1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,520 Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 4 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer podcast. This is 7 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: the podcast where which have mindset, self development and becoming 8 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 9 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 10 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 11 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 12 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to 13 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 14 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: self awareness. 15 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 2: If you're ready to get into the. 16 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: Driver's seat of your own life and stop letting life 17 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 1: pass you by, then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, 18 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 1: and welcome back to the podcast. Today is part two 19 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: of our Get Ready with Me for twenty twenty four series. 20 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: In this series, I take you through some of the 21 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: biggest lessons of twenty twenty three and give you my 22 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 1: top tips and exercises to help you get ready for 23 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: the new year. So in today's episode, we are covering 24 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: the topic of how and when to pivot and if 25 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: you actually need to pivot. So this could be leaving 26 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:41,399 Speaker 1: a job, ending a relationship, or a friendship. It can 27 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: be like so difficult to actually find the line between 28 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: putting the effort in versus knowing that something is not 29 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:49,280 Speaker 1: meant for. 30 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 2: You, it's meant to end. 31 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: And we really unpack all of that in this episode. 32 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: And I wanted to bring this episode into this series 33 00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 1: because I feel like at the end of the year 34 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: there's this huge sense of heaviness. We're all quite tired, 35 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 1: you know, our energy is feeling drained, and I feel 36 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: like a lot of us can go straight too. Well, 37 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: you know, this thing isn't for me. 38 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 2: I'm not meant to have this thing or this person. 39 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 1: And so I just wanted to give you a bit 40 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 1: of guidance, some couple of exercises to really feel into it, 41 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: to make a good decision of if you should pivot 42 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 1: or if you simply just need a rest. It's like 43 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 1: reminds me very much of when I thought I was 44 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: going to not continue the podcast because I was so 45 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: overwhelmed and it turned out I just needed to navigate 46 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: it differently. But then it also has been times in 47 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:47,119 Speaker 1: my life where absolutely that friendship needed to end or 48 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: it was just the end of a certain season in 49 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: my life, and I had to like lean into that 50 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: and commit to that. So that is what we're chatting 51 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: about today. And I wanted to bring this up too, 52 00:02:57,080 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 1: because this is a constant theme in our Facebook group, 53 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:03,239 Speaker 1: you know, when it comes to like ending a friendship 54 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: or a relationship or even a job. So this episode 55 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: is so so juicy. Also, guys, before I get into 56 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 1: the episode, I do want to say, do it for 57 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 1: your future Self is now available fifty percent off. This 58 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: is our signature Clarity course. So if you want clarity 59 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 1: for twenty twenty four, this is the course for you. 60 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: It is only seven days, seven modules, and it's going 61 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: to guide you through all the exercise, meditations prompts to 62 00:03:38,680 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: actually get clear on what you want to call into 63 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. So we all did this in twenty 64 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: twenty three, and holy shit, guys, it honestly changed my 65 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 1: whole year. It's the reason why I've had such a 66 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: huge foundational and growth year, and it's because I got 67 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: so clear on what I actually wanted to in this year, 68 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: So come and do it with us. It is currently 69 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:07,559 Speaker 1: fifty percent off only for December, so it is absolutely 70 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: the perfect time to grab it, do your reflections, and 71 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: start planning for an epic twenty twenty four. But of 72 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: course our recommendations are tia. 73 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 3: Yes, I have two books to recommend. Two they are 74 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 3: fiction though, so it's. 75 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 2: Don't get too excited. 76 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 3: Tell me it's Fourth Wing and Iron Flame. Now I'm 77 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,159 Speaker 3: really late to the bandwagon on this one. Who's the author? 78 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 3: Rebecca Yaros is the author, and I think Fourth Wing 79 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:41,840 Speaker 3: came out a while ago, but Iron Flame just came 80 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 3: out and one of my best friends said, you have 81 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:46,359 Speaker 3: to read it and then read the second one. I 82 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 3: read this book in about a week and a half. 83 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:52,279 Speaker 3: Devoured it, devoured it. And what's it about. It's tell 84 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 3: me dragons and romans. 85 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 2: No, no, no, I love that. 86 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, it fes not yet, but I wouldn't be surprised 87 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 3: if they came in. Like it's a lot of magic 88 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 3: and like a mix of like learning to control magic, 89 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 3: and there's like dark magic and this whole sort of 90 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 3: like conspiracy and rebellion. 91 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 1: Like it's so good. 92 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 4: And I'm gonna read it. 93 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 3: I think you'd love it, Like if you need a 94 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 3: wind down book for like before bed kind of thing. 95 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 3: This is perfect. And I genuinely and this is a 96 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:28,839 Speaker 3: big thing for me. Did not watch any TV or 97 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 3: movies on the weekend. I just read these books like nothing. 98 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,720 Speaker 3: The only TV series I'm watching is the one I 99 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 3: recommended last week, which is like an episode a week, 100 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 3: and every other wet spare moment I have, I'm reading 101 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 3: these books. 102 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with those sorts of odds. 103 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: Yes, I will, definitely, I'll do it. 104 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll do it for Christmas. 105 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, And let me know what you think. 106 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 2: What's your rec for this week? 107 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: So this week, my recommendation is I have already started doing. 108 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 2: Do it for your future self. 109 00:05:56,760 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 1: So well, that's the amazing thing about this is you 110 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: do have instant access if you get it, so you 111 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:05,360 Speaker 1: can literally buy it right now and get a head 112 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: start on like reflections. And I think it's so potent 113 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:15,279 Speaker 1: to do reflections in the current year because you're not 114 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 1: like blinded by the rose colored glasses of like New 115 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: Year Numi so clever, where you're like you've been bombarded 116 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:25,839 Speaker 1: with all like the this year's gonna be the best year. 117 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: And I don't know, just like very swayed, but I 118 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: love that you should have certain goals or whatnot. So 119 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:34,279 Speaker 1: I think there's so much potency in creating your goals 120 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: from your inner compass and like you're in a world 121 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: and your reflections and so it's really important to do 122 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,039 Speaker 1: that in the now. And that's actually why we included 123 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 1: the bonus module that is do It for your Future Self, 124 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 1: but it's a monthly addition where you can do this 125 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 1: course every single month, like a mini version, so it 126 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: doesn't get to the end of the year. Because that 127 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,840 Speaker 1: was the feedback that when we're doing reflections on the year, 128 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: to get through actually reflecting on the whole year, it 129 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:04,600 Speaker 1: can be like hours. 130 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot. 131 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's why we have that bonus module and 132 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: do it for Future Self now, so you guys will 133 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: get that on day eight and that's like basically, yeah, 134 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 1: do it for future self mini version, do it monthly. 135 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 2: And because I've been doing. 136 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 1: That myself this whole year, so I was so excited 137 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 1: to give you guys that bonus. But I was reflecting 138 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: and like the biggest blind spot of myself this year 139 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 1: has been this cycle of me over committing because I 140 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: get really excited about certain projects. So I've noticed my boundaries, 141 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 1: like with my family life has been like so strict, 142 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: So like my time with Tim and Ivy, that's like elite. 143 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 2: I don't have to fix any of those buckets there. 144 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: But I do this thing with my work where I 145 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: do get really excited and I'll say yes to a 146 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: certain project, not really realizing the time that it's going 147 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 1: to take. And then I do the project and I can, 148 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: you know, feel a bit like overwhelmed, a bit burnout, 149 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,480 Speaker 1: and I didn't really think it through. I was just 150 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: like over excited. Yeah, So that's like a really interesting 151 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 1: reflection that I'm changing now in my schedule for next year. 152 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 1: But something new I've been doing is starting my meetings later. 153 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: So I don't know if you notice this in my 154 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 1: schedule it's here, but I used to start my meetings. 155 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:23,000 Speaker 2: At seven thirty. 156 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 4: First. 157 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 2: Ye first thing, I. 158 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 1: Was fucking the first one here like very like let's rigid, structured, 159 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 1: and that's important. But I've just literally moved it down 160 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,440 Speaker 1: to eight thirty. So I've got this extra hour and 161 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: I have been reading, I have been journaling, I have 162 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:42,319 Speaker 1: been going to the beach and really giving myself this 163 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: extra hour. And I know there's privilege in that because 164 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: I have my own company, like I make my your 165 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 1: own hours, But oh my goodness, the amount of like gratitude, 166 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: creativity and just like space. Yeah, that I honestly feel 167 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: like my whole day has changed, and I've changed one 168 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:04,440 Speaker 1: hour of my day, which is wild and it's wild. 169 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:06,200 Speaker 1: And that's the thing is, you can't just copy what 170 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 1: I'm doing. You have to do this own reflection because 171 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: this really came up for me when I did the exercises. 172 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:14,840 Speaker 1: So that's like something that I just want to like. 173 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 1: My recommendation is like, really, if there's anything you do 174 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:21,959 Speaker 1: in December, reflect and make sure you do it in 175 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 1: a non shameful way. But just in a matter of fact, oh, 176 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 1: what needs to change, what needs to shift? And just 177 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 1: that tiny shift. It's not even the new year, and 178 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: I already feel like, oh, I honestly feels like a lift, 179 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 1: like an heel, and it feels so good. 180 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 3: So have you just been doing just that sort of 181 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 3: reflection module or are you slowly working through the entire course. 182 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 2: I'm gonna do the entire course. 183 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,840 Speaker 1: Are you going to redo it in Jain or like yeah, okay, 184 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:53,840 Speaker 1: but I'm like, and you guys don't have to do this. 185 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 2: I'm just like a psycho of self. 186 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: Development and I like love it, like I would do 187 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: self development. Well, I do do it in my sped time. 188 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: So I'm doing it in December, and then I also 189 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 1: want to do it in January. And you know what's 190 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: going to be really interesting comparing. Yeah, I want to see, 191 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: like what's the difference doing it basically a couple of 192 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: weeks after each other, and I know the energy is 193 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: so different come jan first. So yeah, I'm really excited 194 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: because no joke, my reflections right now they're like not sad. 195 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:23,200 Speaker 2: But like you're a bit more down. There's heaviness. Yeah, 196 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 2: there's heaviness. So but that has just been incredible. 197 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:29,600 Speaker 1: But I've already from doing a reflection made a shift 198 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 1: and like just feel lighter and yeah, so reflection, guys, 199 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 1: that's what I would say. 200 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 4: I love that. 201 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:36,440 Speaker 2: All right, She'll get into the episode. 202 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 5: Yes, So a Tia a huge conversation that we have 203 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:51,679 Speaker 5: been having in the R and C Facebook group. 204 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:53,839 Speaker 1: PS. If you're not in there, come and join us. 205 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: It's where all the epic conversations happen, and it's just 206 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 1: such a great to like be with like minded people 207 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: journeys you But like a huge theme that we saw 208 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 1: in the group I reckon the last six months would 209 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 1: be this theme of pivoting. So whether it is a job, 210 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: like their career just doesn't light them up anymore, they 211 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 1: need to shift. Whether it was like a friendship group 212 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 1: of just being like I just don't vibe with these 213 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: people anymore and having a bit of guilt about that, 214 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:30,760 Speaker 1: whether it was like a partner, you know, we had 215 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: people literally divorce. Honestly, we had so many posts and 216 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: they're just being like, I'm just not sure I'm in 217 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: love with my partner anymore. And first of all, I 218 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:46,240 Speaker 1: love that everyone in the group is so vulnerable and 219 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: so like ready to just like say their truth, because 220 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 1: that is such a huge, you know, piece to it. 221 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 1: But this has been a massive theme. So we thought, 222 00:11:56,880 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 1: you know, for this series, so important to talk about 223 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 1: pivoting because also it's the end of the year. You know, 224 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,320 Speaker 1: that year is closing out, We're about to enter a 225 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:10,319 Speaker 1: new year, and this is the perfect time to end 226 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: the cycles that you don't want to continue. For twenty 227 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: twenty four to end the relationships, to end the you know, 228 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 1: the routines that aren't serving you. The end, like get 229 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: rid of the energy that is not serving you. This 230 00:12:26,640 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 1: is the time to do it. Quick side note, I 231 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:32,280 Speaker 1: don't know if you guys are into like numerology, but 232 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:37,040 Speaker 1: in numerology, I'm in my ninth year, which is like 233 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 1: the last year before I enter a new cycle. So 234 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:45,560 Speaker 1: my spiritual advisor has said, like, this is the year 235 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: you drop all the shit because whatever you take into 236 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 1: you know the next year you're going to have for 237 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:56,680 Speaker 1: nine years, so you better fucking like it. And so 238 00:12:56,920 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 1: I have really taken this on this year and probably 239 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:05,240 Speaker 1: had the most shifts, the most, pivoting the most just 240 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 1: like nope, doesn't serve me. I'm done with this moments. 241 00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 1: And that's probably why this shar hasn't felt the greatest 242 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:15,400 Speaker 1: because there has been a lot of grieving for me. 243 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:19,200 Speaker 1: There has been a lot of ending of chapters of things, 244 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 1: and it does it feels like grieving. I'm just like 245 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 1: tapping into it right now, and I'm like, it does 246 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:28,440 Speaker 1: it feels like. It's why sometimes it's hard to be 247 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 1: in excitement and enjoy when you're pivoting because you're literally 248 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 1: losing something, but also you know it doesn't serve you anymore. 249 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 1: You're going to your next level. You're jumping timelines, and 250 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 1: it's really important to honor that. If you continue to 251 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 1: entertain these relationships, there's career, you know, there's energy, whatever it's. 252 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: You know that you're going to be worse off. Like 253 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 1: you know it's hard now, but it's going to be 254 00:13:56,679 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: harder if you don't let these things go. This is 255 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:05,320 Speaker 1: a hard thing, Like pivoting is such a hard thing, 256 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:08,440 Speaker 1: and I really understand why so many of us are 257 00:14:08,480 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: going through it is like it's the year for it. 258 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think even aside from like relationships and 259 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:17,599 Speaker 3: jobs and friendships, even a lot of people moving countries 260 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 3: moving into state this year, big changes, big changes. And 261 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 3: I also feel like with pivoting, it can be so 262 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:30,160 Speaker 3: hard because so often it's like almost like when you 263 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 3: graduate school and all you can think about is the 264 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 3: good times. 265 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:37,360 Speaker 1: I didn't go through that. It was like fank fire, 266 00:14:38,240 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 1: all right, But it's like why is that such a 267 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: fucking reflection of you as a person. 268 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:52,800 Speaker 3: It's just like when you leave something, it's so easy 269 00:14:52,840 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 3: to forget all the bad and difficult times. 270 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: Yes, sorry, I know what you're saying. 271 00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:00,360 Speaker 3: Almost like rose colored glasses on. 272 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. 273 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 3: So that's I think also what makes pivoting so much 274 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 3: harder because it's like your brain blocks out the reason 275 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:11,680 Speaker 3: you're even leaving in the first place, and you convince yourself, oh, 276 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 3: it's actually not that bad. 277 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 4: Maybe I could just stay. It's like, maybe I'll just 278 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:15,560 Speaker 4: be fine. 279 00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 1: It's the quote of as humans, we will always pick 280 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 1: a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven. Oh yeah, we 281 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:30,960 Speaker 1: like we always cling to comfort, which is why it 282 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: is so uncomfortable for us to choose that new option, 283 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 1: for us to be bold and change something, to completely pivot. Like, 284 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 1: that's why it's so hard. We fucking love comfort. We 285 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: thrive off it. I feel like this episode is going 286 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:47,000 Speaker 1: to be very timely. Probably a lot of you are 287 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 1: going to resonate with this. I'm resonating with this. I 288 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:52,920 Speaker 1: know an RC community is resonating with this. So the 289 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:55,600 Speaker 1: first thing I want you to do, and this is 290 00:15:55,880 --> 00:15:59,360 Speaker 1: so important, do not bypass this step. You need to 291 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: sit in a way awareness and not make yourself wrong. Guys, 292 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 1: if you go straight to shame guilt, we all know 293 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:13,000 Speaker 1: that on like the barometer of vibration's feelings. That is 294 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 1: the lowest vibration, and we know nothing good can come 295 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:21,440 Speaker 1: from that. Like you know that section that yeah barometer, 296 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:22,400 Speaker 1: what would you call that? 297 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 4: It's the Hawken's Scale of consciousness. 298 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: Anyway, thanks to we know nothing good comes from that. 299 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:32,120 Speaker 1: So it's really important to sit in awareness and not 300 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:38,040 Speaker 1: make ourselves wrong because guys, the universe is guiding our 301 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 1: desires and it is up to us to trust our 302 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:47,240 Speaker 1: desires and be okay with change. Guys, if there's one 303 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:51,640 Speaker 1: thing you strengthen right now during this period, it is 304 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 1: getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. If you strengthen this part 305 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:59,080 Speaker 1: of yourself, this is a skill that will benefit you 306 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 1: for your entire life. Like I said, you know, we 307 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 1: will always cling to a familiar hell rather than an 308 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 1: unfamiliar heaven. And we're not doing that because it's just 309 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 1: going to keep us stuck. It's not going to serve us. 310 00:17:14,440 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 1: So it's really important to first of all stop not 311 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: make ourselves wrong. So this what I mean by that 312 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 1: is often when we pivot, it doesn't make sense. So 313 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 1: an example for me was I had literally done six 314 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:33,640 Speaker 1: years of study. I had done my internship, my clerkship, 315 00:17:34,040 --> 00:17:35,960 Speaker 1: I had literally gone to the court. It's got my 316 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 1: fucking little certificate that said I'm a lawyer, got a 317 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:42,439 Speaker 1: job as a lawyer. And then I was like, you 318 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:47,199 Speaker 1: know what, I'm not gonna do this it logically that 319 00:17:47,359 --> 00:17:52,159 Speaker 1: is the most illogical decision ever. And so that's why 320 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:56,560 Speaker 1: I'm saying, don't make yourself wrong, because often I guarantee you, 321 00:17:56,560 --> 00:17:59,119 Speaker 1: you know, it's the partner that you maybe are not 322 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 1: feeling the love for. You're like, you know, but he's 323 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 1: so nice, he buys me gifts, he's my family loves him. 324 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 1: My family. Yeah, like, it's logically not going to make sense. Now, 325 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 1: I need you to put that in a little container 326 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,679 Speaker 1: beside you, because it's just not how it works. You 327 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 1: need to This is coming up for a reason, and 328 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:21,119 Speaker 1: the more you suppress it, the more that you are 329 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:24,399 Speaker 1: basically gonna fuck yourself up in the future. Anytime you 330 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: suppress emotions, they are going to come out in toxic 331 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:34,240 Speaker 1: ways in the future, in unpredictable self sabotaging ways. So 332 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 1: it's really important to honor these feelings and not suppress them. 333 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:42,040 Speaker 3: And they just it's so interesting that you say that, 334 00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 3: because it can be any emotion, not just anger or 335 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:49,320 Speaker 3: resentment or anything. It could be even anxiety or a 336 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:52,200 Speaker 3: little bit of sadness. But if you almost like think 337 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 3: about putting I don't know, if someone locked you behind 338 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 3: a door and they're not letting you out to just 339 00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:00,640 Speaker 3: say how you feel, you're gonna get work and worse 340 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 3: and worse and louder and louder and louder until they 341 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:06,640 Speaker 3: open the door for you. Whereas if they just let 342 00:19:06,640 --> 00:19:08,720 Speaker 3: you speak in the first place, you would have just 343 00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 3: said what you wanted to say and then gone on 344 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 3: with your day. They would have been able to go 345 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:14,240 Speaker 3: on with their day. And you have to think of 346 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,639 Speaker 3: your emotions as the same. Like if you don't let 347 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 3: them just say their peace, or like if you don't 348 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:22,720 Speaker 3: just let yourself feel them for that minute, two minutes, day, 349 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 3: whatever it is, and you just push them in a cupboard, 350 00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:28,240 Speaker 3: they're just going to get louder and louder and louder, 351 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 3: and like you said, just explode out in a really 352 00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 3: toxic way, and more often than not at the complete 353 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:34,120 Speaker 3: wrong time. 354 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. Always, yeah, and then you get embarrassed and then 355 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: the cycle repeats. Yeah. I like, if I look back 356 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:44,479 Speaker 1: at my past, I've been doing a lot of work 357 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:48,359 Speaker 1: this year with me and Tim's relationship. And you know, 358 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,919 Speaker 1: we've been together since I was seventeen, so fuck like 359 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: long time, long time. And there was at the start 360 00:19:56,920 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 1: of our relationship, Tim did not communicate at all. He 361 00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:04,879 Speaker 1: he came from a family who did not communicate. I 362 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 1: came from a family who communicated. We just didn't talk 363 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 1: about our feelings. So like, yeah, every night we'd speak 364 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:13,879 Speaker 1: at dinner, We had like good communication, we just like 365 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 1: didn't talk about our feelings, if that makes sense. But 366 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: Tim literally came like they didn't fucking talk. He was 367 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:23,560 Speaker 1: literally mute. So I'm not even joking it yet. And 368 00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: so I really struggled in moments in our relationship because 369 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: I didn't have the tools to communicate and express myself 370 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: and because he didn't always feel like a safe place 371 00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:39,560 Speaker 1: to express myself, because when I did, it would come 372 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 1: out in these like really you know, toxic over you know, 373 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 1: over expressive ways because I like built up I had 374 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:52,240 Speaker 1: not let them out, and then I would explode. And 375 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:54,960 Speaker 1: then because he'd never like dealt with that, he wouldn't 376 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 1: know how to deal with it, he would make me wrong, 377 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:59,879 Speaker 1: and the whole cycle would continue. Yeah, and so we 378 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 1: have been doing and you know, we've come such a 379 00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 1: long way, We've been doing a lot of work on it. 380 00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 1: But this year I just had so much awareness of 381 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 1: what happens when you suppress your feelings and you don't 382 00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:17,920 Speaker 1: have the tools to communicate and articulate yourself and that 383 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:19,800 Speaker 1: sort of thing, And oh my god, it's just like, 384 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,800 Speaker 1: now I look back, it's so simple to me, but 385 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,639 Speaker 1: at the time it was literally I just like didn't 386 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 1: have the tools. But that's like one of the biggest 387 00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:31,200 Speaker 1: things is like learning how to express yourself and honor 388 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:34,320 Speaker 1: your feelings and not suppress them. Because even if you 389 00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:37,840 Speaker 1: think you've suppressed this desire and you're like, no, I'll 390 00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 1: stay with my partner like he's perfect, blah blah blah, 391 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,800 Speaker 1: it is going to boil and boil, boil, And then 392 00:21:43,840 --> 00:21:45,840 Speaker 1: maybe it's going to come up in yeah, like a 393 00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 1: really toxic way. Maybe you're going to act in a 394 00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,479 Speaker 1: way that you aren't really like, that isn't aligned with 395 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,639 Speaker 1: your values, and it's like you then turn into this 396 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: person and you're like, what is happening? But it's because 397 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: you haven't honored that initial and you haven't trusted that anyway. 398 00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:06,200 Speaker 1: That was a big grant so as always, and I 399 00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 1: truly believe when something doesn't light you up anymore, like 400 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:14,840 Speaker 1: I truly believe we are meant to have joy and 401 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,720 Speaker 1: love in this life. So when something doesn't light you 402 00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:23,159 Speaker 1: up anymore, it's, you know, the universe, your higher self. 403 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 1: They're trying to tell you something. They're trying to tell 404 00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:30,200 Speaker 1: you that there is another path available for you. It's 405 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:34,719 Speaker 1: basically creating space for something better to come in. So 406 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:39,680 Speaker 1: when your desires shift, your literal navigation shifts, and you're 407 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 1: shifting timelines. Maybe it's a small tweak, but maybe it's 408 00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:47,399 Speaker 1: a big tweak. It's kind of like I love talking 409 00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:51,239 Speaker 1: about this from the perspective of navigation of you know, 410 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 1: when you get in your car and you put on 411 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:56,639 Speaker 1: Apple Maps and you do the location and you just 412 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:59,639 Speaker 1: trust Apple Maps to get you there correct. Yeah, and 413 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:03,520 Speaker 1: then sometimes it's like you can go this way and 414 00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 1: save sixteen minutes and you're like, yeah, it's done, or 415 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,959 Speaker 1: it takes you through and there's fucking traffic and you're like, 416 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: Apple Maps, what are you doing? But anyway, you trust it. Yeah. 417 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:16,919 Speaker 1: I don't ever like question I don't ever question it. 418 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,840 Speaker 1: And that's what I truly believe with these moments and 419 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:23,600 Speaker 1: your desires, even if and this has happened, like Apple 420 00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 1: Maps is like taking you this really random way, and 421 00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,720 Speaker 1: you're like, that's weird, but also I'm gonna trust it. 422 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:33,160 Speaker 1: And then you realize you bypass fifteen minutes of traffic, 423 00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:36,199 Speaker 1: you're like, exactly, thank you, appreciate you. That is like 424 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:39,760 Speaker 1: the same vibe with intuition and trusting this pivot and 425 00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:41,879 Speaker 1: this shift. That's how I want you to look at it. 426 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 1: So for this rest of this episode, I just kind 427 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,840 Speaker 1: of want to give you some reasons because the biggest 428 00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: thing with this pivot and this shift is no one 429 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:58,520 Speaker 1: can know truly what you need to do accept you. 430 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,119 Speaker 1: So like when we have, you know, questions in the 431 00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:03,800 Speaker 1: Facebook group like should I leave my partner, I'm like, 432 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:06,600 Speaker 1: I can't make that decision. Please don't let me make 433 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:10,960 Speaker 1: that decision. Only you can make it. So this episode 434 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,440 Speaker 1: isn't going to be me telling you what to do. 435 00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 1: I have just brainstormed basically reasons why this shift, why 436 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,760 Speaker 1: this pivot may be coming up, and I want you 437 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:26,399 Speaker 1: to really feel into your intuition and feels like, oh 438 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 1: I'm resonating with that or I'm not, and I just 439 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 1: wanted to give you guys some like options and some 440 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:36,479 Speaker 1: things to think about, because again, you like you already 441 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:39,600 Speaker 1: know you just need to trust yourself and you need 442 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,119 Speaker 1: to like ruminate in it. So that's what we're gonna do. 443 00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:47,399 Speaker 3: I think what's important in this exercise to remember is 444 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:52,000 Speaker 3: asking yourself if you feel like you need to pivot 445 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,520 Speaker 3: because your intuition is telling you, or if you feel 446 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,400 Speaker 3: like you need to pivot because you're being challenged at something, 447 00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:04,199 Speaker 3: because I think so sometimes, especially like maybe in a 448 00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 3: work sense or something, someone will go, I've had enough. 449 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:09,919 Speaker 3: I want to leave my job. It's not filling me 450 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,720 Speaker 3: up anymore. And that's fine because that can happen. But 451 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:17,400 Speaker 3: sometimes people are almost reacting to something, or maybe they're 452 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,920 Speaker 3: not feeling as good, but it's more of an internal 453 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 3: shift that they need to make to then be able 454 00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:25,199 Speaker 3: to feel good again. Or like in a relationship, they 455 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,120 Speaker 3: might not be putting as much effort in and expecting 456 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 3: their partner to pick up the slack, but then their 457 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:32,680 Speaker 3: partners not, so they go, oh, I want to leave 458 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,880 Speaker 3: because they're not doing these things for me. But always 459 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 3: just orditing yourself and being objective and going are my 460 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:43,159 Speaker 3: expectations reasonable, am, I is there something I need to 461 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,680 Speaker 3: shift here before you go ahead and make the decision 462 00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,160 Speaker 3: to pivot, so that when you pivot, you feel really, 463 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 3: really secure on yourself. So it's always important to like 464 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:55,400 Speaker 3: connect with yourself and actually know where you are properly 465 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,760 Speaker 3: before you like go through and decide to leave something. 466 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:03,320 Speaker 1: I think that's such a great point, a tear of 467 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 1: I love this concept I've really been leaning in too 468 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:11,000 Speaker 1: lately is taking ownership. So it's like, again, you know, 469 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,720 Speaker 1: we can often be like, well this person isn't meeting 470 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:17,080 Speaker 1: my needs or this job as shit now, but again 471 00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:21,080 Speaker 1: checking with yourself and seeing where you may need to 472 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:25,600 Speaker 1: take ownership. Yeah, because again, like you said it here, 473 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:30,640 Speaker 1: it is, you know, really important of connecting with yourself 474 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 1: and being really honest. Yeah, because sometimes we love to 475 00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:38,159 Speaker 1: blame other people. We love to blame it's easier, so 476 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 1: much easier. And I think if you make a decision 477 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:46,280 Speaker 1: out of being in fear scarcity, blaming other people, feeling 478 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: like a victim, that is not the right way to 479 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 1: make a decision. That's even like people ask me the 480 00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 1: question about how do you know if it's your intuition 481 00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:02,439 Speaker 1: at talking or your fear. So basically, if it's the 482 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:07,400 Speaker 1: fear and anxiety, it is literally going to feel like scarcity. 483 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,440 Speaker 1: And so, like the example I would give is like, 484 00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:13,440 Speaker 1: you know, if you have this weird thing of like 485 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:15,399 Speaker 1: you jump in a car and you get like a 486 00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:20,119 Speaker 1: vision of like crashing or something like that, and you're like, Oh, 487 00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,879 Speaker 1: is this my intuition or is this like fear scarcity. 488 00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:28,120 Speaker 1: So the way that I know is intuition feels grounded 489 00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:32,119 Speaker 1: and it's like this really voice in the back of 490 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,040 Speaker 1: my head that's like it just feels like a voice 491 00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:39,440 Speaker 1: and a nudge, whereas fear and anxiety feels like heart racing, 492 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,960 Speaker 1: it feels like, oh my god, if I don't do 493 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:45,080 Speaker 1: this thing, this will happen. It's like this, it's urgency, 494 00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 1: whereas intuition it feels calm and grounded and literally like 495 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,920 Speaker 1: someone's just like whispered something to me. And that's how 496 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,119 Speaker 1: I know the difference between it. And it's really interesting. 497 00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:59,359 Speaker 1: I've actually heard other people talk about this, but intuition 498 00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 1: for me literally comes from the back of my head 499 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 1: coming forward. I don't know if you've ever felt this 500 00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 1: sensation where's anxiety, scarcity and fear comes from literally like 501 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,280 Speaker 1: a racing heart and this like vibe of my body 502 00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:18,280 Speaker 1: closing up. And that's how I know the difference. 503 00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:23,439 Speaker 3: That's so interesting. My intuition is very similar. It's almost like, 504 00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:25,399 Speaker 3: you know, when you're like walking out the door, your 505 00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 3: mom's like, don't forget your jacket. That's what my intuition 506 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:32,520 Speaker 3: is like, It's like, don't forget. Yeah, and then anxiety 507 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:33,280 Speaker 3: is very much like. 508 00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:34,399 Speaker 1: Your world is about to end. 509 00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,440 Speaker 3: You need to fully stre sad and yeah, yeah, I'm 510 00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:38,200 Speaker 3: the exact same. 511 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 1: So good, and that's how you can tell the difference. 512 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,960 Speaker 1: But all right, let's just get in some reasons. So 513 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:47,320 Speaker 1: a reason why this shift could be coming is you 514 00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:52,520 Speaker 1: have reached an upper limit. Oh I love this concept 515 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:58,600 Speaker 1: so basically, and so this is interesting. So what can happen? 516 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:01,320 Speaker 1: And there's this whole book about it. Let me actually 517 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 1: get up the book. I actually haven't read the book, 518 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,080 Speaker 1: but I've heard it's really good. My girlfriend has read 519 00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:10,760 Speaker 1: the book. The book is The Big Leap by Gay Hendrix. 520 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:13,400 Speaker 4: Oh, yes, you haven't mentioned this before. 521 00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 1: Yes, So basically, in he talks about this concept of 522 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:22,920 Speaker 1: the upper limit where when things are going too good 523 00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:31,160 Speaker 1: and basically, our nervous system is gets so uncomfortable that 524 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 1: it basically self sabotages because it's like, no, something has 525 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,800 Speaker 1: to be wrong. And this is because our nervous systems 526 00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:43,080 Speaker 1: are conditioned from when we're one to seven. Your nervous 527 00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:49,160 Speaker 1: system doesn't feel safe when things are getting too good. 528 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,400 Speaker 1: So this could be from childhood or like think of 529 00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 1: fucking every movie ever where it's like things are going 530 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,320 Speaker 1: good and then something bad happens. Yeah, And so again, 531 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,680 Speaker 1: our nervous systems don't know how to regulate or feel 532 00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:08,480 Speaker 1: comfortable when things are feeling good. So again this is 533 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:13,040 Speaker 1: like a check in, could you be self sabotaging? Could 534 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:17,719 Speaker 1: you actually get comfortable with how things are going? And 535 00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: again you're gonna like you're going to straight away. This 536 00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:22,840 Speaker 1: is gonna be yes or no. Yeah. And if you 537 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:27,280 Speaker 1: do tend to do things like things are going really 538 00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:30,320 Speaker 1: good and then you self sabotage, I highly recommend you 539 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:33,680 Speaker 1: read the book because my girlfriend tended to do that 540 00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:35,440 Speaker 1: and she read the book and it was like life 541 00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:39,440 Speaker 1: changing for her. And again it's because like she had 542 00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:43,360 Speaker 1: a lot of situations growing up where when things got good, 543 00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 1: then bad things would happen. Yeah, And so her nervous 544 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 1: system literally wouldn't let her be comfortable with things getting good? 545 00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,760 Speaker 3: Well, it's almost because you're anxious waiting for the other 546 00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:54,000 Speaker 3: shooter drop correct. 547 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:57,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, so check in with that reason, because again, let's 548 00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:02,160 Speaker 1: not self sabotage hereh Yeah, things good, enjoy it? Okay. 549 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 1: So another thing could be you're not making progress. So 550 00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,720 Speaker 1: this could be like I want you guys to think about, 551 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:16,960 Speaker 1: like you know, things aren't moving forward, blocks are coming up, 552 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:20,880 Speaker 1: or maybe it's like you don't feel worthy, like losing 553 00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:25,560 Speaker 1: spark and momentum in a relationship, in a goal, in 554 00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 1: a career is just information. 555 00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:29,360 Speaker 4: Yeah. 556 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,840 Speaker 1: So again, don't make it mean something. Can you bring 557 00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 1: your bring awareness and really be like, what's happening here? 558 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:44,400 Speaker 1: Has my passion shifted? Have things changed? Am I interested 559 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 1: in this thing anymore? Have I not been showing up? 560 00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:49,200 Speaker 4: Yeah? 561 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,719 Speaker 1: And those are like some good things to think about. Like, 562 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:56,960 Speaker 1: and the reason for not making progress could be simply 563 00:31:57,160 --> 00:32:01,840 Speaker 1: that you're out of alignments, like maybe your values have shifted. 564 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:05,440 Speaker 1: Maybe you've like realized that you're doing things for the 565 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:10,959 Speaker 1: wrong reason. I actually not actually, but it's really funny. 566 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:15,600 Speaker 1: I used to make goals off really the sheer like 567 00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:18,840 Speaker 1: ego basis of like, well, I just want to achieve 568 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:21,040 Speaker 1: this thing because it's on my vision board or I like, 569 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:24,600 Speaker 1: I just want this thing. And it made me achieve 570 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:26,680 Speaker 1: a lot of things, Like creating goals in that way 571 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,640 Speaker 1: made me achieve a lot of things at a very 572 00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:32,800 Speaker 1: young age that I'm super proud of. Yeah, but also 573 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:37,360 Speaker 1: it was not sustainable, and I now make my goals 574 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:41,600 Speaker 1: in such a different way because it only got me 575 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,960 Speaker 1: so far. And then anytime I would try and make 576 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:48,080 Speaker 1: a goal like that, it literally felt like an ick. 577 00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:50,880 Speaker 1: It felt like I was like, oh, this just isn't 578 00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:54,520 Speaker 1: serving me, Like I'm not motivated in this way anymore. 579 00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,640 Speaker 1: And that's another thing, is I'm not making how I 580 00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:01,520 Speaker 1: used to make goals bad. Yeah, because that served me 581 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:05,680 Speaker 1: in that period. I just transcended that structure and I 582 00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:09,400 Speaker 1: do things differently, whereas you actually could be the opposite, 583 00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:11,920 Speaker 1: where maybe you used to really make goals a different 584 00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:14,480 Speaker 1: way and maybe you need to get more into the 585 00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:19,560 Speaker 1: very specific goal focused you know, alignment. So that's like 586 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:22,120 Speaker 1: a big reason and that's why we really encourage you 587 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:24,920 Speaker 1: guys to do do it for your future self at 588 00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:27,840 Speaker 1: the end or at the start of the year, because 589 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:33,200 Speaker 1: often we go twelve months without checking into ourselves, and 590 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:37,800 Speaker 1: we are completely off course, we are completely out of alignment. 591 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,600 Speaker 1: And do it for your future self. It's seven days, 592 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,600 Speaker 1: seven modules, only thirty minutes, and it's really going to 593 00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:47,680 Speaker 1: like tap you back into what you actually want, getting 594 00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:51,720 Speaker 1: clear on what you want and creating goals that actually 595 00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,800 Speaker 1: align with you rather than these like just random things 596 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:57,840 Speaker 1: that you plucked out of nowhere, or like you saw 597 00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:00,960 Speaker 1: a friend do or you saw someone on Instagram do, 598 00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:04,200 Speaker 1: because again, it's not going to be sustainable, you're not 599 00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:06,440 Speaker 1: going to actually find fulfillment. 600 00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,120 Speaker 3: Something I noticed to do it for your future self 601 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 3: as well. I did it twice this year, the beginning 602 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,120 Speaker 3: of the year and then when we did our little 603 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:18,840 Speaker 3: media reset and the shift I'd seen just in that 604 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,160 Speaker 3: six months in what the goals I had set at 605 00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:24,040 Speaker 3: the beginning of the year were first six months. 606 00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:25,400 Speaker 1: Later, they were very different. 607 00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:27,600 Speaker 3: I realized the goals that I had set the beginning 608 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:30,560 Speaker 3: of the year wasn't actually exactly what I wanted. I 609 00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,399 Speaker 3: didn't quite have that clarity yet, but then I had 610 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,160 Speaker 3: it more MIDI year, but I just went, gosh, if 611 00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:39,279 Speaker 3: I had just checked in with myself three months into 612 00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:41,520 Speaker 3: the year, I probably would have been able to make 613 00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,759 Speaker 3: this pivot sooner. And I think that's another thing I've 614 00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:47,839 Speaker 3: learned this year is like it's not so much about setting. 615 00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:49,200 Speaker 4: A goal and needing to. 616 00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:52,399 Speaker 3: Achieve it, to prove, to prove to yourself you can 617 00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:55,320 Speaker 3: set it, but more about consistently checking in with yourself 618 00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:59,000 Speaker 3: and pivoting and working towards whatever feels good at that time. 619 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:03,360 Speaker 3: Because every body's journey isn't get this goal, then you 620 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:05,359 Speaker 3: get the next one, then you get the next one. 621 00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:08,360 Speaker 3: You might actually go a complete roundabout different way to 622 00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,799 Speaker 3: someone else and achieve other things that are different to 623 00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,120 Speaker 3: them and not what you thought you'd achieve, but still 624 00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 3: get to the end destination you want to be at. 625 00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:18,280 Speaker 1: Mmmm. That's so powerful. 626 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:18,799 Speaker 5: I know. 627 00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 1: That's like I went back to my do a few 628 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,560 Speaker 1: future self goals and I had like a random goal 629 00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:28,080 Speaker 1: in there that it's like run five kilometers under thirty minutes, 630 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:31,120 Speaker 1: and I literally was just like, that is the most 631 00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:33,719 Speaker 1: randomest thing, Georgia. And I think it's because all the 632 00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:35,759 Speaker 1: girls in the office were talking about running and like 633 00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:39,480 Speaker 1: health goals, and like health goals used to be such 634 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,000 Speaker 1: a big part of my life, and that not that 635 00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:45,600 Speaker 1: they aren't. I just see it very holistically now. And 636 00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,240 Speaker 1: it's so interesting because I had a moment of reflection 637 00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:51,160 Speaker 1: to be like, oh wow, that was such an ego 638 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:56,120 Speaker 1: goal from a very like not integral place because it's 639 00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:57,920 Speaker 1: almost like I felt like I had to put a 640 00:35:57,920 --> 00:35:58,520 Speaker 1: health goal in. 641 00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:01,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just about to say that, like you probably 642 00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:03,160 Speaker 3: just thought, gosh, I don't have a health goal on 643 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:03,560 Speaker 3: your work. 644 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,120 Speaker 1: Can I pull out of the hat? And I yeah, sorry. 645 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:07,960 Speaker 1: I was like, that is so random because I like 646 00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:09,880 Speaker 1: would have written that and then just forgotten about it 647 00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:12,759 Speaker 1: the next day and didn't do anything to like work 648 00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,360 Speaker 1: towards it. And that's even again, it was such a 649 00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:18,640 Speaker 1: good reflection to be like, oh wow, I've kind of 650 00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,120 Speaker 1: like transcended those health goals like that. It's like my 651 00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:24,400 Speaker 1: health goal now, I'm like, oh, I want to do exercise. 652 00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:27,120 Speaker 1: I really enjoy it and have lots of fun. Like 653 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:30,279 Speaker 1: what a difference. Yeah, and like so big, Such a 654 00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:33,759 Speaker 1: good reflection for that too, And that's that's even another thing. 655 00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:36,160 Speaker 1: So let's talk a little bit about my health journey. 656 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:39,280 Speaker 1: You guys know, like I started off in the health space, 657 00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:43,759 Speaker 1: I very much did like the really really hard like 658 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:47,319 Speaker 1: it was disordered eating. Let's be honest, disordered eating and 659 00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:49,640 Speaker 1: like working out twice a day, like really full on. 660 00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:53,640 Speaker 1: And it's because I had certain health goals and I 661 00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:58,080 Speaker 1: could sustain those for a certain amount of time. But 662 00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,319 Speaker 1: then like my I remember, like my body literally gave way, 663 00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:04,319 Speaker 1: like I started getting hormone balances. I like had all 664 00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:08,880 Speaker 1: these issues. And that's kind of such a good story 665 00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,400 Speaker 1: for like the universe, Like it will allow you to 666 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:16,200 Speaker 1: somewhat go off on random paths of like ego goals 667 00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,879 Speaker 1: and whatnot, but then there will get a point where 668 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,440 Speaker 1: you simply cannot do it anymore, and the universe is 669 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:23,960 Speaker 1: gonna like nudge me, like come on, dude, like come 670 00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,680 Speaker 1: back onto your path. Yeah, and so again we need 671 00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:30,240 Speaker 1: to like listen to these moments and tap into them. Okay, 672 00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:33,080 Speaker 1: So this is another thing. I've just got a couple 673 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:38,120 Speaker 1: of questions because I think sometimes and this is almost 674 00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:41,600 Speaker 1: to do with the upper limit, but I think, like 675 00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:46,359 Speaker 1: our subconscious we know, runs the show. So I think 676 00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:51,680 Speaker 1: it's something ridiculous, like we have like seventy thousand thoughts. 677 00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:54,719 Speaker 1: I'm gonna butcher this quote quote, so don't actually quote 678 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:57,240 Speaker 1: me on this. It's like we have seventy thousand thoughts, 679 00:37:57,280 --> 00:38:00,680 Speaker 1: and it's like, I think a good seven percent of 680 00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,680 Speaker 1: them are just like re like thoughts that we just 681 00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:09,160 Speaker 1: like don't even consciously think, they just are repeated. Wow, 682 00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:12,480 Speaker 1: So we just like we're constantly we're constantly an autopilot. 683 00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:18,080 Speaker 1: So again I want you to maybe think any like 684 00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:21,480 Speaker 1: sub like you could ask yourself and this is really 685 00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:25,560 Speaker 1: great if you've done like meditation and journaling and really 686 00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:30,800 Speaker 1: given yourself space. But for example, you need to see 687 00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:35,880 Speaker 1: what your subconscious is scared of, because again, if we 688 00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:41,200 Speaker 1: are pivoting and it doesn't make logical sense, it's often 689 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,200 Speaker 1: because our subconscious is like running the show and to 690 00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:48,440 Speaker 1: them it makes complete sense, right, But to us consciously, 691 00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:51,800 Speaker 1: we're like, what is happening? I'm so confused? This is crazy. 692 00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:58,960 Speaker 1: So like something to think about is like, what bad 693 00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:03,000 Speaker 1: thing is going to happen if you get your spark back? 694 00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:09,040 Speaker 1: Whoa you know with that partner? What bad thing has happened? 695 00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:10,120 Speaker 4: Is I believe them? 696 00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:17,880 Speaker 1: Yeah? Or you might stay you know what, you know, 697 00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:19,879 Speaker 1: what bad thing is going to happen if you get 698 00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:23,319 Speaker 1: your spark back in your career? Like when you think 699 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,479 Speaker 1: of that, are you like, oh my god, I don't 700 00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,440 Speaker 1: want to be in that career that's the worst possible 701 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:30,600 Speaker 1: thing or is it the opposite? 702 00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:31,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? 703 00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:34,160 Speaker 1: Do you mean that? That's why in this episode I've 704 00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:36,680 Speaker 1: really said like I can't answer these questions. Yeah, I'm 705 00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,840 Speaker 1: just trying to give you prompts. You could even ask yourself. 706 00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:44,840 Speaker 1: If I never get my spark back, what bad thing happens? 707 00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:48,400 Speaker 4: You might stay in the relationship. 708 00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:53,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, then what happens? Then we're just cringing, because we're 709 00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:58,279 Speaker 1: really just cringing, like, like, what are you afraid of? 710 00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,000 Speaker 1: I think this is such a powerful thing because we 711 00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:07,880 Speaker 1: never ask ourselves these questions. Yeah, it's like, really, if 712 00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,840 Speaker 1: you stay or if you go, think of all the 713 00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,120 Speaker 1: things you're afraid of, because it's really going to shine 714 00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:18,200 Speaker 1: a light and give you some more evidence of why, 715 00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:21,400 Speaker 1: Like what is happening with your subconscious Because if you 716 00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:24,480 Speaker 1: think about it, if your subconscious is in line with 717 00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:28,560 Speaker 1: your conscious brain, things are in flow, things feel good, 718 00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:32,880 Speaker 1: things feel in alignment. So when things aren't in alignment, 719 00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:38,480 Speaker 1: it's because stuff is happening internally that you're not conscious of. Yeah, 720 00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:40,320 Speaker 1: otherwise you wouldn't be feeling these feelings. 721 00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:43,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, and more often than not, I feel like when 722 00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:45,680 Speaker 3: people are out of alignment. They don't know what it is. 723 00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:47,880 Speaker 3: They just go, oh, I just feel a bit off. 724 00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,879 Speaker 3: I'm feeling not quite myself. Yeah, but they can never 725 00:40:50,960 --> 00:40:54,000 Speaker 3: pinpoint it. But those questions will help you pinpoint exactly 726 00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:54,520 Speaker 3: what it is. 727 00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:58,640 Speaker 1: It's going to shine a light on what is happening subconsciously. 728 00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:02,520 Speaker 1: And so I think that is really really important. And 729 00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:06,640 Speaker 1: I think too is I recently did a TikTok about this. 730 00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:13,759 Speaker 1: But there also is a lot of power in like 731 00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:18,120 Speaker 1: I call it, like staying power and holding yourself in 732 00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:25,920 Speaker 1: uncomfortable situations. So I'm very much about you know, if again, 733 00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:30,040 Speaker 1: like we're not supposed to feel inflow and good all 734 00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,279 Speaker 1: the time, yeah, because then we would literally stay the 735 00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,680 Speaker 1: same person, we would stay with the same people, We 736 00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,359 Speaker 1: would like stay in the same position. We would not move. 737 00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,719 Speaker 1: And as humans, we are meant to move forward, We're 738 00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:46,799 Speaker 1: meant to evolve. So if we don't have these off periods, 739 00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,880 Speaker 1: we don't have the nudges, we don't have the redirection. 740 00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:55,120 Speaker 1: And so this is why when these periods happen for me, 741 00:41:55,800 --> 00:42:00,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is exciting. Yeah, it means a 742 00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:03,240 Speaker 1: shift is coming. Yeah, it means my next level is coming. 743 00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:07,120 Speaker 1: And so it's really important during these periods not to 744 00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:11,319 Speaker 1: freak the fuck out, not to go in victim mentality, 745 00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:14,759 Speaker 1: not to go and poll all your friends not to go, 746 00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:19,600 Speaker 1: not to go and like go in this like mental 747 00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:22,080 Speaker 1: whirlwind where you're like, oh my god, this is the 748 00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:25,280 Speaker 1: worst popular situation. My life's over and blah blah blah blah. 749 00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:30,200 Speaker 1: Simply sit, have some holding power where you hold yourself 750 00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:33,399 Speaker 1: in this uncomfortable feeling, because that's all it is. It's 751 00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:36,799 Speaker 1: a feeling. You're not gonna die, and ask yourself these 752 00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,200 Speaker 1: questions become aware. 753 00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,279 Speaker 3: I almost and this might be a bit weird, but 754 00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:46,200 Speaker 3: and I know it comes from me sometimes struggling to 755 00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:47,080 Speaker 3: put boundaries in. 756 00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:48,640 Speaker 4: But that's the story for another day. 757 00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:54,080 Speaker 3: Get quite excited when things quote unquote go a bit wrong, 758 00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,279 Speaker 3: cause it's like, great, here's my excuse to do what 759 00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:58,439 Speaker 3: I've wanted to do the whole time. 760 00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:03,920 Speaker 1: Anyway, one hundred percent. Well that's like with leaving law. 761 00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:08,919 Speaker 1: So the like the pinnacle thing that made me leave 762 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,400 Speaker 1: law because I remember telling the universe, if I'm supposed 763 00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:15,080 Speaker 1: to be in law and I'm supposed to take this job, 764 00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:18,279 Speaker 1: I want to because I in my firm, they did 765 00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:20,480 Speaker 1: all types of laws. But I had worked in family 766 00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:24,080 Speaker 1: law at that firm for years, and so when I 767 00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:27,960 Speaker 1: got admitted, I was like, if I'm supposed to be 768 00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:29,640 Speaker 1: in this job in law, I want to be in 769 00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:33,840 Speaker 1: the family law team. And so I got the job, 770 00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:35,959 Speaker 1: but there was no room in the family law team 771 00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,600 Speaker 1: because of budgets and whatnot, so I would have to 772 00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:42,759 Speaker 1: move into a different area. And that was like the 773 00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,920 Speaker 1: moment where I was like, that's all I needed. I 774 00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:49,080 Speaker 1: needed that, Like, because again I still had the job. 775 00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:51,640 Speaker 1: I could still go and do law, but it's almost 776 00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:54,600 Speaker 1: like having that moment where you're like, oh, that's what 777 00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:57,560 Speaker 1: I needed. Yeah, I needed that bump, I needed that nudge, 778 00:43:57,600 --> 00:43:59,600 Speaker 1: and I very much listened to that and then like 779 00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:01,920 Speaker 1: went off and did my own thing. But that's so 780 00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:04,120 Speaker 1: true a to here. It's like having those moments where 781 00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:09,440 Speaker 1: you're like, thank you, Universe, exactly. I needed that, all right, guys. 782 00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:12,960 Speaker 1: So the last thing I want to touch on if 783 00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:18,839 Speaker 1: this episode is again, if you are having these moments, basically, 784 00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:21,799 Speaker 1: it's time to rework your goals. It is time to 785 00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:24,759 Speaker 1: check in with yourself. It's time to create space. It 786 00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:27,080 Speaker 1: is the perfect time to do it. If you're listening 787 00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:29,400 Speaker 1: in real time. In the R and C group, we 788 00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:31,839 Speaker 1: are all participating and do it for your future self, 789 00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:36,279 Speaker 1: which is just seven days to basically get clear on 790 00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:38,319 Speaker 1: who you want to be and what you want for 791 00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,920 Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. So we're doing that all together. It's 792 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,680 Speaker 1: seven days, only thirty minutes a day, So come and 793 00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:46,280 Speaker 1: do that if you want to rework and get clear. 794 00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:51,319 Speaker 1: Also kind of left field, but I want you to 795 00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:54,960 Speaker 1: take pressure off yourself and I want you to introduce 796 00:44:55,440 --> 00:45:01,480 Speaker 1: play and joy because in these moments, you are probably 797 00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:04,879 Speaker 1: not in the highest five because again you're feeling uncomfortable, 798 00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:08,280 Speaker 1: You're feeling you know, maybe shame, gilt, all those things, 799 00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:11,799 Speaker 1: and it's really important to look after your energy. So 800 00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,840 Speaker 1: I think what's going to be important during this period 801 00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,680 Speaker 1: is for you to introduce a bit of play and 802 00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:21,280 Speaker 1: joy and like again, during this period, you're probably thinking 803 00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,399 Speaker 1: it's like life or death. Like you're like, oh my god, 804 00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:26,080 Speaker 1: this is the biggest decision on my life, and you 805 00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:29,680 Speaker 1: probably need to lighten up. I say this with so 806 00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:33,240 Speaker 1: much love, and it's like it could be as simple 807 00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:39,399 Speaker 1: as taking a break and refreshing, like so many times, well, 808 00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,880 Speaker 1: I actually, let's be really reality. I was going to 809 00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:45,080 Speaker 1: quit the podcast, like I remember, because I felt so 810 00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:48,000 Speaker 1: bent out with Ivy. I was like, I can't do 811 00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:52,359 Speaker 1: this anymore. I'm gonna quit the podcast. And then I 812 00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,600 Speaker 1: just needed to have some time off. Yeah, and then 813 00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:56,600 Speaker 1: I took a break, and then I was like, why 814 00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:59,160 Speaker 1: would I ever think that I fucking love the podcast 815 00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:02,400 Speaker 1: and we could not be here if I was like 816 00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:05,160 Speaker 1: erratic and I just didn't take some space and time 817 00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:09,480 Speaker 1: to connect back to myself. So again, I really want 818 00:46:09,520 --> 00:46:12,960 Speaker 1: you to take some time joy, play, have a break, 819 00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:18,840 Speaker 1: get refreshed, and then also remember you can always ask 820 00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:23,160 Speaker 1: for guidance. You can always surrender, ask for guidance, and 821 00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:28,960 Speaker 1: literally say this affirmation, I'm open to be guided. Open 822 00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:32,520 Speaker 1: the doors that need to be open, and shut the 823 00:46:32,640 --> 00:46:34,320 Speaker 1: doors that need to be shut. 824 00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:37,239 Speaker 4: I love that affirmation. 825 00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,880 Speaker 1: Say it to yourself, Go on with your day, introduce, play, 826 00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:45,160 Speaker 1: have a break, and honestly, just like watch what comes. 827 00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,680 Speaker 1: Like we are meant to grow and change and evolve. 828 00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:52,359 Speaker 1: So this is such a beautiful point that you're in. 829 00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:57,520 Speaker 1: And I think honestly pivoting. My favorite thing is to pivot, like, 830 00:46:57,520 --> 00:46:59,600 Speaker 1: like I swear I've lived at least I'm like a 831 00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:02,759 Speaker 1: cat and I've lived I've lived seven different lifetimes and 832 00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:05,480 Speaker 1: I'm ready for my new lifetime next year, and I'm 833 00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:07,799 Speaker 1: gonna pivot again, like you watch me. Next year, I 834 00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:10,759 Speaker 1: will be different. Yeah, And it's because I know how 835 00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:14,320 Speaker 1: much magic there is in pivoting and thriving. I also 836 00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:17,040 Speaker 1: am a manage a managen and that's like what we do. 837 00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:22,120 Speaker 1: But again, it's like, can you actually get comfortable with 838 00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:26,040 Speaker 1: this uncomfortableness because there is going to be so much magic? 839 00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,880 Speaker 3: I one hundred percent agree. Like for me, the people 840 00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:32,719 Speaker 3: that advance the fastest in life are flexible. 841 00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:34,000 Speaker 1: Adaptable, and flexible. 842 00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:37,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you have to otherwise you get so stuck. 843 00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:40,600 Speaker 3: Yet four months down the line you turn around and go, oh, 844 00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:43,320 Speaker 3: I should have just made that little tweak. 845 00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:45,879 Speaker 1: I always like to think of it in this way, 846 00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:49,560 Speaker 1: you know, And this is such a stereotype, so forgive me. 847 00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:53,160 Speaker 1: But it's like, you know, you're like your uncle or 848 00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,239 Speaker 1: dad who's like so stuck in their ways and they 849 00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:59,920 Speaker 1: don't want to use technology. Yeah, and your dad is 850 00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:02,279 Speaker 1: it's so simple, this is what you do. You're going 851 00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:06,160 Speaker 1: to make your life so much easier, and they just refuse, Yeah, 852 00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:09,200 Speaker 1: because they're not adaptable. Yeah, and that's what happens is 853 00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:13,440 Speaker 1: our brain does get more comfortable. It doesn't like change, 854 00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,839 Speaker 1: especially that generation. God, they don't like change, and so 855 00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:20,480 Speaker 1: that's obviously a stereotype. And I get that some dads 856 00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:25,359 Speaker 1: are great with technology, but it's like and you can see, like, yeah, 857 00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:27,040 Speaker 1: do just get on the change. It's going to make 858 00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:29,480 Speaker 1: your life easier. But they can't. They're so stuck in 859 00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:32,360 Speaker 1: their ways and that's not who you want to be. No, guys, 860 00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:34,400 Speaker 1: thank you so much for listening. You want to get 861 00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:37,120 Speaker 1: to a few future self. It's currently fifty percent off. 862 00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:39,359 Speaker 1: We will put a link in the show notes. It 863 00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:42,160 Speaker 1: is time to get clear. It is time to know 864 00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,879 Speaker 1: what you actually want and who you want in the year. 865 00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,439 Speaker 1: We're all doing it together, so make sure you join 866 00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:50,480 Speaker 1: the Facebook group. But we love you so much and 867 00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:51,840 Speaker 1: we'll see you in the next episode. 868 00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:54,200 Speaker 2: Bye. 869 00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:59,759 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of 870 00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:03,040 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. If you enjoyed it and 871 00:49:03,120 --> 00:49:07,440 Speaker 1: want more, come connect with us on Instagram at Riseanconquer 872 00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:11,600 Speaker 1: dot podcast and join our Facebook discussion group, a Rise 873 00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:15,719 Speaker 1: and Concer podcast community. We're an independent podcast and we 874 00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:18,560 Speaker 1: have a small team, so we do appreciate your time 875 00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,400 Speaker 1: and support. 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