WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Celebrating Prematurely & A Facelift At 37? 0:00:01.320 --> 0:00:06.160 Are the Pickup with Britt Hockley and Laura Ben Radio. 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:08.600 What our windows done? 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:09.960 My whoa risen? 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:10.719 The dust? 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:16.239 Only good zabs all down. I don't much, but yeah. 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:18.959 I'm not our big get and what I want it 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:20.240 don't matter where. 0:00:20.680 --> 0:00:23.479 This is the pickup, Hi, guys, it's the pick up 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:25.160 with Britt Hackley and Laura Ben. 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:28.000 Happy Wednesday. We'll not happy for everyone, is it? 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:28.200 No? 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:32.000 I am obsessed with this Kylie Jenna Timothy shallow May. 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:33.600 I ship. 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:37.480 They're cute as little relationship. I just saw the video 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:39.760 that's going viral. There's an open in the States called 0:00:39.760 --> 0:00:40.560 the Indian Wells. 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:44.440 Indian Wells Tennis Competition means open, okay, because I'm a 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:45.919 tenna's buff in case you didn't know. 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:46.800 Okay. 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:48.920 So they're sitting next to each other, clearly a pap 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:52.960 is videoing them, and Kylie is trying to kiss Timothy 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:56.160 shallow May, but he's so disinterested, and she's like doing 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:59.320 this cute little smiley, like kissy little thing on the 0:00:59.360 --> 0:01:01.520 side and he is trying to pull away from her. 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:03.440 It's the most awkward exchange. 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:04.800 I actually have trouble watching. 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:06.240 It makes me feel uncomfortable. 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:08.039 And then she's trying to rub his belly at the 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:11.360 same time, like he's so fixed on wanting to watch 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:14.759 this game, and she's just blissfully unaware, smiling and rubbing 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:16.440 his belly like it's going to bring her good luck. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:18.080 I think she knows how awkward it was that he 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:19.839 was trying to pull away from her in the kiss, 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:21.920 and she was trying to be like doubling down on 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:24.320 we're fine, Like that's why she was rubbing his belly 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:26.320 and stuff. She was trying to keep the affection up 0:01:26.560 --> 0:01:27.600 because she knows she's on camera. 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:29.600 I thought she was trying to make a wish. 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:32.959 But there were there were forensic lip readers that have 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:35.280 come out and said they read their conversation and apparently 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:38.840 he said yum as well. But apparently after he said yum, 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:40.880 he's like, watched the point, baby, Like watch the point. 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:42.360 I don't think he was being a jerk. 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:44.720 I think he's like trying to appease her, but he's 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:47.200 also so in the tennis because his eyes his lips 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:48.840 are on her and his eyes were on the tennis 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:51.080 and he's trying to pull away and she's forcing him back, 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:52.480 and the whole thing is so uncomfortable. 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:53.840 Guys, We're going to put it up on the pickup 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:54.720 socials if you want. 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:55.520 To go and have a look at it and. 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:59.240 Be and feel viscerally uncomfortable, as equally as uncomfortable as. 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:02.320 We all felt for you to see. Now. 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.640 I don't know whether I'm just having one of those 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:07.720 very proud parent moments, you know, when you find yourself 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:10.440 sometimes or maybe you've been on the receiving end of 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:12.600 this briut where someone's like showing you photos of their 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.760 kid and you're thinking to yourself, please stop showing me photos. 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:17.920 I'm on the receiving end of that daily with you. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.240 Yeah, okay, you're so proud. 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:22.359 But now I'm doing it on national radio, So call me. 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:24.760 Out if I'm self indulging. No, it is cute. 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.359 Every so often they do things where you have these 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:29.840 real moments where like you realize that they've kind of 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:32.320 moved to a new phase or they're hitting a new milestone, 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:36.079 and it's particularly cute now with Lola, she's only four 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:39.000 years old. I think one of the big things I've 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.080 loved about parenting, and like it's very small, but it's 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:44.919 something I find very very sweet, is that kids often 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:48.079 say words the wrong way, and then one day they 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:49.919 figure it out and they say it the right way, 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:53.040 and then they never ever say that cute thing ever again. Right, So, 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:57.000 and I no, I mean this like Lola used to 0:02:57.000 --> 0:03:00.720 say boobooberries for blueberries, and it was a door and 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:02.519 I never realized how much I was going to miss 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:05.200 it until one day she just started saying blueberries and 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:06.480 she never got it wrong again. 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:08.160 Where is this going. 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:10.640 Win a therapy session? 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:13.959 So are. 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:17.640 We mourning the lot that she can speak? 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:20.480 She doesn't say boober berries? My baby's growing up? 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:24.680 No, she's just started to sing her ABC's now very 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:25.960 cute and important. 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:27.320 Yeah, she's just turned four. 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:30.200 She doesn't sing them exactly correctly by any means, but 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:32.120 I almost don't want to correct her because it is 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:33.480 so cute. 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:35.480 It is you have to correct her. 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:37.839 You can't send her off for school for her whole 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:40.440 life not knowing ABC's because you're holding on to boober berries. 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:43.680 I don't know my boober berries anymore, So now I 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:46.440 need my ABC's anyway. Have a listen to this. She's 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:50.040 so proud of herself. She performs it every day. And 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.320 I got it on record because it was the cutest 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:52.840 thing ever. 0:03:53.080 --> 0:04:00.880 Ready one two three ab CVSD how so j j 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:05.440 L b q y y s q I b w 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:10.600 s y n Z Now I know you ABC. Next 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:14.920 time we're teasing with me. Oh that was amazing. 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:19.000 I think she sleept in there BWS the b one spirits. 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:21.479 I think she spending too much time going there with 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:22.000 you guys. 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:25.240 She's like, now I know your a b c's like, 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:26.960 it's definitely not mine because this is I don't know 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:28.200 what I just made up, but that's. 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:31.720 Where you've been there to b b one Spirits, it's 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:35.119 very cute, to be fair, I was following that along 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:35.800 as it went. 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:37.719 I reckon that was like ninety seven percent. 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:40.039 There were only a couple of I like how she 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:41.600 really doubled the Q like you. 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:46.840 Know quv W b y S bring your own, d I. 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:49.560 Y y own do it yourself. 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.520 L O L to me, I've watched that video so 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:55.320 many times. I know, no I'm biased. I find it 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:56.359 like the cutest thing in the world. 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.640 But I do want to say this to parents because 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:00.920 I feel as though you miss them. 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:04.720 What's the message, what's the message for? What is the 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:05.320 story here? 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:08.680 You miss the little weird words that your kids used 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:10.880 to say when they were little, and also the way 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:13.080 that they speak when they little. They have such sweet 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:15.840 little voices. And then one day you look at your 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:17.240 six year old and you're like, oh my god, you're 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:19.080 a kid. Like you're not a baby anymore. 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:20.680 Hey, you look at your kid and they're doing drugs 0:05:20.680 --> 0:05:22.159 and they're dropping out of school. 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:24.200 Hold on to those bibberberries. 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:29.440 But I'm always recording the girls and like voice recording them. 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:32.160 I have little podcasts that I've done with them from 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.000 when they were little. So, like I would ask, trying 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:36.280 to replace me with your kids, I'm trying to get 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:37.960 a new co host. So one day when you move 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:39.600 overseas to me with your fiance. 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:41.200 Lola Marley May has stepan right in. 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:43.680 Well not not only worried after hearing that, no, but 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:46.520 what I mean is is, like I so encourage. I 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.080 know everyone takes photos and everyone takes videos of their kids, 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:52.040 but I really encourage to record audio of your children 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:55.279 because their voices changed so much and so quickly over 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.240 the years, and these little nuggets of memories I think 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.880 are just as special as having the video and everything else. 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.400 Like I love going back and listening to them answer 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:06.080 questions in their own weird little way, and then asking 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:08.039 them the same types of questions a year later, and 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.599 seeing like, what's their responses as they've grown and they've changed. 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:12.440 Well, I feel like if there's anything that you can 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:14.720 hold on to, it's the fact that your husband, Mammy 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:16.719 Jay still says s niland say cynical. 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.200 So the still mistake's been made. 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:20.000 In your family, and I record that as well. 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:22.680 When your kids grow up, you've always got that. 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:24.320 It's cue to when the four year old does it 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:25.760 as opposed to the thirty eight year old. 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:29.600 But anyway, so today on the pick hoop, a bit 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:31.600 of a change of pace, But we're talking about what 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:33.560 did you celebrate prematurely? 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:34.360 Now? 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:37.480 The reason we're talking about this is because I'm. 0:06:37.440 --> 0:06:41.040 Still unsure of the reason. To be perfectly honest, I stumbled. 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:44.360 Across an article that I cannot confirm or deny if 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:45.960 it's even real, but it. 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.679 Had me in his had been hysterics. 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:51.560 I want to think it's real just because of how 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:53.960 funny the story is. It's gone viral over the last 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.240 couple of years, like it's not brand new, but it 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.120 keeps rearing its head, like every year it makes it comeback. 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:00.920 It's made to come back now. And I was like, 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:03.160 surely there's other people that have celebrated prematurely. 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:06.680 There is a guy in Africa who had worked at 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.640 the same job for like just say twenty years, a 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:11.400 very long time in and out. 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:13.400 Didn't love it, had a problem with his boss. 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:14.720 He did not like his job. 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:17.320 He'd been slaving away, yeah, but doing it because he 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:17.680 had to. 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.680 Well, you got it right, you gotta work the money 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:24.160 very very luckily, like the odds were against him, but 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:27.120 he won the lotto like a huge sum of money, 0:07:27.200 --> 0:07:29.280 so he was totally one. 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:32.480 So he was like, oh my god, I am out 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:32.840 of here. 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:36.880 He goes to his boss's desk the same day, quits, 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:37.800 pulls his. 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:39.920 Pants down and takes a dump on his boss's desk. 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:41.000 Have a listen No. 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:43.720 After being told that he won the lottery jackpots, a 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.400 Western Cape man peed all over the office floor of 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:49.320 his boss of over twenty three years and proceeded to 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:53.160 take a dump on his boss's office desk before quitting 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:55.520 his job on Friday morning. Now, when he went to 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:58.120 go claim his winnings this morning, he found that he 0:07:58.160 --> 0:07:59.320 had never won. 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:09.160 My apoliticians actually the reporters laugh is the funniest part. 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:10.600 The video is quite long. 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:12.720 The reporter couldn't speak for like ten minutes. He was 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:15.520 in hysterics. So he did go and find out the 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:18.000 next day after taking said dump that he didn't in 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:19.840 fact win, and he's now. 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.720 Unemployed, Like he doesn't have a job, he doesn't have money. 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:24.800 He doesn't have a reference either. His boss isn't gonna 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:28.440 give him one. No, I look, can you blame him though? 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:30.960 Like if you yes, you don't have to take a dump. 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:34.400 But if you hated your job and you hated your 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:37.480 boss and you'd been there for twenty three years, twenty 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:38.760 three years. 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:41.120 Would you take it dump and you won the when 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:42.520 you quit the podcast in radio? 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:44.080 Are you gonna take a dump on my desk? 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:45.880 I'm not gonna take it dump in your desk. 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:47.960 But I just like part of me thinks he probably 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:50.720 had this moment of like I don't need this anymore, 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.760 Like screw them, I'm leveling this up. 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:57.320 I've given away two decades of my life. Wait my poop, 0:08:57.360 --> 0:08:59.200 and I'm gonna give you a bit of my hellhole. 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:01.959 I probably when I when I'm trying to think of it, 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.840 if I've ever like prematurely celebrated. There's no big thing 0:09:05.880 --> 0:09:07.520 that comes to mind. The only thing is that it 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:10.200 was a bit of an internal celebration. When I was 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:12.600 in the Bachelor finale, I thought I had it in 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:16.120 the bag. I thought I was like, I thought that 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:17.520 was a bit of a win. I was in a 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:20.080 white dress, so I was the last person there. I 0:09:20.120 --> 0:09:23.360 was like, you know what, I reckon, I've snagged myself 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:24.000 a boyfriend. 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:26.040 Then he dumped me, so he took his own dump. 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.360 That also just ca wasn't you prematurely celebrating? Like he 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:31.240 told you that he was going to choose you the 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:34.920 night before and then within eight hours changed his mind. 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:36.880 Not in so many words, I don't want that headline 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:39.080 getting out. He definitely didn't say I choose you, I 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:40.280 cho cho choose you. 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:42.920 What did he say then, I can't imagine life without you? 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:45.880 Something I can't remember my quote. 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.240 That is like a typical dateline, I cannot imagine life 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:48.760 without you. 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:50.920 Don't break up with you eight hours later. Don't take 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:51.600 that quote either. 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:54.200 It was just something that alluded to the fact of like, 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.520 I'm so glad we that was like I'm being so purtantic, 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:58.040 I'm so glad we met. I never thought i'd meet 0:09:58.040 --> 0:09:59.960 someone like you that we connect with so well, like 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:02.520 something that basically alluded to, like. 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:03.480 It's you, Bibi. 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:05.720 Hey, we've got ever on the line. Am I Have 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:07.400 you celebrated something prematurely? 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:08.440 Hey? 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:12.160 Girls, I love the show, and yes, I certainly have. 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.199 So I got offered a job and I was going 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:18.360 massive pay rise. This was going to be a six 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:21.480 figure job and I was losing my mind of it. 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:24.320 I got so excited and I thought, with all that 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:26.520 money coming in, what am I going to do? I'm 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:29.480 going to be a new woman. And some other guy 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:32.160 who won the lottery, I was like, what am I 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:34.360 gonna do? I've won the lottery. I want to treat 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:36.560 my parents. I think that's on thing we always go 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:38.679 back to. I want to do something for my parents. 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:41.320 It's stuff for me all the time. It's the least 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:44.280 I can do. They've never been on the cruise before, 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:46.480 and I was like, I'm going to treat them with 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:49.800 a little holiday away by a mcruse trip. How cool? 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:51.400 Am my? Yeah? 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:51.839 Nailed it. 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:55.679 But it turns out I jumped the gun a little 0:10:55.679 --> 0:11:00.679 bit and I can actually get the job. So with 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:03.240 a deposit down on a cruise and I've already told 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:06.160 my parents. I really had to do the call of shame, 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:08.839 not only to my parents and tell them they can't 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:10.880 go on the cruise anymore. Oh what I had to 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:13.440 call the booking company and try and get my deposit 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:13.800 back in. 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:17.160 Oh my god, it was terrible. 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:21.880 Now there is an influencer, an Australian influencer who is 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:24.720 going absolutely viral online at the moment. She's also a 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:28.200 hairdresser and her name is Kim Happily. The reason why 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:31.679 she's going viral is because she is only thirty seven 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:34.400 years old. She has flown to Turkey to have a 0:11:34.480 --> 0:11:38.680 facelift and she's documented the whole process. A lot of 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:42.960 people are accusing her of having body dysmorphia, which she rejects. 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:44.360 Also, that's not an accusation. 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:47.440 You don't accuse someone of having body dysmorphia, Like that's 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:49.040 not something totally around. 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:50.480 But I guess the thing is is like a lot 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:52.720 of people are asking the question as to Wiger thirty 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:55.880 seven year old, would feel such a strong need to 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:59.560 go to another country spend thirty thousand Australian dollars to 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.560 have something that is a major surgery, which is usually 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:06.079 reserved for very significant signs of aging, seems super drastic 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:08.480 for someone who's only thirty seven. We've spoken about it 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:11.160 a bit, Britt, and we have like quite different opinions 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:13.959 on this, And I really kind of read this, and 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:16.680 I've also seen a lot of the tiktoks that she's 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:20.480 put out documenting the process, and I guess for me, 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:24.240 I think it errs in this really very murky space 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:28.120 between promoting it rather than it being educational. 0:12:28.920 --> 0:12:30.840 Yeah, And the reason we disagree is because I don't 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:34.120 find it promotion at all. I watched all of her 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:36.760 story from go to woe. I looked at her before 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:38.880 she went and had the surgery. I listened to why 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:43.120 for me it doesn't come in promotion because she's not saying, Hey, 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:45.760 look what I did. It's the best thing I ever did, 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:48.240 It's amazing. Blah blah blah blah. She literally says the 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:49.960 first three days were the worst days of her life. 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.800 She says, she does it's so much pain. I would 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:56.319 never recommend this to anyone, That's what she says. Fast 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.440 forward a little bit to when she's recovered, she's like, 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:01.360 would I do it again? Yes, I would because I'm 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:04.400 so happy with how I feel now after doing it. 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:07.640 I personally don't have a problem with plastic surgery. I 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:10.920 have a problem with the reasons sometimes behind why when 0:13:10.960 --> 0:13:14.000 women feel the need to change who they are for 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.720 someone else or society has made them feel so terrible 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.720 about themselves that they're doing it not necessarily for quote 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:22.880 unquote the right reason. But I think if someone truly 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:26.240 believes it's going to make them happier or fix something 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:29.360 that they have an insecurity about, if it's for the 0:13:29.440 --> 0:13:32.800 reason that's true to who they are, and it's not 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:35.320 putting themselves out of pocket everything else that comes with it. 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:37.199 I don't have a problem with somebody that wants to 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:39.280 go and change something about their own body. I just 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:42.480 maybe I'm an anomaly or the minority, but I think 0:13:42.520 --> 0:13:44.920 it's okay for someone to want to get surgery on 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:46.520 their own body for the right reason. 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:49.000 No, I agree with you in that situation, but I 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.280 also think, like, what are the right reasons? And I 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:53.440 guess the reason why when I saw this I had 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:57.040 like quite a like I just found it absolutely fascinating 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:01.040 and so unbelievable, is because I think that this like 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:04.040 fear of aging and the expectation that we continue to 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:07.360 look as though nothing's ever changed, we've never aged, is 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.080 becoming so pressing that I think, like, thirty seven to 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:13.360 go and get a facelift is crazily drastic, and I 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:15.440 worry about what that means and what the world's going 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:18.560 to be like. When my two little girls are thirty seven. 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:21.280 Are they expected to never age? Are we expected to like, 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:23.520 continue to look like we're in our twenties when we're 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:25.320 in our thirties. When you're in your fifties, you've got 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:28.720 to look like you're in your thirties. I understand when 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:30.720 we say, like, oh, you've got to do it for 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:33.360 the right reason, if it makes you happy. But I 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:35.360 think the only reason why people are so unhappy with 0:14:35.400 --> 0:14:38.120 the way that they look is because society keeps telling 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.240 them that they don't look right. It's a terrible thing 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:42.160 to get old and to age and to have wrinkles 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:45.280 and have saggy skin. And the reason why I felt 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:49.440 very unsure about this is because yes, she documented the pain, 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:52.720 but her now excitement about the post surgery and how 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:53.560 great she looks. 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:55.520 I think most people who watch that. 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:59.280 Sort of staff ignore the three videos that are like 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:02.760 the Three Days Hell documenting the aftercare. They just see 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:05.400 the results and they want those results, And then I 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:08.000 worry about what that means for young girls watching it 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:10.240 thinking that face lists at thirty seven are normal. 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:12.560 I agree, But when do we put the responsibility on 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:15.320 the consumer? When do we stop blaming people for posting 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:18.040 about their own life and blaming them for other people 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:20.840 doing things and making choices the responsibility At the end 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:23.200 of the day, you have to be medialliterate. You have 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:25.800 to understand what you're consuming and why and be able 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:27.680 to make educated decisions for yourself. 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:29.400 And I think that's something we all need to learn. 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:31.800 We can't be blaming people for putting content out and 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:34.080 saying you're the reason all of these people are going 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:34.760 to do something. 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:35.120 I don't know. 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:36.480 I think it works both ways. 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:41.480 Of course, influencers have responsibility absolutely, but so does the consumer. 0:15:42.120 --> 0:15:43.120 Yeah, I don't know. 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:45.080 I think I still you're never going to convince me 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:46.520 that thirty seven is a good age to go and 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:47.240 get a facelift. 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:49.720 I'm like, what are you going to a facelift one day? 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:51.520 What are you going to end up doing when you're fifty. 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:53.280 I just don't think you're ever going to be satisfied 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:55.440 or happy, like, Oh, I wonder what it is that 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:56.040 you're chasing. 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.360 Laura and I have been on a deep hunt, a 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:03.560 Quest for the Best, you might say, to give away 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:08.680 five thousand dollars to one of our community members, unsung heroes. Now, 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:10.680 this is all thanks to Disney and snow White. The 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:13.840 new Disney snow White is coming out March twenty. But 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:16.240 we want to find those people in the community that 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:20.360 are just doing good, spreading joy and kindness, somebody that 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:23.800 we think five thousand dollars could really help. And to 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:26.520 do this, people have been sending their nominations into our 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:28.800 win page. So if you still want to nominate somebody, 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:32.280 you can. But nothing brings me more joy, Laura, I 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:34.400 don't know about you, but then giving away money to 0:16:34.480 --> 0:16:36.720 someone that needs it, so I'm so excited about this. 0:16:37.040 --> 0:16:38.200 Well, we've got Adam on the line. 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:40.440 Adam, who is it that you are nominating for the 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:41.560 Quest for the Best? 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:44.320 I like to nominate Fiona. She works with the pizza 0:16:44.400 --> 0:16:46.440 shop called Vincenzo's in Maryland. 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:48.960 Okay, why are you nominating fi Owner? 0:16:49.880 --> 0:16:52.360 I'm a regular there, I go, I say it once 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:53.720