WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT: "I've realised I'm not my boyfriend's type at ALL"

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<v Speaker 1>We do ask on Cut every Thursday, and that's where

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<v Speaker 1>you call up with your biggest, deepest, darkest problems and

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<v Speaker 1>we do our best to answer them. And now, what

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<v Speaker 1>would you do Britt if you discovered that you weren't

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<v Speaker 1>actually your partner's type? Because that is today's conundrum. Nina,

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, how are you go away doing?

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<v Speaker 3>Good?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Would be like weird?

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<v Speaker 3>What's going on?

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<v Speaker 4>Nina?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I've been with my partner for like almost a

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<v Speaker 2>year's eleven months, and only recently have we like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>really like gone through like our exes or like sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>I like peekover when he's like on his like Instagram

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever, and I've realized that like all of his

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<v Speaker 2>exes and like people under the feet are like tiger

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<v Speaker 2>like blonde girls or like very specific look and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm nothing for the sort. I'm curly hair, brunette, a

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<v Speaker 2>bit taller, a bit bigger, and I just been like,

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<v Speaker 2>not this man's type, Like I don't I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>really insecured with about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Nina, I'm just gonna stop you in your tracks right here.

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<v Speaker 4>This is an easy one for me.

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<v Speaker 3>You've just got to think.

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<v Speaker 4>You've just got to think he's with you, like they

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<v Speaker 4>didn't work out, the exes didn't work out.

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<v Speaker 3>You've been with him for a year, Like, what do

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<v Speaker 3>you mean you're not his type? Like he's with you now?

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<v Speaker 3>It's that's saying that you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know. The whole thing is just kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like weeding me out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Nina, it sounds like you're your own worst enemy.

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<v Speaker 3>You're doing it to yourself self sabotage. I think that,

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<v Speaker 3>like it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>People often have like a type or like a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they have like an idea of what their type is.

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<v Speaker 1>But then after you've dated multiple people are your type

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<v Speaker 1>and you realize it never works out type. Sometimes your

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<v Speaker 1>type expands out and you date different people. I think that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if he's in a relationship with you for

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<v Speaker 1>eleven months and you guys are happy, I absolutely would

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<v Speaker 1>not be self sabotaging your relationship because you're worried that

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<v Speaker 1>you think you're not his type, even though he's done

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<v Speaker 1>nothing to give you that indication.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh I remember I remember dating this guy so long ago,

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<v Speaker 4>like we were going great, just I was leaving over

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<v Speaker 4>in London and I remember making a mistake of looking

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<v Speaker 4>up his ex I don't know why. And she was

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<v Speaker 4>a literal supermodel, like she was the hottest thing you've

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<v Speaker 4>ever seen.

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<v Speaker 3>And I remember just that just getting in my head even.

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<v Speaker 4>Though he wanted to date me, and I just sabotaged

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<v Speaker 4>the entire relationship. I think we can get too caught

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<v Speaker 4>up in like comparison culture and comparing each other.

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<v Speaker 3>And just try to lip in the moment.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys are happy and in love, you've been together

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<v Speaker 4>for a year, Like, don't let someone that he dated

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<v Speaker 4>seven years ago ruin your relationship now.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, look, I think I just need to hear that.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you bring it up with him at all? Or

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<v Speaker 1>have you just been keeping this a secret and festering away?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, no, I don't want to bring it up.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, I don't want to sound crazy.

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<v Speaker 4>You're extram nineteen ninety nine was so hot that.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened to me though, Nina, Did you ever bring

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<v Speaker 1>it up with your partner Britt at the time, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I just ended it that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's weird, too, weird that's weird. No, I know

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<v Speaker 3>that now.

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<v Speaker 1>So I am my husband Matt here. He's dated some

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful girls back in the day, gorgeous girls, and one

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<v Speaker 1>of them is so gorgeous one of them, one of

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<v Speaker 1>them is so gorgeous that she is a very successful model,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was like the face of an iconic sunscreen brand,

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<v Speaker 1>and they'd like double his skincare and everything else. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was using it until like I was bringing it

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<v Speaker 1>home and like having it on the in my bathroom

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<v Speaker 1>cabetry and face. Yeah, And Matt was like, I dated

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<v Speaker 1>her and she's on the product packaging of the and

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<v Speaker 1>now I can't use it anymore. But I did have

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<v Speaker 1>a moment where I got a bit wig dat because

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, God, your exes are so hot.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a worry, Nina. This one's easier. Just don't stalk

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<v Speaker 4>his exes from ten years ago. Do you embrace your relationship?

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<v Speaker 3>Know your worth? No, he's with you for just who

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<v Speaker 3>you are right now. Know your worth. It's true. If

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<v Speaker 3>we're going to get deep, all right, strap in.

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<v Speaker 4>If we're going to get deep, it's because of an

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<v Speaker 4>insecurity that you might not even know you have. Like

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<v Speaker 4>if you're looking up that and then comparing yourself to

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<v Speaker 4>a next and then you're overthinking it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's you being insecure for whatever reason.

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<v Speaker 4>But that's why I say No, You're worth like he's

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<v Speaker 4>choosing you and you guys are happy, So just live.

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<v Speaker 2>In that moment totally.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks, no, thanks, Nina.

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<v Speaker 3>That's tough, isn't it