WEBVTT - FULLSHOW! Laura's daughter says the darndest things... 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:19.680 Come on, oh my god, it's Monday. 0:00:19.800 --> 0:00:22.120 Oh my god. And you say that like you're surprised. 0:00:22.120 --> 0:00:24.640 It creeps up to you every Sunday and Monday comes off. 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:26.319 How nice is it though, that we only have to 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:28.360 work for one day and then everyone gets another day off. 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:29.680 Isn't that so good? 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:32.320 Do you know my favorite part of We're in a 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:34.920 group chat and Mitch said, I've got a brilliant idea 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:35.920 for this week. 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:37.159 Why don't we all make. 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:42.560 Keisha's coronation a break and then have like a bake 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:44.600 off key shop at I thought, who could. 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:45.640 Be bothered on a Sunday night. 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:47.680 I don't have the ingredients for a late night Kish. 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:50.080 Mitch notice, because the King Charles has got his coronation, 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:51.920 he wants everyone to make a coronation Keisch and I 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.040 thought we could do like a great British bakeoff sort 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:54.279 of thing. 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:56.200 Look, it was a fantastic idea and I'm glad that 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:56.640 it got. 0:00:57.200 --> 0:00:58.520 It was just a free way for me to get 0:00:58.520 --> 0:00:59.920 meals for the week. I just wanted to each and 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:03.440 I was said to buy Hello Fresh. 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:06.039 I would like five different flavors of the Keish to freeze, please. 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:09.119 But speaking of the coronation quiche. You might be able 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:10.720 to get a whiff of it yourself, because we're sending 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:13.520 someone to London to see the King's coronation in the 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:14.960 next fifteen minutes. So listen that. 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:18.800 Well, I have some deal breakers from a relationship therapist. 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:20.039 Now this isn't any therapist. 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:22.560 This is Gwyneth poultro approof therapist. So I don't know 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:25.520 what that's saying, but these are deal breakers that not 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:27.880 even a therapist can fix. 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:31.839 Oh, I tick a lot of the boxes. 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:35.080 Oh my god, I have. It's a very big pick 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:37.360 up around the country, all thanks to Chemists Warehouse, by 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:39.520 the way, great savings every day. It's the pickup Britt, 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:41.920 Laura and MITCHI are stuck on a Mother's Day gift 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:45.040 Chemists Warehouse as you, covered with big brand fragrances at 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:49.480 the lowest possible prices. Chemist Warehouse, Great savings every day. 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:51.640 Now you may have seen this floating around of the weekend, 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:56.760 a massive relationship therapist. He is so big and so powerful, 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:59.720 so important that Gwyneth Paltrow has given him the tick 0:01:59.720 --> 0:02:00.720 of a. 0:02:00.440 --> 0:02:02.560 So we should probably stop following along with what he 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:03.880 has to say immediately. 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:06.760 So I assume you're talking about Stan Tatkin. 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:09.400 Correct, Yes, yes, he wrote a book about how to 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:12.040 overcome conflicts in a relationship, and Gwyneth Paltrow loves him. 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:13.760 So yeah, let's not listen to anything he says. But 0:02:13.840 --> 0:02:14.839 what does he have to say? 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.920 He's essentially said, here are the five major red flags. 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:21.440 Your relationship cannot move past this. If you have experienced 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:25.160 any one of these issues, your relationship is doomed. Put 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:27.919 your life jacket on. Escape through the window now, because 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:30.080 there is no going back. So let's see how we 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:31.639 all fare if we all tick off any of these 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:36.040 points from our past or current relationships. Point number one, 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:39.120 you don't trust your partner due to previous infidelities. 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:42.360 Oh I mean, yes, that feels pretty. That feels like 0:02:42.520 --> 0:02:45.200 some pretty good advice ground solid breaking stan. 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:47.880 So cheating Yeah yeah yeah, well I mean, but not 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:49.160 being able to get over the cheating. 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:51.200 Yes, yeah, great, you're holding a grudge ship. I think 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:52.040 we all can agree on that. 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:52.640 Yes. 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:55.760 Point number two, you want an open relationship, but your 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:57.119 partner doesn't. 0:02:57.560 --> 0:02:59.960 Remember when I floated that went with my new boyfriend Bear, 0:03:00.240 --> 0:03:02.560 not the actual open relationship that I wanted one, but 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:05.079 I just for like shits and giggles because we're new. 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:07.519 I was like, how do you feel about an open relationship? 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:09.799 Went down like a lead balloon. He was like, hard, No, 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:12.840 it's cheating and we're long distance as well. Sook, these 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:13.880 seemed pretty straightforward. 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:18.240 What about number three? You want kids but your partner doesn't, 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:19.359 relationships doomed. 0:03:19.880 --> 0:03:21.359 No, there's a pretty big deal breaker. 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:22.200 I agree. 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:25.799 I do think this is a deal breaker. However, I 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:28.160 didn't really want kids when I first got with Matt, 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.200 but he really wanted them and it kind of changed 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:30.560 my mind. 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:32.400 So I feel like you could change your mind. But 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:33.400 you need to know pretty early on. 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:34.680 What I'm hearing is Matt trapped you. 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.720 Yep, so you can I was baby trapped by my 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:40.200 now husband and the relationship is good. 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:42.360 Wait, why did you not want kids? Laws? Because you're 0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:44.119 what I know. I only know you as a mother, 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:45.520 but I look at you and go, you're the best 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:46.080 mum out there. 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:50.040 Ah, I forget you. Guys didn't know each other pre motherhood. 0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:53.080 Yeah, I just never I never had that maternal urge. 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.680 I mean a lot of women really had that sort 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:58.280 of undying pool to become a mum, and that never 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:00.960 hit me. I always kind of thought, well, maybe it 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:02.920 might happen, and if it does, I'll be fine with it, 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:05.840 I guess. But I never really could visualize myself as 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.640 a mum. And then when Matt came along, because he's 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:10.680 such I mean, he's he's built to be a dad. 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:12.400 He's genuinely the best dad. 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:13.560 I think, I just. 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:15.120 Kind of I could see it more and more, and 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:16.440 then all of a sudden, I was clucky and I 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:19.400 was like, who is this person? When I was pregnant 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:20.680 and you know, it all happened very quickly. 0:04:20.680 --> 0:04:23.960 Now I've got a tire leg shock we do? 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:27.160 I'm like, you can't go right, BRIT's trying to stop 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:27.760 me from havvy three? 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:31.360 All right, point number three? Quiet? That was three point 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:36.120 number four. I can't cap you hold a grudge over 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:37.920 being asked to sign a pre nup. 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:41.880 Oh this is actually sticky territory. 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:44.640 Oh my god, do you know what? 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.360 I just remember it. This is a blast from the past. 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:52.160 When I was on the Bachelor Volcano six years ago. Now, 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:54.080 I was on with the Honey Badger. 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:56.480 Oh, yeah, who's currently in? Was in the jungle? 0:04:56.640 --> 0:04:57.280 Do you know what? 0:04:57.440 --> 0:04:58.160 We were on a date? 0:04:58.200 --> 0:04:59.280 I can't believe I've forgotten this. 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:01.080 We were on a date towards the end, because for 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:03.120 those plaint at home, I was the first person in 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:05.240 the whole universe to win the Bachelor and not win anything. 0:05:05.240 --> 0:05:05.919 I got to the end. 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:09.360 When you say, I got to the end, but you 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:11.839 didn't win, you just got dumped at the end, Like, 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:12.920 call what it is. 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:14.840 Okay, it's right for you because you one had two 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:17.119 kids and got married. You didn't wear a white dress, 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.119 thinking you had the happy ever after and then got dumped. 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:20.120 Okay, let me have my moment. 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:22.240 Okay, sorry, one without winning, I got dumb. 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:23.200 I one without winning. 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:24.279 You lost. 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:27.400 Look, it's about perceptions. 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:29.400 I think I'm the real win here. 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:31.800 No. But on one of the dates towards the end, 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:34.719 he said to me. We're sitting in his car, we've 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:38.400 been bowling, and he had said, out of nowhere, how 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:39.640 do you feel about a prenup? 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:40.760 That's what he said to me. 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:44.159 Who yeah, And I was like wait, I was like, 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:45.800 hang on for you or me, I'm probably more than 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:47.240 you certainly do now. 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:51.440 I imagine he wanted if you were to be the 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:52.880 one at the end, he wanted to know how you 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:53.920 felt about a prenup. 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:54.560 Well, all he's. 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:56.560 All I can say is I'm not going to twist words. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.880 But he did say, how do you feel? What are 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.159 your thoughts on a prenup? And I actually made the 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:03.640 joke and I said, yes, I'm glad you asked. 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:04.880 I was probably gonna get you to sign one. 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:06.960 Oh my god, I thought it was funny at the time. 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:08.960 How much was he making from those trady andies that 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:11.200 he was flogging on break. 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:12.440 We all know he made a lot. He made a 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:13.800 lot for going on the batch. Obviously that's why he 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:15.240 went on it, because he didn't end up with anyone. 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:18.400 But I mean, I think it would definitely leave a 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:20.440 bit of a sore taste if someone was so hell 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:23.119 bent on signing a prenup. I know it's important because 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:26.520 obviously it protects you, but it also signifies to me 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:29.040 that maybe you're thinking that the relationship is not gonna last. 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:32.400 Like no, because if I had, if I was when 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:33.960 I make it to Hollywood, I have thought about this. 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:34.479 When I make it to. 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:37.080 Hollywood and I changed my name to Mayo, I would 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.560 probably have a prenup. And I actually made manifest I 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:41.760 think when you've got big, big money, I get it. 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:42.800 I do understand it. 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.839 Because if you've worked your whole life, you said this 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:46.880 money and the other person doesn't want to contribute at 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:47.880 all to the relationship. 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:50.400 I think that's okay. Otherwise it's like fifty to fifty. 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:52.279 None of us are luckily, you know, none of us. 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:56.120 We'll be fine, none of us have to final point, 0:06:56.160 --> 0:06:58.760 this is the last one. You and your partner are 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:03.240 forced to live far far away from each other Australia 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:03.840 and Scotland. 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:06.719 I Brittany and every relationship. 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:10.840 How do you say about that, brit So are you saying, 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:13.400 Mitch that Stan is saying that I'm doomed because I 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:14.440 have a long distance. 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:17.320 I don't agree with Stan, as we've proven he's not 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.040 exactly bang on with the other points. But this is 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:20.960 what he's saying, long distance will reship. 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:24.480 Well, it says here that long distance it leads to 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.720 dissatisfaction in the relationship. 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:27.520 I agree. 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:29.840 I'm going to agree with Stan. Actually, I don't think 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:33.000 long distance relationships can work forever. I think they can 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:36.520 be beautiful relationships if they have an end goal together 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:40.400 and you're both working towards something. But you can't you 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:42.200 can't be away from each other forever. Otherwise it's not 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:42.840 a relationship. 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:43.520 You have a pen pow. 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:45.520 But we thoroughly look forward to the day when Ben 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:48.000 moves to Australia, moving Scotland. 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:50.920 Laura is in denial, but I might ever, ever ever leave. 0:07:51.280 --> 0:07:54.040 We can find about this off of offware. 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:57.080 Do you guys have a prenup? 0:07:57.240 --> 0:08:01.120 We don't have a I feel like I'm just as 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:02.720 much in a relationship with you as what I am 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:03.160 with Matt. 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:04.720 One hundred percent we are, so we don't have the 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:05.400 makeup sexons. 0:08:07.120 --> 0:08:08.760 Listen, if you want to go to the UK to 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:11.680 see the coronation of King Charles, we are sending you there. 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:14.600 Collect your boarding pass to fly direct to London. Next 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:17.280 at the pickup. It's the pick up Monday afternoon. Britt, 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:20.320 Laura and Mitch head into chemist Warehouse today. Great savings 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:22.880 every day, ladies. I was out on the weekend with 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:25.240 a couple of pals, a couple of guy friends, and 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:29.080 I got approached by two guys that apparently I went 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:32.000 to school with. I didn't know them. I was obviously 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:33.760 in an older year. They were in a younger year. 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:35.760 They came up to me. They listened to the show, 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:37.440 they listened to other things that I do. They've seen 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:41.840 me around and they both thanked me for being openly gay. 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:44.320 And I was out to dinner with my boyfriend and 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:46.600 I saw a couple of them at Marti Goro as well, 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:47.760 and they didn't come up to me, And it was 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:50.240 a moment that I hadn't really had before where I 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:54.560 was thanked for being openly gay, and it really touched me. 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:55.320 I've never had that thing. 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.880 Thanks in terms of you've helped them. They're obviously gay, 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.160 You've helped them feel comfortable in who they are exactly. 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:04.960 Yeah. I mean where I'm from, it's a predominantly heterosexual 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:08.440 Caucasian community, and I think seeing me in school and 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:11.720 seeing me flourish outside of school especially touched them because 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:12.760 they're obviously gay themselves. 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:13.040 Yeah. 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:15.240 Well, because you correct me if I'm wrong, Mitch, you 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.120 weren't gay at school. I mean you were gay, but 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:18.280 you didn't come out at school. 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:20.760 No, I didn't come out until twenty eighteen. I've only 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.640 recently come out in the last five years or so. 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:24.880 But then it got us talking about everything that's happening 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.280 now with the Presbyterian Church that have come out and said, 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:29.720 if you were a queer kid. If you were gay 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:32.880 and you are in any of these religious schools in Victoria, 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:35.400 essentially you can't rise to a position of power, which 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:37.480 was me. I was school captain in both primary school 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:39.439 and in high school still where the badge is proudly. 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.080 Did you feel when you were at school, and I 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:46.080 mean you went to a public school, did you feel 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:48.680 that you weren't able to come out? Did you feel 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:50.360 that there was a lot of shame around it? I mean, 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:52.440 and this is how many years ago were you at school? 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:54.200 I left in twenty thirteen, okay? 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:56.800 And did you hold that in because you were worried 0:09:56.840 --> 0:09:59.000 about the judgment at the time or were you just 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:00.760 not at a point where you grappled with your own 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:01.640 sexuality on. 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:04.760 It was one hundred percent because of everyone else. If 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:06.319 it was a perfect world, I would have come out 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:08.080 the moment I realized when I was eight, when I 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:08.559 was nine. 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:10.520 How does it make you feel then seeing this, I 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:12.480 mean knowing that one you were school captain in your 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.920 school and seeing what's going on in Victoria that if 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.520 you go to a Presbyterian school there that if you 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:20.320 are a queer kid, or if you're someone who is 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:23.040 not even queer, if you're sexually active, that you're no 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:25.959 longer potentially allowed to have a role of leadership within 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:28.319 the school because it doesn't uphold the Christian values. 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:28.600 In the school. 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.720 Ridiculous. I mean, one, I think you made this point, Laura. 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:32.280 How are they going to police it? I mean, are 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:33.480 they going to go on your phone and see if 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:36.079 you've got gay tinder or like look through your outside. Yeah, 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:37.319 you turn up to school and they have a metal 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:39.680 detector and go anyone I've got any sex toys. It's ridiculous. 0:10:39.720 --> 0:10:41.040 It's not going to be about that, but it's going 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:43.280 to be about suppressing and I'm going to say child, 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:46.080 because they are a child now under eighteen. It's suppressing 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.760 kids to say, well, if you want to achieve anything 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:52.040 here of significance, don't be gay, don't come out, don't 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:52.520 be queer. 0:10:52.840 --> 0:10:55.360 And that's going to cause a whole bunch of problems. 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:57.920 I can't tell you how awful it was going through 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:01.200 school in year twelve, trying to work out my HC, 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.000 trying to keep my parents happy, keep my friends happy, 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:07.360 without the notion of potentially being different to everyone and 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.360 being gay. Then I realized that on top of it, 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:11.200 then the bullying that goes on top of it. It 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:13.000 was one of the worst periods of my life. That's 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:14.920 why I didn't come out until five years after school. 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:17.800 Not just saying it's literally the more I'm thinking about it, 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:22.720 the more refuriated I am imagine saying you're less than 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:24.120 your peer because you're queer. 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:25.800 Is that rhymes? 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.520 That is a trademark that should not be This should 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:30.240 not be happening to these poor kids in school. 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:31.040 It should n't to anyone. 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:34.120 Well, I should be at a disadvantage because they identify 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:34.520 as quick. 0:11:34.640 --> 0:11:38.000 All it is is enforcing that this is wrong fundamentally, 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.800 that something that you can't change, that you were born 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:44.400 with is wrong, and you cannot be equal to someone 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:47.200 in your exact same year because of this difference that 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:49.280 you cannot that you wake up every day and you 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:52.480 were stuck with the torture that it would do to 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:56.280 young queer kids. It upsets me, but a young kid 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:59.280 in high school it would do irreversible damage for their 0:11:59.320 --> 0:11:59.800 whole life. 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:03.160 Reinforces to everybody else that it's okay for them to 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:03.640 other you. 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:04.800 At the same time, it's. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.839 Also saying school is not a safe place for kids 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.560 to be no it's not a safe place. And did 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:13.640 you meet experience boyling at school? Because were you perceived 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:15.679 as gay? Was it assumed you were gay? 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:17.640 What was your experience like, Yes, I mean, you know, 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:19.280 the six inches of quaft here at the top and 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.680 being the leader of the drama department didn't help. 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:22.319 But I don't giveaway. 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:24.640 Yeah, it was a giveaway. Yeah, but it was assumed 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:26.559 that I was gay. I had got all the slurs 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.880 under the sun. And I'm lucky that I had a 0:12:28.920 --> 0:12:31.760 great family and I was lucky that I was headstrong enough. 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:34.679 But you get one kid who has it's awful. You 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.520 get one kid who's got a tough upbringing and he's 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:39.200 also grappling with their sexuality, and that is enough to 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:41.800 really ruin someone's life. 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:44.080 Yeah, one of the things I thought was really interesting. 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:47.319 So the Scotch College chairman, Alex Loan came out and said, 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:51.840 we will continue to reflect values of respect, tolerance and inclusion. 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:54.960 It's okay to say one thing that you're doing the 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:58.080 complete opposite. There is nothing about tolerance or inclusion that's 0:12:58.120 --> 0:12:59.960 happening here. When you say that children who are quit, 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:02.280 you cannot take leadership calling bullshit on Sloan. 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:06.240 So yeah. Also, if your belief's stopping others from doing 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:09.199 something that is inherently part of them, they're not beliefs. 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:13.000 It's discrimination. This is the pickup. It's the pickup Monday, Avo, Britt, 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:15.040 Laura and Mitch. Here. If you're stuck on a Mother's 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:16.640 Day gift, it's coming up really soon. It's going to 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:18.559 sneak up on your Mother's Day. Always does. Chemist to 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:21.400 Warehouse has you covered for big brand fragrances at the 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.640 lowest prices. Chemist were House, great savings every day. 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:27.840 Look, speaking of being a mother, speaking of Mother's Day, 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:31.160 something happened to me on the weekend with my beautiful 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:34.600 little girl, Molly May three and a half, and look, 0:13:34.640 --> 0:13:36.240 I was out. We were going out for dinner, Matt 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:38.240 and I on Friday night. I got home late from 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:40.000 work and I needed to rush, get the kids in 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.600 the shower, have a shower myself, get myself ready to 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:43.319 get out for dinner. 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:45.000 Lots of things, lots of ball juggling. 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:47.760 Anyway, I got Mary and we had a shower together, 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:50.280 which I haven't Mulli's three and a half. I haven't 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:52.720 had or needed to have a shower with my little girl. 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:55.320 In literally a year, there's been no reason for us 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:55.880 to have a shower. 0:13:57.000 --> 0:13:57.200 Yeah. 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:58.040 Yeah, it saves time. 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:01.080 But anyway, being that she's so little, of course, she's 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:03.200 always a bit inquisitive. Like whenever you get in the 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:05.240 shower with her, she's a bit like, oh, that all 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:07.200 looks a bit different to what's going on with me. 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:09.880 I could see her sizing me up a bit, and 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.880 you can see her little brain ticking over, and. 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:15.040 I thought, oh, if she as something, I'll explain, but 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:15.760 you know she didn't. 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:18.199 So anyway, I get her out of the shower, I 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:20.640 tell her off, I give her to Matt, and Matt's 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.160 getting her dressed in the bedroom and I was like 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:25.800 running around trying to get myself ready, and I could 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:30.440 hear her speaking to dad and she says, Daddy, are 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:33.440 you hairy and Matt Matt was like, yeah, look I've 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:35.760 got hair on my chest, I got hair on my face. 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:41.400 And she goes, ah, okay, and Mummy's Harry and he 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:44.560 was like yeah, because we're adults, and as adults, you know, 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:47.560 we've got hair on us. And when you become an adult, 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:50.440 you'll get hair on you too. And you could hear 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:53.440 it in the tone of her voice. She was so happy. 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:57.720 She goes, Daddy, I'm gonna get hair when I'm an adult. 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:00.400 And he was like yeah, She goes, are you gonna 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:02.520 have a big hairy China like mummy? 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:05.320 Oh? And let. 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:11.040 Group and I was speechless. 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:14.600 From next door, I saw Matt, I saw a Facebook 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:20.360 VI swap cell Matt looking for a lawnmower. O, my god, anyone. 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:22.640 Free with a snipper going around? No. 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:25.040 I just had a moment where I was like, right, 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:27.680 she's trying to give me a compliment, but at the 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:29.320 same time, that's very far. 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:30.760 I don't even think it's a compliment. 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:34.240 I think she's excited. One day she'll be there. But look, 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:34.760 it was. 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:37.080 I feel like there's been so many times where children 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:38.880 have tried to give you a compliment and what they've 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:40.040 done has been truly offensive. 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:42.880 Helly's called on thirteen one six five, Hi Kel, what 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:44.280 child insulted you? What happened? 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:45.400 Oh? 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:50.120 Guys, Oh I love this show you right? Okay, So, 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:52.760