WEBVTT - The first 6 weeks of mum life 👶 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:06.080 It has been the most surreal, like, the happiest, the 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:12.600 most like fulfilling, craziest emotional ride of my life. And 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:14.360 it's so crazy because when I was in it, I 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:17.960 was like, you know, everyone tells you it's wild and 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:23.280 it's intense and it's life changing, but until you actually 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:36.760 experience it, I just can't. There's nothing to compare to it. 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:43.120 Welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm your host, 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:48.440 Georgie Stevenson, former lawyer turned entrepreneur, social media personality and 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:52.840 personal development junkie. 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I am back in your ears in 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:44.640 real time with a bit of a mum episode, and 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:47.160 I just want to chat about the first six weeks 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:53.760 of having a newborn because it has been the most surreal, 0:01:54.240 --> 0:02:01.000 like the happiest, the most fulfilling, craziest emotional ride of 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.840 my life. And it's so crazy because when I was 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:06.560 in it, I was like, you know, everyone tells you 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:11.720 it's wild and it's intense and it's life changing, but 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:16.880 until you actually experience it, I just can't. There's nothing 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:19.200 too compare to it. Like I was explaining to a 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:22.520 girlfriend any other life event, like you know, when you 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:27.200 get married, it's obviously super special or engaged or whatever, 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:30.359 like it's super special, but apart from the actual date, 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:34.280 nothing really changes that much in your relationship, like maybe 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:37.800 a little bit. But having a baby, like from the 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:41.400 time they're born, your life changes. And it is the 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:46.640 biggest just slip in the face and just reality check 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:50.720 I have ever experienced. I'm not gonna lie. It was 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:55.400 super challenging for me, going from someone who had a 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:59.120 lot of independence, who did what she wanted when she 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:03.720 wanted who you know, work wise, even like I'm very 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:06.280 blessed in the way that I create my own schedule, 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:08.799 I have a team, so I can take time off 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:13.639 when I wanted, and yeah, just like I'm not gonna lie, 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:20.080 we're really amazing life, really like care free, almost a 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:25.160 bit selfish sort of situation. Then going to a scenario 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:30.320 when you have this newborn who needs you twenty four seven, 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:35.240 who has to feed every couple of hours, who keeps 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:38.360 you up at night, who needs all your time, energy 0:03:38.400 --> 0:03:44.200 and attention, it is an adjustment and a challenge, to 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:48.280 say the least. And even though you know people talk 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:51.800 about it, when you're experiencing it, it is. Yeah, it's 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:56.400 wild and it's very emotional. And I remember thinking, why 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:58.760 does no one talk about this? Why does Norman tell 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:02.320 you how, you know, crazy and tense this time is? 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.200 And I think they do. I just don't think you 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:08.000 absorb it. But yeah, I wanted to do just a 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:11.320 bit in an episode talking about the first six weeks because, 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:15.200 to be completely honest, I wasn't really prepared for it, 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:20.200 and I felt a bit isolated and a bit you know, 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:25.159 it's such this transformation, it's such this transformative time when 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:30.000 you're basically going from one person into two people. That's 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:33.800 exactly what's happening, and it's just it's really surreal and 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:37.400 it's a lot and yeah, and I feel like a 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:41.239 lot of my new mums or soon to be mums 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:47.560 will be able to resonate and yeah, resonate with this episodes. 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:51.239 I just wanted to do a little episode about our experiences, 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:55.680 you know, what's helped, what hasn't, what we've learned, and 0:04:55.760 --> 0:05:00.039 go from there. Obviously, every baby is so different, and 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:03.920 we got a call of key Baby, which is very 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:07.040 hard and challenging when your baby is upset most of 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:10.400 the time, and collectus means when your baby cries a lot. 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:15.800 And paul Ivy girl had a lot of stomach issues 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.159 at the start, and I was doing a lot of 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.400 things wrong to be honest, and yeah, so I'm just 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:23.000 going to go through it. And so let's get into 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:26.880 the first six weeks of being a mum. So the 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:29.200 first one or two weeks, like you get home from 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:33.160 the hospital and it's such a blur. You're you know, 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:37.479 you're recovering from birth. You're probably wearing nappies or period 0:05:37.520 --> 0:05:40.160 undees or pads. There's a lot happening down there. You're 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:45.440 quite sore, you're very tired, and then you've got to 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:49.680 like work out this breastfeeding thing. Something I definitely recommend 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:54.640 is asking for a lactation consultant. When you're in the hospital. 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:57.960 They do get you to go to a lactation class. 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:01.599 Definitely do that, but if you're not feeling one hundred 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:05.159 percent confident, ask for a consultant and that's where the 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:08.800 consultant will come to your room and talk to you individually. 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:12.600 I cannot recommend that enough because breastfeeding is hard. Like 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.760 I just thought, ibe will just latch on, it will 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:18.839 be all fine, and it's just not. So you know, 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:22.560 that can happen, but often it's quite complicated and there's 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:26.719 all these things like them latching properly, you know, making 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:28.320 sure they have a good latch so you don't have 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:33.200 soret nipples, how how long you should have them on there, 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:36.279 so they're getting not just the fore milk but the 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:39.880 hind milk, because it's important for them not to just 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:42.760 snack and have a little bit then get off, because 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:47.040 that first milk is often quite sugary and it doesn't 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:49.159 have a lot of nutrients in it, whereas the milk 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:51.800 they get when they're on there for longer has a 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:54.600 lot more nutrients. Is going to sustain them. So if 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:56.640 you find that you have a baby that just like 0:06:57.160 --> 0:07:00.240 sucks for a little bit then gets off and on, 0:07:00.440 --> 0:07:03.239 they're not getting like a full feed, which Ivy was doing. 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:07.920 And also the fore milk was creating a lot of 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:13.880 tummy issues for her. It's high and lactose and it can, 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:18.320 yeah create tummy issues. So also something I realize is 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:21.520 I wasn't feeding her enough, so like she would jump on, 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:26.160 she would breastfeed for like maybe six minutes, and then 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:28.640 she would fall asleep and I would think, oh, she's 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:32.360 had a feed. I'd put her down. What I didn't 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:35.440 realize is newborn's love to sleep. So again what I 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:39.880 just said is I realized I didn't realize. But then 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:43.040 she would wake up and scream and basically she was 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.680 hungry all the time, and I wasn't feeding her enough, 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.600 and then it was causing all these issues. And so 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:51.840 what we then realized is we had to feed her, 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:54.000 wake her up a bit, make sure she has a 0:07:54.080 --> 0:08:00.920 full feed, and that helped so much. Another thing that 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.760 we didn't realize at the start, And you're probably thinking, Georgia, 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.200 this is like so silly, of course you do this, 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:11.560 But because Ivy was a very gassy vomity baby. She 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:14.200 needs to be burped so much more than like a 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:17.760 normal baby. I've been told whereas as soon as she 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:21.320 unlatches from the boob or the bottle, we get her 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:24.200 up and burp. So I just thought you fed them 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.120 and you burn them right at the end, and that 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:29.440 just does not work for her. We have to burp 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:34.040 her throughout the whole feed. Otherwise she doesn't burp, and 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:36.320 she's got a burp stuck in there and she feeds 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:37.920 on top of that, and then as soon as you 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:41.480 get her up, she just vomits everything on top of burp, 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:44.520 if that makes sense. So we had to burp her 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:47.920 a lot more, feed her a lot more, and she 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:52.079 started to get a bit more happier. The whole sleep 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:56.080 depriving thing is insane. You're just not ready for it 0:08:56.280 --> 0:09:00.719 at all. And also then you just get so emotional. 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:05.240 So I had the baby blues pretty hard, where I 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:09.520 was crying every single day, multiple times a day, probably 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:13.000 from day three or four for like two weeks. And 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:15.760 it's not like I was sad, it was just well, 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:19.160 sometimes I may have been, but I was just overwhelmed, 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:23.440 like the feeling of the hormones the love you have 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.880 for this newborn. It's just a lot, and you just 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:29.480 cry all the time. And something that I would go 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:33.960 back to myself and say, is it's all good. Like cry, 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:37.400 let it out and just get a hug from Tim 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:41.199 or your parents, and it's all good. Because those hormones 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.800 really do settle by week three for me personally, and 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:47.280 during it when I was feeling all those feelings, I 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:50.319 started to get really worried that I would feel those 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:54.120 feelings forever and that's what motherhood was, and it's just 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:57.000 not you feel those feelings. It's just so intense from 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.880 being pregnant and the birth. But like do not stri 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:04.080 they go and they level out obviously for you still 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:08.520 feel like that after, you know, the first six to 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:14.560 twelve weeks. Definitely recommend seeing someone professionally, but personally, my 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:20.560 hormones and emotions definitely leveled out by week three to four. 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:23.559 Don't get me wrong. I still have some overwhelming moments now, 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:26.520 but that is so normal and I just I never 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:30.120 I've never cried so much my life, and it's just 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:33.280 so normal and just sometimes and that's also another time, 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:36.920 like as I'm recording this episode ivys nine weeks but 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.640 sometimes I would just wake up and I still feel 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:42.800 those feelings and I just feel a bit overwhelmed, and 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:47.520 I just bit bland and very The biggest thing, the 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:51.320 biggest like shocking thing for me has been is it 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:55.520 literally feels like there has been a death, and that 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:59.480 kind of has because your old self has died and 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:02.960 you're now this new person who has this little person 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.559 who depends on you twenty four to seven, And it 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:08.880 really is it's a lot, and it's a big transformation. 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:13.200 So if you sometimes you know, feel overwhelmed or sad 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.120 and you think, oh my god, why do I feel 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.800 like this. I'm so lucky. Look at this beautiful baby. 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:20.720 You know, I have so much to be grateful for. 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:24.280 I think it's about realizing that is so normal and 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:26.920 not beating yourself up. Because I still have those days 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.760 where I just feel a bit down and I feel 0:11:29.800 --> 0:11:32.640 a bit sad, and I get really angry at myself, 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:36.319 and then I realize this is normal. It's a huge 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.560 transformation and it is okay. I think we need to 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:42.960 take the stigma away and normalize those feelings. Yeah, so 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:49.839 first couple of weeks overwhelming af Okay, rn C, fam, 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:52.280 We're just having a quick break. We will get back 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:55.400 into the episode in one second, But firstly I have 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:59.560 to ask you, do you get enough sleep? 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So then the 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.320 next couple of weeks after that, things got a little 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:56.920 bit better because we started realizing we need feed ib 0:16:57.080 --> 0:17:02.600 more and burper more. We figured out tummy pains. I 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:06.440 have a highlight on Instagram just called ivy where I've 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:10.040 put some things we tried out, like infan Cole and 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:13.639 Wilby's and those different things that I did find worked 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:16.200 for her colic. So you can check that out if 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:19.760 you want. And I feel like we figured out the 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:24.040 breastfeeding thing a bit more, and yeah, things started to 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:29.240 get a bit normal. But in saying that, even after 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:33.520 those you know, the first three weeks being such a blur. 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:38.479 It's like this rollercoaster because like, one day they will 0:17:38.520 --> 0:17:41.919 feed perfectly, they will go to sleep, they won't cry, 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:46.000 they will be super chilled, and you're like, oh my god, 0:17:46.160 --> 0:17:48.399 you'll have sleep and you'll just be a new person. 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:51.160 You'll be like, oh my god, I understand this parenting thing. 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:54.240 Look how happy my baby is, Like life is great. 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:58.000 And then you'll have a day where they're not latching, 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.320 they won't feed, they're so one happy and you just 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:04.600 you take it so personally, and you also feel like 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:07.560 crap because maybe you haven't had the sleep. You know, 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:12.520 you're having fights with your partner, and it's just such 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:15.719 a roller coaster and that is normal. That is the 0:18:15.760 --> 0:18:20.639 first six weeks. Well, actually, let's just say the you know, 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:22.320 the first weeks when you have a baby, it is 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:26.199 so normal. You have really amazing days and then you 0:18:26.240 --> 0:18:29.680 have really shocking days. And in those shocking days, I'm 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:33.399 not like I would cry. I would like literally just 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:37.119 like hand Ivy to Tim or my mom or whoever 0:18:37.320 --> 0:18:39.199 was there and just be like you need to take her. 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:41.840 I need to like go cry in the shower. And 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:47.840 that's okay. That's another thing, guys, is before we had Ivy. 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:51.919 I remember my brother and his wife recently had a 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:56.399 baby like six months before us, and Ash had her 0:18:56.480 --> 0:18:59.040 mom come over and stay with them for the first 0:18:59.040 --> 0:19:01.919 two weeks, and me and me and Tim were like, 0:19:02.600 --> 0:19:05.000 that's so weird, Like wouldn't you want to embrace the 0:19:05.040 --> 0:19:08.520 newborn stage? Like you know, just used to bit judging, 0:19:08.600 --> 0:19:13.919 I know. And then we had Ivy, and honestly, any 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:17.560 help that you were offered, take it. That is the 0:19:17.600 --> 0:19:19.879 biggest thing. Like the first couple of weeks we had 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:23.120 people cooking us dinner, we had my mom come over 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:26.360 to help us, and or even just ask for it 0:19:26.440 --> 0:19:32.280 and take any help because holy shit, you really need it. 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:35.280 And that's the biggest thing. Like if you have a 0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:37.760 friend who has a newborn baby, the biggest thing that 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:40.840 you can offer is help, So you know, ask them, 0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:43.080 do you need me to pick up groceries? Do you 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:45.240 want me to make dinner for you? Guys? What can 0:19:45.280 --> 0:19:48.360 I do to help? And if you have a new 0:19:48.359 --> 0:19:51.480 baby or your new mom, when someone asks what can 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:54.840 I do to help? Literally just tell them, don't be like, 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:57.640 oh I don't want to, you know, ask or put 0:19:57.680 --> 0:20:06.240 people out no, you need help because yeah wow, So yeah, 0:20:06.320 --> 0:20:09.879 I'm not gonna And then like all I can say 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:13.600 is it just gets better and better. So at the start, 0:20:13.800 --> 0:20:17.000 I'm not gonna lie. I literally thought to myself, what 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:20.199 have we done? Like I honestly had a conversation with 0:20:20.240 --> 0:20:23.520 Tim where I was like, why do people want to 0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:26.040 have more than one baby? Like why do they go back? 0:20:26.080 --> 0:20:28.400 Why do people have like four kids like my parents? 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:32.040 Because I'm never doing this again, like I blaintly said 0:20:32.040 --> 0:20:34.080 to Tim, We're not having a second child because I 0:20:34.119 --> 0:20:37.280 cannot do this again. Like it just feels so hard 0:20:37.440 --> 0:20:41.080 and so challenging, and like your life will never be 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:44.520 the same the same again. Well it won't, but like 0:20:45.080 --> 0:20:47.080 in a shit way, like in a oh my god, 0:20:47.119 --> 0:20:49.879 what have I done? Way? But all I can say 0:20:50.640 --> 0:20:54.679 is hold on. It just gets better. And also, like 0:20:54.800 --> 0:20:57.760 Ivy's at a stage now where she's starting to smile, 0:20:58.040 --> 0:21:01.400 she's starting to interact, and you're just getting that little 0:21:01.440 --> 0:21:03.320 bit more from them. So when you're like, you know, 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:08.719 having the sleepless nights when you're feeling super overwhelmed and 0:21:08.760 --> 0:21:11.880 sleep deprived, and they crack a little smile, You're like, oh, 0:21:11.920 --> 0:21:15.200 it's worth it, And then also like Cooper's baby, who's 0:21:15.240 --> 0:21:19.720 six months now, is so playful. He smiles the time, 0:21:19.840 --> 0:21:22.760 and he has such a personality. And yeah, so that's 0:21:22.920 --> 0:21:25.720 all I can say is it just gets better and better. 0:21:25.880 --> 0:21:29.159 And everyone that I've spoke to has said the first 0:21:29.359 --> 0:21:34.399 two to three months are so challenging, so overwhelming, and 0:21:34.640 --> 0:21:39.199 just like like not that great. And I'm just going 0:21:39.240 --> 0:21:42.000 to be the first person to say it, because I 0:21:42.000 --> 0:21:44.119 feel like there's a lot of crap on Instagram or 0:21:44.119 --> 0:21:46.760 social media where it's like I'm in the newborn bubble 0:21:46.840 --> 0:21:49.320 and it's so great and we're just soaking up on 0:21:49.440 --> 0:21:53.320 newborn and yes, I guarantee you they're doing that, but 0:21:53.520 --> 0:21:57.639 also it's hard and also they're going through shit and 0:21:57.680 --> 0:22:00.920 you're in the trenches and oft and you will think, 0:22:01.200 --> 0:22:03.199 holy crap, did I get up, you know, give up 0:22:03.240 --> 0:22:06.960 my previous life for this? What was I thinking? But 0:22:07.680 --> 0:22:10.600 it gets better? And yeah, so as I'm recording this, 0:22:10.840 --> 0:22:14.680 Ivy is nine weeks and just each week it gets better. 0:22:14.880 --> 0:22:18.440 More of a personally comes, personality comes out, we learn more, 0:22:18.520 --> 0:22:21.760 we get her into more of a routine, we get 0:22:21.800 --> 0:22:25.159 to sleep longer, we find our feet, and it's just 0:22:25.200 --> 0:22:27.840 getting better. I definitely want to chat to you guys 0:22:27.920 --> 0:22:31.199 about our sleep and feed routine we have. I beyond 0:22:31.200 --> 0:22:34.480 because it has helped her so much. I should have 0:22:34.600 --> 0:22:37.800 known my baby loves routine because I love routine. I 0:22:37.840 --> 0:22:41.000 know it's not for everyone and that's so fine, but 0:22:41.359 --> 0:22:43.520 for us, it's really working well. So I'm happy to 0:22:43.600 --> 0:22:47.600 chat about that. And yeah, so all I want to 0:22:47.640 --> 0:22:49.960 say is if you're a new mom or soon to 0:22:49.960 --> 0:22:52.919 be mum, or you know you have a baby, like 0:22:53.520 --> 0:22:56.080 you are doing amazing. And this is the big thing. 0:22:56.160 --> 0:22:58.320 If you have a friend who has a newborn baby, 0:22:58.640 --> 0:23:01.159 literally texts them and just say you were doing amazing, 0:23:01.160 --> 0:23:04.959 because I guarantee you they're going through a lot and 0:23:05.000 --> 0:23:08.960 it's hard for them and it's such a surreal, life changing, 0:23:09.200 --> 0:23:13.520 crazy experience, but it's beautiful and it's magical and it's 0:23:14.119 --> 0:23:17.720 so worth it. And also another big thing, like, for example, 0:23:17.920 --> 0:23:22.480 if your baby is having trouble with breastfeeding, see a 0:23:22.520 --> 0:23:27.160 lactation consultant, if they're not sleeping, see a sleep consultant, 0:23:27.320 --> 0:23:31.800 like ask for help and you know, do some research 0:23:32.040 --> 0:23:35.000 and just get help. Because we had a few scenarios 0:23:35.080 --> 0:23:37.199 where you know, we got to our wits end. We 0:23:37.280 --> 0:23:40.840 finally reached out. We got help from a professional or 0:23:40.880 --> 0:23:43.800 you know, a friend, and it was a game changer. 0:23:44.119 --> 0:23:47.080 And like, now we had help from a sleep consultant, 0:23:47.280 --> 0:23:51.320 and Ivy is sleeping through like long stretches through the night. 0:23:51.400 --> 0:23:54.440 She's having really good day sleeps, and it's just it's 0:23:54.560 --> 0:23:58.119 changing everything. She's stopped crying as much since, you know, 0:23:58.160 --> 0:24:02.120 we've been making these little changes. And yeah, so that's 0:24:02.119 --> 0:24:05.000 what I want to say, is ask for help. You're 0:24:05.119 --> 0:24:09.040 doing amazing. It only gets better. And if you're feeling 0:24:09.080 --> 0:24:14.639 overwhelmed and emotional and maybe a bit like you know, 0:24:15.200 --> 0:24:18.760 unattached from your life or your baby or anything like that, 0:24:19.040 --> 0:24:21.960 like it's it's all normal. You're doing amazing. It just 0:24:22.000 --> 0:24:26.399 gets better. And yes, I hope you enjoyed this little episode. 0:24:26.440 --> 0:24:28.200 I know it's a bit random, but I just wanted 0:24:28.200 --> 0:24:31.480 to say my feelings because again, I feel like when 0:24:31.480 --> 0:24:34.240 you're a new mum, you think you should just love 0:24:34.359 --> 0:24:38.200 every moment of the newborn stage. And I just don't 0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:41.439 think that's a reality for you know, ninety nine percent 0:24:41.480 --> 0:24:43.919 of us. If you're that one percent, you have a 0:24:43.960 --> 0:24:46.560 newborn who just sleeps and eats and is an angel. 0:24:46.960 --> 0:24:50.280 Amazing I'm so jealous, but I feel like that's not 0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:55.560 like I feel like that's not normal. But it is 0:24:55.600 --> 0:24:58.639 all well worth it, and it's a journey, and like 0:24:58.720 --> 0:25:02.639 I say, these talents just shape us and it's important. 0:25:02.680 --> 0:25:05.920 So thank you so much for listening. Please please let 0:25:05.920 --> 0:25:07.920 me know if you liked an episode like this, if 0:25:07.920 --> 0:25:10.000 you want me to talk more about you know, what 0:25:10.040 --> 0:25:12.360 we're doing for Ivy's sleep and feed routine and all 0:25:12.359 --> 0:25:14.960 that sort of stuff. Obviously happy to chat about everything. 0:25:15.520 --> 0:25:18.880