Speaker 1: Come on, oh my god, it's Monday.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. And you say that like you're surprised.
Speaker 3: It creeps up to you every Sunday and Monday comes off.
Speaker 4: How nice is it though, that we only have to
Speaker 4: work for one day and then everyone gets another day off.
Speaker 1: Isn't that so good?
Speaker 3: Do you know my favorite part of We're in a
Speaker 3: group chat and Mitch said, I've got a brilliant idea
Speaker 3: for this week.
Speaker 2: Why don't we all make.
Speaker 3: Keisha's coronation a break and then have like a bake
Speaker 3: off key shop at I thought, who could.
Speaker 2: Be bothered on a Sunday night.
Speaker 3: I don't have the ingredients for a late night Kish.
Speaker 1: Mitch notice, because the King Charles has got his coronation,
Speaker 1: he wants everyone to make a coronation Keisch and I
Speaker 1: thought we could do like a great British bakeoff sort
Speaker 1: of thing.
Speaker 5: Look, it was a fantastic idea and I'm glad that
Speaker 5: it got.
Speaker 1: It was just a free way for me to get
Speaker 1: meals for the week. I just wanted to each and
Speaker 1: I was said to buy Hello Fresh.
Speaker 5: I would like five different flavors of the Keish to freeze, please.
Speaker 1: But speaking of the coronation quiche. You might be able
Speaker 1: to get a whiff of it yourself, because we're sending
Speaker 1: someone to London to see the King's coronation in the
Speaker 1: next fifteen minutes. So listen that.
Speaker 3: Well, I have some deal breakers from a relationship therapist.
Speaker 2: Now this isn't any therapist.
Speaker 3: This is Gwyneth poultro approof therapist. So I don't know
Speaker 3: what that's saying, but these are deal breakers that not
Speaker 3: even a therapist can fix.
Speaker 2: Oh, I tick a lot of the boxes.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I have. It's a very big pick
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Speaker 1: Now you may have seen this floating around of the weekend,
Speaker 1: a massive relationship therapist. He is so big and so powerful,
Speaker 1: so important that Gwyneth Paltrow has given him the tick
Speaker 1: of a.
Speaker 4: So we should probably stop following along with what he
Speaker 4: has to say immediately.
Speaker 2: So I assume you're talking about Stan Tatkin.
Speaker 3: Correct, Yes, yes, he wrote a book about how to
Speaker 3: overcome conflicts in a relationship, and Gwyneth Paltrow loves him.
Speaker 3: So yeah, let's not listen to anything he says. But
Speaker 3: what does he have to say?
Speaker 1: He's essentially said, here are the five major red flags.
Speaker 1: Your relationship cannot move past this. If you have experienced
Speaker 1: any one of these issues, your relationship is doomed. Put
Speaker 1: your life jacket on. Escape through the window now, because
Speaker 1: there is no going back. So let's see how we
Speaker 1: all fare if we all tick off any of these
Speaker 1: points from our past or current relationships. Point number one,
Speaker 1: you don't trust your partner due to previous infidelities.
Speaker 5: Oh I mean, yes, that feels pretty. That feels like
Speaker 5: some pretty good advice ground solid breaking stan.
Speaker 4: So cheating Yeah yeah yeah, well I mean, but not
Speaker 4: being able to get over the cheating.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, great, you're holding a grudge ship. I think
Speaker 1: we all can agree on that.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 1: Point number two, you want an open relationship, but your
Speaker 1: partner doesn't.
Speaker 3: Remember when I floated that went with my new boyfriend Bear,
Speaker 3: not the actual open relationship that I wanted one, but
Speaker 3: I just for like shits and giggles because we're new.
Speaker 3: I was like, how do you feel about an open relationship?
Speaker 3: Went down like a lead balloon. He was like, hard, No,
Speaker 3: it's cheating and we're long distance as well. Sook, these
Speaker 3: seemed pretty straightforward.
Speaker 1: What about number three? You want kids but your partner doesn't,
Speaker 1: relationships doomed.
Speaker 2: No, there's a pretty big deal breaker.
Speaker 5: I agree.
Speaker 4: I do think this is a deal breaker. However, I
Speaker 4: didn't really want kids when I first got with Matt,
Speaker 4: but he really wanted them and it kind of changed
Speaker 4: my mind.
Speaker 5: So I feel like you could change your mind. But
Speaker 5: you need to know pretty early on.
Speaker 2: What I'm hearing is Matt trapped you.
Speaker 4: Yep, so you can I was baby trapped by my
Speaker 4: now husband and the relationship is good.
Speaker 1: Wait, why did you not want kids? Laws? Because you're
Speaker 1: what I know. I only know you as a mother,
Speaker 1: but I look at you and go, you're the best
Speaker 1: mum out there.
Speaker 2: Ah, I forget you. Guys didn't know each other pre motherhood.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just never I never had that maternal urge.
Speaker 4: I mean a lot of women really had that sort
Speaker 4: of undying pool to become a mum, and that never
Speaker 4: hit me. I always kind of thought, well, maybe it
Speaker 4: might happen, and if it does, I'll be fine with it,
Speaker 4: I guess. But I never really could visualize myself as
Speaker 4: a mum. And then when Matt came along, because he's
Speaker 4: such I mean, he's he's built to be a dad.
Speaker 4: He's genuinely the best dad.
Speaker 5: I think, I just.
Speaker 4: Kind of I could see it more and more, and
Speaker 4: then all of a sudden, I was clucky and I
Speaker 4: was like, who is this person? When I was pregnant
Speaker 4: and you know, it all happened very quickly.
Speaker 2: Now I've got a tire leg shock we do?
Speaker 5: I'm like, you can't go right, BRIT's trying to stop
Speaker 5: me from havvy three?
Speaker 1: All right, point number three? Quiet? That was three point
Speaker 1: number four. I can't cap you hold a grudge over
Speaker 1: being asked to sign a pre nup.
Speaker 3: Oh this is actually sticky territory.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, do you know what?
Speaker 3: I just remember it. This is a blast from the past.
Speaker 3: When I was on the Bachelor Volcano six years ago. Now,
Speaker 3: I was on with the Honey Badger.
Speaker 5: Oh, yeah, who's currently in? Was in the jungle?
Speaker 2: Do you know what?
Speaker 3: We were on a date?
Speaker 2: I can't believe I've forgotten this.
Speaker 3: We were on a date towards the end, because for
Speaker 3: those plaint at home, I was the first person in
Speaker 3: the whole universe to win the Bachelor and not win anything.
Speaker 2: I got to the end.
Speaker 4: When you say, I got to the end, but you
Speaker 4: didn't win, you just got dumped at the end, Like,
Speaker 4: call what it is.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's right for you because you one had two
Speaker 3: kids and got married. You didn't wear a white dress,
Speaker 3: thinking you had the happy ever after and then got dumped.
Speaker 2: Okay, let me have my moment.
Speaker 5: Okay, sorry, one without winning, I got dumb.
Speaker 2: I one without winning.
Speaker 1: You lost.
Speaker 5: Look, it's about perceptions.
Speaker 2: I think I'm the real win here.
Speaker 3: No. But on one of the dates towards the end,
Speaker 3: he said to me. We're sitting in his car, we've
Speaker 3: been bowling, and he had said, out of nowhere, how
Speaker 3: do you feel about a prenup?
Speaker 2: That's what he said to me.
Speaker 3: Who yeah, And I was like wait, I was like,
Speaker 3: hang on for you or me, I'm probably more than
Speaker 3: you certainly do now.
Speaker 4: I imagine he wanted if you were to be the
Speaker 4: one at the end, he wanted to know how you
Speaker 4: felt about a prenup.
Speaker 2: Well, all he's.
Speaker 3: All I can say is I'm not going to twist words.
Speaker 3: But he did say, how do you feel? What are
Speaker 3: your thoughts on a prenup? And I actually made the
Speaker 3: joke and I said, yes, I'm glad you asked.
Speaker 2: I was probably gonna get you to sign one.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I thought it was funny at the time.
Speaker 1: How much was he making from those trady andies that
Speaker 1: he was flogging on break.
Speaker 3: We all know he made a lot. He made a
Speaker 3: lot for going on the batch. Obviously that's why he
Speaker 3: went on it, because he didn't end up with anyone.
Speaker 4: But I mean, I think it would definitely leave a
Speaker 4: bit of a sore taste if someone was so hell
Speaker 4: bent on signing a prenup. I know it's important because
Speaker 4: obviously it protects you, but it also signifies to me
Speaker 4: that maybe you're thinking that the relationship is not gonna last.
Speaker 3: Like no, because if I had, if I was when
Speaker 3: I make it to Hollywood, I have thought about this.
Speaker 2: When I make it to.
Speaker 3: Hollywood and I changed my name to Mayo, I would
Speaker 3: probably have a prenup. And I actually made manifest I
Speaker 3: think when you've got big, big money, I get it.
Speaker 2: I do understand it.
Speaker 3: Because if you've worked your whole life, you said this
Speaker 3: money and the other person doesn't want to contribute at
Speaker 3: all to the relationship.
Speaker 2: I think that's okay. Otherwise it's like fifty to fifty.
Speaker 1: None of us are luckily, you know, none of us.
Speaker 1: We'll be fine, none of us have to final point,
Speaker 1: this is the last one. You and your partner are
Speaker 1: forced to live far far away from each other Australia
Speaker 1: and Scotland.
Speaker 2: I Brittany and every relationship.
Speaker 3: How do you say about that, brit So are you saying,
Speaker 3: Mitch that Stan is saying that I'm doomed because I
Speaker 3: have a long distance.
Speaker 1: I don't agree with Stan, as we've proven he's not
Speaker 1: exactly bang on with the other points. But this is
Speaker 1: what he's saying, long distance will reship.
Speaker 4: Well, it says here that long distance it leads to
Speaker 4: dissatisfaction in the relationship.
Speaker 2: I agree.
Speaker 3: I'm going to agree with Stan. Actually, I don't think
Speaker 3: long distance relationships can work forever. I think they can
Speaker 3: be beautiful relationships if they have an end goal together
Speaker 3: and you're both working towards something. But you can't you
Speaker 3: can't be away from each other forever. Otherwise it's not
Speaker 3: a relationship.
Speaker 2: You have a pen pow.
Speaker 4: But we thoroughly look forward to the day when Ben
Speaker 4: moves to Australia, moving Scotland.
Speaker 3: Laura is in denial, but I might ever, ever ever leave.
Speaker 4: We can find about this off of offware.
Speaker 1: Do you guys have a prenup?
Speaker 4: We don't have a I feel like I'm just as
Speaker 4: much in a relationship with you as what I am
Speaker 4: with Matt.
Speaker 2: One hundred percent we are, so we don't have the
Speaker 2: makeup sexons.
Speaker 1: Listen, if you want to go to the UK to
Speaker 1: see the coronation of King Charles, we are sending you there.
Speaker 1: Collect your boarding pass to fly direct to London. Next
Speaker 1: at the pickup. It's the pick up Monday afternoon. Britt,
Speaker 1: Laura and Mitch head into chemist Warehouse today. Great savings
Speaker 1: every day, ladies. I was out on the weekend with
Speaker 1: a couple of pals, a couple of guy friends, and
Speaker 1: I got approached by two guys that apparently I went
Speaker 1: to school with. I didn't know them. I was obviously
Speaker 1: in an older year. They were in a younger year.
Speaker 1: They came up to me. They listened to the show,
Speaker 1: they listened to other things that I do. They've seen
Speaker 1: me around and they both thanked me for being openly gay.
Speaker 1: And I was out to dinner with my boyfriend and
Speaker 1: I saw a couple of them at Marti Goro as well,
Speaker 1: and they didn't come up to me, And it was
Speaker 1: a moment that I hadn't really had before where I
Speaker 1: was thanked for being openly gay, and it really touched me.
Speaker 1: I've never had that thing.
Speaker 3: Thanks in terms of you've helped them. They're obviously gay,
Speaker 3: You've helped them feel comfortable in who they are exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean where I'm from, it's a predominantly heterosexual
Speaker 1: Caucasian community, and I think seeing me in school and
Speaker 1: seeing me flourish outside of school especially touched them because
Speaker 1: they're obviously gay themselves.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well, because you correct me if I'm wrong, Mitch, you
Speaker 3: weren't gay at school. I mean you were gay, but
Speaker 3: you didn't come out at school.
Speaker 1: No, I didn't come out until twenty eighteen. I've only
Speaker 1: recently come out in the last five years or so.
Speaker 1: But then it got us talking about everything that's happening
Speaker 1: now with the Presbyterian Church that have come out and said,
Speaker 1: if you were a queer kid. If you were gay
Speaker 1: and you are in any of these religious schools in Victoria,
Speaker 1: essentially you can't rise to a position of power, which
Speaker 1: was me. I was school captain in both primary school
Speaker 1: and in high school still where the badge is proudly.
Speaker 4: Did you feel when you were at school, and I
Speaker 4: mean you went to a public school, did you feel
Speaker 4: that you weren't able to come out? Did you feel
Speaker 4: that there was a lot of shame around it? I mean,
Speaker 4: and this is how many years ago were you at school?
Speaker 1: I left in twenty thirteen, okay?
Speaker 4: And did you hold that in because you were worried
Speaker 4: about the judgment at the time or were you just
Speaker 4: not at a point where you grappled with your own
Speaker 4: sexuality on.
Speaker 1: It was one hundred percent because of everyone else. If
Speaker 1: it was a perfect world, I would have come out
Speaker 1: the moment I realized when I was eight, when I
Speaker 1: was nine.
Speaker 4: How does it make you feel then seeing this, I
Speaker 4: mean knowing that one you were school captain in your
Speaker 4: school and seeing what's going on in Victoria that if
Speaker 4: you go to a Presbyterian school there that if you
Speaker 4: are a queer kid, or if you're someone who is
Speaker 4: not even queer, if you're sexually active, that you're no
Speaker 4: longer potentially allowed to have a role of leadership within
Speaker 4: the school because it doesn't uphold the Christian values.
Speaker 2: In the school.
Speaker 1: Ridiculous. I mean, one, I think you made this point, Laura.
Speaker 1: How are they going to police it? I mean, are
Speaker 1: they going to go on your phone and see if
Speaker 1: you've got gay tinder or like look through your outside. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you turn up to school and they have a metal
Speaker 1: detector and go anyone I've got any sex toys. It's ridiculous.
Speaker 3: It's not going to be about that, but it's going
Speaker 3: to be about suppressing and I'm going to say child,
Speaker 3: because they are a child now under eighteen. It's suppressing
Speaker 3: kids to say, well, if you want to achieve anything
Speaker 3: here of significance, don't be gay, don't come out, don't
Speaker 3: be queer.
Speaker 2: And that's going to cause a whole bunch of problems.
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how awful it was going through
Speaker 1: school in year twelve, trying to work out my HC,
Speaker 1: trying to keep my parents happy, keep my friends happy,
Speaker 1: without the notion of potentially being different to everyone and
Speaker 1: being gay. Then I realized that on top of it,
Speaker 1: then the bullying that goes on top of it. It
Speaker 1: was one of the worst periods of my life. That's
Speaker 1: why I didn't come out until five years after school.
Speaker 3: Not just saying it's literally the more I'm thinking about it,
Speaker 3: the more refuriated I am imagine saying you're less than
Speaker 3: your peer because you're queer.
Speaker 1: Is that rhymes?
Speaker 3: That is a trademark that should not be This should
Speaker 3: not be happening to these poor kids in school.
Speaker 2: It should n't to anyone.
Speaker 3: Well, I should be at a disadvantage because they identify
Speaker 3: as quick.
Speaker 1: All it is is enforcing that this is wrong fundamentally,
Speaker 1: that something that you can't change, that you were born
Speaker 1: with is wrong, and you cannot be equal to someone
Speaker 1: in your exact same year because of this difference that
Speaker 1: you cannot that you wake up every day and you
Speaker 1: were stuck with the torture that it would do to
Speaker 1: young queer kids. It upsets me, but a young kid
Speaker 1: in high school it would do irreversible damage for their
Speaker 1: whole life.
Speaker 4: Reinforces to everybody else that it's okay for them to
Speaker 4: other you.
Speaker 5: At the same time, it's.
Speaker 3: Also saying school is not a safe place for kids
Speaker 3: to be no it's not a safe place. And did
Speaker 3: you meet experience boyling at school? Because were you perceived
Speaker 3: as gay? Was it assumed you were gay?
Speaker 1: What was your experience like, Yes, I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: the six inches of quaft here at the top and
Speaker 1: being the leader of the drama department didn't help.
Speaker 2: But I don't giveaway.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a giveaway. Yeah, but it was assumed
Speaker 1: that I was gay. I had got all the slurs
Speaker 1: under the sun. And I'm lucky that I had a
Speaker 1: great family and I was lucky that I was headstrong enough.
Speaker 1: But you get one kid who has it's awful. You
Speaker 1: get one kid who's got a tough upbringing and he's
Speaker 1: also grappling with their sexuality, and that is enough to
Speaker 1: really ruin someone's life.
Speaker 5: Yeah, one of the things I thought was really interesting.
Speaker 4: So the Scotch College chairman, Alex Loan came out and said,
Speaker 4: we will continue to reflect values of respect, tolerance and inclusion.
Speaker 4: It's okay to say one thing that you're doing the
Speaker 4: complete opposite. There is nothing about tolerance or inclusion that's
Speaker 4: happening here. When you say that children who are quit,
Speaker 4: you cannot take leadership calling bullshit on Sloan.
Speaker 1: So yeah. Also, if your belief's stopping others from doing
Speaker 1: something that is inherently part of them, they're not beliefs.
Speaker 1: It's discrimination. This is the pickup. It's the pickup Monday, Avo, Britt,
Speaker 1: Laura and Mitch. Here. If you're stuck on a Mother's
Speaker 1: Day gift, it's coming up really soon. It's going to
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Speaker 4: Look, speaking of being a mother, speaking of Mother's Day,
Speaker 4: something happened to me on the weekend with my beautiful
Speaker 4: little girl, Molly May three and a half, and look,
Speaker 4: I was out. We were going out for dinner, Matt
Speaker 4: and I on Friday night. I got home late from
Speaker 4: work and I needed to rush, get the kids in
Speaker 4: the shower, have a shower myself, get myself ready to
Speaker 4: get out for dinner.
Speaker 5: Lots of things, lots of ball juggling.
Speaker 4: Anyway, I got Mary and we had a shower together,
Speaker 4: which I haven't Mulli's three and a half. I haven't
Speaker 4: had or needed to have a shower with my little girl.
Speaker 4: In literally a year, there's been no reason for us
Speaker 4: to have a shower.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it saves time.
Speaker 4: But anyway, being that she's so little, of course, she's
Speaker 4: always a bit inquisitive. Like whenever you get in the
Speaker 4: shower with her, she's a bit like, oh, that all
Speaker 4: looks a bit different to what's going on with me.
Speaker 4: I could see her sizing me up a bit, and
Speaker 4: you can see her little brain ticking over, and.
Speaker 5: I thought, oh, if she as something, I'll explain, but
Speaker 5: you know she didn't.
Speaker 4: So anyway, I get her out of the shower, I
Speaker 4: tell her off, I give her to Matt, and Matt's
Speaker 4: getting her dressed in the bedroom and I was like
Speaker 4: running around trying to get myself ready, and I could
Speaker 4: hear her speaking to dad and she says, Daddy, are
Speaker 4: you hairy and Matt Matt was like, yeah, look I've
Speaker 4: got hair on my chest, I got hair on my face.
Speaker 4: And she goes, ah, okay, and Mummy's Harry and he
Speaker 4: was like yeah, because we're adults, and as adults, you know,
Speaker 4: we've got hair on us. And when you become an adult,
Speaker 4: you'll get hair on you too. And you could hear
Speaker 4: it in the tone of her voice. She was so happy.
Speaker 5: She goes, Daddy, I'm gonna get hair when I'm an adult.
Speaker 4: And he was like yeah, She goes, are you gonna
Speaker 4: have a big hairy China like mummy?
Speaker 2: Oh? And let.
Speaker 5: Group and I was speechless.
Speaker 3: From next door, I saw Matt, I saw a Facebook
Speaker 3: VI swap cell Matt looking for a lawnmower. O, my god, anyone.
Speaker 1: Free with a snipper going around? No.
Speaker 4: I just had a moment where I was like, right,
Speaker 4: she's trying to give me a compliment, but at the
Speaker 4: same time, that's very far.
Speaker 2: I don't even think it's a compliment.
Speaker 5: I think she's excited. One day she'll be there. But look,
Speaker 5: it was.
Speaker 4: I feel like there's been so many times where children
Speaker 4: have tried to give you a compliment and what they've
Speaker 4: done has been truly offensive.
Speaker 1: Helly's called on thirteen one six five, Hi Kel, what
Speaker 1: child insulted you? What happened?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 6: Guys, Oh I love this show you right? Okay, So,
Speaker 6: my beautiful daughter Lily came up to me, gave me
Speaker 6: the biggest cuddle, and she just looked at me, looked
Speaker 6: up at me with these loving eyes and just goes mom,
Speaker 6: it must just be so comfy you sit. I said,
Speaker 6: oh god, what do you mean, and she said, well,
Speaker 6: your bum's like two big cushions. It must be just
Speaker 6: so comfy.
Speaker 5: Honey, you're like I have been doing my squats.
Speaker 1: Thanks.
Speaker 2: I think that is a compliment. I didn't mind a cushioning.
Speaker 2: But yeah, look, I mean everything, Yeah, mine gets bigger
Speaker 2: for you. I think you embrace that. Look at the Kardashians.
Speaker 5: They made living off their comfy, but you should be
Speaker 5: loving that. Kil that's right.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'll tell my daughter that she's actually called you
Speaker 6: Kim Kardashian.
Speaker 2: Let's twist the compliment.
Speaker 1: People pay a lot of money for BBL. That was
Speaker 1: free charge, all right, guys, Will and what a you
Speaker 1: are up next with Brooke Bonie. She's still on because
Speaker 1: what is still in the jungle.
Speaker 2: I think he's going to win.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he could win, all right, guys, thanks for listening. Bye,