WEBVTT - Inside Every Woman Is A Man 👨

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Ah you with Flex and Frooms, And as always, I'd

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<v Speaker 2>love you to just take a deep breath in.

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<v Speaker 1>And a deep breath out and then just keep doing

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<v Speaker 1>that while you listen to us.

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<v Speaker 3>You've got to survive, don't start then.

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<v Speaker 2>Take a deep breath and run off approach. He start dissociating,

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<v Speaker 2>no FLEXI. I was on TikTok and I saw this

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<v Speaker 2>chick was making chicken in a pan with little shorts

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<v Speaker 2>and a bra on, and the caption was when I

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<v Speaker 2>catch myself trying to look sexy at home and I remember,

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<v Speaker 2>and then this is in quotations, you are a woman

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<v Speaker 2>with a man inside watching a woman.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>Who are you talking to? And I thought, wow, see okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So wait a second.

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<v Speaker 3>When I said, I'm back on my Instagram quotes right,

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<v Speaker 3>and I said, I read a quote that says, in

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<v Speaker 3>order for a wound to heal, you gotta stop touching it.

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<v Speaker 3>And you all hated that, But you're telling me you're

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<v Speaker 3>a woman with a man inside you, and a woman

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<v Speaker 3>that's deep.

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<v Speaker 1>If you did not understand what I said. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>let me explain it. You are a woman in the world, correct,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're at home feeling and looking quote unquote sexy. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And what the.

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<v Speaker 2>TikTok is trying to convey is that there is a

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<v Speaker 2>man inside you, where.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a man in my height and you are you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm performing to my inner man.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, thank you, No need no more words. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>relate to this.

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<v Speaker 3>Hmmm? In some ways yes, but a lot of ways no,

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<v Speaker 3>because I don't feel like traditionally sexy, you know, like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to find the words for like when I

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<v Speaker 3>think of you mentioned a couple of weeks ago about

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<v Speaker 3>this like sex symbol, it's very specific archetype because I

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<v Speaker 3>don't feel that way. I'm like, I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>the person that's observing me is the man.

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<v Speaker 1>But it goes.

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<v Speaker 3>But it is like it of course, it is like

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<v Speaker 3>even if I feel like I'm being sexy in like

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<v Speaker 3>a in like a non male gayzy way, it's not

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<v Speaker 3>really the case. Because there's some software He's like, I

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<v Speaker 3>like that one. There's some software he's like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 3>like that mismatch. I like those twoth gems and that

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<v Speaker 3>belly tattoo and I like it out, So yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>get it. But I also don't think it's a helpful

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<v Speaker 3>narrative because, babes, it's like, what do you do with

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<v Speaker 3>that information? Because you can't detach from the way that

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<v Speaker 3>you've been socialized to view your own beauty and sexuality

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<v Speaker 3>unless you want to go into a white torture room

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<v Speaker 3>as you suggested, and you want to remove yourself from

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<v Speaker 3>all of these things that make you you. You are

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<v Speaker 3>the sum of all of it, the male gayzy bit,

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<v Speaker 3>the unconventional female gayzy bit, all of it. I will say,

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<v Speaker 3>though sometimes I read that, I'm like, okay, cool, Like

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<v Speaker 3>the sexiness I get to see in myself isn't less

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<v Speaker 3>valid because it came from the lens of the oppressor.

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<v Speaker 1>It is what it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel good about myself today, thank you. Yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to take from it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you have to completely detach to believe that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like when we were talking about beauty standards earlier,

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<v Speaker 2>the point that I was trying to make is that

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<v Speaker 2>in order for people who are maybe not the conventional

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<v Speaker 2>right now twenty twenty three beauty standard, they can create STU.

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<v Speaker 1>You can be your year, whatever, whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to hear the actual chat, go back

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<v Speaker 2>through the archives. We had a more in depth conversation

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<v Speaker 2>about this. I think it's helpful for me.

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<v Speaker 1>It is.

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<v Speaker 3>As a victim, as a victim of the man inside me,

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<v Speaker 3>oppressing me from the inside out.

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<v Speaker 1>In each one of these.

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<v Speaker 3>He never clocks off this this, this is the personal

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<v Speaker 3>project for me, a passion project, and I'll do it

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<v Speaker 3>for free.

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