Speaker 1: Come on Friday, Mitch and Laura. Today it's International Women's Day.
Speaker 1: What I want to say is, obviously it's great that
Speaker 1: we celebrate women, wonderful, but should we just be picking
Speaker 1: out one day to celebrate them. I might be the
Speaker 1: minority for that feeling, but I feel like men should
Speaker 1: have one day and women should be celebrated every day.
Speaker 2: And I am also here.
Speaker 3: You're irrelevant today because you're not a woman. You didn't
Speaker 3: even bring us cupcakes.
Speaker 4: Or anything, Mitch, not even.
Speaker 5: Radio station, do you know what.
Speaker 6: That's why International Women's Day has gotten a bit of
Speaker 6: a bad rap, and it's because often in a lot
Speaker 6: of workplaces, they sort of try and celebrate it, but
Speaker 6: they do it in a really benign way by bringing
Speaker 6: in cupcakes and maybe sticking a photo of someone on
Speaker 6: the fridge, being like, here's our female team, but we're
Speaker 6: so bad at them. But then don't do anything else
Speaker 6: throughout the rest of the year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and whilst we complain about that, I would still
Speaker 1: like the cupcake.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it didn't come.
Speaker 2: To How many brands have reached out to you and
Speaker 2: asked you to do International Women's Day stuff?
Speaker 3: Not many.
Speaker 6: I think International Women's Day is evolving, and I do
Speaker 6: think that every year people are talking about it differently
Speaker 6: in terms of they're talking about the performative side of her.
Speaker 5: Yeah, a little bit. It's vibe and so I just.
Speaker 3: Think it's changing a little bit.
Speaker 6: And I think about where we were three years ago
Speaker 6: talking about it to where we are now and how
Speaker 6: we feel about it, and that's definitely evolved.
Speaker 2: Speaking of powerful women, Libby Tricket is joining the show
Speaker 2: Breaststroke Superstar No One Can Breaststroke. Libby Tricket world record
Speaker 2: hold on gold medalist Olympian had a really interesting article
Speaker 2: go viral on Mumba about something that an adult friend
Speaker 2: of hers said to her child.
Speaker 5: It's actually a very good discussion to have. We're going
Speaker 5: to have it next here at the pickup.
Speaker 6: Now you all would have known about Australian's sweetheart egg.
Speaker 6: But she's an Olympian. But she's an ex swimmer. Libby Tricketts,
Speaker 6: Oh ye, incredible. She's won so many gold medals, she
Speaker 6: still holds records. She's truly amazing. And now she is
Speaker 6: a mum of four beautiful children and recently she wrote
Speaker 6: an article for Mama Mia around something that her eight
Speaker 6: year old experienced.
Speaker 3: And it really.
Speaker 6: I mean as a mum, it really struck me, but
Speaker 6: also just as a woman. It's something that I think
Speaker 6: everybody has been through at some point in their life,
Speaker 6: and that is conversations around your weight and especially as
Speaker 6: your body changes. Now, Libby's little girl is eight years old,
Speaker 6: and we have her on the phone, not the little girl.
Speaker 3: We have Libby on the phone to talk about it.
Speaker 5: Hi Libby, Hi Libby, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 7: Thank you so much for having me on.
Speaker 1: Libby.
Speaker 4: What has happened?
Speaker 1: Because there's a lot of dialogue between something that's gone
Speaker 1: down between some of your friends and something they said
Speaker 1: to your daughter.
Speaker 7: Basically what happened was I was in the kitchen area,
Speaker 7: just around the corner from where my daughter was with
Speaker 7: someone close to us, and they basically said to her, Oh, Poppy,
Speaker 7: you look like you've lost weight. You're looking fantastic. Your
Speaker 7: daughter lost right, Yeah, to my eight year old, like
Speaker 7: directly to her. And because I wasn't in the exact presence,
Speaker 7: but you know, was overhearing the conversation, I was just
Speaker 7: completely shocked to the point that I had no words.
Speaker 7: I felt really annoyed at myself that I didn't kind
Speaker 7: of call it out in the moment, but I actually
Speaker 7: think it was for the best because then I could
Speaker 7: pull Poppy aside later, try not to make too big
Speaker 7: a deal of it. And we just basically said, look,
Speaker 7: this is not how we talk about bodies. That's not
Speaker 7: what is valuable. What we care about as a family
Speaker 7: is that you know, we're moving our bodies, we're healthy,
Speaker 7: we're strong, and we're fueling it in the ways that
Speaker 7: is what is needed. She's eight years old, right, like,
Speaker 7: this is just so far from her brain and I.
Speaker 5: Shouldn't have to be living. That's the thing.
Speaker 2: It breaks my heart to think that she would. Then
Speaker 2: she could then go and look in the mirror and go, wait,
Speaker 2: am I bigger?
Speaker 5: Do I?
Speaker 2: Do?
Speaker 5: I look fat?
Speaker 7: It is something that I think all of us have
Speaker 7: experienced on some level. I know my sister is in
Speaker 7: a larger body and has been most of her life
Speaker 7: and has recently lost a significant amount of weight, and
Speaker 7: she just is horrified by how much better she's treated now.
Speaker 7: And that's terrific. Like we shouldn't as a society, we
Speaker 7: shouldn't be doing that stuff. But it starts at eight
Speaker 7: years old when someone says something that seemingly on the
Speaker 7: surface is a compliment, right, it's something that is totally
Speaker 7: but we're saying that she looks great, you know, but
Speaker 7: that things that maybe she looks worse before, or you know,
Speaker 7: from the person's perspective, she looked worse before, and that
Speaker 7: can get internalized and there's insidious, little toxic comments becomes
Speaker 7: something that this never should have been anything.
Speaker 6: Do you think it's generational though, because you know, I
Speaker 6: think all of us are growing and we're raising our
Speaker 6: children in a more of a conscious way because we
Speaker 6: think about the things that we experienced as kids and whatnot.
Speaker 6: But it is sometimes the older generation. I don't want
Speaker 6: to stereotype, but that's where some of the negative comments
Speaker 6: can come from.
Speaker 7: Absolutely, And you know, this person is of an older generation,
Speaker 7: and we spoke to them, right, and we had the
Speaker 7: conversation directly with them. We said, this isn't how we
Speaker 7: talk about bodies now. We don't talk about weight, we
Speaker 7: don't talk about, you know, how we look. We talk
Speaker 7: about being kind and funny and smart and hard working,
Speaker 7: and that's what is valuable, not what we look like.
Speaker 7: But you know, as a society, we still have a
Speaker 7: huge issue with looks and that being the value of
Speaker 7: someone's important.
Speaker 1: Were they okay with it once you explain it to
Speaker 1: them like your friend, they understand the problem and where
Speaker 1: they went wrong.
Speaker 7: Yeah, they actually responded really well and that washeartening, I think.
Speaker 7: But I also know that that is conditioning for them,
Speaker 7: because I then overheard them say something about someone else
Speaker 7: in another conversation. They're conditioned right that that's how they
Speaker 7: were brought up, that's what was valuable to them. And
Speaker 7: so I'm going to still be very conscious when these
Speaker 7: people are around us, because you know, it's hard to
Speaker 7: know that those behaviors will change immediately. I think over
Speaker 7: the long term it will change, but it's being conscious.
Speaker 7: You know about what is happening in our house and
Speaker 7: what my girls are exposed to, what Alfie my son
Speaker 7: is exposed to, and be open to having those conversations
Speaker 7: because I think the thing that we experienced is that
Speaker 7: it was just all swept under the rug. We wouldn't
Speaker 7: even approach it. We'll just kind of internalize it and
Speaker 7: get sad and completely different times.
Speaker 2: I went all the way ins with my mum when
Speaker 2: she was on white watches as a kid. That's what
Speaker 2: made me game. You were shocked when I came out.
Speaker 2: It's because I was with all the women going.
Speaker 5: Did you lose weight this week?
Speaker 4: Always game?
Speaker 5: All right, leave you Triggert.
Speaker 6: Thank you.
Speaker 2: If you want to read that article, it's on momama
Speaker 2: dot com.
Speaker 5: Go to read thank you for coming on the pickup.
Speaker 7: We adore you my absolute pleasure. Guys.
Speaker 1: Hey, guys, a completely different switch here. You know how
Speaker 1: I have this phobia of spiders. Yeah, okay, I have
Speaker 1: had the funniest encounter with the trade at my house,
Speaker 1: and I've realized that I'm not the only one.
Speaker 4: I gotta tell you about it after the break a right,
Speaker 4: that's next on the pickup.
Speaker 1: I'm proper scared spiders, like you are? You? Even thinking
Speaker 1: about it makes me vomit in my mouth. But you know,
Speaker 1: when you can picture one in your room, you spiders
Speaker 1: don't bother me.
Speaker 3: Really, I like them.
Speaker 6: I just think that they're pretty harmless unless you've got
Speaker 6: a trapdoor or something.
Speaker 3: Our house was for some reason.
Speaker 4: I pictured a doggy door where the spiders came in.
Speaker 3: I met a trapdoor spider. But yeah, no, they just
Speaker 3: don't bother me.
Speaker 1: Well, I have this thing right where I'm pitch fright
Speaker 1: of them. But I've always lived alone, so it's really hard.
Speaker 1: So when something happens with a spider, I have to
Speaker 1: deal with it on my own. I always wished, and
Speaker 1: I hate to say this out loud, especially on International Wednesday,
Speaker 1: but I always wish that I had a man around
Speaker 1: to do that kind of stuff.
Speaker 3: Do you kill him or do you catch him in
Speaker 3: a jar and let him go out?
Speaker 2: She Ki does it, Mallet, she.
Speaker 5: Gets the list.
Speaker 3: She doesn't chop them, mark she does.
Speaker 4: She gets a pair of chicken. Sheers save them.
Speaker 3: I get a glass and I put a glass over it,
Speaker 3: a piece of paper. That's the way that.
Speaker 2: Okay, mother Teresa, all right, attack who has the time
Speaker 2: to get an aprey piece of paper and some clad glue?
Speaker 5: Grow up, grow up.
Speaker 3: Go get your trapped door.
Speaker 4: I I know.
Speaker 1: I try to save them when I can, But if
Speaker 1: they're in my bedroom and they're gonna get lost in
Speaker 1: my Douner cover or something, I'm sorry, but I have
Speaker 1: to kill.
Speaker 5: See that's where your brain goes. They're not going to
Speaker 5: get lost.
Speaker 3: Are you kidding? I woke up with a huntsman on
Speaker 3: my face. It's a huntsman. It's not gonna hurt you.
Speaker 3: It's like a cockroach.
Speaker 5: I actually have birds because they do they help.
Speaker 4: I won't even tell you my story.
Speaker 5: To help the birds.
Speaker 4: What was this spider?
Speaker 1: There was a spider that I have never seen before.
Speaker 1: And by that I don't mean he hasn't visited me before.
Speaker 3: I mean a.
Speaker 4: Type of spider I have never agreed.
Speaker 1: It was above my car I lived in under the
Speaker 1: ground garbage.
Speaker 5: By the way Britain, Hawaii with Zuckerberg.
Speaker 1: Anyway, above my car was this huge, mongous spider that
Speaker 1: I haven't seen before, like huge, and I'm talking about
Speaker 1: all these It looked dangerous, white stripes, red like like oh,
Speaker 1: it looked like if anything was going to eat me,
Speaker 1: this spider was going to And there was a bit
Speaker 1: of the web that was attached to my car, and
Speaker 1: a bit of the web was that was attached to
Speaker 1: the person's car next to me. So I knew that
Speaker 1: this spider had made plans to travel south to my car,
Speaker 1: and I was worried.
Speaker 3: He was fifty to fifty at this.
Speaker 1: Point, but I was worried he was going to get
Speaker 1: into my car and then I was going to die
Speaker 1: on the highway. So there's a tradesman that was like
Speaker 1: floating around my house, and I was like, oh, perfect.
Speaker 1: So I put a bit of a scar on and
Speaker 1: I went outside and I flattered my eyelids and I
Speaker 1: was like, excuse me, sir, and he was like yes.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, can I ask you the biggest
Speaker 3: favor I ever?
Speaker 4: And he's like sure, what is it?
Speaker 1: I was like, I just needed to help me with
Speaker 1: something in the garage and he was like, okay, sure,
Speaker 1: no worries. And I was like, it's a spider. He's like,
Speaker 1: what do you mean he's a spider. I said, there's
Speaker 1: a really big spider of my car, and I just
Speaker 1: I would just love.
Speaker 4: For you to get rid of it and help me out.
Speaker 1: And he goes, hang on a minute. He's like, how
Speaker 1: big is this spider? And I was like, well, it's
Speaker 1: pretty big. That's why I want you to help me.
Speaker 1: And I could tell that he was starting to drop
Speaker 1: nuggets a little bit, and I was like, oh no,
Speaker 1: this guy's not gonna help me.
Speaker 4: So I was like, just just follow me, come down.
Speaker 3: So I follow.
Speaker 4: So I took him to the garage, just trying this.
Speaker 1: He goes, oh, there is no way, I ain't touching nothing,
Speaker 1: and the big manly Trady refused to save me from
Speaker 1: this spike.
Speaker 4: He was scared of me, A big manly trading was
Speaker 4: scared of it.
Speaker 6: I don't think that just because you're a man means
Speaker 6: that you have the You know that you have the
Speaker 6: bravery to go up against the spider.
Speaker 3: So similarly against it, you were scared.
Speaker 6: But I think it's it's unfair to expect it just
Speaker 6: because someone's a man, that they will be less scared
Speaker 6: than you. And I say this because a very similar
Speaker 6: thing happened to me recently. We've got like a we
Speaker 6: have like the world's dumbest little spar, like a nineties
Speaker 6: spar in our backyard, and we had a guy come
Speaker 6: over and clean it.
Speaker 3: He had to pull the lid off its. The whole
Speaker 3: thing was green inside, disgusting.
Speaker 6: Anyway, he pulls a lid off it and there was
Speaker 6: this humongous huntsman. I'm talking like the whole like think
Speaker 6: about the top.
Speaker 3: Of a coffee mug. Like it was huge. And he
Speaker 3: pulled the lid off and he ran and screamed.
Speaker 6: Down my backyard. This was a four grown burly man screaming.
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, I'm sorry.
Speaker 6: I love Spiders are the one things that do me
Speaker 6: over and I was like, okay, I'll go get it.
Speaker 6: It start to walk in soid I get a piece
Speaker 6: of paper from the craft box and a cup and
Speaker 6: I'm then I had to rescue it.
Speaker 2: I feel like everyone has a little phobia that it
Speaker 2: would surprise them, you know, like spiders. I'm not worried
Speaker 2: about spiders at all, but a magpie, I will not
Speaker 2: look them in the eye.
Speaker 5: Those things. Don't trust magpie. Don't trust.
Speaker 4: You're not supposed to turn you back on a magpie.
Speaker 4: That's when they get he.
Speaker 5: Never had a good conversation with a magpie.
Speaker 3: My my deep phobia is you eating ingum in the studio?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 2: If I eat chewing gum, that sets Laura a light.
Speaker 2: Thirteen one oh six five. What's your phobia? What's going
Speaker 2: on in your life that we could help cue you for?
Speaker 2: Maybe we can help you.
Speaker 4: You get some unique phobias.
Speaker 2: I want to phobias that we go no way, you're
Speaker 2: scared of that? Yeah, shock phobias. Yeah, all right, calls
Speaker 2: here at the pick up. If you're just tuning into
Speaker 2: the show, maybe tune out.
Speaker 3: Don't tune out, don't change it. We're about to.
Speaker 4: Get to the bottom of like the biggest weirdest phobias.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because Britt is terrified of spiders and have one
Speaker 2: in her subterranean palace that no one would.
Speaker 3: Help me with.
Speaker 6: Yes, And also I think that there is a misconception
Speaker 6: that men should be braver when it comes to spiders.
Speaker 6: I think it doesn't matter if you're a guy or
Speaker 6: a girl, whatever's going on. If you're scared of spiders,
Speaker 6: you scared of spiders totally, Jesse, Are you scared of spiders?
Speaker 6: Tell us what you're scared of.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I hate spiders, but I'm actually petrified of cock croaches.
Speaker 6: I hate them to hurt you, though, what are they
Speaker 6: going to notice that?
Speaker 7: I think it's because they're quick. They're really quick, and
Speaker 7: they you.
Speaker 8: Recently I discovered they can fly at you, and that's
Speaker 8: just oh beside myself.
Speaker 3: Apparently, surprisingly, they're quite clean. They're really clean.
Speaker 7: Which is currently they're only attracted to clean houses. But
Speaker 7: I feel I don't like them, like.
Speaker 8: I'm getting the heavy geebies and like the sweats.
Speaker 7: Just talking.
Speaker 8: There's something now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's something about the fact that they can withstand
Speaker 2: a nuclear bomb that just is really because you can
Speaker 2: smash them with a R M. Williams boot all you want,
Speaker 2: but no, those things are living us. Hey, Maddie, are
Speaker 2: you phobia by what?
Speaker 7: I'm a phobia of tsunamis.
Speaker 3: Where I have a phobia quicksand but I think we've
Speaker 3: been lied to.
Speaker 5: Okay, So why is scared? What's what's caused this?
Speaker 7: Well, when I was six years old, went to Thailand
Speaker 7: on a family holiday and Mum and.
Speaker 8: Dad thought it'd be just a fabulous idea to buy
Speaker 8: the Thailand tsunami documentary.
Speaker 3: Ah, it's terrizing.
Speaker 7: Yeah, so six years old, we watched the documentary in
Speaker 7: the Thailand hotel and ever since has been absolutely petrified.
Speaker 4: And yeah, I thought.
Speaker 7: Them the Pean River, We're going to have a pin
Speaker 7: river possible.
Speaker 6: No's terrorizing your children. Don't take them on a holiday
Speaker 6: and then show them the worst thing that's happened.
Speaker 2: I guess the good thing Mattie though, is it soon?
Speaker 2: I'm as you get warning because it's normally there's an
Speaker 2: earthquake that tsunami.
Speaker 5: You're never going to get a random tsunami.
Speaker 1: Yes you can, because sometimes the earthquakes are so minute
Speaker 1: that you don't feel them.
Speaker 4: Surprised.
Speaker 7: That makes me feel so much better.
Speaker 6: Yeah, great job, Britt, Then call up and we'll help
Speaker 6: you with your fears.
Speaker 3: Were actually could happen anywhere?
Speaker 2: Amy?
Speaker 5: On thirteen one or six five? What's your weird phobia?
Speaker 7: Horses?
Speaker 3: The majestic and beautiful?
Speaker 5: Do you have a bad experience?
Speaker 8: Absolutely not majestic and beautiful?
Speaker 7: In my eyes, they are terrifying.
Speaker 3: What what about them? Like? Did you did something happen?
Speaker 3: Was there? Did you fall of a horse? Get kicked
Speaker 3: by a horse?
Speaker 7: Laura?
Speaker 8: We went to the same high schools that Mary's. Oh,
Speaker 8: no way. I don't know if you remember the year
Speaker 8: seven I think it was year seven camp. There was
Speaker 8: some sort of farm involved and we had to go
Speaker 8: horse writing.
Speaker 3: Yes, one hundred percent, I remember this, clears it. Wait,
Speaker 3: we're in the same year in years.
Speaker 8: I was a couple of years below you.
Speaker 3: Okay, what was she like at school?
Speaker 2: I was always in trouble, So you had the same
Speaker 2: horse experiences, Amy.
Speaker 3: It's like part of like school camp. You would go
Speaker 3: and there was it's like.
Speaker 8: A trail ride and I remember saying to the teacher,
Speaker 8: I don't want to do that, and they were like, no,
Speaker 8: get on the horse, and I boiled my eyes out.
Speaker 8: The whole time, because I just we're so terrified of
Speaker 8: this thing, and it was probably just this poor little
Speaker 8: I don't know.
Speaker 6: Probably probably were girls who are mean off the back
Speaker 6: of it as well.
Speaker 5: You can catch up privately. That's good for you too,
Speaker 5: But everyone else, I.
Speaker 3: Have an update.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was also doing some googling while you're talking.
Speaker 1: In six days time, on March fourteen, there is actually
Speaker 1: a day dedicated to spiders. There's a Spider Day National
Speaker 1: Spider It's called Save a Spider Day, and it is
Speaker 1: to help reduce a rachnophobia or the fear of spiders
Speaker 1: and help conserve spiders.
Speaker 6: So Saturday it is for you, so that we can
Speaker 6: start saving the spiders with a little cup and a
Speaker 6: piece of paper.
Speaker 4: There really is a day for everything.
Speaker 5: Is Also we have one last called Buttercup. Is called
Speaker 5: butter Cup on thirty one O six five.
Speaker 3: Same.
Speaker 6: The only thing I want to say about that brick.
Speaker 6: Going back to the one day of spiders, I think we're.
Speaker 5: Done with it.
Speaker 3: Okay, what.
Speaker 5: Is there anyone that wants?
Speaker 6: Why do the spiders get as much time as women
Speaker 6: International Women's Day and the spiders get it?
Speaker 1: Interational spidermales to Laura.
Speaker 5: And they have eight babies at a time, so consider
Speaker 5: so lucky eight babies. All right, we're going to go now,
Speaker 5: maybe for the last time ever. Goodbye, see you guys.