WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT: "Should we have a baby first or get a dog first?"

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<v Speaker 3>But today we have one we haven't really had before.

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<v Speaker 3>We have Casey on the line, who is having a

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<v Speaker 3>bit of a problem deciding what comes first, a baby

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<v Speaker 3>or a dog. Casey, welcome to the show. Talk us

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<v Speaker 3>through the situation.

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<v Speaker 4>So basically, I would really love a dog, and my

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<v Speaker 4>partner is super hesitant because they want to get pregnant.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't understand why you have to have a baby

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<v Speaker 1>or a dog. Is the dog a puppy and you're

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to do it at the same time, because that would.

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<v Speaker 4>Be a lot Well, no, it would be a puppy.

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<v Speaker 4>We would have it like a year beforehand. But they're

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<v Speaker 4>afraid that we're gonna stop loving the dog, or that

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<v Speaker 4>it's going to be too hard for us. But I

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<v Speaker 4>also see it as a bit of a test.

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<v Speaker 2>It will be a test for sure. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna stop.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I don't have a kid. Laura has a

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<v Speaker 3>multiple kids and a dog. But I don't think you're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna stop loving the dog. But it is a lot

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<v Speaker 3>to be taking on because a puppy is really hard work,

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<v Speaker 3>and puppies aren't puppies for like two or three months.

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<v Speaker 2>Puppies can be puppies for two years.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean it's interesting because no one wants to

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<v Speaker 1>admit that. Like like when I had Buster so Busses

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<v Speaker 1>my dog. I had him for quite a few years

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<v Speaker 1>before having children, and he was he came with me

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<v Speaker 1>everywhere like everything I did. Buster just was in tow

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. That became a little bit trickier to

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<v Speaker 1>manage when I had a baby. So you know, of

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<v Speaker 1>course he still gets all the love, he gets all

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<v Speaker 1>the attention, but he wasn't as much as in like

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<v Speaker 1>if I was dragging around a pram and the baby

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<v Speaker 1>and then having to get from one place to another,

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<v Speaker 1>the pram was in the back. There was no space

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<v Speaker 1>for the dog to be in the back. Mind you,

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<v Speaker 1>He's also enormous, And I want to be careful about

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<v Speaker 1>saying this. I know there's gonna be so many people

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<v Speaker 1>here and who were like, you should not treat your

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<v Speaker 1>dog any different of course in a per well, but

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<v Speaker 1>like there's less time for everyone because you're bringing in

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<v Speaker 1>a whole human into the world. So for a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people it deprioritizes a little bit, but you don't

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<v Speaker 1>love them any less, and it rebalances once you get

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<v Speaker 1>a grip on the whole motherhood thing and you and

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<v Speaker 1>you figure it out and you find your feet and

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<v Speaker 1>then you know. And now in our situation, we've got

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<v Speaker 1>two kids and our dog adapted.

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<v Speaker 2>He's eleven. He loves life, and now he's got two

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<v Speaker 2>kids terrorizing. I think that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Laws he's eleven, and so even when you started having kids,

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<v Speaker 3>he was quite.

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<v Speaker 2>Old, ye six at the time.

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<v Speaker 3>Is there a way you could maybe adopt a dog

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<v Speaker 3>that's not a puppy or get, you know, a dog

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<v Speaker 3>that's a little bit older in life, that's not as

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<v Speaker 3>needy and as energetic as you know.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean that's not a bad idea, that's a

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<v Speaker 4>good compromise. But I think the idea of having a

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<v Speaker 4>puppy is seeing how he raise something together.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby different a baby a baby dog and a baby human.

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<v Speaker 2>They're so different, Yes, yeah, they are, they really are.

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<v Speaker 1>Controversially, I reckon a puppy is sometimes harder than a human.

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<v Speaker 2>I really do.

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<v Speaker 1>They're harder to like just I know you can kind

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<v Speaker 1>of leave them at home and stuff like that. You

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<v Speaker 1>come home, they've eaten through your underwear, They've pissed on

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<v Speaker 1>your laptop.

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<v Speaker 2>Like puppies are hard work. Yeah, I would agree.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so what's the decision here is?

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<v Speaker 3>My advice is get a dog for sure, because you know,

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<v Speaker 3>my dog is the best thing in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Get a dog. I just don't think you.

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<v Speaker 3>Should probably be having a baby and a dog at

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<v Speaker 3>the exact same time. The way you train your puppy

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<v Speaker 3>is like instrumental in for that dog's the rest of

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<v Speaker 3>its life. Like the way how easy it is for

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<v Speaker 3>you in your day to day, how well it's trained,

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<v Speaker 3>how well it obeys you.

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<v Speaker 2>Like the way you set up your dog. And I

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<v Speaker 2>hate something set up.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's so true that makes the rest of its life,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, make or break.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm confused. Is it you who wants the puppy?

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<v Speaker 4>So I want the puppy, but she thinks it's going

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<v Speaker 4>to be too much work, and I think it's a

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<v Speaker 4>good test.

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<v Speaker 1>It might be who do you think is going to

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<v Speaker 1>end up doing the majority share of the puppy load

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<v Speaker 1>me you reckon?

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<v Speaker 2>All right? Well maybe look it might work. Good Luck,

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<v Speaker 2>that's all I have to say. Good luck. A baby

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<v Speaker 2>and a puppy is hard work, that's for sure.