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Speaker 1: We do ask on Cut every Thursday, and that's where
Speaker 1: you call up with your biggest, deepest, darkest problems and
Speaker 1: we do our best to answer them. And now, what
Speaker 1: would you do Britt if you discovered that you weren't
Speaker 1: actually your partner's type? Because that is today's conundrum. Nina,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show.
Speaker 2: Hi, how are you go away doing?
Speaker 3: Good?
Speaker 1: How are you doing?
Speaker 2: Would be like weird?
Speaker 3: What's going on?
Speaker 4: Nina?
Speaker 2: Well, I've been with my partner for like almost a
Speaker 2: year's eleven months, and only recently have we like you know,
Speaker 2: really like gone through like our exes or like sometimes
Speaker 2: I like peekover when he's like on his like Instagram
Speaker 2: or whatever, and I've realized that like all of his
Speaker 2: exes and like people under the feet are like tiger
Speaker 2: like blonde girls or like very specific look and I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm nothing for the sort. I'm curly hair, brunette, a
Speaker 2: bit taller, a bit bigger, and I just been like,
Speaker 2: not this man's type, Like I don't I feel like
Speaker 2: really insecured with about it.
Speaker 4: Nina, I'm just gonna stop you in your tracks right here.
Speaker 4: This is an easy one for me.
Speaker 3: You've just got to think.
Speaker 4: You've just got to think he's with you, like they
Speaker 4: didn't work out, the exes didn't work out.
Speaker 3: You've been with him for a year, Like, what do
Speaker 3: you mean you're not his type? Like he's with you now?
Speaker 3: It's that's saying that you are.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. The whole thing is just kind
Speaker 2: of like weeding me out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Nina, it sounds like you're your own worst enemy.
Speaker 3: You're doing it to yourself self sabotage. I think that,
Speaker 3: like it's okay.
Speaker 1: People often have like a type or like a you know,
Speaker 1: they have like an idea of what their type is.
Speaker 1: But then after you've dated multiple people are your type
Speaker 1: and you realize it never works out type. Sometimes your
Speaker 1: type expands out and you date different people. I think that,
Speaker 1: you know, if he's in a relationship with you for
Speaker 1: eleven months and you guys are happy, I absolutely would
Speaker 1: not be self sabotaging your relationship because you're worried that
Speaker 1: you think you're not his type, even though he's done
Speaker 1: nothing to give you that indication.
Speaker 4: Oh I remember I remember dating this guy so long ago,
Speaker 4: like we were going great, just I was leaving over
Speaker 4: in London and I remember making a mistake of looking
Speaker 4: up his ex I don't know why. And she was
Speaker 4: a literal supermodel, like she was the hottest thing you've
Speaker 4: ever seen.
Speaker 3: And I remember just that just getting in my head even.
Speaker 4: Though he wanted to date me, and I just sabotaged
Speaker 4: the entire relationship. I think we can get too caught
Speaker 4: up in like comparison culture and comparing each other.
Speaker 3: And just try to lip in the moment.
Speaker 4: You guys are happy and in love, you've been together
Speaker 4: for a year, Like, don't let someone that he dated
Speaker 4: seven years ago ruin your relationship now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, look, I think I just need to hear that.
Speaker 1: Did you bring it up with him at all? Or
Speaker 1: have you just been keeping this a secret and festering away?
Speaker 2: Well, no, I don't want to bring it up.
Speaker 1: You're like, I don't want to sound crazy.
Speaker 4: You're extram nineteen ninety nine was so hot that.
Speaker 1: What happened to me though, Nina, Did you ever bring
Speaker 1: it up with your partner Britt at the time, No,
Speaker 1: I just ended it that.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's weird, too, weird that's weird. No, I know
Speaker 3: that now.
Speaker 1: So I am my husband Matt here. He's dated some
Speaker 1: beautiful girls back in the day, gorgeous girls, and one
Speaker 1: of them is so gorgeous one of them, one of
Speaker 1: them is so gorgeous that she is a very successful model,
Speaker 1: and she was like the face of an iconic sunscreen brand,
Speaker 1: and they'd like double his skincare and everything else. And
Speaker 1: I was using it until like I was bringing it
Speaker 1: home and like having it on the in my bathroom
Speaker 1: cabetry and face. Yeah, And Matt was like, I dated
Speaker 1: her and she's on the product packaging of the and
Speaker 1: now I can't use it anymore. But I did have
Speaker 1: a moment where I got a bit wig dat because
Speaker 1: I was like, God, your exes are so hot.
Speaker 4: That's a worry, Nina. This one's easier. Just don't stalk
Speaker 4: his exes from ten years ago. Do you embrace your relationship?
Speaker 3: Know your worth? No, he's with you for just who
Speaker 3: you are right now. Know your worth. It's true. If
Speaker 3: we're going to get deep, all right, strap in.
Speaker 4: If we're going to get deep, it's because of an
Speaker 4: insecurity that you might not even know you have. Like
Speaker 4: if you're looking up that and then comparing yourself to
Speaker 4: a next and then you're overthinking it.
Speaker 3: That's you being insecure for whatever reason.
Speaker 4: But that's why I say No, You're worth like he's
Speaker 4: choosing you and you guys are happy, So just live.
Speaker 2: In that moment totally.
Speaker 1: Thanks, no, thanks, Nina.
Speaker 3: That's tough, isn't it