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Speaker 1: what we do every week on a Thursday, and that
Speaker 1: is ask uncut Now, Asking Cutters where you guys? You
Speaker 1: call in if you have a big, dark dilemma and
Speaker 1: we do our absolute best to answer them. We have
Speaker 1: Eloise on the phone and she is having a real
Speaker 1: problem in her workplace and isn't sure how to navigate this.
Speaker 2: Hi, Aloise, Hi guys, Hey going to sasterinaon We're good.
Speaker 3: How are you? What's been happening?
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I've I've been working with one of the
Speaker 2: girls I work with for a few years, side by side,
Speaker 2: and i'd overheard recently through the grape vine she has
Speaker 2: been a bit of time talking about me behind my back.
Speaker 2: Do you know what you said? Basically, she's just really
Speaker 2: unhappy with the job I was doing and we do
Speaker 2: the same job. We've just as good as each other.
Speaker 2: She was just really unhappy with how I was working,
Speaker 2: but didn't say it to my face.
Speaker 3: Have you personally overheard her or has another colleague just said.
Speaker 2: Hey, no, another colleague she had spent time talking about
Speaker 2: me for another colleague.
Speaker 1: That's rough. Also, did she speak to just one specific colleague,
Speaker 1: because that's then becomes tricky because you can't be like, hey,
Speaker 1: this person told me this thing that you said, because
Speaker 1: then it just you know, everyone gets pissed off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just have no idea. Like, we literally sit
Speaker 2: next to each other, Like it's really hard to navigate
Speaker 2: when we work so closely together. I know that she's
Speaker 2: really unhappy with me, but you know, we own the
Speaker 2: same wage, we do the same job.
Speaker 3: So do you think that she has said this to
Speaker 3: anybody else? Do you get the inklan that has been
Speaker 3: said to more people?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely feel like it she said it to
Speaker 2: a few people, not one either.
Speaker 1: That opens up the doorway for you to be able
Speaker 1: to say something to her. And also the fact that
Speaker 1: she's talking to multiple people about you, I think that
Speaker 1: poisons the world because all that's doing is it's then
Speaker 1: making other people be more critical of your work or
Speaker 1: look for the negative things. And I reckon, you have
Speaker 1: to say something to it.
Speaker 3: You've got to pull that up right away. I think
Speaker 3: you just say I genuinely, now that you know she
Speaker 3: said it to more than one person, I think you say, hey,
Speaker 3: can I chat to you for a second. Look, I've
Speaker 3: heard that you are unhappy with me for whatever reason.
Speaker 3: I would love for you to be able to tell
Speaker 3: me why. And I hope that in the future, if
Speaker 3: you have an issue with me, you come and tell
Speaker 3: me instead of talking to other people about it. Because
Speaker 3: there are so many things wrong with her talking like
Speaker 3: you just said, poisons the world. But I don't think
Speaker 3: that that needs to be an awkward thing to say. Hey, look,
Speaker 3: can we just talk for a second, because I've heard
Speaker 3: you've been saying this. Put her on the spot and
Speaker 3: see what happens.
Speaker 1: Also awkward though, when you have to go back to
Speaker 1: sitting directly next to us.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like when you say goodbye to someone and then
Speaker 3: you walk in the same direction. Do you think you
Speaker 3: could do that or is that too awkward for you?
Speaker 2: I feel like it'd be really hard to sit next
Speaker 2: to her again.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you moved in.
Speaker 1: What sort of company is it?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: Is it a big company? I don't mean, like.
Speaker 2: Exactly what you need in retail?
Speaker 1: Okay? Right, so you are, do you know what? And
Speaker 1: I run retail businesses, so I know this retail can
Speaker 1: be so bitchy with how people interact but I also
Speaker 1: think that the only way to clear the air with
Speaker 1: this type of thing. And I say this from the
Speaker 1: perspective of someone who manages retail. I have myself twenty
Speaker 1: stars that I managed through my other company. I think
Speaker 1: you have to You've got to call a spade a spade,
Speaker 1: and if it absolutely isn't something that you can handle yourself,
Speaker 1: going and speaking to whoever your manager is about it
Speaker 1: and saying, hey, I'm really struggling with this. I feel
Speaker 1: as though this makes me, you know, it's really ruining
Speaker 1: the culture for me, because then they're going to be
Speaker 1: able to do something about it. But I would I
Speaker 1: would approach it first and be and do it in
Speaker 1: a really non confrontational way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that they're a great steps to take.
Speaker 2: My nervousness is just that she loves the good gossip.
Speaker 2: Then I think maybe I'm just a target that week.
Speaker 3: And it might just go around. Yeah, I'm that also
Speaker 3: doesn't mean it's okay, Like just because someone that is
Speaker 3: someone like, oh, she always does this, we get used
Speaker 3: to making excuses for people like that, like, oh, it's
Speaker 3: just who they are, which is a load of rubbish,
Speaker 3: Like even if that is who they are. That doesn't
Speaker 3: mean it's good.
Speaker 1: I think anyone should be able to go to work
Speaker 1: and not be getting gossiped about like that. We shouldn't
Speaker 1: expect or accept that as a normal And.
Speaker 2: Like you said, I suppose I can always go above
Speaker 2: if there's an issue.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think this is good advice for anyone
Speaker 1: because I think a lot of people feel nervous about,
Speaker 1: like speaking to a manager about something. Those conversations don't
Speaker 1: have to be big and dramatic. You're not dubbing on someone.
Speaker 1: You're just making them aware so that they can manage
Speaker 1: the situation. And most of the time, like a manager
Speaker 1: is not going to go direct to that person say
Speaker 1: this person said this like you would hope. If you've
Speaker 1: got good people in managerial positions, they know how to
Speaker 1: navigate those types of situations if they come up thing
Speaker 1: it's good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I agree, we good that it really sucks.
Speaker 3: I think we've all been on the end of that
Speaker 3: at some point of our career.
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you so much, girl, that's really great advice.
Speaker 1: Thanks Eloise. Hey bridg just at the time you were
Speaker 1: talking about a staff member, but they're behind you.
Speaker 3: Oh do you know what ones? Do you know a
Speaker 3: funny story. I think a lot of people don't know.
Speaker 3: But I used to work in the hospital for like
Speaker 3: thirteen years, and this one time I was in the
Speaker 3: emergency department and there was this doctor that I was
Speaker 3: having a fight with high pressure. We were, yeah, we
Speaker 3: were disagreeing on the way to treat a patient. And
Speaker 3: this was my world, right, Like, I get he's a doctor.
Speaker 3: I'm in diagnostic radiography. I was doing a trauma CT scan.
Speaker 3: He doesn't know what it is. I was like going
Speaker 3: to town on him, and I think I called him
Speaker 3: a moron. I said, he doesn't nice. He's the doctor Brier.
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter. He wasn't the doctor of radiology. They're
Speaker 3: very different, right, Like we study for four years. We
Speaker 3: know that equipment, we know what you do. He doesn't
Speaker 3: know that. And I was saying, he's requesting the wrong thing.
Speaker 3: This is bad for him. This guy's a moron. Doesn't
Speaker 3: know he's talking about. As he walked around the corner
Speaker 3: and I walked around, we bumped into each other. Not
Speaker 3: only did he hear every word, but I said it
Speaker 3: my noise was touching his chest and I was like, well, well,
Speaker 3: it's true, that's what I said, because I had to
Speaker 3: double down. But anyway,