1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen Bear region. 3 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:13,320 Speaker 1: We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, 4 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders 5 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal 6 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:34,159 Speaker 1: and terrestrid Islander peoples today. Hello and welcome back to 7 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. 8 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,520 Speaker 2: This is the podcast for ordinary. 9 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 1: People who want to do extraordinary things. So not everyone 10 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: you know communicates and gives love in the same way. 11 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 1: So the whole premise is if you know your love 12 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 1: language and your partner's love language, or even just the 13 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 1: people around you, you will be able to express your 14 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 1: love and just express yourself and have a better relationship. 15 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: Hello and welcome back to the Rising Kunker Podcast. It 16 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: is your host, Georgie Stevenson, lawyer turned entrepreneur, business owner, 17 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:30,959 Speaker 1: new mum, all the things guys. Today we are talking 18 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 1: about love languages. So this concept has come from a 19 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: book by the author of Gary Chapman. The book is 20 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: called The Five Love Languages How to Express heartfelt commitment 21 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: to your Mate. So we have been talking about love 22 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: languages on in the office actually just randomly, and a 23 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: Tea was like, do you know yours? 24 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:57,600 Speaker 2: Do you know Tim's? 25 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: We got in this whole convo, made Tim do the test, 26 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: and turns out didn't. 27 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 2: Know didn't know your own either. 28 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: I didn't know my own. Thought it was physical touch, 29 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:14,359 Speaker 1: it wasn't didn't know Tim's. And then it opened up 30 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:18,679 Speaker 1: this really beautiful conversation between me and Tim about our 31 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: relationship and I think especially being new parents, Yeah, your 32 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 1: love kind of gets put on the back burner. So 33 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: it has just been a really great refresher for our relationship. 34 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 1: So we thought we'd bring it to the potty. Also, 35 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: A Tear chats about her love language and how she 36 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: fills up her own love cup. 37 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 2: Yes we're calling it that. I think we should love it. 38 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 2: We didn't in the episode, but now we are. 39 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 1: So. 40 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. 41 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:47,639 Speaker 1: It's a really beautiful episode and just for you guys 42 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: to think about, even if you're single, how you're filling 43 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: up your love. 44 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,239 Speaker 2: Cup and how you fill up the people around you too, 45 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:54,079 Speaker 2: friends and family. 46 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:59,519 Speaker 1: Yes, I love But before we get into the episodes, 47 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:02,280 Speaker 1: A Tear I had such a wholesome weekend. 48 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:03,359 Speaker 2: I loved that. 49 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:09,360 Speaker 1: So on Friday, I had my event for Pedal and Pup, 50 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 1: which was amazing collections, so beautiful, thank you, and it 51 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: was just so good to see like everyone there in 52 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 1: it in this you know room it was it was 53 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:19,800 Speaker 1: really spectacular. 54 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:20,919 Speaker 2: Everyone looked good. 55 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 1: Everyone looked amazing good. 56 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 2: So that was beautiful. Everyone got a little bit lit. 57 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: Literally except me because that tear doesn't drink, but because 58 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 1: we were at a gin distillery and they were making 59 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: these cocktails so strong. I had a mocktail and it 60 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 1: tasted really good. Mine tasted really good. It was just 61 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 1: you could tell you're drinking gin. They were really pumping 62 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 1: in there. So everyone like, by the end of it 63 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: was pretty lit, weren't they they were. It was such 64 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: a good aftern It was such aod. And then we 65 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: ended up at the pav after and then a tear 66 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: dropped me home at nine thirty. Thank you when you 67 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 1: get to lit, no no. And then I had a 68 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: beautiful Saturday with the fam. 69 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 2: We went to the beach. It felt like summer. I know, 70 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 2: I love it. It was so good. 71 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: And then Sunday I actually had a tears birthday picnic, 72 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: so cute, so bougie tears, like oh, I'm just doing 73 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: this really last minute little birthday picnic, like come I 74 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 1: come there. It's like fully set up. Everything's like color coordinated. 75 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: You should just seen the invite. She had flowers and 76 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: cakes and food and cookies and it was so beautiful 77 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 1: and I got to meet a lot of her friends, 78 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 1: which was lovely nice. And then this week is a 79 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: huge week because Naked Harvest is actually gearing up for 80 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 1: its like biggest launch. 81 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:49,479 Speaker 2: Ever, so exciting. Tears like I know what it is. 82 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:54,159 Speaker 1: You should tell everything? Should I just tell them? No, guys, 83 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 1: would we're launching? 84 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 2: And there is Yeah, I didn't even know. 85 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:06,920 Speaker 1: So yeah, that's your told you guys. First, our tea 86 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 1: is literally just like running off to tame Bell. So look, 87 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: she's got a busy week, I did say to a tea. 88 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 1: I feel like my throat is getting a little bit sore, 89 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 1: which means we better record the next few weeks episode tomorrow. No, 90 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: it just means she's working hard. Yeah, but after this 91 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 1: I can obviously chill out. But oh my god, I'm 92 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:27,040 Speaker 1: so excited. 93 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 2: This is just we've. 94 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 1: Been I can't I just can't say too much. But anyway, 95 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: it's a long time coming, and h gag. You're going 96 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: to be obsessed and it's going to be a big week, 97 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: but I'm so excited to be here. How's your week? 98 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 1: Being a tear my Wee's been pretty good. Our weekend 99 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:47,799 Speaker 1: are pretty much the same. We had Friday together, Saturday, 100 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: I had a pretty chill day. I didn't get to 101 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: the beach, but I just had a chill day with 102 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: my fam and went out for a late birthday dinner 103 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: and Saturday night which was really good, and. 104 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 2: Then Sunday had my picnic. So it's just very relaxing. 105 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 1: And I'm gonna go rote and give a recommendation on 106 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: a Tuesday, but I think everyone should try and get 107 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 1: outside into nature because the beach was the first time 108 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 1: I've been to the beach and like just lounged about 109 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: in a long time because it beach is a. 110 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 2: Bit far for me. I was about to say me 111 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: every day. 112 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, And it was really nice and I felt really 113 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: good and really refreshed and. 114 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 2: After love love that for you. 115 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: All right, guys, let's get into the episode. You guys 116 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 1: gonna love this one, all right, guys. So what our 117 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:36,160 Speaker 1: love languages? So there are five love languages and basically 118 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 1: they kind of give us an indication of how we 119 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: like to receive love in our lives and how we 120 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: like to give love. This is one of a Tear's 121 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:51,480 Speaker 1: favorite subjects. Yeah, honestly it is. I feel like it 122 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: can even if you're not in a relationship. Is so 123 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: beneficial to know and understand all the love languages and 124 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: if you can find out love languages of those around you. 125 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 1: In prep for this episode, me and Tim did the tests, 126 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: so actually him before we get into it. So basically, 127 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: the five Love Languages is from a book called The 128 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: Five Love Languages How You Can Express Heartfelt Commitment to 129 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 1: Your Mate by Gary Chapman, and in this read it. 130 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: I haven't read it, but I've read a lot on it. 131 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I'm the same. I haven't read that, speek. 132 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 2: I haven't even read the book. 133 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: What it's called, How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to your Mate? True, 134 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 1: maybe I didn't. Maybe I need to read it and 135 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 1: give it to dinner. But basically, the five love languages 136 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: are words of affirmation, quality, time, receiving gifts, acts of service, 137 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: and physical touch. So not everyone you know communicates and 138 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:53,480 Speaker 1: gives love in the same way. 139 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 2: So the whole premise is. 140 00:07:55,600 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 1: If you know your love language and your partner's love language, 141 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: or even just the people around you, you will be 142 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: able to express your love and just express yourself and 143 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: have a better relationship. 144 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 2: So that would you would say it to you? 145 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, and even I'm not sure if anyone else's experiences. 146 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: When I was younger, words of affirmation was definitely my 147 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:20,679 Speaker 1: love language, and I sent the longest paragraphs to people 148 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: and get like a banks bag and I'd. 149 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 2: Be like, yeah, damn in the heart it is. 150 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: But then as you get older and the more I 151 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: learned about this, I was like, oh, well, their love 152 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:36,319 Speaker 1: language was clearly not words of affirmation, which is also 153 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:39,719 Speaker 1: why I never got massive paragraphs from them. 154 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 2: So which is what you craved? Which is what I wanted? 155 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:46,040 Speaker 1: And see, this is the thing though, is you often 156 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: express your love in what you would want for yourself. Yeah, 157 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: but then it might not be their love language. So 158 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: that's when you know. Stuff can come up where you're like, 159 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:58,079 Speaker 1: but I do this for you, and the other person 160 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 1: is like I don't care. Yes, And then like that 161 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 1: you're missing the whole point and you're probably going to 162 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 1: this effort. 163 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 2: And you don't need to yes. Yeah. 164 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 1: So in prep for this episode, me and Tim both 165 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 1: did the quizzz So, yeah, what's the quiz called a tea? 166 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: Well if you did in the show notes, Yeah, so 167 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:19,800 Speaker 1: you just google five love language quiz and I'm guessing 168 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: it's a quiz from the book, but you can do 169 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 1: it and. 170 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 2: It tells you your love language. 171 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 1: So me and Tim both did it and in prep 172 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,680 Speaker 1: for this episode, and oh my god, it tea. I 173 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 1: haven't really told you the outcome. No you haven't because 174 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: it was on the weekend. 175 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm ready to know. 176 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: We had I'll tell you the outcome. I think we 177 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 1: will express I'm sorry talk about them individually first. But 178 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 1: we had the best conversation me and Tim, and I 179 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: realized I didn't know his love language. 180 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 2: I literally thought it. 181 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: Was something else, and he kind of got mine. But 182 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 1: it's crazy because one that he thought would be like 183 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 1: my second or close to my first, I literally got 184 00:09:58,400 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 1: zero percent. 185 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 2: So I was no. 186 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 1: It was such a great conversation, so good, and we 187 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:08,360 Speaker 1: got talking about it and oh my god, it was 188 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 1: so good. So I'm so excited to get into it. 189 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:15,079 Speaker 1: Before I get into my love language. Tim Love's language 190 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 1: your love language a tea? Do you want to just 191 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 1: tell the audience a little. 192 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:22,200 Speaker 2: Bit about each love language. 193 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:24,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's go one for one. 194 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 2: You go first. 195 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: So the first one we've got here is words of affirmation. 196 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: So that is very much expressing your love with words 197 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:35,320 Speaker 1: that build your partner or your loved ones up and 198 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: make them feel appreciated. 199 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:38,920 Speaker 2: They don't have to be complicated. 200 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:43,000 Speaker 1: Sometimes the shortest and simplest phrases can be the most effective. 201 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: But think things like always making sure to message a 202 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 1: person or say something to them when you see them, 203 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 1: that sort of thing. Words of affirmation I also find 204 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: personally with when this was my love language and people 205 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: who I know this is their love language. It's not 206 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:02,719 Speaker 1: normally short phrases. It does tend to be quite the 207 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:06,319 Speaker 1: lengthy paragraphs or things like that, just really trying to 208 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:09,200 Speaker 1: express themselves and how much they love you with their words. 209 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:10,559 Speaker 2: See one of. 210 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:14,240 Speaker 1: Tim's is words of affirmation, but he's like, he doesn't 211 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: want the long he just wants the I love you 212 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 1: wow or I'm so proud of you yeah, And I'm like, oh, 213 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:23,040 Speaker 1: I'm so mean. 214 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 2: I'm like, but you know I love you all right, guys. 215 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:31,959 Speaker 2: So the next one, which is my Fair. 216 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: Song, is a good one. Acts of service. Basically, I 217 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,079 Speaker 1: just want you to do shit for me. So acts 218 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:43,080 Speaker 1: of service is when your partner or your loved ones 219 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: might do just basically think actions speak louder than words, 220 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:52,440 Speaker 1: So they'll either do something that relieves you of stress 221 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 1: or helps you in some way, or is somethink. It 222 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 1: doesn't even have to be a big thing. It's usually 223 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,840 Speaker 1: small things, like it's things for me, but it's just 224 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,440 Speaker 1: in a requirement that I was meant. 225 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 2: To do that you do for me. 226 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:08,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like they know that you're supposed to cook that night, 227 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: but they just cook because they know you're at work late, 228 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 1: or yeah, do a load of laundry, that sort of stuff. 229 00:12:13,920 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah. 230 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:17,679 Speaker 1: For me. When I think of acts of service as well, 231 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: because it's high up on my list, is if someone 232 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:23,200 Speaker 1: like knew I had to go to the store to 233 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 1: get something but I was really busy that day and 234 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 1: went and got it and brought it home, Yes, I'd. 235 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,439 Speaker 2: Be like, oh, acts. 236 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:33,560 Speaker 1: Of service is my top one too. And I was 237 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:37,439 Speaker 1: explaining to Tim, for example, if I've told you I've 238 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: had a really stressful day and I'm like, you know, 239 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 1: feeling really down or something like that, like coming home 240 00:12:44,160 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 1: and he's run a bath for me, Like could. 241 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:49,680 Speaker 2: I thought I was gonna say a bath for you. 242 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 2: It's like so. 243 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:53,079 Speaker 1: Funny because I like said that to him and he 244 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: was like, I just never would have thought of that, 245 00:12:56,360 --> 00:12:58,559 Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, thank god we had this conversation. 246 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 1: And also another big thing too is something For example, 247 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:06,160 Speaker 1: Tim always cooks dinner, but. 248 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:09,440 Speaker 2: Which is amazing. That is amazing. He always cooks dinner. 249 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: I fed Ivy, But something that happens is I always 250 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:18,079 Speaker 1: have to tell him to start, So I always be like, Babe, 251 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: I'm feeding Ivy, do you want to start dinner? 252 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 2: So we're you know, eating at the same time. A 253 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 2: bah blah blah. 254 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:24,760 Speaker 1: And I'm like, it would just be nice if I 255 00:13:24,840 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 1: didn't have to ask you. 256 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:29,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, like if he just started making dinner, correct, I 257 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 2: love that? 258 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: Okay, You're going to he loves herd Access service Number 259 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:37,000 Speaker 1: three is receiving gifts. So the receiving gifts love language 260 00:13:37,080 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 1: isn't necessarily materialistic. It just means that a meaningful or 261 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: thoughtful gift makes you or your partner feel loved and appreciated, 262 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 1: something as simple as picking up a pint of their 263 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:50,200 Speaker 1: favorite ice cream after a long work week can make 264 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: a huge impact. 265 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 2: I really love this one. Yeah, I feel like that's 266 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:56,800 Speaker 2: your gift. 267 00:13:57,160 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 1: I feel like that's your love language of how you 268 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:01,480 Speaker 1: show it to be. As I said to a tear, 269 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:03,319 Speaker 1: she's only worked for me for like three months. I've 270 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 1: never received so many gifts of my wife. I wouldn't 271 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: even think about it, please said, and I was like, shit, yeah, 272 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:12,040 Speaker 1: probably need a calm down. No, but like so sweet, 273 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 1: Like I remember when you first started work, you got 274 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 1: me the diffuser. Yeah, like the what are the little 275 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:18,040 Speaker 1: sticks called? 276 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 2: There's a diffusal one, but incense is that? 277 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, so you got the me those which are like 278 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 1: so sweet for my offers. And then like I remember 279 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: from South Africa, you got me this like cute little draft. 280 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 2: And then your mom bought. 281 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 1: My family likes giving gift tears. Mom bought Ivy the 282 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 1: cutest little hat that has like a giraffe and her name. 283 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: Oh my god, guys, I got to show your photo 284 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: of it because it's so cute. 285 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:48,680 Speaker 2: I'll put it. I'll get a tear the photos and 286 00:14:48,720 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 2: then I'll know my Ivy. 287 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:52,840 Speaker 1: I feel like you've got me something else your birthday gift. 288 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:56,400 Speaker 1: Oh oh my god, mate doesn't know you can see 289 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 1: gifts are like. 290 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 2: Law and Wife, like a tea. This beautiful. It's like 291 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:03,400 Speaker 2: it's not digitally drawn. 292 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 1: I to say, she hasn't like hand no, no, but 293 00:15:06,360 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 1: it's like an artist has drawn a photo of me 294 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 1: and Ivy together and we're both wearing our like LSKD 295 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 1: Rise tops and it's oh my, it's the sweetest thing 296 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: I've ever received. 297 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:17,880 Speaker 2: That's actually so glad. 298 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: Personalized gifts where I know the person has put a 299 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 1: lot of thought into it, yeah, are like they're like 300 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: my soft spot. Yeah, it's like so sweet. 301 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 2: I'm glad. 302 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 1: That's like I remember Jamie actually got me one Christmas 303 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 1: photo of Barren Wolf hand drawing and I was like, oh, 304 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,720 Speaker 1: like before I had Ivy because they're like my baby yeah, 305 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: and I was like that's so cute. 306 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. 307 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 1: Okay, So the next one is quality time. 308 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 2: I love this one. So quality time is just like. 309 00:15:47,520 --> 00:15:50,680 Speaker 1: When there's like, you know, no tvee that it's like 310 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: you have their undivided attention and it doesn't even matter 311 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 1: what you guys do. You just like love being in 312 00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 1: their presence. 313 00:15:58,280 --> 00:15:58,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. 314 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:04,000 Speaker 1: And then last one physical touch. So again this doesn't 315 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:06,960 Speaker 1: have to be essensual sexual. 316 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 2: No, this is literally. 317 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:12,640 Speaker 1: Just like intimate, so it might be like holding hands, 318 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 1: having an embrace. Like I have girlfriends who you could 319 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 1: tell physical touch would be one of their love language 320 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 1: because they're just like, you know, really lovey. Yes, yeah, 321 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 1: love that aspect. And I think even physical touch comes 322 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 1: down to just like being physically in that person's presence, 323 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:32,600 Speaker 1: or like like sitting a little bit closer together and 324 00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: the little things. 325 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 2: Like that, yeah, exactly. Yeah. 326 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:38,040 Speaker 1: So the whole thing, guys is if you don't know 327 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: your partner's love language, you're probably trying to show them 328 00:16:41,960 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 1: love of how you want them to show you love, 329 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:47,720 Speaker 1: which may not be their love language, so you may 330 00:16:47,760 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 1: get not the best response. Yeah. And I think this 331 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:53,120 Speaker 1: is why it's so important as well, because this is 332 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:56,280 Speaker 1: gonna be a bit brutal. But if someone's love language 333 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 1: is words of affirmation and you're just buying them all 334 00:16:58,600 --> 00:16:59,840 Speaker 1: these presents, they're not. 335 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:03,600 Speaker 2: Going to care, yes, like it exactly waste. 336 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:05,919 Speaker 1: It's a waste of your time and your money. Like 337 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 1: you might as well put that time into writing them 338 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:12,320 Speaker 1: a letter and that will just light them up way 339 00:17:12,359 --> 00:17:14,200 Speaker 1: more than your presence would. 340 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:15,639 Speaker 2: Yes. Yeah. 341 00:17:15,680 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: And also the great thing about this is like me 342 00:17:19,840 --> 00:17:23,199 Speaker 1: and Tim had this very open conversation about it, and 343 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:28,320 Speaker 1: I kind of realized I hadn't been showing my love 344 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 1: to him because I just didn't know if that makes sense. 345 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:35,720 Speaker 2: And now that I know, I'm like, oh, this is 346 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:37,199 Speaker 2: how to do it. Yeah, this is how to do it. 347 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 1: So well, let's get into our love languages a tr okay, guys. 348 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:47,719 Speaker 1: So my results thirty three percent acts of service. Wow, 349 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 1: I want you to do shit for me? No? Well, 350 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:53,439 Speaker 1: I think And this is the interesting thing too, is 351 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:56,960 Speaker 1: I think my love language has changed over the years. 352 00:17:57,080 --> 00:17:58,120 Speaker 2: Would you say yours has? 353 00:17:58,240 --> 00:17:58,440 Speaker 1: Oh? 354 00:17:58,480 --> 00:17:59,120 Speaker 2: Absolutely? 355 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: And I don't think this ever used to be this, 356 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:08,200 Speaker 1: But because I've turned into such a busy gl for example, 357 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:11,920 Speaker 1: I and especially being a mum, I often and feeling 358 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: quite stressed and overwhelmed. So when someone takes something off 359 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:20,360 Speaker 1: my plate or they do something that I'm like without 360 00:18:20,840 --> 00:18:25,359 Speaker 1: me asking them, it's like such a relief and such 361 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 1: a like oh thank you, Like that is that's so thoughtful? 362 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 1: Whereas you know what's really and okay. So then my 363 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 1: second is words of affirmation. 364 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 2: Oh would you have got that? 365 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:39,719 Speaker 1: I would not have guessed that really, Yeah, I just 366 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: feel like you would be which you kind of are 367 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:45,399 Speaker 1: because acts of services first, but I would have pegged 368 00:18:45,480 --> 00:18:48,160 Speaker 1: you more as a person that's like, I literally don't 369 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:50,439 Speaker 1: care what you say, just show me. 370 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. 371 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:55,679 Speaker 1: I think it's like the inner child in me, just 372 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:58,159 Speaker 1: like yeah, like mom. 373 00:18:57,920 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 2: Just say I like, no joke. I think it is well. 374 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:07,399 Speaker 1: I think like the words of affirmation for example, you 375 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:10,520 Speaker 1: know Tim coming up to me after a hard day 376 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:14,080 Speaker 1: of work, Yeah, after he's run me a bath and 377 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 1: being like, oh, baby, works so hard, I'm so. 378 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:17,320 Speaker 2: Proud of you. 379 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:20,960 Speaker 1: Oh that and anyway makes like the stressful day worth it. Yeah, 380 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: I'm like anything for you, babe, you know, like yeah, 381 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:27,800 Speaker 1: to notice that and to express that to me, I 382 00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:30,200 Speaker 1: think is really nice. And I think also like when 383 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:33,320 Speaker 1: you have friends who do send you I love random 384 00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: messages from friends. 385 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever get it. 386 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 1: But for all my friends, I don't think any of 387 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 1: them will listen. But I don't know a text from 388 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:46,640 Speaker 1: a friend who's just like, you're doing you a good 389 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:50,359 Speaker 1: job or I was thinking of today. Actually, I do 390 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:52,840 Speaker 1: have a girlfriend who does this all the time. Sasha, 391 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 1: one of my girlfriends who's a new mum. She will 392 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:59,440 Speaker 1: randomly send me messages literally just going on a rant 393 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:02,200 Speaker 1: of how much he loves me. Oh that's so sweet, 394 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:05,119 Speaker 1: and I just like, I'm like, it just gets me 395 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,280 Speaker 1: in the fields, and I'm like, she did not have 396 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 1: to do that. That's actually she's also the friend who 397 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:14,000 Speaker 1: randomly brings me brownies to the office a tea, which 398 00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 1: is acts of service. That is, she knows so words 399 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 1: of affirmation and like, for example, I do totally have 400 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: like a thing with I love when my parents say 401 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 1: they're proud of me and you know, stuff like that. 402 00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:32,560 Speaker 1: Then my third twenty three percent is quality time love. 403 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:36,480 Speaker 1: So obviously quality time with you know, Tim and Ivy 404 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: and friends. Like I remember for my birthday this year, 405 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:43,760 Speaker 1: I had lunch with literally like one or two friends 406 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,040 Speaker 1: and I said to them, on previous years, I've done 407 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:49,199 Speaker 1: it with like my whole group of girlfriends as like 408 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,920 Speaker 1: you know, eight or ten of us, and this year 409 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 1: I was just like I sent a text to like 410 00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:56,840 Speaker 1: my closest girlfriends. Well actually it was only the other 411 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:59,439 Speaker 1: the people who like asked what I was doing, and 412 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:01,439 Speaker 1: I just said, oh, like I'm keen to do a 413 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,479 Speaker 1: little you know, a lunch or something, but I just 414 00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:06,440 Speaker 1: want it to be super low key and. 415 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:08,480 Speaker 2: I just want to like chat to you guys. 416 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to you know, take photos of 417 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:15,439 Speaker 1: our you know, fucking lunch or you know, it be 418 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:18,199 Speaker 1: a thing, or there be too many people so I 419 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 1: can't have like a deep conversation. 420 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 2: Yeah that when you have to do that like sort 421 00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 2: of circling around. 422 00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 1: Ye, no, Like I wasn't interested in that. I was like, 423 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 1: I literally just want to talk one on one with 424 00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 1: like one or two people. Let's have a deep convo 425 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 1: because that fills out my cup. Yeah, I love that, 426 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: and I often do love doing things with friends one 427 00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:42,240 Speaker 1: on one rather than a group. Yeah, one hundred percent. 428 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:44,720 Speaker 1: So I can get like I recently just did a 429 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 1: bestie weekend with my girlfriend Licinda, who I've literally known 430 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:52,200 Speaker 1: since I was thirteen, and we said because she's the same, 431 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: and we were like, oh my god, it's actually just 432 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,679 Speaker 1: so nice to like get onto that deeper level with someone. 433 00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,320 Speaker 1: Because also I feel like when you get older, you 434 00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,680 Speaker 1: have like less time, and so it does tend to. 435 00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 2: Feel a bit like surface level. 436 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:06,560 Speaker 1: So like quality time for me is huge, and also 437 00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 1: like quality time I guess with Tim, like when Tim, 438 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 1: he can just be a bit of a scatter brain. 439 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,200 Speaker 1: So like we'll be sitting down, you know, having dinner 440 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,680 Speaker 1: or something, and he'll just like pick up his phone 441 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: because you know, an Airbnb message comes up and he 442 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:26,439 Speaker 1: feels like he has to reply straight away, or like 443 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:29,760 Speaker 1: he'll literally having conversation with Tim and he'll just like 444 00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 1: walk away and do a job what like as he's 445 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:36,240 Speaker 1: talking to me, but like he's just like thinking of 446 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,520 Speaker 1: other things. Yeah, and to me, like it needs to be. 447 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:42,200 Speaker 1: I feel like my cup is full when it literally 448 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:45,879 Speaker 1: lets one or one it and I have his undivided attention, 449 00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,240 Speaker 1: which you know, I had this conversation with him, and 450 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:52,000 Speaker 1: then my foreth one is physical touch. But that was 451 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,000 Speaker 1: only seventeen percent. But in saying that, you know, I 452 00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 1: guess how to fill up my own cup is I 453 00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,840 Speaker 1: get a massage because I just. 454 00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:04,480 Speaker 2: I I love it. I love it. 455 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 1: And then receiving gifts came in at zero percent. 456 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:09,160 Speaker 2: Oh, we love a good serial. 457 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,840 Speaker 1: And honestly, I think gifts used to be one of 458 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:17,199 Speaker 1: my top love languages back in the day. And I 459 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:20,400 Speaker 1: think it's because now if I want anything, I. 460 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,680 Speaker 2: Just gone by it myself. 461 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 1: Fair Like, I just gone by it myself because I 462 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 1: used to get really annoyed because Tim wouldn't buy me 463 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 1: like what I wanted, and he wouldn't like listen to 464 00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:33,880 Speaker 1: the thing I wanted, and then like on the birthday, 465 00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 1: buy me what I wanted. And we used to get 466 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:39,639 Speaker 1: in fines over this, and so now I literally just 467 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 1: buy anything I want for myself as soon as you 468 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:44,439 Speaker 1: want it, as soon as I want it, and I 469 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:46,160 Speaker 1: then am just like I don't even have to worry 470 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:50,160 Speaker 1: about having this watch. So in saying that, though, for example, 471 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:52,800 Speaker 1: I said before, when I receive gifts that I know 472 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:56,680 Speaker 1: the person has like really thought about it, it's special 473 00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,119 Speaker 1: to me. But I feel like sometimes that's more like 474 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 1: you appreciate the quality time that was spent into getting 475 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: that gift. Yeah, exactly, so gift, yeah, like them going 476 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,879 Speaker 1: to the EFIC the act of service. True, oh guys, 477 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,080 Speaker 1: just active service. And so okay, I'll quickly go through 478 00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:18,199 Speaker 1: TIMS really quickly, and then I'll tell you my conversation. So, yeah, 479 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 1: Tim's thirty three percent physical touch. 480 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 2: Whoa yeah, and yours is seventeen Yeah. 481 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:27,879 Speaker 1: Then he next his quality time at twenty nine percent, 482 00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,760 Speaker 1: so we're kind of similar with that, and then words 483 00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:34,640 Speaker 1: of affirmation were twenty six percent which again we're similar 484 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: acts of service. For him ten percent, didn't care about 485 00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,640 Speaker 1: acts because he goes, I know, you. 486 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 2: Don't have time to do anything for me, and I. 487 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:46,719 Speaker 1: Feel so bad and he that is so sweet, I know, 488 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:48,720 Speaker 1: but he's also like, I'm just so happy to do 489 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 1: it myself. Yeah, and then gifts at three percent, so 490 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:53,959 Speaker 1: he's not worried about gifts either. Wo because again he 491 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 1: and he's been like this from the start. If he 492 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:57,399 Speaker 1: wants something, he just goes and buys it. 493 00:24:57,560 --> 00:24:57,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 494 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 1: He doesn't care about people like going to the episode 495 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:01,000 Speaker 1: for him. 496 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:01,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 497 00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:04,400 Speaker 1: So we had this conversation and I was so surprised 498 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 1: because I don't think I would have got his physical 499 00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:10,800 Speaker 1: touch and so interesting. I said to him, like, what 500 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:17,640 Speaker 1: do you want from me? And I was like whoa 501 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,600 Speaker 1: And he's like, no, not sexually. 502 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,560 Speaker 2: We were all thinking it. It's I don't want to 503 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:28,440 Speaker 2: have sex more. Basically, should you do that thirty days challenge? 504 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 1: Me? 505 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,399 Speaker 2: Should we do the thirty days? It's like a TikTok challenge. 506 00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:36,240 Speaker 1: I didn't know that, didn't you know, But like a 507 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 1: young people TikTok why they need an intimacy. That's so true, 508 00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 1: But it's because we're so obsessed with like technology in 509 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,120 Speaker 1: our phone and it's all the big thing anyway too. 510 00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:45,800 Speaker 2: Tim was like, no, not sexually. 511 00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,600 Speaker 1: Tim was like, for example, he's like, I'd love if 512 00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:51,639 Speaker 1: you came home and like the first thing you do 513 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:54,800 Speaker 1: is like come up and hug me. Oh that's sweet, 514 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:56,199 Speaker 1: And he's like, don't mean to. 515 00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:01,440 Speaker 2: Say. In my head, I was like, what do I do? 516 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,240 Speaker 2: Do you just like walk in thousands of down? 517 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:03,800 Speaker 1: No? 518 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:05,159 Speaker 2: I think I go straight to Ivy? 519 00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,399 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, probably, Well that makes I'm sure you probably 520 00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 1: used to go in. 521 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:12,240 Speaker 2: And hug him straight away. Yeah, I don't know before Ivy. 522 00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 2: I don't remember before I but he's. 523 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:16,439 Speaker 1: Like, you know, just to come in and like hug me, 524 00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 1: or he's like you know, if you're in public, like 525 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 1: holding my or. 526 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,119 Speaker 2: He's like also just being like lovey. 527 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, like just like a little bit obsessed with him. Yes, yes, 528 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 1: which I just was like, You're like, I don't get it. 529 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 1: I know, because I'm like that's just so weird. But 530 00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,359 Speaker 1: it's like so good to know now because I'm like easy, 531 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:41,160 Speaker 1: You're just mate. 532 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, acually is so easy. But my god, you know 533 00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:45,119 Speaker 2: what I did this morning? 534 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:49,240 Speaker 1: So I wake up and I meditated my bed. I 535 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,440 Speaker 1: put my like, I literally turned my lum off. I 536 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,199 Speaker 1: put my headphones on, and I like lay there and 537 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:55,440 Speaker 1: meditate because I'm like too lazy. 538 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:56,720 Speaker 2: To get up to my meditation chair. 539 00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,000 Speaker 1: It's also a bit cold anyway. Yeah, so what I 540 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,080 Speaker 1: did this morning, Tim's always still sleep beside me. I 541 00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:02,960 Speaker 1: also don't want to wake him. Yeah, what I did 542 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,560 Speaker 1: this morning was like I put my headphones on, put 543 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,600 Speaker 1: my thing on, and then under the covers, I reached 544 00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:13,200 Speaker 1: and grabbed his hand and we meditated and we love productive. 545 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 2: Col I was just like, I'm gonna kill two birds one. 546 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:27,680 Speaker 1: My god, I didn't think of it, so I didn't 547 00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:28,080 Speaker 1: have to do. 548 00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:32,439 Speaker 2: It after And this is what loved, Like we're just 549 00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:36,239 Speaker 2: about how to manipulate your part to thinking no. 550 00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 1: But I could just tell he loved it because then 551 00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:39,280 Speaker 1: he stroked my hand. 552 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,080 Speaker 2: And I thought this was so nice. That is nice 553 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:45,399 Speaker 2: and it's not hard for you to do. 554 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, And like when I left, I was I gave 555 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 1: her my heart because I just like say bye, I'm 556 00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 1: glad you're slivy and I always like hugging kiss her 557 00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:57,679 Speaker 1: and I probably don't do the same to him, like 558 00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:00,239 Speaker 1: I'm nice to him. I just I could probably make 559 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,400 Speaker 1: more of an effort. Yeah, but yeah, I didn't know. 560 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,760 Speaker 1: And then obviously the quality time, like we're both had 561 00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 1: that and I explained to him like I'm like, get 562 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,000 Speaker 1: the fuck off your phone. I don't care about it, 563 00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:13,919 Speaker 1: Like make them way. We talked about that, and a 564 00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:17,679 Speaker 1: huge thing we spoke about is, for instance, like my 565 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,879 Speaker 1: biggest pet peeve is you know, team's at home with 566 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 1: Ivy your day, and so I'll come home and sometimes 567 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,640 Speaker 1: I come home and he's like sitting on the counch 568 00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:30,719 Speaker 1: with Ivy watching one of her shows and then like 569 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,240 Speaker 1: the washing's not done or like oh yeah, you know 570 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,200 Speaker 1: something that. 571 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 2: I have to then do. 572 00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,680 Speaker 1: But I just, like I explained to him, when I 573 00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,120 Speaker 1: come home, I would love if we had an hour 574 00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,280 Speaker 1: of family time where there's no phone, there's no TV. 575 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,560 Speaker 1: It's just us catching up or talking or doing something. 576 00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: But often I have to come home and then do 577 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:54,000 Speaker 1: a job that you probably could have done during the day. Yeah, 578 00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,239 Speaker 1: And he did acknowledge that, so that was like a 579 00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 1: good thing. And then also we're going to start just 580 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,920 Speaker 1: planning or I also said to him, because he's like, oh, 581 00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,080 Speaker 1: like I want to have more like one on one 582 00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:07,640 Speaker 1: time with you, And I was like, well, then like 583 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,760 Speaker 1: on a Thursday, because we've got like, you know, babysitters 584 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:13,479 Speaker 1: that we will use at various times because yeah, more 585 00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: randomly go to golf on a Thursday. 586 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 2: Oh literally, get home and he's like, oh, I just 587 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 2: got a babysitters. Not a joke anyway, that's a whole 588 00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:22,040 Speaker 2: other story. 589 00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:25,400 Speaker 1: But I'm like, you could organize the babysitter and be like, Babe, 590 00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:26,200 Speaker 1: we're doing date night. 591 00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,480 Speaker 2: I've got a babysitter. Yeah, I love that, do you. 592 00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:30,480 Speaker 1: I mean, if he's the one who's like I wouldn't 593 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:34,720 Speaker 1: quality time like kind of taking that initiative. Yes, I 594 00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 1: also said the bath thing, but like I really don't 595 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:41,000 Speaker 1: think that's gonna happen. Surely if you can hold his hand, 596 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 1: he can run your buck. 597 00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 2: And he's a good taker turning it down. 598 00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,120 Speaker 1: And also I think like a big thing for him 599 00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 1: of words of affirmation is I probably do need to 600 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:52,520 Speaker 1: be a bit more. 601 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 2: Like I love that you did the washingt today. 602 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,680 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, those small things of well, I even like 603 00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,080 Speaker 1: I probably would want to say, you know more stuff 604 00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:04,880 Speaker 1: like you're such a good dad, Yeah, you know, stuff 605 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:06,920 Speaker 1: like that, like I do say it's not like I don't, yeah, 606 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 1: but being more intentional and like kind of doing that. 607 00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:12,640 Speaker 1: And I explain to him, I guess the reason why 608 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:17,480 Speaker 1: we haven't, you know, I haven't sometimes done those things 609 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:19,840 Speaker 1: is because you know, I'll get home and see that, 610 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,160 Speaker 1: you know, the washing isn't done and they're fucking sitting 611 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:22,720 Speaker 1: on the couch. 612 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:24,640 Speaker 2: So then I feel resentful. 613 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: So I'm like, I'm not gonna fucking tell you your 614 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 1: good dad. And then because I come home and I'm 615 00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 1: probably in a bit of a bad mood, he's probably like, oh, 616 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:34,720 Speaker 1: I'm not going to run the bath for you, and 617 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:38,440 Speaker 1: like you can get in a funk, yeah, like a weird, 618 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:43,040 Speaker 1: funky cycle because you didn't understand what the other person needs. Yeah, 619 00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:46,440 Speaker 1: and that's why it was literally such a good thing. Guys, 620 00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 1: with your partner or your friends or even yourself, do 621 00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 1: this little quiz, know your love languages and have a 622 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 1: conversation about what would make you feel good and what 623 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 1: would the other person you know need, because it's just 624 00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,360 Speaker 1: so insightful. Yeah, so what's yours? 625 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:08,480 Speaker 2: My number one at thirty seven percent, so actually quite high. 626 00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 2: Now that's huge. Yeah. Good portion is quality time, and 627 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,960 Speaker 2: I think we spend so much time? Is that why 628 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:23,160 Speaker 2: you're obsessed? Why we're morphing to the same person. 629 00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,920 Speaker 1: Literally, And I think for me, that's just because what 630 00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:32,440 Speaker 1: I feel like personally, I look at as everybody's most 631 00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:37,920 Speaker 1: valuable kind of asset. So if someone takes the time 632 00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:41,440 Speaker 1: to like give me their undivided attention for a night 633 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,400 Speaker 1: or a day or however long, I really appreciate it 634 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:48,280 Speaker 1: because I understand how hard that can be. My next one, 635 00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,360 Speaker 1: so big jump down at twenty percent, is acts of service? 636 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 2: Interesting. 637 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:53,760 Speaker 1: I love. 638 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,200 Speaker 2: I love getting things done for me. It's the best. Yeah, 639 00:31:58,320 --> 00:31:59,160 Speaker 2: it's just so good. 640 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,280 Speaker 1: Like what because I also would love to chat about, 641 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 1: for example, because you don't have a partner, what does 642 00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:09,040 Speaker 1: this look like for yourself or your friends? So like, 643 00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:12,000 Speaker 1: for example, go like with quality time, what would that 644 00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:15,160 Speaker 1: look like for yourself for your friends? It'd be like, Oh, 645 00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:16,880 Speaker 1: I did this with one of my friends a while ago. 646 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:20,240 Speaker 1: We made pasta from scratch scratch. Oh I saw that, 647 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:22,680 Speaker 1: yeah one night, and that meant a lot to me 648 00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:25,720 Speaker 1: because I'm like, this is actually time consuming. She actually 649 00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:28,400 Speaker 1: the act of service there. She went to the markets 650 00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,040 Speaker 1: that morning and got everything fresh. So I was like, 651 00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:33,480 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is so sweet. She went out 652 00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:35,640 Speaker 1: of her way to do that, and I didn't have 653 00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:37,960 Speaker 1: to bring anything and I just went there and we 654 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,200 Speaker 1: had like the nicest night. We were bailey on our phone, 655 00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:42,080 Speaker 1: took a picture of the pastor at the end. 656 00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:43,040 Speaker 2: Then cute. 657 00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,320 Speaker 1: Needed but like just had a good catch up and 658 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 1: like you said, undivided attention, Like you got onto that 659 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,800 Speaker 1: deeper level. And that's what I really liked doing with 660 00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:55,680 Speaker 1: my friends as well, because otherwise it's just like a 661 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:58,040 Speaker 1: bit pointless, Like I don't want to sit there. 662 00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:01,680 Speaker 2: And be like, Hi, how are you? Yeah all the time. Yeah, 663 00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:03,040 Speaker 2: this weather's just great. 664 00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:12,240 Speaker 1: El Nina, Nina's coming, Oh my god, side joke. 665 00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 666 00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:17,360 Speaker 1: And so for me, quality time is very much that 667 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,680 Speaker 1: if someone's like let's go for a drive, or let's 668 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,160 Speaker 1: go out for the day or acts of service. When 669 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,480 Speaker 1: I was first year of UNI, one of my friends 670 00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:26,000 Speaker 1: would be like, do you have any errands you need 671 00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:28,880 Speaker 1: to run? Let's go run errands together today and she's 672 00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 1: literally picked me up from my house and we do 673 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,760 Speaker 1: a day of errands. I'm like, so cute, Yeah what 674 00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:37,320 Speaker 1: about yourself? So like for myself, yeah, I like to 675 00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 1: give love to yourself for quality time, very much time alone, 676 00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:46,120 Speaker 1: like I tried to love time alone, like figure out 677 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:49,520 Speaker 1: at some point during the week, I need time by 678 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,520 Speaker 1: myself shut out from everyone. Whether that means I need 679 00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:54,520 Speaker 1: noise canceling headphones on in my room, or I go 680 00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,880 Speaker 1: for a walk or a drive or to the even 681 00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:58,920 Speaker 1: just to the shops by myself to walk around. I 682 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 1: quite enjoy, so I make sure I do that. Acts 683 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:04,600 Speaker 1: of service for yourself can be a little bit hard, 684 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:09,120 Speaker 1: but I would say prioritize what really means a lot 685 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 1: to you and see if you can even potentially prompt 686 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:13,600 Speaker 1: someone around you. 687 00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:14,880 Speaker 2: To do that for you. 688 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:19,239 Speaker 1: Well. Also, like I think acts of service would be, 689 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,879 Speaker 1: for example, because that's my main one, and if I'm 690 00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,920 Speaker 1: thinking of like giving love to myself, it would the 691 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:28,760 Speaker 1: act of service would be scheduling in a day where 692 00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:32,160 Speaker 1: it's actually funny because Cinder on the weekend said this, 693 00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:35,680 Speaker 1: like she's like, you need to schedule in a CEO day, 694 00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,480 Speaker 1: and I was like, what the fuck's app And she's like, 695 00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:40,960 Speaker 1: I don't know people using the coaching well because that's 696 00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:44,200 Speaker 1: what she does. But she's like, it's a day where 697 00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:48,480 Speaker 1: as you know, a CEO of your own business and 698 00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 1: your own time, you schedule in time where you yet 699 00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:53,640 Speaker 1: to do whatever you want. 700 00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:55,319 Speaker 2: So you don't love that. 701 00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, so she's like it could be your you know, 702 00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:01,200 Speaker 1: you tell the team I'm out of office and that 703 00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,800 Speaker 1: day you like go get coffee, you go for a swim, 704 00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:04,600 Speaker 1: maybe you do. 705 00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:05,920 Speaker 2: A little bit of work, but it's. 706 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:09,400 Speaker 1: Really like for you filling up your own cup. So, 707 00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:14,560 Speaker 1: for example, something I thought is like something I do. Guys, 708 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,640 Speaker 1: I've literally been trying to have I've told everyone that 709 00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:20,839 Speaker 1: I'm having every second Friday off and then I. 710 00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:24,000 Speaker 2: Just never do it ever ever, I just work. 711 00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:26,640 Speaker 1: So something that I thought for myself is you know, 712 00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,320 Speaker 1: me trying to schedule in that friday off for myself 713 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:34,160 Speaker 1: of actually committing to it, and that would be like 714 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:38,520 Speaker 1: showing myself I think I'm important and I'm worth the 715 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:43,200 Speaker 1: quality time for myself. Yeah. So in even a big 716 00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:46,279 Speaker 1: you know, active service and quality time sort of thing. 717 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:49,439 Speaker 1: If that's one of your love languages, is being really 718 00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:51,160 Speaker 1: strict with your boundaries and schedule. 719 00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:53,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a huge one. That's very hard to do. 720 00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:56,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, very hard and something I'm trying to work on 721 00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:59,760 Speaker 1: where it's like, I know, I get burnt out easy 722 00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 1: because you know, if I'm not like strict to my time, 723 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,839 Speaker 1: so like you know, trying to really like schedule things 724 00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:08,440 Speaker 1: in and yeah, be strict. Yeah, that's what I kind 725 00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:13,280 Speaker 1: of think for that act of services boundaries and making 726 00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:15,680 Speaker 1: sure you're scheduling your self care and all that time. Yeah, 727 00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:18,319 Speaker 1: and like scheduling self care and like maybe gym time, 728 00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:21,760 Speaker 1: and that's honoring it, yes, and honoring it and actually 729 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,880 Speaker 1: doing it for yourself because you know that like future 730 00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:28,879 Speaker 1: you will thank you. Yeah, even like I would say 731 00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:35,080 Speaker 1: investing in yourself like buying a course or buying something that. 732 00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:37,160 Speaker 2: Is for your future, for your future self. 733 00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:39,680 Speaker 1: Yes, that is the best act of service that you 734 00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:40,640 Speaker 1: can give yourself. 735 00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:44,720 Speaker 2: I love that. And then I had seventeen percent physical touch. 736 00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:50,960 Speaker 1: Interesting, I love. I'm also seventeen percent. Yeah, so it's 737 00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:55,160 Speaker 1: not up there. It's not really up there, I think 738 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,880 Speaker 1: in this And obviously I would expect a lot of 739 00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:00,520 Speaker 1: this to shot for when I get a partner, but 740 00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:04,880 Speaker 1: currently mine doesn't. I wonder if mine will be honest, 741 00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:08,959 Speaker 1: but very much like making the effort to like hug 742 00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:11,640 Speaker 1: my family or my friends when I see them, throwse 743 00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:16,040 Speaker 1: little things for myself. I love getting a pedicule because 744 00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:17,200 Speaker 1: I love a good foot massart. 745 00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:21,040 Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, that's probably my little physical touch 746 00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:22,360 Speaker 2: for myself. Yeah. 747 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:26,520 Speaker 1: And then I have seventeen percent receiving gifts. Yeah. I 748 00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:28,359 Speaker 1: just don't think it's not high because I'm a bit 749 00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:31,440 Speaker 1: impulsive when I buy stuff. If I want something else. 750 00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,960 Speaker 2: I'll find a way to get it, yeah. 751 00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:37,880 Speaker 1: Even if I have to sell stuff a marketplace. And 752 00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,360 Speaker 1: then my last one is words of affirmation at ten percent. 753 00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:42,480 Speaker 2: So interesting, you don't care. 754 00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 1: No, And I probably probably just because and this might 755 00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,239 Speaker 1: sound mean or sad or whatever, but I've had too 756 00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,680 Speaker 1: many people tell me things and never follow through. So 757 00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,880 Speaker 1: when someone says something to me, I'm like, sure, okay, 758 00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,960 Speaker 1: and I just I'm like, don't tell me, show me. 759 00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,239 Speaker 1: Don't tell me show me, because I don't mean ten 760 00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:07,680 Speaker 1: times more than you ever telling me something. But for example, 761 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,960 Speaker 1: me saying I'm proud of you, how would I show 762 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:12,279 Speaker 1: that too? 763 00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:14,960 Speaker 2: No, yeah, you can't, that's what I mean. 764 00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:17,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, So obviously it's in there a little bit. It's 765 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,120 Speaker 1: in there a little bit. But I just feel like 766 00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:20,879 Speaker 1: for things like oh my. 767 00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:22,600 Speaker 2: Gosh, I love you, Oh my gosh, you're such a 768 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,480 Speaker 2: good friend, it just doesn't hit me. 769 00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:29,560 Speaker 1: But it also was like that one hundred percent growing 770 00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:31,360 Speaker 1: up was my love language was words. 771 00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:32,040 Speaker 2: Interesting. 772 00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:35,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I send the longest messages to my friends, 773 00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:37,520 Speaker 1: and if I'd made like a long message back, I'd 774 00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,120 Speaker 1: get a bit upset or maybe because of that, like yeah, 775 00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:44,279 Speaker 1: a bit like burnt from it. Yeah yeah, and I 776 00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:48,560 Speaker 1: think just realize or like in my eyes yeah, sorry, 777 00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:52,600 Speaker 1: you guys, someone doing something or showing something or taking 778 00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:56,160 Speaker 1: the time or putting thought into things just means so 779 00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:58,600 Speaker 1: much than anything anyone could ever say. 780 00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:00,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's I agree. 781 00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:03,439 Speaker 1: Well I'm similar with you know, acts of service. It's 782 00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:05,840 Speaker 1: like show me, Yeah, show me you're gonna do it, 783 00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:08,320 Speaker 1: don't just like you know, talk the talk, you to 784 00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:08,719 Speaker 1: walk the. 785 00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:11,000 Speaker 2: Wall, and just so many people talk the talk. 786 00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:12,960 Speaker 1: Oh so training. 787 00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:19,320 Speaker 2: Me with anything? Oh all right, So well let's finish off. 788 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:24,080 Speaker 1: This episode, yeah, with what we could do for ourselves. 789 00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:25,720 Speaker 2: So everyone, guys, go. 790 00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:28,959 Speaker 1: Take the tests. Also, if you take the tests, jump 791 00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:32,640 Speaker 1: in our dms. Let us not gus yeah or come 792 00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:35,560 Speaker 1: no way, come in the Facebook group and let's have 793 00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:37,480 Speaker 1: a group conversation about this. 794 00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:39,480 Speaker 2: We'll put up a thread. Come in the. 795 00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:43,480 Speaker 1: Facebook group, you know, screenshot show us your love languages 796 00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,000 Speaker 1: and then also tell us like what you do for 797 00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:48,480 Speaker 1: yourself and what you do for your partner, Because now 798 00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,120 Speaker 1: that I know Tim's is like physical touch, I'm even like, 799 00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:53,719 Speaker 1: oh my god, like I need to like make more 800 00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,920 Speaker 1: ways to give him love and quality time. That's easy, 801 00:39:57,200 --> 00:40:00,359 Speaker 1: but yeah, so I just would be really interested to know, 802 00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:03,360 Speaker 1: like what people do you know for their partners or 803 00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,520 Speaker 1: for themselves, for your. 804 00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:06,280 Speaker 2: Friends and family? 805 00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:10,839 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. I made like my closest friends take this 806 00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,759 Speaker 1: when I first found out about it. I probably need 807 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,839 Speaker 1: to get them to do it again, but just so 808 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:16,839 Speaker 1: I would know in my head how to show them 809 00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:20,600 Speaker 1: love in ways they to be appreciated. So interesting, and 810 00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,520 Speaker 1: so do you kind of Taylor the way you do 811 00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:25,200 Speaker 1: things for each friend? Yeah, oh wow, you're such a 812 00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:26,160 Speaker 1: good friend. Thanks. 813 00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:27,400 Speaker 2: Well, now you know mine? 814 00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:33,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll do Wait it's like, well, does it count 815 00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:40,040 Speaker 1: if you're getting paid? No, just do your job. That 816 00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:44,480 Speaker 1: would be great for me. All right, So quickly before 817 00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:48,600 Speaker 1: we finish, let's go through what we can do for ourselves, 818 00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,160 Speaker 1: you know, to show ourselves love. 819 00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,120 Speaker 2: Or even other people. So words of affirmation. 820 00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:57,040 Speaker 1: Write yourself a lovely letter and set yourself a calendar 821 00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,879 Speaker 1: reminder on when to open it, or you could send 822 00:40:59,880 --> 00:41:03,759 Speaker 1: you self an email and snooze it. If you're like 823 00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:08,920 Speaker 1: me and don't write a physical stuff. I love that, 824 00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:11,280 Speaker 1: or like write something to your future self. 825 00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:14,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, or just like oh, have you ever seen those 826 00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:15,320 Speaker 2: open when letters? 827 00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:15,880 Speaker 1: Yes? 828 00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:16,680 Speaker 2: Actually I have. 829 00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, if you have time and you know there's some 830 00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:23,120 Speaker 1: milestones coming up, write yourself some open wind letters. 831 00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:24,520 Speaker 2: Yeah. Cute. Yeah. 832 00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:30,279 Speaker 1: Also affirmations, like literally writing down affirmations and saying them. 833 00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:31,640 Speaker 2: This is going on a bit of a rent. 834 00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:34,280 Speaker 1: The other day, I was like reading a book about 835 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:39,200 Speaker 1: self love. Actually it was Alexis's new book, which she's 836 00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,040 Speaker 1: gonna be on the podcast soon. Yeah, so stay tuned 837 00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:42,359 Speaker 1: for that. 838 00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:43,200 Speaker 2: It is exciting. 839 00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:45,919 Speaker 1: But she was saying like something that you can do 840 00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:51,239 Speaker 1: is parent yourself, whereas like, you know, think of yourself 841 00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:54,279 Speaker 1: as a child and it's like what would you want 842 00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:56,680 Speaker 1: to tell that child to make them feel loved? 843 00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,319 Speaker 2: Oh, and literally like. 844 00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:02,759 Speaker 1: A visual lie or writing down this and go through 845 00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:06,640 Speaker 1: that scenario. Because often we can think of ourselves like really, 846 00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:08,960 Speaker 1: I guess be really hard on ourselves and be like, oh, 847 00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,239 Speaker 1: you're an idiot. You should have known this. But it's 848 00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:15,200 Speaker 1: like would you say that to your child or you know, 849 00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:18,560 Speaker 1: like baby, you yeah, and kind of TikTok trend where 850 00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:21,440 Speaker 1: it was like when you're saying mean things to yourself, 851 00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:23,160 Speaker 1: remember you're saying it also to her, and it was 852 00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:26,640 Speaker 1: pressed of you when exactly and then like going that 853 00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:30,120 Speaker 1: step further and like writing an affirmation, you know, to 854 00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:33,080 Speaker 1: your inner child and being like I am so proud 855 00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:35,239 Speaker 1: of you, like you're allowed to make mistakes and you 856 00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:36,560 Speaker 1: know you're still a good person. 857 00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:39,640 Speaker 2: I know, blah blah blah. And I actually did that for. 858 00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:41,719 Speaker 1: Myself the other day and it was very therapeutic. 859 00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:42,600 Speaker 2: Oh I love that. 860 00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,279 Speaker 1: Next one acts of service. We've kind of said this 861 00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:50,680 Speaker 1: already of like just thinking for your future self, like 862 00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:54,840 Speaker 1: being really strict on your schedule and time, because for example, 863 00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,680 Speaker 1: I guess for me, and this is I kind of 864 00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:00,680 Speaker 1: see acts of service and qualities time kind of mixed 865 00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:04,560 Speaker 1: together a little bit. But like the other night, I 866 00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:09,360 Speaker 1: actually like Tim was away at a Bucks and I 867 00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,160 Speaker 1: and he kind of went last minute. I didn't think 868 00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:13,279 Speaker 1: he was going on the Friday, and then he went 869 00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:16,759 Speaker 1: on the Friday, and I straight away was like, oh, 870 00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:18,799 Speaker 1: what girlfriend can I see? Like what can I do 871 00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:21,000 Speaker 1: with my time? Like I had Ivy, but all my 872 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,399 Speaker 1: girlfriends have babies, but I was like, oh, what can 873 00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:25,040 Speaker 1: I do in my time? 874 00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:26,320 Speaker 2: And I even caught up a girl friend was like 875 00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:27,560 Speaker 2: what are you doing? She's like, oh, I can come 876 00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:28,279 Speaker 2: over for a one. 877 00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:31,920 Speaker 1: But then I actually stopped and I was like, Georgie, 878 00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:34,400 Speaker 1: you had never had time alone, Like this would be 879 00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:37,359 Speaker 1: such a good night to not only spend time one 880 00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:40,360 Speaker 1: on one with Ivy, but just to give yourself some time. 881 00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:42,840 Speaker 1: So I literally called that friend back and I was like, actually, 882 00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:45,000 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, like I would actually just love the 883 00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:46,680 Speaker 1: night to myself, and she's like, oh my god. 884 00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:47,239 Speaker 2: I totally get it. 885 00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:49,719 Speaker 1: I love that And I had the night to myself, 886 00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:52,239 Speaker 1: and I think that is filling up my cup and 887 00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:56,120 Speaker 1: giving back to myself and making that decision based on 888 00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:59,719 Speaker 1: my love language. Yes, I love that. And I think 889 00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,960 Speaker 1: even little things when it comes to acts of service 890 00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:06,440 Speaker 1: is don't be hard on yourself if maybe you need 891 00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:10,200 Speaker 1: to get groceries delivered or reading some things sometimes to 892 00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:12,960 Speaker 1: take those little errands off your plate. No, but if 893 00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:15,480 Speaker 1: that's your love language, like that's where you should be 894 00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:18,800 Speaker 1: spending your money, Yeah, to fill your cup exactly because 895 00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:19,839 Speaker 1: it's worth it to you. 896 00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:20,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 897 00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:25,840 Speaker 1: Absolutely, Receiving gifts, oh, by yourself presence. Actually, you know what, 898 00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:31,120 Speaker 1: this probably is my love language and I just fulfill it. 899 00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:33,160 Speaker 2: So you don't need it from other people. Yes, that 900 00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:34,000 Speaker 2: makes so much sense. 901 00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:37,240 Speaker 1: Actually, this is such a good I just had the thought. 902 00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:42,680 Speaker 1: But if you're lacking love, literally, think of what your 903 00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:46,480 Speaker 1: love language is and give it to yourself. Yeah, like, 904 00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:48,640 Speaker 1: oh for sure, even if you're in a relationship. 905 00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:49,200 Speaker 2: I kind of men. 906 00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:52,319 Speaker 1: Oh so the like I was when I was reading this, 907 00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:54,440 Speaker 1: I was thinking about it, and I was thinking, you know, 908 00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:56,640 Speaker 1: when I'm like off t him because he's you know, 909 00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,680 Speaker 1: not showing me love or blah blah blah, I should 910 00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:01,520 Speaker 1: really be like filling up. 911 00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,919 Speaker 2: My own cup. Yeah, like not putting that on him. 912 00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:06,640 Speaker 1: Yes, don't you think? 913 00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:07,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. 914 00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,320 Speaker 1: And obviously, you know, having the conversation with him is great. 915 00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:13,319 Speaker 1: But that's actually something I did think of. And that's 916 00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:16,760 Speaker 1: probably true because receiving gifts used to be a love language. 917 00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:18,279 Speaker 1: But I probably now just do it all myself, and 918 00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:19,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's all good. 919 00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:19,480 Speaker 2: It's full. 920 00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:23,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, that part of your love language cup is full. 921 00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,399 Speaker 2: Maybe it's even that like. 922 00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:31,839 Speaker 1: Your love language quiz results is kind of what you're 923 00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:35,920 Speaker 1: lacking in your love length so true. Not what your 924 00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:39,160 Speaker 1: love language is, it's what you need more of, and 925 00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:41,600 Speaker 1: maybe you need an equal amount of all of them. 926 00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:44,799 Speaker 1: But it's like I'm already good in that department, so 927 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:45,600 Speaker 1: you don't need help. 928 00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:50,160 Speaker 2: Oh my god, mind blown. I'm like, we've changed it. 929 00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,160 Speaker 2: ReadWrite your book. We've changed the game. 930 00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:55,360 Speaker 1: You know, it's gonna be funny. Is if like that 931 00:45:55,680 --> 00:46:00,160 Speaker 1: is what is said in the book, is like I've 932 00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:00,480 Speaker 1: got it. 933 00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:02,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh my god, that's so try. 934 00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:04,600 Speaker 1: I never really thought about that, and that's probably why 935 00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:07,680 Speaker 1: it changes all the time, because you fluctuate with what 936 00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:09,239 Speaker 1: you give yourself. 937 00:46:09,760 --> 00:46:15,920 Speaker 2: You're so smart, okay. And then quality time, have some 938 00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:18,440 Speaker 2: time alone, schedule that fucking self care. 939 00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:21,360 Speaker 1: Time, massages I've started to cure. 940 00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:24,480 Speaker 2: Try to do like a bath once a week on 941 00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:27,960 Speaker 2: a Sunday night. Yeah, love. Yeah, just the little things 942 00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:28,319 Speaker 2: like that. 943 00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:31,360 Speaker 1: And I would go so far to say physical touch 944 00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,560 Speaker 1: is like a similar sort of thing where it's like 945 00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:37,000 Speaker 1: you schedule in that like time for yourself, Yeah, that 946 00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:40,560 Speaker 1: intimate time for yourself. Yeah, because it's like how to 947 00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:41,680 Speaker 1: get intimate yourself. 948 00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:43,040 Speaker 2: Yeah you mean. 949 00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:46,440 Speaker 1: So that bath is the intimate yeah yeah, and also 950 00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:46,680 Speaker 1: get a. 951 00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,239 Speaker 2: Oh gosh, tears. 952 00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:58,320 Speaker 1: Words I think even yeah, what just like that wholesome 953 00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:02,120 Speaker 1: time alone to your self will fulfill that sort of 954 00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:06,759 Speaker 1: part two? Yeah yeah love all right, guys, I hope 955 00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:10,279 Speaker 1: you enjoyed this episode. I honestly found it so therapeutic 956 00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:12,680 Speaker 1: to know my love language, to have that chat with Tim, 957 00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:15,240 Speaker 1: and also it was just so interesting to know yoursit 958 00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:20,000 Speaker 1: here I know I love Yeah. 959 00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,320 Speaker 2: I highly suggest you guys do the queis again. 960 00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:24,560 Speaker 1: Come and join us in the Facebook group. Let's have 961 00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:26,600 Speaker 1: a chat about it. I would honestly love to know 962 00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:29,240 Speaker 1: how I can do more of the physical touch for Tim, 963 00:47:29,560 --> 00:47:32,719 Speaker 1: So if you have any ideas, Thank you so much 964 00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,759 Speaker 1: for listening. Guys, We'll chat to you in the next episode. 965 00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:37,239 Speaker 2: Bye bye. 966 00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:44,239 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of 967 00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,440 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer podcast. If you enjoyed it and 968 00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:51,800 Speaker 1: want more, come connect with us on Instagram at Riseinconquer 969 00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:56,000 Speaker 1: dot podcast and join our Facebook discussion group a Rise 970 00:47:56,000 --> 00:48:00,160 Speaker 1: and Concer podcast community. We're an independent podcast and we 971 00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,920 Speaker 1: have a small team, so we do appreciate your time 972 00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:05,760 Speaker 1: and support. If you have a spare moment, a follow 973 00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:09,799 Speaker 1: or subscribe on whatever platform you listen to would be 974 00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:13,960 Speaker 1: so amazing. 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