1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen Bear region. 3 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:13,320 Speaker 1: We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, 4 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders 5 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal 6 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:34,159 Speaker 1: and terrestrid Islander peoples today. Hello and welcome back to 7 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: the Rising Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for ordinary 8 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: people who want to do extraordinary things. Els they literally 9 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: are like to end. At least a tea never gets 10 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: married for that factor. Hello, ed, welcome back to the 11 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:13,400 Speaker 1: Rise and Conquer Potty. It is your host, Georgie Stevenson, 12 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: a lawyer turned entrepreneur, mom wife, all the things guys. Today, 13 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:23,399 Speaker 1: we have got our fun Friday epps where you send 14 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 1: in your life dilemmas and me and a tear provide 15 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: are very unqualified two cents on the situation. So we're 16 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:34,680 Speaker 1: going to start quite deep talking about whether we believe 17 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,759 Speaker 1: in fate or free will men tea, We're not sure. 18 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 1: Spoiler spoiler. We also chat about all things friends break up, 19 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 1: what to do when your colleagues aren't high vibe and 20 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: should you get married if you love the person but 21 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 1: are against weddings recommendations. 22 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 2: A tea recommendation for the week is to dress up 23 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 2: for work. I think we're on day. This is the 24 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 2: last day of the week. 25 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 3: It's Friday. 26 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: It's like, what that's full taking no clothes ups. I 27 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:19,799 Speaker 1: love this recommendation, so it's made the biggest difference. Who 28 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 1: even it was Ellie, Hey, wasn't it? 29 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 2: Yeah? 30 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 3: I think it was her idea. 31 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: So I needed your whole episode on this. But I 32 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:29,959 Speaker 1: came in because I actually got a taro reading and 33 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:32,959 Speaker 1: my psychic oh I love very much. I literally would 34 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:35,079 Speaker 1: do an episode on this. But she was like, Georgie, 35 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: you need to get in your firm energy. You're so masculine. 36 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 1: And it was fine for a bit, but it's now 37 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 1: it's getting unhealthy, and so I was complaining to the 38 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 1: girls and I'm like, how the fuck do you get 39 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: into your firm energy? 40 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:46,920 Speaker 4: I don't even know what that I don't even know 41 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 4: what that feels like. Yeah, I can't relate. 42 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:52,679 Speaker 1: And then Ellie was talking about we need to do 43 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 1: these like the heels. 44 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:55,359 Speaker 3: A little dance class. 45 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: It's like where you kind of dance a bit sexy. 46 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 1: I would just feel so mortified. But we're going to 47 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: do that. But another thing, Ellie was like, also, let's 48 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: kind of dress up and do it for ourselves and 49 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: put some effort into our appearance, because we are all 50 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 1: the queens of coming in an active where and just 51 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: looking disheveled and getting shit done but looking disheveled. And 52 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: she was like, you know when you feel when you 53 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: look good, you feel good, and let's get into that 54 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: fem energy. And so that's what we've been doing all 55 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: week and it works. I actually I didn't do it 56 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: on Monday and everyone got up me and. 57 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 2: Then you like half did it on Tuesday, excut and 58 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 2: then got changed. 59 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: I went to the gym and my gym is close 60 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 1: to work. Do you want me to drive all the 61 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: way home? 62 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 4: You have no idea. You don't understand because you're not 63 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 4: on mum. And then I went to the effort. 64 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: Of bringing my makeup. No, you did really well, thank you. 65 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: And then I wore my cute little playsuits. 66 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 2: So whatever. 67 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: But yeah, we've both been doing that and we've been 68 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: feeling really good. It's like an effort, but I do 69 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 1: have to agree when I do kind of put an 70 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: effort into my appearance. I do kind of show up 71 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: in a bit of like a girl boss way. Yes, 72 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: hey the word girl boss, but still okay, guys, my 73 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 1: recommendation for the week is a sneaky plug because if 74 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: you did not see, I have another collab and it's 75 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: so cutey with Pedal and Pup. Guys, I swear this 76 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:30,279 Speaker 1: is the last collab this year. I said to Ada, 77 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 1: do you think people sick of me yet? No? You 78 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: know what. 79 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 3: The clothes are too cute. 80 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:39,359 Speaker 1: They're so cute. But also it's it's kind of like 81 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: a really cute full circle moment because obviously my first 82 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: co lab with Pedal and Pup was all about bump friendly. 83 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: It's when I was like pregnant with Ivy, and now 84 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 1: I've created a collection that is very I want to say, 85 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: I don't want to say mom friendly, but I would 86 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 1: say in elevation of my style, which has obviously happened 87 00:04:58,720 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: since becoming a mom. 88 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I. 89 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: Wouldn't say it's mom style, but I would say it's 90 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: definitely an elevation and it's just been really cool to 91 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,679 Speaker 1: do because I am also like quite proud of myself 92 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:17,039 Speaker 1: because when you're postpartum, you don't necessarily feel amazing. It's 93 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 1: like getting used to this whole new body that feels 94 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 1: very different. But if you can kind of cultivate your 95 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: style and you know, confidence and be like, no, I 96 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: am going to rock this, you know, in my postpartum 97 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 1: body and feel good and still wear bold colors and 98 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: things that you know make me feel good. So I'm 99 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 1: really proud of the collection, and it's beautiful because it's 100 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: very inspired by the euro trip. I never had shout 101 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:48,160 Speaker 1: out to, you know, covid and then now, I mean, 102 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: but the trip's not happening for eighteen years. It kills 103 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: men lucky. She's cute, but it's very inspired by I 104 00:05:57,400 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: feel like we've had the gloomiest winter and I just 105 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 1: want to get out there and have some cocktails with 106 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: my girlfriends, have some good times in the warmer weather. 107 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,839 Speaker 1: So it's all linen and white and bold prints that 108 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: you can mix and match, and it's just a vibe. 109 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 1: I'm so excited about. 110 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:17,720 Speaker 2: It and I love it, and even thinking about this 111 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 2: compared to the last one, I think the colors is 112 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:21,480 Speaker 2: so much brighter. 113 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, so right and vibrant. Well, I think that's the 114 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:26,279 Speaker 1: evolution of me going like fuck it or where would 115 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 1: I want? 116 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, but like. 117 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:31,279 Speaker 1: It's still nice. I think it's not just me being 118 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 1: crazy gorgeous. I love it. So guys, my literally launches 119 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: next Wednesday. Oh my god. 120 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:39,719 Speaker 2: I know. 121 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:44,039 Speaker 1: And as always, obviously you know, it is a limited capsule. 122 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:47,479 Speaker 1: I know a lot of the key pieces in our 123 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: winter capsule sold out like within thirty minutes, and lots 124 00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:54,479 Speaker 1: of people were upset because we weren't restocking. But like 125 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 1: I'm giving you the warning now, so same vibe and 126 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: on it at launch time. Yeah, like anything, do it. 127 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: And you know, I feel like We've got a lot 128 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 1: of like amazing events coming up, like Christmas parties and weddings, 129 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 1: and I've got all my pieces ready for like my hens, 130 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: not mine, but like what I'm going to your hens 131 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: tonight for your second husband, so I'm getting married again. 132 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 1: No exciting events coming up, So anyway, I'm really excited. 133 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: Go check it out if you haven't seen it. But yeah, 134 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 1: let's get into the show. 135 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 2: So our first question is it's a bit of our 136 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 2: multi question question, lots of questions. Do you believe in 137 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 2: fate versus free will? Does everything happen for a reason 138 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 2: or do we have total control over our life? Also, 139 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 2: do coincidences exist or is it just that things are 140 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 2: meant to happen that way? 141 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: Any questions like question, let's do the first one. Do 142 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: you believe in fate first? Free will? I don't know. 143 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 3: I think a bit of a mix of both. 144 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 1: Okay, So I believe this is getting deep straight away. 145 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 1: I believe that your soul. I believe in reincarnation. Yes, 146 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 1: so I believe you've come into this body, and before 147 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: you came into this body, you decided the lessons you 148 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: wanted to learn, you know, what you wanted to go 149 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: through as a soul. 150 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:38,080 Speaker 2: Let's say, yes, so you decide somewhat a lot of 151 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 2: your life, but then you go into your body and 152 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 2: you forget it all. Let's say, yeah, but you still 153 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 2: have free will, but you had it before you were 154 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:49,559 Speaker 2: in the body. 155 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, almost, in the way of like you have free 156 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:56,560 Speaker 1: will to make decisions. But for example, you know how 157 00:08:56,559 --> 00:09:00,240 Speaker 1: we talk about when like a negative thing keeps haying 158 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:02,679 Speaker 1: and you've got to ask yourself, what's the lesson in this, 159 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: because by the ways, you're going to keep learning it 160 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 1: in all different ways until you fucking learn it. Yeah, 161 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 1: the worst this is what I kind of mean. So again, 162 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 1: you have the free will. Whether you learn it the 163 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: first time or the tenth time, you're still going to 164 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: learn the same thing. 165 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:22,079 Speaker 2: Yes, And then it's sort of like if you learn 166 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 2: it the first time, it's not going to happen the 167 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:26,480 Speaker 2: other ten times. No, you go on to the next level, yeah, 168 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 2: or the next lesson? 169 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, interesting? 170 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: What do you think? 171 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 2: I literally, I probably think about this more than I should, 172 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 2: but I still don't know because I think this like 173 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 2: concept of fate and destiny is like a bit romantic, 174 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 2: and then this concept of free will is very much 175 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 2: just like I am the boss, I am in charge. 176 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:51,319 Speaker 2: I can take control and make the life I want. 177 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 2: And I'm sort of in two minds and that yes, 178 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,440 Speaker 2: I kind of want both, Like I want this idea 179 00:09:56,520 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 2: that my life the perfect thing will happen no matter 180 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 2: what I do. But then the other half of me 181 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 2: is like I really want to say in what happened? 182 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: But I think you can have both, don't you think? 183 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 2: I think potentially, like when you explain it in the 184 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 2: sense that you'll learn the lesson or the same thing 185 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 2: will keep happening until you learn the lesson, and it's 186 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 2: up to you, whether you learn the lesson now or 187 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 2: ten times down the line, it's sort of like you 188 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:24,080 Speaker 2: have the free will to go as far as you 189 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:26,120 Speaker 2: can possibly within your destiny. 190 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 1: This is actually reminding me. So this one time I 191 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: went to a like four girls. We hadn't seen each 192 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 1: other in ages, so we're like, oh, let's do a 193 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 1: catch up. And one of the friends was like, oh, 194 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 1: something a bit of fun. Do you want to get 195 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 1: a psychic reading? Like get herover, We'll all get one, 196 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 1: so like, you know, we'd have cheese and wine and 197 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:48,719 Speaker 1: then like one person would get the reading and then 198 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:49,839 Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera. 199 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:50,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. 200 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: Now, I'm a big believer in psychics, but I feel 201 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:57,079 Speaker 1: like some of them do take the piss and aren't 202 00:10:57,200 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: as authentic. 203 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 2: Oh psychics, Yeah, yeah, I agree. 204 00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: And this psychic I just was like, ah, I just 205 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 1: feel like I feel you kind of do this for money, yeah, 206 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:10,800 Speaker 1: if that makes sense. But it was a fun party idea, 207 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, it's anyway, so this is 208 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 1: a rand, but I'm getting there. So I had my 209 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 1: psychic reading and it was kind of an on point, 210 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 1: but then like she went really into the future and 211 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 1: she said stuff like i'd have like a second husband, 212 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 1: and yeah, like really And I said to her, Oh, 213 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 1: I love my husband. I don't want to second husband. 214 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: And she said to me the words you always have 215 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:41,559 Speaker 1: free will, you always have the decision. 216 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:42,679 Speaker 3: I love that. 217 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: So she said, it doesn't matter what I read to 218 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: you right now, because you always have free will and 219 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: you can always change your future. Yes, and so that 220 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: I love that concept. Yeah, that's all that I was 221 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:54,319 Speaker 1: gonna do. 222 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:00,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's such an interesting one because I don't know. 223 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: For example, it's not like this is a really weird example. 224 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:07,840 Speaker 1: It's not like you're destined to be the president. There 225 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 1: would be steps you would make with your free will 226 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:11,240 Speaker 1: that then. 227 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 3: Got you there, don't you reckon? 228 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 2: I Oh, oh, I don't know, because sometimes I think, 229 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 2: like you see people doing something and you're just like 230 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:24,079 Speaker 2: that is it? That is what they were here to do, 231 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 2: is to like spread that message. 232 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. 233 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 2: I don't know why, but Greta Thunberg is coming to 234 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 2: mind right now, and I feel like she was very 235 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 2: much that is heard her care like that was the 236 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:37,760 Speaker 2: message she was put here to spread. Maybe you have 237 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 2: free will on how much of a platform you create 238 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 2: for yourself with the message you're meant to spread. 239 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:47,599 Speaker 1: But that's what I mean. She would have made decisions 240 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:50,880 Speaker 1: with her free will that got her to that point. Yeah, 241 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: and that's like we've spoken about, like you said, with 242 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 1: your dream of building a Netflix series. Yeah, you've said 243 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 1: the foundation is I want to empower females. Yeah, so 244 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: you're you're like, I'm doing this in my current work, 245 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:06,079 Speaker 1: and like, whether I get there or it's something else, 246 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 1: it's the base thing. Yeah, but it's like that's the destiny, but. 247 00:13:10,600 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 3: The free will is get rest, don't you reckon? So 248 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 3: that's why I actually, yeah, I like that. It's kind 249 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:15,640 Speaker 3: of a bit of both. 250 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:20,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I hope that client by the question that sort 251 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 2: of answer the second one, does everything happen for a 252 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 2: reason or do we have total control? 253 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:25,480 Speaker 3: It's a bit of both. 254 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 2: And then the last one, which I love, do coincidences 255 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:31,920 Speaker 2: exist or is that just the way things are meant 256 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 2: to happen for you? 257 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: I don't believe in coincidences neither. Do I run me 258 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:39,199 Speaker 1: through why you don't? 259 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:41,160 Speaker 3: I just like, how is that possible? 260 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 2: Like there's no way that things like that just happen 261 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:47,679 Speaker 2: out of the millions and billions of options of events 262 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:50,520 Speaker 2: of things that just doesn't happen. 263 00:13:50,440 --> 00:13:52,800 Speaker 1: One hundred percent, and like, and I hate people like 264 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:54,720 Speaker 1: that's just a coincidence. 265 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 2: And I'm like, well, no, I'm manifesting, not even that 266 00:13:58,280 --> 00:14:01,640 Speaker 2: when people like the concept of coincidences. The only way 267 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 2: I can describe how I feel is cute. 268 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:12,960 Speaker 1: Cute not a thing. Yeah, but that's that. It's so 269 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:15,200 Speaker 1: hard because it's like we kind of do believe in 270 00:14:18,080 --> 00:14:21,360 Speaker 1: but it's like, all I want to say to these questions, 271 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 1: is life happens for me. 272 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 2: Just chattle that. Hope that clarified, l h FM. 273 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 1: LHFM to that. 274 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 2: We're working on memorizing the acronym guys. Question number two, 275 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 2: how to get over a friend breakup? I feel like 276 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 2: they can be so much harder than a romantic breakup. 277 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 2: Recently realized after a year of ignoring small red flags 278 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:54,680 Speaker 2: that two of my best friends aren't there for me 279 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 2: when I needed it the most. 280 00:14:56,320 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 1: Oh, I know, good riddance. Yeah, this is a hard one. 281 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 2: I I think. I agree. I can't really agree since 282 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 2: I've not been through a romantic breakup, but I do 283 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:09,040 Speaker 2: think friend breakups are harder. 284 00:15:10,960 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 1: Well, you can't comment from. 285 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:16,960 Speaker 2: What I've observed of my friends who've been through both. 286 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 3: Friend breakups seem to hit people a bit harder. Why 287 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 3: I think I think. 288 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:24,760 Speaker 1: It depends if you were like hanging out with that person, Yeah, 289 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 1: like how often you spend time with them. 290 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:28,960 Speaker 2: But also it's like I don't know if I'm just cynical, 291 00:15:29,280 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 2: but I think generally with a romantic relationship, there's like 292 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:37,600 Speaker 2: that chance always that what's of it ending? Like maybe 293 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 2: like it's not something people will go into and think 294 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:43,440 Speaker 2: there's no possible way that it would end. But with friendships, 295 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 2: it's kind of like that. Oh, when you're younger, when 296 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 2: you're dating someone, you're kind of like. 297 00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:49,240 Speaker 1: To last forever the friendship. 298 00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:52,520 Speaker 2: The friendship is like solid, It's like there's no end 299 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:56,479 Speaker 2: point in sight for a friendship ever for people, Whereas 300 00:15:56,600 --> 00:15:59,480 Speaker 2: when you're in a romantic relationship, it's like what if 301 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 2: they don't want kids? 302 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 3: What if this? 303 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 2: What if that comes up? Whereas with your friends, that's 304 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 2: not really a thing that comes up in your head 305 00:16:05,480 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 2: when you're building a friendship. 306 00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, I get what you mean. That's why I think 307 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 3: it's harder. 308 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:14,240 Speaker 1: I think you need to use the you know, the 309 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:18,400 Speaker 1: feelings of I actually realized they weren't even there for me. 310 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:21,880 Speaker 1: When I needed it and there was red flags and 311 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: use that as almost fuel to help you with the breakup. 312 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it sucks because they're probably it's almost like 313 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 2: a habit of friendship. You message the person when something happens, 314 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 2: you want to share stuff with them, you might call 315 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 2: them on your way home from work, kind of thing 316 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:41,000 Speaker 2: like that is a habit. And it's maybe just about 317 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 2: breaking those habits or replacing the habit that the friendship was. 318 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 3: With a new habit. 319 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 1: That's good advice. So is that your advice how to 320 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 1: get over a friend breakup? 321 00:16:52,280 --> 00:16:54,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, and just like you will. 322 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 2: You might feel lonely, especially if it's your two best friends, 323 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 2: but someone will fill the place, and you just have 324 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:05,080 Speaker 2: to have faith in that that you'll find someone else 325 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 2: in the weirdest of ways. Maybe start connecting with your 326 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:12,280 Speaker 2: hobbies again. You might meet someone through a hobby that 327 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:15,440 Speaker 2: you get along with. Or I say, again, because I'm 328 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 2: disconnected with my hobbies, but you might still. 329 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 1: Be doing your hobbies, so we say, because we have hobbies, 330 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: find a hobby. 331 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 2: But maybe just like try a few new things and 332 00:17:28,320 --> 00:17:29,719 Speaker 2: you might meet some fun people. 333 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:34,199 Speaker 1: Or Yeah, my advice, I would just say focus on 334 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:38,720 Speaker 1: you this is such a great time to go inwards, 335 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:43,119 Speaker 1: especially if you're saying recently, I've realized after a year 336 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:46,760 Speaker 1: of ignoring red flags, So that means I don't think 337 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:50,800 Speaker 1: you're very in tune with yourself and you've been ignoring things. 338 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 1: So it's like, this is a great season to be 339 00:17:54,359 --> 00:17:58,760 Speaker 1: about you, yes, and your next level. And I guess 340 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,959 Speaker 1: if we're looking how to get over a friend break up, 341 00:18:02,280 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: you know, just focus on I hope you have other friends, 342 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 1: you know, focus on those friends but those are yeah, 343 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:14,160 Speaker 1: but also just focus on your relationship with you, you know, 344 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 1: like we're saying, you know, have your self care time, 345 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: get a hobby, you know, continue your hobby. You're probably 346 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 1: better at us. But also the big thing is I 347 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 1: think you need to establish maybe you can journal, meditate 348 00:18:32,640 --> 00:18:36,679 Speaker 1: on this of your friends that you want to tracked 349 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:40,399 Speaker 1: in what you want that to feel and look like, 350 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:44,600 Speaker 1: because otherwise, if you're not you know, sure on that 351 00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:47,879 Speaker 1: and sure on your boundaries going forward, you may just 352 00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:49,720 Speaker 1: attract the similar people. 353 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 3: Yes, so you need. 354 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:55,119 Speaker 1: To kind of realize what went wrong and be like, Okay, 355 00:18:55,280 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 1: moving forward, I'm going to have really strong boundaries in 356 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,800 Speaker 1: these ways. If there is a red flag I'm going 357 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 1: to communicate with the person. You know, I'm going to 358 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:06,520 Speaker 1: be treated in a certain way, and that's it. 359 00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 2: The other thing I would add here is decide how 360 00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:15,080 Speaker 2: you want this friend breakup to happen if you haven't already, 361 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:17,600 Speaker 2: and then follow through with that. So I always think 362 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:19,399 Speaker 2: that there's a few ways this can happen, in the 363 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:22,040 Speaker 2: sense that number one is obviously confronting them with a 364 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:25,240 Speaker 2: message and being like, look, this is how I'm feeling, 365 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:27,440 Speaker 2: this is what you did, this is how it made 366 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:30,000 Speaker 2: me feel. I felt really sort of left to hang 367 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 2: out to dry when I really need to do. You 368 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 2: won't there see what they say. Maybe they'll turn around 369 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:36,200 Speaker 2: and be like, I totally didn't mean it that way, 370 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 2: blah blah blah. And you can try and build up 371 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 2: the friendship if that's something you're interested in, or just 372 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:43,800 Speaker 2: sort of like keep them a bit at bay, but 373 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 2: have them there. The second one that I think happens 374 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:49,440 Speaker 2: a lot with friendships is like you just sort of 375 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 2: slowly stop talking to each other, stop seeing each other 376 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 2: as often, and decide if that's enough closure for you. 377 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 2: I had that with a friend and then I wrote 378 00:19:57,760 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 2: a letter and burnt it for my closure. 379 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 3: So that's something you can do as well. 380 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:04,399 Speaker 2: But if you've already had the falling out, now maybe 381 00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 2: it's just whatever feels right for your energy. But even 382 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:09,399 Speaker 2: if it's as simple as popping the message being like, 383 00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:12,119 Speaker 2: look like, I know we're not really friends anymore, but 384 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:14,920 Speaker 2: I just wanted you to know no bad blood if 385 00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:16,640 Speaker 2: you ever really really need someone. 386 00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:17,680 Speaker 1: Clearing the play. 387 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's just sort of like getting rid of 388 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:23,640 Speaker 2: any negative emotions you have towards them that you might 389 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:27,160 Speaker 2: be holding, but also allowing them to release any negativity 390 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 2: they might have towards you as well. 391 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:30,239 Speaker 1: I love that. 392 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:33,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, you are. 393 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,440 Speaker 2: The product of the five people you spend the most 394 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:39,040 Speaker 2: time with. What if those people are work colleagues who 395 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:43,560 Speaker 2: are super negative, complain all the time, have a closed mindset. 396 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:47,000 Speaker 2: I can't exactly physically distance myself. 397 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 3: So we'd love some tips. 398 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:48,920 Speaker 1: Ah, what a drag. 399 00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,600 Speaker 3: I know, I might quit your job. 400 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:58,280 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this is a hard one because not only 401 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,439 Speaker 1: are you having communicate with these people daily, but you 402 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:06,920 Speaker 1: know she's obviously she's probably sitting quite close to them physically, 403 00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:09,360 Speaker 1: so just energy wise. 404 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:10,480 Speaker 3: It is really hard. 405 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. I think what I used to do because I worked, 406 00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:16,680 Speaker 2: you know, corporate and you just have to be so 407 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,160 Speaker 2: conscious and don't you reckon it here, like who you 408 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:21,200 Speaker 2: work with, you. 409 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 3: Almost become them. 410 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 4: Yes, oh my god, I was gonna say, okay, And 411 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:31,160 Speaker 4: you know what comes to mind is like even how 412 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 4: me and Ellie talk the same, Like we have our 413 00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 4: me and so Ellie my ea. 414 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 1: We have this weird little language we use and we 415 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 1: start talking. It's like we put on an accent and 416 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 1: then we start talking this language and we just it's 417 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:50,840 Speaker 1: just weird. But it's like you do when you spend 418 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,080 Speaker 1: a lot of time with someone, you almost like form 419 00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:58,639 Speaker 1: into the same Maybe it's just us. So it is 420 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 1: a really yeah call. But this is where boundaries comes 421 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 1: in exactly. 422 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 2: And had something similar before out one of my previous jobs. 423 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,560 Speaker 2: Is like there's always something like good about someone. They'll 424 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:14,480 Speaker 2: have a good character trait that you might want to 425 00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:22,640 Speaker 2: get more of. I would just look at me like, wow, yes, 426 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 2: that person is like very negative, but they're also very 427 00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:29,080 Speaker 2: sure of themselves and not scared to share their opinion, 428 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:31,960 Speaker 2: and so I would just focus on that. 429 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:41,120 Speaker 1: So they're very direct and they yell at you. That's 430 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:45,639 Speaker 1: literally what it was. I'm so they're blech. 431 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm going to use this as an 432 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:52,159 Speaker 2: opportunity to become more confident and in speaking my mind, 433 00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:54,359 Speaker 2: and I did. 434 00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 1: All right. I don't know if that's the greatest advice, 435 00:22:58,920 --> 00:22:59,440 Speaker 1: but I'm going. 436 00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:02,359 Speaker 2: To go with my or like, yeah, just try and 437 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,520 Speaker 2: find something good about them or a certain character trait, 438 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,320 Speaker 2: or maybe they're really good at something, maybe they're really 439 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:10,680 Speaker 2: good at graphic design, or maybe they're really good at 440 00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,760 Speaker 2: problem solving, and try and just really focus on that 441 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:15,800 Speaker 2: aspect when you talk to them, And if you feel 442 00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:17,840 Speaker 2: like they're going negative, be like, oh, I saw that. 443 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:19,760 Speaker 3: Really cool fly you made the other day. Show me 444 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:20,320 Speaker 3: how you did it? 445 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:23,600 Speaker 1: All right, I get you. Yeah. 446 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:27,680 Speaker 2: What I would do, yeah, probably father in this situation, 447 00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 2: I would. 448 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,840 Speaker 1: Put boundaries in the way of for example, if they 449 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:38,440 Speaker 1: start being negative, I would literally be like, can we 450 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:41,879 Speaker 1: reframe this to be more positive and then start that conversation. 451 00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:44,840 Speaker 1: Or I would say, you know, if they start, for example, 452 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:48,640 Speaker 1: if they start gossiping, yeah, which is very an office thing. Yeah, 453 00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 1: they start gossiping. For example, if you sat there and 454 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:54,760 Speaker 1: you said, hey, I actually don't feel comfortable talking about 455 00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,400 Speaker 1: other people. Can we stop this conversation? Do you think 456 00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 1: they'd ever do it again. 457 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, Well it depends on the people, right. 458 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,960 Speaker 1: But for example, if someone said that to me, I'd 459 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:14,040 Speaker 1: be like, the fuck, they're not a gospel and so 460 00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:17,640 Speaker 1: mean they and then they because, for example, the only 461 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,639 Speaker 1: reason why someone will come and complain to you is 462 00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 1: because they think they can and they think that you 463 00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,640 Speaker 1: they have no problem with it. Yeah, and they walk 464 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:27,920 Speaker 1: all over you. So that's what I'm saying is if 465 00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,120 Speaker 1: you put in the boundary, it's like, no, you don't 466 00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: get to complain to me. No, you don't get to 467 00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:35,800 Speaker 1: be negative towards me, and no you don't get to 468 00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 1: be you know, gossip. You put that in, they just won't. 469 00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:43,080 Speaker 1: They'll go to do it with someone else. So can 470 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: if you can put those boundaries in. And this is 471 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,920 Speaker 1: actually a bit weo we're something I literally used to 472 00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,679 Speaker 1: do when I was working corporate. Before I used to 473 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,320 Speaker 1: go into work, I do a meditation in the morning 474 00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 1: and this would be on the bus. I'd have my 475 00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 1: AirPods in on the bus, closing my eyes. 476 00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:03,320 Speaker 4: Everyone thought I meditated on the bus once and my 477 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:04,639 Speaker 4: sister tried to wake me up. 478 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 1: She thought I was sleeping. That's the best put your 479 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:14,479 Speaker 1: noise canceling headphones in and I would visualize a bubble 480 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 1: around me of like light, and I would be like, 481 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:21,239 Speaker 1: this is me. I am a light being and no 482 00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:26,040 Speaker 1: one can penetrate this with their like negativity or like anything. Yeah, 483 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,600 Speaker 1: And so then I would be like, I've got this 484 00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 1: bubble around me, and I'm not gonna let anyone's energy 485 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:35,280 Speaker 1: drain me. I love like from an energetic yeah, and yeah, 486 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,359 Speaker 1: I do that sometimes when I was feeling like really drained. 487 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:40,080 Speaker 2: That's the exact advice you gave me when I was 488 00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 2: doing the project. Really yeah, and I asked this question 489 00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 2: or like a similar question, and. 490 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,359 Speaker 1: I was like, sit in a bubble, you're like, and 491 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:50,000 Speaker 1: it helps. 492 00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:51,000 Speaker 3: The bubble thing is real. 493 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 2: And the other thing that really helped me I actually 494 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,879 Speaker 2: found a way to physically distance myself from the people 495 00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 2: during the day. 496 00:25:58,600 --> 00:25:59,440 Speaker 1: I used to do this too. 497 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 2: I would like I could be like, oh, like, I 498 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,639 Speaker 2: just can't focus with all the talking. I'm just gonna 499 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 2: go sit in the boardroom and smash them work out 500 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:10,240 Speaker 2: by myself. Or I'd get noise canceling headphones and I'd 501 00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 2: put them on so that I literally couldn't hear what. 502 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 3: They were saying. 503 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,440 Speaker 2: Yes, and they won't talk to you because they'll go, oh, 504 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:16,320 Speaker 2: she's not interested in talking. 505 00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 3: She's got headphones on. 506 00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 1: Honestly, get noise canceling headphones. That's such a vibe. And 507 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:25,159 Speaker 1: also at lunch time, I would always go out of 508 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:25,680 Speaker 1: the office. 509 00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:28,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, always go for a walk. 510 00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:31,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, get out of that environment, get into the fresh air, 511 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,399 Speaker 1: go for a walk, stretch my legs, or just like 512 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,920 Speaker 1: eat lunch somewhere else so you're not like accessible. 513 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:40,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. One of my friends even used to eat lunch 514 00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:43,120 Speaker 2: at her desk and spend the whole like half hour 515 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 2: lunch break just walking, not even worrying about eating, and 516 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,479 Speaker 2: that she said helped her a lot too, So that 517 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 2: could even be an option. 518 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,639 Speaker 1: Yeah. And then I guess if we're talking about because 519 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:54,440 Speaker 1: she said you were the product of the five people 520 00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,240 Speaker 1: you spend the most time with, think about it in 521 00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 1: the way of even though you'll spend you know, your 522 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:04,760 Speaker 1: day with that, you know with those people, it's where 523 00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:07,639 Speaker 1: you spend your other time. So, like you know what 524 00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:11,560 Speaker 1: we're talking about before a tier with like podcasts or books, 525 00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:13,960 Speaker 1: so on the way to work, it's like listen to 526 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,160 Speaker 1: a podcast of people that you would want to surround 527 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:21,720 Speaker 1: yourself with and you know, be injecting you know your 528 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:26,560 Speaker 1: five people. I say that in inverticos, air quarts and 529 00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:31,560 Speaker 1: inject you know people in other ways. It doesn't necessarily 530 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,920 Speaker 1: like the people that you physically are around. 531 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:35,080 Speaker 3: Such a good question. 532 00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:42,160 Speaker 2: So this question was actually posted into our Facebook community group, 533 00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 2: and I thought it was a really cool one for 534 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 2: a hotline. 535 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:47,440 Speaker 3: So I want to get your opinion on it. 536 00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,960 Speaker 1: PS come join our Facebook community group. It's lots of 537 00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:51,480 Speaker 1: fun in there. 538 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,439 Speaker 3: It is so the question. 539 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:57,440 Speaker 2: My boyfriend, thirty three years old and I thirty years old, 540 00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 2: have been together for over four years, and I've always 541 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 2: said I don't want to get married. He loves weddings 542 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,120 Speaker 2: and the idea of marriage. However, for me, I don't 543 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,120 Speaker 2: see any purpose as I'm happy the way things currently are. 544 00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 2: I respect my friends and family who love marriage and weddings, 545 00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 2: but it's just not for me. My boyfriend has only 546 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,960 Speaker 2: recently said it's a deal breaker for him and is 547 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,119 Speaker 2: adamant that he wants to be married and call me 548 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:23,359 Speaker 2: his wife. To give context, his best friends just became 549 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,120 Speaker 2: engaged and are all talking about weddings. I have done 550 00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,240 Speaker 2: so much for him, already moved into state to support 551 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 2: his career, bought a house on my own for us 552 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,560 Speaker 2: to live in, supported him whilst he was studying at UNI, 553 00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:38,200 Speaker 2: looked after him after surgeries, and a massive list of 554 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,720 Speaker 2: other things. I feel that I already do what it's 555 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:44,200 Speaker 2: expected of a married person, but I don't need the title. However, 556 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,680 Speaker 2: he does. I'm not sure how to handle it, and 557 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,720 Speaker 2: I feel like I'm letting him down by not giving 558 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 2: him the opportunity. But I really don't want to sign 559 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:55,280 Speaker 2: a marriage certificate. So interesting, so interesting, so many different 560 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:56,360 Speaker 2: things you could unpack. 561 00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,520 Speaker 1: She are like, first of all, I completely get it, 562 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 1: Like she said, She's like, I've moved into state for him, 563 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 1: Like I've. It's not like I'm sitting here in the relationship, 564 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,440 Speaker 1: you know, not putting things on the line. 565 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. You mean like she's sacrificed to show she's in 566 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:12,920 Speaker 2: it for the long time. 567 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:13,200 Speaker 4: Yeah. 568 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,200 Speaker 1: She's like, it's not that I don't want to be 569 00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,360 Speaker 1: with you forever. It's something else that's going on. I 570 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,480 Speaker 1: think I would be really interested to know a bit 571 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,000 Speaker 1: more of like why, yeah, would you? 572 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 3: Yeah? 573 00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:28,960 Speaker 2: Like why she doesn't want to get married? Well, for example, 574 00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,160 Speaker 2: let's back it up a little bit, like do you 575 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,880 Speaker 2: want to get married in the future tea, Yeah, why. 576 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 2: I just think it's a beautiful thing and a beautiful 577 00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,160 Speaker 2: celebration in a ceremony. 578 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 3: That I'd want to have fair enough. 579 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:42,520 Speaker 2: But also I have seen so many seen and know 580 00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 2: people that haven't got married and they've just like lived 581 00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 2: together forever, and like some of them don't even get engaged, 582 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 2: but like they also have a beautiful love and that's 583 00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:54,479 Speaker 2: something different and special for them, and it's just not 584 00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:56,000 Speaker 2: something they need or want. 585 00:29:56,240 --> 00:30:01,000 Speaker 1: You know. What's interesting, I don't know anyone who isn't 586 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:06,000 Speaker 1: married really in a long term. Wow, Like there's not 587 00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,120 Speaker 1: one person. And then I can think of that. 588 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:11,320 Speaker 2: I know, I think two of my teachers at school 589 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,920 Speaker 2: and not with each other, with other people, someone from 590 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:17,760 Speaker 2: one of my previous jobs, long term like ten fifteen 591 00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 2: years living together, boarder house together, everything, not married, didn't 592 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:23,080 Speaker 2: want didn't ever want to get married. 593 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,240 Speaker 1: What was the general consensus of one people? 594 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,960 Speaker 2: Two of them it was just not something that they 595 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 2: felt they needed to do. 596 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 3: They loved each other. 597 00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:34,200 Speaker 2: And I think one of those teachers their parents never 598 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,880 Speaker 2: got married either, so it just like wasn't a thing 599 00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:38,680 Speaker 2: for them. And then the other one they were just like. 600 00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:40,240 Speaker 1: Very against patriarchy. 601 00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:42,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, government, all that sort of stuff. I didn't want. 602 00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:46,200 Speaker 1: I didn't want it. I completely get both sides because 603 00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,840 Speaker 1: it's like, why do we need this piece of paper 604 00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:53,200 Speaker 1: to then signify the bond? And like why is the 605 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,320 Speaker 1: government involved in my relationship? Literally, I do get it. 606 00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 3: It's like whose business is it? 607 00:30:58,640 --> 00:30:58,920 Speaker 2: Yeah? 608 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, it is weird. But then also, obviously I am 609 00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:05,080 Speaker 1: married and I love being married, and it was something 610 00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 1: I wanted to do. But then I'm like, was it 611 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,680 Speaker 1: just something I wanted to do because of that's what 612 00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: you do. 613 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,880 Speaker 2: I enjoy the concept of celebrating your love for this 614 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 2: person with everyone's loved ones. 615 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:21,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, well I enjoy it. Yeah, but I am I 616 00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,680 Speaker 1: guess it's it's a tradition. Yeah, so we do it 617 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,720 Speaker 1: because people before us did it. Yeah, which is fine. 618 00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, yeah, I don't know how I feel 619 00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 2: about it being a legally binding thing. 620 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:37,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, legally binding tradition. Yeah, but I guess I think 621 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 1: the big thing with traditions is we're at the point where, 622 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:45,320 Speaker 1: instead of just mindlessly doing them, if you can actually 623 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:49,640 Speaker 1: sit back and go, hey, I know everyone's done this previously, 624 00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,640 Speaker 1: Why like, why do we do it? Do I actually 625 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 1: want to do it? Is it something that is for 626 00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 1: me or something that I think we should just do, 627 00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:00,920 Speaker 1: Like if we can actually have that comp station because 628 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:03,880 Speaker 1: also there's a lot of things and weddings that I 629 00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,360 Speaker 1: don't agree with that it's like very old school. So 630 00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,360 Speaker 1: I don't know. It kind of depends, but I can 631 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: really see both sides. 632 00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:16,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think having the conversation with him about why 633 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:20,120 Speaker 2: he wants to get married, especially if this is something 634 00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,040 Speaker 2: that you've always said you don't want to, so he 635 00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:25,160 Speaker 2: kind of knew what he was getting into when he 636 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,800 Speaker 2: started dating you. Yeah, if you've said you don't want to, 637 00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 2: but also looking at why you don't want to, because 638 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:33,520 Speaker 2: you've also written you don't want to sign the marriage certificate. 639 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:35,680 Speaker 2: So could there be like some common ground where you 640 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:38,720 Speaker 2: have a nice ceremony and celebrate your love for each 641 00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,160 Speaker 2: other with everyone and have a wedding, but you just 642 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:45,080 Speaker 2: don't sign a certificate. If that's the If that's the 643 00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:48,080 Speaker 2: part that makes you uncomfortable, that whole legal aspect and 644 00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 2: that you have to prove your love to each other 645 00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:53,000 Speaker 2: to the government, that's not what you like about it, 646 00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,280 Speaker 2: then just get rid of that part. 647 00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:57,160 Speaker 1: And yeah, like maybe he just wants the wedding. 648 00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:59,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, man, like just wants the day of fun. 649 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 1: And you can still get rings if that's what you 650 00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,440 Speaker 1: you know want or if you don't. Either way and 651 00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:08,000 Speaker 1: you can have the ceremony, you just don't sign the paperwork. Yeah, 652 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,800 Speaker 1: do you know I still haven't changed my name in 653 00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 1: some documents. 654 00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:15,800 Speaker 2: That's what stresses me out, Like you've just got different 655 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 2: last name, literally go by both names. And I'm kind 656 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:21,400 Speaker 2: of to the point where I kind of wish I 657 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,800 Speaker 2: didn't change my name's so much effort. But then I 658 00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,960 Speaker 2: do have this thing about I want the same name 659 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:27,560 Speaker 2: as Ivy. 660 00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,240 Speaker 1: Now that's the only aspect. If I didn't have a child, 661 00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:31,200 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have changed. 662 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,760 Speaker 2: Would you have done Ivy Stevens in crowds? Your crowd 663 00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,240 Speaker 2: Stephens like hyphenated her last. 664 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:40,480 Speaker 1: Name, Oh so long, poor gown running that at touch 665 00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:44,959 Speaker 1: shop and ship, But yeah, I would have done that. 666 00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,080 Speaker 1: You've been a bit of fun, I guess. Also, this 667 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,000 Speaker 1: is like this is so traditional, but like I have 668 00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:54,240 Speaker 1: three brothers. The Stephenson name is. It's good, it's good, 669 00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:55,520 Speaker 1: it's going strong. 670 00:33:57,400 --> 00:34:00,520 Speaker 2: I just kind of couldn't carry the way so much, 671 00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:03,680 Speaker 2: Like even the thought I'm like, all my emails are 672 00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:04,840 Speaker 2: a tea baddy. 673 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:10,880 Speaker 1: I want to changels. They literally are like to end. 674 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:15,720 Speaker 1: At least a tear never gets married for that factor. 675 00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,680 Speaker 1: All Right, I get married. I just wouldn't change my name. Yeah, 676 00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:23,040 Speaker 1: I love So what's your conclusion here? 677 00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:27,160 Speaker 2: My conclusion is have a conversation with him about why 678 00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:31,960 Speaker 2: he really wants to, but also get really clear internally 679 00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:34,839 Speaker 2: on why you don't like is this coming from some 680 00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,399 Speaker 2: form of trauma because you've seen marriages fall apart, or 681 00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,960 Speaker 2: is this coming from you are against the concept of 682 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,960 Speaker 2: having to declare your love and prove it to people 683 00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:47,600 Speaker 2: in the government, in the government and that sort of stuff, 684 00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:49,279 Speaker 2: and then see if there's a way you can work 685 00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,880 Speaker 2: around it and compromise on this, because I'm sure, like 686 00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:55,799 Speaker 2: it sounds like you've done a lot to prove your 687 00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:57,319 Speaker 2: love for him and to show you're in it for 688 00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,399 Speaker 2: the long haul. And I would hope that he has 689 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:02,239 Speaker 2: done that who as well, and you would do the same. 690 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you definitely need to find some common 691 00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,480 Speaker 1: ground because that's also what a relationship is. 692 00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:08,919 Speaker 3: Yeah. 693 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:09,799 Speaker 1: It's compromise. 694 00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:11,919 Speaker 3: Yeah, and it fucking suck. 695 00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:14,880 Speaker 1: It's compromise. 696 00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, And if it's just like you don't really feel 697 00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,000 Speaker 2: like it and it's something he really wants. Sometimes that 698 00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:22,360 Speaker 2: means you just do it because you love your partner 699 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,320 Speaker 2: and that that would make them so happy. 700 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 1: Oh there's so many things I do just because t 701 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:30,680 Speaker 1: him wants something like this is so annoying and vice versa. Yeah, 702 00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:32,120 Speaker 1: so just have a look at that. 703 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,760 Speaker 2: And I think you have the conversation with him maturely 704 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:36,879 Speaker 2: and make sure you're both in the right headspace when 705 00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:37,759 Speaker 2: you have the conversation. 706 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:42,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, communications everything it actually is. Because also I wonder 707 00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 1: if he knows the deep down reasons of why you 708 00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:48,239 Speaker 1: don't want to get married, if he will understand and 709 00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, look, I completely get it. 710 00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:52,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you just end up on having your backyard 711 00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:53,959 Speaker 2: thing with copy of friends around and. 712 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:57,120 Speaker 1: A tear is really keen on a party, love a 713 00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:01,440 Speaker 1: good party. And also, guys, this is random, but with 714 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 1: the hotline questions, if anything eventuates after, please tell us, 715 00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,080 Speaker 1: please tell us. We would love to know because we 716 00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:12,480 Speaker 1: just maybe you could do it a hypothesize episode where we 717 00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:16,000 Speaker 1: tell everyone what happened. Yes, this is a question where 718 00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:19,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, I would love to know what you guys, 719 00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:22,400 Speaker 1: decide and what happens. Guys, thank you so much for 720 00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:28,200 Speaker 1: listening to another episode of the Rising Concor podcas Aga 721 00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,799 Speaker 1: Babe case. The Rise in Concer podcast will be in 722 00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:33,120 Speaker 1: your ears next week. 723 00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:37,840 Speaker 3: Bye bye. 724 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:42,399 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of 725 00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,600 Speaker 1: the Rise and Concer podcast. 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