Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 2: Ah you with Flex and Frooms, And as always, I'd
Speaker 2: love you to just take a deep breath in.
Speaker 1: And a deep breath out and then just keep doing
Speaker 1: that while you listen to us.
Speaker 3: You've got to survive, don't start then.
Speaker 2: Take a deep breath and run off approach. He start dissociating,
Speaker 2: no FLEXI. I was on TikTok and I saw this
Speaker 2: chick was making chicken in a pan with little shorts
Speaker 2: and a bra on, and the caption was when I
Speaker 2: catch myself trying to look sexy at home and I remember,
Speaker 2: and then this is in quotations, you are a woman
Speaker 2: with a man inside watching a woman.
Speaker 3: I'm not.
Speaker 1: You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman.
Speaker 1: Who are you talking to? And I thought, wow, see okay,
Speaker 1: So wait a second.
Speaker 3: When I said, I'm back on my Instagram quotes right,
Speaker 3: and I said, I read a quote that says, in
Speaker 3: order for a wound to heal, you gotta stop touching it.
Speaker 3: And you all hated that, But you're telling me you're
Speaker 3: a woman with a man inside you, and a woman
Speaker 3: that's deep.
Speaker 1: If you did not understand what I said. Do you
Speaker 1: let me explain it. You are a woman in the world, correct,
Speaker 1: and you're at home feeling and looking quote unquote sexy. Okay,
Speaker 1: And what the.
Speaker 2: TikTok is trying to convey is that there is a
Speaker 2: man inside you, where.
Speaker 3: There's a man in my height and you are you know,
Speaker 3: I'm performing to my inner man.
Speaker 1: Yes, thank you, No need no more words. Do you
Speaker 1: relate to this.
Speaker 3: Hmmm? In some ways yes, but a lot of ways no,
Speaker 3: because I don't feel like traditionally sexy, you know, like
Speaker 3: I'm trying to find the words for like when I
Speaker 3: think of you mentioned a couple of weeks ago about
Speaker 3: this like sex symbol, it's very specific archetype because I
Speaker 3: don't feel that way. I'm like, I don't know if
Speaker 3: the person that's observing me is the man.
Speaker 1: But it goes.
Speaker 3: But it is like it of course, it is like
Speaker 3: even if I feel like I'm being sexy in like
Speaker 3: a in like a non male gayzy way, it's not
Speaker 3: really the case. Because there's some software He's like, I
Speaker 3: like that one. There's some software he's like, oh, I
Speaker 3: like that mismatch. I like those twoth gems and that
Speaker 3: belly tattoo and I like it out, So yeah, I
Speaker 3: get it. But I also don't think it's a helpful
Speaker 3: narrative because, babes, it's like, what do you do with
Speaker 3: that information? Because you can't detach from the way that
Speaker 3: you've been socialized to view your own beauty and sexuality
Speaker 3: unless you want to go into a white torture room
Speaker 3: as you suggested, and you want to remove yourself from
Speaker 3: all of these things that make you you. You are
Speaker 3: the sum of all of it, the male gayzy bit,
Speaker 3: the unconventional female gayzy bit, all of it. I will say,
Speaker 3: though sometimes I read that, I'm like, okay, cool, Like
Speaker 3: the sexiness I get to see in myself isn't less
Speaker 3: valid because it came from the lens of the oppressor.
Speaker 1: It is what it is.
Speaker 3: I feel good about myself today, thank you. Yeah, well,
Speaker 3: I'm going to take from it.
Speaker 1: I don't think you have to completely detach to believe that.
Speaker 2: It's like when we were talking about beauty standards earlier,
Speaker 2: the point that I was trying to make is that
Speaker 2: in order for people who are maybe not the conventional
Speaker 2: right now twenty twenty three beauty standard, they can create STU.
Speaker 1: You can be your year, whatever, whatever.
Speaker 2: If you want to hear the actual chat, go back
Speaker 2: through the archives. We had a more in depth conversation
Speaker 2: about this. I think it's helpful for me.
Speaker 1: It is.
Speaker 3: As a victim, as a victim of the man inside me,
Speaker 3: oppressing me from the inside out.
Speaker 1: In each one of these.
Speaker 3: He never clocks off this this, this is the personal
Speaker 3: project for me, a passion project, and I'll do it
Speaker 3: for free.
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