Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the
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Speaker 1: We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land,
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Speaker 1: past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal
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Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcasts.
Speaker 2: This is the podcast for ordinary.
Speaker 1: People who want to do extraordinary things. So not everyone
Speaker 1: you know communicates and gives love in the same way.
Speaker 1: So the whole premise is if you know your love
Speaker 1: language and your partner's love language, or even just the
Speaker 1: people around you, you will be able to express your
Speaker 1: love and just express yourself and have a better relationship.
Speaker 1: Hello and welcome back to the Rising Kunker Podcast. It
Speaker 1: is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner,
Speaker 1: new mum, all the things guys. Today we are talking
Speaker 1: about love languages. So this concept has come from a
Speaker 1: book by the author of Gary Chapman. The book is
Speaker 1: called The Five Love Languages How to Express heartfelt commitment
Speaker 1: to your Mate. So we have been talking about love
Speaker 1: languages on in the office actually just randomly, and a
Speaker 1: Tea was like, do you know yours?
Speaker 2: Do you know Tim's?
Speaker 1: We got in this whole convo, made Tim do the test,
Speaker 1: and turns out didn't.
Speaker 2: Know didn't know your own either.
Speaker 1: I didn't know my own. Thought it was physical touch,
Speaker 1: it wasn't didn't know Tim's. And then it opened up
Speaker 1: this really beautiful conversation between me and Tim about our
Speaker 1: relationship and I think especially being new parents, Yeah, your
Speaker 1: love kind of gets put on the back burner. So
Speaker 1: it has just been a really great refresher for our relationship.
Speaker 1: So we thought we'd bring it to the potty. Also,
Speaker 1: A Tear chats about her love language and how she
Speaker 1: fills up her own love cup.
Speaker 2: Yes we're calling it that. I think we should love it.
Speaker 2: We didn't in the episode, but now we are.
Speaker 1: So.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's a really beautiful episode and just for you guys
Speaker 1: to think about, even if you're single, how you're filling
Speaker 1: up your love.
Speaker 2: Cup and how you fill up the people around you too,
Speaker 2: friends and family.
Speaker 1: Yes, I love But before we get into the episodes,
Speaker 1: A Tear I had such a wholesome weekend.
Speaker 2: I loved that.
Speaker 1: So on Friday, I had my event for Pedal and Pup,
Speaker 1: which was amazing collections, so beautiful, thank you, and it
Speaker 1: was just so good to see like everyone there in
Speaker 1: it in this you know room it was it was
Speaker 1: really spectacular.
Speaker 2: Everyone looked good.
Speaker 1: Everyone looked amazing good.
Speaker 2: So that was beautiful. Everyone got a little bit lit.
Speaker 1: Literally except me because that tear doesn't drink, but because
Speaker 1: we were at a gin distillery and they were making
Speaker 1: these cocktails so strong. I had a mocktail and it
Speaker 1: tasted really good. Mine tasted really good. It was just
Speaker 1: you could tell you're drinking gin. They were really pumping
Speaker 1: in there. So everyone like, by the end of it
Speaker 1: was pretty lit, weren't they they were. It was such
Speaker 1: a good aftern It was such aod. And then we
Speaker 1: ended up at the pav after and then a tear
Speaker 1: dropped me home at nine thirty. Thank you when you
Speaker 1: get to lit, no no. And then I had a
Speaker 1: beautiful Saturday with the fam.
Speaker 2: We went to the beach. It felt like summer. I know,
Speaker 2: I love it. It was so good.
Speaker 1: And then Sunday I actually had a tears birthday picnic,
Speaker 1: so cute, so bougie tears, like oh, I'm just doing
Speaker 1: this really last minute little birthday picnic, like come I
Speaker 1: come there. It's like fully set up. Everything's like color coordinated.
Speaker 1: You should just seen the invite. She had flowers and
Speaker 1: cakes and food and cookies and it was so beautiful
Speaker 1: and I got to meet a lot of her friends,
Speaker 1: which was lovely nice. And then this week is a
Speaker 1: huge week because Naked Harvest is actually gearing up for
Speaker 1: its like biggest launch.
Speaker 2: Ever, so exciting. Tears like I know what it is.
Speaker 1: You should tell everything? Should I just tell them? No, guys,
Speaker 1: would we're launching?
Speaker 2: And there is Yeah, I didn't even know.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's your told you guys. First, our tea
Speaker 1: is literally just like running off to tame Bell. So look,
Speaker 1: she's got a busy week, I did say to a tea.
Speaker 1: I feel like my throat is getting a little bit sore,
Speaker 1: which means we better record the next few weeks episode tomorrow. No,
Speaker 1: it just means she's working hard. Yeah, but after this
Speaker 1: I can obviously chill out. But oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: so excited.
Speaker 2: This is just we've.
Speaker 1: Been I can't I just can't say too much. But anyway,
Speaker 1: it's a long time coming, and h gag. You're going
Speaker 1: to be obsessed and it's going to be a big week,
Speaker 1: but I'm so excited to be here. How's your week?
Speaker 1: Being a tear my Wee's been pretty good. Our weekend
Speaker 1: are pretty much the same. We had Friday together, Saturday,
Speaker 1: I had a pretty chill day. I didn't get to
Speaker 1: the beach, but I just had a chill day with
Speaker 1: my fam and went out for a late birthday dinner
Speaker 1: and Saturday night which was really good, and.
Speaker 2: Then Sunday had my picnic. So it's just very relaxing.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna go rote and give a recommendation on
Speaker 1: a Tuesday, but I think everyone should try and get
Speaker 1: outside into nature because the beach was the first time
Speaker 1: I've been to the beach and like just lounged about
Speaker 1: in a long time because it beach is a.
Speaker 2: Bit far for me. I was about to say me
Speaker 2: every day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it was really nice and I felt really
Speaker 1: good and really refreshed and.
Speaker 2: After love love that for you.
Speaker 1: All right, guys, let's get into the episode. You guys
Speaker 1: gonna love this one, all right, guys. So what our
Speaker 1: love languages? So there are five love languages and basically
Speaker 1: they kind of give us an indication of how we
Speaker 1: like to receive love in our lives and how we
Speaker 1: like to give love. This is one of a Tear's
Speaker 1: favorite subjects. Yeah, honestly it is. I feel like it
Speaker 1: can even if you're not in a relationship. Is so
Speaker 1: beneficial to know and understand all the love languages and
Speaker 1: if you can find out love languages of those around you.
Speaker 1: In prep for this episode, me and Tim did the tests,
Speaker 1: so actually him before we get into it. So basically,
Speaker 1: the five Love Languages is from a book called The
Speaker 1: Five Love Languages How You Can Express Heartfelt Commitment to
Speaker 1: Your Mate by Gary Chapman, and in this read it.
Speaker 1: I haven't read it, but I've read a lot on it.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I'm the same. I haven't read that, speek.
Speaker 2: I haven't even read the book.
Speaker 1: What it's called, How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to your Mate? True,
Speaker 1: maybe I didn't. Maybe I need to read it and
Speaker 1: give it to dinner. But basically, the five love languages
Speaker 1: are words of affirmation, quality, time, receiving gifts, acts of service,
Speaker 1: and physical touch. So not everyone you know communicates and
Speaker 1: gives love in the same way.
Speaker 2: So the whole premise is.
Speaker 1: If you know your love language and your partner's love language,
Speaker 1: or even just the people around you, you will be
Speaker 1: able to express your love and just express yourself and
Speaker 1: have a better relationship.
Speaker 2: So that would you would say it to you?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and even I'm not sure if anyone else's experiences.
Speaker 1: When I was younger, words of affirmation was definitely my
Speaker 1: love language, and I sent the longest paragraphs to people
Speaker 1: and get like a banks bag and I'd.
Speaker 2: Be like, yeah, damn in the heart it is.
Speaker 1: But then as you get older and the more I
Speaker 1: learned about this, I was like, oh, well, their love
Speaker 1: language was clearly not words of affirmation, which is also
Speaker 1: why I never got massive paragraphs from them.
Speaker 2: So which is what you craved? Which is what I wanted?
Speaker 1: And see, this is the thing though, is you often
Speaker 1: express your love in what you would want for yourself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but then it might not be their love language. So
Speaker 1: that's when you know. Stuff can come up where you're like,
Speaker 1: but I do this for you, and the other person
Speaker 1: is like I don't care. Yes, And then like that
Speaker 1: you're missing the whole point and you're probably going to
Speaker 1: this effort.
Speaker 2: And you don't need to yes. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So in prep for this episode, me and Tim both
Speaker 1: did the quizzz So, yeah, what's the quiz called a tea?
Speaker 1: Well if you did in the show notes, Yeah, so
Speaker 1: you just google five love language quiz and I'm guessing
Speaker 1: it's a quiz from the book, but you can do
Speaker 1: it and.
Speaker 2: It tells you your love language.
Speaker 1: So me and Tim both did it and in prep
Speaker 1: for this episode, and oh my god, it tea. I
Speaker 1: haven't really told you the outcome. No you haven't because
Speaker 1: it was on the weekend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm ready to know.
Speaker 1: We had I'll tell you the outcome. I think we
Speaker 1: will express I'm sorry talk about them individually first. But
Speaker 1: we had the best conversation me and Tim, and I
Speaker 1: realized I didn't know his love language.
Speaker 2: I literally thought it.
Speaker 1: Was something else, and he kind of got mine. But
Speaker 1: it's crazy because one that he thought would be like
Speaker 1: my second or close to my first, I literally got
Speaker 1: zero percent.
Speaker 2: So I was no.
Speaker 1: It was such a great conversation, so good, and we
Speaker 1: got talking about it and oh my god, it was
Speaker 1: so good. So I'm so excited to get into it.
Speaker 1: Before I get into my love language. Tim Love's language
Speaker 1: your love language a tea? Do you want to just
Speaker 1: tell the audience a little.
Speaker 2: Bit about each love language.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's go one for one.
Speaker 2: You go first.
Speaker 1: So the first one we've got here is words of affirmation.
Speaker 1: So that is very much expressing your love with words
Speaker 1: that build your partner or your loved ones up and
Speaker 1: make them feel appreciated.
Speaker 2: They don't have to be complicated.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the shortest and simplest phrases can be the most effective.
Speaker 1: But think things like always making sure to message a
Speaker 1: person or say something to them when you see them,
Speaker 1: that sort of thing. Words of affirmation I also find
Speaker 1: personally with when this was my love language and people
Speaker 1: who I know this is their love language. It's not
Speaker 1: normally short phrases. It does tend to be quite the
Speaker 1: lengthy paragraphs or things like that, just really trying to
Speaker 1: express themselves and how much they love you with their words.
Speaker 2: See one of.
Speaker 1: Tim's is words of affirmation, but he's like, he doesn't
Speaker 1: want the long he just wants the I love you
Speaker 1: wow or I'm so proud of you yeah, And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm so mean.
Speaker 2: I'm like, but you know I love you all right, guys.
Speaker 2: So the next one, which is my Fair.
Speaker 1: Song, is a good one. Acts of service. Basically, I
Speaker 1: just want you to do shit for me. So acts
Speaker 1: of service is when your partner or your loved ones
Speaker 1: might do just basically think actions speak louder than words,
Speaker 1: So they'll either do something that relieves you of stress
Speaker 1: or helps you in some way, or is somethink. It
Speaker 1: doesn't even have to be a big thing. It's usually
Speaker 1: small things, like it's things for me, but it's just
Speaker 1: in a requirement that I was meant.
Speaker 2: To do that you do for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like they know that you're supposed to cook that night,
Speaker 1: but they just cook because they know you're at work late,
Speaker 1: or yeah, do a load of laundry, that sort of stuff.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah.
Speaker 1: For me. When I think of acts of service as well,
Speaker 1: because it's high up on my list, is if someone
Speaker 1: like knew I had to go to the store to
Speaker 1: get something but I was really busy that day and
Speaker 1: went and got it and brought it home, Yes, I'd.
Speaker 2: Be like, oh, acts.
Speaker 1: Of service is my top one too. And I was
Speaker 1: explaining to Tim, for example, if I've told you I've
Speaker 1: had a really stressful day and I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: feeling really down or something like that, like coming home
Speaker 1: and he's run a bath for me, Like could.
Speaker 2: I thought I was gonna say a bath for you.
Speaker 2: It's like so.
Speaker 1: Funny because I like said that to him and he
Speaker 1: was like, I just never would have thought of that,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, thank god we had this conversation.
Speaker 1: And also another big thing too is something For example,
Speaker 1: Tim always cooks dinner, but.
Speaker 2: Which is amazing. That is amazing. He always cooks dinner.
Speaker 1: I fed Ivy, But something that happens is I always
Speaker 1: have to tell him to start, So I always be like, Babe,
Speaker 1: I'm feeding Ivy, do you want to start dinner?
Speaker 2: So we're you know, eating at the same time. A
Speaker 2: bah blah blah.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, it would just be nice if I
Speaker 1: didn't have to ask you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like if he just started making dinner, correct, I
Speaker 2: love that?
Speaker 1: Okay, You're going to he loves herd Access service Number
Speaker 1: three is receiving gifts. So the receiving gifts love language
Speaker 1: isn't necessarily materialistic. It just means that a meaningful or
Speaker 1: thoughtful gift makes you or your partner feel loved and appreciated,
Speaker 1: something as simple as picking up a pint of their
Speaker 1: favorite ice cream after a long work week can make
Speaker 1: a huge impact.
Speaker 2: I really love this one. Yeah, I feel like that's
Speaker 2: your gift.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's your love language of how you
Speaker 1: show it to be. As I said to a tear,
Speaker 1: she's only worked for me for like three months. I've
Speaker 1: never received so many gifts of my wife. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: even think about it, please said, and I was like, shit, yeah,
Speaker 1: probably need a calm down. No, but like so sweet,
Speaker 1: Like I remember when you first started work, you got
Speaker 1: me the diffuser. Yeah, like the what are the little
Speaker 1: sticks called?
Speaker 2: There's a diffusal one, but incense is that?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you got the me those which are like
Speaker 1: so sweet for my offers. And then like I remember
Speaker 1: from South Africa, you got me this like cute little draft.
Speaker 2: And then your mom bought.
Speaker 1: My family likes giving gift tears. Mom bought Ivy the
Speaker 1: cutest little hat that has like a giraffe and her name.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, guys, I got to show your photo
Speaker 1: of it because it's so cute.
Speaker 2: I'll put it. I'll get a tear the photos and
Speaker 2: then I'll know my Ivy.
Speaker 1: I feel like you've got me something else your birthday gift.
Speaker 1: Oh oh my god, mate doesn't know you can see
Speaker 1: gifts are like.
Speaker 2: Law and Wife, like a tea. This beautiful. It's like
Speaker 2: it's not digitally drawn.
Speaker 1: I to say, she hasn't like hand no, no, but
Speaker 1: it's like an artist has drawn a photo of me
Speaker 1: and Ivy together and we're both wearing our like LSKD
Speaker 1: Rise tops and it's oh my, it's the sweetest thing
Speaker 1: I've ever received.
Speaker 2: That's actually so glad.
Speaker 1: Personalized gifts where I know the person has put a
Speaker 1: lot of thought into it, yeah, are like they're like
Speaker 1: my soft spot. Yeah, it's like so sweet.
Speaker 2: I'm glad.
Speaker 1: That's like I remember Jamie actually got me one Christmas
Speaker 1: photo of Barren Wolf hand drawing and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: like before I had Ivy because they're like my baby yeah,
Speaker 1: and I was like that's so cute.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, So the next one is quality time.
Speaker 2: I love this one. So quality time is just like.
Speaker 1: When there's like, you know, no tvee that it's like
Speaker 1: you have their undivided attention and it doesn't even matter
Speaker 1: what you guys do. You just like love being in
Speaker 1: their presence.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then last one physical touch. So again this doesn't
Speaker 1: have to be essensual sexual.
Speaker 2: No, this is literally.
Speaker 1: Just like intimate, so it might be like holding hands,
Speaker 1: having an embrace. Like I have girlfriends who you could
Speaker 1: tell physical touch would be one of their love language
Speaker 1: because they're just like, you know, really lovey. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: love that aspect. And I think even physical touch comes
Speaker 1: down to just like being physically in that person's presence,
Speaker 1: or like like sitting a little bit closer together and
Speaker 1: the little things.
Speaker 2: Like that, yeah, exactly. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So the whole thing, guys is if you don't know
Speaker 1: your partner's love language, you're probably trying to show them
Speaker 1: love of how you want them to show you love,
Speaker 1: which may not be their love language, so you may
Speaker 1: get not the best response. Yeah. And I think this
Speaker 1: is why it's so important as well, because this is
Speaker 1: gonna be a bit brutal. But if someone's love language
Speaker 1: is words of affirmation and you're just buying them all
Speaker 1: these presents, they're not.
Speaker 2: Going to care, yes, like it exactly waste.
Speaker 1: It's a waste of your time and your money. Like
Speaker 1: you might as well put that time into writing them
Speaker 1: a letter and that will just light them up way
Speaker 1: more than your presence would.
Speaker 2: Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And also the great thing about this is like me
Speaker 1: and Tim had this very open conversation about it, and
Speaker 1: I kind of realized I hadn't been showing my love
Speaker 1: to him because I just didn't know if that makes sense.
Speaker 2: And now that I know, I'm like, oh, this is
Speaker 2: how to do it. Yeah, this is how to do it.
Speaker 1: So well, let's get into our love languages a tr okay, guys.
Speaker 1: So my results thirty three percent acts of service. Wow,
Speaker 1: I want you to do shit for me? No? Well,
Speaker 1: I think And this is the interesting thing too, is
Speaker 1: I think my love language has changed over the years.
Speaker 2: Would you say yours has?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Absolutely?
Speaker 1: And I don't think this ever used to be this,
Speaker 1: But because I've turned into such a busy gl for example,
Speaker 1: I and especially being a mum, I often and feeling
Speaker 1: quite stressed and overwhelmed. So when someone takes something off
Speaker 1: my plate or they do something that I'm like without
Speaker 1: me asking them, it's like such a relief and such
Speaker 1: a like oh thank you, Like that is that's so thoughtful?
Speaker 1: Whereas you know what's really and okay. So then my
Speaker 1: second is words of affirmation.
Speaker 2: Oh would you have got that?
Speaker 1: I would not have guessed that really, Yeah, I just
Speaker 1: feel like you would be which you kind of are
Speaker 1: because acts of services first, but I would have pegged
Speaker 1: you more as a person that's like, I literally don't
Speaker 1: care what you say, just show me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it's like the inner child in me, just
Speaker 1: like yeah, like mom.
Speaker 2: Just say I like, no joke. I think it is well.
Speaker 1: I think like the words of affirmation for example, you
Speaker 1: know Tim coming up to me after a hard day
Speaker 1: of work, Yeah, after he's run me a bath and
Speaker 1: being like, oh, baby, works so hard, I'm so.
Speaker 2: Proud of you.
Speaker 1: Oh that and anyway makes like the stressful day worth it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like anything for you, babe, you know, like yeah,
Speaker 1: to notice that and to express that to me, I
Speaker 1: think is really nice. And I think also like when
Speaker 1: you have friends who do send you I love random
Speaker 1: messages from friends.
Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever get it.
Speaker 1: But for all my friends, I don't think any of
Speaker 1: them will listen. But I don't know a text from
Speaker 1: a friend who's just like, you're doing you a good
Speaker 1: job or I was thinking of today. Actually, I do
Speaker 1: have a girlfriend who does this all the time. Sasha,
Speaker 1: one of my girlfriends who's a new mum. She will
Speaker 1: randomly send me messages literally just going on a rant
Speaker 1: of how much he loves me. Oh that's so sweet,
Speaker 1: and I just like, I'm like, it just gets me
Speaker 1: in the fields, and I'm like, she did not have
Speaker 1: to do that. That's actually she's also the friend who
Speaker 1: randomly brings me brownies to the office a tea, which
Speaker 1: is acts of service. That is, she knows so words
Speaker 1: of affirmation and like, for example, I do totally have
Speaker 1: like a thing with I love when my parents say
Speaker 1: they're proud of me and you know, stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Then my third twenty three percent is quality time love.
Speaker 1: So obviously quality time with you know, Tim and Ivy
Speaker 1: and friends. Like I remember for my birthday this year,
Speaker 1: I had lunch with literally like one or two friends
Speaker 1: and I said to them, on previous years, I've done
Speaker 1: it with like my whole group of girlfriends as like
Speaker 1: you know, eight or ten of us, and this year
Speaker 1: I was just like I sent a text to like
Speaker 1: my closest girlfriends. Well actually it was only the other
Speaker 1: the people who like asked what I was doing, and
Speaker 1: I just said, oh, like I'm keen to do a
Speaker 1: little you know, a lunch or something, but I just
Speaker 1: want it to be super low key and.
Speaker 2: I just want to like chat to you guys.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to you know, take photos of
Speaker 1: our you know, fucking lunch or you know, it be
Speaker 1: a thing, or there be too many people so I
Speaker 1: can't have like a deep conversation.
Speaker 2: Yeah that when you have to do that like sort
Speaker 2: of circling around.
Speaker 1: Ye, no, Like I wasn't interested in that. I was like,
Speaker 1: I literally just want to talk one on one with
Speaker 1: like one or two people. Let's have a deep convo
Speaker 1: because that fills out my cup. Yeah, I love that,
Speaker 1: and I often do love doing things with friends one
Speaker 1: on one rather than a group. Yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: So I can get like I recently just did a
Speaker 1: bestie weekend with my girlfriend Licinda, who I've literally known
Speaker 1: since I was thirteen, and we said because she's the same,
Speaker 1: and we were like, oh my god, it's actually just
Speaker 1: so nice to like get onto that deeper level with someone.
Speaker 1: Because also I feel like when you get older, you
Speaker 1: have like less time, and so it does tend to.
Speaker 2: Feel a bit like surface level.
Speaker 1: So like quality time for me is huge, and also
Speaker 1: like quality time I guess with Tim, like when Tim,
Speaker 1: he can just be a bit of a scatter brain.
Speaker 1: So like we'll be sitting down, you know, having dinner
Speaker 1: or something, and he'll just like pick up his phone
Speaker 1: because you know, an Airbnb message comes up and he
Speaker 1: feels like he has to reply straight away, or like
Speaker 1: he'll literally having conversation with Tim and he'll just like
Speaker 1: walk away and do a job what like as he's
Speaker 1: talking to me, but like he's just like thinking of
Speaker 1: other things. Yeah, and to me, like it needs to be.
Speaker 1: I feel like my cup is full when it literally
Speaker 1: lets one or one it and I have his undivided attention,
Speaker 1: which you know, I had this conversation with him, and
Speaker 1: then my foreth one is physical touch. But that was
Speaker 1: only seventeen percent. But in saying that, you know, I
Speaker 1: guess how to fill up my own cup is I
Speaker 1: get a massage because I just.
Speaker 2: I I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1: And then receiving gifts came in at zero percent.
Speaker 2: Oh, we love a good serial.
Speaker 1: And honestly, I think gifts used to be one of
Speaker 1: my top love languages back in the day. And I
Speaker 1: think it's because now if I want anything, I.
Speaker 2: Just gone by it myself.
Speaker 1: Fair Like, I just gone by it myself because I
Speaker 1: used to get really annoyed because Tim wouldn't buy me
Speaker 1: like what I wanted, and he wouldn't like listen to
Speaker 1: the thing I wanted, and then like on the birthday,
Speaker 1: buy me what I wanted. And we used to get
Speaker 1: in fines over this, and so now I literally just
Speaker 1: buy anything I want for myself as soon as you
Speaker 1: want it, as soon as I want it, and I
Speaker 1: then am just like I don't even have to worry
Speaker 1: about having this watch. So in saying that, though, for example,
Speaker 1: I said before, when I receive gifts that I know
Speaker 1: the person has like really thought about it, it's special
Speaker 1: to me. But I feel like sometimes that's more like
Speaker 1: you appreciate the quality time that was spent into getting
Speaker 1: that gift. Yeah, exactly, so gift, yeah, like them going
Speaker 1: to the EFIC the act of service. True, oh guys,
Speaker 1: just active service. And so okay, I'll quickly go through
Speaker 1: TIMS really quickly, and then I'll tell you my conversation. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: Tim's thirty three percent physical touch.
Speaker 2: Whoa yeah, and yours is seventeen Yeah.
Speaker 1: Then he next his quality time at twenty nine percent,
Speaker 1: so we're kind of similar with that, and then words
Speaker 1: of affirmation were twenty six percent which again we're similar
Speaker 1: acts of service. For him ten percent, didn't care about
Speaker 1: acts because he goes, I know, you.
Speaker 2: Don't have time to do anything for me, and I.
Speaker 1: Feel so bad and he that is so sweet, I know,
Speaker 1: but he's also like, I'm just so happy to do
Speaker 1: it myself. Yeah, and then gifts at three percent, so
Speaker 1: he's not worried about gifts either. Wo because again he
Speaker 1: and he's been like this from the start. If he
Speaker 1: wants something, he just goes and buys it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: He doesn't care about people like going to the episode
Speaker 1: for him.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So we had this conversation and I was so surprised
Speaker 1: because I don't think I would have got his physical
Speaker 1: touch and so interesting. I said to him, like, what
Speaker 1: do you want from me? And I was like whoa
Speaker 1: And he's like, no, not sexually.
Speaker 2: We were all thinking it. It's I don't want to
Speaker 2: have sex more. Basically, should you do that thirty days challenge?
Speaker 1: Me?
Speaker 2: Should we do the thirty days? It's like a TikTok challenge.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that, didn't you know, But like a
Speaker 1: young people TikTok why they need an intimacy. That's so true,
Speaker 1: But it's because we're so obsessed with like technology in
Speaker 1: our phone and it's all the big thing anyway too.
Speaker 2: Tim was like, no, not sexually.
Speaker 1: Tim was like, for example, he's like, I'd love if
Speaker 1: you came home and like the first thing you do
Speaker 1: is like come up and hug me. Oh that's sweet,
Speaker 1: And he's like, don't mean to.
Speaker 2: Say. In my head, I was like, what do I do?
Speaker 2: Do you just like walk in thousands of down?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: I think I go straight to Ivy?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, probably, Well that makes I'm sure you probably
Speaker 1: used to go in.
Speaker 2: And hug him straight away. Yeah, I don't know before Ivy.
Speaker 2: I don't remember before I but he's.
Speaker 1: Like, you know, just to come in and like hug me,
Speaker 1: or he's like you know, if you're in public, like
Speaker 1: holding my or.
Speaker 2: He's like also just being like lovey.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like just like a little bit obsessed with him. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: which I just was like, You're like, I don't get it.
Speaker 1: I know, because I'm like that's just so weird. But
Speaker 1: it's like so good to know now because I'm like easy,
Speaker 1: You're just mate.
Speaker 2: Yeah, acually is so easy. But my god, you know
Speaker 2: what I did this morning?
Speaker 1: So I wake up and I meditated my bed. I
Speaker 1: put my like, I literally turned my lum off. I
Speaker 1: put my headphones on, and I like lay there and
Speaker 1: meditate because I'm like too lazy.
Speaker 2: To get up to my meditation chair.
Speaker 1: It's also a bit cold anyway. Yeah, so what I
Speaker 1: did this morning, Tim's always still sleep beside me. I
Speaker 1: also don't want to wake him. Yeah, what I did
Speaker 1: this morning was like I put my headphones on, put
Speaker 1: my thing on, and then under the covers, I reached
Speaker 1: and grabbed his hand and we meditated and we love productive.
Speaker 2: Col I was just like, I'm gonna kill two birds one.
Speaker 1: My god, I didn't think of it, so I didn't
Speaker 1: have to do.
Speaker 2: It after And this is what loved, Like we're just
Speaker 2: about how to manipulate your part to thinking no.
Speaker 1: But I could just tell he loved it because then
Speaker 1: he stroked my hand.
Speaker 2: And I thought this was so nice. That is nice
Speaker 2: and it's not hard for you to do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And like when I left, I was I gave
Speaker 1: her my heart because I just like say bye, I'm
Speaker 1: glad you're slivy and I always like hugging kiss her
Speaker 1: and I probably don't do the same to him, like
Speaker 1: I'm nice to him. I just I could probably make
Speaker 1: more of an effort. Yeah, but yeah, I didn't know.
Speaker 1: And then obviously the quality time, like we're both had
Speaker 1: that and I explained to him like I'm like, get
Speaker 1: the fuck off your phone. I don't care about it,
Speaker 1: Like make them way. We talked about that, and a
Speaker 1: huge thing we spoke about is, for instance, like my
Speaker 1: biggest pet peeve is you know, team's at home with
Speaker 1: Ivy your day, and so I'll come home and sometimes
Speaker 1: I come home and he's like sitting on the counch
Speaker 1: with Ivy watching one of her shows and then like
Speaker 1: the washing's not done or like oh yeah, you know
Speaker 1: something that.
Speaker 2: I have to then do.
Speaker 1: But I just, like I explained to him, when I
Speaker 1: come home, I would love if we had an hour
Speaker 1: of family time where there's no phone, there's no TV.
Speaker 1: It's just us catching up or talking or doing something.
Speaker 1: But often I have to come home and then do
Speaker 1: a job that you probably could have done during the day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And he did acknowledge that, so that was like a
Speaker 1: good thing. And then also we're going to start just
Speaker 1: planning or I also said to him, because he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: like I want to have more like one on one
Speaker 1: time with you, And I was like, well, then like
Speaker 1: on a Thursday, because we've got like, you know, babysitters
Speaker 1: that we will use at various times because yeah, more
Speaker 1: randomly go to golf on a Thursday.
Speaker 2: Oh literally, get home and he's like, oh, I just
Speaker 2: got a babysitters. Not a joke anyway, that's a whole
Speaker 2: other story.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, you could organize the babysitter and be like, Babe,
Speaker 1: we're doing date night.
Speaker 2: I've got a babysitter. Yeah, I love that, do you.
Speaker 1: I mean, if he's the one who's like I wouldn't
Speaker 1: quality time like kind of taking that initiative. Yes, I
Speaker 1: also said the bath thing, but like I really don't
Speaker 1: think that's gonna happen. Surely if you can hold his hand,
Speaker 1: he can run your buck.
Speaker 2: And he's a good taker turning it down.
Speaker 1: And also I think like a big thing for him
Speaker 1: of words of affirmation is I probably do need to
Speaker 1: be a bit more.
Speaker 2: Like I love that you did the washingt today.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, those small things of well, I even like
Speaker 1: I probably would want to say, you know more stuff
Speaker 1: like you're such a good dad, Yeah, you know, stuff
Speaker 1: like that, like I do say it's not like I don't, yeah,
Speaker 1: but being more intentional and like kind of doing that.
Speaker 1: And I explain to him, I guess the reason why
Speaker 1: we haven't, you know, I haven't sometimes done those things
Speaker 1: is because you know, I'll get home and see that,
Speaker 1: you know, the washing isn't done and they're fucking sitting
Speaker 1: on the couch.
Speaker 2: So then I feel resentful.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I'm not gonna fucking tell you your
Speaker 1: good dad. And then because I come home and I'm
Speaker 1: probably in a bit of a bad mood, he's probably like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to run the bath for you, and
Speaker 1: like you can get in a funk, yeah, like a weird,
Speaker 1: funky cycle because you didn't understand what the other person needs. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that's why it was literally such a good thing. Guys,
Speaker 1: with your partner or your friends or even yourself, do
Speaker 1: this little quiz, know your love languages and have a
Speaker 1: conversation about what would make you feel good and what
Speaker 1: would the other person you know need, because it's just
Speaker 1: so insightful. Yeah, so what's yours?
Speaker 2: My number one at thirty seven percent, so actually quite high.
Speaker 2: Now that's huge. Yeah. Good portion is quality time, and
Speaker 2: I think we spend so much time? Is that why
Speaker 2: you're obsessed? Why we're morphing to the same person.
Speaker 1: Literally, And I think for me, that's just because what
Speaker 1: I feel like personally, I look at as everybody's most
Speaker 1: valuable kind of asset. So if someone takes the time
Speaker 1: to like give me their undivided attention for a night
Speaker 1: or a day or however long, I really appreciate it
Speaker 1: because I understand how hard that can be. My next one,
Speaker 1: so big jump down at twenty percent, is acts of service?
Speaker 2: Interesting.
Speaker 1: I love.
Speaker 2: I love getting things done for me. It's the best. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's just so good.
Speaker 1: Like what because I also would love to chat about,
Speaker 1: for example, because you don't have a partner, what does
Speaker 1: this look like for yourself or your friends? So like,
Speaker 1: for example, go like with quality time, what would that
Speaker 1: look like for yourself for your friends? It'd be like, Oh,
Speaker 1: I did this with one of my friends a while ago.
Speaker 1: We made pasta from scratch scratch. Oh I saw that,
Speaker 1: yeah one night, and that meant a lot to me
Speaker 1: because I'm like, this is actually time consuming. She actually
Speaker 1: the act of service there. She went to the markets
Speaker 1: that morning and got everything fresh. So I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is so sweet. She went out
Speaker 1: of her way to do that, and I didn't have
Speaker 1: to bring anything and I just went there and we
Speaker 1: had like the nicest night. We were bailey on our phone,
Speaker 1: took a picture of the pastor at the end.
Speaker 2: Then cute.
Speaker 1: Needed but like just had a good catch up and
Speaker 1: like you said, undivided attention, Like you got onto that
Speaker 1: deeper level. And that's what I really liked doing with
Speaker 1: my friends as well, because otherwise it's just like a
Speaker 1: bit pointless, Like I don't want to sit there.
Speaker 2: And be like, Hi, how are you? Yeah all the time. Yeah,
Speaker 2: this weather's just great.
Speaker 1: El Nina, Nina's coming, Oh my god, side joke.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And so for me, quality time is very much that
Speaker 1: if someone's like let's go for a drive, or let's
Speaker 1: go out for the day or acts of service. When
Speaker 1: I was first year of UNI, one of my friends
Speaker 1: would be like, do you have any errands you need
Speaker 1: to run? Let's go run errands together today and she's
Speaker 1: literally picked me up from my house and we do
Speaker 1: a day of errands. I'm like, so cute, Yeah what
Speaker 1: about yourself? So like for myself, yeah, I like to
Speaker 1: give love to yourself for quality time, very much time alone,
Speaker 1: like I tried to love time alone, like figure out
Speaker 1: at some point during the week, I need time by
Speaker 1: myself shut out from everyone. Whether that means I need
Speaker 1: noise canceling headphones on in my room, or I go
Speaker 1: for a walk or a drive or to the even
Speaker 1: just to the shops by myself to walk around. I
Speaker 1: quite enjoy, so I make sure I do that. Acts
Speaker 1: of service for yourself can be a little bit hard,
Speaker 1: but I would say prioritize what really means a lot
Speaker 1: to you and see if you can even potentially prompt
Speaker 1: someone around you.
Speaker 2: To do that for you.
Speaker 1: Well. Also, like I think acts of service would be,
Speaker 1: for example, because that's my main one, and if I'm
Speaker 1: thinking of like giving love to myself, it would the
Speaker 1: act of service would be scheduling in a day where
Speaker 1: it's actually funny because Cinder on the weekend said this,
Speaker 1: like she's like, you need to schedule in a CEO day,
Speaker 1: and I was like, what the fuck's app And she's like,
Speaker 1: I don't know people using the coaching well because that's
Speaker 1: what she does. But she's like, it's a day where
Speaker 1: as you know, a CEO of your own business and
Speaker 1: your own time, you schedule in time where you yet
Speaker 1: to do whatever you want.
Speaker 2: So you don't love that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she's like it could be your you know,
Speaker 1: you tell the team I'm out of office and that
Speaker 1: day you like go get coffee, you go for a swim,
Speaker 1: maybe you do.
Speaker 2: A little bit of work, but it's.
Speaker 1: Really like for you filling up your own cup. So,
Speaker 1: for example, something I thought is like something I do. Guys,
Speaker 1: I've literally been trying to have I've told everyone that
Speaker 1: I'm having every second Friday off and then I.
Speaker 2: Just never do it ever ever, I just work.
Speaker 1: So something that I thought for myself is you know,
Speaker 1: me trying to schedule in that friday off for myself
Speaker 1: of actually committing to it, and that would be like
Speaker 1: showing myself I think I'm important and I'm worth the
Speaker 1: quality time for myself. Yeah. So in even a big
Speaker 1: you know, active service and quality time sort of thing.
Speaker 1: If that's one of your love languages, is being really
Speaker 1: strict with your boundaries and schedule.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a huge one. That's very hard to do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, very hard and something I'm trying to work on
Speaker 1: where it's like, I know, I get burnt out easy
Speaker 1: because you know, if I'm not like strict to my time,
Speaker 1: so like you know, trying to really like schedule things
Speaker 1: in and yeah, be strict. Yeah, that's what I kind
Speaker 1: of think for that act of services boundaries and making
Speaker 1: sure you're scheduling your self care and all that time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and like scheduling self care and like maybe gym time,
Speaker 1: and that's honoring it, yes, and honoring it and actually
Speaker 1: doing it for yourself because you know that like future
Speaker 1: you will thank you. Yeah, even like I would say
Speaker 1: investing in yourself like buying a course or buying something that.
Speaker 2: Is for your future, for your future self.
Speaker 1: Yes, that is the best act of service that you
Speaker 1: can give yourself.
Speaker 2: I love that. And then I had seventeen percent physical touch.
Speaker 1: Interesting, I love. I'm also seventeen percent. Yeah, so it's
Speaker 1: not up there. It's not really up there, I think
Speaker 1: in this And obviously I would expect a lot of
Speaker 1: this to shot for when I get a partner, but
Speaker 1: currently mine doesn't. I wonder if mine will be honest,
Speaker 1: but very much like making the effort to like hug
Speaker 1: my family or my friends when I see them, throwse
Speaker 1: little things for myself. I love getting a pedicule because
Speaker 1: I love a good foot massart.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, that's probably my little physical touch
Speaker 2: for myself. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then I have seventeen percent receiving gifts. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: just don't think it's not high because I'm a bit
Speaker 1: impulsive when I buy stuff. If I want something else.
Speaker 2: I'll find a way to get it, yeah.
Speaker 1: Even if I have to sell stuff a marketplace. And
Speaker 1: then my last one is words of affirmation at ten percent.
Speaker 2: So interesting, you don't care.
Speaker 1: No, And I probably probably just because and this might
Speaker 1: sound mean or sad or whatever, but I've had too
Speaker 1: many people tell me things and never follow through. So
Speaker 1: when someone says something to me, I'm like, sure, okay,
Speaker 1: and I just I'm like, don't tell me, show me.
Speaker 1: Don't tell me show me, because I don't mean ten
Speaker 1: times more than you ever telling me something. But for example,
Speaker 1: me saying I'm proud of you, how would I show
Speaker 1: that too?
Speaker 2: No, yeah, you can't, that's what I mean.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So obviously it's in there a little bit. It's
Speaker 1: in there a little bit. But I just feel like
Speaker 1: for things like oh my.
Speaker 2: Gosh, I love you, Oh my gosh, you're such a
Speaker 2: good friend, it just doesn't hit me.
Speaker 1: But it also was like that one hundred percent growing
Speaker 1: up was my love language was words.
Speaker 2: Interesting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I send the longest messages to my friends,
Speaker 1: and if I'd made like a long message back, I'd
Speaker 1: get a bit upset or maybe because of that, like yeah,
Speaker 1: a bit like burnt from it. Yeah yeah, and I
Speaker 1: think just realize or like in my eyes yeah, sorry,
Speaker 1: you guys, someone doing something or showing something or taking
Speaker 1: the time or putting thought into things just means so
Speaker 1: much than anything anyone could ever say.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's I agree.
Speaker 1: Well I'm similar with you know, acts of service. It's
Speaker 1: like show me, Yeah, show me you're gonna do it,
Speaker 1: don't just like you know, talk the talk, you to
Speaker 1: walk the.
Speaker 2: Wall, and just so many people talk the talk.
Speaker 1: Oh so training.
Speaker 2: Me with anything? Oh all right, So well let's finish off.
Speaker 1: This episode, yeah, with what we could do for ourselves.
Speaker 2: So everyone, guys, go.
Speaker 1: Take the tests. Also, if you take the tests, jump
Speaker 1: in our dms. Let us not gus yeah or come
Speaker 1: no way, come in the Facebook group and let's have
Speaker 1: a group conversation about this.
Speaker 2: We'll put up a thread. Come in the.
Speaker 1: Facebook group, you know, screenshot show us your love languages
Speaker 1: and then also tell us like what you do for
Speaker 1: yourself and what you do for your partner, Because now
Speaker 1: that I know Tim's is like physical touch, I'm even like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, like I need to like make more
Speaker 1: ways to give him love and quality time. That's easy,
Speaker 1: but yeah, so I just would be really interested to know,
Speaker 1: like what people do you know for their partners or
Speaker 1: for themselves, for your.
Speaker 2: Friends and family?
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. I made like my closest friends take this
Speaker 1: when I first found out about it. I probably need
Speaker 1: to get them to do it again, but just so
Speaker 1: I would know in my head how to show them
Speaker 1: love in ways they to be appreciated. So interesting, and
Speaker 1: so do you kind of Taylor the way you do
Speaker 1: things for each friend? Yeah, oh wow, you're such a
Speaker 1: good friend. Thanks.
Speaker 2: Well, now you know mine?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll do Wait it's like, well, does it count
Speaker 1: if you're getting paid? No, just do your job. That
Speaker 1: would be great for me. All right, So quickly before
Speaker 1: we finish, let's go through what we can do for ourselves,
Speaker 1: you know, to show ourselves love.
Speaker 2: Or even other people. So words of affirmation.
Speaker 1: Write yourself a lovely letter and set yourself a calendar
Speaker 1: reminder on when to open it, or you could send
Speaker 1: you self an email and snooze it. If you're like
Speaker 1: me and don't write a physical stuff. I love that,
Speaker 1: or like write something to your future self.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or just like oh, have you ever seen those
Speaker 2: open when letters?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: Actually I have.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you have time and you know there's some
Speaker 1: milestones coming up, write yourself some open wind letters.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Cute. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Also affirmations, like literally writing down affirmations and saying them.
Speaker 2: This is going on a bit of a rent.
Speaker 1: The other day, I was like reading a book about
Speaker 1: self love. Actually it was Alexis's new book, which she's
Speaker 1: gonna be on the podcast soon. Yeah, so stay tuned
Speaker 1: for that.
Speaker 2: It is exciting.
Speaker 1: But she was saying like something that you can do
Speaker 1: is parent yourself, whereas like, you know, think of yourself
Speaker 1: as a child and it's like what would you want
Speaker 1: to tell that child to make them feel loved?
Speaker 2: Oh, and literally like.
Speaker 1: A visual lie or writing down this and go through
Speaker 1: that scenario. Because often we can think of ourselves like really,
Speaker 1: I guess be really hard on ourselves and be like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're an idiot. You should have known this. But it's
Speaker 1: like would you say that to your child or you know,
Speaker 1: like baby, you yeah, and kind of TikTok trend where
Speaker 1: it was like when you're saying mean things to yourself,
Speaker 1: remember you're saying it also to her, and it was
Speaker 1: pressed of you when exactly and then like going that
Speaker 1: step further and like writing an affirmation, you know, to
Speaker 1: your inner child and being like I am so proud
Speaker 1: of you, like you're allowed to make mistakes and you
Speaker 1: know you're still a good person.
Speaker 2: I know, blah blah blah. And I actually did that for.
Speaker 1: Myself the other day and it was very therapeutic.
Speaker 2: Oh I love that.
Speaker 1: Next one acts of service. We've kind of said this
Speaker 1: already of like just thinking for your future self, like
Speaker 1: being really strict on your schedule and time, because for example,
Speaker 1: I guess for me, and this is I kind of
Speaker 1: see acts of service and qualities time kind of mixed
Speaker 1: together a little bit. But like the other night, I
Speaker 1: actually like Tim was away at a Bucks and I
Speaker 1: and he kind of went last minute. I didn't think
Speaker 1: he was going on the Friday, and then he went
Speaker 1: on the Friday, and I straight away was like, oh,
Speaker 1: what girlfriend can I see? Like what can I do
Speaker 1: with my time? Like I had Ivy, but all my
Speaker 1: girlfriends have babies, but I was like, oh, what can
Speaker 1: I do in my time?
Speaker 2: And I even caught up a girl friend was like
Speaker 2: what are you doing? She's like, oh, I can come
Speaker 2: over for a one.
Speaker 1: But then I actually stopped and I was like, Georgie,
Speaker 1: you had never had time alone, Like this would be
Speaker 1: such a good night to not only spend time one
Speaker 1: on one with Ivy, but just to give yourself some time.
Speaker 1: So I literally called that friend back and I was like, actually,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, like I would actually just love the
Speaker 1: night to myself, and she's like, oh my god.
Speaker 2: I totally get it.
Speaker 1: I love that And I had the night to myself,
Speaker 1: and I think that is filling up my cup and
Speaker 1: giving back to myself and making that decision based on
Speaker 1: my love language. Yes, I love that. And I think
Speaker 1: even little things when it comes to acts of service
Speaker 1: is don't be hard on yourself if maybe you need
Speaker 1: to get groceries delivered or reading some things sometimes to
Speaker 1: take those little errands off your plate. No, but if
Speaker 1: that's your love language, like that's where you should be
Speaker 1: spending your money, Yeah, to fill your cup exactly because
Speaker 1: it's worth it to you.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, Receiving gifts, oh, by yourself presence. Actually, you know what,
Speaker 1: this probably is my love language and I just fulfill it.
Speaker 2: So you don't need it from other people. Yes, that
Speaker 2: makes so much sense.
Speaker 1: Actually, this is such a good I just had the thought.
Speaker 1: But if you're lacking love, literally, think of what your
Speaker 1: love language is and give it to yourself. Yeah, like,
Speaker 1: oh for sure, even if you're in a relationship.
Speaker 2: I kind of men.
Speaker 1: Oh so the like I was when I was reading this,
Speaker 1: I was thinking about it, and I was thinking, you know,
Speaker 1: when I'm like off t him because he's you know,
Speaker 1: not showing me love or blah blah blah, I should
Speaker 1: really be like filling up.
Speaker 2: My own cup. Yeah, like not putting that on him.
Speaker 1: Yes, don't you think?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 1: And obviously, you know, having the conversation with him is great.
Speaker 1: But that's actually something I did think of. And that's
Speaker 1: probably true because receiving gifts used to be a love language.
Speaker 1: But I probably now just do it all myself, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's all good.
Speaker 2: It's full.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that part of your love language cup is full.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's even that like.
Speaker 1: Your love language quiz results is kind of what you're
Speaker 1: lacking in your love length so true. Not what your
Speaker 1: love language is, it's what you need more of, and
Speaker 1: maybe you need an equal amount of all of them.
Speaker 1: But it's like I'm already good in that department, so
Speaker 1: you don't need help.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, mind blown. I'm like, we've changed it.
Speaker 2: ReadWrite your book. We've changed the game.
Speaker 1: You know, it's gonna be funny. Is if like that
Speaker 1: is what is said in the book, is like I've
Speaker 1: got it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh my god, that's so try.
Speaker 1: I never really thought about that, and that's probably why
Speaker 1: it changes all the time, because you fluctuate with what
Speaker 1: you give yourself.
Speaker 2: You're so smart, okay. And then quality time, have some
Speaker 2: time alone, schedule that fucking self care.
Speaker 1: Time, massages I've started to cure.
Speaker 2: Try to do like a bath once a week on
Speaker 2: a Sunday night. Yeah, love. Yeah, just the little things
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 1: And I would go so far to say physical touch
Speaker 1: is like a similar sort of thing where it's like
Speaker 1: you schedule in that like time for yourself, Yeah, that
Speaker 1: intimate time for yourself. Yeah, because it's like how to
Speaker 1: get intimate yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah you mean.
Speaker 1: So that bath is the intimate yeah yeah, and also
Speaker 1: get a.
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, tears.
Speaker 1: Words I think even yeah, what just like that wholesome
Speaker 1: time alone to your self will fulfill that sort of
Speaker 1: part two? Yeah yeah love all right, guys, I hope
Speaker 1: you enjoyed this episode. I honestly found it so therapeutic
Speaker 1: to know my love language, to have that chat with Tim,
Speaker 1: and also it was just so interesting to know yoursit
Speaker 1: here I know I love Yeah.
Speaker 2: I highly suggest you guys do the queis again.
Speaker 1: Come and join us in the Facebook group. Let's have
Speaker 1: a chat about it. I would honestly love to know
Speaker 1: how I can do more of the physical touch for Tim,
Speaker 1: So if you have any ideas, Thank you so much
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