Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 2: This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 3: Sweety ways. The potty is here. Have a lovely weekend.
Speaker 3: Here's the potty.
Speaker 2: Hello love.
Speaker 1: That's got to be people out driving the car, especially
Speaker 1: people that have.
Speaker 3: The yeah turn on.
Speaker 1: No, the people that have the like plug into the
Speaker 1: into the like lighting holder, and they've got to go
Speaker 1: to nices, you know, ninety five point three to like
Speaker 1: hook up their bluetooth.
Speaker 2: What you know? Okay, do you know the one's talking about?
Speaker 1: You put the jack into the lighter of the car
Speaker 1: and then you've got a little radio transmission and you
Speaker 1: get them You get your music through the radio transmission.
Speaker 3: I don't lived that last.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, this is redacted car brand. So someone wants
Speaker 1: to know what we were doing this situation dearest free
Speaker 1: Mindy and flex Mammy Army.
Speaker 3: Amazing.
Speaker 1: I've got a nod one, so buckle up. I went
Speaker 1: on a date recently with a very handsome gentleman. He
Speaker 1: had a lot of charisma. He worked in the alcohol industry.
Speaker 1: Red Flag we can get into it later, Okay, ordered
Speaker 1: us very fancy cocktails. We chatted, We chatted about music
Speaker 1: and traveling. Spot for through me Bro's and we had
Speaker 1: lots of the same interests that the chemistry was obvious,
Speaker 1: a lot of pain to the table today. Over All,
Speaker 1: the date went well, well enough that I wanted to
Speaker 1: see him again. That's amazing. At the end of the day,
Speaker 1: he insisted on walking me home because he weren't far
Speaker 1: from my house. I didn't want him to, but he insisted,
Speaker 1: and he didn't seem like a creep, so I just
Speaker 1: went with it. When we got to my house, we
Speaker 1: shared a passionate smooch oh, and I could tell as
Speaker 1: he pulled away he was waiting for me to jesture
Speaker 1: him upstairs. Ell, it's literally so scary, he gave me,
Speaker 1: should we look inside?
Speaker 2: Oh, my god, should be shame? Should we go look inside?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: Do you have no shame?
Speaker 3: You have no archaeologists, you have.
Speaker 2: No game sert.
Speaker 1: Although I would have let him up, my room was
Speaker 1: a mess and it simply was not gonna happen tonight.
Speaker 1: As I wrapped up the night, he asked my Instagram.
Speaker 1: I gave it him, a kissed again, and he left.
Speaker 1: After he followed me on Insta. I obviously returned the
Speaker 1: favor and followed him back the next day. I was
Speaker 1: anticipating some sort of follow up, but my follow request
Speaker 1: hadn't been accepted. Two days go past and I see
Speaker 1: that my follower request has been declined and he's unfollowed
Speaker 1: me brutal.
Speaker 2: I am in shock.
Speaker 1: Why ask for my insta if you don't want it?
Speaker 1: Or did you look at my profile and decide I
Speaker 1: wasn't cool enough?
Speaker 2: Him?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: Was this person's profile on public or private?
Speaker 3: We okay, how do we have?
Speaker 2: We're going to know?
Speaker 1: This whole situation has left me feeling pretty low, babe.
Speaker 1: I hate how rejection often makes me reflect on myself
Speaker 1: and what's wrong with me. But this situation truly fell
Speaker 1: like slap in the face. We're gonna help you, SI,
Speaker 1: We're gonna give you our advice on how to rebaar
Speaker 1: repair your relationship with yourself because it isn't about this man.
Speaker 1: I just always say bo dodged?
Speaker 2: Do you? That feels like a.
Speaker 3: New one from me. I've never heard that quote, that
Speaker 3: sequence of words. I don't think it's come out. I
Speaker 3: couldn't even recognize she.
Speaker 2: Said you should have given me that one FLEXI come
Speaker 2: on now, reading me?
Speaker 3: We have collectively, I don't think we've ever said.
Speaker 2: That play the types we can play.
Speaker 4: We don't have any reference from that on the archives man,
Speaker 4: that's got a sting, But it's hurtful because it affirms
Speaker 4: what she was avoiding, which was, well, I can imagine
Speaker 4: it's one of these things where like there's obvious chemistry here, right,
Speaker 4: so like, let's build on that chemistry.
Speaker 3: I can imagine she'd be here being like, I'm being
Speaker 3: really genuine, I'm showing up and giving you all personality.
Speaker 3: I'm assuming you're doing the same. Come to find out,
Speaker 3: it was just transactional. Like you were just trying to hit,
Speaker 3: and when you didn't get what you wanted, you didn't
Speaker 3: even have the decency to like uncouple. You hit the
Speaker 3: unfollow like it's the most transactional of dynamics. And that's
Speaker 3: the thing. That thing that gets me is that like
Speaker 3: there are people that out there that this is their game, right,
Speaker 3: they don't have to pretend wine and dine. They'll say
Speaker 3: straight up, this is what I'm interested in. I don't
Speaker 3: want to date. I just want something more intimate, more physical.
Speaker 3: And you can clock on and be like, okay, cool,
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 2: What this is.
Speaker 3: But then people use the tools of romance and traditional
Speaker 3: dating to just get the sex. That's when you're like,
Speaker 3: come on, you have other avenues for this, You have
Speaker 3: other avenues. You could have done this differently.
Speaker 2: Hey yeah, yeah, yeay, yay. That hits differently for some,
Speaker 2: doesn't it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, alas a lot to reflect on. Don't feel bad,
Speaker 3: but you know, it's a tough pill to swallow when
Speaker 3: you realize this is just the way the world is.
Speaker 3: You just do the things you can, experience nice moments,
Speaker 3: and you can still not get what you want.
Speaker 1: It's so sad and sometimes you realize what I wanted,
Speaker 1: I'm so glad I didn't get. That's a key learning
Speaker 1: you want to elaborate or all I say is when
Speaker 1: you come out of the de lulu and some things
Speaker 1: become clear. It's a win loose situation because you realize
Speaker 1: just how de lulu you could become, which is a
Speaker 1: bit scary. But you also dodge a bullet, which is priceless.
Speaker 1: Bullet dodged, as we say, bullet dodged nowadays on the Internet,
Speaker 1: I feel like stories about being petty get a lot
Speaker 1: of airtime. My bestie Louis Hanson, that's like Lewis Hanson
Speaker 1: on Instagram did a whole segment called Petti Tea. We
Speaker 1: would ask people for the pettiest things they ever did
Speaker 1: and then reshare them absolutely brilliant stuff. I hope he
Speaker 1: brings the segment back in Q four. In Q four,
Speaker 1: we have found a woman on TikTok who talks about
Speaker 1: how she got revender of a guy. Unfortunately, she's deleted
Speaker 1: the TikTok, so I just have to explain it, but
Speaker 1: it's worth it. So a girl and her friends went
Speaker 1: to a comedy night and they accidentally spilt a drink
Speaker 1: on a guy that they knew. The guy turns around
Speaker 1: and calls the girl, who accidently speses helt it a
Speaker 1: number of derogatory terms, including crapping on the way she looked,
Speaker 1: and a lot of other things that I think are
Speaker 1: very unacceptable. So what the friend did to stick up
Speaker 1: for her friend? I always love it when her friend
Speaker 1: comes in is she begun sending him spoilers to all
Speaker 1: of his favorite shows on burner accounts. So she knew
Speaker 1: that this guy loved Game of Thrones. Every week she'd
Speaker 1: go to Reddit find a spoiler from America who send it.
Speaker 2: In the dms.
Speaker 3: He's sending seasoned tos.
Speaker 2: He's like, oh my god, please stop.
Speaker 1: He couldn't find anyone to make it stop because there
Speaker 1: was always a burner account. I always find a way, email, message,
Speaker 1: call to give in.
Speaker 2: The spoilers.
Speaker 1: Got me thinking, this is a pretty incredible way to
Speaker 1: get revenge. Would you ever be compelled, Mickey to get
Speaker 1: revenge on someone? What are your thoughts on petty revenge.
Speaker 5: I've contemplated it, I've never done it. Why the logistics,
Speaker 5: just the situation. When my friend was going through a breakup,
Speaker 5: we did like think about popping all his tires because
Speaker 5: we knew where he parked his car. And then I
Speaker 5: just was like, oh, let's spit spitting on that bad comer.
Speaker 2: I'm so illegal.
Speaker 3: Okay, I said revenge.
Speaker 2: He didn't do it, so I did do it, but
Speaker 2: I thought about it.
Speaker 1: You really don't strike me as someone who's ever wanted
Speaker 1: to get revenge.
Speaker 3: And I think it might be an overcorrection from my
Speaker 3: emotionally detached days. Let's say you're in a little bit
Speaker 3: of conflict with someone, I feel like the bulk of
Speaker 3: your energy should go towards the resolution. If you can't resolve,
Speaker 3: then bounce, like save yourself with the extra energy, and
Speaker 3: I don't mean suppress the emotions, but I feel like it's
Speaker 3: watching somebody a knack to revenge. I'm like, I don't
Speaker 3: really think this is helping you like you think it's
Speaker 3: helping you, because everybody comes down from bitterness.
Speaker 2: We really do.
Speaker 3: Like you come down off the high being bitter and angry,
Speaker 3: and the shame always follows. Even when it's all your fault,
Speaker 3: the shame comes. So imagine you had the additional the
Speaker 3: default shame that's going to be there, and then the
Speaker 3: added shame of the ongoing narrative of this thing that
Speaker 3: you did. So let's say you put I don't know
Speaker 3: glue in their shampoo, and now you're seeing Micky laughing,
Speaker 3: and now you see they're posting updates being like, oh
Speaker 3: my god, I've got traction alopecia. My hair's falling out.
Speaker 3: I have no idea why. And then they end up
Speaker 3: becoming a content creator talking about early on set traction
Speaker 3: alopecia that comes out of nowhere. And now they're suing
Speaker 3: the shampoo brand and there's a class action lawsuit happening.
Speaker 3: They're probably gonna lose because it didn't It wasn't the
Speaker 3: shampoo's fault because they tested it and there was glue
Speaker 3: in it. And now the cops are like, oh no,
Speaker 3: this is like a potential homicide case, so we need
Speaker 3: to do some investigations. And now your fingerprints are on
Speaker 3: the bottle of it, and now you have to be like,
Speaker 3: oh no, those are old fingerprints. But then that person's like, no,
Speaker 3: I literally bought this shampoo like last week. There's a
Speaker 3: new fingerprint. And then they might say, oh, well it's
Speaker 3: someone in the supermarket. They did it to you. So
Speaker 3: they get the seat to keep me footage and like
Speaker 3: there was no one. And then what happens is the
Speaker 3: person who was stocking the shelves that day ends up
Speaker 3: doing twenty to life because people are of the impression
Speaker 3: that they were spiking all the shampoo bottles. That's what
Speaker 3: revenge is.
Speaker 2: So what you're saying is, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I always say I critical think for fun. I don't
Speaker 3: really think it's practical critical thinking, Like I think that
Speaker 3: it's just in this beautiful conceptual bubble where you can
Speaker 3: just think around in circles. But realistically, you have to
Speaker 3: do what makes you happy. And if slashing a tie
Speaker 3: in the moment made you happy, then I'm sure you
Speaker 3: have enough of that positivity to write out the consequences.
Speaker 3: People don't do that enough. Just do what makes you
Speaker 3: feel good in this moment. I support you nonetheless, not legally,
Speaker 3: never legally, from my heart, not on record, from like
Speaker 3: the crust of my heart, definitely not inside.
Speaker 1: You're listening to flex and rooms on.
Speaker 3: Kit anybody actually went to UNI College tertiary education. I
Speaker 3: feel as though even if you learnt heaps of stuff,
Speaker 3: you can definitely recognize gaps in your understanding of the
Speaker 3: w world and people around you. And who knows if
Speaker 3: UNI was ever meant to fill those gaps, if you
Speaker 3: were meant to apply yourself and take initiative and do
Speaker 3: your own research. But I saw this video from z
Speaker 3: Marna that taps into what we should have learned at
Speaker 3: UNI and didn't love it.
Speaker 1: In every class, it's very important to have an enemy,
Speaker 1: a joker, and a crush, and sometimes they can be.
Speaker 2: One and the same.
Speaker 1: Like the enemy can be a joker if you're really lucky,
Speaker 1: the enemy can be the crush.
Speaker 2: Oh that's actually kind of a perfect situation.
Speaker 3: What I say. This really clicked for me because I
Speaker 3: feel like a lot of us don't anticipate a life
Speaker 3: where we have any actual enemies or a life where
Speaker 3: we can go to the source of someone for a
Speaker 3: bit of humor. It's this over emphasis on a crush.
Speaker 3: But imagine it's like you were taught from like your
Speaker 3: youngest days. They're going to be three types of people
Speaker 3: people are attracted to, yep. People who make you laugh,
Speaker 3: people who make you hate yourself or hate them. I
Speaker 3: don't think. I think if we were truly prepared for that,
Speaker 3: life would make a bit more sense because I personally,
Speaker 3: for me, where my resilience fails is when people that
Speaker 3: I thought were like fine or had great personalities are
Speaker 3: actually deplorable people. Oh like people I fundamentally cannot stand.
Speaker 2: And how do you get to that? Like, how do
Speaker 2: you realize that.
Speaker 3: You just get to know people? I think, for the
Speaker 3: most part, like most people, in my opinion, are fine
Speaker 3: on a surface level. I think a lot of us
Speaker 3: are self alwa enough to know that we don't want
Speaker 3: to be considered annoying or we don't want to be
Speaker 3: on the outside of anything, So we develop the social
Speaker 3: skills that will ensure that we have connections, we have friends,
Speaker 3: and we have people we can talk to people, we
Speaker 3: can lean on, but I think what we don't spend
Speaker 3: a lot of time on is digging deeper. I remember
Speaker 3: my mum gave me this advice because my mum's very
Speaker 3: big on hygiene, and she was like, please, don't be
Speaker 3: one of those people that spends all their time trying
Speaker 3: to make sure that they look good on the outside,
Speaker 3: but then don't do any of the basics of your
Speaker 3: hygiene to make sure you actually present that way. I
Speaker 3: just remember being in like high school locker rooms and
Speaker 3: everybody just finishing gym and spraying impulse, having not worn
Speaker 3: diodor in beforehand.
Speaker 2: Disgusting.
Speaker 3: You can't mask it, babe.
Speaker 2: Or people who.
Speaker 3: Refuse to take off their makeup before they go to
Speaker 3: bed and ruin their sheets, have stains everywhere, but then
Speaker 3: don't care about washing it because like you know how
Speaker 3: this is, or like I just like those little things.
Speaker 3: I'm like, yes, you can only mask the outside for
Speaker 3: so long before you have to dig deep and be
Speaker 3: accountable for what gets revealed.
Speaker 2: And that's gonna hit differently.
Speaker 3: I always forget that. I'm like, yes, if you want
Speaker 3: to know people deeper, you have to, or if you
Speaker 3: want the beauty of getting to know someone deeply. You
Speaker 3: have to make room for not liking what you find,
Speaker 3: and I always forget that.
Speaker 2: I never want to know that. I know it's awful.
Speaker 2: The horrors are endless, would you not agree?
Speaker 3: I take it back now, the horrors are limited. I
Speaker 3: think the horrors are finite. The love is endless.
Speaker 1: That's all right, that's all right, ladies and gentlemen.
Speaker 2: It's that time of week again. Play the tape, Mickey.
Speaker 5: Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Mickey's
Speaker 5: music quiz.
Speaker 3: Thank you beautiful.
Speaker 2: I was checking an actual thing. What are you doing to?
Speaker 3: Budget? Allocation had increased out. He didn't like my that's
Speaker 3: for royalties. You can't be doing that for free.
Speaker 2: All right, Mickey, what have we got today?
Speaker 5: Okay, so today's theme is sad girl love songs.
Speaker 2: It's neither of our really remits, but I'll give it
Speaker 2: a go.
Speaker 5: Well, last week was way too I wanted to bring
Speaker 5: it back, all right, let's go, Mickey. Song number one.
Speaker 2: Me Lina del Ray, Young and beautiful, cracked.
Speaker 3: Reminds you of.
Speaker 2: Bond, James Bond.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know why?
Speaker 5: Uh?
Speaker 2: I love that song? Yeah? Beautiful.
Speaker 5: Song number two.
Speaker 3: Rihanna and what's it called Love on the brain?
Speaker 2: Brighton?
Speaker 3: Number three? Why is this more stressful than the other ones?
Speaker 2: This is my crying song?
Speaker 3: Oh oh, it's not Noah Cyrus?
Speaker 5: Is it?
Speaker 3: Yes? Can you named the song? Is it July correct?
Speaker 2: Two points to flex, one point for me?
Speaker 5: Number four Come.
Speaker 3: One Driver's License by Lvia, Oh my god, Flex, what
Speaker 3: have you been doing already? She can't come back from one.
Speaker 3: Let her try, but we'll try try.
Speaker 2: Wow. Flex is the sad girl song. It's okay?
Speaker 3: Number five.
Speaker 2: Alicia Keys fallen.
Speaker 3: Wrong songwright artist Alicia Keys. If it ain't you four
Speaker 3: to flex?
Speaker 1: You ate depressed, you didn't gobble enough, okay, sad okay,
Speaker 1: dried up okay, crying in your bedroom alone?
Speaker 3: Okay, it's no more classic?
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: Let me every single the thing comparing this week to
Speaker 3: last week. All of those were deep cuts Bowie, I
Speaker 3: like people were.
Speaker 2: Not I was so fand of you?
Speaker 1: Is it?
Speaker 3: All of these have been in circulation in every major
Speaker 3: everything for the last ten years.
Speaker 1: Twenty okay, guys, just as a little bonus round.
Speaker 2: I want you two together.
Speaker 5: I didn't realize it's try yeah now. Sween Symphony by
Speaker 5: the verb.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't have gotten the artist.
Speaker 5: It's actually they had a major copyright battle and I
Speaker 5: studied in a UNI.
Speaker 3: What was it or is it?
Speaker 5: You can't be one of the Rolling Stones had a
Speaker 5: sample in it, very very small and when after all
Speaker 5: their money and now they don't make a cent from
Speaker 5: that song.
Speaker 3: Shut up fun facts.
Speaker 2: That's far out all right. It's from the scene in
Speaker 2: O C.
Speaker 3: The scene the closing credits. This is why you get
Speaker 3: nostalgical scene from the two thousand and three.
Speaker 2: There was will the scene in the OC. It's news
Speaker 2: Eve and Ryan and mossa kiss.
Speaker 3: This feels like Laguna Beach season finale, the season two.
Speaker 2: It's the funeral by band Horses.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 1: If you don't get this, Mickey, I'm a bit worried.
Speaker 2: Okay, no one he's suffered from.
Speaker 3: I love how for me? Literally circumnavigated the music quiz
Speaker 3: so she could win, just thinking like not flex can't win. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so I'm going to bring you my deepest cuts and.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make it really I was actually going for
Speaker 1: the least deep cuts.
Speaker 3: No, sorry, miss competitive. It's okay to lose.
Speaker 2: I'll make it hard next week.
Speaker 3: If you're going to act like this, bring me.
Speaker 2: Some country music.
Speaker 3: That was great, Mickey, thank you, thank you, No worries.
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