WEBVTT - FULLSHOW! 50% of Women Have A Backup Boyfriend!? 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:20.080 Laura, come on, hell everyone welcome. 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:26.120 Who watched The Bachelor? Okay, I'm sick for it. Like 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:27.280 I love The Bachelor. 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:29.920 You've got a husband and two kids from the show. 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:32.080 I know, I feel like maybe I am a little 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:35.199 bit biased, but I actually do love watching it and 0:00:35.240 --> 0:00:37.320 the fact that they've got the three bachelors now, like 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:38.720 it's weird, it feels different. 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:40.479 I know they did it last year, but I'm into it. 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:40.839 I love it. 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:43.040 So Laura, if you were on the show now and 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:44.320 you had to go and pick your. 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:47.920 I mean, my husband can hear this, but that's fine. 0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:53.000 Pleasure is the lumberjack one, the Luke Luke. 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:57.600 Why just he just you know why? Okay. 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:00.080 On the first episode, he was talking about how he 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:03.160 was engaged before and then he broke up with his 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:05.760 ex and that relationship didn't work out. But it was 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:08.120 the way in which he spoke about his ex. He said, oh, 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:09.959 you know, I was once engaged to someone who I 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:13.160 love so much. She was an incredible person, and things 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:14.600 don't just sometimes don't work. 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:16.920 Out the way you expected them to. Just the way 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:18.840 he spoke about his ex, I was like, oh my god, 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:19.160 this is. 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:20.360 A good man's on a. 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:22.520 TV show is the leading man. What did you think 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:23.200 he was going to stay? 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:23.399 Now? 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:25.039 I don't know him. This is no judgment, but like, 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:25.600 come on. 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:28.200 He could have said I was heartbroken, you know, things 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.039 didn't work out. He could have made it about himself, 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:32.560 but instead he said really lovely things about her, and 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:33.720 I thought that that says a lot. 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:34.200 About a person. 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:35.960 It does look good in overalls with an accident. 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:36.959 Here are you picking? 0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:41.240 I didn't watch it, but I like Usha quick Gosha 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:43.160 and he looks the most gay. He looks the most gay. 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:44.880 It's seven thirty on Channel ten tonight. If you want 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:46.440 to watch the new season of the Bachelor, Yeah, I'll 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:47.680 give it a go. I'm excited for it. 0:01:47.760 --> 0:01:48.120 All right. 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:50.320 Well, coming up, if you are in a long term 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:53.080 relationship and you're a female, there is quite an alarming 0:01:53.160 --> 0:01:55.560 study that has come out that says that a lot 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:58.360 of women might have back up boyfriends in mind. 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:00.880 Oh all right, that's all on the here at the pickup. 0:02:01.720 --> 0:02:02.000 Okay. 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.720 So I came across a new study recently, and the 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:09.440 findings of this study are very controversial. It really pertains 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:10.720 to you more than it does to me. But I 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:13.080 want to know how you feel about this. Okay, So 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:16.880 this is the findings. Fifty percent of women in relationships 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:18.560 have a backup partner. 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:20.079 Now what rubbish? 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.120 Okay, wait wait wait, What that means is not that 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:24.760 you have somebody already on the go or anything like that, 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:28.320 but just that most women who are in relationships have 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.800 somebody in the periphery of their mind who they could 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:33.120 go to if things fell. 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:34.000 Flat in their relationship. 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:37.400 Now, like a kind of like a just in case emergency, 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:38.960 pull the ripcord kind of person. 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:40.760 It took me the better part of ten years to 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:43.440 find the first person to be in the relationship with. 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:45.040 How are these people finding backup? 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:47.040 Who has an understudied partner? Wait? 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:49.480 And like, do you have to like stay in some 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.160 sort of contact with his people to make sure that 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:53.120 they're staying on your level to fill. 0:02:53.040 --> 0:02:55.600 Yes, like a six weekly checking in. This is dumb. 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:57.920 This is so dumb. If you are listening right now 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.880 and you have a backup person for your relafelationship, I'm 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:02.760 going to tell you some groundbreaking news. 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:04.200 You're in the wrong relationship. 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:06.760 If you are already backing up that your relationship isn't 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:07.280 going to work. 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:08.440 Call it quits now. 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:11.040 Yes, but what if it's still early doors. Okay, like 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:12.720 you're saying this, what if you've only been dating for 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:15.000 six months or seven months or something, and you're in it, 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:16.680 but you're not one hundred percent sure if they're one 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:17.799 hundred percent and. 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:21.360 So then you have this I have a conversation. 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:22.840 Yeah, how are you doing this? 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:23.040 No? 0:03:23.080 --> 0:03:24.720 But I actually, to be honest, Laura, I know what 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:25.080 you mean. 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:26.840 When you're in the early stages of dating and the 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:29.000 roster is open, you have a couple of people on 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.200 the back burner in the first six months. 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:33.880 I okay, that's different. You've got a roster. 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:35.520 Yeah, yeah, yeah, But if you're in a long term 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:37.000 relationship bad Also. 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.120 Don't come for me. This is not my data. I'm 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:40.480 not the fifty percent in this room. 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:41.800 Okay, you went out on the street. 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:43.480 No, no, yeah, I wasn't like, Hey, how do I 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:45.560 feel about my husband? I know who have two children 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:48.040 with No. But this is obviously there has been quite 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.440 a research pool that's been done and there are people 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:51.160 who have this. 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:51.800 Now. 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:53.640 I would love to know if you were out there 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:55.520 and you have feelings about this, or you have a 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:57.200 backup partner in mind, what does that look for? 0:03:57.200 --> 0:03:59.240 Thirteen One of six five a burner partner. It's like 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:00.520 a burner phone you've just got. 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:03.120 Like maybe you say, oh, he's just my friend, but 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:04.560 you've got a partner. 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:06.400 It means you also don't want to be on your own, 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:09.000 means you want a monkey branch because I thought of 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:10.720 them breaking up with you is like, oh, I need 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:11.680 to have someone ready to go. 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:14.320 Liz is here, I'm thirteen one or six five? Do 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:15.320 you have a backup partner? 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:15.640 Liz? 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:20.039 I do not have a backup partner. I think that's ridiculous, 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:23.279 and I think it's really sad. Like I totally agree. 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:25.359 I think that the study should be titled that fifty 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:27.440 percent of women aren't happy in their relationships. 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:30.880 Women are insecure in their relationship. 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:34.040 Totally Like who knew that behind closed doors women secretly 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:37.159 have a boyfriend reserve bank. I think it's crazy and. 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:40.560 Also the best part about I think leaving a relationship 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:42.680 is then having those single months after And if you've 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:44.920 got a backup waiting, then you just are robbing yourself 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:45.719 of personal growth. 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:48.560 How long you've been in your relationship For Liz, I've 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:51.919 been in a relationship for seven years. No no itch, 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:53.200 no backup, no. 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.599 Itch, no and I just think like there's a difference 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:58.680 between having a little perv on someone and then having 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:01.720 a backup like I also, I think imagine if the 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:04.400 shree was on the other foot, imagine for the study 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:06.520 done by men like we would be up in. 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:07.880 Art totally true. 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:11.400 All right, Ella's called on thirteen. Ella, what's your take 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:14.440 on this? Do you have a backup partner? Oh? 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:16.080 Look, I think that we all do. I'm not sure 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:18.719 that statistics right, I think it's much higher. I think 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:21.000 most would if they're being truly honest. 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:22.880 Okay, I have to know, Ella, how long have you 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.240 been in a relationship for She's like even years? 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:29.520 All right, what's what's the backup? How close are they? Like? 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:31.479 What's the proximity to your backup? Could you go to 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:32.640 them tomorrow? 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:34.320 Or I could? 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:37.880 But that means you are having contact with them, Ella, Which. 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:39.920 Wait, I need to know more. Where are things at 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:42.040 now in terms of appropriate friendship level? 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:45.720 Like do you is there they's best friends? Oh? 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:49.680 Ella, Ella, Ella, Ella, I'm gonna wait, I need more. 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:53.080 You are the minority here, not the other way around. 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.840 Okay, I understand that it's just very complicated because the 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:58.040 best friend is also my. 0:05:58.000 --> 0:06:01.080 Omic Okay, you got way bigger issues, all right, but 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:02.960 we don't have time about I. 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:03.680 Know I need to know. 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:05.560 So wait, you've kept him as a friend though, and 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:07.919 your partner things that you guys are all just amicable friends. 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:09.360 But there's still some fire there. 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:11.360 I think there is. 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:14.119 Yeah, And it's not my decision that they're still friends. 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:15.960 They're just wear it still on each other's lives. 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:17.520 This is. 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:21.680 A najatoire, but today I think that's what it is. 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:25.320 I'm just saying, maybe go for it, dive in. 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:27.400 I think you need to can that friendship, Britt. I 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:28.919 agree with you. I think that that's a friendship. 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:32.120 That's a disaster waiting to Speaking of disasters, waiting to happen, 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:34.880 Britt and Mitch, you guys are going traveling together at 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:37.320 the end of this year, very soon, romantic holidays a 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.560 matter of weeks, just the two of you. And look, 0:06:39.640 --> 0:06:42.040 I don't know if you are accurate. I don't know 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:44.560 if you were both as compatible as you think you are. 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:47.480 You're jealous, I am, But I also I think that 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.320 this is going to end in disaster. I think this 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:51.120 is going to end in true love. 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:51.520 And a marriage. 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:56.120 Yeah, we'll talk about that next week you pick up. 0:06:57.279 --> 0:07:00.720 In very exciting news. Mitch and I have just to 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:04.520 go on our very first overseas holiday together. 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:05.600 We're a couple. 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:07.560 You do say it like you've made that step in 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:10.000 the right direction of your relationship. It's a big step in. 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:12.160 A friendship relationship because you can be really good friends 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:14.880 with someone and traveling is a whole another kettle of fish. 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.760 Mitch and I have decided, well, I'm going overseas for 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.320 Christmas and New Years to the UK, to Scotland to 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:23.080 see my partner Ben his family. My family is going 0:07:23.120 --> 0:07:24.880 over like my mum and dad, my sister. It's a 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:28.800 whole family affair and Mitch's decided he would like to come. 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:30.280 So I'm Scotland. 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:32.800 I'm excited. 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:35.760 I know you guys are thrilled about this, but I 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:37.880 feel like you've forgotten because we have been on an 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:40.200 overseas trip together. We went to Balley last year and 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:43.800 Mitch is a series of disasters when it comes to holiday. 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:46.200 This man yea yea yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeahah yeah. 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:49.040 I've never met a man who is more And I 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:50.400 love you, and I say this with all the love 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:53.239 in the world. Yes, but you are a catastrophizer. 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:54.920 You went to drama school. 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:57.520 You were a dramatizer and a little bit of a hypochondriac, 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:00.400 and that little combination of person to get on an 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:02.160 overseas holiday could end in disaster. 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:03.160 But I'm a fun person. 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:04.800 You never know what's going to happen. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:05.120 Yeah. 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:07.920 No, well we remember in Bali you got barley belly. 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.320 You called a doctor to put you on a drip. 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:13.680 You crashed your scooter. Then you got so scared of driving. 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:14.400 Someone hit me. 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:16.440 Yeah, then you didn't drive it anymore. 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:16.920 That monkey. 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:18.680 You wouldn't drink, You wouldn't. 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:19.040 Drink the water. 0:08:19.240 --> 0:08:20.560 You didn't know how to book your flies. You know 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:22.600 how to book your accommodation. I had to book your 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:26.400 flights to Scotland for this trip. It made me realize, 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:28.400 I don't know how this trip is going to go. 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:31.680 The other thing, the icing on the cake, is that 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:35.920 you have this obsession with my boyfriend Ben, and I'm 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.040 a bit concern that when you go on this trip, 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:40.120 I'm going to get kicked out and you and himre 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:41.160 gonna have some little love affairs. 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.400 When Ben came over from from Scotland for the first time, 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:45.439 BRIT's like, I really wanted to be friends. You'd be friends, 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:47.920 so we forged a friendship. Now I'm accused of trying 0:08:47.960 --> 0:08:49.000 to bone BRIT's boyfriend. 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:50.760 What did you write to him on the weekend? I 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:51.720 saw your text message. 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:54.120 I just said I miss you? Do you love me 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:54.760 as much? 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:57.319 That is literally? And what did he say? 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:58.400 He said yes? 0:08:58.559 --> 0:08:59.920 And then I said can I drive your car when 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:03.800 in Scotland? And he said absolutely not. Well, well, are 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:04.520 you actually worried? 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:05.559 Because I'm good about you. 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:07.800 I've grown, I'm an older person, I've lost weight, I'm 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:09.760 lighter on the plane, like, there's so much benefits to. 0:09:09.800 --> 0:09:10.400 Traveling with me. 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:12.560 No, I am a little bit worried about how it's 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:15.199 going to go down because you aren't joining the family trip, 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:17.439 your mom and dad, My mom and dad as well. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:19.160 We're going on this three day road trip. But I 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:20.960 do want to ask you, just like I just need 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:22.040 to test the waters a little bit. 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:23.760 Hold on, is this an interview to see if I 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:24.439 can come or not? 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:26.640 We want to see how compatible you actually are for. 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:29.200 Traveling Toots with this you churncut. 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:29.880 I like to know. 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:33.520 I would like to place a situation, a scenario. Okay, 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:35.640 we're hiking you and I are in the Scottish Higlands. 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:36.240 This is dramatic. 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:41.600 Do you have some dramatic musicscucts? Hiking is a snowstorm prepared? 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:44.520 A snowstorm comes out of nowhere, Okay, because that's what 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:45.480 happens in the highlands. 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:47.400 I'm closing my eyes as we subl as we. 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:48.840 Start to run from the avalanche. 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.480 I have trips. It's an avalanche over a highland cow 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:55.280 and I have rolled my ankle and I can I 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:56.360 can't go forward anymore. 0:09:57.000 --> 0:09:57.640 What do you do? 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.680 I checked the cows, okay, because they're in danger highland. 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:07.040 You never suck the vent amount you that's a snake though. 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:09.080 And you don't know whether she had a spinal injury. 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:10.160 To just leave it there totally? 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:12.240 Yes, leave it on a head down? Correct? 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.800 Do you at least leave me with a coat for coke? 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:15.360 A coat? 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:15.640 Oh? 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:19.319 Well, not my coat, no designer, absolutely not. Okay, I'll 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:21.040 call it ambulance. It's one one one in the UK 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:21.760 Okay Highlands. 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:22.719 You don't get an ambulance at it. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:23.040 Okay. 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.679 Scenario two. You and I are on a night out, 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.439 just alone. We're having a great time, drinking feasible. I 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:30.880 can't quite be sure where we are, and. 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:32.760 Then you meet a guy that wants to go home 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:33.000 with you? 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:35.920 Tricky? What do you do in that situation? 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:37.959 Get in the newber and I go home with you? 0:10:38.040 --> 0:10:38.600 What's the problem? 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:41.040 Are you guys not staying at the same hotel at 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:41.400 this point? 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:44.160 Oh yeah, we're sharing a bed in multiple accommodations. 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:46.760 Firstly, you don't bring him back. Secondly, you don't leave 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:50.559 me out there on my own in the club loan 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:53.000 and you let me in the Highlands with an old ankle. Yeah, 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:55.720 I am seeing a pattern here. It's spread alone on holidays. 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.959 Yes, at the moment you're solo traveling. Is your ankle 0:10:59.000 --> 0:10:59.760 still rolled at the night? 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:01.440 Because it is? I mean a moon boo. 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:03.920 Okay, you come with us, you come with us, come 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:04.280 home with this. 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:07.760 You shouldn't want to see that either. All right, I 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:12.080 have a question for you, guys. Mitch. You are quite 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:13.640 the fancy traveler. 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:14.280 Maam you are? 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:17.120 You love your bougier little holiday rooms you like like 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:19.720 you like a good airbnb that has like a breakfast 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:22.000 in the morning, everything all inclusive. 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:25.840 Five star. I don't like hostels. I do love breakfast food. 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:27.680 So how are you going to feel about the fact 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.080 that one of the weeks off your Scottish trip has 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:31.480 been booked in a hostel. 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:33.439 No, we haven't. We have hotels the whole time. 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:35.000 No, okay, you don't. 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.400 Well what happened is Mitch loves boogie things, but Mitch's 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:40.959 bank balance doesn't like boogie things. So we've had to 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:43.280 Mitch one of these fancy stuff and he put me 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:46.360 on a budget. So sorry, we are top and tailing 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:47.040 in event. 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:49.319 You guys are staying at one hotel which is actually 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:51.760 a hostel which has bunk beds in a shared. 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.160 Or is this actually one week? I'm not playing around. 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:56.080 You didn't give me much of a budget to play 0:11:56.080 --> 0:11:56.199 with it. 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:58.319 To me, this is more intense than you want a 0:11:58.360 --> 0:11:59.080 cow in the highlights. 0:11:59.160 --> 0:11:59.520 You know why. 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:01.319 It's because it's balanced. 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.959 So for most of the places you're staying in nice hotels, 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:05.960 but to be able to make it come into budget, 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:08.960 one of the hotels is actually a hostage. That's where 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:09.720 you're going to be staying. 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:11.880 I don't sleep in I'm not doing hostile. You have 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:13.520 back Mountain many times. 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:14.800 Yeah, that's the tenth. 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:16.120 I don't think you've seen that movie. 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:20.240 What holiday are you going on for it? 0:12:20.679 --> 0:12:22.360 I do not think you see that film. 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:29.720 Okay, that was the wrong camping analogy mich is really 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:36.319 excited about. Look, guys, this is going to be a 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:38.760 very very different change of pays. But coming up. I 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:42.080 have a real PSA for parents out there. Don't listen 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:44.120 to the pip tect your kids to. 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:45.599 Keep them out the car that's on the way to 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:47.280 pick up guys. 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.040 I have something that's a lot more serious that I 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:51.120 wanted to talk to you about. It comes as a 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.679 bit of a PSA to parents out there. As you 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:56.400 might know, I'm a mom. I have two little kids, Marley, 0:12:56.480 --> 0:13:00.160 she's four and Lawless two, and on the weekend we 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.640 were faced with the situation that I did not think 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:06.240 I would be faced with this early with my kids. So, 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:07.920 just to kind of give you the background, we have 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:10.480 a lovely older lady who lives next door to us. 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:13.439 She's in her eighties. It's been a really nice part 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:15.079 of like living in this new house is that the 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:17.440 kids will go over and they will visit this lovely 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:20.199 lady next door, and our doors always opened her and 0:13:20.280 --> 0:13:22.640 we kind of try and keep her company as well 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:24.560 as you know, allow the kids to have a bit 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.440 of a relationship with our neighbor, and on the weekend 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:29.839 just passed, I went over there with the girls and 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:32.120 my neighbor and I were standing on the balcony having 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:34.600 a chat, and the girls ran inside into her house 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:37.440 and we're playing around because she's got dolls inside, she's. 0:13:37.320 --> 0:13:38.079 Got things in there. 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:42.800 And about fifteen minutes past and Marley and Lola came out, 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:46.199 and Lola, who's two, was white as a ghost, and 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:49.640 Marley was bawling her eyes out, and I thought, what 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:54.880 could have possibly just happened? And Marley came out and said, oh, 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:57.480 there was something on the TV. And I walked inside, 0:13:57.720 --> 0:14:01.240 and not realizing our neighbor, who is quite elderly, she 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:04.280 didn't really register what she had playing out on the TV, 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:07.319 and she had a true crime documentary playing. And so 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:10.840 the girls had run inside they'd seen something on the TV, 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:12.520 and then they'd stood there and watched it, and they 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:16.840 had seen something truly horrific play out on TV, really violent. 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:19.160 And now this is so much for a little two 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:20.560 year old and a four year old to process, and 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:22.800 also for me as a parent to process the fact 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:24.920 that they've experienced this and they've seen it, and then 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.840 how do we deal with that, and it's just been 0:14:28.040 --> 0:14:30.200 such a challenging two days and it's going to make 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:32.800 me upset because you try so hard as a mum 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:34.920 to protect your kids from this sort of stuff and 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:38.480 then it feels like, in one moment, you can completely 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:41.080 fail them. And that's how I felt off the back 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:43.920 of that experience. And you know, I thought in this 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:46.800 house they were so safe. We've done it a hundred times, 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:48.760 and it was just in that moment and then you're like, 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.240 how do you take back something that they've now seen. 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:53.120 How do you comfort them in a way to explain 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:55.080 what they've seen on a TV isn't real when they're 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:56.840 too young to really comprehend what's happening. 0:14:57.680 --> 0:15:00.800 I mean, I think the thing is here, not that 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:04.080 it makes it okay. But unfortunately in life there are 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:05.760 going to be things that are outside of your control. 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:09.240 And you can be the best parent in the entire world, 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:11.120 which we all know you are, and these things can 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:14.600