1 00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:07,800 Speaker 1: Get a I'm Lala Berry, nutritionist, author, actor, TV presenter, 2 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: and professional overshaer. This podcast is all about celebrating failure 3 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: because I believe it's a chance for us to learn, 4 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: grow and face our blind spots. Each week I'll interview 5 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: a different guest about their highs as well as they're lows, 6 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 1: all in a bid to inspire us to fearlessly fail. Hello, Gangles, 7 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 1: this is your new year, new episode on Feilously Failing 8 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: for twenty twenty five. It's just essentially a check in 9 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: and a stock take at the very top of the year, 10 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: the very beginning of the year. We're going to talk mind, body, 11 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 1: and spirit. Obviously, the body stuff we've talked about a 12 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: lot because nutritionness, so that's going to cover health, movement, nutrition, sleep, stress, 13 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: feeling your best right. We talk a fair bit about 14 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 1: the mind stuff, and I guess the stress crosses over 15 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:19,320 Speaker 1: into there too, where we're going to touch on practices 16 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:24,959 Speaker 1: for mental health and mind, whether it be therapy, breath work, meditation. 17 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 1: And then there's the spirit, and we don't talk loads 18 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: about that. I have a lot of guests come on 19 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 1: here and talk about the spiritual stuff, whether it be 20 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: breath work or crystal healing or astrology. But today the 21 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 1: way I talk to you about spirit, I want to 22 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:44,319 Speaker 1: talk about passion, Dama. If you don't know what that 23 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: word is, don't worry. We'll talk about it purpose. One 24 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 1: of my favorite quotes, the readiness is all staying ready 25 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: and finding what it is that you love where time stops. 26 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 1: So finding that flow state for you, essentially, whether it's travel, movies, writing, reading, 27 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: and bringing more of that into your every day life, 28 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,200 Speaker 1: even if you've got another full time job, Like, how 29 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: can we bring the passion into your job into your life? 30 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 1: Should I say? So? These are kind of like the 31 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:22,520 Speaker 1: three I'll use the word pillars for today, but it's 32 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 1: basically the body stuff we've done we talked about. Even 33 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: last week's episode was a festive health episode, and I've 34 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: got all my notes up from that so that we 35 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: don't have too much double up. But it is worth 36 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 1: understanding how simple health and wellness can be if you 37 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: let it be, and if you decide to make it simple. Obviously, 38 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,679 Speaker 1: like it's different because everybody has a different body and 39 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:54,799 Speaker 1: different health concerns and different goals. But my mate David Gillespie, 40 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:59,519 Speaker 1: who wrote Sweet Poison, and he's written a book called 41 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 1: Just Set Food, and he's written a plethora. I think 42 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:06,079 Speaker 1: he's written like thirteen or so books. Incredible human. He's 43 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 1: been on this pot a couple of times, but he 44 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:10,959 Speaker 1: always says, bring it back to real food, pull the 45 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 1: process stuff out. So it's going to feel like simple 46 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 1: the health and model and stuff, And I think you 47 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: want to know the health model and stuff, but I'm 48 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: really excited to talk about and share what works for 49 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: me in the other elements as well. So the goal 50 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: is mind, body, and spirit. We're going to start with 51 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:31,920 Speaker 1: mind because I'm so passionate about mental health now, I 52 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: want to inspire you to have some kind of mental 53 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: health practice and a mental health accountability partner, like someone 54 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 1: that you can check in with. And mine lives on 55 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: the other side of the world, but we check in 56 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: daily on voice notes, and I'll be able to know 57 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: when I'm not spiring, but you know, like ruminating a lot, 58 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: and I'll be like, oh, it's time for a therapy session. 59 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: But I've got myuntability bud that I say that too, 60 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: and that can often catch me when I'm repeating old 61 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 1: habits or patterns or anything like that. So as far 62 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 1: as mine goes whatever flutes your boat. You know. For me, 63 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: I love talk therapy and hypnotherapy, and they are true 64 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:23,719 Speaker 1: things I do for my mind that I see a 65 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:28,160 Speaker 1: specialist or a therapist for So when I see my therapist, 66 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: I started seeing him when I was thirty one and 67 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 1: I'm thirty nine now, so eight years I didn't even 68 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,719 Speaker 1: know that he was hypnotherapist. Like one day I was 69 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:40,920 Speaker 1: just like, we were talking about hynotherapy and I was like, Ah, 70 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:43,359 Speaker 1: do it? Do you do it? He laughed, because we 71 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: do it every session. I had no idea. I just 72 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: thought we're doing cool visualizations. Literally had no like, that's 73 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:54,160 Speaker 1: how awesome he is. So for me, that's a non negotiable, 74 00:04:54,880 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: I think, and you, my friends, the listeners here part 75 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: of the family of this pod. I think it's something 76 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 1: that I when I'm in LA because obviously there's a 77 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: time difference and stuff like that, it can be slightly 78 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 1: hard to coordinate, and I think that like I do 79 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: best when I'm having sessions at least once every two weeks, 80 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: so I'm going to try and like up them a 81 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: little bit. Breath work is another one. I have interviewed 82 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:29,359 Speaker 1: the beautiful Daisy mac On here who has spiritual mixtape 83 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 1: and she has amazing breath work, So check her out 84 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 1: if you're into breath work, if you're into meditation, there 85 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 1: are so many meditation apps. I know Matt has a 86 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: meditation that he listens to every day. I know there's 87 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 1: a company here in La founded by an Aussie and 88 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 1: it's called Open and that's an app as well. You've 89 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: got Insight Timer as well, so of meditation as your jam. 90 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: I teach a lot of yin yoga here in La 91 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: and I will even though it is a body practice 92 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:07,159 Speaker 1: that focuses on fascia, tendons and ligaments. The posers are 93 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:10,159 Speaker 1: long holds. They sit between kind of like three and 94 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:14,320 Speaker 1: sometimes four and a half minutes, and so you can 95 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: get into that meditative world when you're doing in class. 96 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: So I'd put that in the mind category as well. 97 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,720 Speaker 1: And then there's which is slightly separate to breath work, 98 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: which is pranny arm or pranny armor, and that is 99 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: different types of breathing practices that sit more within the 100 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 1: limbs of yoga world, which can be like alternate nostril breathing, 101 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: box breathing. Matt knows way more of them than me. 102 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:48,160 Speaker 1: Couple of VARDI breathing. Breathing. There are all these different 103 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: styles of breathing that you can go to a YO 104 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: class and do a breath work class that will be 105 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:57,160 Speaker 1: slightly different to say traditional breath work or not traditional, 106 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 1: but you know the I'm pretty sure it's like quick. 107 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: It's like quick, quick, in out, you know that style. 108 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: My point is, if this all sounds like, oh my goodness, 109 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: this is too much, this is too different, just try 110 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: one thing on and if it doesn't fit, onto the next. 111 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 1: If therapy and talk therapy is not your thing, try 112 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:23,560 Speaker 1: to find a counselor or I know that a friend 113 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 1: of mine is an amazing ACT therapist, and I believe. 114 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: What does ACT therapy stands for? It's a type of 115 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: compassionate therapy ACT therapy. I love my laptop in here 116 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: while I record. What does it stand for? Acceptance and 117 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 1: commitment therapy. It's a type of psychotherapy that helps people acknowledge, 118 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: acknowledge their thoughts and feelings, reframe their values, develop psychological flexibility. Wow, 119 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:57,680 Speaker 1: how kill does that sound? Learn to tolerate discomfort? Now, 120 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: I believe doctor Russ Harris was the father of this. 121 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: I'm really racking my brain. I love my brain right now, 122 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: I can't believer. I remember that Dr Russ Harris was 123 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: the father of ACT therapy. I've seen him talk before actually, 124 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: and he's got a truckload of books. There we go. 125 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:22,400 Speaker 1: I've got all these books. Yeah, the Happiness Trap was 126 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 1: the real famous one that he wrote, and then there's 127 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: ACT made symbole. But my friend Jad is trained in 128 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 1: ACT therapy. He's a counselor in Melbourne. Right to me, 129 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:35,200 Speaker 1: if you're on his details, he's absolutely phenomenal. But I 130 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: believe he's trained in acceptance and commitment therapy, and that's 131 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: a little gentler than other styles of therapy. I've had 132 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 1: therapists that are very gentle and their talk therapists. But 133 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: I know my personality being really really a type and 134 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:57,560 Speaker 1: go go go, and being very I'm very harsh and 135 00:08:57,640 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: judgmental of myself. So I love that my therapist can 136 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: be really like soft and gentle on old space and 137 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: then can also be like all right, Lola, time to 138 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: pull your socks up. Here we go. So it's about 139 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:16,920 Speaker 1: finding the right fit for you. A good tip if 140 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:19,960 Speaker 1: you've thought about therapy you're not sure, or mental health 141 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:23,679 Speaker 1: work you're not sure, always give it four sessions, because 142 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:26,200 Speaker 1: the first session is like getting to know you. The 143 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: second session session is a you getting to know them 144 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: and trust and figuring out like if you like one another. 145 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:36,720 Speaker 1: It's almost like dating, Like you really need to build 146 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:40,559 Speaker 1: a space with them where you feel comfortable and safe 147 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: to be vulnerable. And I don't think that you can 148 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 1: get there in one session. I know when I first 149 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: went to my therapist, i'd gone through a really rough 150 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 1: breakup and I just couldn't let go. I was like 151 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: on the hamster wheel. I just could there was no closure. 152 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: I couldn't figure it out. I couldn't understand, and I 153 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:59,400 Speaker 1: couldn't Like for me, I don't understand when someone's mean 154 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: and I couldn't get my head around it. Like he 155 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:03,840 Speaker 1: was dating someone within a week and I just couldn't 156 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:07,000 Speaker 1: you know, obviously didn't like me, but like I couldn't 157 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:12,320 Speaker 1: let go. And I remember, within three sessions we had 158 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: completely unpacked that relationship and I felt very at ease 159 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 1: and at peace with it. And I remembered at the 160 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 1: end of my third session, I said, well, I quite 161 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 1: like this to Kenna. I keep coming back and I've 162 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: never stopped. So if you go down the therapy, the 163 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 1: act therapy, the counselor route. Give it four sessions, Treat 164 00:10:32,440 --> 00:10:34,439 Speaker 1: it like dating at the start. Yeah, it's a getting 165 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 1: to know you breath work. Try them on. Remember there's 166 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 1: loads of different types meditation, try them on. Remember there's 167 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 1: loads of different type types you can try. Float tank 168 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 1: like deprivation therapy. You know, I'm pretty sure it's called 169 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: deprivation therapy. That sounds just really like morbid though sensory deprivation. 170 00:10:52,520 --> 00:10:56,960 Speaker 1: I missed a word, sensory deprivation therapy, like float tanks 171 00:10:57,160 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: and whatnot. I think there are so many things out there, 172 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: you know, even saunas and ice bustle. Though they probably 173 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: come into the body part of what we're talking about, 174 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: they're still they have an impact on our mind. Like 175 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 1: and that's why I'm excited to talk about each of 176 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:16,439 Speaker 1: these three pillars because the reasonhy I want to start 177 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: on mind because if the mind set isn't there and 178 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 1: isn't right the body stuff, you'll essentially stuff up when 179 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: your willpower is low. And we talked about this on 180 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:32,559 Speaker 1: last Monday's episode, that our willpower is really good in 181 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:34,959 Speaker 1: the mornings and then it runs out as the day 182 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,439 Speaker 1: goes on. And as a result of all the choices 183 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 1: that we have to make. Right. So, like the more 184 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:41,959 Speaker 1: choices you make, the more you run down your willpower, 185 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 1: which is why when it gets to three or four pm, 186 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 1: you just want to open that Tim Tam draw. You're 187 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: craving something really, really sweet. So the mind is kind 188 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,839 Speaker 1: of the king, I would say and look as a nutritionist, 189 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:01,840 Speaker 1: whenever I've worked with clients, OH usually talk to mind first, 190 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 1: Like I'll hear them out, I'll look at the diet 191 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:06,440 Speaker 1: diary or break it down. But I need to figure 192 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: out why they're here. I need to figure out why 193 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: they want to change their diet, why they want to 194 00:12:11,440 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: change these things. Until I figure out what's driving them, 195 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: we're not going to get anywhere. And so like your 196 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 1: mind is the key. So my tip or advice is 197 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 1: like look after your mind and treat something like a 198 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 1: therapy or seeing a counselor like going to the gym, 199 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: but just for your mind and for your mental health. 200 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: For me, it's a non negotiable. It's the reason why 201 00:12:38,679 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 1: I built up the courage to come to America. It's 202 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: the reason why I built up the courage to sell 203 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 1: the smoothie bar that was really hard for me. I 204 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,439 Speaker 1: had a smoothie bar for three years, three and a 205 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:51,439 Speaker 1: half years, and we made a call to sell it, 206 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: and I was in a situation where I could have 207 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: bought the other partners out, and I chose not to 208 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 1: and chose to sell. And so therapy helped me pull 209 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:08,840 Speaker 1: my emotion out of choices and to sit really comfortably 210 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:13,640 Speaker 1: in confronting like scary choices. So I would say therapy 211 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: is my one of my most important things that I do, 212 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 1: and it's something that I absolutely want to carry into 213 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 1: twenty twenty five and carry it in even stronger than 214 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 1: what I did in twenty twenty four. Whenever I move, 215 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: it's always like harder just logistically, but like now that 216 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 1: I feel really like determined about this year, I just 217 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:39,880 Speaker 1: really want to stick to it. So you can be 218 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:44,360 Speaker 1: my accountability buds and I will be yours. That's what 219 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:46,320 Speaker 1: I'm going to do for my mind practice, and I 220 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: am going to ramp up the yogs. I know it 221 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:51,680 Speaker 1: sounds weird because I work at a yogostoere in LA, 222 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 1: but you just don't get a chance to practice because 223 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:55,960 Speaker 1: you're doing gazillion and one other things, which and I 224 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 1: really want that this year that to change and I 225 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:03,000 Speaker 1: will practic it's more and just teach and practice more, 226 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:05,920 Speaker 1: you know, right, Oh, bod, let's talk about it. For me, 227 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: this is like, let's start with movement. I know I 228 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 1: feel best when I'm doing strength training, so lifting weights. 229 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:15,840 Speaker 1: My beautiful Pete in Australia. Alana is in Australia, and 230 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: so I don't have a program. So this is another 231 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:23,120 Speaker 1: accountability piece. I want to get a program from her 232 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 1: that I can do here in LA because basically what 233 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: I'm doing is I run down to our gym and 234 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 1: I just mcguy for it, which is a very millennial 235 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: thing to say for you youngsters. Eugen Z is listening 236 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:37,760 Speaker 1: to this. Mcgiver was a TV show where the lead 237 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:40,400 Speaker 1: guy's name was mcgiver and he could always get himself 238 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 1: out of a pickle. You like, how's he going to 239 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 1: get out of this? Mcgiver can always get himself out. 240 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:46,560 Speaker 1: So I essentially when I go to the gym, i'm 241 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:48,400 Speaker 1: mcguiver it and I'm like, what would Alana get me 242 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: to do? And I think, because I've done so many 243 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,240 Speaker 1: sessions with her and other trainers over the years, I 244 00:14:53,320 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: understand like safe form and so I'll just go in, 245 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 1: go down for like twenty twenty five thirty minutes, and 246 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:04,640 Speaker 1: you know, do squats, do arms, do lunges, and do 247 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:08,800 Speaker 1: do it with weights so that we really feel good 248 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 1: from it. But Boss and I notice, because we don't 249 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 1: train a lot in strength. When we do do those 250 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:21,960 Speaker 1: strength sessions, holy moly, we are absolutely sore for like 251 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 1: three and four days, which tells me we're not doing 252 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:26,120 Speaker 1: them as regularly enough. So I think I want to 253 00:15:26,200 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 1: up the PT strength stuff to two to three times 254 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: a week. I'd love to say three, but I'm skined 255 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:33,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna fail at that, so I'm going to say 256 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 1: two to three times a week, and same with the 257 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:38,520 Speaker 1: ooags two to three times a week. I haven't been 258 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 1: hiking much and I'm in such a great area for hiking, 259 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: so i'd like to be hiking again. I want to 260 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 1: say once a week, So there you go. I'm admitting 261 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: it to you once a week, hike three times, yogs 262 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 1: three times, two to three times strength. Let's talk about nutrition. 263 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:55,080 Speaker 1: I want to pull all the diet stuff out for 264 00:15:55,120 --> 00:15:57,800 Speaker 1: a moment and bring it back to why you want 265 00:15:57,800 --> 00:15:59,600 Speaker 1: to look after your nutrition, and that is because you 266 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:01,520 Speaker 1: want to fe feel good. You want to feel clear 267 00:16:01,680 --> 00:16:04,560 Speaker 1: in the mind, in the body. I love it when 268 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 1: my body feels like it's functioning really really well, like 269 00:16:08,520 --> 00:16:11,120 Speaker 1: I'm putting good stuff into it. It knows what to 270 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: do with that good stuff and it's running like primo. 271 00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 1: I love that feeling, and so I really that's why 272 00:16:19,840 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 1: I like to look after my health. I love to 273 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:26,120 Speaker 1: feel fit and strong and mentally sharp and those things 274 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:28,440 Speaker 1: come from Yeah, all that stuff I was saying about 275 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: the mind health, but also looking after yourself and not 276 00:16:32,560 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: eating too much rubbish. The stuff that is gonna make 277 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: you feel crap o is refined sugars, seed oils. Seed 278 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: oils is more on a DNA level, so you might 279 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:48,800 Speaker 1: not feel crap straight away, but long term effects is 280 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 1: no boro so just cut them as well. So you've 281 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: got sugar seed oils which is hidden in a lot 282 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 1: of stuff. So that essentially is unstable oil that have 283 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:04,199 Speaker 1: been heated to the point of being ranswered. So and 284 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:06,280 Speaker 1: then they're used in cooking and it's not healthy for 285 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,439 Speaker 1: you can consume, and it's linked to a lot of 286 00:17:08,480 --> 00:17:10,640 Speaker 1: DNA damage. And I think there's stuff that's come out 287 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:13,879 Speaker 1: now saying it's castinogenic super bad for you. It's in 288 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:18,040 Speaker 1: a lot of stuff here in America, like it's in Homers. 289 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:20,280 Speaker 1: Dip has got seed oil in it here and a 290 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 1: lot of dressings, whereas I think in Australia a lot 291 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:25,680 Speaker 1: of olive oil and avocado oil is used. Olive oil, 292 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: avocado oil, coconut oil, happy days, really good, macadamia oil, 293 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:35,760 Speaker 1: yeam butter really good and like getting meats with a 294 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:38,679 Speaker 1: fat on it really good for you. I know that 295 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:42,640 Speaker 1: sounds like I'm sure like our parents or my parents' 296 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:45,359 Speaker 1: age group in the eighties will be like, no, fat 297 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:50,119 Speaker 1: is the enemy. That's been totally misproven now, so you 298 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:52,760 Speaker 1: just want to pull the inflammatory causing things out right. 299 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:56,760 Speaker 1: So the sugar, the seed oils for me, gluten that's 300 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:58,840 Speaker 1: not for everyone, that's just for me. And then dairy 301 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:02,880 Speaker 1: I'm like a hit and miss with. So you can 302 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:07,679 Speaker 1: keep the diet stuff really straightforward, really really easy. Of 303 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:09,560 Speaker 1: course there are other things you can do, like I 304 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:13,640 Speaker 1: put drops of chlorophyll in my water. Sometimes you could 305 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: do little shots of apple side of vinegar or fresh 306 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:19,439 Speaker 1: lemon juice and warm water in the morning, or you know, 307 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 1: using apple side of vinegar in inside, not inside, on 308 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:28,679 Speaker 1: top of a salad, making green smoothie bowls or green smoothies. 309 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 1: And when you make green smoothie, remember it can last 310 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:34,199 Speaker 1: in the fridge for like three days or so. It 311 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:37,399 Speaker 1: just won't look as vibrantly green. But it does really 312 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 1: really work. You know, make your own butter bowls at 313 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:44,399 Speaker 1: home and when you go out like it. And this 314 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:46,440 Speaker 1: might sound like a luxury because I live in LA, 315 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: but I know Australia has beautiful food, arguably better than La. 316 00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: And I just think, like, when you're out like you do, 317 00:18:53,840 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 1: get to choose so you can order. Like I had 318 00:18:57,280 --> 00:18:59,919 Speaker 1: a meeting yesterday morning and we went to this beautiful 319 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:03,959 Speaker 1: local cafe in Los Angeles actually called Great White. I 320 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: believe the founders are Australian, and we both were gluten 321 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 1: free and we got this delicious like two pieces of 322 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 1: gluten free bread and then we got smoked salmon, a 323 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:20,920 Speaker 1: boiled egg, fresh salad, capers, and some cream cheese essentially 324 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:24,160 Speaker 1: to make our own locks bagel, right but because where 325 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:29,760 Speaker 1: not don't have gluten we got it on a bit 326 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:33,560 Speaker 1: of gluten free bread. Delish, so you can hack it, 327 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:36,280 Speaker 1: you can maguy for it even when you're out to 328 00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:39,960 Speaker 1: eat really clean a word on booze, Like I never 329 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:43,000 Speaker 1: pull it fully out. I just keep it in moderation coffee. 330 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:46,320 Speaker 1: If you really want to clean up, like you're you know, 331 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:49,800 Speaker 1: all the milks and the creamers, that sort of very 332 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:52,000 Speaker 1: American thing, and the sugars and all of that kind 333 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 1: of stuff, just drink it black. But a lot of 334 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:56,119 Speaker 1: people look at me crazy when they see me drinking 335 00:19:56,160 --> 00:20:00,440 Speaker 1: black coffee. I love just like in a mirror, it's 336 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:04,120 Speaker 1: called drip coffee. It's drip black coffee. And an Americano 337 00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:06,879 Speaker 1: here is like the closest thing you'll find to a 338 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: long black and I just love I love black coffee. 339 00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:15,000 Speaker 1: But if that it sounds way too, isn't there some 340 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 1: meme about psychopaths drink black coffee or something? If that 341 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: sounds too psychopathy vibes for you, Like just like make 342 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 1: sure you know the kind of milks that are going 343 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 1: into it, because I know here the creamers and the 344 00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:30,920 Speaker 1: milks have often got sugars and you don't want that. 345 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:33,920 Speaker 1: And so it's about remember like being a bit of 346 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 1: a detective, checking the sugar content of things like oat milk, 347 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:40,119 Speaker 1: maybe trying an alm and milk or trying a different 348 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:43,320 Speaker 1: milk on coconut milk is fantastic and really creamy and 349 00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:46,800 Speaker 1: really delicious, you know. And so it's also not about 350 00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 1: missing out on sugars, Like you can make really yummy 351 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:53,520 Speaker 1: treats like raw date energy balls, and on the Monday's episode, 352 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:55,919 Speaker 1: I talked about a raw chocolate avocado mooves. I'm going 353 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:59,480 Speaker 1: to post that recipe soon. So you can really you 354 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:03,719 Speaker 1: can really really make health fun and really make it 355 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 1: work for you. It just takes a little bit of 356 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:11,520 Speaker 1: planning and a little bit of like yeah, mcguy ring 357 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 1: it like hacking it out, and little things like netle 358 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 1: tea is great for the liver and kidney. So having 359 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: a little little bit a little netle having a netle 360 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:24,000 Speaker 1: tea when you feel a little bit fluidy and inflamed, 361 00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 1: you know, and just keeping it really simple, bringing it 362 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,640 Speaker 1: back to just eat real food, which is that thing 363 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 1: I was saying at the start with David Gillesbie. He 364 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,399 Speaker 1: was always like, just keep it simple, eat real food. 365 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:41,159 Speaker 1: It's super It sounds too easy, but like pull the 366 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:45,800 Speaker 1: refined stuff out, pull the hydrogenated oils out. They're the 367 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 1: ones that are in like chocolate bars and stuff like that. 368 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: Pull the seed oils out. Also, in chocolate bars, but 369 00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:56,119 Speaker 1: check because they sneak into sauces and dressings and things 370 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 1: like that, you know what I mean. The other one, 371 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:02,440 Speaker 1: of course, is the sugars. We know they're not good 372 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,159 Speaker 1: for us. We know they're highly addictive. We know they 373 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,159 Speaker 1: muck with our gut, they muck with our brain chemistry. 374 00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:11,399 Speaker 1: You know, if you're gonna eat sugar, like make it 375 00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:15,199 Speaker 1: really mindful, and you know, find a really beautiful, like 376 00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:18,440 Speaker 1: local brand brand of chocolate that you know is sweetened 377 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 1: naturally and is really really clean, and that stuff all 378 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 1: exists everywhere. And sure it might cost a little bit more, 379 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 1: but these things are little treats. We're not meant to 380 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: be having them all day every day, you know. Okay, 381 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 1: I feel like I've really rabbit it on about the 382 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:37,640 Speaker 1: health stuff. Remember, hydrate water is key. The first sign 383 00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 1: of dehydration is actually hunger. So keep drinking your water, 384 00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: my friends. As I said that, I feel a little 385 00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 1: bit parched. Five is really important too. Is essentially like 386 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:54,240 Speaker 1: an intestinal broom. So oats, nut seeds, all your kind 387 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:58,359 Speaker 1: of veggies, all your fruit skins, so like, don't grate 388 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,359 Speaker 1: the skin, like eat the skin of your eye, apple, 389 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,080 Speaker 1: stuff like that. You can't even eat your Kiwi skin. 390 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,439 Speaker 1: I know some people don't like the taste axis kind 391 00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,800 Speaker 1: of furry, but you can. It's also got really cool 392 00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:11,520 Speaker 1: protalytic enzymes in it. There's a nerdy fun fact for you. 393 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:17,359 Speaker 1: But yeah, I just think, like, make really really make 394 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:23,000 Speaker 1: all of the health stuff as simple as you can, 395 00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,320 Speaker 1: and then it's going to be easy to look after yourself. 396 00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 1: Like keep it simple. Just think low inflammation, low sugar, 397 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:32,920 Speaker 1: low seed oils, and you kind of can't go wrong 398 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,879 Speaker 1: from there. You know, you're gonna get your protein, you're 399 00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,399 Speaker 1: gonna get your good veggies, all of that, and it 400 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,920 Speaker 1: sustains you. And that's what I think we've got to 401 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:44,160 Speaker 1: come back to. We want really good fuel so that 402 00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:47,639 Speaker 1: we can run this machine that is our body. Well, 403 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:51,680 Speaker 1: all right, let's talk spirit the passion. I'm going to 404 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,600 Speaker 1: teach you this word. It's a Yogi word. It's dharma, 405 00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,880 Speaker 1: and it to means it means to live your purpose. 406 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: And my old because I did try in Vedic meditation 407 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 1: many years ago, probably ten years ago now, and my 408 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:09,639 Speaker 1: meditation teacher said, gee, Lola, following the charm suits you. 409 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 1: So we always used to say follow the charm. Vadic 410 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,040 Speaker 1: meditation is a whole different style of meditation. By the way, 411 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 1: it's twenty minutes morning and night and it works. You 412 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 1: caan't mantra, So just something I just wanted to do 413 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 1: that as an aside because we were talking about meditation 414 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 1: breath work earlier. I think it's like a three day 415 00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:31,199 Speaker 1: course and then you're at level one and then I 416 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,199 Speaker 1: think you can go up the levels. But back to 417 00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:40,280 Speaker 1: purpose passion, Dama, I think that it's real, and I 418 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:41,760 Speaker 1: want to be really honest with you. I think it's 419 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:44,439 Speaker 1: really flip and scary to live your purpose and to 420 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,280 Speaker 1: chase your dreams. I think it's scary. I think it's hard. 421 00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:51,119 Speaker 1: I think it means taking risks. I think it means 422 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 1: sailing away from the safe harbor. Like I think it 423 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,920 Speaker 1: means backing yourself when it feels like nobody else will 424 00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:02,720 Speaker 1: back you. And I think that that's okay, and in fact, 425 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:04,680 Speaker 1: like I think that's part of it. Like I think 426 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,320 Speaker 1: you've got to like have this dream that no one 427 00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,480 Speaker 1: else can see but you, and I think you've got 428 00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,640 Speaker 1: to just go. You know what, I'm going to run 429 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:13,080 Speaker 1: at it and I'm going to give this a red 430 00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:16,920 Speaker 1: hot crack and no regrets, and I wanted to say 431 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 1: that to you in this first episode, this New Year, 432 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:24,240 Speaker 1: New Year episode. I hope this sparks something within your 433 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:27,600 Speaker 1: heart so that you are like, you know what, this 434 00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:30,399 Speaker 1: is the year that I write a book, or you 435 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,000 Speaker 1: know what, this is the year that I get out 436 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: of that job that just doesn't feel right or doesn't 437 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,679 Speaker 1: feel like it's aligned with my purpose, or this is 438 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,040 Speaker 1: the year where I level up in this part of 439 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,520 Speaker 1: my life, or you know. I want this to be 440 00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:44,879 Speaker 1: that year for you. I want this to be the 441 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:52,639 Speaker 1: year where you feel like you're in charge and you 442 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:57,000 Speaker 1: have control of your story. And I had a session 443 00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: with my therapist probably two and a half weeks go now, 444 00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:03,720 Speaker 1: and he said, Lola, it is time to be the 445 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:09,119 Speaker 1: director of your own life. And it hit me, be 446 00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:12,560 Speaker 1: the director of your own life. And as you know, 447 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 1: I have many dreams acting, TV hosting, writing, podcasting, all 448 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 1: of it. I love it. I love it, I love it. 449 00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:22,919 Speaker 1: And I was getting overwhelmed. I was like, do I 450 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:24,680 Speaker 1: do this? What do I do? Da? Da da, And 451 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,680 Speaker 1: he was like, You're in charge. You are the director 452 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:31,960 Speaker 1: of your own life. And so that has been a 453 00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:36,960 Speaker 1: really empowering thing for me to hear, which is why 454 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 1: I'm sharing it with you. But I also want you 455 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,320 Speaker 1: to know, like some days you don't feel like you're 456 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,639 Speaker 1: the director of your own life. Some days you feel crap, 457 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,119 Speaker 1: And so I want you to have things that you 458 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,119 Speaker 1: know that give back to you and fill your cup 459 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 1: back up when you feel like it is empty. For me, 460 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,120 Speaker 1: I take myself to the movies. I love it. I 461 00:26:55,160 --> 00:27:01,280 Speaker 1: love just like connecting with the story and I love 462 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:05,400 Speaker 1: seeing actors live their passion. I love like escaping into 463 00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,200 Speaker 1: another world. I take myself to the movies when I 464 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:12,000 Speaker 1: feel crap. Another one is like and it doesn't need 465 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:16,240 Speaker 1: to be crazy travel, but like little adventures like as 466 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,160 Speaker 1: you know, the bossco and I are in La and 467 00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:20,320 Speaker 1: like LA is amazing, it's also a beast and it 468 00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 1: can burn you out. And so we have done little 469 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,360 Speaker 1: event We've gone to oh Hi. These are oldest driving adventures, 470 00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 1: like We've got to Ohi for two nights, which is 471 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:36,760 Speaker 1: near like Santa Barbara. We've done Joshua Tree, Pioneertown, Palm Springs. 472 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:41,160 Speaker 1: Just little two day, one day getaways and little road 473 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,600 Speaker 1: trips and it just fills your cup up. And so 474 00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:49,800 Speaker 1: like give yourself little mini adventures or little day trips 475 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,000 Speaker 1: to feed your spirit, because I think that that is 476 00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:57,640 Speaker 1: so linked to like feeling clear around living your passion 477 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:02,960 Speaker 1: as well. Like I really think that in order to 478 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:09,080 Speaker 1: have the consistency to keep going after your passion, you 479 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 1: need these little circuit breakers that are fully aligned with 480 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:17,199 Speaker 1: your passion. But they feed it. And I know, like 481 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:20,639 Speaker 1: I'll watch a favorite movie or oh, like you know, 482 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:23,280 Speaker 1: I took Dad to see Gladiator, which I loved. You know, 483 00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 1: I'm a Pedro Pascal Galley, although poor Mescal was phenomenal 484 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:29,399 Speaker 1: as well. The whole cast was ten out of ten. Anyway, 485 00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,159 Speaker 1: I took Dad to see Gladiator, and I was It 486 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,000 Speaker 1: was on a day where I was feeling really stressed. 487 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,200 Speaker 1: I had a deadline for and in influencer job and 488 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 1: it wasn't there was something not working with a collab, 489 00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: post or something, and I had to be my phone 490 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,200 Speaker 1: was going from the Yogre studio as well, and I 491 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:47,720 Speaker 1: was just like I was felt like I was doing 492 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,920 Speaker 1: five jobs in one body and we had to get 493 00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:54,320 Speaker 1: to the movies to see Gladiator. And Dad was like, 494 00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,520 Speaker 1: why don't we just cancel? Why don't we just cancel? 495 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,120 Speaker 1: And I was like no, because I knew it would 496 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 1: reset me. I knew it would realign me. And it's 497 00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:06,520 Speaker 1: so funny because cut to like a month later, I 498 00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:08,480 Speaker 1: said to Matt, I really want to take your seat 499 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:10,480 Speaker 1: Gladiator and it's like, well you've seen it. I'm like, 500 00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,400 Speaker 1: I know, that's how good it is. And that was 501 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 1: a really important like date day for us as well, 502 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:21,560 Speaker 1: And like that's a really good, like little reclibration for me. 503 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:27,080 Speaker 1: So have a think about what that little reclibration thing 504 00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:29,320 Speaker 1: can be for you. Is it reading a book, is 505 00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:31,880 Speaker 1: it getting a massage? Is it getting out in nature? 506 00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,200 Speaker 1: Is it doing a little road trip or a day 507 00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:37,360 Speaker 1: trip somewhere. Is it connecting with a favorite person that 508 00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,520 Speaker 1: you don't always get to connect to. Is it hanging 509 00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:42,800 Speaker 1: around an animal? Boss? And I fostered a little bit 510 00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 1: last year and dog sat a lot. Is is it 511 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 1: like just getting outside of your head and being, you know, 512 00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:51,560 Speaker 1: with a cat or with a dog? You know what 513 00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:55,560 Speaker 1: I mean? Have a circuit breaker that still feeds the spirit, 514 00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 1: That's what I would say, you know, and then when 515 00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,719 Speaker 1: it comes to your passion and your dreams, write them 516 00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,760 Speaker 1: down one hundred percent. I am looking at one, two, three, 517 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,600 Speaker 1: four or five six pieces of Butcher's paper, all in 518 00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:10,680 Speaker 1: different colors that Matt bought me. And one has got 519 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 1: my overall goals for twenty twenty five. But I'm probably 520 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:17,640 Speaker 1: going to sound like an absolute not so. One has 521 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:22,040 Speaker 1: got a brainstorm for an upcoming project I'm doing. One 522 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 1: has got a breakdown of jan Feb and March. What 523 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 1: does the other one have? Oh, that's a weekly breakdown 524 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:34,040 Speaker 1: of January. So like, I'm a big believer in doing 525 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:36,480 Speaker 1: your macro goals and then breaking them down into monthly 526 00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:39,160 Speaker 1: goals as well. So then when you look back, you're like, huh, 527 00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:41,720 Speaker 1: actually did do all those things, and I'll check in 528 00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,280 Speaker 1: on them at like three months, six months. I love 529 00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:49,719 Speaker 1: like it's an accountability piece of me. Matt has pointed 530 00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: out it does. It does. Really. I use it as 531 00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:59,040 Speaker 1: a like a crutch, you know. I mean, I'll lean 532 00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:00,720 Speaker 1: on it if I'm stressed. I've got a plan, I've 533 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,360 Speaker 1: got to get some Butcher's paper out. But it does 534 00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: work for me. It gets me out of my head, 535 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,840 Speaker 1: gets me writing like I physically write it. It's not 536 00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:12,200 Speaker 1: on my laptop, and it feels really good. But I 537 00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 1: would just write down, like what is it that you 538 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:19,960 Speaker 1: want to do like, what would you do if nothing 539 00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:24,640 Speaker 1: else mattered? Write that down no matter how far out 540 00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:28,640 Speaker 1: it sounds, and then like I work backwards from there. 541 00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 1: And then I think I mentioned this on the Monday episode, 542 00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 1: but I listened to this podcast with Mel Robbins and 543 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,000 Speaker 1: it's just seven questions you do at the end of 544 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:38,520 Speaker 1: the year. I've never done it before, im I did it. 545 00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:40,480 Speaker 1: And the first question is what are the highlights of 546 00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:42,800 Speaker 1: the year that's just been? And she gets you to 547 00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:45,600 Speaker 1: whip out your camera roll so you can remember all 548 00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 1: your like the highlights of the year. And then second 549 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,280 Speaker 1: question essentially is like what were the hard bits? What 550 00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:54,960 Speaker 1: were the low lights? Third question is what did you 551 00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 1: learn about yourself? That's pretty cool, but these next three 552 00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:04,000 Speaker 1: are really cool when it comes to setting goals and 553 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:06,480 Speaker 1: around your passion. What am I going to stop doing 554 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 1: for me? Like I'm super self critical, so I might 555 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 1: be like I'm not I'm going to stop talking down 556 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,800 Speaker 1: to myself, or I'm going to stop doubting myself as 557 00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:18,360 Speaker 1: a really big one for me, or I'm going to 558 00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 1: stop making choices out of fear. The second question is 559 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 1: what are you going to start doing? So we talked 560 00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:27,560 Speaker 1: about a bit stuff that we want to start doing, 561 00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:30,480 Speaker 1: you know, around the health, the wellness, around cutting the 562 00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:34,040 Speaker 1: inflammatory foods, up being the strength training. But also like, 563 00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:36,280 Speaker 1: in regard to your passion, what are you going to 564 00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,760 Speaker 1: start doing well for me? If one of my passions 565 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,160 Speaker 1: is acting and I haven't been in acting school for 566 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:45,040 Speaker 1: six months, you better bet your bottom dollar I'm in 567 00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,960 Speaker 1: acting school starting next week because that's going to make 568 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:52,880 Speaker 1: me better at acting. You know what else am I 569 00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,440 Speaker 1: going to start doing? Okay, well, I'm really excited to explore, 570 00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:00,160 Speaker 1: you know, the TV hosting. I better be pitching myself. 571 00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:05,560 Speaker 1: I better be trying to do more TV hosting. Podcasting, 572 00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 1: I'm already booking that one. I'm ticking off. I'm ticking off. 573 00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,520 Speaker 1: I'm booking. I'm booking pods like there's no tom I love. 574 00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,800 Speaker 1: I love podcasting, but like, I love it so much 575 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,480 Speaker 1: that I've carved out more time to put more time 576 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 1: into the pod because the POD's such a big passion 577 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,800 Speaker 1: of mine, writing what I want to write. You guys 578 00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:25,080 Speaker 1: might not know this. I wrote two fiction books last year. 579 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:27,640 Speaker 1: They didn't get picked up. They didn't get not all 580 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:29,800 Speaker 1: of them got only one got pitched out. The other 581 00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,760 Speaker 1: one didn't and that's fine. I don't think they're just 582 00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,840 Speaker 1: because they didn't get picked up that they're a waste. 583 00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:38,160 Speaker 1: I wrote two great, great ideas and great fiction books. 584 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:39,640 Speaker 1: But I want to keep writing. I want to see 585 00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:42,080 Speaker 1: what lands next for me. You know, Am I going 586 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 1: to write a book? Am I going to write a screenplay? 587 00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:48,080 Speaker 1: Who knows? But writing is important for me. And so 588 00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,760 Speaker 1: it's like what are you going to continue doing? As 589 00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:52,960 Speaker 1: the other is the third bie the questions, So these 590 00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,680 Speaker 1: those three questions are from the Mel Robbins seven questions. 591 00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,239 Speaker 1: So what am I going to stop doing? What am 592 00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:01,560 Speaker 1: I going to start doing? And what am I going 593 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:05,320 Speaker 1: to continue doing? Because obviously stuff's worked right, So for 594 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:11,280 Speaker 1: me on my continue doing list is yoga, acting, school, write, read, 595 00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:19,799 Speaker 1: lift weights, audition, bookwork, TV work, actor, TV host, podcast, 596 00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,719 Speaker 1: hope host Like I'm just writing the stuff that I 597 00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,640 Speaker 1: already do and I'm just continuing to do it. And 598 00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:28,080 Speaker 1: then the final question she asked, which is like the kicker, 599 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:31,839 Speaker 1: what can you start doing today that aligns with this? 600 00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,280 Speaker 1: And so like if we bring it back to that passion, 601 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:36,560 Speaker 1: like what would you do if nothing else mattered? So 602 00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:39,600 Speaker 1: for me acting, TV hosting, So what can I start 603 00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 1: today to help me get further to that, to that. 604 00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:47,879 Speaker 1: So for me, it's like learning a script. Why an't 605 00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:49,919 Speaker 1: I working on a script every day? If I want 606 00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:52,600 Speaker 1: to see myself as an actor, I should be working 607 00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:53,960 Speaker 1: on a script every day, whether or not I'm in 608 00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,799 Speaker 1: acting school. Acting school doesn't start till next Tuesday. I'm 609 00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:00,160 Speaker 1: recording this on Saturday night. I should be working on 610 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:04,880 Speaker 1: a script between now and Tuesday, you know. So Yeah, 611 00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:10,719 Speaker 1: I hope that's inspiring. I hope, I hope that's interesting, 612 00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:14,239 Speaker 1: and I hope it helps you. I've worked for a 613 00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 1: super long day to day. I think I've worked like 614 00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:18,520 Speaker 1: an eleven hour day to day. So I got home 615 00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:20,680 Speaker 1: to Matt and I was like, feed me so I 616 00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,799 Speaker 1: can record this pod. So I hope you love it. 617 00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:27,640 Speaker 1: I hope that this inspires you and kicks off twenty 618 00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,000 Speaker 1: twenty five well for you. As always, please write to 619 00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:33,480 Speaker 1: me on Insta, share this with buds if you think 620 00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:38,719 Speaker 1: it'll help them, FAM, BAM all of that, and thank 621 00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,920 Speaker 1: you for being a huge part of this Podfam. It's 622 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:45,000 Speaker 1: a huge part of my life and I have so 623 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,680 Speaker 1: much love for this podcast. It wouldn't exist without you, 624 00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:51,520 Speaker 1: So thank you, thank you, thank you. And next week 625 00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:54,680 Speaker 1: we're back to long form interviews and I've got them 626 00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,200 Speaker 1: all in the can, all pre like I recorded them 627 00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,040 Speaker 1: all in the lead up to Chrissy, so they're here 628 00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,279 Speaker 1: waiting for us. I believe we're going to kick it 629 00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:06,360 Speaker 1: off with Joe Stanley beautiful human being, super smart, super kind, 630 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:11,640 Speaker 1: and then that will be the format for us. It'll 631 00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:15,560 Speaker 1: be our long forms on Monday. Then on Wednesdays will 632 00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,439 Speaker 1: be a little hot seat with the guests, and then 633 00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:21,040 Speaker 1: you get your Friday diaries with me about you know, 634 00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:26,640 Speaker 1: la live and life, passion, the winds, the highlights, the 635 00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,399 Speaker 1: low lights. I give it to you real, I give 636 00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:32,200 Speaker 1: it all to you, so that will all be as 637 00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:36,879 Speaker 1: you know, as hush. But I like doing this one 638 00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:38,360 Speaker 1: with you and just checking in with you, so I 639 00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:40,120 Speaker 1: hope you love it right to me and let me 640 00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:44,000 Speaker 1: know what you think. And I hope you now have 641 00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:47,279 Speaker 1: a couple of tools to look after the mind, the 642 00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:52,400 Speaker 1: body and the spirit. All right, hooro, big love, my friends, 643 00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:59,839 Speaker 1: you're the best. That's a wrap on another episode of 644 00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:04,840 Speaker 1: Fearlessly Failing. As always, thank you to our guests, and 645 00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:10,160 Speaker 1: let's continue the conversation on Instagram. I'm at Yamo Lollerberry 646 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:14,960 Speaker 1: This Potty my work for podcast is available on all 647 00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:19,080 Speaker 1: streaming platforms. I'd love it if you could subscribe, rape 648 00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:21,839 Speaker 1: and comment, and of course spread the love.