WEBVTT - Why You Should Use Dating Stamps 👫 💕 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.840 The flex and Rooms Daily podcast. 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:08.240 A yeah, yea. 0:00:09.720 --> 0:00:12.360 We both went to talk at the same time literally Newflix. 0:00:12.440 --> 0:00:14.520 I for the past few weeks we've been talking about therapy. 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:16.160 We have. We say that it's. 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:18.279 Often, you know the show, we talk about whatever we want, 0:00:18.320 --> 0:00:21.040 and obviously something's on our mind. That is the therapeutic 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:25.040 use of psychologists and other healthcare professionals step in mind. 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:27.480 Now. We were talking about it so much. 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:31.400 So that some listeners dm to me with some contrary 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:33.360 advice or contrary thoughts. 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:35.600 This is a woman with a name starting with me. 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:41.320 Okay, my unsolicited thoughts again, Sosburn not SOS strong opener. 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:45.200 I don't think that's quite strong, but I get strong 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:46.080 for different reasons. 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:49.080 I listened to Yours and Flexes episode from yesterday where 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:52.720 you spoke about therapy. I'm a provisional psychologist, but also 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.760 someone who's been in therapy for ten years classic psychologists vibes, 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:01.080 so I have a fair bit of experience on both 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:03.800 sides of lacoin. My hot take is that you don't 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:05.960 need to go to therapy if you don't have goals 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.679 or are a bit stagnant. You need a life coach 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:09.600 or something like that. 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:10.560 In Uni. 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:13.000 I remember learning that the majority of our clients are 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:16.040 what is referred to as the worried. Well, okay, nothing 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:17.640 wrong with you, but you think you need to be 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:21.080 in therapy. Therapy is so people with mental health issues 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:24.480 in brackets anxiety, depression, personality disorders, phobias, etc. 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:24.920 Etc. 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:27.680 And it's to use a therapeutic tool to work through 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:29.960 that the worried. Well, just take up resources that are 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:34.319 actually for people struggling. Sounds harsh, but like peeps need 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:36.679 to get a life coach or watch motivational videos. 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:36.920 Lol. 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.800 I don't know self help books. People who are really 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:42.200 struggling with their mental health can't get sessions booked in 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:43.440 because sykes are booked. 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:45.200 Pych's books are closed or full. 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:47.320 But I think most people still don't have a great 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:49.720 understanding of exactly what a psych does or can do 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:53.600 for you, so the expectations are a bit ambig say 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:56.760 with most things though, people don't know what things do 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:00.000 because it's gate kept. Like you ask someone who's been 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:03.640 therapy a lot, what is therapy and they're like, well, 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:06.480 I mean it depends because like the person I. 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:09.160 Go to does this, but like your person could be different. 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:12.760 You know, it's Okay, so what's going on here? It's 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:14.919 I kind of remember a hair dresser when people used 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:16.720 to ask me. I'm like, well, you, what do you 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:18.440 want out of therapy? They're like, oh, I don't know. 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:19.760 I want them to tell me. It's like, well, how 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:21.920 are they meant to know? They don't even know you. Well, 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:23.320 I don't want to tell someone who doesn't know me 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:25.960 what I'm going through. Okay, Well, and then here we are. 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:28.560 I think that's a good point though the worried Well, 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:31.080 I feel like there is a gap in between where 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:34.360 someone is aware of what they need to do, but 0:02:34.560 --> 0:02:38.200 aren't motivated enough to seek out the answers themselves, because 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:41.519 it's just like it's web mding yourself into a black 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:44.240 hole where it could be anything, right, Like if you've 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:47.040 been on TikTok long enough, you think you have ADHD 0:02:47.240 --> 0:02:50.079 and autism, and then it pathologizes like really basic things. 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:52.160 I watched the video the other day that said that 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:57.320 if you often find that you're cutting people off in conversation, 0:02:57.560 --> 0:02:59.120 that you might be autistic. It's like, oh, you just 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.000 have bad social skills, Like it could be. 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:02.880 A bunch of things. But then now you have people 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:04.760 being like you get a diagnosis because this chick on 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:05.959 TikTok told me x y z. 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:09.720 Yeah, there's something about the worried well and figuring out 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:12.520 how to motivate people to seek out answers themselves, because 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:15.240 we're not socialized that way. You have, you know, a 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:18.520 carer in daycare, and then a primary school teacher, and 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:21.560 then a high school teacher and then a Uni lecturer. 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:23.639 People who are meant to give you the answers you're 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:26.799 looking for, at least coach you to find them. People 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:30.000 aren't trained to seek out this information on their own. 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:35.119 I see where she's coming from, but I think there's 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:38.240 an issue with saying the worried well. I think it 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:40.600 kind of gives a vibe that wealthy people don't have 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:43.400 problems or like just because you don't have a I 0:03:43.440 --> 0:03:46.040 don't know how I'm trying to say it. Wealthy people, Well, 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.840 I hear the worried well, that doesn't mean who. 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:52.440 Well, like no, just like well, like you're fine. Right. 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:56.040 Maybe I just don't believe that anyone who's actively seeking 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:59.160 therapy doesn't need it. I think it's like it's expensive, 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.920 it's not fun, and if you're going consistently and you 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:03.880 feel like you need it. 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.560 Maybe you need to know that you need to do 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:07.360 prior research. 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:09.280 Like I think it should never be you should never 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.960 be discouraged from doing it. Sure, you can go, and 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.280 if they're a good therapist, then they'll kind of explain 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:15.920 to you. They'll give you homework, and then if you 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:18.120 don't want to do the homework, then you can go 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:21.960 find someone else. But I don't think you should hold 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:23.920 into your you know, if you really want to go, 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:27.240 you should go, definitely. But I totally get taking up resources, 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:29.120 but I think that's more of a. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:33.479 It's an education. Is someone else gotta worry about that? Yeah? 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:36.719 Yeah, yeah, I mean it's neither here nor there. But 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:38.760 I also think the moment that go to therapy turned 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:39.640 into a catchphrase. 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:41.400 I feel like we were doomed from that point. 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:47.279 And I've been thinking a lot about how there's something 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.480 about being a young person in the twenty first century 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.240 and how we spend a lot of time knowing how 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:55.640 to signal the right things to people as opposed to 0:04:55.680 --> 0:05:00.159 doing the right thing. So let's say you know you 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:02.680 yourself a feminist. It signals the right thing, but do 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:04.160 you know anything about feminism? 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:04.680 Actually? 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:09.840 Maybe maybe not? You signal that you are a liberal thinker, 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:11.840 but like, how far does that go? 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:12.360 You know? 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:16.000 And so, as someone who likes words and likes to 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:18.000 make sure that I'm using the right words to convey 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.839 exactly what I think I feel like, sometimes we get 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:24.039 stuck in like this communications cycle where we're trying to 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:27.560 present the right thing without actually meaning what we're saying 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:29.760 at all. And so when I was watching Love Island, 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:32.120 a lot of the contestants were asked the same questions 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:33.800 and like, I get to know them type. 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:35.359 Vibe, like what about islanders like? 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.880 And they were asked things like, you know, what are 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:39.040 your turn ons? 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:40.360 What are your turnoffs? 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:43.680 And overwhelmingly everybody's turn off is like, oh, you know what, 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:45.800 like when they're mean to the waiter, when they're mean 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:48.279 to the waitress. And the thing about that is, I 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:50.760 don't know very many people who are actually mean to 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.520 the waiter a waitress. Like, think about your close circle 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:56.480 of friends, even like the fringe trends, how many interactions 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:58.760 have you truly had where someone's been mean to the 0:05:58.800 --> 0:05:59.600 waitress or waiter? 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:00.800 Not that many. 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.440 Yet everybody parrots this off like it's something that happened 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:06.160 so frequently that we need to be on highlight. Oh no, 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:07.560 don't go on a date with that guy. Could be 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:09.800 mean to the waiter, mean to the waitress. And I 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:12.200 keep thinking like, not only is that outdated because we're 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:14.440 all hyper aware that we need to be nice to 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:17.480 people in service based industries like tipping culture and all 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:19.400 of that stuff, but also it's outdated. 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:22.359 What is actually a better judge of character, like I've said. 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:26.040 Before, is people who are nice to their AI bots, 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:28.920 people who are nice to Siri, people are nice to Alexa. 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:31.520 That is a better litmus test because something about being 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:33.839 nice to a waitress. Of course, you know what to 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:36.040 do in a social setting where you're being observed, where 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.000 there are other people to keep you in line, where 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:39.160 there are other people to signal that. 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:40.719 This is the right thing to do, this is the 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:41.520 wrong thing to do. 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:45.159 When you're alone, when nobody's watching, when you have not 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:49.080 been warned or taught or reared to do this right thing. 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:51.280 That's what I want to start looking at. 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:54.520 People who are like like the people who's instinct. Did 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:57.400 you ever get that Smarter child or on your explaining 0:06:57.400 --> 0:07:02.160 for this Smarter Child on MSN, Yes, So smarter Child 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:04.120 was a bot that you could speak to on EMSN 0:07:04.360 --> 0:07:05.560 if you went around for those times. 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:06.720 I can't even explain it to you. 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:11.920 Just like a chat bot and with no motivation, people 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:16.960 would say the most heinous, abusive, sexist, racist. 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:17.320 Things to it. 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:20.880 It's a random bot with no agenda, and people are like, oh, 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.880 let's get them, let's get him, let's get him. That. 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:26.720 To me, these are some clear science and someone's not 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:29.080 right not you saying please or thank you to someone 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:32.040 who did a nice thing for you over breakfast. So 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:34.880 whether or not you say please and thank you to 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:38.880 your AI bots, I don't really care, but please, just 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:43.440 so you know, every time you slag someone being hypothetically 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:46.320 nice or rude to a waitress, I'm clocking you and 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:47.360 I know, like what I'm seeing. 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:51.400 Yeah, it's like knowing that something's not controversial. But I say, like, 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:52.240 shut up. 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:55.480 Like you know when people like you know, I just 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.480 I just hate that, Like women have to deal with 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:01.800 like beauty standards and stuff, and it's like, yeah, yeah, 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:09.280 it's we hate it. Well, I'm watching you just be 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:12.760 fairal it's a warning. It's a warning you have been worn. 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:14.800 I'm not letting it slide anymore. I've been quite for 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:15.280 too long. 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:19.720 Oh dear, this is flex and frooms. 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:24.920 On da Oh the internet is It's like Taylor Switch 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:28.840 Internet right now. It's been a little while since somebody 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:33.319 has dominated the Internet like that, a musician in particular us. Yeah, 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:37.240 I feel like he's like always on to the point 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:40.160 where he's kind of like people are numb to him, 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:41.480 like what's he done now? 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:41.960 You know? 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:45.080 But I wasn't expecting so so of all, I did 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:49.720 not know how prolific tailor Switch is. I'm a casual listener, 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:51.680 you know what I mean, Like some songs really bop. 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:54.360 I don't really resonate with her as a person, not 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.920 really my archetype of woman, so I just kind of 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:59.959 like exist on the periphery of her. But looking at 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.600 number one, how many records she's broken with this new 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:06.240 album release, and I'm like, whoa, she is the most 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:08.920 She has the most streamed song in the world, and 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:12.319 she's winning by five million. Drake was the last person, 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:15.600 which makes a lot of sense, but anyway, so naturally, 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:17.800 TikTok is all Taylor Swift trends, and there is one 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:21.520 in particular which is so fascinating. It's calling to question 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:24.800 how manipulative women can be. I think it's really odd 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:28.800 when people choose to out themselves, you know, in favor 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:30.480 of like a quick trend. I said, wow, a, you're 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:32.720 really putting it all out there. Thank you for this entertainment. 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:37.280 So one of her lead singles is called Mastermind, and 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:40.120 the lyric is what if I told you that none 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:42.880 of this was accidental and the first night that you 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:44.320 saw me, nothing was. 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:44.960 Going to stop me? 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:48.360 Okay, what does that mean? What does that mean? Is 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:52.240 that consensual? So basically what people do is they film 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:56.960 themselves listening to the song, and in text, they write 0:09:57.000 --> 0:10:02.559 on the screen what they did relatively to acquire their 0:10:02.559 --> 0:10:07.280 current partner. Oh, I said, wow, wow, listen to this. Well, 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:09.360 I'm going to read them out because you know, it's 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:12.360 a written trend. So this one girl says I found 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.760 this band on Spotify that I loved so much that 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:16.720 I listened to their songs fifty times a day for 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:19.160 a month, and then I thought, hey, the singer's voice 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.480 sounds raspy and hot, and I looked him up and 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:24.040 he was my dream man. So I shamelessly played one 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:27.080 of his songs on the background of my stories and 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:29.760 tag them, and he messaged me about it and we 0:10:29.800 --> 0:10:31.920 planned a date. So I memorized every word to all 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:34.280 of his songs and made very slight references to them 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:36.320 on the date, even though I told him I didn't 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:38.520 really know anything about his music and no, I've been dating. 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:43.080 For two years. Was it someone from Oh, we don't know? Okay? 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:44.000 You like my mom? 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:45.280 When I show her? I mean, she's like, how do 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:47.719 you know her? I don't, Mum, I don't know. 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:49.640 Okay. Here's another one. 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:51.840 When I was fifteen, there was this cute boy in 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:53.480 my class, but he was super shy and I was 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:55.280 too scared to talk to him, but I really wanted to. 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.280 One day, I saw him like a meme on Facebook 0:10:57.520 --> 0:10:59.199 from the certain TV show that i'd never heard of. 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:00.000 End up watching up. 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:03.640 I ended up watching the entire TV show in one night, 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:05.480 So the next time we were in class together, I 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:07.880 could suddenly make a reference to the show, which led 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:10.600 to our first conversation. It's now seven years later and 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.200 we're married. I mean, this is just the graft. Yeah, 0:11:13.760 --> 0:11:17.000 it's not women grafed. We've all done it, done that. 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:21.440 It's so like insidious, like it's so far from just 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:23.840 getting to the point, like you just need to go 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:27.439 straight through your going left, turning right, walking backwards, going forwards. 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:30.560 I just feel like also because having a thought, let's 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.440 say you are the person who's been the recipient of 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:36.200 this manipulation, thinking that you had this really. 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:39.079 Like earnest connection connection with someone that. 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.079 Was random and out of the blue, and they're like, 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:43.360 oh no, actually I made it this. 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:45.240 Way, thank you. Well, people can probably do that to 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:46.400 you all the time. 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:50.520 I constantly have conversations with people on the apps where 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:53.720 you know, it'd be like two dates in maybe three, 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:56.120 and I'll be like they'll reference something that only someone 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:59.640 who knows knows, you know, or like they'll reference something 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.840 on the post or something and I'd be like, oh, 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:05.160 you know, or someone who will call me lil Lil 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:09.040 lil and then just call me flex randomly yeah. 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.800 Oh okay, so you know. Interesting. 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:14.440 But outside of the context of dating, people do that 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:18.280 a lot. They will signal liking things in a way 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:23.400 they think I like it. So, for example, like every 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:26.320 I would say every second time I talk to a 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:28.920 new person, they'll randomly bring up aliens. 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:32.439 It's like, okay, I get that econic. 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:34.440 Okay, cool, isn't it funny? Because it would seem so 0:12:34.600 --> 0:12:37.040 not obvious from that point of view. What do you mean, 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:40.360 like someone bringing up aliens obviously don't think that it's 0:12:40.800 --> 0:12:41.520 obvious to you. 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.000 Yes, exactly. They think like, oh, this is so niche, 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:45.840 Like she's going to know that. I'm like, you know, 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:48.960 also a big thinker, and I'm like, everybody does this. 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:54.400 It's aliens, it's twilight. It's like some kind of surface 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:59.600 level personality test, surface philosophy, or like a reading out 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:02.120 a question from my conversation card games back to. 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:05.520 Me like I didn't write that anyway. I like it. 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.960 They're trying to connect. It's cute, but also more of this. 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.880 I need more people outing themselves on the internet for 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:18.440 my enjoyment because I would never no, bring back nonchalance, bring. 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:24.280 Back personal space. Never. And privacy. Oh you want privacy back? 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:24.840 Yeah? 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:28.080 I think so flex and frooms so FLEXI. 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:31.240 Last week I told the story about the nipple hair 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:34.480 in the nipple. If you want to google flexing Frooms nipple. 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:36.360 I won't get into the story, yeah, because it's very 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:38.560 alarming and disturbing, and it might HAPs anyway you get 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:40.840 good content. But what it did do is it got 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:44.560 me thinking about nipples in general. Oh okay, Now, nipples 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:47.480 are very interesting personally. When I hear bad stori about nipples, 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:50.280 I seize up. They're a very sensitive area of the body. 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:53.640 And I got thinking, let's say you have a pierce nipple. 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.880 What happens when you go to breastfeed? Does it come 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.880 out like a sprinkler because you're at the nipple hole? Yeah, 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:02.560 and then you got the you're gonna have three holes? Yeah, 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:04.120 So I oppose it to the Instagram story. 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:06.800 Would you agree that that kind of makes sense actually, 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:09.640 because yeah, you're putting a hole through a hole, yeah, 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.520 like a cross or maybe it kind of like you 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:16.520 like want to pierce the nipple and it heels. It 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:20.840 kind of blocks any flow of any liquid. Because I 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:22.520 know they do say if you plan to breastfeed, you 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:25.040 shouldn't get aniple piercing. I don't know why really, but 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:26.520 then I've heard like they never really heal. 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:28.480 So what's the real story? Well, cop this. 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:30.560 I put up my story and said, what happens when 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:32.120 you have a baby and the milk comes out when 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:33.400 you've got a nipple piercing? 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:36.120 Does it come out like sprinkle? That's how you phrase it? Yeah, 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:37.640 what happens when the milk comes out. 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:41.120 So I've got quite a few responses, but I'll read 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:42.360 out two of them that I got. 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:44.359 That's the sut off. Like I got quite a few responses, 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:47.040 I'll read out to Lisinda, good morning. 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:49.480 I have one nipple pierced, and I also lactate, but 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:50.920 not secondary to pregnancy. 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:52.160 I've never had a kid. 0:14:52.720 --> 0:14:55.600 After heaps of tests, my doctor's advice that everything looks normal, 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:57.600 I probably need to stop expressing the milk because I'm 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:00.400 training my body to keep doing it. Anyway, the milk 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:03.680 squirts out all the same on both pierced and unpierced side, 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:07.320 apparently no interference from the piercing whatsoever, although I acknowledge 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:10.720 this is a slightly different circumstance, and people expressing milk 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:13.960 when breastfeeding make more than I do, and therefore the 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:18.240 piercing would interfere more. Another person says, Hello, Frooms firstly 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:20.440 accidentally sent an un sent the following message from my 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:21.080 work account. 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:21.720 Apologies. 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:24.720 I have literally been thinking and honestly gagging about the 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:26.880 nipple story all night long and was tossing up whether 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:28.320 to tell you that the milk comes out of a 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.920 million holes, regardless of a piercing. I saw someone already 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.800 has lulls, so don't mind me. But another thing, breast milk. 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:37.440 Milk can also come out of your armpits, and I 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:39.960 kid you not, that is not even the half of them. 0:15:39.960 --> 0:15:42.760 When it comes to effing weed location facts, no one 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:44.080 tells you about anyway. 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:46.200 I love the podcast. I love the word lactation. 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:50.080 So when you lax hate for a baby, it doesn't 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:53.240 come out of the nipple in the middle of the areola. 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:55.280 It comes out of the whole areola. 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:59.400 Oh that's why when people get mastitis and the ducks 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:03.600 are block Oh, terrifying. 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:04.000 Coming out of it. 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:06.760 Oh, don't make you sick. So if you got a 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:10.440 nipple pissed, yeah, you're in the quarry. Don't Yeah, don't stress. 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:12.400 It's not going to make you lactake in a weird way. 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:15.240 It comes out of multiple places. It squirts out your breastmeme. 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:17.760 It doesn't square out in a stream like like a shower. 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:19.080 It's a great time to learn this. 0:16:19.760 --> 0:16:23.960 Also, someone said that breast milk tastes like it tastes nutty. 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:29.960 Apparently it tastes metallic. Whoa so many other fluids. They say, mmm, no, 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:32.520 that was a test. That was a test. 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:36.600 It's a test. Are you pass? That is a lot? 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:37.120 I think? 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.280 Where are we out of our nipple era? Now that's 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.080 the last we're going to discuss for now. 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.480 Yeah, I'd love to get into animal nipples more precisely, 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:46.080 white as hua Us have eight nipples. 0:16:46.320 --> 0:16:48.560 Yeah, we came out of cannibal as an era straight 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:50.480 into therapy, straight into nipples. 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:52.880 What will be next? Chihuahua nipples? 0:16:53.360 --> 0:17:01.040 Yes, no hardware, pole, smash, flex and fruit. I know 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:06.119 millennials and Gen zs are getting stressed about the dating landscape. 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:09.359 I know it's yeah, yeah, I've seen, I've heard, and 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:11.760 if you're not stressed, its because you're in denyal apathetic. 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:14.040 But one thing I know about a human they. 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:16.240 Want to feel good. You know what it feels good being 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:19.640 in love? Does you feel good searching for love? It's 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:23.240 kind of lay, mostly embarrassing and sometimes fruitless. But every 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:26.880 now and then the Internet's like, no, don't give up, 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:30.760 We've got some new ideas for you. In today's ideas 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:34.800 dating stamps. What do you think that means? 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:35.919 Oh? 0:17:36.359 --> 0:17:41.000 Like when you have a passport? Okay, all like stamps 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:42.280 when you get into the club. 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:46.479 Close you see if you just allow yourself, allow yourself 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:49.200 to be a creative thinker, come out. So basically, a 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:51.720 dating stamp is exactly what it sounds like. It's a 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:54.159 stamp that you get, you know, made go to your 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:57.359 local office works or something or Vista print and so 0:17:57.600 --> 0:18:01.200 on the stamp you get something printed into it, like. 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:05.159 What about are you single? 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:09.760 Question mark dm me on ig at flex dot mammy 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:13.960 or Hi, I think you're cute dm me on Instagram 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:16.719 at flex dot mammy. And then you see a hottie 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:19.240 you stamp them and in a club environment, it's like 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:24.240 so funny. What is go around stamping people having flippant 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:26.920 interactions and then at the end of the night, if 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:29.920 you someone thing's so cute, then you match. 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:31.879