Fontaine Part one and two, so we

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Speaker 2: So I do worge you to go back and listen

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Speaker 2: to that if you want to really learn about what

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Speaker 1: Ye, Bonnie Anderson Bonnie.

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Speaker 2: And then we had Ian Sinclair yep, one of my

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Speaker 3: I feel like you were the most excited about that episode.

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Speaker 2: Well, I was starstruck once again and was like talking

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Speaker 1: So if you go back and listen to Ian Sincler.

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Speaker 2: He'll tell you the story and it's literally the exact

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Speaker 2: same story as Harry Potter and Star Wars spoil or Alert.

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Speaker 2: But you can apply that to nearly any movie, like

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Speaker 1: You can read the play very easily.

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Speaker 3: Now, yeah, once you understand it, and so I.

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Speaker 2: Would highly recommend listening to it. And he's got a

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Speaker 2: Frank Bard will On Blake Framing Cremone or Cramon Cromon,

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Speaker 1: Holy man I know. And how have you been, Sexy Legs.

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Speaker 3: I've been good.

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Speaker 1: You're just working away.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I've I've been loving this isolation. Talk key life.

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Speaker 1: You're designed for it, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Boss, we have had a look at this. I'm

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Speaker 3: What was your favorite episode this season?

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Speaker 2: I mean in Sinclair because I'm so deep diving with

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Speaker 1: Been studying my bum off. Have an eboss you have

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Speaker 1: every day? Yeah, I've been trying to do a Southern

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Speaker 2: I've been studying, you've been running the entire Lolla coffee company.

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Speaker 2: Plus you've been producing all your music. Plus I get

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Speaker 3: Install full time job. You are.

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Speaker 1: I love you, though, and I'm very lucky. I know

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Speaker 1: we're nearly two years together, you and me.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy. I know it doesn't feel like it.

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Speaker 2: I do hope the lockdown lifts a pinch so we

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Speaker 3: It will, and we can.

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Speaker 1: Go to our faith. Gaya. Okay, So I'm just going

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Speaker 1: to start. I'm going to read these questions in chronological,

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Speaker 1: chronological the order in which they came in. Okay, So

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Speaker 1: the first one was Hi, smiley face, square box mooding, Hello,

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Speaker 2: I think that was her at tag. Okay, so this

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Speaker 2: one is from Foxtar. What books are you both reading?

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Speaker 1: You've been working so much. I'm reading. So I try

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Speaker 2: So last week's play was Sweetbird of Youth by Tannsey Williams.

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Speaker 2: called The Zen Art of Archery, and it's a philosophy

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Speaker 4: What are our common goals? I suppose like our business

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Speaker 2: I think we've got a very nice sense of believing

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we say yeah, yeah. I think our long term goal, though,

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Speaker 4: is just to be successful and be happy.

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Speaker 2: And I think our version of success not necessarily society's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, of course, it's going to be completely different because.

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Speaker 1: We're both artists and being creatives.

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Speaker 2: I think that success is not necessarily a check or

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Speaker 4: Look, I think that in general, I don't want, like

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Speaker 4: Like for I don't know, cousins, Yeah, cousins, I don't know. Well,

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 2: So what I'm getting at is you're from a big family.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so we've both kind of said let's have this

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Speaker 4: Yea, To me, I don't understand what, like say, another

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Speaker 3: Yea, yeah, I find yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 1: How do you sorry? I'm shaking the table and bosses,

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Speaker 1: I'm geting to be passionate, aren't I?

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Speaker 3: Boss?

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Speaker 2: But like, what if we couldn't That'd be hugely triggering

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I just think, like March, anyone that's listening

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Speaker 2: Like even you and me we met two years ago, Boss,

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Speaker 2: Point of it is, don't write harsh things to other

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Speaker 1: Yeah, big time. Next question, what is your daily routine?

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Speaker 3: How's it?

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Speaker 3: Very very different? Do you want to go? First? You go?

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Speaker 3: Well, you wake up earlier than I do, so.

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Speaker 4: Mine is I First of all, I'll get woken up

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Speaker 3: You get up? No?

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Speaker 1: What do I do before I get out of bed?

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Speaker 3: Give me a little snuggle, a little kiss, Suck.

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Speaker 2: You in, make sure you're warm because it's winter time,

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Speaker 4: And then you then you leave, and then I usually

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Speaker 1: We try to get a walk in.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I've been bike riding, bike riding, so yeah, you

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Speaker 4: want to explain why so a little old lady decided

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Speaker 1: Yes, so we are where both cars at the moment.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, written off, so it was Look luckily it happened

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Speaker 4: You weren't, and where it kind of happened was on

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Speaker 4: So, but I have been bike riding, which is which

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Speaker 2: But you've taken the basket off this beautiful cruiser of mine.

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Speaker 3: Honestly.

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Speaker 4: So every day I ride down the esplanade in Talquie

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Speaker 4: because I'm riding a girl's bike. Do you get away

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Speaker 1: You do look pretty cute on that bike.

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 2: Oh, daily routine, okay, And we also try to do

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we go for walks. Other than that.

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Speaker 4: Literally, I sit on the kitchen table, which is my well,

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Speaker 4: my work's my workstation. And you've built a studio, yeah,

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, my daily routine.

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Speaker 2: So I usually you said that my body naturally wakes

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Speaker 2: up at about six thirty. Yeah, but I probably don't

443
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Speaker 2: get up till seven seven thirty, depending on what's on.

444
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 2: If I've got there's one acting class that we do

445
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,840
Speaker 2: that starts at eight am, and it's teachers in LA

446
00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:32,399
Speaker 2: and can I say the teacher's boss. Yeah, So we

447
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:35,240
Speaker 2: at eight am we do a class with Cody ferm

448
00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,800
Speaker 2: We do script analysis, who's an amazing actor. If you

449
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:40,560
Speaker 2: haven't seen the assassination of Jianni Vasaci, do his other

450
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:42,680
Speaker 2: favorite and he's in an American horror story too, right,

451
00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:47,040
Speaker 2: And because in his class we have to have a

452
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Speaker 2: Southern accent because we're studying Tennessee Williams. I'll get up

453
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:52,760
Speaker 2: like at six point thirty and start my boat warm up.

454
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Speaker 1: So I'm quite a nerd, onn't I not?

455
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Speaker 3: Yeah?

456
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And then there's a little break and then we

457
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Speaker 2: go straight into the afternoon classes with one will teach

458
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Speaker 2: from our a call Jackie Diamond. And so Saturdays, I'll

459
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Speaker 2: get up at about six thirty. Sundays, I usually teach

460
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Speaker 2: yoga by seven forty five, so I'm kind of up

461
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:12,480
Speaker 2: by seven thirty seven, seven thirty, So I generally, I

462
00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 2: would say, on the average, wake up between seven and

463
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Speaker 2: seven thirty. If I'm kind of like snuggling in bed,

464
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Speaker 2: I'll wake I get up. I have coffee straight away.

465
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Speaker 2: I skull like, what's that water? Six hundred meal?

466
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Speaker 1: Yeah, seven hundred milk water. I skull that.

467
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Speaker 2: That's my non negotiable, the way you are with meditation.

468
00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 2: I'm like, I've got to have a big hunk of

469
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Speaker 2: water before anything else. And then I'll drink Lolla coffee

470
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Speaker 2: or I also love French press. I've got a French

471
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 2: press that i'll black coffee. I usually that start me

472
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Speaker 2: down and then I've got to move, so beach, walk, jog,

473
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Speaker 2: whatever it is.

474
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Speaker 1: I like to move in the morning. I'm a real

475
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Speaker 1: morning person.

476
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Speaker 2: And then usually when I come back from that run

477
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Speaker 2: or walk, I usually will come and wake you up.

478
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Speaker 3: Is that true?

479
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Speaker 1: Yes, I'll be like boss and sometimes it's meditating.

480
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:02,960
Speaker 2: I'll be like yeah, meta, which ruins my zen.

481
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:03,720
Speaker 3: Yeah.

482
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 2: So I try to like catch myself because I'm so caffeinated.

483
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 2: I'm right really excited to talk to him, and I'll

484
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:11,400
Speaker 2: have ideas at that stage of the morning. And then

485
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Speaker 2: for me at the moment, I'm intimittent fasting, so I

486
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 2: usually don't break that fast until midday. Sometimes I do,

487
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Speaker 2: though I don't intermitt and.

488
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Speaker 1: Fast every day. I'll probably do it. What would you say,

489
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 1: four days a week, four days a week.

490
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Speaker 3: I think it's good to cycle that stuff, isn't it.

491
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I didn't intimate faster to day. He made

492
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 2: me egos and avo. So and then I'll try and

493
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Speaker 2: work and do as much kind of like work. And

494
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Speaker 2: if I'm doing any private classes where I'm you know,

495
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Speaker 2: getting out with accents or whatnot, I'll try and do

496
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Speaker 2: that all in the first half of the day because

497
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Speaker 2: I find that my energy come three o'clock, I'm kind

498
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,160
Speaker 2: of like tapping out a little bit and my energy

499
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:54,160
Speaker 2: is way waning, my like mental energy. But a lot

500
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Speaker 2: of acting schools, night school, like last night. I was

501
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Speaker 2: in acting school till nine and thirty. But a lot

502
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Speaker 2: of classes go to like ten. I've got a Monday

503
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 2: night class that went til ten thirty. So it's just

504
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:05,679
Speaker 2: a balancing act for me, and they're not. In the

505
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 2: breaks of acting school, I'll do all my work stuff.

506
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Speaker 2: And that's why I think I like to get up early.

507
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 2: I love getting those emails off before nine am.

508
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Speaker 4: Yeah, we kind of maintain like work hours, but they're

509
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:17,159
Speaker 4: kind of still kind of split.

510
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Speaker 1: We do not maintain work.

511
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Speaker 4: No, I'm saying, like, you know, like we do work hours,

512
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Speaker 4: but we kind of get split throughout the day.

513
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Speaker 1: We overwork.

514
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Speaker 3: Yeah, we overwork.

515
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Speaker 1: You and I work way more than a nine to

516
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Speaker 1: five job. Do you know that right? Oh? Thank god?

517
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Speaker 3: I definitely do more than eight hours a day.

518
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, totally.

519
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Speaker 3: I would say easily. Do you know ten, ten eleven

520
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Speaker 3: hours a day when.

521
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Speaker 1: We barely switch off. We do watch at nighttime.

522
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Speaker 2: Is kind of like if I don't have acting school,

523
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Speaker 2: So that would be what three nights a week that

524
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Speaker 2: I don't have school, we will watch Netflix Designated Survivor.

525
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Speaker 1: At the moment, it's our fab isn't it?

526
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 3: It's so good?

527
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 1: But our favorite movie?

528
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 3: What is it? Boss? The Gentleman?

529
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Speaker 1: Love it? I love it. I could talk about this.

530
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 2: We could do a whole podcast on the Gentleman Guy

531
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 2: Richie if anyone hasn't seen it, Guy Richie's newest movie.

532
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 2: And we saw it, remember we saw it in the movies.

533
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 2: Is all before COVID.

534
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 1: We saw it at the movies and within twenty four

535
00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:14,120
Speaker 1: hours we'd already gone.

536
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 3: Back to the next day.

537
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Speaker 1: I've never done that before my life.

538
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 3: I've done that either, but.

539
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: It was that good. Who's your favorite character in it? Oh?

540
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 1: You like that?

541
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 4: All?

542
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 3: Right?

543
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 1: Governor? Who isn't that his name? Buddy or Bunny?

544
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,280
Speaker 3: Oh, he's just like the random guard.

545
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: But what does he say?

546
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, a governor and he's like, is like incoming?

547
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,119
Speaker 1: Oh in that's right, incoming.

548
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's just like a like the random like security guard.

549
00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 4: But I find his character quite funny. He's kind of

550
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:46,159
Speaker 4: like a very minor character a lot.

551
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Speaker 1: I love Colin Farrell in it.

552
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:48,439
Speaker 3: He's the best.

553
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 2: He's got this like thick doublin accent. And then of

554
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:53,400
Speaker 2: course Matthew McConaughey.

555
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:54,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, incredible.

556
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 1: I think the whole cast is Charlie Hannah.

557
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 3: Charlie Hannah's amazing.

558
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Speaker 1: He's got like a nervous twitch in it.

559
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he doesn't like dirt.

560
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 1: You could relate to it.

561
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 2: There's a scene where that he has to I don't

562
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 2: want to give too much away, but he has to

563
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 2: go and rescue this girl and he doesn't want to

564
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 2: have to go there because it's going to be a

565
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 2: dirty apartment.

566
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,719
Speaker 1: Do you remember? Very very funny.

567
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 2: Okay, we digress. The next question is all your praises

568
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 2: you're receiving the ma out.

569
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 1: Where do you stare? All of them? We use them,

570
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:26,640
Speaker 1: we use them, we give them away.

571
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 2: Dad cops lots because Dad comes up every second weekend,

572
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 2: although we can't now because he's in Ascot Veil, which

573
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 2: is lockdown.

574
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 1: But we give away. I mean, remember when I got

575
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Speaker 1: my hair blow waved. I just gave like my little

576
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 1: pack of things and give them. I give heaps away, don't.

577
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 4: Know, generally, Like I mean like food stuff and skincare stuff,

578
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 4: like we use it all. We love skin clothes, like,

579
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 4: we get some great stuff. You've been getting a few

580
00:26:55,600 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 4: goodies bones, yeah, skin, Yeah, the skincare, the apron and

581
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 4: squash club. Squash club you love. I think that's my fave,

582
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:07,159
Speaker 4: my favor stuff.

583
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 1: You get spoiled nowadays.

584
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I do thank you.

585
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,879
Speaker 2: Natural Harry's written us a message two very wonderful, lovely

586
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:18,679
Speaker 2: people in this pic. Also, we can say who is

587
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 2: going to be episode one of season.

588
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 3: Five, Harriet Burrell aka Harry.

589
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,119
Speaker 2: And if you don't know anything about Natural Harry, definitely

590
00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 2: check her out.

591
00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: She's got beautiful, stunning.

592
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 2: Cookbooks and we use the Lazy Bones loaf, which is

593
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 2: her creation all the time.

594
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 4: And she's got an incredible dog, Fred, who I got

595
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:38,200
Speaker 4: to hang with for a whole hour.

596
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:43,640
Speaker 2: Well, we podcasted in this very room. Okay, best relationship advice?

597
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 2: Oh wow, this is more you than me. I feel

598
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 2: your better relationship. Matt's much better relationships than me because

599
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 2: before me, weren't you in a five year relationship?

600
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 3: I was?

601
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 1: And then before that year in a relationship? We't you?

602
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:00,360
Speaker 3: Yeah?

603
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,199
Speaker 2: And then before that you're in a relationship, didn't you

604
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 2: say the night that you met me?

605
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, Matt, you didn't even last three months?

606
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 4: No said I lasted six or nine months? I was

607
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 4: single six boss? You reckon April to October?

608
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 3: Was it?

609
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 2: Oh my god? How do I know all this? He's

610
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 2: playing coy right now, but we're both virgos. We know

611
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 2: fucking days. Anyway, your relationship your a monogamous relationship person.

612
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 3: I somehow end up in honesty.

613
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 4: I mean, like you really need to be honest.

614
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:39,720
Speaker 1: I'm just fixing my mic.

615
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 2: My foot's gone to sleep, are you right there? My

616
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 2: foot's you know when my foot's fully dead.

617
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I suppose honesty's needs to be like a cornerstone.

618
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 1: Also, you're a virgo where both virgo, so loyalty is kind.

619
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 3: Of about loyalties for me, loyalty or nothing.

620
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: So you know everything about me. Yeah, I'm even very

621
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: open about my bow movements with you aren't too open.

622
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: Trust you're open with me.

623
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 4: Excuse me, but I've never been so open with anyone

624
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 4: until I meet you. Yeah, trust to be honest, like

625
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 4: you do, need to remind yourself to make time for

626
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 4: your partner and spend time with your partner. I think

627
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 4: you get into like a routine, like we are in

628
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 4: a routine where we could easily just go through life.

629
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 2: But what sorry, you know when you get pins and

630
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 2: needles and the pain bits about to come and you've

631
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 2: got to just move your foot, you.

632
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 1: Know what I'm talking about. Oh, I don't want to

633
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: It's going.

634
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 3: To be like you're so funny.

635
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:54,360
Speaker 1: Oh ah, shiving me timbers? Oh did you hear that?

636
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: That was my hip? Click clicking?

637
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 3: Oh wow, Sorry, I sound like I'm gonna have to

638
00:29:57,960 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 3: edit all this out.

639
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 1: You can keep it the real McCoy.

640
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 3: Oh you're so funny.

641
00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: Sorry, relationship advice?

642
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 3: Yeah?

643
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, what else done? Fixed? Months?

644
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 3: Feel better?

645
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: Oh? So much better? You know, you know you've got

646
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 1: to face that bit of pain.

647
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 3: You're so funny.

648
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 1: What about this morning? How I had the coffee on?

649
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 2: Like what I do was so because I get up

650
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 2: before you, I get all your brecky ready.

651
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 4: Yeah.

652
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you kind of pull it out for me,

653
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 3: which is a nice.

654
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 1: Little touch and the love note everynow and then.

655
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think, but think about relationships is that.

656
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that's the key, by the way, not

657
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: to cut you off.

658
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 2: I'm just saying I was on a skype rehearsal with

659
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 2: my friend Stella and you, I turned the coffee on

660
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 2: for you and stallus it is that a tip to

661
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 2: good relationship?

662
00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 1: And You're like, it's just little things like you made

663
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Speaker 1: me long this morning, you make me all my meals.

664
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Speaker 4: I do make all your mess Look, I think that

665
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 4: the big thing that I've learned as well is that

666
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,800
Speaker 4: people make the mistake of, you know, putting their happiness

667
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 4: or making their partner responsible for their own happiness. And

668
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 4: you know, I think that I've definitely made that mistake

669
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 4: in the past, where I've relied on someone else to

670
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 4: make me happy. And yes, your partner should make you happy,

671
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 4: but you are responsible for your own happiness and your

672
00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 4: own mood and your own you know, mental health. So

673
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 4: I think the big difference that I've made in our

674
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 4: relationship is that I've taken responsibility for myself and my

675
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 4: own happiness and my own mental health and not put

676
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 4: that on you as a burden.

677
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 2: We're both very passionate about that. We both have a therapist.

678
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know, your partner's not a mind reader,

679
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 4: then they're not going to know how to help you

680
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 4: or how to make you feel better or whatever it

681
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 4: is unless you just tell them. And yeah, I suppose

682
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 4: that in the past, you know, I've always been quite

683
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 4: like upset or disappointed in partners and stuff because they just, yeah,

684
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 4: they don't know how to help.

685
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 1: But such a.

686
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 2: Giver that you could easily for I could be wrong,

687
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 2: but you probably have been taking advantage of it before

688
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 2: because you are very give your nature.

689
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: Is very giving.

690
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely not me though, boy, you're more taky.

691
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

692
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 1: No, I'm not taking advantage of you.

693
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 4: You're not.

694
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 3: You don't take advantage of me.

695
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 4: But having said that, like, yes, I am very givy

696
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 4: and if you didn't pull yourself up on it, you

697
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 4: could easily let me do everything.

698
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, we also learn what each other like.

699
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 4: Whey, you you do realize that you know that you

700
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 4: need to bring something to the relationship as well, So.

701
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 3: That's a boss.

702
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 2: I bring the passion, the passion, but no, like little

703
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 2: things as well, like little this is like domestic things.

704
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 2: But like boss yet cooks everything. But I know he

705
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 2: will not want his Bitosa himself doesn't like to touch

706
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 2: a bin. So I make sure that like I'm bin girl, right,

707
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 2: little things like I do the washing, you hang it up.

708
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: We just do it. Just by the way. We never

709
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: had a conversation about this. It just happens. You don't

710
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: even think about it. It just needs to be a

711
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 1: little like a teamwork. It's a team.

712
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we'd never have had a discussion about it

713
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 2: until this moment. But I know I've noticed, like there

714
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 2: you do carry you do what do Wait, Matt does

715
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 2: way more than me.

716
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 1: I don't know how I make up for it.

717
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 4: No, you do, Like it is a very I suppose

718
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 4: even relationship in seximrud joking it's going to be some

719
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 4: ladies going yes, creepy like messages coming through after.

720
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 3: No, it is very even.

721
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 4: I think that's, you know, my only relationship advice, Like,

722
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 4: you know your partner's not responsible for your happiness, Like

723
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 4: you need to take responsibility and then and you know.

724
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 3: Bring bring your best.

725
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 4: Both people need to bring their best to the relationship,

726
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 4: you know, and work on it together.

727
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 2: And I think to know, like you're on the happiness thing,

728
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 2: you're not meant to feel happy seven days a week,

729
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:05,240
Speaker 2: twenty four to seven.

730
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 1: And so I'll often go to.

731
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 2: Matt and go, oh boss, and he goes, do you

732
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 2: feel discombobulated? And I go, yeah, I feel discombobed today,

733
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 2: and we'll just quickly have a little breakdown on what

734
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 2: that is. And it might be that like a gig's

735
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:25,880
Speaker 2: being canceled, or you know, I've got feedback on something

736
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 2: that I wasn't expecting, or you know, and I will

737
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:33,800
Speaker 2: obviously often probably look for validation in the wrong places

738
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 2: and you'll be like, that's not a reflection of you,

739
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 2: it's just X, Y and Z, and so like, I

740
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 2: think also don't expect a relationship. Like I know, when

741
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 2: I was a bit younger, I was like, oh, I'm

742
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 2: going to meet Prince Charming. My life's going to fall

743
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 2: into place. And it's not like that. It's like, you

744
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 2: want to meet a teammate. You want to meet someone

745
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 2: that's going to call out your bullshit. You want to

746
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 2: meet like even right for this podcast, Matt's like, Lola,

747
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 2: you're wasting time, like and I got carried away doing

748
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,279
Speaker 2: something else, you know, And I think you want someone

749
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 2: that's going to hold you accountable.

750
00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely.

751
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 4: I think it's hard for males as well, like they

752
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 4: don't really know how to talk, communicate. But I think

753
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:12,440
Speaker 4: we are coming into, you know, a time in the

754
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 4: world where males are you know, maybe more educated on

755
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 4: you know, expressing emotions, feeling emotions, discussing emotions with their girlfriends.

756
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 4: Because the way that I was kind of like not

757
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 4: bought up, but like the world, you know, showed me that, like,

758
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 4: you know, men were kind of like these stable, closed

759
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 4: off kind of figures and girls were the emotional drainers,

760
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 4: you know that, like, you know, what's what's your girlfriend's

761
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 4: problem this week? And there was always like those kind

762
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:43,799
Speaker 4: of issues where I don't know. Yeah, I'm glad that

763
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 4: that kind of stigma is changing now, you know. But

764
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 4: I having said that, I was in relationships where it

765
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 4: was always like girl fucking.

766
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:54,440
Speaker 3: Dramas, which thank you for not being a girl drama.

767
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: Oh you're very very welcome, dear sir.

768
00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 3: All right, next question, Next.

769
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:02,919
Speaker 2: Questo, how did you meet and what made the other

770
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:04,439
Speaker 2: person special to you?

771
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 3: Am I gone first, go for it?

772
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:12,240
Speaker 4: You're you're the chatterbox today. I love it, am I? Well,

773
00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 4: Lola swiped right on me on bumble? Is it bright

774
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 4: or left? I forget nowt right?

775
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:20,840
Speaker 3: Is it? I think it's right? Okay?

776
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:24,280
Speaker 4: Well she she swiped And I think I was sitting

777
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 4: in like my nephew's school concert or something like that,

778
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 4: and it was dragging on. So I was just on bumble,

779
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 4: like swiping away and then and then and we matched.

780
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 1: Did you think, oh, hello, what's going on here?

781
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 3: Who's this little kiddie?

782
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 1: Is that what you thought?

783
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 3: Yeah?

784
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 2: Did you do a little stalk straight away? Or were

785
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 2: you just on the bumble messaging.

786
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 3: No, I didn't suck for a while.

787
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 1: You had no idea, and you had no idea who

788
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 1: I was or did what I did?

789
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 4: Did you look at the start, I didn't put two

790
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 4: and two together. After a little bit, I kind of

791
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 4: put two and two together, But yeah, I didn't. I

792
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 4: didn't know who you were. I remember probably hearing your

793
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 4: name sporadically, if I really had to think back to like,

794
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 4: I have these really weird things where I can like

795
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:17,399
Speaker 4: remember fucking everything, and I probably do recall your name

796
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 4: being mentioned a few times, but didn't really like, yeah,

797
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 4: take notice or who you were and stuff like that.

798
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 4: And then we realized we had mutual friends and all

799
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:26,479
Speaker 4: these other fucking shit.

800
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 3: So yeah, so suy, Yeah.

801
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: What was the other behalf of this question? Hang on,

802
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:34,760
Speaker 1: I think it's what drew you to one another?

803
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, what made the other person special to?

804
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 3: Boss? Just kick the cab like I just job.

805
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:45,240
Speaker 4: I liked your vibe. I liked it you're about you know, health,

806
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:49,239
Speaker 4: and you know, you seem nice and kind and.

807
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 1: I wasn't into partying, which I think was refreshing for you.

808
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

809
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:56,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I must have liked you because on our first

810
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:59,839
Speaker 2: bumble meet up. I kept him waiting three hours because

811
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,399
Speaker 2: I so nervous and I was like having an anxiety take,

812
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 2: like getting dressed into clothes to go out in and

813
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 2: then putting my pajamas back on and going I'm not going,

814
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,319
Speaker 2: I'm not going. And I think you wrote to me

815
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 2: and said, I know you're feeling anxious. We'll have a

816
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:14,879
Speaker 2: safe word pineapples, and I'll put you straight into an uber.

817
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, do you remember.

818
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 2: And I must have liked you when I first because

819
00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 2: I rocked up to Neptune in Melbourne and we had

820
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 2: a little cocktail or wine together, and then you ordered

821
00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:27,479
Speaker 2: a friggin tea in Miszoo which has got gluten dairy

822
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 2: and you're gluten free, and I was like, okay, so

823
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 2: I must have liked you to eat a gluten eat

824
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:35,920
Speaker 2: gluten when I first meet you.

825
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 4: I think for me, I was looking for because obviously

826
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:43,360
Speaker 4: I was in a very I had dated party girls

827
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 4: in the past, and then I myself was in a

828
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 4: bit of a party period when you met me.

829
00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, while I was single. Yeah, oh yes, I know.

830
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:51,879
Speaker 1: I've spoken about this before.

831
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 4: So I think it was kind of nice to have something, yeah,

832
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 4: a little bit different and intelligent conversation and kindness and yeah.

833
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 2: And then so we didn't kiss on that first meeting.

834
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 2: We went out and had a fun night together. You

835
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 2: dropped me home, no kiss one nothing, no kiss one.

836
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 2: And then we switched to phone numbers straight after that night,

837
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,560
Speaker 2: do you remember? And then we were messaging each other

838
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 2: all the time, and we love both love Sigle Ross

839
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 2: musically wise, did we not?

840
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 1: And music scores?

841
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, yon Zi and that's an Icelandic incredible Icelandic musician

842
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,360
Speaker 2: to people listening. And then I think we had a

843
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 2: date like the next weekend or a weekend or so after,

844
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 2: so funny.

845
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 1: And then and then do you know what happened on

846
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 1: that first date? We were sitting on ourwood beach and

847
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: you go, so we're going to kiss on not?

848
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, class, I don't like I don't like beating around

849
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 4: bull beating around the bush. I don't like these like unknowns.

850
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:06,479
Speaker 4: It's like either like you want to, you know, make

851
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 4: out or see what happens, or like maybe it's just

852
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 4: a friend's vibe, which I was fine with as well,

853
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, I don't I believe in being upfront. Plus,

854
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 4: you go on first dates and it's like this awkward

855
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 4: nervousness of like, oh, does he like me? Does he

856
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 4: want to kiss some?

857
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 2: Like fuck that you are very confident, Like you're a

858
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 2: confident data. You've actually told me that when you were

859
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:33,080
Speaker 2: single and ready to mingle, you'd walk into a bar

860
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 2: and you could lock eyes with a girl across the

861
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:40,239
Speaker 2: room and to be on Yeah, that's happened. We could

862
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 2: do a whole podcast about like Thatt's previous love escapades.

863
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:46,400
Speaker 4: Is that a saying oh god no, but like I

864
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 4: don't know, I like, as I said, I don't like awkwardness.

865
00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:56,919
Speaker 4: I don't like that, you know, when you do meet someone.

866
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 4: I kind of just like to be a little bit upfront.

867
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:03,240
Speaker 4: And also we are in like an age of like consent,

868
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 4: you know where and where I'm like, I kind of

869
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 4: wanted in writing if you want to, like you know,

870
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 4: if you want to you know, make out or whatever,

871
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:13,720
Speaker 4: like I want to know straight away.

872
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 3: So so it's not this weird.

873
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 2: You'd already done this little flick of my hair, Like

874
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 2: I remember, I've got sand or something in my hair,

875
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 2: and he'd already like he'd done the real floaty thing.

876
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 2: He'd leant over and moved my hair off my face,

877
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, it's on. I knew then

878
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:30,320
Speaker 2: that you were Keino and then you were like literally

879
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 2: fit stream.

880
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 1: It's like somewhere on the beach, are we going to

881
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: kiss or not?

882
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:36,319
Speaker 3: I think you are not doing my accent very well.

883
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 1: Okay, how was it there?

884
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:39,359
Speaker 3: I was just like, you want to make out or what?

885
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:42,719
Speaker 1: And do you know what? He also said.

886
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:44,480
Speaker 2: So then after that we went to dinner and ended

887
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:47,240
Speaker 2: up being like a fucking fifteen hour date or something.

888
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:49,680
Speaker 2: But on the way to dinner, I was like, did

889
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 2: you have a backup plan and like get out of

890
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 2: jail free plan if this wasn't going the way you wanted?

891
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 2: You were like, yeah, I had eight Yeah do you remember.

892
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

893
00:41:57,239 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 4: I'm well I'm a very organized person. So in my

894
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:02,920
Speaker 4: head I was like, you know, if it goes well,

895
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:05,640
Speaker 4: we'll go do this, this and this. If it goes badly,

896
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 4: then I'll you know, opt out evac.

897
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:10,360
Speaker 3: Yeah.

898
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 1: You are so cheeky.

899
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 4: Yeah I was a bit cheeky, but I liked you,

900
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:20,239
Speaker 4: so I obviously like cared. Yeah, but I again yet

901
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 4: not that I'm like, I was also okay with whatever

902
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 4: the outcome. So I'd reached a point in my life

903
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:30,839
Speaker 4: where I was I didn't really want to hold onto

904
00:42:30,840 --> 00:42:33,720
Speaker 4: anything like too tight or the notion of like anything

905
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 4: too tight.

906
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 3: I was just more like.

907
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,880
Speaker 4: I'm happy to see where this goes or what happens

908
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 4: or you know, very you know I said to you

909
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 4: when we first met, I was like, I'd like to

910
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 4: get to know you anyway. I was like, if we

911
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 4: don't end up romantically together, like I would still like

912
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 4: to get to know you on some level, you know.

913
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 1: And then it turned into romance.

914
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I did.

915
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:58,319
Speaker 2: I was just going to answer to that one what

916
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 2: made the other person special to you? And I remember

917
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 2: a second date, me going because I'd also had my

918
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 2: fist share of experiences and lessons let's call them that

919
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 2: with other guys I dated, and I was like, I'm

920
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 2: getting the mental health thing out of the way, and

921
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 2: like date that that date we were on our Wood

922
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 2: Beach and then went to was Itchy Kny in Melbourne.

923
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 3: Itch Nie.

924
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, beautiful Japanese, incredible Japanese restaurant. Remember the mayo fell

925
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 2: out of my mouth. But I remember on that date

926
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: I opened up about my mental health pretty early on.

927
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 2: I was like, I want you know, I've had to

928
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 2: have a therapist and you said, I find that so attractive,

929
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,840
Speaker 2: and in that moment, I was like, oh, this guy's

930
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 2: very different to anyone I've dated in a very long time.

931
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 2: And that was for something that made that really like

932
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 2: intrigued me about you, because I was like someone and

933
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:55,320
Speaker 2: you said, I've also got a therapist.

934
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 4: Well at that time, I just finished like my kind

935
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 4: of under therapy, maybe like a month or two before,

936
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:07,960
Speaker 4: where after my last relationship, I went into therapy again

937
00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:11,839
Speaker 4: purely because of the reason that I didn't want any

938
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 4: kind of lingering, lasting you know, effects or anything from

939
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:16,879
Speaker 4: my life.

940
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: I don't want to have to repeat the same lessons,

941
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: which is super common.

942
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I went straight into therapy, and I said

943
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 4: to my therapist, you know, like, it's not not that

944
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 4: I'm like torn up or broken over this breakup or relationship.

945
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 4: So it was the right thing to do to break

946
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 4: up with that person, but you know, I do want

947
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,320
Speaker 4: to understand and I don't want to bring anything into

948
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:41,360
Speaker 4: my future relationship. So you know, I was so proet

949
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:43,880
Speaker 4: and I still am.

950
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,080
Speaker 1: That's I think was the thing that really made me

951
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:48,880
Speaker 1: fascinated by you.

952
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 2: And then you used to Matt used to send me

953
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 2: videos of him playing songs on guitars to me, and

954
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 2: I'd have to guess them, and because I never wanted

955
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 2: to get it wrong, I'd send I'd three like really

956
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:01,120
Speaker 2: musical friends, and I'd send it to and be like,

957
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:02,839
Speaker 2: what the fuck is he playing? I need to know this,

958
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 2: And I'd be like quick, quick, I need to get

959
00:45:06,160 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 2: back to him and be like the luminous and anyway

960
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 2: I loved obviously a musician.

961
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 3: I've already been gone like forty three minutes.

962
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 1: Oh jeeus.

963
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 2: Next question, feelings around relationship breakdowns and moving on and

964
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 2: finding love again.

965
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 4: Feelings around it? Yeah, I think it's great. I think

966
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 4: if your relationship doesn't work, find a way to amicably

967
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 4: amicably you know, uncouple, have respect for the other person.

968
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 3: Get some therapy.

969
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 1: You got to get the therapy.

970
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 4: I reckon understand that, like, you know, you are equally

971
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 4: the problem. It's not like even if your partners a

972
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 4: fuck with and cheats on you and all that kind

973
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 4: of shit, like you're still not perfect. There's still things

974
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 4: that you can improve on. So find out what those

975
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 4: things are and work on those things and don't don't

976
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 4: focus on the you know, on the negative stuff that happened.

977
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:05,399
Speaker 2: And I think knowing that, like with the breakup, as

978
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 2: everybody knows, breakups feel so shit and you feel like

979
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 2: your worth is decrease and your value.

980
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: Is down and all that kind of stuff.

981
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 2: But like know that those rough times are often and

982
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 2: this is going to sound really esoteric, but often going

983
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:22,320
Speaker 2: to lead you down, Like ending with them means that

984
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 2: you're gonna end up with someone that is more better

985
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 2: suited to you, and you will learn something about yourself.

986
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 2: And I remember, like I used my twenties when I

987
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:30,799
Speaker 2: was dating, I'd be like I had it in my mind.

988
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I'm actually learning from even like

989
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 2: little dates that go nowhere, or they'd be like three

990
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 2: or four dates. I'd be like, well, I'm learning that

991
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 2: I love that quality about you, but I really didn't

992
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 2: like these other qualities. So I'm like, humor, that's something

993
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 2: I want in a partner. And then I'm like, but

994
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 2: I don't want someone that doesn't know who they are,

995
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 2: and I don't want someone that's afraid of kissing me,

996
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 2: you know, like I and I'd quickly kind of like

997
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 2: I looked at my twenties, that's kind of like building

998
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 2: my blueprint for what I did want in a partner. Yeah,

999
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:59,919
Speaker 2: you know, so I don't think see see the yuck

1000
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 2: times and the breakdowns is actually a chance to grow

1001
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 2: and understand and learn from yourself.

1002
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 3: Yeah you know, yeah yeah, and it's just like it's

1003
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 3: not that bad.

1004
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:12,800
Speaker 4: You will recover, you will get better, you will be

1005
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:15,400
Speaker 4: able to, like you know, move through it, and if

1006
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 4: you really do want to, you can go meet somebody else.

1007
00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:19,360
Speaker 1: Totally.

1008
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 2: That was our last question, sexy Legs. Really, I know

1009
00:47:22,440 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 2: we've done one with Powered Through.

1010
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 3: It's gone so fast, very relationship heavy.

1011
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 1: Super relationship heavy, super relationship.

1012
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 4: To do a quick wrap up, what's your what's your

1013
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 4: feelings on Corona's what's the next step?

1014
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:39,400
Speaker 2: Well, so, yeah, at the lockdown with like where my

1015
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 2: dad lives and his VEAC clinic and stuff being in

1016
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 2: ascot Vail, I think you know all of July melbourney

1017
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 2: In's and we're not welcoming any other state as being

1018
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 2: a Victorian. So, I mean, I don't think we're going

1019
00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 2: anywhere for the next month.

1020
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: I think.

1021
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:59,719
Speaker 2: I don't think we'll be doing much travel till for

1022
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 2: this you and I are probably can do a road trip,

1023
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:04,320
Speaker 2: I'd say to Byron, because it's our happy place.

1024
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,880
Speaker 3: As soon as it opens up and it's safe.

1025
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:10,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think and someone had a bit of

1026
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 2: a go at me recently on Instagram because I said,

1027
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 2: I'm really enjoying this time to skill up, like I'm

1028
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:20,479
Speaker 2: doing a lot of online courses and training and really

1029
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,360
Speaker 2: reading a lot and trying to learn and further myself

1030
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 2: while there is so much kind of like downtime, like

1031
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 2: you're not spending time in the car driving to acting school.

1032
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:31,840
Speaker 2: You've got that extra two hour window to you know,

1033
00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 2: do something. And I think someone roach means that, you know,

1034
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 2: how do you be so positive and you should be

1035
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 2: noting and acknowledging that it's been such a tough time

1036
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:42,880
Speaker 2: for people that don't have jobs.

1037
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 1: And I do totally acknowledge that.

1038
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 2: In fact, I've been saying how much is important to

1039
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 2: see a therapists in this time and they all do

1040
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:54,320
Speaker 2: like FaceTime and Skype and Zoom consults now, which is

1041
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 2: freaking wonderful.

1042
00:48:56,000 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 3: But I just you're always going to upset somebody. You

1043
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 3: can't keep everything happy.

1044
00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1045
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:03,439
Speaker 4: What that person doesn't know is the amount of time

1046
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 4: and effort you've donated into helping people and yoga, Instagram

1047
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 4: yoga or like podcasts all these random things that you

1048
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 4: know what help people through those fucking dark times that

1049
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:22,800
Speaker 4: person wrote that's fucking idiot, right, And you know what,

1050
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 4: some people don't have it bad, which is us, like

1051
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:31,320
Speaker 4: we are lucky that we kind of like escaped, you know, Melbourne,

1052
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:34,840
Speaker 4: and that we do have this time to work on

1053
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 4: ourselves and skill up, you know, and a lot of

1054
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 4: people don't have that, and like totally understand that, but

1055
00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 4: it's not a reason to.

1056
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,400
Speaker 2: I read somewhere that Shakespeare wrote and I could be

1057
00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 2: totally wrong here because I think your sister wrote to

1058
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:48,359
Speaker 2: me and said, I got my dates wrong. But I'm

1059
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:53,080
Speaker 2: pretty sure that Shakespeare wrote some of his great plays

1060
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 2: during a play. Yeah, you know, when you're confined to

1061
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:58,279
Speaker 2: being indoors and you're not allowed out because there is

1062
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 2: and I think we'll well, you and I like working

1063
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 2: on heaps of stuff with all of coffee, and I'm like, well,

1064
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:06,360
Speaker 2: I'm going to get so far through my degree, my

1065
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:09,439
Speaker 2: stud main study studying, and I'm trying to get three

1066
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:10,239
Speaker 2: more accents down.

1067
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 1: I want to get general American, Southern, and New York.

1068
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 1: I haven't tried New York.

1069
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:18,719
Speaker 4: Thing is you do acknowledge that it's a hard time

1070
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:24,800
Speaker 4: you do acknowledge people, you also make an effort to

1071
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 4: put out positive content. Someone's always someone's always going to

1072
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:33,800
Speaker 4: be upset, and it's never going to be enough for somebody,

1073
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:36,920
Speaker 4: but for everyone else you are enough.

1074
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 1: Also, Boss, Thank you. That's very kind, but also Boss,

1075
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:44,480
Speaker 1: the start of Corona was so challenging for us. Like

1076
00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:46,879
Speaker 1: I had and I obviously can't talk about it yet,

1077
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 1: but I had like a big plan, completely torn up

1078
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: in front of my face, a life plan. And I

1079
00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:52,840
Speaker 1: think that.

1080
00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:58,680
Speaker 2: Although like it seems all like sugar and pie and whatnot, like,

1081
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 2: I had to go through a pretty fucking stressful and

1082
00:51:01,960 --> 00:51:07,880
Speaker 2: uncomfortable and confronting and petrifying experience. Yeah, at the very

1083
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:11,360
Speaker 2: start of Corona, and I've had to really relinquished control

1084
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 2: over that, and I'm choosing not to put my energy

1085
00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 2: into that, and I'm choosing to put my energy in Okay,

1086
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:18,760
Speaker 2: there's a reason that I'm here and in this scenario,

1087
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:21,360
Speaker 2: how can I make the best of it? Exactly, So

1088
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 2: I think, like, yeah, maybe you and I are choosing

1089
00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:27,400
Speaker 2: to focus on the positive, but we have also faced

1090
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 2: adversity at the beginning.

1091
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 4: Of this absolutely, and people don't know, like you know,

1092
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 4: the amount of jobs that we've had put on hold

1093
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 4: and work and career and I mean, like people around

1094
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 4: us have gotten sick. Yeah, you know what about your

1095
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 4: My great aunt in Italy died from Corona on Corona

1096
00:51:45,239 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 4: from the virus.

1097
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 1: And didn't your mum say that The sad thing was

1098
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:49,400
Speaker 1: she was totally alone.

1099
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Speaker 4: She was totally alone and isolated. Yeah, in the hospital.

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Speaker 4: I mean one of our friends, my friend Dan, he

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Speaker 4: got corona. Yeah, he recovered, which was good. Guy went

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Speaker 4: to high school with like his I think his father

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Speaker 4: in law died from the virus. So fuck, Like, we

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Speaker 4: are affected, but we just choose to be positive, make

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Speaker 4: the most of it and you know, focus.

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Speaker 3: On the positive.

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Speaker 1: Like you and I aren't allowed to visit my nan.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we haven't seen her in months, five months.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think, like, yeah, we acknowledge that there

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Speaker 2: is so confronting and challenging for people, but at the

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Speaker 2: same time, we're choosing to take find the positive and

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Speaker 2: find the light within a potentially dark scenario.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which is what I recommend to everybody big time.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for doing this, Sexy Legs. I love you

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Speaker 1: very much.

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Speaker 3: I love you.

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Speaker 2: That was awesome. I think it's been my favorite chat

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Speaker 2: with you. Okay, it's been nice, Big Love, And so

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Speaker 2: just so you know to everyone listening, we take one

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Speaker 2: week off, don't we between seasons?

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Speaker 3: Yep?

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Speaker 1: Sure, and then we planned that.

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Speaker 2: And then we'll come back natural Harry. We'll kick off

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Speaker 2: season five for us, and then I know we've got

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Speaker 2: Kate Kendall recorded and she's active. Yogi, big Yogi. And

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Speaker 2: then we've got a few guests lined up to record,

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Speaker 2: hopefully in malbs because I love doing them in person

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Speaker 2: like this, don't you.

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Speaker 3: So much better than on the internet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: This season we've just done was our first on the

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Speaker 2: internet recording with Jane episode Jen Jen.

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Speaker 1: I always say Jane, don't I Well Jane set it up. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Shout out to Jane and Kline epicic, epic human and

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Speaker 2: a French bull dog called Mate.

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Speaker 1: We're still random shout outs.

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Speaker 2: Now, all right, big love, gang, stay safe and big

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Speaker 2: big love from us in talks. That's a wrap on

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Speaker 2: another episode of Fearlessly Failing. As always, thank you to

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Speaker 2: our guests, and let's continue the conversation on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: I'm at Yamo Lollaberry.

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Speaker 2: This potty my word for podcast is available on all

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Speaker 2: streaming platforms. I'd love it if you could subscribe, rate

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Speaker 2: and comment and of course spread the love.