WEBVTT - Pink Sister VS Purple Sister Update 💗💜

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Flex and Frooms on Cater. It's Friday, It's Friday Friday.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't like how Rebecca Black Scott numb totally aassified.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she worked really hard at that.

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<v Speaker 3>Fucking Oh yeah, major props for real. You can't come

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<v Speaker 3>back from anything. M Rebecca Black really copped it back

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<v Speaker 3>in the day.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but she didn't really do anything that embarrassing. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think there's come back from.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but people ripped her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but you can come back from anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she's surpassed anyway. I don't know. It depends

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<v Speaker 2>because it was a sensation for all the wrong reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's hard to know what things were like.

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<v Speaker 1>People thought that was embarrassing height of embarrassing. Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>was a weird time back then, it really was. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy the party. Bye, Flex and Firms, Flex and.

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<v Speaker 3>Froomes Cater never miss a beat. FLEXI I know you

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<v Speaker 3>love imaginary concepts.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I know you like the make believe you really do.

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<v Speaker 3>And someone a listener has sent us in a question

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<v Speaker 3>regarding how we would choose to create an escape room.

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<v Speaker 3>Brookie has a audio grab Hey.

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<v Speaker 2>Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a big fan of the show. I was just wondering, professional,

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<v Speaker 3>if you had to build an escape room, what will

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<v Speaker 3>be the theme?

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I'm just gonna say, I don't believe this is

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<v Speaker 1>a listener.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's somewhere in production because that is.

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<v Speaker 1>What they admitted to me that they sent it on

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<v Speaker 1>the toilet. Okay, can we just play a bit of

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<v Speaker 1>it again?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, well, Flex and Rooms. I'm a big fan of

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<v Speaker 2>the show.

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<v Speaker 3>I was just wondering if you had to build an

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<v Speaker 3>escape room, what would be the theme. I just love

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<v Speaker 3>when I hear our listeners voice and think you are

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<v Speaker 3>so eloquent and the dictation and the innation.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the voice is popping.

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<v Speaker 2>Intonation.

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<v Speaker 3>Intonation, I never get that word. So, if you had

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<v Speaker 3>to build an escape room, what would be the theme?

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<v Speaker 3>And how would you escape a FLEXI? I know you've

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<v Speaker 3>got some experience with escape room.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if this is coming up because I

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<v Speaker 2>just went to an escape room. I've gone to a

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<v Speaker 2>couple in my lifetime. I have. I am very fond

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<v Speaker 2>of teamwork, but also maybe over emphasizing my contribution by

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<v Speaker 2>taking it really seriously getting one or two clues, gloating

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<v Speaker 2>the whole time, and then calling myself the MVP. I

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<v Speaker 2>did go to an escape room recently that I felt

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<v Speaker 2>was incredible, Like the set design, the production felt like

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<v Speaker 2>I was in a movie or like a play, a

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<v Speaker 2>theater show. Was really incredible. I will say that I

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<v Speaker 2>felt misled because I was told it was like a

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<v Speaker 2>toy shop themed escape room, and in actuality it was

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<v Speaker 2>so haunted, so scary. I had to step out during

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<v Speaker 2>the third room because it was like the most sinister

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<v Speaker 2>thing I've ever experienced, like cursed.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have a line when it comes to stuff?

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<v Speaker 2>I really do? And I the line was blurry. Now

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<v Speaker 2>it's a hard line in the sand, So had to

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<v Speaker 2>step out. Was very spooky, And for that reason, I

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<v Speaker 2>would say I'd want my escape room to be something

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<v Speaker 2>like End of the World Apocalypse themed, just because I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like what happens with a lot of escape rooms

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<v Speaker 2>currently is that they pull on like things that already

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<v Speaker 2>exist and retell those stories in the context of the room.

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<v Speaker 2>So like, do a bank heist, and then you've watched

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<v Speaker 2>a bunch of bank heist movies, so you kind of

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<v Speaker 2>get the gist but then like escaping a made up

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<v Speaker 2>place that doesn't exist, and you can't pull from your

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<v Speaker 2>pre existing understanding of the apocalypse because you've never been

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<v Speaker 2>to them. That would be sick And how do you escape?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, become a zombie.

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<v Speaker 2>But I do feel like I really want a room

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<v Speaker 2>that's contingent on actual teamwork, like that requires someone like

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<v Speaker 2>to press the button while something else is happening. Because

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want the bludges in the room. People start

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<v Speaker 2>to like hang out on the sideline. I'm like, this

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<v Speaker 2>is serious. Get your head in the game, Babe's.

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<v Speaker 3>The only time I've done an escape room was in

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<v Speaker 3>Korea after a couple of drinks with a group of people.

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<v Speaker 1>One other person could speak English.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so you were the weakest link.

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<v Speaker 1>I was a weak link, and I was just toidling

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<v Speaker 1>in the in the corner of the room, looking busy,

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<v Speaker 1>looking busy.

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<v Speaker 3>Hated it, actually hated it if I had to construct

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<v Speaker 3>my own escape room, which.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't because I don't like them. What don't you

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<v Speaker 1>like about it? Stuck?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like I'm really I'm not gonna say I'm

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<v Speaker 3>bad at problem solving, but I don't apply myself. You

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<v Speaker 3>can shocking say that I don't get down with problem solving,

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<v Speaker 3>but if I had to pick one, I think I

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<v Speaker 3>figured out something that would hit your taste as well.

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<v Speaker 3>The theme is baby in a cot, So you're like

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<v Speaker 3>in a play pen like you were a baby, and

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<v Speaker 3>you have to go in like all with dummies in

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<v Speaker 3>your mouth. And the first one is like how to

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<v Speaker 3>get the dummy out?

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<v Speaker 2>But you're like, you can't use your hands or your legs,

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<v Speaker 2>and you can't. You could spit it out, but then

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<v Speaker 2>how do you spit it out and get into the lock?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And then the second one is like you're in a

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<v Speaker 3>room full of cribs and the cribs are all set

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<v Speaker 3>up against the wall, so once you get into the crib,

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<v Speaker 3>you can go through a hole to the next room

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<v Speaker 3>like a maze, but in order to get up there

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<v Speaker 3>you have to.

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<v Speaker 1>Step on everyone. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so baby escaping, you're a genius.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>That was something off the dome too. That's phenomenal.

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<v Speaker 1>So just have to think.

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<v Speaker 3>If you've got a better scenario, send us in a

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<v Speaker 3>voice note flex and anyone will.

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<v Speaker 2>Have a better one than your one, but definitely attempt

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<v Speaker 2>and send it through.

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<v Speaker 1>See sometimes I'm quite smart, You're often quite smart. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's crazy Ketas flex.

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<v Speaker 2>And fromes Flex and Firms.

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<v Speaker 3>FLEXI have a very important update that will change your

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<v Speaker 3>lives of quite a few viewers and listeners at the.

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<v Speaker 2>Show People with Sisters, People with sisters with sisters? Is

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<v Speaker 2>that a small demographic? How many sisters with sisters do

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<v Speaker 2>we have in the room right now? One? Two, three? Wow,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the outlier.

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<v Speaker 3>How many sisters with one other sister?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Three for three?

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<v Speaker 3>I'd love to know what that's about, oldest or youngestest?

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<v Speaker 3>Becky's the older sister behind the camera there.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why Becky can deal with us.

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<v Speaker 1>It is, isn't it?

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<v Speaker 3>She can deal with a little ramblings true annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>Makes so much sense.

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<v Speaker 3>Pink sister versus purple sister. This is from a listener, Hey, Hotty,

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<v Speaker 3>can we just hotty no plural? It's just for me, Hey, Hotty,

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<v Speaker 3>I just said over at my parents' house last night

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<v Speaker 3>and found tangible evidence that I was dubbed the purple

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<v Speaker 3>sister by my parents when I was a child.

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<v Speaker 2>When listening to clarify, is that a bad thing a

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<v Speaker 2>good thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Their pink sister is number one.

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<v Speaker 2>Primary sister. I'm better sister.

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<v Speaker 3>Primary sister better, often older, more dominant. Purple sister is

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<v Speaker 3>the runner up.

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<v Speaker 2>And you are you produce a brookie? Are you pink

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<v Speaker 2>or purple sister?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a pink and shows it's because she's the oldest.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe I'm she's not. She's the youngest. I'm youngest

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<v Speaker 2>domin I'm not trying to break down your theory, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm just trying to find.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll says, this is a very contentious point. I believe

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<v Speaker 3>in my childhood I was the pink sister. My sister's

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<v Speaker 3>she is. We have been gathering evidence, she says, I

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<v Speaker 3>have a core memory that supports this too. One Christmas,

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<v Speaker 3>and I was six or seven, my sister and I

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<v Speaker 3>got electric toothbrushes as presents. The one she got was

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<v Speaker 3>pink and had a pretty princess on it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so cute.

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<v Speaker 3>But the one I got it was green and blue

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<v Speaker 3>and had a dinosaur on it. So purple sister adjacent

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<v Speaker 3>is that?

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<v Speaker 2>Because when you're buying, let's say, a toothbrush, how many

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<v Speaker 2>pink options are you going to get? It has been

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<v Speaker 2>a color another color, right, I guess you can't get

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<v Speaker 2>the same toothbrush.

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<v Speaker 3>Please continue, it gets crazier. Clearly there were only options

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<v Speaker 3>for a boy and a girl toothbrush at targets, so

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<v Speaker 3>I got stuck with the boy one. At the time,

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<v Speaker 3>I was jealous, but still appreciated my diner guy. But

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<v Speaker 3>this is when it gets interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh hasn't got an interesting yet?

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<v Speaker 1>I was loving it, hooting and hollering in the back.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe my parents had a gnarly subconscious parental instinct because

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<v Speaker 3>last year I came out as trans non binary and

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<v Speaker 3>the dino truthbrush and nomination as purple sister started to

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<v Speaker 3>make a whole lot more sense. They just knew I

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't supposed to be a pretty pink princess.

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<v Speaker 2>So what this person is saying is that there's a

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<v Speaker 2>correlation with sisters who were dubbed purple or pink. It

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<v Speaker 2>has something to do with your sexual no, with your

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<v Speaker 2>gender expression. Yes, but are we thinking is it correlational causation?

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<v Speaker 2>Is there a correlation?

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<v Speaker 3>Perhaps well, other parents subconsciously weighing up your.

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<v Speaker 2>All the parents with pink toothbrush, pushing onto.

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<v Speaker 3>The traditional salmin and stereotypes.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't get, you can't get past the FLEXI you can.

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<v Speaker 2>You really can, because this is niche sister content. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have anything like this, but I'm thinking, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I would love to see some more data, okay support

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<v Speaker 2>these claims. First, I want to get a more comprehensive

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<v Speaker 2>understanding of what other characteristics of a pink sister versus

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<v Speaker 2>a purple sister. Yes, that would be great, okay, because

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<v Speaker 2>for now I'm thinking that the pink sister is really

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<v Speaker 2>defined and purple is just not the pink sister.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, exactly. Make Oh that's the point.

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<v Speaker 3>They're the runner up, they're the consolation prize, they're the

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<v Speaker 3>Oh well, it's kind of similarly you should.

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<v Speaker 2>Make the cut.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So then we just need to define, like what is

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<v Speaker 2>the pink sister. Is it always the favorite, is the fussiest,

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<v Speaker 2>Is it the more like stereotypically feminine?

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<v Speaker 1>It's the most dominant?

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<v Speaker 2>I think we need to crowdsource.

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<v Speaker 3>Can I just I think this is an anthropological reason

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<v Speaker 3>why spar with me.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, you're gonna go into it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, very quickly. So in the time when we grew

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<v Speaker 1>up late.

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<v Speaker 3>Two thousands, because we were twenty four no, just kidding,

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<v Speaker 3>growing up in the nineties and the early two thousands,

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<v Speaker 3>pink was vogue. Pink was like legally blonde. It was

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<v Speaker 3>all these things were super stereotypically feminine, where that was

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<v Speaker 3>the only real marker of success as a woman, as

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<v Speaker 3>a child, as a child, that you're at your barbies

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<v Speaker 3>like and of women in that age the way, even

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<v Speaker 3>like young women, you had to be stereotypically very very

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<v Speaker 3>feminine to fit this ideal.

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<v Speaker 2>And therefore, because even like the the R and B

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<v Speaker 2>seeing are pink, her whole thing is I'm at.

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<v Speaker 4>Some may, I'm at somebody, she still still shuckle flex and.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I the asshole for acting poor to make my

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<v Speaker 2>housemates feel better about their financial situation? That is the

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<v Speaker 2>question we're answering today on flex and frooms. Listen to this.

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<v Speaker 2>So after thirty years of steady progress, I'm making pretty

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<v Speaker 2>good money, Like I recently readjusted my four oh one K.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like superannuation, so I won't overpay into it this year.

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<v Speaker 2>And the change in my take home pay is more

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<v Speaker 2>than my roommates pays in rent in my sort of

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<v Speaker 2>low end and ugly house in a poor neighborhood. My gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>both of my roommates and several friends are constantly struggling.

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<v Speaker 1>Babe.

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<v Speaker 2>I try to help by drastically undercharging on rent. They

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<v Speaker 2>probably pay half what the going rate is for rooms

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<v Speaker 2>in my city, and being the one who buys takeout

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<v Speaker 2>on movie nights, but they still struggle. I pretty much

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<v Speaker 2>downplay my income and will downplay my available money by

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<v Speaker 2>pointing out the college expenses I pay for my child

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<v Speaker 2>and the cost of filling my old junker car with gas.

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<v Speaker 2>I was recently hanging with a friend and he asked

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<v Speaker 2>what I made. I was honest and told him. He

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<v Speaker 2>said he called me a jerk and said I was

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<v Speaker 2>condescending to my friends by acting poor. He was actively

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<v Speaker 2>angry that I'm faking being poor. Meanwhile, I just try

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<v Speaker 2>to save up so I have a warm place to

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<v Speaker 2>go to the bathroom when I'm old. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>charge rent to live in my house. It seems wrong

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<v Speaker 2>to have people lived there and for me to not

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<v Speaker 2>make anything of them. So am I the asshole?

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<v Speaker 1>Damn?

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<v Speaker 2>I would say that he is a very creative writer.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't clock he wrote struggle and Struggling probably about

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<v Speaker 2>six or seven times. In both of those paragraphs.

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<v Speaker 3>Never discuss money with anyone never unless you're in a

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<v Speaker 3>comparable industry. Like when you and I discuss certain things

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<v Speaker 3>specific jobs, I wouldn't know how much you take home

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<v Speaker 3>in a year point blank. I don't know your final figure.

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<v Speaker 3>I know for this job you got x amount of money.

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<v Speaker 3>So then when the same brand comes to me, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>The ballpark figure. Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Any kind of discussion of money when you know you

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<v Speaker 3>earn way more is a dick flex It's not gonna

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<v Speaker 3>make you feel better about how much you make when

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<v Speaker 3>you flex it on somebody else, because all you can

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<v Speaker 3>do is lose, because they then think you're a tight

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<v Speaker 3>ass for not paying for everything. Like we've all got

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<v Speaker 3>that really rich friend, or like maybe you knew someone

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<v Speaker 3>growing up whose parents are really rich, you're expecting them

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<v Speaker 3>to foot bills for things actuality, like they.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't need to.

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<v Speaker 3>Just because you own more money doesn't mean you should

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<v Speaker 3>cover for your friends.

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<v Speaker 2>I find myself doing not the opposite. But I've had

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<v Speaker 2>a few friends and acquaintances assume that I make a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of money and have no expenses, So I've had

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<v Speaker 2>to be really honest about what my expenses are. So

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<v Speaker 2>they'll be like, oh, you should come here. I'm like no,

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<v Speaker 2>I just paid ten K with lawyers. I can't do that, ybe.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're not joking anymore. It's like you, like you

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<v Speaker 2>assume there's a lot of money coming in, there's just

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<v Speaker 2>as much money going out, you know. Or if someone's like,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you mean you can't come to so and

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<v Speaker 2>so and so, like it's only gonna cost this much,

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<v Speaker 2>and like I just paid a tax bill it was

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<v Speaker 2>this much, so I can't do it. And then it's

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<v Speaker 2>not about flexing how much money you have, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>about being more honest about the context of why you

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<v Speaker 2>can and can't spend something. I think that people are

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<v Speaker 2>very naive when it comes to discussions of money because

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<v Speaker 2>they assume that it's not going to change how they

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<v Speaker 2>perceive a city situation, Like they're not looking for that

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<v Speaker 2>information to decide how they feel about a situation. In fact,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like so if people are like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 2>want to know how much you make, it's like it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to impact whatever thought you currently have brewing, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's not in my benefit to don't worry about it.

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<v Speaker 2>What I will say, though, is in this situation, I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's important because the poster owns the house, so

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<v Speaker 2>there's already like precarious money situation happening here, and you

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<v Speaker 2>know that you make way more than your housemaids, and

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<v Speaker 2>you also know that you want to be in a

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<v Speaker 2>position to maintain some kind of friendship. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>this person has to quote unquote act poor on behalf

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<v Speaker 2>of them. That's a weird take and a weird flex.

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<v Speaker 2>But I do think it's considerate to presume that they

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<v Speaker 2>won't be able to do and go certain places with

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<v Speaker 2>you because they don't make your income. I think this

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<v Speaker 2>person's overcompensating and this whole like, well, I only charge

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<v Speaker 2>them half of market way, you don't have to. You're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna throw it back on them then, like, don't you

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<v Speaker 2>know let them know. Yeah, they didn't know there were

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<v Speaker 2>charity cases when they signed the lease.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't whip it out midway through.

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