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Speaker 1: Well and what do you podcast? Many, Hey, it's willing,

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Speaker 1: what do you all? Thanks to Australia post this up there,

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Speaker 1: and I hope you have being a great drive home?

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Speaker 2: Sure my move.

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Speaker 1: Sharing how you're going is one of the best things

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Speaker 1: you can do for your mental health.

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Speaker 3: But when you most need to tell someone how you're going,

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Speaker 3: it's often the hardest thing to do.

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Speaker 1: And if you don't address how you are, your feelings

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Speaker 1: confessed and lead to things like anxiety, depression, even suicide.

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Speaker 3: In this podcast, we ask a range of inspiring people

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Speaker 3: how they express themselves in the hope that we can

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Speaker 3: all learn something more about arguably life's most important.

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Speaker 1: Skill, to ask yourself, how am I feeling? How do

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Speaker 1: I express how I'm feeling? How do I share my mood?

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Speaker 1: Previously we've chatted with people like health and well being

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Speaker 1: experts def Claire Smith.

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Speaker 4: So I feel incredibly sick, but also mentally I was

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Speaker 4: just a mess every night because.

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Speaker 2: I just felt like I was continuously disappointing myself.

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Speaker 3: Legendary Australian comedian Will Anderson. It's a nice thing to say,

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Speaker 3: because I'm not sure that I've actually said it out loud.

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Speaker 1: Recently, and that feels honestly about right now and author

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Speaker 1: and Mega Marathon runner Ned Brockman.

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Speaker 4: When you start letting these words of burnout, I think

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Speaker 4: it comes back to the power of the mind and

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Speaker 4: if you can continuously say these things and be positive.

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Speaker 4: Our time here on this planet is very limited, and

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Speaker 4: you're a long time dead. I want to make the

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Speaker 4: most of the time I'm here.

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Speaker 5: Our latest guest on the Share My Mood podcast is

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Speaker 5: Poe ling Yao. If you want to hear the entire chat,

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Speaker 5: then just look up share my Mood wherever you get

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Speaker 5: your podcasts from. But I think, well, the most surprising

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Speaker 5: thing from this chat with Poe was the talk about

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Speaker 5: relationships and about how her ex husband actually ended up

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Speaker 5: with her best friend.

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Speaker 3: Can I ask you about relationships? You comfortable talking about

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Speaker 3: year past relationship? So you've had two divorces, yes, And

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Speaker 3: I've heard you talk about the fact that within these

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Speaker 3: relationships you were and please tell me if I'm using

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Speaker 3: I'm using words wrong, but losing this sense of individuality, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Losing myself? What the first one? Who I'm He's still

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Speaker 2: my right or die Matt like we like and we

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Speaker 2: still have like the hugest domestics in front of his partner,

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Speaker 2: who's my best friend. That's not part of the whole.

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Speaker 1: Awesome good story.

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Speaker 3: Sorry sorry sorry. He So your first first ex husband, yes,

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Speaker 3: is now with your best friend yes?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Wow, and then you're all still good, amazing, so amazing.

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Speaker 1: So he that's great. Yeah. I think that's personally. I

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Speaker 1: think that's a mark of a really mature person is

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Speaker 1: when I meet them and then they're like, oh, you know,

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Speaker 1: you find out that a person you've been hanging out

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Speaker 1: with is their ex. But it's like, we're just so

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Speaker 1: much bigger than what was.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Because I think if you fully I believe that

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Speaker 2: if you haven't been able to metabolize, like whatever was

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Speaker 2: causing you the grief, it's still always there. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: it's so and it's like, I think it's unresolved love.

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Speaker 2: So you have to actually work through it and transform

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Speaker 2: it into something else for it to be healthy, so

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Speaker 2: you can both move on. Because I think when people

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Speaker 2: are still triggered by their partners, I think there's something

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Speaker 2: you want to be rid of that, you know, so

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Speaker 2: that you're an empty vessel to be like go on

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Speaker 2: to your new relationship.

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Speaker 1: With I feel like I got some really good advice

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Speaker 1: around that once, which was that, like, the fastest way

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Speaker 1: to kind of get over someone is to realize that

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Speaker 1: you'll always love them. Oh that's beautiful, rather than thinking

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Speaker 1: that like, oh, I'm going to get over it, because

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Speaker 1: the English we always say when you get over them,

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Speaker 1: to get over them, And it's like, well, no, you

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Speaker 1: over them, because yeah, yeah, you're always going to love them.

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Speaker 1: It might just feel differently.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you.

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Speaker 3: Were talking so so the quote that I saw sorry

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 2: So I think that, like for the first relationship, that's

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Speaker 2: when I identified that it was getting really unhealthy because

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Speaker 2: And that's when I'm like, I'm getting lost in this

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Speaker 2: so when we finally broke up, it was I was like,

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Speaker 2: get to like keep all the things that we still

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Speaker 2: like we were great friends, but as a marriage it

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Speaker 5: Great.

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Speaker 1: God, this podcast come up twice now on this show,

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Speaker 1: but it's a good podcast. On diariav CEO, I was

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Speaker 1: listening to Esther Perell talk and she's so good, so good,

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Speaker 1: And she was saying that she obviously if you don't

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Speaker 1: know who she is, she's psychotherapist. She works in relationships.

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Speaker 1: She was saying she always finds it really funny when

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Speaker 1: in and like, one of the first things I'll say

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Speaker 1: is that they're adamant that they're individuals. And she's like, well,

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Speaker 1: you're not, because you've chosen to be with someone. And

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Speaker 1: as soon as you choose to be with someone, who

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Speaker 1: you are is defined entirely by the pattern that you've

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Speaker 1: agreed to be in with that person. And she was like,

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Speaker 1: if you think of it like a figure eight loop,

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Speaker 1: you both feed the loop and then people break up

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Speaker 1: when the loop's broken. So like when one of you goes, okay,

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Speaker 1: I don't like the way that this keeps coming back

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Speaker 1: to me, and it's exactly what you said you were like,

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Speaker 1: just everything just get coming back in the same way.

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Speaker 1: So to realize that, I think it's enormous.

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Speaker 5: If you want to get the whole thing, just look

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Speaker 5: up Share my Mood, wherever you get your podcasts from.

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Speaker 5: We are going to play you a tiny bit more

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Speaker 5: right up next, though, where she tells us that she

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Speaker 5: still calls her ex husband to unpack their relationship. It's

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Speaker 5: phenomenal and you won't believe the things that she decides

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Speaker 5: to unpack still with her ex husband.

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Speaker 1: I William Woody hear more of the boys on the

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Speaker 1: full podcast. Just scroll up.