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Speaker 1: it doesn't stop. Yeah, And so it doesn't mean you're

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Speaker 1: not meant to be with this person, It just means

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Speaker 1: you need to step into this energy of I'm not

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Speaker 1: playing these games. I know who I am, I know

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Speaker 1: what I'm worth, and you need to hold that, and honestly,

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Speaker 1: they will energetically feel that. I even remember Manifestation Babe

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Speaker 1: said she did this with her partner when she wanted

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Speaker 1: him to like propose, and he almost was like turned

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Speaker 1: off by her neediness. And then one night she was

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Speaker 1: like looking at rings and he kind of made a

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Speaker 1: joke and he was like, yeah, like if we ever

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Speaker 1: get you know, married or whatever. And so that night

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Speaker 1: she energetically broke up with him and was like nah,

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Speaker 1: like yeah, like not bit like was like nah, I'm

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Speaker 1: not stepping into this energy you ever want me or

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Speaker 1: like that's it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's like, no joke.

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Speaker 1: After that, he proposed like not long after, and he

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Speaker 1: was like obsessed with her because she energetically was like no, yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I think that's what you need to step into

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Speaker 1: with this situation is and that's going to show. It's

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Speaker 1: either going to show his true colors and it's going

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Speaker 1: to be like thank God, I know this now, or

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Speaker 1: it's going to make him like wake up and realize

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Speaker 1: he actually wants to be with you.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, because I think with stuff like that as well,

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Speaker 3: I've had conversations with a few of my friends about

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Speaker 3: it in that if you knew that your perfect person

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Speaker 3: was coming, and like, obviously you're not going to know when,

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Speaker 3: but you know they're coming, why would you settle for

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Speaker 3: anything less? Yeah, because that's what it is. It's settling.

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Speaker 3: It's being like, oh, this will be nice. But then

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Speaker 3: if you entertain that you might actually miss meeting your

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Speaker 3: perfect person because you're too busy stuff and it's like

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Speaker 3: weird relationship. Yeah, or prolong it because you're not just

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Speaker 3: taking time for yourself and like keeping your energetic minimum.

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Speaker 1: Hi.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: The other thing is like changing your story around needing

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Speaker 3: to love yourself completely before you are with someone else,

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Speaker 3: because I think you spoke about that in one of

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Speaker 3: the trainings where that's not really a thing, but you

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Speaker 3: do need to be clear on like what you expect

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Speaker 3: from a partner.

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Speaker 1: I just I'm looking at this question and so she's saying, like,

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Speaker 1: I've done the self love activities. I don't think it's

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Speaker 1: like a self love thing. I think it's a self

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Speaker 1: worth thing, Like she needs to like who she is,

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Speaker 1: and that's actually in the rise at this month when

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Speaker 1: we are doing self love, Like Kate really tackles the

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Speaker 1: loving your physical body and like, you know, those acts

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Speaker 1: of self love, and then I really go for like

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Speaker 1: the self worth and the subconscious inner dialogue and those

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Speaker 1: and that sort of angle. I truly believe you need

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Speaker 1: both because it's like the inner work and then the

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Speaker 1: outer work. And as I'm reading this question, I think

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Speaker 1: she really needs to do the internal work of not

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Speaker 1: loving like her you know body, it's.

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Speaker 2: Like loving who she is at the core.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And this, honestly, I think this is also pushing

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Speaker 1: you to maybe do deeper self conscious work that will

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Speaker 1: include like shadow work and those sorts of personally my

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Speaker 1: journey with self love started with loving you know, my

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Speaker 1: body and loving accepting myself on how I looked, and

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Speaker 1: then it turned into this journey of like loving myself

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Speaker 1: despite all the shadows and all the darkness and all

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Speaker 1: the things I hide from people. And that was that

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Speaker 1: was my biggest journey of life, Like the shit that

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't want anyone to hear or know about me,

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Speaker 1: going to those parts of myself and loving those parts

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Speaker 1: of myself. Yeah, so I would be like writing out

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Speaker 1: And this is why in the Rise app there's a

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Speaker 1: lot of forgiveness meditations and trainings because that shit changed

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Speaker 1: my life.

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Speaker 2: I actually had to.

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Speaker 1: Forgive myself for so many things that if I told you,

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Speaker 1: you would be like, oh, Georgia, like you were young,

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Speaker 1: or like who cares. But my soul was like carrying

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Speaker 1: these rocks that.

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Speaker 2: Were like weighing me down. And I didn't think I

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Speaker 2: was a good person.

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Speaker 1: Was like on paper, I'm absolutely a good person, but

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Speaker 1: my subconscious had made me think I wasn't a good person. Interesting,

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Speaker 1: So like I had to do that, like that deeper,

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Speaker 1: accepting those parts of myself that I was trying to

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Speaker 1: hide from everyone. Yeah, And for some reason when I'm

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Speaker 1: reading this, that's what I get. Yeah, intuitively, that's what

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Speaker 1: I get that she needs.

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Speaker 3: It's like the affirmations, dressing up nicely, dating yourself is

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Speaker 3: all well and good, but it's almost like a band aid,

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Speaker 3: it's not.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she needs to go deeper, come into

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Speaker 2: the Rise app.

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Speaker 1: Well, honestly, come into the Rise app because she it's

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Speaker 1: getting real. Yeah, but I think you probably need to

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Speaker 1: go to that place of why don't you like yourself?

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Speaker 3: And that'll be a hard conversation with yourself, Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: it'll be so worth it.

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Speaker 2: In the end, and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think that's what this work. And obviously

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Speaker 1: we can't go that deep on this podcast, but that's

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Speaker 1: what I think, like her next thing is, and all

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Speaker 1: these things are kind of happening to show her, and

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Speaker 1: that's life will show you where you need to go.

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Speaker 1: Life will absolutely show you where you need to go.

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Speaker 1: You'll listen to a podcast or you'll hear something and

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Speaker 1: you need to follow that because it's really life is

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Speaker 1: just trying to mirror to you what you need to heal.

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Speaker 4: But I hope that was.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we hope that.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 3: I think it definitely was, because she's obviously just at

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Speaker 3: such a block and stuck in this cycle of trying

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Speaker 3: to fix it but hasn't got there yet, and it

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Speaker 3: just means she needs to do a bit more intense.

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Speaker 1: I would be writing down, like literally write down, what

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Speaker 1: are the reasons why you don't like yourself? Like and

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Speaker 1: write down and as silly as it may be, put

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Speaker 1: it out on paper again, like a tea said, like

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Speaker 1: get that shit out on paper and then start to

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Speaker 1: be like, Okay, this is the reason why I have

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Speaker 1: a block to loving myself, to accepting myself. I would

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Speaker 1: definitely go into the rise app and look at that

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Speaker 1: forgiveness training meditation, because that's going to be so helpful,

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Speaker 1: even if you think it's like something silly or something small.

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Speaker 2: Like I said, that was really life changing for.

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Speaker 1: Me doing that work, and then I would be going

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Speaker 1: from there of like, Okay, what can I heal?

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Speaker 2: What can I rewire? Where do I need to go

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Speaker 2: from here?

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