WEBVTT - What Does It Mean If You Dream Your Partner Cheated? 👫💔

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms, this is the Flex

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<v Speaker 3>What mouth sounds?

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<v Speaker 2>We both saw its liber at the same time was gross. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>ill yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I listened back to our podcast. As you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm not going to I'm just saying maybe in

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<v Speaker 1>some earlier episodes, I wasn't taking the advice of the overlords,

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<v Speaker 1>So any listeners that have stood the test of time

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<v Speaker 1>and listening front to back, thanks Pam, It's been a pleasure.

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<v Speaker 3>Flex and Rooms on kat FLEXI.

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<v Speaker 1>There is obviously a difference between the generations. Current generations

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<v Speaker 1>alive include Gen Z millennials, gen X boomers. Is there

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<v Speaker 1>only one above boomers? What about the COVID bat oh

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<v Speaker 1>and baby cease? Is it called gen Z?

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<v Speaker 2>What's gen Alpha?

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's from ages ago? When did they start

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<v Speaker 1>bringing in these generational.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, but I don't. I don't. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, Rookie, our producer has sent me this video

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<v Speaker 1>to play. It is about generational differences with rudeness.

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<v Speaker 4>So I find the generational difference between what's considered rude

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<v Speaker 4>and what's considered polite very fascinating, because for boomers, it's

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<v Speaker 4>impolite to put your elbows on the dinner table, whereas

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<v Speaker 4>if you're a Gen Z or even a Millennials, considered

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<v Speaker 4>rude not to say, go piss girl when someone's going

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<v Speaker 4>to the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, did that give what I thought I was

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<v Speaker 3>going to give?

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it was going to be a boy?

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<v Speaker 3>In depth, what do you think is like?

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<v Speaker 1>For example, I still think it's I think it's rude

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<v Speaker 1>to not open the door for anybody. But in a

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<v Speaker 1>past life with a gen before boomers, I think.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's call them old people.

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<v Speaker 1>No people.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you're confusing me. You know what a boomer is,

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<v Speaker 2>So you're saying, Jim before, what's before a boomer and

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<v Speaker 2>boom boom? Is that older than a boomer or younger than.

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<v Speaker 3>Boom and the boom dog? Yet older the generation?

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<v Speaker 2>Just say older people, old elderly because it's.

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<v Speaker 1>The fact the elderly community, it would have been rude,

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<v Speaker 1>like to not open the door for a woman, whereas

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<v Speaker 1>now I think it's rude to not open the door

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<v Speaker 1>for anybody. Correct, So there's a change there. And then

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<v Speaker 1>the elbows on the table. I still think it's when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with polite company, Like if I'm going to meet

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<v Speaker 1>a partner's parents, the elbows are not on the table.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I like that phrase polite company. And it's interesting though,

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<v Speaker 2>because I feel like people would argue that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like it's a gray area what's considered rude because

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<v Speaker 2>we have like different social norms. But it's like in

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<v Speaker 2>the right and I'm saying right broadly, but in certain environments,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what will fly. You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's right now, I'm trying to.

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<v Speaker 2>Hold my hand, you're threading your fingers with your toes, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, because that's the kind of environment that flex has created. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I say politeness should be more encouraged in this crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>crazy world. People are definitely too comfortable with speaking from

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<v Speaker 1>personal experience. I'm happy to bear that cross for who

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<v Speaker 1>I've decided to become as a young lady.

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<v Speaker 2>I think there should be more politeness, but I think

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<v Speaker 2>in this instance, like rudeness is more commonplace, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think they are equal in opposites. So for example,

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<v Speaker 2>like I think people do pretty well with being polite,

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<v Speaker 2>especially in Australia. I don't think that, like I'm concerned

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<v Speaker 2>that when I walk into a store, I go into

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<v Speaker 2>an establishment, that I'm going to interact with an impolite person.

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<v Speaker 2>If anything, people are extra paranoid about being polite, and

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<v Speaker 2>common space is at the point where it's like, okay, relax,

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<v Speaker 2>like lay off a little bit. But I think rudeness

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<v Speaker 2>is a thing that has been like exponentially amplified in

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<v Speaker 2>a way that we don't know what to do with

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<v Speaker 2>that information. Like when somebody is rude to you, I

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<v Speaker 2>would have thought that like back in the day, you'd

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<v Speaker 2>be like, oh, don't you know that's inappropriate? You know,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't speak to your elders that way, don't you

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<v Speaker 2>know you can't speak to your teacher that way. Don't

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<v Speaker 2>you know you can't whatever? And now it's like a

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<v Speaker 2>free for all. That's interesting that I think is really

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<v Speaker 2>odd because you know, and it's like not just culturally

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<v Speaker 2>like being from Gharna. But just like I remember in

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<v Speaker 2>primary school or in high school, you had to be

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<v Speaker 2>mindful of how you spoke to your teachers, and only

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<v Speaker 2>the really naughty kids spoke back. It was like damn,

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<v Speaker 2>like you would really speak back to a teacher whoa

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<v Speaker 2>like that is next level. And now you know, you

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<v Speaker 2>hear horror stories from teachers being like I get threatened

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<v Speaker 2>every day by students. There's nothing I can do about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they've all got phones to record you. Oh you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like they can push teachers because they know

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<v Speaker 1>that teachers can't like hit the more abuse them or

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<v Speaker 1>they lose their job.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that's it. And I also think there's this conversation

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<v Speaker 2>about morality that comes up a lot, and I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if it has anything to do with like like

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<v Speaker 2>not the lack of religion, but just like the lack

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<v Speaker 2>of influence on religion and this idea that we live

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<v Speaker 2>in quite like secular environments, people kind of just like

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<v Speaker 2>do what they want, Yeah, create their own rules, create

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<v Speaker 2>their own rules, which is good, but also in the

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<v Speaker 2>same vein, it's like what is the norm you fall

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<v Speaker 2>back on? Because if there's no consequence for rudeness, then

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<v Speaker 2>there's also no motivation for politeness either, because you kind

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<v Speaker 2>of get to this neutral point where it's like I

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<v Speaker 2>can be polite all I want but doesn't beget politeness,

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<v Speaker 2>and I could be rude all I want and it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't beget rudeness. I just get to operate in the

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<v Speaker 2>way that I want to. And I think what's really

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<v Speaker 2>tricky is that, like we're coming out of this era

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<v Speaker 2>of this hyper individualism, and I think we're gonna.

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<v Speaker 3>Be coming out of it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we are in some respects. I think that

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<v Speaker 2>like we're reaching or we're becoming really aware of the

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<v Speaker 2>consequence of this hyperindividualism. People are way more lonely than

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<v Speaker 2>they are before, socially isolated, depressed, without their community groups,

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<v Speaker 2>unable to you know, like people are dying and like

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<v Speaker 2>not being uncovered. People are going missing at higher rates,

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<v Speaker 2>and so like everyone's like, oh whatever, it's another one gone.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think what's gonna happen is that at one

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<v Speaker 2>point people thought it was like a government responsibility, like

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<v Speaker 2>you need to make us feel like a community, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you need to put in measures so like we look

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<v Speaker 2>after each other. And then people are gonna realize, like

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<v Speaker 2>on a day to day, you really got to like

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<v Speaker 2>back yourself. And I think we're going to move into

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<v Speaker 2>this like collectivism wherever I's like, no, I really am

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<v Speaker 2>part of this community. I'm part of this body, and

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<v Speaker 2>for that reason, how I behave impacts my other people.

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<v Speaker 2>I gotta hold my own a little bit better. I've

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<v Speaker 2>got to be like the role model, and I've got

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<v Speaker 2>a model behavior that I expect from people around me,

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<v Speaker 2>or at least I've got to encourage behavior that I

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<v Speaker 2>want to see. Because as weird as it is for

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<v Speaker 2>someone to call you out, as weird as it is

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<v Speaker 2>for someone to be rude to you, it's even weirder

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<v Speaker 2>to have someone call out rudeness. Don't you think if

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<v Speaker 2>I was like that was really impolite for me to

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<v Speaker 2>be like WHOA like damn, Like I didn't really know.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that's almost what's required in some ways,

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<v Speaker 2>Like we've got we've like dusted our hands off this

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<v Speaker 2>like mutual community responsibility. It's like whatever, like she's a freak,

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<v Speaker 2>but like I don't really know her. It's like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>like that's your coworker, or like, oh he's he always

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<v Speaker 2>says that stuff, but like he's my my friend's boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, well, he's part of your community, babe.

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<v Speaker 3>So I just I just feel like.

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<v Speaker 1>We are channeling all of our rudeness, so we get

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<v Speaker 1>our little fix of being fucking rude, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>can go and pretend to be polite in real life.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we're getting our pent up anger out into

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<v Speaker 1>the metaverse, if you will.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I also think people are pretending to be

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<v Speaker 2>rude online as well. I think it was like a

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<v Speaker 2>social currency. I don't think people want to be as

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<v Speaker 2>salacious and as vicious as they are. I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>just like they're following the mold.

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<v Speaker 3>That's so true.

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<v Speaker 2>Humor has gone to be really rude, and like all

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<v Speaker 2>these different things have like been encouraged and amplified and

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<v Speaker 2>like rewarded. Nobody gets extra, nobody gets top comments are

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<v Speaker 2>being sweet? True, you get top comment by being a

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<v Speaker 2>feral cow.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's gonna change soon.

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<v Speaker 3>I hope.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm ready for the new wave new wave fleck Ands.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know about you, but I think it's quite

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<v Speaker 1>common to have dreams about your partner cheating on you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's in the same realm as your teeth

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<v Speaker 1>falling out.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't that common?

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's pretty common. Yeah, is it?

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<v Speaker 2>My face? Do that? Before? Literally, when I was in

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<v Speaker 2>a relationship, I was the one cheating in my dreams.

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<v Speaker 2>Look Brookie, we loved that one.

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<v Speaker 3>Brookie gets them.

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<v Speaker 2>Stand by Brookie, like I would say, the biggest liability

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<v Speaker 2>of the trio is Brookie, followed by Freemi and then me.

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<v Speaker 2>But I stand by Brookie. I'm gonna follow her to

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<v Speaker 2>the end. I didn't know it was that common. See,

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<v Speaker 2>Like as we know, before I went to psychotherapy when

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<v Speaker 2>I was like twenty eight, twenty seven. I'm happy to.

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<v Speaker 3>Share the age when I was twenty eight. How old

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<v Speaker 3>are you now?

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty eight? But like I'm at the end of twenty eight. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>I used to have nightmares every time I would sleep right,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I was like, oh, that truly normal. Turns

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<v Speaker 2>it's not normal. So, but the themes of my dream

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<v Speaker 2>were always so like abstract, like the apocalypse. Not like

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have regular dreams like oh, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>the grocery store. My partner's cheating on me. That would

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<v Speaker 2>be terrifying, like the normal ones that make you confused

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<v Speaker 2>about your regular life. I never thought the apocalypse was

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<v Speaker 2>coming when I that Bondai Beach was flooding.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I had tsunami dreams.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is all about dreams about your partner cheating,

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<v Speaker 1>which can be upsetting.

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<v Speaker 3>According to Wiki.

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<v Speaker 1>How, but how has good expoundations. Number One, your partner

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<v Speaker 1>might not be giving you enough attention, and it's very

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<v Speaker 1>easy for them to get wrapped up in work and

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<v Speaker 1>other commitments and not notice that they haven't spent enough

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<v Speaker 1>time with you. But being open with your partner about

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<v Speaker 1>how you feel is really important. Number two, be needy.

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<v Speaker 1>You feel jealous of someone, so maybe they've got a

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<v Speaker 1>work crush. You know, it's not the craziest thing in

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<v Speaker 1>the world for your partner to create on you, cheat

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<v Speaker 1>on you.

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<v Speaker 3>To create on you. What is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Number three, you're unsure about the future of your life

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<v Speaker 1>a work wife?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that what I said?

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<v Speaker 3>You said like a work crush?

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<v Speaker 1>No work wife? Okay, yeah, work wife. You want your

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<v Speaker 1>partner to get along with someone. That could be why

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<v Speaker 1>you're trying to think about how your partner will fit

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<v Speaker 1>into your social life and dreaming that your partner cheat

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<v Speaker 1>on you with someone important. You might be your brain's

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<v Speaker 1>silly way of processing the hope that they'll get along.

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<v Speaker 1>This has happened before, my friend telling me she had

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<v Speaker 1>a dream about me cheating on her boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's a warning, and she said not in

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<v Speaker 2>the stelling, so you don't get any ideas.

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<v Speaker 1>I did feel a bit like that, but that's what

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I think there's a reason, so you should

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<v Speaker 1>invest to get the reason. Don't always take your dreams seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>as I've been saying the last few weeks. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>writing down my dream since the start of the year.

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<v Speaker 1>It's now three months in and the note is very

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<v Speaker 1>long and they don't mean anything, but they definitely helped

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<v Speaker 1>me find some separation between the waking hours and the

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<v Speaker 1>sleeping hours.

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<v Speaker 2>I will say, what could be a potentially very exciting

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<v Speaker 2>but manipulative thing to do is to tell these people

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<v Speaker 2>about the dreams that you're having and see if they react.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's say I told you through me that I

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<v Speaker 2>found out. No, I didn't find out, but I had

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<v Speaker 2>a dream that you were sleeping with my crush watching.

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<v Speaker 2>Your response could be either really validating or telling, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like if you were like, oh my god, which one

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<v Speaker 2>show me a picture? No, I don't want to show

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<v Speaker 2>your picture you had stay.

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<v Speaker 3>Away repent Keita Flex and froomes.

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<v Speaker 2>Flex and frooms. Am I the asshole for not giving

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<v Speaker 2>my boss my first class seat? That is the question

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<v Speaker 2>we're answering today on FLEX and frooms. Listen to this. Yesterday,

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<v Speaker 2>my boss and I we was flying home from a conference.

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<v Speaker 2>We're on the same flight, but our original seats. We're

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<v Speaker 2>not next to each other. I'm a frequent traveler on

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<v Speaker 2>this airline and use their credit card, so I often

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<v Speaker 2>get free upgrades to the first class. I got upgraded

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<v Speaker 2>on this flight. My boss didn't. After the flight, when

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<v Speaker 2>we were collecting our bags, she said she wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to me about my lack of respect for protocol.

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<v Speaker 2>She thinks that because the company paid for my original

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<v Speaker 2>ticket and she is more senior than me, I should

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<v Speaker 2>have given her the first class seat. I think this

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<v Speaker 2>is absolutely insane. While the company paid for my seat,

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<v Speaker 2>it's my own personal credit card spending and frequent travel

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<v Speaker 2>that earned me the upgraded seat. Is this some sort

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<v Speaker 2>of corporate standard I'm not aware of. Am I the

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<v Speaker 2>asshole here? When I read that, I said, hold on

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<v Speaker 2>a second. This is why we need to bring back

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<v Speaker 2>the etiquette thing. I was talking about because Yeah, in

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<v Speaker 2>some cultures, it would be seen as appropriate to like

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<v Speaker 2>respect the authority or the quote unquote superior in this situation.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's far more complex. Why because we live in

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<v Speaker 2>a lawless society.

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<v Speaker 1>It's definitely an insane scenario. I would say, E've been

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<v Speaker 1>out there rucking up debt quite potentially to get this

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<v Speaker 1>special privileges on the plane.

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<v Speaker 3>They're encoroaching on your civil liberty. It's as simple as that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And either your boss doesn't understand how you cocked

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<v Speaker 2>the upgrade and it's kind of like, oh, like it

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<v Speaker 2>was just like a like a randomized thing where it

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<v Speaker 2>just happened to be on your seat, but it could

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<v Speaker 2>have been anyone on the booking. I can understand that

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<v Speaker 2>kind of mishap where it's like, Okay, one person on

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<v Speaker 2>this book can get to first class seat, give it

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<v Speaker 2>to your boss. That makes sense. But in this instance

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<v Speaker 2>that you've earned the upgrade, it's yours to keep. And

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<v Speaker 2>I will say that's the issue with having blurredlines in

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<v Speaker 2>the workplace. Everybody needs to be comfortable here, la la

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<v Speaker 2>la la. And now look what happens when I used

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<v Speaker 2>to work in pr in an office. I remember when

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<v Speaker 2>I had my performance review, I got pulled up on

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<v Speaker 2>not going to work outings. And if you know me,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, if FLEXI doesn't like for socializing, if

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<v Speaker 2>I've got a finite amount of hours to give in

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<v Speaker 2>a week, I want to make sure I'm doing what

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<v Speaker 2>I want to do and hang out with people that

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<v Speaker 2>I have to be with by default. Is not that

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<v Speaker 2>like I want to choose to like, you know, socialize.

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<v Speaker 2>But during this meeting, my boss was like, rapport is

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<v Speaker 2>really really important and people want to feel connected to you,

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<v Speaker 2>and a way that you can do that or accelerate

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<v Speaker 2>that is by engaging in these like after work out

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<v Speaker 2>of work activities. And then I was like, but if

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<v Speaker 2>you're creating an environment that is naturally fun to be in,

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<v Speaker 2>and you as a boss are focused on company culture

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<v Speaker 2>at work, we don't have to do all these extracurriculous

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<v Speaker 2>to make up for what the virole is lacking. You

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<v Speaker 2>know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the like not going to give you a promotion,

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<v Speaker 1>but we will be going a holy moly, yeah, ipe one.

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<v Speaker 1>I would think, oh, you should give it to them

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<v Speaker 1>in case you want a promotion, But nobody likes to

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<v Speaker 1>kiss us, So just take the flight, enjoy the lobster,

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy the champagne, enjoy the Emirates lounge. But just know,

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<v Speaker 1>like you just gonna say, I've been out here popping

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<v Speaker 1>my booty, yeah, trying to get these flights.

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<v Speaker 2>Yourself, and like I would say, take the go, buy

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<v Speaker 2>the take the approach of like, oh didn't you know

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like oh, like you didn't know. I had

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<v Speaker 2>points like like as opposed to being like I'm so sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>like I wish it na like it's quite clear what's

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<v Speaker 2>happened here. Lack of protocol and respect. Don't do it, sis,

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<v Speaker 2>Let's not make that kind of conversation. You want to fly,

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<v Speaker 2>you want to fly business. You know what to do,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Come on, mummy, please please.

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